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Look Away

7 Dec

We share the planet with billions of other people.  They are all around us, coming and going, connecting or just passing by.  We love some of them, tolerate others and try to ignore the ones that make our lives difficult and complicated.  Some connections are easy and flow with little stress or anxiety, but others can be complex, fraught with intensity and hard to manage.  We may feel uncomfortable if we must deal with someone who is temperamental or bossy, or an old lover who broke our heart comes around, and we might do everything we can to avoid their attention.  We may try to blend into the background, keep our head down and look away, anything to prevent them from approaching us.  If that works, we may breathe a sigh of relief that we have averted any connection with them.  Nobody wants to deal with difficult people or situations, but there is no way to hide forever.  The very person we definitely don’t want to run into may show up unexpectedly, catch us off guard, and we may suddenly find ourselves face to face with them.  At that moment, it will be up to us how we handle what happens next.  We can shrink and try to disappear, which will never work, or we can stand firm and trust ourselves to find the best way through.  We already have every bit of courage and wisdom we need to navigate any difficult situation.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine.  Nothing is too hard for us to get through, and with patience and grace, we will find our way.

Every experience we have teaches us something.  When our experiences are good, we gain greater confidence and helpful knowledge that embellishes us and helps pave the road ahead.  But hard times come to all of us, and when we go through something painful and destructive, it may leave a lasting mark on us.  We may lose our trust in others, doubt ourselves, or be afraid of what will happen next.  There is no way to change the past, but there will always be a way to move forward.  We don’t have to hold onto what hurts us forever.  We can look at everything objectively and find ways to let go and move ahead.  Every destination is still there for us and every success is still possible.

Problems rarely solve themselves, and if we’ve left something unresolved because it was just too painful to look at it, it will remain.  Time cannot fix what’s been left unattended.  Trouble becomes heavier as it waits, reminders will arise, and eventually we’ll have to face the inevitable.  It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is or how tangled it has become.  We can find the answers we need, and when we’re ready, can do what is needed to settle the issue once and for all, and move on.  

Today if you’ve been trying to avoid a situation or someone difficult, remember how strong and powerful you are.  You are perfectly capable of managing anything you must and there is nothing that can overcome you.  Be confident and stand firm.  Every blessing is already waiting for you, and with patience and determination, every success will be yours.

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Making Them Agree

15 Nov

Everyone has their own ideas about life and how things should go. Our ideas come from our personal experiences and how we feel about different situations. We’re all unique and can express ourselves any way we like. This is something most of us understand intellectually but there may be times when we want everyone to just stop thinking and do things our way. It’s true that if everyone is on the same road and doing the same things, whatever is going on will be easier to manage. There will likely be times when those around us will follow along and agree with what we’re doing, but that won’t always be the case. If our success depends on getting others to acquiesce to our way of thinking, we may push hard and use every influential tool we possess to get them on our side. That might work, but unless we have some sort of authority over them, they may still disagree. It’s hard to accept differences when we desperately want conformity, but there is never only one way to move ahead. If what we want isn’t working, we can look at everything objectively and come up with compromises that bring others on board. We don’t have to have everything exactly our way. By giving a little here or there, and bending instead of commanding, we can find ways to get agreement. We are smart enough to figure anything out and find solutions that work. Every destination is possible, and with clarity and patience, we can find the way ahead. Nothing is beyond our reach, and every success is there for us.

Disagreements are a normal part of life. No two people are exactly the same, and we will likely face times of discord and dissent. We can dig our heels in, scream and yell, and try to force the situation. We can lose our minds and get hysterical, but none of that will enhance or improve anything. Instead of demanding compliance, we can listen to all viewpoints and come up with a solution that works for everyone involved. We probably won’t get everything we want, but we can find excellent ways to continue forward.

Just because someone doesn’t think the way we do, it doesn’t mean they’re stupid or somehow lacking. We’re all entitled to our own opinions on everything, and even if we don’t understand someone else’s ideas, we can be polite and honor their input. We know what we want, and how we want to accomplish it, but if our plans won’t work, we can find another way around.

Today if you can’t get others to agree with your plan for moving forward, look at all the options possible. Listen to different opinions and find something that works for everyone involved. There will always be another road and another way forward. You are intelligent and powerful, and nothing is too hard for you to figure out. Trust yourself and be patient. Every success is waiting and you will prevail.

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Getting the Blessing

29 Oct

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never meet most of them, there are generally people around us most of the time. We build relationships with them of varying degrees, and when we’re close to them, what they do and say may have a big effect on us. If someone does something that really hurts us, destroys our trust, or in other ways breaks down our connection, we may suffer great pain and disappointment. They may refuse to acknowledge what they’ve done and instead expect us to simply let it go and move on. Unresolved conflict doesn’t just disappear because it’s inconvenient, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Carrying around past pain and suffering and holding onto serious disappointment will never help us move ahead, and may hold us down and keep us from achieving our goals. We may think forgiveness is out of the question, but sometimes the only way to set pain down and walk away is to forgive those who have hurt us and let it go. The gift of forgiveness is hard to give in situations where the transgressor is unrepentant, but the blessings aren’t for them. The blessings go to those who have forgiven them. People who hurt others rarely feel bad about what they’re doing, but those they hurt may suffer indefinitely until they decide to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean we must forget what’s happened. We can remember everything clearly and take what we learn from the experience forward with us. Anger and resentment take a lot of energy to sustain, and after we forgive someone, we can release any ill feelings, sustain every valuable bit of information, and walk away with confidence. Nobody is perfect and we all falter at some point. Learning to release any negative experience, forgive those involved, and take the lessons forward, will enable us to find great success and happiness moving forward.

Few things hurt more than a broken heart. It’s painful when a relationship we desire suddenly ends, but it’s worse if it ends because of lying or cheating. It’s hard to look past the pain of betrayal and find relief. We may be shocked when we get all the facts, and decide we’ll never, no matter what, ever forgive them. We can hold onto the pain for as long as we like, but every day we give up to spite or suffering is lost and cannot be restored. Our lives are important, and we have a lot to offer. We can look at the situation clearly and objectively, let go of the sorrow, move forward and start again.

If we’re enmeshed in a difficult situation fraught with despair and grief, we may be overwhelmed and unable to see anything but the pain we’re enduring. Some things are very hard to navigate, but no matter where we are or what’s happening, there will always be a way ahead. The sun will rise again in the morning, and there will be a light to guide us through. Nothing is too hard for us to face, or too challenging for us to resolve. We are powerful and strong, and will prevail.

Today if you’re suffering because of something someone has done, think about what’s most important. Let go of any anger, and trust yourself. You are amazing and worth more than you know. The whole world is enriched because you are here. Take a deep breath, look at all the options possible, and start again. Every success awaits, and you will make them yours.

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On the Clock

1 Sep

Everyone is different and each of us has our own, unique style for how we live and what we do. There are endless versions of humanity, and no two people are exactly alike. Although everyone understands this, we may face a time when someone tells us we should be doing things more like them. If we’ve suffered through a painful experience or disappointment, we may feel devastated and upset. How long it takes us to get over it and feel confident again is specific to the experience and our personal feelings. If it’s taking a while to regain our footing, someone may tell us to “Get over it!,” as though that will fix everything. They may have a timeframe they believe is sufficient for us to grieve and then expect us to jump back in, all fixed up and ready to go again. Although they may be on the clock in their own lives and set defined boundaries for personal experiences, our own choices and expressions may be very different. It is not our job to make everyone around us comfortable with our decisions. What we go through and how we manage is unique to each of us. If we need time, we can take it. If we need to step away, we can. We are the only ones who know everything we’re experiencing, and we never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas about how we should process anything. Some adjustments are difficult, and we don’t have to rush through them in order to comply with anyone else’s ideas. When we’re ready to start again, the road will be there for us. Every opportunity is possible, and we can trust ourselves to step forward, and claim them.

We may go through a difficult passage, when it seems no matter what we do, we fail. It may feel like the planets have aligned against us, and there is no hope. If we are overwhelmed and sure of defeat, we may think the only option is to give up. Just let go of our dreams, and fall down into an endless cycle of misery. No matter how it feels, there will never be a time when success will not be possible. Hard times will come, we may run into a big wall in front of us, and the road may get seriously hard, but nothing lasts forever. With patience and persistence, we will find our way through. All our dreams are waiting, and we can make them ours.

There is no timeframe for grief. It takes as long as it takes. We can’t rush it but we can work to understand it, and regain our footing. Holding onto pain and disappointment will never change what’s happened. We are strong enough to look at everything objectively, learn what we can, and begin to look ahead. Standing still gives us time to think, and plan for what we want to do next. When the clouds begin to clear, and we feel the sun again, we can move toward the destinations we most desire. We are more powerful and capable than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been suffering through a difficult situation and can’t see the end of the road, trust yourself. Take the time you need to heal and find peace, and when you’re ready, start again. You are amazing and bring great light to the world around you. Be confident, and believe in yourself. Every single success is there for you, and you will reach them all.

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Unavailable

18 Aug

Everyone has their own ideas about how they should live their lives. We all have goals and dreams we want to accomplish. Some of them are inconsequential and can be achieved easily with little effort. Others are crucial and their importance weighs heavily upon us. When there’s something we really want, something we feel we must have to be comfortable and happy, and we can’t get to it, our frustration may be intense. Everything is possible but not everything will be available all the time. We only have control over ourselves and may face a time when due to unforeseen circumstances, what we want is unavailable. Nothing we do will get us to it, and it remains out of reach. It’s very hard to accept defeat when we want something intensely. But if it’s not possible, and there is no way to get there, we will have to set our sights on something else, and wait. Change is constant and in time, however long it takes, whatever is in the way will move and the door will open for us. We can continue forward and keep our eyes focused on the road ahead. When things change, we can be ready to step up and seize the moment. Every goal is possible but they may not bend to our timeframe. We can be flexible and prepare for when our situation opens up, and start again. Nothing is too difficult for us to achieve, and with patience and perseverance we will prevail.

Waiting takes practice and patience. It’s hard to stand still when we want to move. But waiting gives us a chance to look at everything objectively. There may be a way around the obstacle in front of us we didn’t see when we were rushing forward. By looking carefully at every possible option, we may find the key that unlocks the road ahead. We are very intelligent and highly capable, and nothing can elude us indefinitely. We know what we want, and with clarity and confidence, can make it ours.

If we’ve waited a long time and still nothing has changed, and it seems the goal we desire is simply not available no matter what happens or what we do, we can decide how we want to proceed. Some plans may not work out and we may have to change our focus. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed, only that the idea won’t work at this time. It doesn’t mean it will never succeed. We can look at other things and continue to move forward, checking back from time to time to see where we are, and the possibilities ahead. Nothing is out of reach forever. Everything is possible and when the road opens, we can move toward success.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t move forward, decide on how you want to continue. You can work on other things and still keep the goal in focus. When things change, be ready to move and you’ll reach success. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Be confident and strong. Keep moving forward and every dream will be yours.

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