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On the Clock

1 Sep

Everyone is different and each of us has our own, unique style for how we live and what we do. There are endless versions of humanity, and no two people are exactly alike. Although everyone understands this, we may face a time when someone tells us we should be doing things more like them. If we’ve suffered through a painful experience or disappointment, we may feel devastated and upset. How long it takes us to get over it and feel confident again is specific to the experience and our personal feelings. If it’s taking a while to regain our footing, someone may tell us to “Get over it!,” as though that will fix everything. They may have a timeframe they believe is sufficient for us to grieve and then expect us to jump back in, all fixed up and ready to go again. Although they may be on the clock in their own lives and set defined boundaries for personal experiences, our own choices and expressions may be very different. It is not our job to make everyone around us comfortable with our decisions. What we go through and how we manage is unique to each of us. If we need time, we can take it. If we need to step away, we can. We are the only ones who know everything we’re experiencing, and we never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas about how we should process anything. Some adjustments are difficult, and we don’t have to rush through them in order to comply with anyone else’s ideas. When we’re ready to start again, the road will be there for us. Every opportunity is possible, and we can trust ourselves to step forward, and claim them.

We may go through a difficult passage, when it seems no matter what we do, we fail. It may feel like the planets have aligned against us, and there is no hope. If we are overwhelmed and sure of defeat, we may think the only option is to give up. Just let go of our dreams, and fall down into an endless cycle of misery. No matter how it feels, there will never be a time when success will not be possible. Hard times will come, we may run into a big wall in front of us, and the road may get seriously hard, but nothing lasts forever. With patience and persistence, we will find our way through. All our dreams are waiting, and we can make them ours.

There is no timeframe for grief. It takes as long as it takes. We can’t rush it but we can work to understand it, and regain our footing. Holding onto pain and disappointment will never change what’s happened. We are strong enough to look at everything objectively, learn what we can, and begin to look ahead. Standing still gives us time to think, and plan for what we want to do next. When the clouds begin to clear, and we feel the sun again, we can move toward the destinations we most desire. We are more powerful and capable than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been suffering through a difficult situation and can’t see the end of the road, trust yourself. Take the time you need to heal and find peace, and when you’re ready, start again. You are amazing and bring great light to the world around you. Be confident, and believe in yourself. Every single success is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Unavailable

18 Aug

Everyone has their own ideas about how they should live their lives. We all have goals and dreams we want to accomplish. Some of them are inconsequential and can be achieved easily with little effort. Others are crucial and their importance weighs heavily upon us. When there’s something we really want, something we feel we must have to be comfortable and happy, and we can’t get to it, our frustration may be intense. Everything is possible but not everything will be available all the time. We only have control over ourselves and may face a time when due to unforeseen circumstances, what we want is unavailable. Nothing we do will get us to it, and it remains out of reach. It’s very hard to accept defeat when we want something intensely. But if it’s not possible, and there is no way to get there, we will have to set our sights on something else, and wait. Change is constant and in time, however long it takes, whatever is in the way will move and the door will open for us. We can continue forward and keep our eyes focused on the road ahead. When things change, we can be ready to step up and seize the moment. Every goal is possible but they may not bend to our timeframe. We can be flexible and prepare for when our situation opens up, and start again. Nothing is too difficult for us to achieve, and with patience and perseverance we will prevail.

Waiting takes practice and patience. It’s hard to stand still when we want to move. But waiting gives us a chance to look at everything objectively. There may be a way around the obstacle in front of us we didn’t see when we were rushing forward. By looking carefully at every possible option, we may find the key that unlocks the road ahead. We are very intelligent and highly capable, and nothing can elude us indefinitely. We know what we want, and with clarity and confidence, can make it ours.

If we’ve waited a long time and still nothing has changed, and it seems the goal we desire is simply not available no matter what happens or what we do, we can decide how we want to proceed. Some plans may not work out and we may have to change our focus. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed, only that the idea won’t work at this time. It doesn’t mean it will never succeed. We can look at other things and continue to move forward, checking back from time to time to see where we are, and the possibilities ahead. Nothing is out of reach forever. Everything is possible and when the road opens, we can move toward success.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t move forward, decide on how you want to continue. You can work on other things and still keep the goal in focus. When things change, be ready to move and you’ll reach success. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Be confident and strong. Keep moving forward and every dream will be yours.

Not Ready

10 Aug

We can do anything we want in life. Some things will come easily and be simple to accomplish. We may achieve them with little effort, and feel happy and confident. But not everything can be achieved without serious work. We may choose something that will require a lot of concentration and effort. If it’s going to be complicated and require our complete attention, when we look at everything that will be required to accomplish it, even if we really want it we may think we’re not quite ready to tackle it. Nobody is perfect but we may believe we need to be somehow better than we are right now or the situation needs to perfect before we begin. Waiting for the perfect time to start a journey is always an option, but if we put things off until everything lines up, everyone around us is in agreement, and someone is there to help us pave the way ahead, we may stay where we are indefinitely. We don’t have to do anything until we’re ready, but waiting until everything is perfect may work against us. Perfection in life is the exception, not the norm. Most of the time there will be something that isn’t working, or someone who’s complaining, or something that doesn’t exactly mesh with our plans. None of that matters if we’re ready to move and achieve the goal. No matter what’s going on around us, we can find a way forward and untangle anything in the way. We just have to take a step forward, and then take another until we reach the goal. Life is uncertain, and we never know what will happen next. We are in control of our own destiny and can go anywhere and do anything despite what is happening around us. Every single dream is possible, and with focus and determination, we can reach them all.

No matter what we want to do, there will always be someone who thinks we can’t achieve it. Some people don’t like change in their own lives, or the lives of those around them. They want everything to stay the same so they know what to expect. Everyone has their own choices to make, but we never have to change ours just because someone else doesn’t agree. We can listen to their objections and advice, and then choose our own way forward. We already know what we want, and have everything we need to get it. We can begin any journey as soon as we’re ready and be sure of success.

We may face a time when the road ahead is very different than we anticipated. There may be unexpected complications, or others involved who make the journey difficult. Facing an unforeseen problem isn’t a sign that we must stop. Although we can never see the entire journey before we begin, we can be confident that no matter what we face, we’ll have what we need to continue forward. Few roads will take us directly from where we are to the destination we want. There will likely be twists and turns, delays and detours, but if we are patient and persist, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Today if you’ve been waiting for everything to be perfect before starting toward a goal, look at the situation objectively. You are amazing and intelligent, and can manage anything that comes. Trust yourself to prevail and step forward. Every destination is there for you, and every goal is possible. Be confident and begin. Nothing can keep you from success and you will win.

Leaving With Grace

25 Jun

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyday brings us something new and we never know what will come next. Sometimes all our plans go well and we make good, strong connections that pave the road ahead and help us reach our goals. Other times, despite our best efforts, things go awry and we face changes we didn’t plan on. Relationships end, jobs change, people leave, and roads turn. There will be times when we must walk away and start in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and life is unpredictable. If the change takes us by surprise and we are heartbroken, we may feel angry that we can’t have what we thought was there for us. It’s normal to be upset when what we desire and plan on is no longer possible. We can scream and shout, belittle others who are involved, stamp our feet and slam all the doors, but that will not change our new reality. Serious disappointments are hard to navigate and we may give into every immature and vicious emotion possible, and that may make us feel better for a while, but it will only delay the inevitable realization that we are powerless over the change we must face. Instead of giving in to our most base instincts and lashing out at whomever or whatever has caused our discomfort, we can stop and step back. We can stand still and quiet for a moment and give ourselves time to adjust to what’s happened. There is great courage and stamina within us all, and if we take a moment to breathe, we will be able to manage what’s happened and see our way forward. We may have to leave where we are, and we may be unhappy and unsettled, but by trusting ourselves and remembering who we are, we can leave with grace. Nothing is more powerful or gives us more strength than self-control in times of great discomfort. Everything may have come apart, and the bottom may may fall out of all our plans, but the world hasn’t ended. We are still here, and can still succeed. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely and keep us from our goals. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still possible, and with determination and patience, we will reach them all.

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go. We can make all kinds of plans and chart our course ahead, and everything may go well, or we may be stopped in our tracks. Nothing is guaranteed and even if we’re sure we’re on the right road, things may change and we may get turned around and end up going in the opposite direction. Decisions may be made we have no control over that impact us negatively, or someone may enter the picture who takes over and changes our trajectory. A lot can happen, but nothing can keep us from moving ahead. We can adjust our plans, and step forward in a new direction and still reach success.

There is greatness in all of us. When things go wrong, and everything turns, even if we are upset and unsettled, we can trust we will find our way forward. By honoring our personal nobility, we can step away from any situation with grace and patience, and decide how we want to proceed. There will never be anything so difficult and complex that we can’t find our way through. We can trust ourselves to uncover all the answers we need, and step forward sure of success.

Today if your situation has changed and you must start again, if you feel overwhelmed and defeated, be confident. You have overcome many difficult and challenging times, and already possess everything you need to find your way forward. Nothing has changed. Your dreams are still there waiting. Stand tall and step forward. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

Reckoning

2 Jun

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Everyone wants to be happy and nobody tries to make a bad choice on purpose that will increase their suffering. We try to make good decisions at every turn and most of the time we’re successful. But we may face a situation where what we’ve chosen blows up in our faces, and we crash and burn. Maybe we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, maybe we were in a rush or a thousand other factors came into play. If the choice is grievous, when it hits the fan, we may try to hide or pretend we don’t know anything about what’s happening. That might work for a time, but nothing can stay hidden forever, and eventually our part will be found out. We’re all accountable for everything we do – the good and the bad. When the reckoning comes, we may be sorely sad for the choice we made, and may suffer greatly due to ramifications of what’s occurred. If we generally manage our lives well and make sensible, balanced choices, and this is an unusual screwup, we’ll likely be able to recovery and restore what has been lost. However, if we’re continually irresponsible and repeat seriously bad judgement again an again, chances are we’ll lose the trust of those around us. It’s hard to rely on someone who constantly makes bad decisions that tangle up our lives. We’re all capable of choosing well, but good choices don’t just happen because we want them. We must actively do what is needed to get the facts and think about what we’re doing before we jump. By looking for the information we need and taking our time to review all the possible options, we have a better chance of choosing well. Our lives are a reflection of every choice we make, and each success is possible if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours.

Some people believe it’s easier to ask for forgiveness after the fact than for permission before we act. Leaving others in the dark only to surprise them with some unexpected problem is a recipe for disaster. By including everyone involved before we choose, we can get their opinions and good advice to help ensure we’re headed in the right direction.

Nobody is perfect and it’s likely that we’ll all make a bad choice at some point. When the situation begins to deteriorate and we realize we’re headed for trouble, we can be honest about our part in what’s happened and begin the process of changing direction. If we need advice, we can ask for it. Every situation can be amended and with patience and persistence, we can correct our course, and move forward with renewed confidence.

Today if you’ve made a bad choice and created a problem that is complex and difficult, trust yourself. You are not defined by a mistake. Look at everything objectively and decide how you want to proceed. There is a solution to every problem, and you will find the answers you need. Be calm and confident. The road ahead is still there for you and you will reach success.