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Flawless

18 Mar

The natural beauty of the world is all around us. It’s incredible in its scope and diversity, and we may stand amazed at the landscape before us. There’s so much variety and color, and so many lovely scenes it’s impossible to take it all in. We hear the song of a bird and it lifts our spirits. We see the waves crashing on the shore and feel renewed. Everything looks so beautiful and perfect, and we may be swept away. But there is no perfection in nature. Despite all its loveliness, each item is imperfect in some way. When we see the entire scene, everything fits so well together that we don’t notice anything amiss. But imperfections are there in everything before us. They make the scene more beautiful and richer than if it were immaculate and flawless. The imperfections create more definition and interest, and pull us in closer. It’s the same with us. Nobody is perfect and each behavior and personality trait define us individually. We may strive for perfection and do everything possible to be the best we can be. But our imperfections, our personal interpretations and foibles make us unique and desirable. The very things we may think take away from perfect beauty are often the characteristics most attractive to others. We can value and appreciate who we are, just as we are. Perfection in the worldly sense isn’t possible, but we can express it our own way. We can be sincere in our endeavors, and do our best with everything we have. There will always be something more we want to accomplish, or another trait we want to improve, but we are wonderful and desirable just as we are today. We are worthwhile, lovable, and important. We have so much to offer and are a great blessing to the world.

Perfection may be nice to think about but when everything is predictable and exact, there is less interest and desire. It’s boring to be able to predict exactly how things will go every single time. The unexpected complications and surprises may be annoying but they bring depth and clarity to our experience. We reach further and learn more when there are twists and turns. We can navigate any development and when we do, our understanding is increased and we gain a richer awareness of those around us.

They say love is blind and when we’re in the throes of infatuation, that’s often true. If we’re enthralled with someone new, we may only see all the great qualities they possess. As time passes, we begin to see them more clearly and every aspect of their personality becomes apparent. There is great satisfaction is learning about someone close to us and seeing them clearly, warts and all, brings great depth to the relationship. We accept them as they are and as we move forward together, find great satisfaction is sharing our lives openly and honestly.

Today if you feel you should be perfect, remember how amazing you are now. There isn’t anyone else in the entire world exactly like you. You bring specific gifts no one else can share. Be confident and remember you are important and valuable. The whole world is blessed because you’re here. You are incredible just as you are.

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Imperfection

1 Mar

There are many things to do in our lives and when we want to accomplish something, we try to do it well. We may strive to get everything right, every time. Perfection may be the goal, but we’re only human and it’s unlikely we’ll reach it very often. There are a lot of loud, outside influences that don’t always reflect reality. Pictures are photo-shopped to make them look more ideal and we’re bombarded with the idea that we should look like them and our lives should be exceptional and exemplary in every way. We may feel pressured to perform without error and look unblemished to fit into the world’s expectation. Perfection may be our goal but probably won’t be our reality. There isn’t now, nor has there ever been, one flawless individual. We will be successful in many arenas but if we expect to do everything absolutely perfectly each time, we may suffer great disappointment. It’s good to set high goals but if we aim beyond what is possible, we will fail. Allowing others to determine where we should be and how far we should go will not bring us happiness. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and can define our own personal success. We can decide our destination, and chart our own course going forward. We can be confident we have enough persistence and determination to reach our goals. Worldly ideas of perfection need not impact us. Our lives belong to us and we can choose our own path. Each decision we make takes us closer to where we want to be. Nothing is beyond our reach and we can have the lives we want the most.

The world’s definition of perfection isn’t absolute. Our interpretation of what it means is up to us. One person’s ideal may include a high-powered career, where another’s might be a simple job that allows them more time at home. We can define the perfect scenario for our lives, and then do what is needed to achieve it. We’re all individuals and there is no one best way to live. There are countless variables and interpretations and they’re all worthwhile and possible.

When we’re striving to do our best and things go wrong, when we make mistakes and falter, it’s easy to berate ourselves and criticize our actions. We are often harder on ourselves than we would ever be on anyone else. Mistakes will happen and there will be times when we’ll go the wrong way, but each misstep teaches us something we can carry forward. We learn as we go. Learning to accept errors and make the most of them will increase our confidence and open the way ahead. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences and we gain knowledge each day. We have everything we need to do anything and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you feel you should be perfect at something, remember how capable you are. Each step you take teaches you something new. If something goes wrong, alter your course. You know what you want and nothing will keep you from it. You are amazing and can do anything you desire. Be confident. Every blessing is possible and you will reach it.

Deadlock

22 Feb

Everyone has their own opinions and ideas about how things should go. We’re all entitled to our viewpoints and can live our lives any way we choose, but if we must cooperate with others and we disagree, we may get stuck. If agreement is necessary before we can move forward and we can’t find common ground, we will remain in place until something changes. It’s not always easy to find compromise when we are diametrically opposed to the other party’s viewpoint. If we’re on opposing ends of the spectrum, it can be difficult to form an alliance in an effort to move forward. Everyone’s opinion is important, even if we disagree. If we want cooperation, all voices must be heard. We’re all unique and our perceptions are specific to each of us. We can do anything we like individually, but if we’re part of a group, we may need to bend in order to find agreement. There will be few moments when everything goes our way and we get everything we want. Other viewpoints may seem intolerable at first, but by listening carefully and patiently we can find common ground on which to agree. Each side can hold onto what’s most important and relinquish areas of contention in order to move ahead. If we want success, we must learn to compromise effectively. A deadlock situation will hold us in place and keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and have the wisdom we need to find the best arrangement where everyone feels heard and the impasse ends. We can reach any goal we desire by being open to suggestion and allowing others to engage and participate.

If we believe in something strongly and someone questions that belief, we may feel personally assaulted. Our defenses may rise and we may go on the offensive regarding our position. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and ideas, and it doesn’t matter if others disagree with us. We can listen to opposing viewpoints without being threatened, and if we choose, can modify our stand. But our lives are ours to design and we can make our own choices even if they are in opposition to those around us.

When there are disagreements, it’s up to us how we respond. We can get angry and try to muscle the conversation in our direction. Trying to make others adopt our choice with force rarely works. Instead, if we respond patiently and politely, we may open the conversation effectively and allow everyone to express their own opinions. Respectful discussion can open the door to compromise and help us move closer to our goals. We are smart enough to know how to proceed and with confidence and understanding will reach any destination we desire.

Today if someone else’s ideas are keeping you from moving forward, be receptive to their point of view and express your own ideas confidently and patiently. Find a compromise that lets you step ahead and allows them to hold onto what they need. You are amazing and wise, and will find every answer you need. There isn’t anything that can hold you back from the goals you desire. Speak up and step forward, and you’ll reach success.

Becoming Real

19 Feb

Becoming Real

“You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.” Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit

We have the opportunity to experience many things as we navigate through our lives. Everything that happens changes us in some way. We learn about what works and what doesn’t, what brings us pain and what brings happiness, and how to find our way forward. It isn’t always easy, and sometimes we may be overwhelmed with what we must face, but in time the answers always come and we find our way. Each day brings us something new and we learn as we go, taking our lessons forward to help in the future. Life is constantly changing and as we struggle through difficulty, we learn to be strong. As we face sorrow, we gain insight and understanding. Over time and with each step, we can let go of superficial ideas and become more authentic. Growth comes when we learn to accept and trust is what is real. We have enormous potential and can accomplish anything we desire, but first we must be willing to see things as they truly are and embrace truth going forward. Life doesn’t always go the way we wish it would, things don’t always work out and sometimes we’ll fail. But every challenge teaches us something valuable and if we remain focused, each step will take us closer to where we want to be. There isn’t anything we can’t do and no destination is too far to reach. We are strong and capable, and when we embrace things as they are, can do anything.

As adolescents our primary concerns are generally focused on our personal lives and those in it. Being part of the group is important and we may not be ready to stand alone or express anything unique or different. But as we grow, we learn more about life and understand we’re important just as we are. We step into adulthood knowing what we have to contribute is valuable and worthwhile, and find our way forward.

Letting go of childhood and embracing life as an adult is imperative if we want to find success. There are few things more annoying or disappointing than adults who act like children. Holding onto the past will never move us forward. We can step up and embrace our lives where we are, choose the paths we want to travel, and take charge of our futures. Every blessing is possible and we can achieve any goal we set.

Today if you’ve been afraid to let go of something that’s holding you back, trust yourself and remember how strong you are. Embrace your life as it is and choose the road that will take you where you want to go. You are amazing, and nothing is too far for you to reach. Make your dreams come true and live the life you desire. Be confident and step forward. Everything is possible.

Mirror Mirror

30 Jan

The world is full of illusions.  Things may look one way when in fact they may be something entirely different.  Often this is done purposefully to entice us to do something, buy something or go somewhere.  It’s like a big sales convention.  Everywhere we turn we see pictures that have been altered to look better than they are, and we are bombarded with suggestions and promptings to do things others are promoting.  It’s sometimes difficult to discern actual truth when there is so much deception all around.  In our personal lives if we feel we should be one way or another in order to please others or move forward, we may begin to pretend we actually possess attributes we don’t have.  We may tell others we can do things we don’t know how to do, recreate our personal history to reflect what someone else wants to hear, or in other ways fake our way through.  All of that might work for a while, but truth is powerful and will always rise.  When we look in the mirror we see ourselves as we are.  Accepting ourselves exactly as we are now will help us clearly decide how we want to move forward.  We don’t have to pretend to be anything.  We don’t have to look like or act like anyone else to get ahead.  We can be genuine and true to the attributes we possess.  If we want to change, we can do what is needed to get there and move forward with confidence.  Illusions may be pretty, and they may captivate us, but they aren’t real.  Deciding to be honest about ourselves and truthful in all our interactions will give us the confidence and power we need to do anything we desire.

If we’re unhappy, we can bemoan our situation and spend all our time dreaming of how things could be.  Wishing and hoping for change is a waste of time, and sitting around waiting for something to happen that will turn our course toward the goals we want is foolish.  If we want the lives we’re dreaming of we must define what is needed to make it happen and then actively pursue it.  Our lives are our responsibility.  We’re always in control of our decisions and what we do going forward.  Every dream is possible and if we’re determined and focused, we can achieve the lives we want the most.

Nobody is perfect and there may be times when we feel disappointed in something we’ve done in the past.  Carrying around disappointments that are behind us can hold us back and keep us from happiness.  We can learn everything possible from the experience and take the lessons forward to help us make better choices.  Life is a continual process of learning.  We can make excellent choices going forward and find the success we seek.

Today if you’ve been pretending to be something you aren’t in an effort to move ahead, remember you are worthwhile and valuable just as you are.  Trust yourself and be confident.  We need your influence and there is nobody else like you.  You are amazing and have gifts nobody else can offer.  Share them with us and the whole world will benefit.  There is great success ahead and you will reach it.

Hard Line

14 Jan

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never come in contact with many of them, there are others around us most of the time. Sometimes it’s easy to interact with them but other times they may interfere with our plans, get in our way, object to our ideas, and basically make it harder for us to do what we want to do. It takes some skill and decorum to get through sticky situations when someone else isn’t on the same page we’re on and doesn’t share our views. Compromise is always a possibility but if we’re mad or determined to get things our way, we may draw a hard line and refuse to budge. That might work for us sometimes, but often all it does is escalate the situation and make things worse. If others feel their views are dismissed or ignored, we may find ourselves in an emotionally charged and difficult position. The whole idea is to move forward in every aspect of our lives, and there are many roads to every goal. Whatever we want to accomplish can likely be done in several ways. Instead of deciding it’s our way or the highway, we can open our minds up to the possibilities and options presented by others and bring them on board. Everyone wants to be heard and feel valued. We can get to our goals and reach every destination by listening carefully and finding a solution that expresses everyone’s point of view. It takes a little more work than just forging ahead our own way, but the ultimate success is worth it. Everyone has good ideas. We can include them in our plans and move forward.

We’re all at different places on the spectrum of intelligence and understanding. Some people are very smart and understand concepts and ideas quickly and completely. Others take more time to comprehend the goal and what must be done to accomplish it. How fast we understand the issue doesn’t define our success. When everyone is ready, they can contribute ideas for success, decisions can be made, and a plan can be put into motion. Everything is attainable and with patience and cooperation we can reach any goal.

When we’re confident and have a clear understanding of an issue, if we want others to agree with us, we may state our position and the reasons why we feel the way we do. We may convince those around us to follow our lead, or they may prefer to do things their way. There is not one, absolute, perfect answer to any problem. We can accept modification of our plans that include everyone’s perspective. The idea is to get to the goal – not necessarily to get to it in one specific way. We can be tolerant and patient enough to include those around us and choose the best road ahead.

Today if you’re sure you have the perfect answer to a problem but others around you disagree, listen carefully to their suggestions. There are always many roads to any destination. Include those around you and find an answer that represents everyone. You are wise and strong. Share your wisdom and allow others to share theirs with you. Compromise will bring freedom and success. You have so much to offer. Be willing to listen and move forward with confidence.

Undone

11 Oct

Conflict is a normal part of life. We’re all different and our ideas about how things should go are specific to our own experiences and desires. Although we may agree with others on some things, there will likely be times when what we want is in direct opposition to the thoughts of those around us. If the decision doesn’t impact us or have a lasting affect on our lives, we may politely disagree and let it go. But if it has a big influence over what we’re doing or stops us from where we want to go, we may get into an intense situation as we push for our views to be accepted and refuse to move toward the other side. Severe disagreement may create anger that might overtake us if we aren’t careful. We may become completely undone and lose control if the issue is extremely important to us and we cannot abide the idea of letting it go. Unfortunately, if anger takes over we may act out in ways that deteriorate the discussion and lose our ability to convince the other side to consider our viewpoint. It can be hard to be calm when we feel we’re losing something very important. It can be hard to listen to the other side and try to understand their position. But ranting and raving, raising our voices or in other ways impacting the situation negatively will never get us what we want. It’s impossible to bring others over to our side by making them feel bad. We are always in control of our behavior – good or bad. When we’re facing difficult situations and feel our emotions start to rise, we can step back and take an objective view of things. There are always possible compromises and if we keep our heads we’ll find them. We can achieve any goal we desire by staying focused and work through any complications that arise. Everything is possible if we are willing to find the way through.

Some people love to argue. They like the intensity of heated discussion and the chance to prove they are right, no matter what the issue is. Arguing for the sake of arguing rarely brings any benefit to those involved. Plenty of conflict will present itself without trying to invent more. It’s better to diffuse it when we it arises and find a way forward that includes everyone’s input. There are always many ways to do anything and we can find an inclusive and supportive road going forward.

There will be times when no matter what we say or how convincing we are, we will not get our way. We may have to change our focus and do things differently than we prefer. Being flexible and willing to go another way takes patience and self-control. Although we may not be on the road we want, we are creative enough to find our way forward. There are endless roads to every destination and we can find our way ahead even if we must take a detour to get there.

Today if you’re in a situation that feels impossible and you’re in opposition to what you’re being asked, try to be flexible and find a compromise that will work. There are endless possibilities available and you’ll find one that fits. Be patient with compromise and keep your eyes focused on your goals. Everything is possible and you will reach the destination you seek.