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Reckoning

2 Jun

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Everyone wants to be happy and nobody tries to make a bad choice on purpose that will increase their suffering. We try to make good decisions at every turn and most of the time we’re successful. But we may face a situation where what we’ve chosen blows up in our faces, and we crash and burn. Maybe we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, maybe we were in a rush or a thousand other factors came into play. If the choice is grievous, when it hits the fan, we may try to hide or pretend we don’t know anything about what’s happening. That might work for a time, but nothing can stay hidden forever, and eventually our part will be found out. We’re all accountable for everything we do – the good and the bad. When the reckoning comes, we may be sorely sad for the choice we made, and may suffer greatly due to ramifications of what’s occurred. If we generally manage our lives well and make sensible, balanced choices, and this is an unusual screwup, we’ll likely be able to recovery and restore what has been lost. However, if we’re continually irresponsible and repeat seriously bad judgement again an again, chances are we’ll lose the trust of those around us. It’s hard to rely on someone who constantly makes bad decisions that tangle up our lives. We’re all capable of choosing well, but good choices don’t just happen because we want them. We must actively do what is needed to get the facts and think about what we’re doing before we jump. By looking for the information we need and taking our time to review all the possible options, we have a better chance of choosing well. Our lives are a reflection of every choice we make, and each success is possible if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours.

Some people believe it’s easier to ask for forgiveness after the fact than for permission before we act. Leaving others in the dark only to surprise them with some unexpected problem is a recipe for disaster. By including everyone involved before we choose, we can get their opinions and good advice to help ensure we’re headed in the right direction.

Nobody is perfect and it’s likely that we’ll all make a bad choice at some point. When the situation begins to deteriorate and we realize we’re headed for trouble, we can be honest about our part in what’s happened and begin the process of changing direction. If we need advice, we can ask for it. Every situation can be amended and with patience and persistence, we can correct our course, and move forward with renewed confidence.

Today if you’ve made a bad choice and created a problem that is complex and difficult, trust yourself. You are not defined by a mistake. Look at everything objectively and decide how you want to proceed. There is a solution to every problem, and you will find the answers you need. Be calm and confident. The road ahead is still there for you and you will reach success.

Hesitation

26 May

When we’re facing a big decision, we may feel unsure about how to proceed. It’s important to get as much information as we can before we begin. If we carefully uncover as many facts as possible about what the situation is, what may go wrong, and who will be involved, we have a better shot of things working out the way we want them to. Big decisions that may change our lives and take us to unknown destinations will need a lot of thought and preparation before we take the leap. If we take our time, and uncover all the possible outcomes that may occur, we will feel more confident once we step forward. Even if we prepare well, we don’t know what we don’t know. It may happen that there will be unexpected developments that force us to change direction, or unforeseen complications that stop are progress. Nobody can read the future, but if the goal is important and we’re determined to reach it, we will find our way through whatever comes. Change can be uncomfortable, and we may hesitate to continue moving forward if the road becomes difficult. There is no rush to reach success. If we need time to stop and think, we can take it. The destination will still be there when we’re ready to move again. Taking a time out isn’t surrendering to defeat. We have all the wisdom and courage we need to do anything we desire. Some goals are hard to reach, may become tangled up and difficult to navigate, and may take far longer than we anticipated. It’s impossible to see the end of any road from the beginning, but we can move ahead one step at a time and find our way. There isn’t any journey too difficult for us to navigate, or goal too far away for us to reach. Once we’ve decided what we want, we can reach success. Every single dream is possible. By focusing on the way ahead, and choosing to continue forward, we will gain the prize.

Everyone has their own personal timetable for making decisions. Some people like to choose quickly and jump ahead, confident they will be able to face whatever comes. Others prefer to think about their choices a little longer. They want to be sure they’ve uncovered as much information as possible before they begin. What we do and how we do things is a personal expression. We know who we are and what we want, and can decide how we’ll move forward at every step.

It’s difficult to make good decisions if we’re impulsive and impatient. If we jump into situations without thinking, and things go wrong, we can either tough it out and make the best of it, or simply give up. The old saying that, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure,” is accurate. If we don’t prepare or plan before we jump headlong into a situation, the odds of success will diminish. Nobody wants to work for nothing. We are intelligent and wise and can make excellent decisions. By taking our time, and choosing wisely, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’re facing a big decision and you’re hesitating because you’re unsure, look at all the facts before you. You are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices. Decide what you want and then take the first step ahead. Every single success is there for you and nothing is out of reach. Be confident and trust yourself. You will succeed.

Tattoos

23 Apr

As we go through our lives, we must make millions of decisions, and each one we make brings a result and takes us somewhere. We may continue moving forward on our current path or make a choice that takes us far from where we were initially headed. There are limitless opportunities and we can do anything we like. Most of the time we may try hard and make good decisions that work out well, but we aren’t perfect, and will all make mistakes from time to time. If we make a decision that impacts our lives in very difficult and negative ways and takes us down a road that brings hardship and trial, we may be seriously adversely affected. We might struggle to get past what’s happened and it may seem that one bad decision will stick to us like a tattoo, ever present and never fading. We might falter and things may go seriously wrong, but nothing is permanent. There is no indelible ink stain that can’t be removed. The past can never predict the future, and we can learn from where we’ve been and take all that knowledge and wisdom forward with us. It doesn’t matter if we feel we’ve made the biggest mistake in history, it’s just one moment and cannot determine where we go next. No previous error can sentence us to a life of despair. There are endless chances for us to try again and re-route our course toward where we want to go. If the door in front of us is closed and locked, we can turn in a new direction and continue forward. If we’ve created a situation that is turbulent and fraught with stress, we can change it. We are in control of our lives and there isn’t anything we can’t modify if we need to. Mistakes happen, and we may fall down, but we can get back up and start again. Every success is still there waiting, and with determination and clarity, we will reach it.

If we’re in a situation where others see us make a big mistake, they may decide we can’t make good decisions and are not to be trusted. They may choose to define us by one choice, and that is their prerogative, but can never tell the whole story. We are intelligent and capable and can revise any plan or situation that isn’t working. By trusting ourselves to make good choices, and bravely stepping forward, we can find the answers we need to achieve anything we desire.

Salt looks a lot like sugar. When we bake a cake, if we add salt instead of sugar the batter may look fine, but our mistake will be obvious when we finish baking and taste the final product. The same is true in our lives. Some decisions look fine when we first make them, but we may not get all the information we need beforehand, and the entire situation may fall apart. Instead of worrying and bemoaning the error, or belittling ourselves because we faltered, we can look at everything objectively and start again.

Today if you’ve been struggling with a bad decision you made in the past, let it go. Today is what matters. You are amazing and intelligent and can make excellent choices. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and you will prevail. All your dreams are there for you, and you will reach them.

Manufacturing

12 Apr

Life is filled with opportunities and possibilities. There are unlimited options constantly available, and we can do anything we want to do. We can reach any destination and achieve any goal but the lives we want the most won’t just happen because we’re good people and desire them. In business when something is produced, it begins in manufacturing where it’s created. When completed, it’s shipped to those who’ve ordered the product. Companies mark things in “Receiving” when they arrive, and the process continues. Some people think of their lives like they are waiting in Receiving to greet their dreams and desires when they arrive. They may think about them, talk about them, plan for when they get them, and simply wait. Odds of getting the life we want by simply waiting – zero. It doesn’t matter how much we want something, how much planning and positive thinking we do, if we do nothing to achieve the goal, we likely won’t get it. We must think of ourselves not as being in Receiving, but Manufacturing. We are responsible for creating whatever it is we’re hoping to gain. We can do anything, but if we want to be successful, we must concentrate on the doing part. Everything is possible, but it won’t all be easy. Some goals may take a lot of work and effort and require a long time of continued focus. If the goal is complicated and requires a lot of planning and continued focus, it may take longer than we imagine to reach it. But nothing is impossible if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and we don’t have to do everything all at once. We can move forward one step at a time and open each door as it arrives. Every dream is there for us and we can design our lives any way we like. By focusing on the goal, and continuing forward, we will succeed.

Traditions are powerful and some people feel they must honor them and keep things the same as they’ve been in the past. If we decide we want to do something different, we may face opposition from those close to us. They are certainly entitled to their own opinions and ideas, but we are the only ones who know exactly what we want to accomplish and where we want to go. Our lives are ours to design and we don’t need agreement or permission to do things our own way. Every destination is possible, and with determination we can reach them all.

It’s easy to coast through life. We can go along with what others are doing and play follow the leader for as long as we like, but until we take control, we won’t reach the destinations we most desire. It’s impossible to reach our own goals when we’re following someone else’s plans. We know what we want and have everything necessary to make it ours. By living on purpose and directing our journey toward the destinations we most desire, we’ll gain great happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been waiting for your life to change, decide what you want the most and take the first steps forward. Everything you desire is possible, but only you can make it yours. You are stronger and wiser than you imagine, and everything is there for you. There is great success ahead, and you can make it yours.

The Next Place

9 Apr

We go through many experiences in our lives. Nobody gets a perfect life, and we’ll all go through ups and downs, highs and lows, disasters, and joyful reunions. Although we may wish for a life filled with only good times, we don’t live in paradise, and we’re going to face trouble at some point. When we’re going through a difficult passage, we may wish we were someplace else – anything to get us away from where we are. It’s natural to want to avoid suffering, but we are living in this moment and wishing for the next will never help us through. Although we may have some perfect days when everything goes well, the sun shines, and we’re blissfully happy, they cannot last forever. Problems will arise, conflict will come, and we may feel overwhelmed and discontented. While we’re suffering, we may believe that our happiness is in the next place, the next job, or the next connection, and if we hang on until we get there, we’ll be fine. If we continually believe our happiness is somewhere else, it can’t be where we are. It’s possible there are great blessings just ahead, but constantly believing what’s next is where we need to be is a fool’s game. We are living now, in this moment. If we’re going through a difficult time, we can believe we’ll prevail, trust in our ability to overcome, and step forward with confidence. There is no need to wish for tomorrow. Every situation, even very bad ones, give us something of value. We can live in each moment, treasuring the benefits there for us, and be sure we’ll find our way forward. We don’t need to wish for tomorrow to get through today. Everything necessary to prevail and reach happiness is here for us at every moment, and we are wise enough to find all the answers we need. Today is the most important day of our lives. Yesterday is gone and can never be changed, and tomorrow is ahead. We are here now, and every happiness we desire is possible.

We all have things about ourselves we want to change. It’s good to have goals that move us closer to where we want to be, but there is no need to put our happiness off until we achieve them. We can be happy where we are, even if it’s not exactly where we want to be. There is goodness in every step, and by embracing what is positive and uplifting, we will find great satisfaction as we move ahead.

Happiness isn’t something we earn. We don’t get it after we’ve marked off enough boxes or filled enough requirements. It’s a gift we give to ourselves and can be found in every situation. There is always something for which to be grateful and by recognizing every blessing, we can uncover great personal joy. Hard times will come and we’re going to struggle, but if we keep our minds focused on where we are, and all the good around us, we will find peace.

Today look at your life exactly where you are and notice every blessing. You are perfect just as you are and exactly where you need to be. Decide how you want to move forward and begin toward the goals you most desire. There is great joy in living today well. Be confident, and every blessing will be yours.