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Small Moves

19 Jan

Nobody gets a perfect life and we all have things we’d like to change about ourselves or our situation. They may be big alterations like wanting to move to a new location or changing our careers. Big changes take a lot of planning and encompass many moving parts that may be complex and difficult to navigate. But not everything we want to change is all encompassing. There may be smaller things we’d like to alter, like exercising more or taking more time for friends and family. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but lots of things will happen on their own. Life has its own rhythm and if we just coast along we’ll end up in a lot of places and do a lot of things, but they may not be the things we want the most. Routine is comfortable and even if we dream of something different, unless we focus and decide to do what is necessary to make them ours, we might just go from day to day and let things remain the same. Change requires effort and will likely push us out of our comfort zones. Thinking about everything and looking at the whole picture may be overwhelming, and instead of jumping in and starting, we may back away thinking we can’t do it. In reality, we can do anything we really want to do, but we can’t do it all at once. Instead of trying to make lots of changes right away, we can break it down into small moves that are easy to manage. Small moves are just as effective as big ones, and each step we take will move us a little closer to the goal. In time, if we persist, we’ll reach the destination. Success is always possible and there is no rush to reach it. We can make small changes and take our time. As we move closer, we’ll gain more confidence and see everything more clearly. We can have the lives we desire most. Every single destination is possible, and we have everything we need to make them ours.

Rome wasn’t built in a day. Historians believe it took approximately 1,010,450 days to construct. That’s a lot of time and effort to create one city. We won’t ever need that much time to complete any goal we desire, but it helps to remember we have all the time we need to get it done, and we don’t have to hurry to get there. We can plan our time effectively and move forward at a pace that allows us to feel comfortable and still achieve the goal.

When we want something badly, we may try to rush to obtain it. If we suddenly decide we’re finally going to lose the twenty pounds we’ve gained over the last five years, we may take drastic measures to make it happen fast. Making big moves to achieve a goal may seem like a good idea at the beginning, but it’s hard to maintain behaviors that require us to make big changes immediately. We’ll be more successful making reasonable alterations we can stick to that lead us step by step to success.

Today if you’ve decided you want to make a change, think about small moves that will take you to the goal. You really are so amazing and capable and can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Decide what you want, and then step forward with confidence. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed. With persistence, you can make all your dreams come true, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Being Heard

7 Jan

When we think of people in groups, and assign them to a category, it’s easy to forget that the group or category designation isn’t who they are. Each person is an individual with something to offer, and each is valuable. We all deserve to be heard and treated with respect. If we are ignored, criticized because we are different, and disregarded, we may endure it for a time, but eventually the need to be heard may push us to a breaking point. We may shout to make others listen, or storm the castle to make our leaders remember we are there. Everyone has a tipping point. Treating those who are different with distain, calling them names, disparaging their opinions, or saying they don’t matter, is a recipe for eventual disaster. Nobody is better than anyone else. There is not one perfect way to live life. We are not all the same, and will never agree on everything, but each of us is precious and unique, and brings something of value to the world. Our differences are sometimes difficult to understand but that does not mean we cannot co-exist respectfully and peacefully. We are responsible for what happens after we use vindictive and hateful speech about those with whom we disagree. Every decision has a result and everything we do defines who we are. No idea or ideology is worth the destruction of others. We are all connected more than we realize. By thinking before we act and understanding and accepting differences, we can make the world better and bring peace. We are more powerful than we think we are and can make excellent decisions. By choosing wisely, and being open to every idea, our lives will be enhanced, and we will find greater satisfaction and happiness.

Some people are very sure of themselves and believe their ideas are the only ones worth having. They are confident they have all the answers and if someone disagrees, may strongly criticize them and do whatever they can to make them comply. We are in control of our own lives and may live them any way we like. We don’t have to follow anyone else’s ideas or obey. Our differences are what bring interest and depth to the world. Honoring everyone’s ideas and allowing free expression without judgment enriches our experiences and opens our minds to other possibilities.

We all have the right to choose anything we like, but we don’t have control over anyone else. We will never have all the answers or inspiration over anyone else’s life. It’s good to be confident in our decisions but that doesn’t make us ruler over the decisions of others. Everyone is valuable and worthwhile and has something to offer. By respecting the rights of others to make their own choices and honoring the gifts they offer, we bring light to everyone around us, and richness to the world.

Today if you’ve been critical of those who are different, and want them to comply with your beliefs, remember every idea has value. We all have personal inspiration unique to each of us. Listen to others and be open to new ideas. You are a great gift to the world and have so much to offer. Be confident and be wise, and the road ahead will open and take you to success.

Switching the Tape

18 Nov

Life is full of challenges. There are endless twists and turns, complications, unforeseen developments, and all kinds of complex issues. Even when we plan well, and chart a clear course ahead, crap happens, and we can get tangled up and thwarted as we try to move forward. When things go wrong, the easiest thing in the world to do is stop trying and start complaining. It takes zero effort and gets us nowhere. If the goal isn’t important, we can let it go when we hit the first snag and move on to something else, hoping there won’t be any more problems. Well, hope springs eternal, but we live in the real world, and there will be few times when everything goes exactly the way we want it to. If we can’t manage unexpected problems, it will be difficult to accomplish much. There are endless things that can go wrong, and it can be maddening if we have continual issues and roadblocks on the road ahead. Frustration is normal but if we let it take over and abandon the journey, we will be unable to make our dreams reality. Instead of seeing every problem that arises as the end of the road, we can switch the tape and challenge ourselves to find the way forward. There really isn’t anything we can’t figure out if we’re determined and focused. It might take longer than we planned, and it might be harder than we thought at the beginning. Those things don’t matter. All that matters is that we face whatever happens and do what is needed to overcome any hindrance. We are strong and powerful and have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to do anything we desire. By being confident in the face of disaster, and refusing to accept defeat, we will prevail. The whole world is there for us, and we can have the lives we want the most. We must just be willing to do the work.

Everyone wants a life filled with ease and pleasure. Dreaming about a perfect world may be nice, but we don’t live in Nirvana. We live in reality where people make mistakes, barriers get in the way, and things go wrong. A lot. It’s possible that some good things may fall into our laps without any planning or effort, but mostly we’ll have to work to achieve the things we want the most. We are capable of designing our lives any way we like. With persistence and clarity, we can go where we want to go, and do all the things we want to do.

Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and someone else might make a bad choice that impacts our lives and give us heartburn. We can waste time ranting and raving about what’s happened, but that will only hold us place. If something gets in the way, we can find the road around it. If someone is holding us up, we can step away from them and go in a new direction. Complications will come, but we are strong enough and smart enough to overcome them and continue forward toward our goals.

Today if it seems everything is standing in your way and you’re frustrated and angry, stop and think about what you want the most. What is the goal you really want to accomplish? Look at everything objectively and you will find the way forward. You are amazing and capable, and nothing can keep you from success. Every single dream is there for you, and you will make them yours.

Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.

Letting It Go

25 Aug

We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can choose the goals we want to achieve, and the places we want to go, and start forward. Many times, we’re able to accomplish what we’ve set out to do, but sometimes things don’t go the way we hope. There may be times when even if what we want is good, and even if we’re willing to do everything we need to get there, the road is blocked. When we get stopped in our tracks, it might seem like there are other worldly forces at work against us, and we may be confused and upset that nothing is working. When we want something very badly it’s hard to accept that we can’t have it. We can keep trying to push against the wall in front of us, and expend a lot of energy trying to force our way through. All of that might make us feel better, but may not move us ahead. If we’re stuck and nothing we do moves us forward, we may have to let our plans go for now. Letting go of something we’ve worked very hard for and want very much, isn’t easy. We may feel hurt and upset, frustrated and angry. We are only in control of ourselves and there will always be many forces and influences happening all around us we may know nothing about that may impact our plans. Life is fluid and change is constant. Not being able to accomplish something right now doesn’t mean it’ll never be possible. The goal is still there, and in time, we’ll be able to achieve it. Meanwhile, we can look at everything objectively, let go of the original plan, and move onto something else. When things change, and our situation is different, we can return back and try again. Everything we want is possible, but it may not be possible today. We can step back, revise our current plans, and continue forward. Nothing will remain out of reach forever, and with patience and persistence, we can achieve anything.

Although we know what we want, and can plan effectively to achieve it, there will always be a lot of unknown factors that may come into play. We may encounter unforeseen complications and irritating snags that clog the road ahead and make advancement difficult. Disappointment is a part of life, and we may face difficulties that keep us from success. If we get stopped, we can try again. If we still can’t move, we can focus on something else until the road ahead clears and we can reach success.

Some people say “there’s a reason for everything” as a way of explaining what we can’t control. But that doesn’t mean the reason we’re stopped is because we aren’t entitled to achieve the goal. The problem we’re facing may have nothing to do with us. Delays and detours are annoying, and it can be hard to wait, but we are intelligent and can do whatever is needed to reach any goal we desire. If we have to wait, and do something else, we can. The goal will always be there and when the time is right, we’ll reach it.

Today if the road ahead toward the goal you want is blocked and you can’t get through, look at everything objectively. If there is no way forward right now, set it aside and pursue something else. Life is all about change and soon the way will open, and you’ll be able to move toward success. You are amazing and powerful, and can achieve anything. Be patient and look ahead. All your dreams are there for you.