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Breaking Apart

20 Jul

Life is a continual process of letting go. We learn and grow as we move forward, and our lives are continually modified as things develop. Change is constant and we may face a time when due to circumstances beyond our control we must let go of something we cherish deeply.  Health concerns, financial changes and a thousand other developments may prevent us from continuing an activity that has brought us great satisfaction. Our lives may be suddenly be altered in ways that are difficult to accept and hard to understand.  If we must walk away from something we love deeply, we may feel we’re breaking apart. The pain and sorrow may be intense and we may believe we’ll never find happiness again. When we’re suffering and trying to make sense of a new situation, it may seem impossible to navigate and find peace and comfort. Sudden, difficult changes are not easy to get through but we are intelligent and stronger than we imagine. No matter what has happened or what we must leave behind, we can find the road ahead and figure out how to proceed. There is no rush to find all the answers. We can take our time and think about all the options and possibilities available. When we’re ready we can take the first step and begin a new journey. Change isn’t easy but difference doesn’t always mean less. Happiness and success are still there for us, and we can be confident we will achieve them both.

What we do defines who we are, and our lives are embellished by the activities we participate in.  If something changes and we can no longer do the things we love so much, we may suffer serious grief and despair trying to figure out what to do next.  How do we replace something that has defined us for so long?  What could possibly take its place?  At first we may believe it’s hopeless and nothing will ever bring us the same satisfaction we’ve had so far. Life is complicated and things go wrong, but a turn in our direction does not end the journey. There will always be something new to try and in time we will find another way ahead. Life is long and nothing can prevent things from changing. By being open to new options and trusting ourselves, we will find all the answers we need.

Truth is truth and trying to force something that doesn’t work is a waste of time and energy. We can only work with what we have at any given moment, and sometimes the options possible do not match what we want. We can try to ignore the facts and drag everything along with us, determined to make it work which will only exhaust us in the end. By looking at everything objectively and openly, and accepting our situation where it is, we can make a plan to change what we can, and move forward toward success. Seeing things as they really are and not how we wish they were will help us open the doors ahead and reach the destinations we desire.

Today if your situation has changed and you must let go of something you love and desire, think about all the possibilities ahead. Change isn’t the end of the journey. You are wise and intelligent and every answer you seek is there for you. Be comforted and confident. All the destinations you desire are still there for you.  Modify your plans and step forward with clarity and confidence.  Nothing can keep you from your goals and you will succeed.

Entangled

7 Jun

Spider webs are amazing creations. Intricate and lacy, sticky and deadly, and a perfect trap for the prey the spider seeks. Although we don’t construct physical webs like the spider, we can, with great detail and precision, use lies to create scenarios that attract and hold others where we want them. We can say and do anything that will create the situations we desire. If the facts don’t work for us, we can make up something else that will push us ahead or move us closer to where we want to be. Lying is easy and we can use it to get out of trouble, or open doors that will help us reach our goals. We can pave the road ahead with fiction and say whatever is needed to make sure we get what we want. One lie leads to another, and then another, and before we know it we may find we’ve created something completely different than what is real. We may get away with it at first, but the problem with lies is, just like the spider’s web, they tend to cross over one another and we will eventually get entangled in the web of deceit we’ve created that’s difficult to navigate and squirm out of. It’s hard to remember lies we’ve told because there is no basis in fact. When confronted, we might try to use distractions or attempt to rewrite history by denying what we’ve done. But in the end, however long that takes, we’re going to be found out. Lying creates weak links in our relationships, and will never build trust or confidence. Every lie takes something away from us, and each time we do it, we lose valor and integrity. Our lives are our responsibility and who we are is defined by what we do. Truth brings strength and wisdom. No matter where we are or what’s going on, honesty will always be the best option for moving forward. There is greatness in us, and when we honor the very best we have to offer, every road ahead will open, and we will reach success.

If we lack confidence or are unsure of ourselves, we may think pretending to be something we aren’t will get us through. We can make up any stories we like, and if those around us don’t know any better, we may be able to spin a completely fictitious tale that is believable on the surface and helps us squeak through for now. If it works, we may think we got away with it, and we may have for a time, but truth is powerful and will eventually show itself. It’s far better to admit we don’t have the answers and ask for help instead of trying to bluff our way through. Nobody knows everything and we may be amazed at the support we get.

It’s very hard to keep up a ruse indefinitely. It takes a lot of focus and energy to remember the lies we’ve told, and try to keep the story straight. The time it takes to come up with continuing fictional developments may be extreme and exhausting. Instead of wasting time on creating endless tales, we can use that energy to focus on how to reach the goals we most desire. A clean plan filled with facts and clarity will enable us to more quickly reach the success we want, and pave the road ahead.

Today if you’ve been making up stories to get people to follow you or open doors, trust yourself. You are amazing, and nothing is better than who you really are. Be confident and let your true self shine. You have gifts to offer nobody else can give. Stand strong and step forward with clarity and faith. Nothing is out of reach and you will succeed.

Prove It

18 May

There are billions of people on Earth, and we’re all different. There are endless types of lifestyles, customs, languages, traditions and other facets that define who and where we are. People who live far apart from each other may have completely different ideas about life and how things should go. There isn’t only one way to live well, and the many expressions possible make up the human race. We are all valuable and worthwhile. We all have something to offer no matter our circumstance or situation. Some people have very defined ideas about the way things should be done and how things should work. If we must interact with them, they may require us to prove we are worthy by doing what they say and following their rules. We can define anything we like for our own personal lives, and can create rules of order for business or other projects, but we don’t have the right to tell anyone else how to live. We are all individuals and do not need to conform to anyone else’s ideas. We never have to prove our worth in order to fit in. We know who we are and what we want, and with confidence and clarity can go anywhere and do anything. Our lives are ours to design, and we all bring great depth and blessing to the world. We are unique and have specific gifts to offer nobody else can give. By honoring all the differences and contributions possible, our lives will be enriched and embellished, and we will find great satisfaction and personal reward.

It’s always easy to move forward when everyone is on the same page and going in the same direction. When the goal is defined and everyone is in agreement about how to reach it, the road ahead may be clear and unobstructed. But we’re all different and have our own ideas about how to proceed. By taking the time to listen to every suggestion and look at all the options possible, we can include everyone’s ideas and still find the best road ahead. We all have much to offer, and valuing every point of view will help bring agreement and success.

There is an old saying that “Rank has its privileges.” Oftentimes that’s true. The president of the company will likely have more influence than a newly hired clerk. But that doesn’t mean he or she has all the answers. Our perspectives are colored by our own personal experiences, and someone else may have a different view that opens up a completely new way of proceeding that will bring great accomplishment and success. We can be open to new ideas, no matter how foreign they may seem, and find the best answers for moving ahead.

Today if you’re being pressured to follow along when you disagree, speak up and share your ideas with those around you. You are amazing and highly capable and can figure out even the most complex issues. Stand strong and be open to every idea. All the answers are there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every dream is possible. Be confident, and you will prevail.

Changing Them

12 Apr

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives. With some we build strong relationships and connections, others are co-workers and acquaintances, and there are some we just wave to in passing. There may be a time when we meet someone and are instantly captivated by them. Maybe it’s the way they look, or there is undeniable chemistry between us. Infatuation can be intense and if we’re under the spell, we may lose all sense of restraint and normalcy. There may be an extreme desire to abandon all caution and do anything to get closer. But first impressions can never tell us everything, and as we interact and spend time together, issues may arise that under normal circumstances may send us packing. If we’re entranced, we may think they don’t matter, we can do what is needed to change the other person so it won’t be an issue. We may believe that by spending more time with them, even marrying them, they will change and the problems will go away. Thinking we can change anyone else for any reason is a recipe for disaster. We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and the odds that we’ll be able to alter someone’s personality in ways that work better for us are slim to none. We are who we are, and although change is always possible, it must come from inside us and the desire to change must be great. No relationship is perfect, but if we’re willing to accept others for who they are instead of trying to change them, we have the best chance of success. We all have a lot to offer, but our gifts are different and varied. Looking at everything objectively and realistically will help us decide how best to proceed. We deserve complete happiness, and by being open and seeing things clearly, we will achieve it.

Love means different things to different people. To some it means we will do everything for them and change our lives to fit their model. They may tell us that if we love them, we’ll do as they ask. We’ll change the way we look, or how we act, or what we like, or a million other details. Loving someone doesn’t mean we give up who we are. We are unique and valuable and have individual gifts to offer nobody else can give. We never have to acquiesce to ideas we don’t want or that take us from who we really are. If the relationship requires more than we want to give, we can step away and move in a new direction.

Rushing into a relationship rarely leads to long term satisfaction. Getting to know someone takes time. Learning how we relate to one another and what works takes focus and effort. Running fast into the wind will definitely take us somewhere, but if we can’t clearly see where we’re headed, we probably won’t end up where we wanted to go. We can have rich, fulfilling relationships if we take things one step at a time. Our lives are important, and we deserve every good gift. Being thoughtful and wise, we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been captivated by someone and can’t get them out of your mind, stand still and think about how you want to proceed. Take the time you need to really know them, and then choose your next steps forward. You are amazing and have so much to offer. Everything you desire is possible, and with wisdom and patience, they will be yours.

Big Red Line

31 Mar

Everyone has their own ideas about how life should go and what we should do. We all have our own personal preferences about everything in our lives. We like some things over others, and pattern our lives in ways that enable us to do what we prefer. There are endless expressions and unlimited varieties all around us. When we want something, we can clearly define what it is, what it looks like, how we’ll get it and thousands of other parameters. If we’re looking for a companion, we can define the traits we like the most and try to find someone who fits them but it’s important not to draw the lines too severely. We can narrow the field all we like, but the more lines we draw and parameters we set, the smaller the group of possibilities will be. If we say we will only date people who are tall and have red hair, and refuse to even consider anyone else, we will eliminate a lot of other potential candidates. If we further add they must work in a specific field, make a defined amount of money, drive a certain type of car, and dress in ways we find attractive, we may specify ourselves right out of success. It’s good to know what we want, but if we keep our options open and allow a wide scope, we have a better chance at finding what we want. Sometimes the perfect situation is completely different than we imagined it would be. By keeping our minds open to all possibilities, we can achieve anything we desire. Every success is possible in every arena of our lives. We have what we need to find them, and with clarity and patience, we will reach them all.

When we’re facing a big decision and look at all the options before us, we may quickly discard some because we don’t like them, or they look too hard to manage. The first look at something can never tell us all the facts. New and uncharted roads may seem daunting at first, but if we take one step closer, and then another, we may find what looked impossible at first is within reach. Throwing ideas away before we find out what they have to offer may keep us from the best roads ahead. We are intelligent and highly capable. There isn’t anything we can’t understand and manage.

The past can never predict the future. If we’ve had a bad experience with something we might avoid anything that looks like it or reminds us of it as we move forward. Life isn’t a record that repeats over and over again. We need not limit anything because of a previous loss. One failure cannot keep us from success. It doesn’t matter what happened before, everything is still possible. Each day brings new opportunities for success, and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been drawing a big red line around things you will not do, think about expanding your vision. You are incredibly capable and powerful, and nothing is too difficult or complex for you to understand. Be open to new ideas, and courageously step forward. The world is full of possibilities and everything is on the table. Every success is there for you. Keep your eyes open and they will all be yours.