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Prove It

18 May

There are billions of people on Earth, and we’re all different. There are endless types of lifestyles, customs, languages, traditions and other facets that define who and where we are. People who live far apart from each other may have completely different ideas about life and how things should go. There isn’t only one way to live well, and the many expressions possible make up the human race. We are all valuable and worthwhile. We all have something to offer no matter our circumstance or situation. Some people have very defined ideas about the way things should be done and how things should work. If we must interact with them, they may require us to prove we are worthy by doing what they say and following their rules. We can define anything we like for our own personal lives, and can create rules of order for business or other projects, but we don’t have the right to tell anyone else how to live. We are all individuals and do not need to conform to anyone else’s ideas. We never have to prove our worth in order to fit in. We know who we are and what we want, and with confidence and clarity can go anywhere and do anything. Our lives are ours to design, and we all bring great depth and blessing to the world. We are unique and have specific gifts to offer nobody else can give. By honoring all the differences and contributions possible, our lives will be enriched and embellished, and we will find great satisfaction and personal reward.

It’s always easy to move forward when everyone is on the same page and going in the same direction. When the goal is defined and everyone is in agreement about how to reach it, the road ahead may be clear and unobstructed. But we’re all different and have our own ideas about how to proceed. By taking the time to listen to every suggestion and look at all the options possible, we can include everyone’s ideas and still find the best road ahead. We all have much to offer, and valuing every point of view will help bring agreement and success.

There is an old saying that “Rank has its privileges.” Oftentimes that’s true. The president of the company will likely have more influence than a newly hired clerk. But that doesn’t mean he or she has all the answers. Our perspectives are colored by our own personal experiences, and someone else may have a different view that opens up a completely new way of proceeding that will bring great accomplishment and success. We can be open to new ideas, no matter how foreign they may seem, and find the best answers for moving ahead.

Today if you’re being pressured to follow along when you disagree, speak up and share your ideas with those around you. You are amazing and highly capable and can figure out even the most complex issues. Stand strong and be open to every idea. All the answers are there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every dream is possible. Be confident, and you will prevail.

Changing Them

12 Apr

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives. With some we build strong relationships and connections, others are co-workers and acquaintances, and there are some we just wave to in passing. There may be a time when we meet someone and are instantly captivated by them. Maybe it’s the way they look, or there is undeniable chemistry between us. Infatuation can be intense and if we’re under the spell, we may lose all sense of restraint and normalcy. There may be an extreme desire to abandon all caution and do anything to get closer. But first impressions can never tell us everything, and as we interact and spend time together, issues may arise that under normal circumstances may send us packing. If we’re entranced, we may think they don’t matter, we can do what is needed to change the other person so it won’t be an issue. We may believe that by spending more time with them, even marrying them, they will change and the problems will go away. Thinking we can change anyone else for any reason is a recipe for disaster. We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and the odds that we’ll be able to alter someone’s personality in ways that work better for us are slim to none. We are who we are, and although change is always possible, it must come from inside us and the desire to change must be great. No relationship is perfect, but if we’re willing to accept others for who they are instead of trying to change them, we have the best chance of success. We all have a lot to offer, but our gifts are different and varied. Looking at everything objectively and realistically will help us decide how best to proceed. We deserve complete happiness, and by being open and seeing things clearly, we will achieve it.

Love means different things to different people. To some it means we will do everything for them and change our lives to fit their model. They may tell us that if we love them, we’ll do as they ask. We’ll change the way we look, or how we act, or what we like, or a million other details. Loving someone doesn’t mean we give up who we are. We are unique and valuable and have individual gifts to offer nobody else can give. We never have to acquiesce to ideas we don’t want or that take us from who we really are. If the relationship requires more than we want to give, we can step away and move in a new direction.

Rushing into a relationship rarely leads to long term satisfaction. Getting to know someone takes time. Learning how we relate to one another and what works takes focus and effort. Running fast into the wind will definitely take us somewhere, but if we can’t clearly see where we’re headed, we probably won’t end up where we wanted to go. We can have rich, fulfilling relationships if we take things one step at a time. Our lives are important, and we deserve every good gift. Being thoughtful and wise, we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been captivated by someone and can’t get them out of your mind, stand still and think about how you want to proceed. Take the time you need to really know them, and then choose your next steps forward. You are amazing and have so much to offer. Everything you desire is possible, and with wisdom and patience, they will be yours.

Big Red Line

31 Mar

Everyone has their own ideas about how life should go and what we should do. We all have our own personal preferences about everything in our lives. We like some things over others, and pattern our lives in ways that enable us to do what we prefer. There are endless expressions and unlimited varieties all around us. When we want something, we can clearly define what it is, what it looks like, how we’ll get it and thousands of other parameters. If we’re looking for a companion, we can define the traits we like the most and try to find someone who fits them but it’s important not to draw the lines too severely. We can narrow the field all we like, but the more lines we draw and parameters we set, the smaller the group of possibilities will be. If we say we will only date people who are tall and have red hair, and refuse to even consider anyone else, we will eliminate a lot of other potential candidates. If we further add they must work in a specific field, make a defined amount of money, drive a certain type of car, and dress in ways we find attractive, we may specify ourselves right out of success. It’s good to know what we want, but if we keep our options open and allow a wide scope, we have a better chance at finding what we want. Sometimes the perfect situation is completely different than we imagined it would be. By keeping our minds open to all possibilities, we can achieve anything we desire. Every success is possible in every arena of our lives. We have what we need to find them, and with clarity and patience, we will reach them all.

When we’re facing a big decision and look at all the options before us, we may quickly discard some because we don’t like them, or they look too hard to manage. The first look at something can never tell us all the facts. New and uncharted roads may seem daunting at first, but if we take one step closer, and then another, we may find what looked impossible at first is within reach. Throwing ideas away before we find out what they have to offer may keep us from the best roads ahead. We are intelligent and highly capable. There isn’t anything we can’t understand and manage.

The past can never predict the future. If we’ve had a bad experience with something we might avoid anything that looks like it or reminds us of it as we move forward. Life isn’t a record that repeats over and over again. We need not limit anything because of a previous loss. One failure cannot keep us from success. It doesn’t matter what happened before, everything is still possible. Each day brings new opportunities for success, and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been drawing a big red line around things you will not do, think about expanding your vision. You are incredibly capable and powerful, and nothing is too difficult or complex for you to understand. Be open to new ideas, and courageously step forward. The world is full of possibilities and everything is on the table. Every success is there for you. Keep your eyes open and they will all be yours.

You Take It

25 Mar

We share the world with billions of other people, and although we won’t meet even a tiny fraction of them, there are often people around us much of the time. They pass us on the street, work for us and with us, we have friends, family members, acquaintances and others. Unless we live alone and stay inside, we’re likely going to run into someone. Everyone has their ideas about life and what they will do. Nobody gets a free pass, and we’re all going to face trouble and challenges at some point. Some people are very confident and rarely get flustered even when things are going wrong, but others may struggle and find it hard to manage even the smallest problems. If we are close to them and they rely on us, and they are easily overwhelmed, they may try to push their problems off on us. They might simply hand them over, and say “Here, you take care of it,” and walk away. If they are in a position of authority over us, we may have no choice but to do as they ask. But if we’re on a level field, we never have to take on what isn’t ours. They may try to hand whatever they don’t want off onto us, but we never have to accept it. We all have enough personal crap to manage, and complicating our own lives by trying to manage someone else’s will never lead us to success. We can listen when others complain, and offer any advice that might help, and then leave them to it. If they don’t take care of business, it’ll be their mess to clean up. Our lives are important and we deserve complete happiness. By taking care of ourselves, and doing what is needed to reach our own personal goals, we will find great satisfaction and peace. Life is what we make it and by being wise and clear about what is ours and what we will do, we will reach every destination and find great success.

It’s good to be helpful and offer assistance when we can. We can give guidance and help others when needed. It’s noble to sacrifice ourselves for those around us, but it isn’t selfish to be sure we take care of our personal needs first. There is nothing to be gained if we give up all our time to someone else and neglect our own journeys. Our lives are our responsibility and we can be wise and do what we can without breaking the bank. We can find the right balance between giving and taking, and reach every goal.

Nobody wants to suffer or go through hard times. When we’re facing a very difficult situation and we don’t know what to do, we don’t have to surrender and try to hide. Even the most complex problems have solutions, and there isn’t anything we can’t figure out. By taking our time and looking at every possible option, we will find the answers we need. We are stronger and more capable than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down when we want to move. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we can overcome anything and win.

Today be confident and trust yourself. Remember what is yours, and let others manage their own. Be kind and caring, and move forward with confidence and clarity. You are amazing and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. Every single goal is possible and nothing can hold you in place. There is great success just ahead and you will reach it.

Labels and Names

10 Feb

There are billions of people on the earth. They all look different, have different customs, their lives are varied and there are endless interpretations of every aspect of life. We’re all unique and are entitled to our own opinions and ideas. We can do anything we like, and if we meet someone who is very different than we are, and don’t understand them, we may assign a label to them, or lump them into a group. We may call them any of a thousand different things we think describes them according to our own ideas and impressions. Labeling people generally does nothing good. Putting people in boxes restricts them and may change how we think of them and how they respond to us. Being called a name may be flattering or it can be uncomplimentary and degrading. We are all people sharing the planet. We don’t need everyone to think like us, or look like us or follow the same beliefs and standards we set for ourselves. By honoring other viewpoints and listening to different perceptions, we’ll be enriched and learn more about ourselves and those around us. Nobody only wears one color all the time, or eats the same foods every day. Differences are important and bring great depth and variety to our lives. By understanding those around us and sharing our lives with them, we will find great satisfaction and wisdom moving forward.

When we’re in a group, it’s a lot easier if everyone is on the same page. If we’re all focused on accomplishing the same goals and agree on how that should be done, things may go more smoothly than if everyone wants to do things their own way. Different ideas and ways of doing things can either bring complications or embellishment to group dynamics, depending on how we view them. If we’re open to hearing various ways of doing things, and trying another way forward, new ideas will form that may completely change our perspective.

Right is right and wrong is wrong – we can all agree on that. But one person’s idea of what is right may not agree with someone else’s. Being different doesn’t mean being wrong. If nobody is getting hurt, and it’s just a matter of interpretation, all ideas are worthwhile. If we’ve always done things a certain way it can be hard to adjust if someone comes along and turns everything upside down. By being flexible and willing to bend in a new direction, we will learn new ideas and find great success.

Today if you have labeled someone because of their personal characteristics, think again. Remember the great blessing and enrichment differences can bring. Listen to alternative viewpoints, and try to understand the situation from another perspective. You are very intelligent and wise. Be open to contrasting ideas and your life will be enriched. Everyone is valuable and there is great success ahead for us all.