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Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.

Letting It Go

25 Aug

We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can choose the goals we want to achieve, and the places we want to go, and start forward. Many times, we’re able to accomplish what we’ve set out to do, but sometimes things don’t go the way we hope. There may be times when even if what we want is good, and even if we’re willing to do everything we need to get there, the road is blocked. When we get stopped in our tracks, it might seem like there are other worldly forces at work against us, and we may be confused and upset that nothing is working. When we want something very badly it’s hard to accept that we can’t have it. We can keep trying to push against the wall in front of us, and expend a lot of energy trying to force our way through. All of that might make us feel better, but may not move us ahead. If we’re stuck and nothing we do moves us forward, we may have to let our plans go for now. Letting go of something we’ve worked very hard for and want very much, isn’t easy. We may feel hurt and upset, frustrated and angry. We are only in control of ourselves and there will always be many forces and influences happening all around us we may know nothing about that may impact our plans. Life is fluid and change is constant. Not being able to accomplish something right now doesn’t mean it’ll never be possible. The goal is still there, and in time, we’ll be able to achieve it. Meanwhile, we can look at everything objectively, let go of the original plan, and move onto something else. When things change, and our situation is different, we can return back and try again. Everything we want is possible, but it may not be possible today. We can step back, revise our current plans, and continue forward. Nothing will remain out of reach forever, and with patience and persistence, we can achieve anything.

Although we know what we want, and can plan effectively to achieve it, there will always be a lot of unknown factors that may come into play. We may encounter unforeseen complications and irritating snags that clog the road ahead and make advancement difficult. Disappointment is a part of life, and we may face difficulties that keep us from success. If we get stopped, we can try again. If we still can’t move, we can focus on something else until the road ahead clears and we can reach success.

Some people say “there’s a reason for everything” as a way of explaining what we can’t control. But that doesn’t mean the reason we’re stopped is because we aren’t entitled to achieve the goal. The problem we’re facing may have nothing to do with us. Delays and detours are annoying, and it can be hard to wait, but we are intelligent and can do whatever is needed to reach any goal we desire. If we have to wait, and do something else, we can. The goal will always be there and when the time is right, we’ll reach it.

Today if the road ahead toward the goal you want is blocked and you can’t get through, look at everything objectively. If there is no way forward right now, set it aside and pursue something else. Life is all about change and soon the way will open, and you’ll be able to move toward success. You are amazing and powerful, and can achieve anything. Be patient and look ahead. All your dreams are there for you.

History

17 Aug

Our lives are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had. Each step we take and every decision we make brings us to where we are, both physically and mentally. Nobody is perfect and even when we try to make good decisions, there will be times when they won’t work out. Our plans may not go the way we thought they would, or the road we were on that looked so good, turned suddenly and took us somewhere we didn’t want. When we look back at our personal history, we’ll likely see some things we wish we hadn’t done, and some things that went better than expected. If we’ve made serious mistakes in judgement, we got the chance to learn more to help us moving forward. But if an error is egregious and causes a lot of turmoil, we might try to escape blame. If we push a bad decision off on someone else, or the situation, and refuse to acknowledge our part in it, we will learn nothing. When we don’t learn from our mistakes, there’s a good chance we’ll make them again. It’s not easy to admit we were wrong, especially if there are others involved we want to impress, but truth is truth, and will always surface. We can try to keep a low profile, and pretend we weren’t involved, but that will not work indefinitely. The facts will eventually show themselves and the truth will rise. Dodging accountability only delays the inevitable. They say if we don’t learn from history, we are doomed to repeat it. Bad decisions and poor choices will never take us where we want to go, and nobody wants a life filled with them. Standing up to what we’ve done, even if it’s been disastrous, will enable us to learn as much as possible from what’s happened, and take all that knowledge forward with us. We are capable of making excellent choices and choosing the best way forward in every situation. We can be honest and clear in our decisions, and find our way to any destination we desire.

There are all kinds of people in the world with all kinds of ideas. If we’re associating with someone who is constantly dishonest, and continually makes bad decisions, we may get caught up in their behaviors and find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation. Repeating someone else’s mistakes will never correct them. We are wise enough to find the answers we need no matter what situation we’re in, and with patience and clarity can choose the best road forward.

Everything we do teaches us something new to carry forward. Paying attention to what we’re learning along the way will help us make modifications and alter our direction if we reach an impasse. We are intelligent and there is nothing that can hold us in place indefinitely. We can draw on all the knowledge we’ve gained, and find our way to any destination we desire. We create our own history with every decision we make, and have everything we need to find great satisfaction and success.

Today if you have repeated a bad decision and are suffering the consequences, think clearly about the road ahead. Learn all you can, and use that knowledge to turn your course toward success. You are highly capable and can do anything, and do it well. Be confident and step forward. Every success is possible and you will reach it.

Thin Skin

7 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world and they each have their own ideas about life and how things should go. We know who we are, and are sure about what we want and how we want to move forward. It’s easy to make friends and feel comfortable when those around us are like us. When they believe the same things we do, and understand our point of view, it’s easy to connect and build alliances. But the world is a big place, and people come from many diverse backgrounds. There will be many others who are vastly different than we are, and their views may be in direct opposition to what we believe is right. That does not make them wrong, or wicked, or less than us. It only makes them different. If we can’t tolerate anything outside our own ideas, it will be very difficult to interact with them. We are entitled to believe anything we desire and we can form our own opinions about everything in life. But if we’re so thin skinned we cannot tolerate anyone who is different, it may be difficult for us to get along. Some people say they “celebrate diversity” but when someone questions their ideas and presents an opposing view, they shut down or become angry. No two people are exactly the same. Everyone has their own perspective, and unless they are hurting others, each has value. We don’t have to adopt anything we don’t want, and can decide how we’ll live our own lives. We can be confident in our views, and strong enough to accept other points of view, even if we don’t understand or agree with them. Life is full of variety and variation. We can be welcoming and respect other points of view, and still hold onto to what is most important. Everyone has worth, and we can honor each individual, and still choose our own way forward.

When we’re growing up, what we experience in our families seems normal and right. As we mature, we begin to see other expressions and understand that our experience is unique to us and not universal. We can hold onto exactly what makes us comfortable and refuse to change, or we can embrace other points of view and allow them to enrich our understanding of the world around us. Holding on may feel comfortable, but will never allow us to expand our thinking and become more accepting.

Life would be easier if everyone was the same. If we were all on the same road with the same ideas, there would be less conflict and more harmony. That may be true, but it’s the differences that bring great richness to our experience, and broaden our thinking. We can accept difference and uniqueness, and honor the right for everyone to express their own ideas and viewpoints. Life is a great teacher, and by being open and welcoming, we will gain great insight and wisdom.

Today if you want everyone to agree with you and find it hard to accept different points of view, remember we are all important and worthwhile. Each expression has value. Be open to new ideas that will enhance your experience and help you understand the world. You are incredible and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Let others tell you who they are, and welcome new ideas. Your life will be enriched, and you’ll find great satisfaction moving forward.

Enough

21 May

Everyone is unique and we all have different experiences as we go through our lives. There are billions of people on the planet and we’re all different. Our package of attributes belongs to us and nobody else. Even identical twins differ in some respects. We will meet all kinds of people and each one will be individual and specific to themselves. While we may understand we’re all different, there may be times when we yearn to be exactly like someone else. If we’re timid and quiet, we may wish to be gregarious and outgoing. Or we may want money and riches we don’t possess, or extreme beauty and poise. We can change most things about our lives and it’s good to have a goal, but if we obsess over a personal attribute we don’t have, we may begin to feel we aren’t good enough as we are. No matter where we are now, there will always be something more we can achieve. That doesn’t mean we’re less than we should be right now, or lacking in some way. It just means that life is filled with opportunities and if we want something more, we can do what is needed to attain it. We are completely perfect just the way we are for the lives we’re living. If we want to change something, how we look, what we do, where we work, or anything else, we can. We are perfectly capable of creating the lives we want the most, and with attention and determination we can make all our dreams reality. But while we’re pressing forward and reaching for something different, we can value where we are and honor the lives we now have. The gifts and benefits we have to offer can’t be given by anyone else. We are valuable and worthwhile just as we are, and the whole is blessed because we are here.

We are constantly bombarded with messages all around us that we should be somehow different in some way. They tell us we should never be satisfied with what we have or where we are and should do more, and be more. It’s good to strive to be the best we can be, but the world does not set the standards for our lives. We do. We decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. All the other opinions are just noise. We know what we want, and have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can design our lives any way we choose, and find complete happiness.

If we aren’t meeting someone else’s idea of how they think we should be living, they may ridicule or criticize us, telling us what we should do and what changes need to be made. Everyone has their own ideas, and we can listen to anything we like, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We’re in control of our own destiny and can decide how our lives will go. Every single goal is possible, and nothing can keep us from doing what we want the most.

Today if you feel you aren’t good enough or somehow don’t measure up, remember there isn’t anyone else like you in all of creation. You are rare and precious, and worth more than you can imagine. The whole world is enriched by your presence. You are perfect just as you are. Believe in yourself. Be confident and move forward. Every success you desire is waiting just ahead, and nothing can keep you from it. You are amazing, and incredible, and make the world wonderful.