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Silver Linings

31 Mar

Everything is fluid in life, and nothing is certain. When we want to accomplish something, we can do our research, make excellent plans, and chart a positive course ahead, but we can’t read the future. Although we have complete control over the choices we make, there is no way to know about all the other decisions being made by those around us. Someone completely unconnected to us, maybe even far away, may do something that causes the dominoes to fall in our direction and when they reach us, suddenly all our plans have to change. The road we chose may close and all the ideas we so carefully put together may no longer work. It’s disappointing, sometimes heartbreaking, when what we want isn’t possible. We may feel depressed for a time, and unable to think about starting again, but nothing stays the same forever. We can take time to grieve if we need it and then when we’re ready, we can look at all the options before us and choose our next steps. Hard times come to all of us, but with every experience there will be something of value to carry forward. Weathering the storm will make us stronger, and we’ll have more knowledge than we had before. There will be a silver lining if we look for it. Life is all about learning and everything we go through teaches us something new. Whatever we gain, even if it seems small now, will embellish us in ways we may not perceive. We are strong and capable, and we know what we want. If we can’t move ahead as planned, we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find another way. If our situation isn’t workable, we can set our plans aside for a time, and when things change, return and start again. We have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can have the lives we want the most.

Sometimes unexpected developments stop us in our tracks. The doors that were previously open and welcoming may close and force us to change direction. There is never only one road to any destination. If the goal is still possible, we can chart a new course and continue on. If circumstances prevent us from achieving it right now, we can move on to something else and wait until the opportunity to try again presents. We can do everything but we may not be able to do it all today. We can make plans for the future, and when things open again, we will be ready.

It’s very hard to stand still when we want to move. It’s challenging to wait but waiting gives us time to evaluate every possible option, and see every opening. We can look at everything clearly, review the benefits of each choice and make a plan for when things change. We are completely capable of finding our way to any goal we desire. If we have to wait, we can. We know what we want, and in time, we will achieve it.

Today if you’re frustrated with a situation that’s holding you in place, think about how you want to move ahead. Make a plan for the future, and prepare for when things change. The door may be closed now, but it will open, and when it does you will be ready. Everything you desire is still there for you. Be patient and stay focused. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success.

Accepting

28 Feb

Life is filled with possibilities and opportunities to do just about anything we want. We can decide on a goal and then plan to do what’s needed to make it ours. It sounds simple enough, but sometimes it doesn’t exactly go that way. Even if we want something very much, we may get sidetracked and distracted on our way to achieving it. Everything we want requires something from us – our time, our focus, our diligence and attention. If we step away again and again, as time goes by, we might begin to believe we’ll never succeed. Maybe we haven’t lost that weight we’ve wanted to, or gone back to school like we planned. Maybe we didn’t work as hard as we could have and missed a promotion, or haven’t taken that vacation we’ve been dreaming about. Life is busy and full of unexpected developments. If we let all the details and distractions get in the way, it will be hard to stay focused on the goal. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we desire, but if we want to accomplish the things that mean the most, we have to make them a priority. There will always be complications and unforeseen problems to muck up the works. We can deal with them as they arise. We don’t have to let them push us off the road we’re on. We can accept the situation as it is, stand firm, hold tight to the goals we’ve chosen, and continue forward. We may face times when because of circumstance our progress is very slow. It can be discouraging when we can’t move ahead but there is no rush. As long as we keep moving forward, we will reach the destination we seek. Every dream is possible and nothing is too far to reach. With determination and patience, we will prevail.

We may not be where we want to be right now, but there are great blessings possible in every situation. Accepting ourselves as we are now, and deciding what we want to do next will give us the confidence we need to move toward the goals we most desire. We are incredibly capable and nothing is too difficult or challenging for us to manage. Each step forward will take us closer to where we want to be, and as we move ahead, we’ll gain greater clarity and focus. We can accomplish anything we desire. Every dream is possible, and we can make them ours.

Every choice we’ve made so far has brought us to where we are. If we want something different, we can always change direction and choose something new. There are endless options possible, and we can achieve anything. It doesn’t matter if it’s difficult, we will manage. It doesn’t matter if it will take a long time, we can be patient. We deserve complete happiness and choosing to do what we want the most will bring it to us. Success is there for us. We need only step forward and claim it.

Today if you’re disappointed because you haven’t accomplished something, think about what you want the most. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Make a plan and step forward toward the goal. Every destination is there for you, and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Be strong and confident. You will succeed.

What I Do

25 Feb

Every day we make dozens of decisions and do countless things. We may have many responsibilities and tasks that need to be completed, places to be, and people to meet. How we accomplish our tasks and what we choose defines who we are and tells the world more about us. If we’re honest, what we say we’re doing will actually be reflected in our actions. But if things get away from us, and we fall behind, we might choose to stretch the truth in an effort to buy some time. If someone asks us about a task they’re waiting for and we don’t want them to know we haven’t even started on it yet, we may tell them we’re working on it and expect to complete it soon. Telling a story that’s not true may hold our place for a while, but it won’t work indefinitely. When the real truth comes out, we may get caught short and have to explain ourselves. The old saying, “Do what I say and not what I do,” has never worked. What we say is only part of the situation. What we do tells the whole story. If we bend the truth about what’s going on, and pretend we’re doing things we aren’t, chances are we’ll face complications. Truth will always rise, and if we’ve been dishonest, it’s only a matter of time before we’ll be found out. We can say anything we like. We can create an amazing and interesting story, but what we actually do tells the world who we are. If we want the trust and confidence of the those around us, it’s imperative to be completely honest, even if we’ve dropped the ball. Failing to follow through or accomplish a promised action cannot hold us in place. We can revise our plans and still find success.

They say image is everything. We’re encouraged to protect and build our “brand” and make sure everything that reflects on us is positive. It would be great if everything we did was flawless, and every move we made took us closer to the goal. But this is real life, and we’re not perfect. Things go wrong, we make mistakes, there are misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. Nothing will always go exactly right. If we stumble, we can right ourselves and continue on. We can change anything that isn’t working and start again. Every possibility is there for us, and we are smart enough and wise enough to make them ours.

We are where we are. Sometimes we don’t move forward the way we hoped we would, and sometimes we get stopped completely. Lying and pretending to make things seem different than they really are, or to make us look like we’re further along will only backfire on us in the end. We are strong enough to face the truth of every situation, and intelligent enough to find the answers we need. If we’re stuck, we can revise our plans. If we’re lost, we can get help. Nothing is beyond our reach, and with patience and determination, we can make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’re tempted to pretend things are different than they are, remember how important your honesty and integrity are. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be clear and confident. You can do anything. Take a step forward and move toward the goal. Every success is there for you.

All Your Fault

12 Feb

There are billions of people in the world and we all have our own opinions and decisions to make each day. When we connect with others and build our lives around them, their ideas become part of our every day experience. Sometimes they may make suggestions about what we should do, and where we should go. We can listen to their advice, and if we decide to do what they suggest, we never know what the results will be. Sometimes things may go well, and we may be grateful for the help. But if things go wrong, our feelings may be far different. If we’re suffering because we did something someone else thought was a good idea, we may blame them for what’s happened and tell them our troubles are all their fault. After all, if they hadn’t suggested the idea, we would never have done it. While it’s true they may own the idea, it’s also true that once we decided to follow through with it, it became ours. We own all our decisions, even the ones that don’t work out. If we follow along, what happens is on us. We are in control of everything we do. There is no way to place the blame for a disastrous decision we make on someone else. Nothing is permanent and no matter what goes wrong, we can change direction. Mistakes are a natural part of life and teach us a lot about our world and ourselves. Accepting a wrong turn and then doing what is needed to correct our course will help us find success. Every destination is possible. Even if we get lost a time or two, we can reach any goal we desire. We can be confident we will prevail, and step forward with clarity and assurance that we will succeed.

Some people feel very confident they are right and when decisions are looming, may challenge those around them. If we don’t agree with their position, we may feel intimidated trying to get our point across. If we sit back and keep our thoughts to ourselves, deciding it’s easier to follow along than take a chance, we own what happens next. Every viewpoint has value and we can voice our opinion with confidence. We are in charge of our lives, and can choose the way forward.

Nobody is perfect and there will be times when we turn the wrong way and things go south. There will likely be someone else who was involved in some way, and if we like, we can point the finger at them and say it’s their fault. Placing blame will never fix our situation, and if we’re being dishonest, may make it worse. We are where we are. How we got there is no longer germane. The best we can do is look ahead and decide on the best road moving forward. Life is filled with all kinds of complications. We can learn from every experience, and make excellent decisions that will take us to our goals. Nothing is out of reach, and with patience, and wisdom, we will succeed.

Today if everything has gone wrong, own your decisions and decide on the best way forward. Mistakes don’t define your life. You are intelligent and capable. Learn everything you can from what’s happened and determine your next step. Every success is still there for you. Be strong and confident. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Waiting

16 Jan

Our lives are often busy and we sometimes have a lot to accomplish in a short period of time. When we’re pressed for time, we may find ourselves in a situation where we must wait for something. Waiting is a common fact of life, and if we’re impatient, may be hard to endure. Sometimes we have to wait in line, which isn’t too bad if those ahead of us are efficient and quick, but that’s rarely the case. Everyone has their own pace and sometimes there are delays. If we feel those in front of us are wasting our time, it can be maddening. Nobody wants to wait to get their tasks completed, and if we’re in a hurry, it may very difficult to stand still while the minutes tick by. We may not be able to do anything to move ahead physically, but we are always in control of our thoughts. We can get impatient and frustrated, and let our anger rise, or we can take a deep breath and try to think of something else. Accepting the situation, even if it’s not where we want to be, and taking a step back to relax and let our minds rest will help us until we’re ready to move. There will be time to accomplish our tasks and if not, it’s not the end of the world. We can modify our plans to accommodate any delays. Nothing is so important it’s worth losing our self-composure over. We are capable and wise, and no matter what’s in our way, will be able to reach success. Each moment is a blessing, and we can manage every step with confidence and control until we reach our destination.

We have lots of different kinds of relationships. We have families, friends, co-workers, lovers, acquaintances and others. Each has a level of attention and interaction needed for them to grow and strengthen. Being continually put on hold by someone we’re attached to may damage our connection. If they’re too busy to get to us, or we can never reach them, the bonds that hold us close will diminish. Over time, if nothing changes, chances are the relationship will fail. Valuable connections need attention, and time to build. We can manage our personal relationships so they are healthy and strong, and enjoy the benefits from building strong alliances and friendships.

When we’re trying to accomplish something that requires the help of others, it’s important that everyone acknowledge the importance of communication. When we talk to one another and share our perspective, whatever we’re doing is enhanced and our understanding increases. If we hold others back and make them wait because we aren’t comfortable or want to have control over the situation, progress will be stalled. Success often depends on everyone sharing and doing their part. We are wise and capable, and can be confident in everything we do. We are important to everything we’re involved in, and with patience and cooperation can reach any goal.

Today if you’re in a hurry and have to wait, instead of getting impatient and frustrated, take the time to think about your plans and modify what is needed to accommodate the delay. You are incredibly smart and will always know what to do. Be confident and calm. Every goal is possible, and you will succeed.

What We Feel

20 Dec

People come in and out of our lives constantly. We have families, friends, acquaintances and people we simply notice in passing. There are billions of people in the world and each has a unique perspective about what’s going on and where we’re headed. We may be attracted to someone’s ideas, or how they express themselves, and as we interact with them, our feelings for them may grow and increase. We may begin to fall in love and expect the other person is having the same experience. People fall in love all the time, and when those feelings are reciprocated, our connection becomes deeper. It’s wonderful to find someone who loves us and with whom we can share our lives. But sometimes things may go another way. Our tender feelings might be strong but they will not create the same experience in someone else. We may discover we’re on completely different pages. It’s very painful to realize the one we love does not feel the same way about us. If that happens, everything will change. No matter how much we want to be close, if our feelings aren’t returned, we’ll have to chart a different course going forward. There is no way to make someone love us, no matter what we do, or how hard we try. It’s either there, or it isn’t. We are lovable and amazing but if the feelings aren’t there, we’ll have to find a new way to continue. It’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves, and we can decide what’s best moving forward. We deserve to be completely happy, and can decide what works best for us. Unrequited love can be very painful, but we have a lot going for us, and with patience and wisdom, we’ll find the right way ahead. We can do what is needed to find balance, and ensure our happiness.

A one-way love affair will never bring us complete satisfaction. If we’re in a situation where we’re in love by ourselves, we may feel completely devastated, and alone. We can recognize our feelings and honor them, and then create a plan that takes us to a new situation and helps us move toward a new goal. By focusing on our own choices, we will begin to heal and find true happiness. We are intelligent and highly capable of doing anything we desire. We can accept the way things are, and then step forward with confidence.

When we suffer a great loss, we can take the time we need to grieve. Every painful process will be resolved in time, but every experience is different, and there is no way to know how much time that will take. We are strong and wise, and will find our footing again. We have so much potential and by focusing on where we want to go and what we want to do, will create the lives we want the most.

Today if you feel unloved or unappreciated, remember how incredible and valuable you are. You are a gift to the whole world. Your light shines on all of us, and we are blessed because you are here. Every dream you desire is within reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and then step forward with confidence and clarity. There is great happiness ahead, and nothing can keep you from success.

Opposition

30 Oct

A new highway that’s clear and smooth is easy to travel. We can coast along and look at the scenery, not worried about obstructions or interference as we move ahead. The pavement is even, and the trip is effortless and uncomplicated. We may wish our lives went as easily, and sometimes they do. When that happens, we can relax and just go with the flow. But life is fickle and nothing stays the same forever. Before we know it, something goes wrong, and there is opposition blocking our way. Opposition is a normal feature of every day life. There are endless ideas and attitudes, and countless people coming in and out of our focus all the time. Everyone has a different slant on how they think everything should proceed, and when their opinions conflict with our own, even if we’re headed in the same direction, there may be push back. The paved roads we desire may be impossible to find. If we’re determined to do things our way, and refuse to consider any other interpretation, we my face a very difficult and stressful situation. It’s good to be confident, and we can live our lives any way we choose, but when others are involved, it can get messy if everyone doesn’t agree. There are many roads to every destination and even if our ideas are excellent, it doesn’t mean they are the only ones worth considering. If we are alone and don’t have to acknowledge anyone else in our decision, we can do anything we like. But if others are included, every idea will need to be explored. We are intelligent and can make excellent decisions. Including others in the choices we make going forward will help diffuse conflict. Opposition will always be there, but if we’re open to other interpretations and ideas, we’ll find the best way forward.

It’s very hard to collaborate with someone who only sees their own point of view. If we are limited to one road ahead and will not consider any other option it will be impossible to hear any other message. Tunnel vision limits us to only one solution, but there are always other options possible. If we only look one way, we may miss many other options that may bring success more easily and effectively. Looking around and letting new ideas enter the picture will enable us to more easily find the best way forward, and reach our goal.

When we have a good idea and others are involved, we can explain our plans and hope for agreement. There will times when everyone will be on the same page, but other times there may be objections. We can listen to any challenges or doubts, address them and together determine our next steps. Opposition need never stop us from progressing. We can listen and find common ground with those around us, and work together to reach the goal.

Today if you’re getting push back on an idea you want to pursue, listen to the opposing viewpoint and evaluate all your options. There will always be a possible compromise that will enable you to move forward. You are smart and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Be open to new ideas, and use them to find the best road ahead. Every success is possible and nothing will keep you from winning.