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Making Them Agree

15 Nov

Everyone has their own ideas about life and how things should go. Our ideas come from our personal experiences and how we feel about different situations. We’re all unique and can express ourselves any way we like. This is something most of us understand intellectually but there may be times when we want everyone to just stop thinking and do things our way. It’s true that if everyone is on the same road and doing the same things, whatever is going on will be easier to manage. There will likely be times when those around us will follow along and agree with what we’re doing, but that won’t always be the case. If our success depends on getting others to acquiesce to our way of thinking, we may push hard and use every influential tool we possess to get them on our side. That might work, but unless we have some sort of authority over them, they may still disagree. It’s hard to accept differences when we desperately want conformity, but there is never only one way to move ahead. If what we want isn’t working, we can look at everything objectively and come up with compromises that bring others on board. We don’t have to have everything exactly our way. By giving a little here or there, and bending instead of commanding, we can find ways to get agreement. We are smart enough to figure anything out and find solutions that work. Every destination is possible, and with clarity and patience, we can find the way ahead. Nothing is beyond our reach, and every success is there for us.

Disagreements are a normal part of life. No two people are exactly the same, and we will likely face times of discord and dissent. We can dig our heels in, scream and yell, and try to force the situation. We can lose our minds and get hysterical, but none of that will enhance or improve anything. Instead of demanding compliance, we can listen to all viewpoints and come up with a solution that works for everyone involved. We probably won’t get everything we want, but we can find excellent ways to continue forward.

Just because someone doesn’t think the way we do, it doesn’t mean they’re stupid or somehow lacking. We’re all entitled to our own opinions on everything, and even if we don’t understand someone else’s ideas, we can be polite and honor their input. We know what we want, and how we want to accomplish it, but if our plans won’t work, we can find another way around.

Today if you can’t get others to agree with your plan for moving forward, look at all the options possible. Listen to different opinions and find something that works for everyone involved. There will always be another road and another way forward. You are intelligent and powerful, and nothing is too hard for you to figure out. Trust yourself and be patient. Every success is waiting and you will prevail.

Getting the Blessing

29 Oct

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never meet most of them, there are generally people around us most of the time. We build relationships with them of varying degrees, and when we’re close to them, what they do and say may have a big effect on us. If someone does something that really hurts us, destroys our trust, or in other ways breaks down our connection, we may suffer great pain and disappointment. They may refuse to acknowledge what they’ve done and instead expect us to simply let it go and move on. Unresolved conflict doesn’t just disappear because it’s inconvenient, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Carrying around past pain and suffering and holding onto serious disappointment will never help us move ahead, and may hold us down and keep us from achieving our goals. We may think forgiveness is out of the question, but sometimes the only way to set pain down and walk away is to forgive those who have hurt us and let it go. The gift of forgiveness is hard to give in situations where the transgressor is unrepentant, but the blessings aren’t for them. The blessings go to those who have forgiven them. People who hurt others rarely feel bad about what they’re doing, but those they hurt may suffer indefinitely until they decide to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean we must forget what’s happened. We can remember everything clearly and take what we learn from the experience forward with us. Anger and resentment take a lot of energy to sustain, and after we forgive someone, we can release any ill feelings, sustain every valuable bit of information, and walk away with confidence. Nobody is perfect and we all falter at some point. Learning to release any negative experience, forgive those involved, and take the lessons forward, will enable us to find great success and happiness moving forward.

Few things hurt more than a broken heart. It’s painful when a relationship we desire suddenly ends, but it’s worse if it ends because of lying or cheating. It’s hard to look past the pain of betrayal and find relief. We may be shocked when we get all the facts, and decide we’ll never, no matter what, ever forgive them. We can hold onto the pain for as long as we like, but every day we give up to spite or suffering is lost and cannot be restored. Our lives are important, and we have a lot to offer. We can look at the situation clearly and objectively, let go of the sorrow, move forward and start again.

If we’re enmeshed in a difficult situation fraught with despair and grief, we may be overwhelmed and unable to see anything but the pain we’re enduring. Some things are very hard to navigate, but no matter where we are or what’s happening, there will always be a way ahead. The sun will rise again in the morning, and there will be a light to guide us through. Nothing is too hard for us to face, or too challenging for us to resolve. We are powerful and strong, and will prevail.

Today if you’re suffering because of something someone has done, think about what’s most important. Let go of any anger, and trust yourself. You are amazing and worth more than you know. The whole world is enriched because you are here. Take a deep breath, look at all the options possible, and start again. Every success awaits, and you will make them yours.

On the Clock

1 Sep

Everyone is different and each of us has our own, unique style for how we live and what we do. There are endless versions of humanity, and no two people are exactly alike. Although everyone understands this, we may face a time when someone tells us we should be doing things more like them. If we’ve suffered through a painful experience or disappointment, we may feel devastated and upset. How long it takes us to get over it and feel confident again is specific to the experience and our personal feelings. If it’s taking a while to regain our footing, someone may tell us to “Get over it!,” as though that will fix everything. They may have a timeframe they believe is sufficient for us to grieve and then expect us to jump back in, all fixed up and ready to go again. Although they may be on the clock in their own lives and set defined boundaries for personal experiences, our own choices and expressions may be very different. It is not our job to make everyone around us comfortable with our decisions. What we go through and how we manage is unique to each of us. If we need time, we can take it. If we need to step away, we can. We are the only ones who know everything we’re experiencing, and we never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas about how we should process anything. Some adjustments are difficult, and we don’t have to rush through them in order to comply with anyone else’s ideas. When we’re ready to start again, the road will be there for us. Every opportunity is possible, and we can trust ourselves to step forward, and claim them.

We may go through a difficult passage, when it seems no matter what we do, we fail. It may feel like the planets have aligned against us, and there is no hope. If we are overwhelmed and sure of defeat, we may think the only option is to give up. Just let go of our dreams, and fall down into an endless cycle of misery. No matter how it feels, there will never be a time when success will not be possible. Hard times will come, we may run into a big wall in front of us, and the road may get seriously hard, but nothing lasts forever. With patience and persistence, we will find our way through. All our dreams are waiting, and we can make them ours.

There is no timeframe for grief. It takes as long as it takes. We can’t rush it but we can work to understand it, and regain our footing. Holding onto pain and disappointment will never change what’s happened. We are strong enough to look at everything objectively, learn what we can, and begin to look ahead. Standing still gives us time to think, and plan for what we want to do next. When the clouds begin to clear, and we feel the sun again, we can move toward the destinations we most desire. We are more powerful and capable than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been suffering through a difficult situation and can’t see the end of the road, trust yourself. Take the time you need to heal and find peace, and when you’re ready, start again. You are amazing and bring great light to the world around you. Be confident, and believe in yourself. Every single success is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Unavailable

18 Aug

Everyone has their own ideas about how they should live their lives. We all have goals and dreams we want to accomplish. Some of them are inconsequential and can be achieved easily with little effort. Others are crucial and their importance weighs heavily upon us. When there’s something we really want, something we feel we must have to be comfortable and happy, and we can’t get to it, our frustration may be intense. Everything is possible but not everything will be available all the time. We only have control over ourselves and may face a time when due to unforeseen circumstances, what we want is unavailable. Nothing we do will get us to it, and it remains out of reach. It’s very hard to accept defeat when we want something intensely. But if it’s not possible, and there is no way to get there, we will have to set our sights on something else, and wait. Change is constant and in time, however long it takes, whatever is in the way will move and the door will open for us. We can continue forward and keep our eyes focused on the road ahead. When things change, we can be ready to step up and seize the moment. Every goal is possible but they may not bend to our timeframe. We can be flexible and prepare for when our situation opens up, and start again. Nothing is too difficult for us to achieve, and with patience and perseverance we will prevail.

Waiting takes practice and patience. It’s hard to stand still when we want to move. But waiting gives us a chance to look at everything objectively. There may be a way around the obstacle in front of us we didn’t see when we were rushing forward. By looking carefully at every possible option, we may find the key that unlocks the road ahead. We are very intelligent and highly capable, and nothing can elude us indefinitely. We know what we want, and with clarity and confidence, can make it ours.

If we’ve waited a long time and still nothing has changed, and it seems the goal we desire is simply not available no matter what happens or what we do, we can decide how we want to proceed. Some plans may not work out and we may have to change our focus. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed, only that the idea won’t work at this time. It doesn’t mean it will never succeed. We can look at other things and continue to move forward, checking back from time to time to see where we are, and the possibilities ahead. Nothing is out of reach forever. Everything is possible and when the road opens, we can move toward success.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t move forward, decide on how you want to continue. You can work on other things and still keep the goal in focus. When things change, be ready to move and you’ll reach success. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Be confident and strong. Keep moving forward and every dream will be yours.

Not Ready

10 Aug

We can do anything we want in life. Some things will come easily and be simple to accomplish. We may achieve them with little effort, and feel happy and confident. But not everything can be achieved without serious work. We may choose something that will require a lot of concentration and effort. If it’s going to be complicated and require our complete attention, when we look at everything that will be required to accomplish it, even if we really want it we may think we’re not quite ready to tackle it. Nobody is perfect but we may believe we need to be somehow better than we are right now or the situation needs to perfect before we begin. Waiting for the perfect time to start a journey is always an option, but if we put things off until everything lines up, everyone around us is in agreement, and someone is there to help us pave the way ahead, we may stay where we are indefinitely. We don’t have to do anything until we’re ready, but waiting until everything is perfect may work against us. Perfection in life is the exception, not the norm. Most of the time there will be something that isn’t working, or someone who’s complaining, or something that doesn’t exactly mesh with our plans. None of that matters if we’re ready to move and achieve the goal. No matter what’s going on around us, we can find a way forward and untangle anything in the way. We just have to take a step forward, and then take another until we reach the goal. Life is uncertain, and we never know what will happen next. We are in control of our own destiny and can go anywhere and do anything despite what is happening around us. Every single dream is possible, and with focus and determination, we can reach them all.

No matter what we want to do, there will always be someone who thinks we can’t achieve it. Some people don’t like change in their own lives, or the lives of those around them. They want everything to stay the same so they know what to expect. Everyone has their own choices to make, but we never have to change ours just because someone else doesn’t agree. We can listen to their objections and advice, and then choose our own way forward. We already know what we want, and have everything we need to get it. We can begin any journey as soon as we’re ready and be sure of success.

We may face a time when the road ahead is very different than we anticipated. There may be unexpected complications, or others involved who make the journey difficult. Facing an unforeseen problem isn’t a sign that we must stop. Although we can never see the entire journey before we begin, we can be confident that no matter what we face, we’ll have what we need to continue forward. Few roads will take us directly from where we are to the destination we want. There will likely be twists and turns, delays and detours, but if we are patient and persist, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Today if you’ve been waiting for everything to be perfect before starting toward a goal, look at the situation objectively. You are amazing and intelligent, and can manage anything that comes. Trust yourself to prevail and step forward. Every destination is there for you, and every goal is possible. Be confident and begin. Nothing can keep you from success and you will win.