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Broken Not Dead

23 Dec

Nobody gets a perfect life. We’re all going to face problems, challenges, irritants, annoying people, desperate times and sorrow. Things will go according to plan sometimes, and other times our plans will crash and burn. Sometimes it’s because of decisions other people are making, sometimes it’s because we didn’t get all the information we needed ahead of time, and sometimes we have no idea why things didn’t work out. Whatever happens or goes wrong, we must deal with what’s left in the end. If we’ve suffered through a great loss, the end of a love affair, the death of a loved one, or some disaster that has completely upended our lives, we may feel broken and unable to stand. Terrible things may happen but there will never be anything powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. Everyone has a cell phone these days and we try to take care of them, but if we accidentally drop them, the glass may crack or break. It’s frustrating when that happens, but usually, even though the glass is broken, the phone itself still works. It will display the damage of the fall, and may look truly awful, but if it’s still functioning, and the damage is only superficial and cosmetic. When we go through terrible times and difficult events, we will carry the damage forward with us, but even though at first we may not realize it, inside we are still strong and capable. What goes wrong doesn’t have to stop us and keep us from continuing ahead. We have more courage and determination than we may realize. No matter what happens, success will still be possible, and by trusting ourselves and standing strong, we will reach it.

When we’re going through a hard time, it can be difficult to face each day. We don’t want to get up in the morning and we may dread seeing others. If they are aware of our situation they may offer advice and solace, which might make us feel better or worse depending on where we are. Some people prefer to suffer alone and don’t want to hear from anyone else, and others like to share their grief with others and get moral support. Neither way is right or wrong. We can do it our way, any way that helps us navigate through and find relief.

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should work. They may think they know more about our situation than we do and try to tell us what we should do and how we should proceed. That’s fine for them and they are certainly entitled to their own opinions, but opinions are not rules and we are not compelled to follow them. We can be polite and thank them for their concern and then decide how we want to proceed. Nobody can possibly know us better than we know ourselves, and we will find the answers we seek.

Today if you’re struggling through something difficult and painful, remember how strong and capable you are. You may be suffering now, but nothing can hold you down forever. Stand strong and trust yourself. All the answers you need are there for you and you will find your way forward. You are more powerful and wise than you imagine, and nothing can keep you from success.

Just This Once

20 Dec

Our lives are a reflection of our decisions. Every choice we make changes something and takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and think about all the ramifications of everything we choose, we have a better shot of getting what we want and going where we want to go, but life is busy and can be hectic. We may make decisions on the fly simply because we don’t have time to stop and think. Sometimes that works out okay, but if we don’t think before we jump, things may not go the way we hope. Everyone wants a happy life and we all have things we want to achieve. We may face a time when we can get something quicker if we manipulate the situation dishonestly. Most of us want to be honest in all our dealings, but life is complex, and there are all kinds of people around us making all kinds of decisions. If they get in our way and we just can’t wait any longer, we may decide, just this once, to step away from our personal standards and do whatever is necessary to get what we want. We may bend the truth, tell a lie, deceive someone or use smoke and mirrors to make things seem different than they are. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like at any time. We can make any choices we want, but we can’t change the results of those choices. If we start a fire, something is going to burn. There is no way out. We know what we want, and must decide if we want it badly enough to sacrifice our integrity and honesty to get it. If that’s the case, we can go down that road and just crash ahead until we get to the goal. But every gain has a price and we may discover the price is higher than we imagined. By being thoughtful and wise, and taking the time to see where we’re headed before we step forward, we can make excellent choices that will bring us happiness and satisfaction. If we can’t get the goal today, we can patiently continue forward until we do. Every goal is possible, and every success awaits. With clarity and focus, we will reach them all.

Some people don’t care what it takes to win. They will do anything, and break every rule just to get to the prize. They are ruthless and the feelings of others mean nothing. If they are in a position of power, they may cause a lot of destruction as they push ahead. Once they reach the goal, they are happy but that happiness is often fleeting, because there will always be something bigger, something shinier, something more prestigious just ahead. Getting to each goal is important, but how we get there defines who we are. We can be relentless and merciless, and burn every bridge as we move forward, but that will never bring lasting happiness or peace.

Nobody is destined to remain the same forever. Change is constant, and we can change any behavior traits we want. If we’ve been unwise in the past, and have broken relationships because of our choices, it will take work and diligence to win back the trust of others. Change takes works and continual determination, but when we’re ready we can do anything. There is greatness in us all, and we can reclaim our nobility and wisdom at any time. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. We really can have the lives we want the most by being mindful, patient and focused on the road ahead.

Today if there’s a chance you’ll win but only if you cheat, before you begin, stop and think about who you really want to be. You are defined by the choices you make so decide what you want the most, and then step forward. There is greatness in you and you have so much to offer. Show us your best and bring light to those around you. You really are amazing and worth more than you can imagine. Choose wisely and be confident. Every success is waiting and every dream is possible. Be honest and determined, and you will reach them all.

Looking Over Your Shoulder

22 Nov

Life is complex and unpredictable. We will experience things we never imagined and face challenges that may try us and push us to our limits. We’ll also have some wonderful days filled with happiness and each event we experience will remain in our memories as we continue forward. Nobody gets a perfect life with all paved roads and unending success. Everyone will have hard times, and go through periods of distress, worry, and confusion. Although we always want to succeed at everything we do, it’s likely we’ll face failure at some point, and our lives may be upended. We may lose our jobs, forfeit our money, our lovers may leave us and countless other difficult things may happen. If we’ve been seriously hurt it may take significant time for us to heal and trust ourselves and our lives again. When we are ready to start over, the scars of what’s happened will remain and may continually prod us not to trust what lies ahead. Lots of things could happen but nobody can read the the future. We don’t know what will happen, who will enter our lives, or how things will work out. Things may have gone wrong in the past, but the past can never predict the future. However, if we continually look over our shoulder at where we were and obsess over everything that went awry, it will be nearly impossible to move forward. If our eyes are looking back, we will not be able to move ahead. There is much to be learned as we go through our lives, and although they hurt, the hardest times teach us the most. Instead of looking back and trying to dissect everything that went wrong, we can use the skills we’ve gained from what’s behind, and step forward armed with more information and greater confidence. Life is always moving ahead, and each day we get the chance to try again. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing can hold us back when we’re ready to move. We can look forward with clarity and be sure of success.

We may go through something that’s so painful and encompassing that it stops us in our tracks and shakes us to our very core. We may be temporarily paralyzed and unable to move. Our minds may race trying to grasp what’s happened and we may feel completely overwhelmed and lost. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, and bad stuff happens. Our world may be rocked and we may be dumbfounded for a moment, but we are intelligent and wise, and already possess everything we need to face anything that comes.

Our lives belong solely to us. We decide how we will proceed and what we will do. Situations may develop that take us off course, but the road will remain, waiting for us to return. Nothing can prevent us from moving toward any destinations we desire. If we must modify our plans, we can. If we must turn and go in another direction, we will find the way. We are powerful and highly capable, and we will succeed.

Today if you’ve been looking back and holding onto a painful memory, remember how important your life is. You have incredible gifts to offer, and the whole world in enriched because you are here. Turn your eyes to the road ahead, and stand strong. Nothing can keep you from your dreams. Be confident and step forward with clarity and resolve. You are amazing, and every blessing awaits.

Looking Clearly

2 Nov

As we go through our lives we’ll have countless experiences. Sometimes things happen we never dream would come, and if they are difficult and challenging, we might at first try to ignore them. If we don’t look at it, we don’t have to face it, so we avert our gaze and concentrate on what’s more comfortable. That might work for a while, but if the issue is pervasive and constant, eventually it will grab our attention and we’ll have to face it. Maybe there’s a health issue we don’t want to acknowledge, or a relationship problem we’ve been assiduously ignoring, or a work situation that’s deteriorating. Whatever it is, odds are it’s not going to go away until we turn around and look at everything openly, and then do what is needed to address it. We can’t control what comes to us or what happens outside our own decisions. Things we don’t expect are going to happen. We may be completely caught off guard and concerned about what we’ll do, but even if our worst dreams come true, we have all the courage and wisdom we need to address them and do what is necessary to get through. If we need help, we can get it. If we need professional guidance, it will be there for us. There is a solution for every problem we’ll encounter. By keeping our eyes open and refusing to look away, we will more effectively find the answers we need. We are stronger than we think we are, and there isn’t anything that can hold us in place indefinitely.

Everyone wants an easy life where everything goes well and we can sail through without worry or concern. We may wish for that, but this is real life, and no matter who we are, we’re going to face trials and tribulations of some sort. Nobody wants their world turned upside down and it’s hard to go through serious, and challenging times. We may feel isolated and alone, but chances are no matter what’s happened, someone else has already traveled that road. We can reach out and ask for help, and get the support and information we need to fully understand the situation and find the way ahead.

Change is constant and no matter what we’re going through today, it will be different tomorrow. Even long term problems modify as we move forward. There is no reason to get ahead of ourselves and think we can’t survive.  We can be patient and take things one step at a time. Modifying as we go, and learning with each passing moment will help us move forward and manage effectively. Life is unpredictable, and bad things may happen, but we are wise and capable, and will find all the answers we need.

Today if you’re facing a difficult development and feel overwhelmed and unsure, trust yourself. You are stronger and wiser than you imagine and there isn’t anything you can’t handle. Be confident, and stand strong. Look at everything clearly and decide how you want to proceed. There isn’t anything you can’t manage, and there is still great success ahead. Keep moving forward and every dream will be yours.

Sorry, Not Sorry

24 Oct

Nobody is perfect and although we may try hard to do everything right, and always say the right things, at some point we’re going to falter. We interact with lots of other people and they all have their own ideas about how things should go and what we should say. If we do something without thinking, or if we’re mad and do something on purpose that causes pain or distress for someone else, we may, or may not, feel bad about it. A lot depends on the situation and our relationship with the other party. If they are someone who is very difficult and we struggle to get along with them, and we say something that offends them, we frankly may not care. They can deal with it.  After all, we have to deal with them all the time. Other times we might do something offensive simply because we don’t have all the facts, or our information is inaccurate. When the mis-step is pointed out to us, we may apologize and correct our course moving forward. Life is full of all kinds of differences and interpretations, and it’s impossible to get them all right every time. Every situation is different and we can look at everything objectively and then decide our next step. Most of us want to get along with others, and try not to put obstacles in the road ahead by hurting those around us and making enemies. If we cause a problem we can always do what is needed to fix it. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to understand. By choosing wisely and making the best decisions moving forward, we can be sure we’ll reach success.

Not everyone is nice and easy to get along with. Some people are rude, impolite or even mean. They have their own reasons for how they act and we need not spend any time trying to figure that out.  However, if we have to interact with them, we will need to find a way to do it without causing too much distress. We don’t have to succumb to anyone else’s demands if they are not in authority over us. We can listen to them, respond politely, and then make the best choice moving forward. 

Families and relationships are complex. If we’re in a situation with someone we love where they are constantly criticizing and berating us, or telling us what to do, we may feel oppressed and overrun. We’re all entitled to our own opinions but we don’t have any control over anyone else. Everyone gets to make their own choices. Our lives are our responsibility and we always have the power to step away from any situation that isn’t working. We can define how much contact allows us to stay connected without letting others control us. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’ve offended someone, look at the situation carefully and completely, and determine the best step forward. Be polite and gracious, even if you disagree, and continue moving toward your goals. You are highly capable and intelligent, and will always find your way. Be confident and wise. Every single blessing is waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.