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Just and True

16 Jul

We are all accountable for everything we do.  When we make decisions that work out well we may feel great satisfaction that we chose wisely.  We are capable of making excellent choices but we aren’t perfect and there will be times when we may choose something that doesn’t go the way we want it to.  If we make decisions that bring unhappiness or negatively impact our lives or those around us, we may feel the ramifications going forward.  Life is complex and there are often many factors involved in every decision we make. If we’re dishonest and blatantly do things to hurt others or deceive, we may try to deflect our involvement by making excuses or blaming others.  If we choose badly we may point to the influence of those around us, or the stress we’ve been under, or the complications of the decision that were misleading, or even the weather.  All the excuses may be valid but we still own the decision.  It is right and just to be accountable for what we do.  If we want to live honestly we must accept that justice – even if it means we will suffer – must prevail.  Reasons and excuses for a bad decision may bring understanding of how the choice was made but they cannot change the result.  We are going to make mistakes and when we do we can accept the error, learn all we can from it, do what is needed to correct our course, amend anything we’ve damaged, and move forward.  We can be honest in accepting our part and take what we’ve learned with us to help us in the future.

After a bad decision we might distract those around us from the truth by creating a lot of noise blaming others or the situation.  We might get a pass if we are loud and convincing enough but nothing can change the past and what has happened will remain.  If we refuse to openly admit the error and look at it clearly we won’t learn anything from the experience.  They say those who refuse to learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them, and that’s likely true.  If we don’t use the experience as a teaching tool, we may repeat the same behaviors again and again, even if they bring us hardship.  Instead, we can determine to see everything completely and learn as much as possible so we don’t suffer through the same situation again.

When we’re responsible for a situation that turns out badly, we may try to deny our part in the mess as a way of escaping accountability.  We may be able to fool others for a while but truth always rises.  Denial simply delays the inevitable.  Everyone makes mistakes and there is no need to pretend things are different than they are.  We are capable of managing any situation and if we’ve stumbled we can right ourselves and start again.

Today if you’ve made a decision that has brought you trouble, look at the situation openly and honestly.  Be accountable for your actions and do what is needed to correct your way forward.  You are wise and capable of making excellent choices.  Don’t let a mistake hold you back.  Be confident and start again.  Success is always possible and you will reach it.

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Fabricating Happiness

3 Jul

We interact with many different types of people on a daily basis. We connect with them as we move through our lives and build relationships with those we enjoy, those we love, and those on whom we rely. Many times, those connections bring great pleasure and security to our lives but sometimes we may build a relationship with someone who makes choices that bring us disharmony and confusion. If we want strong and healthy relationships there must be complete honesty in our interactions. But some people aren’t consistently honest and bend the truth to suit their needs. It’s not pleasant to confront a lie and we may choose to give them the benefit of the doubt despite their choices. It’s difficult to be in a relationship with someone who lies or pretends that things are different than they really are. Truth is truth and the only way to live successfully is to face it openly and completely. Wanting to believe in a lie will never make it the truth. Looking the other way in the face of dishonesty will never bring us happiness. Everyone makes their own decisions and we are all accountable for every choice. We can choose to be honest in all our dealings and build strong relationships based on real trust. We never have to go along with a lie. We can live straight and true to the values we honor and choose the right at every turn. When we do we will find happiness and peace going forward.

Few things in life are constant. Things change continually and just when we’re sure we know what will happen next, something turns us around and everything is different. Our situations are constantly in flux and if we want to reach success we must be clear and honest about our intentions and desires. We can’t control what may happen but we are always in control of our decisions. If we are honest and up front in our interactions we will more effectively find the path we need to travel and reach the goals we desire.

Honesty doesn’t come on a sliding scale. There is no such thing as being somewhat honest, or honest most of the time. We either are honest is our dealings or we aren’t. If we bend the truth, color the facts to get what we want, or pretend that things are different than they are, we are lying to ourselves and those around us. Lies may bring us immediate gratification but they will never bring us lasting happiness or success. We can face our lives as they are even if they aren’t where we want them to be. Change is always possible and if we aren’t happy we can truthfully and honestly do what is needed to modify our course to reach the happiness we desire. Our lives are our responsibility and our choices make us who we are. We can choose well and find great contentment and success.

Today if you’re dealing with someone who isn’t honest with you, look at the situation openly and completely. Let the facts show you the truth and decide how you want to proceed. What you choose tells the world who you are. Show us your best and lead the way to success.

 

Opting Out

21 May

There are a lot of people continually coming in and out of our lives.  Every individual brings with them specific ideas that may influence us in diverse ways.  If they are powerful and we admire them, that influence may be strong and far reaching.  Simple comments said in passing may make us see our situation in new ways and we may decide to change.  In our close relationships, the views and opinions of those we love are powerful.  If they feel strongly about something we may go along with them even if we aren’t sure it’s what we should be doing.  We may get into a situation where someone we love asks us to do something that is important to them, but that we are uncomfortable doing.  Our values and personal ideals are important.  We can always go along with anything in order to get along but each decision we make reflects who we are.  If we do things that are not in keeping with the standards we’ve set, no matter what our reasons are, we cannot be authentic and true to ourselves.  People will not trust us if we continually change with each new opinion that comes along.  We never have to do anything that isn’t in keeping with the standards we’ve set for our lives.  If someone asks us to do something that compromises us, we may opt out.  We can be gracious and kind, and still choose what is best for us.  We know who we are and where we want to go.  We decide what is important and how we want to live our lives.  There are countless ideas about life, and we may choose what works for us.  Holding fast to our personal choices will give us confidence.   Our lives belong to us and through our excellent decisions we can become the people we most want to be.

It’s important to be flexible and adapt to different situations as they come along.  Being able to change does not mean we must abandon who we are.  We can move in a new direction and still hold fast to the ideals we value.  There will always be lots of choices that take us from the paths we want to travel but with determination and focus we can make the best decisions and move forward with confidence while keeping true to what we want most.

Times change and what was considered appropriate and valuable in the past may no longer apply.  We may be in situations when we’re pressured to do something that is acceptable to others but uncomfortable for us.  We set our own personal standards and the ideas of those around us may differ from what we want in our lives.  We never have to conform to anything that goes against the values we’ve set.  We can go our own way and make our own choices.  Life is a great blessing and when we live it in ways that embellish who we really are we find true happiness.

Today if you’re in a situation that compromises the standards you’ve set for yourself, you may opt out and go a different way.  You know who you are and what you want.  You can choose the roads that reflect your personal standards and express your individuality with grace and confidence.  Every choice is yours to make.  Choose the way that takes you to your best self and you will find true happiness.

Aspersions

16 May

People have all kinds of ideas about everything.  We’re all different and the way we see the world may be completely different than those around us.  We interpret what we see and hear through our own personal filters.  Different ideas may work against us at times if what we say or do is interpreted to mean something entirely different than what we intend.  Aspersions may be unjustly cast on our character due to incorrect interpretations and may cause us great discomfort as we try to figure out what happened.  If someone says something about us that has no basis in fact or reality but is merely based on their translation of something we did, we may find ourselves trying to untangle a mess we didn’t create.  The truth will always rise in time but in the interim we may be twisted around defending ourselves even if we’ve done nothing wrong.  The world is filled with all kinds of people and we have no control over what they think or do.  They may cause us considerable grief because they mistakenly believe something untoward about us.  If that happens, we will have to work through the situation until we find resolution.  It’s frustrating to feel persecuted unjustly and it may complicate our lives until we find the way through.  Truth is truth and will always rise.  No matter what has happened we will find the answers and correct any situation necessary.  We can stand firm and confident that our personal integrity and excellence will shine through.  We will find the answers and reach resolution.

No matter how nice and friendly we are, not everybody will always be our friend.  There may be times we meet someone who doesn’t like us or with whom we find it difficult to interact.  Perhaps their temperament is unpredictable, or they are angry or judgmental.  We have no control over what others do but we can control our response to anything they bring.  We can be gracious and kind in the face of anger, and polite and calm if things get out of control.  We are always in control of ourselves and can choose the best road regardless of what is happening around us.

Some people are dishonest and unethical.  If we have high personal standards it may be difficult to interact with them.  If we must work with them and they do things that are not in keeping with our values we may be very uncomfortable.  We don’t ever have to compromise what is important to us.  We can express our personal views and walk away from any situation that isn’t in keeping with them.  Our lives are ours and we may hold fast to what is important to us.  Opinions vary but our standards are ours to keep.  We can live true to the values we cherish and stay focused on what we want the most.

Today if someone has said something about you that isn’t true, remember your actions express who you really are.  Words mean nothing when they don’t represent what is real.  Continue to hold fast to the values you cherish and be the best person you can be.  Set an example of honesty and truth to the world around you.  You are amazing and nothing can diminish you.  Be confident and strong.  You know who you are and nothing will hold you back from achieving every goal you desire.

Gaining Wisdom

4 May

All the experiences we go through in our lives teach us something.  Some lessons are easy, some are harder and some may be difficult and painful.  We can take everything we learn with us as we move forward and use it to help us understand our lives more fully and the world around us.  Experience is a great teacher but it only benefits us if we are willing to learn the lessons provided and then use them to help us in the future.  Life is funny.  If we don’t learn as we go and embrace the changes growth brings, situations tend to loop back around and we may get the opportunity to go through the same thing again and again until we finally understand what we need to learn.  Intelligence is a great asset but intelligence is not wisdom.  Intelligence signifies how smart we are, but wisdom is what enables us to use our intelligence in ways that benefit us and help us move forward.  We may be very smart but if we don’t use what we’ve learned and incorporate it into our lives, we miss the opportunity to become wise and discriminating.  Wisdom helps us sort out what is real and what is false, and enables us to make better choices and choose the best options.  If we want to be wise we have to pay attention to what we’re learning and incorporate it into our lives.  Sometimes after learning something new we see things in a completely different light.  We may decide we need to change direction to move forward, or change a connection or relationship we see is holding us back.  Wisdom is a beneficial and powerful asset and as we gain it we understand our place in life and how those around us fit into it.  We are capable of greatness and nothing we want to do is out of reach.  Embracing wisdom and using it in all our decisions will help us find great success.

Problems come to all of us and as we find our way through them we have the chance to explore many options.  We can always find the answers we seek, but when our problems are attached to others we’re involved with it can be harder to find our way through.  Emotional attachments can keep us from the best decisions if we’re trying to make everyone happy and keep the peace.  It’s good to be considerate of others and nobody wants to cause pain but sometimes the way forward will not be the easiest path.  We deserve every happiness and with wisdom and patience we can make the best decisions.

If we’ve made a mistake in judgment and it’s taken us somewhere we don’t want to be, we can carefully consider where we want to go and begin forward on the road that will take us there.  No decision is permanent and no matter what we’ve chosen in the past we can change direction at any time.  Great success is always possible and we can re-evaluate our choices and choose the best road going forward.

Today pay attention to the lessons you’re learning and use the knowledge you’re gaining to increase your wisdom.  You have so much to offer and learning to be wise will help you achieve every goal you dream of.  Take your time and travel the roads that will take you exactly where you want to go.  Be wise and choose well.  You are powerful and strong, and have everything you need to find happiness and success.

Cherry Picking

17 Apr

When we look at our lives and experiences we see many different things. Sometimes everything is clear and accurate, but other times we might choose to see only the best parts of a situation and ignore details that make us uncomfortable. Our lives are ours alone and we may live them any way we choose. We may customize them any way we like and if we only want to see the good stuff we can push difficult experiences away and refuse to acknowledge them. We all want to live happy and uncomplicated lives that are only filled with sunshine and joy but that isn’t reality. If we believe nothing will ever go wrong we are kidding ourselves. Life gives us the opportunity to go through a full spectrum of emotions and experiences that teach us valuable lessons and help us learn about ourselves and the world around us. Some days will be easy and others will be difficult, and each will bring a special blessing that embellishes us and helps us move forward. Trying to cherry pick only the best situations and look away from the rest will create a false narrative about our lives and keep us from seeing things truthfully. Ignoring truth will never bring us happiness. We can face what is real and see everything before us objectively and with determination. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can change it or step away. We deserve to be completely happy and by looking at our lives truthfully and clearly, we can create the lives we want most. Ignorance isn’t bliss when it takes us away from what we really want. We have everything we need to find the success we seek. All destinations are possible and nothing is out of reach.

There may be times when we find ourselves remaining in situations or relationships that don’t make us happy. People are complicated and it isn’t always easy to change direction if others expect a pattern to continue. It takes courage to step away and go in another direction. It’s not easy to say no when others want us to say yes but our lives belong to us and our happiness is our responsibility. We can always change course and walk on a new road. Complete happiness is possible and we can reach it.

It’s easy to fall into patterns that don’t take us where we really want to go. We may look away from developments we don’t like and ignore the direction we’re traveling so we don’t disrupt those around us. It’s fine to get along with others but our lives are valuable and we may choose the roads we travel. We don’t have to simply cope with our situation and hope it will change. We may actively redirect our way forward and choose what is best. We are the only ones who can bring true happiness into our lives. We know what we want and we may have it.

Today if you’ve been ignoring a situation that isn’t taking you where you want to go, stop and take control. You don’t have to settle for anything. You can reach any destination you desire. See things as they really are and choose what you want the most. Every goal is possible and success is there for you. Begin forward on the path that will take you there. All your dreams are waiting and ready to come true.

The Tell

10 Apr

Life is unpredictable and we go through all kinds of changes every day. We may feel happy or sad, satisfied or frustrated, or a thousand other emotions. We may believe what’s going on inside us is private and nobody else notices, but how we act around others may give away more about our personal feelings than we may realize. Although we may use the right words, our inflection and demeanor may give away what we’re going through. People are very perceptive and if they’re paying attention, can pick up on the smallest details. It’s like watching for the tell when playing cards. We notice something different, even if it’s very subtle, and know there is more going on than what’s on the surface. If we are struggling or angry, sad or depressed, we may exhibit it as we interact with others. We can keep our personal issues to ourselves but when we’re troubled, chances are those around us will know something is going on. We are all far more connected than we realize and our deepest feelings, even if they are hidden, can affect our personal experiences. We don’t have to share more than we’re comfortable sharing but can recognize that we’re often communicating more than we realize. Our emotions belong to us and managing them is our responsibility. We don’t have to pretend to be happy when we’re not but can remember our behaviors influence those around us. We can cope with whatever is going on and find the way forward with grace and patience. We always have a lot for which to be grateful and no matter what’s going wrong, can focus on the positive and continue walking forward.

The choices we make mold the person we become. Some people like intrigue and drama and create it everywhere they go. We can tangle our lives with dishonesty and trouble and there is no end to the problems we can create for ourselves or those around us if we’re determined to cause disruption and contention. But those behaviors negatively impact us and will never bring us peace or happiness. Our lives are ours to design. We can choose to make decisions that will bring us harmony and peace and help us become the people we most want to be.

Honesty is the most important attribute we have. If we’re honest in all our dealings there will never be doubt about who we are. People will understand they can trust us and have faith that we will follow through. We can openly face whatever comes and work with it no matter the situation. There isn’t any complication we can’t understand and no problem we can’t solve. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to be open and honest and find the way forward.

Today if you’re feeling bad and trying to get through on your own, remember how strong you are. No matter what is happening you have everything you need to prevail. Choose nobility and honesty, and the answers will come. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Stand strong and step forward. You are wise and wonderful, and every happiness is just ahead.