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Smackdown

14 Sep

We share the world with lots and lots of other people, and each of us has our own ideas about what we should do and how things should go. We may find others who share many of our opinions, but no two people are exactly the same. Although we may try to always get along with those around us, we will likely face times of conflict because we don’t share the same viewpoints. If the interaction is civil and polite, we may simply agree to disagree, but some people are very sure their way is the only correct way to proceed. If we don’t agree with them, we may face serious contention, and even become engaged in an argument or worse. If they are strong and have some sort of control over us, and will not tolerate dissent, they may smack us down to shut us up and hold us in place. We may be forced to follow along despite our personal views. Others may be able to hold us down for a time, but nothing is permanent, and the situation will change. If there’s nothing we can do for now, we can remain in place and wait patiently until a new door opens. We are entitled to our own opinions and can live our lives any way we like, and it’s hard if we must temporarily follow something we don’t agree with. By keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will be ready when an opening appears that allows us to modify our situation. Our ideas and perspectives are important and valuable, and we can trust ourselves to find ways to communicate them in ways that are positive and move us forward. There isn’t anything or anyone powerful enough to hold us down forever, and with clarity and patience, we will find the way ahead.

If we’re sure we have the answers and know the best way forward, we may try to convince others to follow us. We may say we respect their opinions but if they are different than our own, we may try persuade them to follow us. If they disagree, and we’re adamant, we may try whatever tactics we can find to make them comply. What we do defines who we are, and bullying or forcing others to follow us will never help us build the connections we seek. If we’re willing to bend and listen to other viewpoints, cooperation and compromise will open the doors ahead.

There are many roads to every goal and there is never only one way to succeed. Everyone’s ideas are worthwhile, and by listening to other suggestions, we can find the best way forward. New ideas bring fresh perspectives that may not have been seen initially. We are intelligent and will always have a lot of answers but nobody knows everything. By being open and flexible, we will be able to evaluate many different possibilities that enable us to move ahead with confidence and clarity, and reach the goal.

Today remember that everyone has something to offer. The world is filled with differences that enrich us and enhance the road ahead. Listen carefully to any suggestions you receive and decide on the best way forward. You are amazing and intelligent, and nothing is out of reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step. Every single goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success. 

Stepping Away

8 Aug

We all determine our own standards and how we’ll live our lives. Some people take a very strict view of ethics, morality and behavior expressions, and others are more fluid depending on the situation. No matter how we’ve chosen to do things, there may come a time when due to circumstances around us or something we desire, we may choose to step away from our own rules. Maybe there is something we really want and getting it will mean doing something unethical or even illegal. Or a friend or loved one may ask us, just this once, to do something questionable so they can get what they want. The temptation may be great to set aside our standards, or look the other way when something untoward is going on. We may think it’s just this once, and we’ll hold fast to our standards again once this issue is resolved. It’s possible to knowingly make a bad choice just once, but if we get away with it and gain the prize we’re seeking, it may be enough encouragement for us to think we can do it again. If we continue to ignore the standards we previously held close, it won’t be long before we’re living a different kind of life. Lying the first time may be hard, but everything gets easier with practice. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but every choice we make defines who we are. Slipping under the radar and cheating to get to the goal may give us immediate gratification, but the cost to our personal integrity will be great. Nothing brings greater trust and good will than complete honesty in all our dealings. We can make excellent choices and determine where we’ll go. Every choice belongs to us, and with careful consideration and wisdom, we will find the best way forward.

Some people have a very loose idea of personal honesty. They believe they are honest enough, even though they slip into the movie theater behind someone else without paying, or lie when they need to get around something they don’t want to do. If we question them on it, they may say we’re “too honest” and let it go. Honesty does not have a sliding scale. We’re either honest or we’re not. Situations and circumstances may make the best choices more difficult but they do not change what is right. We know who we are and what we want. We deserve the very best of everything and by choosing wisely in every instance, we can achieve it.

There are billions of people on the planet and we’re all far more connected than we may realize. People watch us and notice the decisions we make. If we are honest and clear in our interactions, they will trust us. Gaining the trust of others allows us to build strong and valuable connections which can pave the way forward. Nobody wants to deal with someone who is unpredictable and dishonest. Every choice we make shows the world who we are, and if we’re mindful and aware of each decision, our lives will be blessed and we’ll reach every desired destination. 

Today if you’re tempted to do something questionable because it will get you what you want, remember who you are. You have so much to offer and there is greatness in you. Honor your standards and make choices with integrity and wisdom. Pave the road ahead by choosing well, and you will find great happiness. You are amazing and every success is waiting. Step forward with confidence and clarity, and you will reach the prize.

One Moment

29 Jul

Life is filled with unexpected situations. We never know what will happen next, and we may be surprised by something that suddenly challenges and tests us. There may be an uncomfortable ethical issue that arises out of nowhere and we have to choose between being completely honest or going along with something we don’t agree with. We may face a test of our strength as problem after problem arises and we’re underwater trying to find the way out. Nobody can read the future and no matter how hard we try to make excellent decisions, moments of difficulty will come. What we do when they show up will determine what happens as we move forward. If the issue is ethical and we fold because someone more powerful than us demands it, we may be very disappointed in ourselves and our lack of courage. If the road ahead gets very hard and we give up and let go of our goals because we don’t want to walk through the fire, we will never reach the destinations we most desire. One moment, one decision, can change the course or our lives but all is not lost. No matter what’s happened already or what we’ve done, we can go back and start again. We may not be able to recreate the exact situation or change the outcome of a bad decision, but we can amend our actions moving forward and ensure that what we’re doing matches who we really are. Life can be complicated and hard, and we’ll all face times of uncertainty and worry. But we are stronger and more powerful than we imagine, and are in control of everything we do. We don’t have to bend to bullying, and we don’t have to go along. We’re entitled to our own opinions and decisions, and with clarity and wisdom, will choose the right path.

Bad decisions can have serious consequences. If we do something that moves us forward but betrays our company or our associates, we may never be able to regain their trust. If we lie and cheat on a lover, we may lose the relationship. Everything we do brings some sort of result, and what that is depends on what we’ve done. If we only see ourselves and are only concerned with our own success, we may betray everyone in our path and walk over them to win. We can do anything we like, but our connections with others are important. If we pave the road ahead with deception and distrust, it will be impossible to build good relationships and alliances as we move ahead. We may believe we don’t need them, and maybe we don’t, but life has a way of looping around and we may find at some point the very bridge we need is one we’ve already burned.

Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some point. If we make a bad choice or choose the wrong road we may get stuck for a time as we try to figure out how to correct our course. Nothing is permanent and everything can be changed, but whatever we’ve done may color opportunities until we’re able to reset and rebuild. There is greatness in all of us. If we lose our way, we can find it again. If we make a wrong turn, we can stop and start over. Nothing is out of reach if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. Every single goal is possible and we can reach them all.

Today remember that mistakes never define who we are. If you’re on the wrong road, you can turn around and begin again. No matter what’s happened, every success is still possible. Think about what you really want, trust yourself and start again. You are wise and capable, and nothing is too far away or too difficult for you to reach. Be strong and step forward. Every blessing awaits, and you will claim them all.

Digging A Hole

22 Jul

People are incredibly creative. No matter what happens or what gets in the way, we can figure out how to proceed and what to do next. We’re intelligent and highly capable and can do anything we put our minds to. Everything we do defines who we are. If we’re honest in all our dealings, those around us will trust us and we’ll be free to move forward untethered by made up tales or stories that are untrue. Being honest requires intent and if we get into a situation that is uncomfortable and the best way ahead is difficult, we might choose to manipulate things by creating a fictitious scenario that allows us to move forward more easily. We can tell all the lies we want, but once we start fabricating, it’s hard to turn back around and tell the truth. It’s like digging a hole. When we first start we may make only a shallow dent in the surface, but if we keep digging, the hole will get bigger. Eventually we may find ourselves standing on the bottom with no way out but to climb up a vertical wall which is very difficult. Each lie is like digging another shovel full of dirt putting us in deeper and deeper. Lying complicates our lives in ways we can never predict. It’s hard to remember all the various things we’ve said and eventually, however long that takes, we may get so tangled up, moving forward will become impossible. Life can be hard and we’ll all face situations we don’t want to deal with, but by honestly looking at everything objectively we will find the way forward. We are smarter than we think we are, and nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and manage well. Choosing honesty brings freedom. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and integrity, we can reach any goal we desire.

We all want healthy, happy relationships. We may try hard to be cooperative and helpful, and not do things that bring stress or disharmony. It’s good to try to get along, but we don’t have to pretend to be something we’re not. We’re all different, and if we’re in a group where everyone wants to do something we have zero interest in, we can certainly go along to appease everyone else, or we can honestly and openly decline. There is sometimes a lot of pressure to conform and it’s always easier to follow along than to choose our own road. But our ideas are important and we are entitled to our own opinions. We can be polite and still say no. When we’re true to who we really are, we will find great satisfaction moving forward. 

Some people believe telling lies is okay so long as nobody gets hurt. That’s like saying it’s okay to cheat a little if nobody knows. The problem with being dishonest is that it tends to feed on itself. We tell one little tiny lie, and then it’s easier the next time to do it again. Then maybe something bigger happens and lying worked before so we do it again. After a while it may become a behavior trait and we may forget all about being honest. The best choice is to choose to tell the truth, no matter what. When we do, we will always be clear on where we stand, and have access to all the answers we need. We have so much to offer, and choosing to live well will bring us endless blessings.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation and it would be so easy to fix if you just lied about it, remember who you are. There is greatness in you and you are an incredible gift to the world. Be the best you can be, and choose wisely. Every single blessing is waiting for you and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident in your decisions, and step forward with clarity and integrity. Every goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success.

First Response

15 Jun

Human beings are complex creatures. We are intelligent and capable, and have many complicated feelings and emotions. Everyone has their own unique expressions and we all have a first response emotion to the many different situations we face. Maybe the first thing we feel when things go awry is anger, or fear, or maybe our confidence leaves us and we feel vulnerable and unsure. For most of us there is one feeling that consistently pops up whenever we’re stressed. We’re all different so the scope of those emotions is wide but we all know our own specific expression. No matter what our first response is, we don’t have to hold onto it or let it take over. We control our emotions – they don’t control us unless we let them. If we feel afraid when things change we can take a breath and remember how strong and capable we are before we proceed. If we feel anger, we can take a moment to look at everything objectively before we speak. We are intelligent and can decide what works best in each scenario and then proceed to move forward in ways that bring us comfort and success. Our feelings belong to us and we can embrace them without becoming controlled by them. There will always be many ways ahead, and with clarity and temperance, we can find our way to any goal we seek.

Some people lack personal self control. They plow through their lives with abandon, and never consider the consequences of their actions. If someone gets in the way, they just push them aside and continue forward, regardless of the turmoil they cause. It’s very difficult to deal with them because it’s impossible to know what they’ll do next. We all make our own decisions, and we never have to stay in any situation we don’t want. We can step aside and let others go on by, and then continue forward toward our own success.

Just because something feels uncomfortable it doesn’t mean we can’t manage it. Life is all about change, and each new situation will teach us something about ourselves and the world around us. We are highly capable, and can always find the answers needed to do anything we desire. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. By trusting ourselves and taking our time, we can accomplish anything we desire. Success is always there for us and with determination and confidence, we will reach it.

Today if your first response to a new situation is keeping you from proceeding, look at everything objectively and believe in yourself. You are stronger and more powerful than you think you are and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Decide how you want to proceed and take the first step. The road ahead awaits and nothing can keep you from success.