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Cherry Picking

17 Apr

When we look at our lives and experiences we see many different things. Sometimes everything is clear and accurate, but other times we might choose to see only the best parts of a situation and ignore details that make us uncomfortable. Our lives are ours alone and we may live them any way we choose. We may customize them any way we like and if we only want to see the good stuff we can push difficult experiences away and refuse to acknowledge them. We all want to live happy and uncomplicated lives that are only filled with sunshine and joy but that isn’t reality. If we believe nothing will ever go wrong we are kidding ourselves. Life gives us the opportunity to go through a full spectrum of emotions and experiences that teach us valuable lessons and help us learn about ourselves and the world around us. Some days will be easy and others will be difficult, and each will bring a special blessing that embellishes us and helps us move forward. Trying to cherry pick only the best situations and look away from the rest will create a false narrative about our lives and keep us from seeing things truthfully. Ignoring truth will never bring us happiness. We can face what is real and see everything before us objectively and with determination. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can change it or step away. We deserve to be completely happy and by looking at our lives truthfully and clearly, we can create the lives we want most. Ignorance isn’t bliss when it takes us away from what we really want. We have everything we need to find the success we seek. All destinations are possible and nothing is out of reach.

There may be times when we find ourselves remaining in situations or relationships that don’t make us happy. People are complicated and it isn’t always easy to change direction if others expect a pattern to continue. It takes courage to step away and go in another direction. It’s not easy to say no when others want us to say yes but our lives belong to us and our happiness is our responsibility. We can always change course and walk on a new road. Complete happiness is possible and we can reach it.

It’s easy to fall into patterns that don’t take us where we really want to go. We may look away from developments we don’t like and ignore the direction we’re traveling so we don’t disrupt those around us. It’s fine to get along with others but our lives are valuable and we may choose the roads we travel. We don’t have to simply cope with our situation and hope it will change. We may actively redirect our way forward and choose what is best. We are the only ones who can bring true happiness into our lives. We know what we want and we may have it.

Today if you’ve been ignoring a situation that isn’t taking you where you want to go, stop and take control. You don’t have to settle for anything. You can reach any destination you desire. See things as they really are and choose what you want the most. Every goal is possible and success is there for you. Begin forward on the path that will take you there. All your dreams are waiting and ready to come true.

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The Tell

10 Apr

Life is unpredictable and we go through all kinds of changes every day. We may feel happy or sad, satisfied or frustrated, or a thousand other emotions. We may believe what’s going on inside us is private and nobody else notices, but how we act around others may give away more about our personal feelings than we may realize. Although we may use the right words, our inflection and demeanor may give away what we’re going through. People are very perceptive and if they’re paying attention, can pick up on the smallest details. It’s like watching for the tell when playing cards. We notice something different, even if it’s very subtle, and know there is more going on than what’s on the surface. If we are struggling or angry, sad or depressed, we may exhibit it as we interact with others. We can keep our personal issues to ourselves but when we’re troubled, chances are those around us will know something is going on. We are all far more connected than we realize and our deepest feelings, even if they are hidden, can affect our personal experiences. We don’t have to share more than we’re comfortable sharing but can recognize that we’re often communicating more than we realize. Our emotions belong to us and managing them is our responsibility. We don’t have to pretend to be happy when we’re not but can remember our behaviors influence those around us. We can cope with whatever is going on and find the way forward with grace and patience. We always have a lot for which to be grateful and no matter what’s going wrong, can focus on the positive and continue walking forward.

The choices we make mold the person we become. Some people like intrigue and drama and create it everywhere they go. We can tangle our lives with dishonesty and trouble and there is no end to the problems we can create for ourselves or those around us if we’re determined to cause disruption and contention. But those behaviors negatively impact us and will never bring us peace or happiness. Our lives are ours to design. We can choose to make decisions that will bring us harmony and peace and help us become the people we most want to be.

Honesty is the most important attribute we have. If we’re honest in all our dealings there will never be doubt about who we are. People will understand they can trust us and have faith that we will follow through. We can openly face whatever comes and work with it no matter the situation. There isn’t any complication we can’t understand and no problem we can’t solve. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to be open and honest and find the way forward.

Today if you’re feeling bad and trying to get through on your own, remember how strong you are. No matter what is happening you have everything you need to prevail. Choose nobility and honesty, and the answers will come. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Stand strong and step forward. You are wise and wonderful, and every happiness is just ahead.

 

Chipping Away

20 Mar

It would be wonderful if everyone around us was supportive and kind. We could face each day knowing no matter what happened we could count on others for help. While many of us are helpful and willing to shoulder burdens with those around us, not everyone embraces that model. There are all kinds of expressions and some people are frankly rude and mean. Others are selfish and don’t care about anyone but themselves. If we’re in a situation with people like that we may feel stranded and alone. If we do something they don’t like they may ridicule and demean us. They may criticize and treat us with distain, and each exchange with them may chip away a little of our confidence. Continual exposure may leave us feeling insignificant and worthless. Everyone makes their own decisions and some people choose poorly. We can only control what we do and if we have to deal with those who hurt us, we may struggle to stand tall. It’s not easy to endure people who demean and it’s hard to remain confident near them, but we have all the strength and courage we need to stand strong. Those who want to chip away at others may do so, but we need not internalize their criticisms and judgements. We don’t have to accept anything that diminishes us and can simply let it slide away. It doesn’t matter why someone is being destructive, and it doesn’t matter what their objectives are for employing bad behavior. What matters is how we feel about ourselves. We know who we are and nothing anyone says can change that. We can stand tall, brush off any criticism, and continue forward with confidence. Our lives belong to us and we can choose to make the best choices as we push ahead.

If we’re in a situation with someone who makes a point of putting us down or hurting us, we can walk away. No matter what the relationship is, we don’t have to stay and endure personal attacks. We don’t have to fight back, and we don’t have to engage and defend ourselves. We can simply walk away. We can take control of the situation and take care of ourselves. We are courageous when we manage our actions effectively and protect our self-esteem.

If the decisions of others impact us negatively, we may do what is necessary to correct the situation. We may disengage our relationship with them, distance ourselves from their influence, and stand up and hold firm in response. We have so much to offer. We are good and strong, powerful and wise. We need never fall down under the criticism of anyone else. Our presence is a gift to the world and we can honor that and remember how valuable and precious we are.

Today if someone has demeaned you and made you feel small and unworthy, remember who you are. You are amazing and bring light and goodness to the world. We’re all blessed because you’re here. Stand up and stand tall. You are extraordinary and precious. Every success is possible and nothing will hold you back. Remember who you are and move forward with confidence.

Mirror Image

1 Feb

We meet a lot of different people as we go through our lives. Some of them may be very attractive to us, and if we meet someone we admire greatly, we may look up to them and desire to be like them. If they have a lot of influence over us and are doing things we want to do, we may begin to copy their behaviors and mannerisms, associate with those they are close to, or even begin to dress like them. We may think if we do all the things they’re doing, we’ll end up with the lives they have. They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and that may be true, but imitation will never be reality. Even if we act and dress just like someone else and copy everything they do, we are still ourselves. We can do what is required to achieve everything they have but we will still be living in our own skin. We are all individuals and there is no way to clone ourselves into a mirror image of someone else. We have unique and precious gifts to present to the world that nobody else can give. There is no need to try to become someone else and attempt to capture their gifts and talents to be successful. We have everything we need to define and find our own personal success. We can be ourselves and do things our own way. We have so much to offer and nobody else can bless the world with the gifts we have to share.

We all face all kinds of comparisons and judgements, and there may be times we don’t feel we measure up. Maybe we’re not as financially secure as we’d like to be, or aren’t as tall or beautiful as we want to be, or despite our efforts there are achievements we’ve been unable to conquer. There are millions of people in the world and there will always be someone with more of something we want, but our experience is exclusive to us and we are exactly where we need to be. We can change anything we like and continue to grow and learn as we go forward. Every goal is possible and there is nothing too far for us to reach. Every accomplishment is within our grasp.

There isn’t only one road to happiness or one perfect destination. There are endless possibilities to do what we want and go where we want to go. One person may choose one road, another may choose a road going in a completely different direction and both may find great success. If we’re on the road that takes us where we want to be, we’re successful. There are countless destinations ahead and which we choose, and how we get there is up to us. We don’t have to follow someone else’s path, and we don’t have to go at their speed. We can customize our lives to fit us perfectly and find success.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s ideas and copying their choices thinking it will bring you success, remember your success is defined by you. It doesn’t matter how anyone else lives their life. Your life is yours to design and nothing is out of reach. Choose the roads that will take you where you want to go. You have so much to offer and the world is blessed for the gifts you bring. Do it your way. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

Hope

12 Dec

We have a lot of different relationships and connections in our lives. They may be casual acquaintances we speak to once in a while and see only in passing, or very close and intimate. We value our close relationships and they may have deep impact on our lives. When we love someone and they make decisions that bring them unhappiness or negatively affect our relationship with them, we may hope they will change. We might talk to them about the situation and sincerely ask them to listen to our concerns. Sometimes they will and things improve, but other times we may hope in vain. It’s crushing to be in love with someone who says they love us in return but will not commit. It’s devastating to watch someone close addicted to substances that are hurting them but cannot stop. And it may be overwhelming to see someone we love make the same bad mistakes again and again, and suffer miserably. Although we may hope and pray for the changes needed to stop the suffering, the decisions of others belong to them alone. There is no way to control their choices even if they are destructive. We must evaluate the situation and determine what is best going forward. Sometimes we may stay in the relationship continuing to hope things will improve. Other times it may be important for us to go another way. We can never change anyone but ourselves. If we are in a relationship that is hurting us because of choices being made out of our control, we may choose another way forward.

We are responsible for our own happiness and there may be times when we must end a relationship in order to stay on the road that’s best for us. There is no way to carry anyone’s life but our own, and we may need to alter our course as we continue forward. They say hope springs eternal and in some ways, it does. We can always continue to hope someone will change and find success, but hope is not reality. It is only desire. Reality is what we’re living now. How we manage it will determine how happy we are. We can be loving and supportive without being part of a destructive game. We can allow others to make whatever choices they choose, and continue forward our own way.

We may be pressured to stay in a dysfunctional situation with the hope that if we do, it will improve. That might happen, but change is something that must come from within. If those we are hoping for do not want it, everything will remain the same. Staying in a damaging situation that does not change will hold us in place and prevent us from finding our own success. We can’t change anyone else no matter how much we desire or hope for it. Keeping our eyes focused clearly on what is real and what we want will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been hoping someone close to you would change to be happier or healthier, remember the change you seek cannot come from you. Be loving and kind, and supportive and caring, and continue forward. Your life is the only one you can control. Continue moving toward your goals and find success. Everything is there for you and you will reach it.

Taking It

28 Nov

Everyone has dreams they want to pursue. We decide what we want from life and can move forward toward any desired destination. If the goal is outside our normal scope and will require a lot to accomplish, those around us may discourage us from going after it. They may want to protect us from disappointment if they don’t believe we will succeed, they may think we’re crazy to try to achieve something new, or they may be jealous we have the temerity to try. Although their opinions belong to them, if they are negative and they share them with us, we may begin to doubt our ability to move forward. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions. We can do anything we like but we have to be strong enough to step ahead even if everyone else disagrees. We have to be able to take it and still be confident we can win. We can always let go of what we really want and go the way that fits the ideas others have for us. It doesn’t take any energy to go along. But letting go of our dreams and allowing someone else’s vision of our lives to take over will never bring us happiness. Others may disagree with us, but that need not have bearing on our choices. We know ourselves better than anyone else and we know what we want and where we want to go. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us in place if we are determined to move forward. Every single dream is within our reach. Every single goal is attainable. Our lives belong to us and we may live them any way we choose. We deserve complete happiness and doing what we want the most will bring it.

It takes courage to change our lives. We may have to step out of our norm and do things differently in order to move ahead. Our routines are comfortable and we may continue them for as long as we like. But if we want something new, we must modify them to accommodate the change we desire. We are capable of trying unlimited new things. We can change direction, reach higher, step on a new path, and do anything we want. If we are willing to do what is needed we can accomplish anything. We are smart enough and brave enough to succeed.

Expecting our lives to simply bring us the dreams we imagine is a fool’s game. Wonderful things will come to us by chance but the desires of our hearts will require work. There are few things worth having that are achieved without effort. We can make all our dreams come true if we do what is necessary to make them possible. Every dream can become reality. Deciding what we want most and then planning our way forward to reach the goal will bring us satisfaction and happiness. There is nothing out of reach and no goal too high or too far for us achieve. We can focus on what we want and live in ways that bring success.

Today if you’ve been wishing for a change you desire, start doing what is needed to make things happen. You’re in control of your life and can do anything. There isn’t a dream too big or too difficult for you to reach. Step up and step forward. Everything is there for you. Reach out and make your dreams come true. Make your life exactly the way you want it and you’ll find happiness.

Around and Around

14 Nov

As we set goals and decide how we want to move forward, it’s wise to objectively look at what must be accomplished in order to succeed. There may be many things we need to do to move us ahead. Perhaps we must go somewhere new, or meet with others who will give us necessary information, or we may need to change something within ourselves in order to progress. Doing external things may take time but they are generally easier than changing something in our personal behaviors and choices. Change is rarely easy and often takes serious thought and commitment to achieve. If we aren’t sure we can do what is needed, we may decide to simply work with what we have instead. That might be enough for a time but if we really must change something in order to succeed it will only delay our progress. We can go around and around the issue indefinitely but if the only way forward requires change, until we do what is needed to make that happen, we may stand still. Even if we’re clear on where we want to go, if we haven’t done what is required to reach the destination we may find ourselves running in place. There isn’t any goal we can’t reach and we can do anything we desire. We have all the wisdom and courage needed to ensure our success. The world is open to us and we can do what is required to move forward and overcome any obstacle in our path.

It’s good to be creative. We can look at situations in different ways and use alternative methods to solve problems. Often there are many ways to resolve issues and we can discover and create new solutions in each case. However, if there is only one way to move forward and it requires a change within ourselves we may need to consider our options. We can look at what is required and then decide if the goal is worth the effort. Personal change takes time and concentration. If the destination is important to us we can do whatever is needed to reach it. Nothing will stop us if we are determined to succeed.

We can never fool ourselves into success. Pretending will never get us to the goal. If we don’t want to do what we must to succeed, we can make excuses for the lack of progress and try to explain why things haven’t worked out. But all the excuses in the world will never be enough to compensate for failure to move forward. If we don’t want the goal we can let it go, but if it’s valuable to us we must do what is needed to achieve it. We can do anything we desire and success is always there for us. We can take charge of any situation, accomplish what must be done, and find success. Once we decide we will win nothing will stop us.

Today if you’ve been going around and around trying to make things work without doing what is needed to move forward, decide what you really want. You have all the wisdom and determination you need to do anything. Choose the way forward and do what is needed to succeed. Everything is available to you and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. The world is yours to conquer and you will win.