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Heart Times

13 Jun

Human beings are complex creatures. We have intelligent minds that help us through each day, and emotions that color our choices. We try to make excellent decisions but sometimes our feelings take over and we might choose something based on how we feel instead of looking at the situation logically and objectively. Our emotions make us human and give us compassion and understanding. They are part of us and impact everything we do. When we want something emotionally, it’s very hard to ignore. The old saying that “the heart wants what the heart wants,” may be true, but the head is what makes every decision. We are intelligent and capable, and responsible for every choice we make, regardless of any emotional influence. If we choose something based on our feelings instead of choosing objectively based on the facts before us, we might find ourselves someplace we didn’t intend to go. Emotions by their very nature can be irrational. Often, they aren’t based on facts, reason or logic. They are simply how we feel and can be influenced by countless outside forces. That doesn’t mean we’re doomed to fail if we follow our feelings. We can understand how we feel, and still do everything possible to make the best choices going forward. Our emotions can help us find our way and are strong personal guides in choosing the best roads ahead. If we feel confident and happy with the path we’re on, we may continue forward sure of ourselves. If we’re confused or feel conflicted about a decision, we can stop and re-evaluate how we want to proceed until we feel confident in our choice. By using both our intellect and our emotional influence, we can make the best choices going forward. One can complement the other and we’ll find our way to every goal we desire. We are capable of making excellent choices that lead us to the destinations we’ve chosen. With wisdom and clarity, we can determine each step going forward and find every success.

When we choose based only on our emotional feelings, our decisions may lead to problems and unnecessary complications. Becoming romantically involved with a married person, making a financial choice based on what our family wants instead of the facts, or making personal decisions based on our desires at the moment instead of what we want most of all, may seem okay at first but may not work out in the end. If we allow ourselves to be ruled by how we feel instead of thinking each choice through carefully, our lives may be filled with turbulence and stress that affects our ability to think clearly and darkens the way forward. We can set our feelings aside and see things objectively so we can review everything openly, and find the best road forward.

Basing our decisions on the facts available to us, and choosing objectively, allows us to see the road ahead more clearly than if we choose simply because of how we feel. Facts lead us to objectivity and clarity. We are intelligent and can find all the answers we need. We can set our feelings aside in order to make the best decisions for the road ahead. Every decision we make takes us somewhere and with patience and wisdom, we can reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve gotten caught up in an emotional situation and can’t see the way forward, step back and take a break. Give yourself time to settle and allow your mind to rest. When you feel calm again, all the answers will appear and you’ll find the right road ahead. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is too complex for you to understand. Be confident and step forward. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

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Meaning It

31 May

We can tell people all kinds of things about ourselves, use any positive adjective we like to describe us and create any image we desire. We can say anything but who we are is reflected not in what we say, but in what we do. Words are cheap and easily manipulated to express ideas that may or may not be true, but actions show our real character and display to the world what is real. If we’re honest about ourselves, our actions will reflect what we’ve expressed. If not, another reality will show itself. There is no way to gain the trust of others if we’re insincere or untruthful. If we mean what we say and follow through on our promises, people will learn we are trustworthy and that they can rely on us to keep our word. We don’t have to agree with everyone or do everything that’s requested. If we don’t want to do something, we can say so and move on. But if we say we’ll be there, and then don’t show, nothing else we’ve said will matter. Once those around us lose faith and trust in us, it will be hard to re-establish. It takes a lot of time to overcome personal disappointments when they involve our integrity and honesty. If we’ve been untruthful in the past or dropped the ball when we said we’d take care of it, there’s no reason to believe we’ll handle things any differently in the future. We can choose to be noble and valiant, and always keep our word. We can hold fast to the values we cherish and choose to be the best we can be. Our lives are a reflection of our actions. Every decision takes us somewhere. We can choose wisely to ensure we reach the destinations we desire most.

When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and want to escape, it’s easy to lie to get away from the issue. We can make up a story that will enable us to step back, or pretend we’re not involved and just walk away. Even if nobody ever finds out about the dishonesty, it will mar our character going forward. Like a chink in the armor, the surface will never be smooth again. We will always know we let our principles slide and it may affect our confidence going forward. Nothing is worth endangering our future success. Even in times of duress, we can choose well, and hold fast to what is right.

Everyone forgets things from time to time. If we’ve agreed to participate in something we later decide we don’t want, we can simply pretend we forgot we were committed and let it go. That may work and we may get out of our responsibility and move on. However, the stain of the lie will remain with us. It’s far better to simply be honest and decline our involvement before its expected. We may be uncomfortable for a moment, but our integrity will remain strong and we will walk forward knowing we did our best.

Today if you’re tempted to lie to get out of something you don’t want to do, remember your honesty and integrity are priceless and worth protecting. Tell the truth and clear the air. You are in control of your life and can make excellent choices. Choose well, and stand tall. Every success is there for you and with determination and honesty, you will reach it.

Long Con

30 May

There are all kinds of people in the world and some of them aren’t as honest or trustworthy as we would hope. Some people make choices based on greed, or control, or manipulation or a thousand other negative reasons. If they enter our lives and are dishonest with us, we may find ourselves in a very uncomfortable and difficult situation. Perhaps they’re co-workers who want to discredit us to move themselves forward, or intimate relationships with others who convince us they love us when they only want something from us. When the truth of the situation appears, if we are deeply entrenched, it may be hard to believe what’s happened. Looking back after all the facts are laid bare, we will see everything clearly and may wonder how we ever fell for the trap. We may feel like fools, and struggle to forgive ourselves for believing the lie. But it’s good to trust others, and there is sometimes no way to know the whole story from the beginning. If we’ve been manipulated and used by someone else, we may believe we should have known better, or somehow should have seen what was happening. We don’t know what we don’t know, and can only work with the facts we’ve been given. If we’ve been conned into believing something that isn’t true, once we discover everything, we can learn from the experience and take that knowledge with us going forward. Most people are honest and will do the right thing. We can forgive ourselves if we’ve been fooled, and move on with increased clarity and confidence. We are wise and capable, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. We know what we want, and we will find success.

Our emotions can be very powerful and if we’re transfixed by someone we believe in, we may forge ahead blindly, ignoring warnings around us that something isn’t quite right. Others may try to caution us, but it’s up to us to listen. We can do anything we like, even if it leads us to disaster. Everyone makes mistakes and if we find we’ve arrived at our desired goal, only to discover it isn’t anything like we thought it would be, we can stop, look at all our options and choose the best road going forward. Life is all about change and nothing is permanent. Mistakes don’t define us. We can always adjust our plans and start again.

If we make a serious mistake with long reaching consequences, it may be hard to trust ourselves again. We may believe we’ll never choose well, and everything we do will end badly. That will never be true. We are smart enough to learn from our mistakes and can always make excellent choices. Every success is possible and we can trust ourselves to find the right roads ahead. Nothing is beyond our grasp and we will reach every destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been manipulated and lied to, and are doubting your ability to choose wisely, trust yourself. You’ve made many excellent decisions already and will make them again. You are strong and intelligent, and nothing is too difficult for you to comprehend. Learn everything you can and move forward with confidence. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

Your Turn

17 May

People constantly come in and out of our lives, and we interact with them in different ways depending on our circumstances. Sometimes we work together in order to achieve something. Perhaps we’re in a formal team that’s been set up to accomplish a specific task, or maybe we’re just cooperating and working with others on something less formal. Whatever the situation, if we’re all in the project together and we want to reach success, everyone must do their part. We can take care of our own responsibilities and then hand it over to the next person for their input. It all works out fine unless someone drops the ball and doesn’t get their assigned portion done. When that happens, the whole thing can fall apart. If we’re in that type of situation and want the goal to be reached, we may feel tempted to step in and take over where someone else has neglected to move. It’s great to be helpful, but it’s important for everyone to recognize their input is necessary for success. If we jump in and cover when someone else forsakes their part, the job might get done, but the precedent we’ve set may cause problems going forward. If people know we’ll cover every time something goes wrong, we may end up with more work than we can manage. A group effort is just that – a group effort, meaning everyone in the group should participate. If someone neglects their responsibility the group can come together and determine the best way forward. Once everyone decides how to manage the loss, a solution will be found and the goal can be reached. We are very capable and able to do many things. If we work together, we will find the answers we need without taking too much on ourselves. Every goal is possible and with planning and determination, we will reach it.

Everyone must carry their own weight, but if someone needs our help, we may step in and take some of their burden from them. It’s noble to be kind and assist others, but if we take on everyone else’s burdens, the weight may become oppressive and we may find we can no longer carry our own. We can recognize our limits to be successful and still share our strength. Everyone has their own road to travel. We can manage our time effectively in ways that ensure our success.

Some people need a lot of support. They may lack the confidence necessary to proceed forward without constant reassurance and help from others. Help is always available, but in the end, we are all responsible for our own successes. We cannot expect others to carry us forward, or find the right roads for us to travel. We have everything we need to find our own way and reach any goal we desire. We can be confident that we have everything necessary for success.

Today if you’ve over-extended yourself helping others or have taken on more responsibility than you can effectively manage, take a good look at what you can successfully accomplish, and set the rest aside. You are strong and capable, and can accomplish many things. Be wise and plan your time in ways that help you reach success and achieve the goals you desire. You are amazing and can do anything. Make your plan and move ahead with confidence. You will prevail.

Wide Open

14 Mar

As we go through our lives, we meet many different kinds of people. Our impressions and interpretations color the way we see the world and those around us, and may lead us to believe something before we have the facts. If we’ve heard many things about someone before we meet them, we may form an idea of who they are and what they’re like before we even say hello. When we do finally meet them, those initial impressions may persist even if they aren’t true. If they’re convincing enough, we may believe they’re entirely different than they are, and attribute positive aspects they don’t possess. The right words and a winning smile can be very influential, and may fool us into believing someone is different than they really are. If we want to believe them it may be difficult to find the truth. We may live in the land of fiction and make excuses when they don’t follow through or look the other way when something doesn’t fit, and we can do that for as long as we like. But truth is powerful and always rises. Even if we’ve been fooled and are completely convinced of something that isn’t real, the truth will show itself. When it does, we’ll have the chance to look openly at the situation and see everything clearly. Truth is always there and when we’re ready we can see everything as it is and determine our next steps forward. If we’ve made a mistake in judgement, we can correct it. If we’ve gone the wrong way, we can turn and redirect the way ahead. A detour isn’t the end of the road, and gives us the chance to adjust our direction to get to the goal. We know where we want to go and what we want to do. Nothing can confuse us or hold us in place indefinitely. We can reach any destination we desire and find success.

Some people struggle with honesty. They may lie because they want something, because the truth is too difficult to face, or because they lack confidence in their decisions. The reasons for dishonesty don’t matter. Nothing can change the truth of any situation and even if a lie prevents it from being clear at the beginning, nothing will keep it from showing itself in the end. Life is filled with complications and sometimes the temptation to get through dishonestly may entice us. Who we are is defined by our choices. We can be firm in our integrity, even when it’s difficult, and make decisions that will enhance our credibility and move us forward with confidence.

If we’ve been fooled or lied to by someone we care about, it may be difficult to face what’s happened. We may try to justify what they’ve done and imagine they didn’t mean to hurt us, but there is no way to defend dishonesty. We can accept what’s happened and learn all that’s possible from the experience and take it forward with us. We deserve the very best of everything and with integrity and wisdom can do what is needed to gain it.

Today if you’ve been lied to and hurt by someone else’s choices, stand firm and go forward with honesty and strength. You are worth every blessing you desire and nothing can keep you from success. Be true to your standards and trust yourself. You know what is right and good, and will reach every destination you desire.

Giving It Away

6 Mar

We interact with many kinds of people as we go through our lives. We have friends, associates, co-workers, neighbors, family members and so on. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and some of them may have ideas about how we should live our lives. How much influence they have over us depends on many things. Our relationship status differs if they’re a friend, if they have authority over us, or if they’re someone very close to us. They may remain on the outskirts or our lives, or be with us much of the time. Our connection to them varies depending on how they relate to us and how much we want or need them. Those who are important hold a lot of influence and if they want us to do something it may carry a lot of weight. Although we’re certainly entitled to live our lives any way we choose, if those close to us exert pressure to conform to their ideas or ways, we may buckle and go along in an effort to keep the peace and make everyone happy. It’s nice to please others, but if we must give up who we are in order to accomplish it, we may lose a lot. Everyone’s unique and our desires and dreams are important. If others don’t share our vision, and we set our goals aside to accommodate their views, we’ll never realize our greatest potential or achieve our dreams. It’s impossible to live two lives at once. We can’t be everything to everyone and true to ourselves at the same time. Our relationships are important but our personal lives must take precedence when choosing the paths we’ll follow. We deserve every happiness and by being true to who we are and what we want, will achieve it.

Some of the most powerful relationships we have are those within our families. Our parents, siblings, children, spouses – all are very important and their opinions and advice may be very influential and significant. We want them to be happy and show respect for the relationship but if we go against what we feel is best for us, our lives will reflect their values and not our own. We never need to do anything we aren’t comfortable with, no matter who is asking. We can be respectful and kind, and still make decisions that express who we are.

There may be times when we’re confused or unsure, that we depend on others to show us the way forward. Relying on their help and advice when we need it is wise, but we are strong and capable and can do anything we desire. We know how to get information and help when we need it, and then walk forward on our own. Even if the road gets difficult, we can find our way through. We have all the confidence and wisdom we need to go anywhere and do anything.

Today if you’ve been going along with someone else’s decisions and doing things their way, remember you know yourself better than anyone else. You know what you want, and have everything you need to achieve it. Decide where you want to go and take a step forward on the road that will take you there. Trust yourself and be confident. Your life is important and you don’t need approval for anything you desire. Step forward and claim your dreams. Everything is possible and you will succeed.

Bruised and Bleeding

4 Mar

We interact with all kinds of people every day and there might be someone who doesn’t agree with us, doesn’t like us, or in some way finds it difficult to deal with us. We’re all different and personality conflicts can happen. If we get entangled with someone who truly dislikes us or wants something from us we can’t give, there may be trouble ahead. Most of us want to get along and try to be flexible when there’s disagreement, but some people hold a hard line on their expectations, and if we don’t meet them, we may pay a high price. They may malign us to our associates, or say we’re liars and manipulators simply because we don’t agree with them. They may even try to turn our family members against us. We can’t control what anyone else does and if they are determined to hurt us and leave us bruised and bleeding, there isn’t much we can to do stop them. Lies may tarnish us for a time, but truth always rises and will show itself. In the end, the only person lies hurt is the one telling them. Dishonesty may bring temporary satisfaction as the intended victim is hurt, but the cost to our integrity will be high. We will lose the trust of those around us and it will be impossible to build strong relationships. We might achieve the damage we desired, but we will be alone in the victory. Nobody wants to associate with someone who is vindictive and mean. They may be our friend today but eventually we may become their target. We can honor those around us, even if they’re completely different. There’s always a compromise possible and with respect and honesty, we can find the best way through.

It’s very painful when someone is persecuting and maligning us to our friends and family, and we will suffer. We can try to defend ourselves and correct the information and that might work, but people are complex and their opinions may be influenced by what they hear. If someone is determined to make us suffer, the damage may be intense. We may lose friends, associates, and even family members. Despite the disappointment and pain, we can stand firm. We know who we are and in time, the truth will show itself. By keeping our standards strong and honestly holding onto what is right, we will prevail.

It’s very difficult to fight a lie. If someone isn’t constrained by truth they may say and do anything to make a point. If there is evidence of the lie, we may offer it, but often lies are merely one person’s word against another. We need not get tangled up in fabrication and deceit. We can go forward and continue making excellent choices and choosing the right. Our honesty will shine through and in time, every lie will be exposed for what it is, and we will succeed.

Today, if someone is saying terrible things about you and you’re being hurt, remember who you are. You are valiant and wise, and nothing can keep you from success. Hold fast to the truth and be honest in all your dealings. Your virtue will shine through and truth will rise. Be confident and step forward. Nothing can hold you down and you will prevail.