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Justify

28 Aug

We can do anything we want, and make any decisions we desire, good or bad. Our lives are always in our control and we can take any road, and choose any path we like. We may make good decisions most of the time, but life can get complicated and sometimes the waters can get muddy. Maybe someone who has influence over us wants us to do something that goes against our values, or is dishonest. Or someone we love does something wrong and asks us to keep it to ourselves, even though it may hurt others. We can do anything we want and if we go along with things that aren’t in our best interest, may justify the decision because of our relationships or some other excuse. We can try to justify anything and we might be able to explain the situation away in some ways, but there is no way to change the truth. Explaining our reasons for making a wrong turn will never make it right. We can talk until we’re blue in the face, but the facts will still remain. Nobody is perfect and we all err from time to time. Hanging onto a bad decision and trying to convince others it’s really a good choice will never work in our favor. It’s exhausting, and unlikely to bring the results we’re seeking. If we’ve made a mistake, we will suffer the consequences. No justification can keep us from reaping the harvest we’ve sown, but all is not lost. When we falter, we can acknowledge the situation and then do what is needed to correct our course, and repair any damage we’ve done. We are strong and wise, and can change direction at any time. Every goal is possible, and with determination and careful consideration, we can make the best decisions to reach them.

It’s nice to dream about how life could be, and when we’re unhappy we can spend all the time we like imagining a better situation, but dreams will never change our reality. If we’re unhappy, and aren’t on the road we want to travel, we can do what is needed to change. Nothing is permanent and we can step onto a new path at any time. We need only decide what we want, and then begin to move toward it. Our lives are in our control, and we can do anything we like. We deserve complete happiness and satisfaction, and can make choices that will take us to it.

Decisions are a constant fact of life. Every single day we make dozens of them, and every step we take is affected by the choices we make. If we find we’re headed in the wrong direction, continuing forward will not magically turn us toward where we want to go. The wrong road will never turn into the right one on its own. We’re in charge of our lives and can stop, consider all possible options, and then choose the best way ahead. Every dream is possible and we can achieve the goals we desire most.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and have been trying to justify it to yourself and those around you, reconsider the way forward. You already know what you want. Change your course until you’re headed in the right direction. Make decisions that will bring your dreams into focus and create the life you desire the most. Everything is possible. Be wise and thoughtful, and every dream can come true.

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Bad to Worse

22 Aug

Nobody’s perfect and we all make mistakes. Even when we’re trying our best, things go wrong sometimes and we may do something we regret or don’t want others to know about. The mistake we’ve made may be so difficult that we try to hide it from those around us. That may work sometimes, but if it doesn’t and someone finds out, in our embarrassment or shame, we may lie and say we didn’t do it, or don’t know anything about it. We may hope it’ll just fade away and no one will ever bring it up again – which again may work sometimes. However, if others get involved trying to find out what happened or who is responsible, and we keep lying to cover our tracks, our situation will only worsen. A mistake isn’t the end of the world and even if it’s bad, we can recover. But complicating matters further by lying and denying won’t solve anything. Instead our situation may deteriorate and we may find we’re in deeper than if we’d told the truth at the beginning. It’s like digging a hole. The first denial is the first shovelful of dirt out of the ground. Each additional lie or distraction digs us in further and before we know it, we’re in a hole we can’t get out of. One mistake is just that – one mistake. Even if it’s big and impacts others negatively, owning up to it at the beginning will make it possible for us to fix whatever has gone wrong, and start again. Wrong turns teach us a lot about the way forward. We discover what doesn’t work and can use that information to help us find the best roads ahead. Life is all about learning and we’re going to stumble from time to time. When we falter, admitting what we’ve done and gaining all we can from the experience, will help us find success as we move forward.

When we’re interacting with someone who wants us to do something difficult, it may not be easy to comply. If the task is hard and we’re struggling to get through, we may try to find a way around it. When asked about our progress, we may lie and say we’re doing fine, when in fact we’re no closer to completion than when we started. We never have to compromise our values in an effort to please someone else. If we can’t do what’s been requested, we can say so. Being honest in all our dealings, even those that are complicated and difficult, will bring us great confidence and satisfaction.

It’s possible to get tangled up in someone else’s problems. They may come to us for advice but then dump their issue onto us. We can always help but we never have to take ownership of anyone else’s trouble. We can be supportive and allow them to keep what is theirs. Our lives are important and we deserve to be happy and comfortable. We can make excellent decisions, and find our way with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and are trying to cover your tracks so others won’t know, think again. Be honest and own what’s yours. Then step forward and adjust your course until you find the best road ahead. You are amazing and strong, and nothing can hold you down. Be confident and trust yourself. All the answers are there for you and you will prevail.

Pointing the Way

15 Aug

Unless we live on top of a mountain, an isolated island or in some cave somewhere, there are going to be other people around us. The world is covered with billions of them and no matter where we go, or what we’re doing, odds are we’re going to run into them. They all have ideas about life and how things should go, and they may have ideas about what we should be doing. Everyone is certainly entitled to their own opinions, but when those opinions infringe on our decisions, we may run into complications. It’s unlikely anyone will know more about our lives than we do. They may offer advice and guidance, telling us that if we go where they’re pointing and do what they propose we’ll find happiness. It’s possible they might be right once in a while, and we can always take any suggestions we like, but we know ourselves better than anyone else ever could, and we know what we want and need. Nobody has access to our inner most thoughts and nobody will ever know everything about us. We are unique and entitled to live authentically in ways that represent exactly who we are. There may be differences from those around us but we don’t have to conform to what others are doing. We can do things our way. We are the only ones with the gifts we have to offer. Expressing our true nature and desires, and living our lives in ways that represent who we most want to be will bring us great satisfaction and happiness. There isn’t now, nor will there ever be, anyone else exactly like us. We are unique and exquisite exactly as we are. We can trust ourselves to live our lives honestly and openly. The whole world is blessed because we are here, and nothing can ever take that away.

Some people are very sure of themselves. If they have strong personalities, we may get caught up in their wake and end up following them in their decisions. There’s nothing wrong with going along with something if it’s what we really want to do. But if we’re on the wrong road, headed to a destination we don’t want, we have all the power and authority we need to step off and change direction.

We can have the lives we most desire but first we must decide what kind of lives we want. Do we want to do lots of new things and have many adventures, have a life filled with learning and advancement, or keep things close and well defined? Once we decide what we want the most, we can begin making it a reality. Every dream is possible and every choice is ours to make. We’re in control and can do anything we choose. It’s all up to us. We really can have the lives we dream about.

Today if someone is trying to point the way for you to go, decide what you want the most. You can do what others suggest, or chart your own course. You have so much to offer and we’re all enriched because you are here. Decide what you want and show us who you are. There is no one who can bring the blessings you offer. You are amazing and valuable. Step forward toward the goals you want the most, and you’ll find great success and happiness.

Heart

25 Jul

We live in a world with billions of people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there are many others around us all the time. They come and go every day, and we build connections and relationships, some just in passing, and others that last our entire lifetimes. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas about how the world works and how things should go. We may agree, or disagree, and every exchange teaches us something new. Sometimes misunderstandings arise and we may have no idea what went wrong. There are always a lot of distractions on the surface, but if we want to know what’s really going on, we’ll have to dig a little deeper. If we want to find out what’s really happening, we’ll have to get to the very heart of the matter. That may mean looking at things we’re uncomfortable with and allowing ourselves to be see where we may have gone wrong. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we discover we’ve done something that’s caused pain or discomfort, we can look at the situation openly and do what is needed to amend it. In times of distress or misunderstanding, it will never serve us to ignore the issue and pretend it will go away on its own. Most problems won’t resolve without the input of those involved. They may get pushed back and ignored, but they will remain unsettled until we clearly look at them and do what is needed to address them. If we refuse to see them, we will carry them forward with us indefinitely and they may affect our future happiness and comfort. We deserve to live happily and unencumbered by problems. We can face any situation pulling on us and find the answers we need to resolve it and let it go. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find every answer we desire. Our lives are important and we are valuable. We can live effectively and openly, and find every happiness.

Some people are very private and don’t like to share their feelings. They may not tell us if we’ve done something that’s offended them. Instead, they may pretend everything is fine but we may sense something is amiss. It can be hard to find answers when the person holding them isn’t comfortable sharing information with us. We can be patient and understanding, and extend the hand of friendship even in times of duress. Showing we care, despite any friction, will help us build trust and open the doors to better communication.

We have all kinds of relationships, and can always choose to build a bridge, or close a door. We don’t have to continue relationships that are painful, or destructive, and we can walk away if a situation isn’t working. If we aren’t comfortable, we can change direction and step away. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives, and we have everything we need to get them.

Today if you feel something amiss in a relationship and don’t know what to do, think about what’s happened and get to the heart of the matter. Reach for understanding, and then move forward with confidence. Nothing is too complicated for you to comprehend, and you will find all the answers you need.

Heart Times

13 Jun

Human beings are complex creatures. We have intelligent minds that help us through each day, and emotions that color our choices. We try to make excellent decisions but sometimes our feelings take over and we might choose something based on how we feel instead of looking at the situation logically and objectively. Our emotions make us human and give us compassion and understanding. They are part of us and impact everything we do. When we want something emotionally, it’s very hard to ignore. The old saying that “the heart wants what the heart wants,” may be true, but the head is what makes every decision. We are intelligent and capable, and responsible for every choice we make, regardless of any emotional influence. If we choose something based on our feelings instead of choosing objectively based on the facts before us, we might find ourselves someplace we didn’t intend to go. Emotions by their very nature can be irrational. Often, they aren’t based on facts, reason or logic. They are simply how we feel and can be influenced by countless outside forces. That doesn’t mean we’re doomed to fail if we follow our feelings. We can understand how we feel, and still do everything possible to make the best choices going forward. Our emotions can help us find our way and are strong personal guides in choosing the best roads ahead. If we feel confident and happy with the path we’re on, we may continue forward sure of ourselves. If we’re confused or feel conflicted about a decision, we can stop and re-evaluate how we want to proceed until we feel confident in our choice. By using both our intellect and our emotional influence, we can make the best choices going forward. One can complement the other and we’ll find our way to every goal we desire. We are capable of making excellent choices that lead us to the destinations we’ve chosen. With wisdom and clarity, we can determine each step going forward and find every success.

When we choose based only on our emotional feelings, our decisions may lead to problems and unnecessary complications. Becoming romantically involved with a married person, making a financial choice based on what our family wants instead of the facts, or making personal decisions based on our desires at the moment instead of what we want most of all, may seem okay at first but may not work out in the end. If we allow ourselves to be ruled by how we feel instead of thinking each choice through carefully, our lives may be filled with turbulence and stress that affects our ability to think clearly and darkens the way forward. We can set our feelings aside and see things objectively so we can review everything openly, and find the best road forward.

Basing our decisions on the facts available to us, and choosing objectively, allows us to see the road ahead more clearly than if we choose simply because of how we feel. Facts lead us to objectivity and clarity. We are intelligent and can find all the answers we need. We can set our feelings aside in order to make the best decisions for the road ahead. Every decision we make takes us somewhere and with patience and wisdom, we can reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve gotten caught up in an emotional situation and can’t see the way forward, step back and take a break. Give yourself time to settle and allow your mind to rest. When you feel calm again, all the answers will appear and you’ll find the right road ahead. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is too complex for you to understand. Be confident and step forward. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

Meaning It

31 May

We can tell people all kinds of things about ourselves, use any positive adjective we like to describe us and create any image we desire. We can say anything but who we are is reflected not in what we say, but in what we do. Words are cheap and easily manipulated to express ideas that may or may not be true, but actions show our real character and display to the world what is real. If we’re honest about ourselves, our actions will reflect what we’ve expressed. If not, another reality will show itself. There is no way to gain the trust of others if we’re insincere or untruthful. If we mean what we say and follow through on our promises, people will learn we are trustworthy and that they can rely on us to keep our word. We don’t have to agree with everyone or do everything that’s requested. If we don’t want to do something, we can say so and move on. But if we say we’ll be there, and then don’t show, nothing else we’ve said will matter. Once those around us lose faith and trust in us, it will be hard to re-establish. It takes a lot of time to overcome personal disappointments when they involve our integrity and honesty. If we’ve been untruthful in the past or dropped the ball when we said we’d take care of it, there’s no reason to believe we’ll handle things any differently in the future. We can choose to be noble and valiant, and always keep our word. We can hold fast to the values we cherish and choose to be the best we can be. Our lives are a reflection of our actions. Every decision takes us somewhere. We can choose wisely to ensure we reach the destinations we desire most.

When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and want to escape, it’s easy to lie to get away from the issue. We can make up a story that will enable us to step back, or pretend we’re not involved and just walk away. Even if nobody ever finds out about the dishonesty, it will mar our character going forward. Like a chink in the armor, the surface will never be smooth again. We will always know we let our principles slide and it may affect our confidence going forward. Nothing is worth endangering our future success. Even in times of duress, we can choose well, and hold fast to what is right.

Everyone forgets things from time to time. If we’ve agreed to participate in something we later decide we don’t want, we can simply pretend we forgot we were committed and let it go. That may work and we may get out of our responsibility and move on. However, the stain of the lie will remain with us. It’s far better to simply be honest and decline our involvement before its expected. We may be uncomfortable for a moment, but our integrity will remain strong and we will walk forward knowing we did our best.

Today if you’re tempted to lie to get out of something you don’t want to do, remember your honesty and integrity are priceless and worth protecting. Tell the truth and clear the air. You are in control of your life and can make excellent choices. Choose well, and stand tall. Every success is there for you and with determination and honesty, you will reach it.

Long Con

30 May

There are all kinds of people in the world and some of them aren’t as honest or trustworthy as we would hope. Some people make choices based on greed, or control, or manipulation or a thousand other negative reasons. If they enter our lives and are dishonest with us, we may find ourselves in a very uncomfortable and difficult situation. Perhaps they’re co-workers who want to discredit us to move themselves forward, or intimate relationships with others who convince us they love us when they only want something from us. When the truth of the situation appears, if we are deeply entrenched, it may be hard to believe what’s happened. Looking back after all the facts are laid bare, we will see everything clearly and may wonder how we ever fell for the trap. We may feel like fools, and struggle to forgive ourselves for believing the lie. But it’s good to trust others, and there is sometimes no way to know the whole story from the beginning. If we’ve been manipulated and used by someone else, we may believe we should have known better, or somehow should have seen what was happening. We don’t know what we don’t know, and can only work with the facts we’ve been given. If we’ve been conned into believing something that isn’t true, once we discover everything, we can learn from the experience and take that knowledge with us going forward. Most people are honest and will do the right thing. We can forgive ourselves if we’ve been fooled, and move on with increased clarity and confidence. We are wise and capable, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. We know what we want, and we will find success.

Our emotions can be very powerful and if we’re transfixed by someone we believe in, we may forge ahead blindly, ignoring warnings around us that something isn’t quite right. Others may try to caution us, but it’s up to us to listen. We can do anything we like, even if it leads us to disaster. Everyone makes mistakes and if we find we’ve arrived at our desired goal, only to discover it isn’t anything like we thought it would be, we can stop, look at all our options and choose the best road going forward. Life is all about change and nothing is permanent. Mistakes don’t define us. We can always adjust our plans and start again.

If we make a serious mistake with long reaching consequences, it may be hard to trust ourselves again. We may believe we’ll never choose well, and everything we do will end badly. That will never be true. We are smart enough to learn from our mistakes and can always make excellent choices. Every success is possible and we can trust ourselves to find the right roads ahead. Nothing is beyond our grasp and we will reach every destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been manipulated and lied to, and are doubting your ability to choose wisely, trust yourself. You’ve made many excellent decisions already and will make them again. You are strong and intelligent, and nothing is too difficult for you to comprehend. Learn everything you can and move forward with confidence. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.