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Candy Coated

14 Sep

There are billions of people on the planet earth. They come in and out of our lives continually and as we interact with them, our connections may be positive, negative or somewhere in between. Everyone thinks they are good judges of character and some of us can spot phony baloney from 30 paces. But it isn’t always easy to recognize someone who is pretending to be something they aren’t. If someone wants something from us and doesn’t care how they manipulate us to get it, they may be very good actors. They may look the part, say all the right things, and convince us they are on our side when the truth may be very different. If we take a spoonful of mustard and freeze it, then roll it in a ball and dip it in chocolate, we could set it in a box of chocolate bon bons and it would blend right in. Nobody would know it wasn’t a delicious fudge filled truffle until they actually took a bite and got a mouthful of bitter, strong mustard. Candy coating can cover a lot of blemishes and can hide what lies inside. Flattering words, considerate gestures, and smiling agreement can make us believe something that isn’t real. We are intelligent and if we dig just a little deeper and scatch the surface a little more, we will get more information that will help us understand the situation as it really is instead of how it appears to be. People will do what they will do, but we are in control of our lives and can be wise as we move forward. We are extremely capable and smart. Nothing can fool us indefinitely and we will uncover the truth. By taking our time to see everything clearly, we can make excellent decisions, and build strong connections that will lead us to success.

It’s very pleasing to have someone else’s admiration. When they tell us we’re brilliant, or beautiful, or look at us with unwavering devotion we may be swept away. It all looks so wonderful, and it might be. But there are opposites in everything and we may face a time when someone we thought was angelic turns out to be the devil himself. Okay, maybe not THE devil, but someone who is intentionally leading us astray in an effort to get us to do something or take something from us. Nobody can do anything perfectly, and even the most practiced liar will stumble. If we don’t get caught up and pay attention, we will see things as they truly are, and be able to make wise decisions about our next step.

Most people are good and it’s good to trust those around us. We don’t have to be suspicious of everyone’s motivations, but we can keep our eyes open and listen carefully. Nobody is going to look out for us like we look out for ourselves. Truth is powerful. It can be hidden for a time but it cannot be help back forever. We are intelligent and wise, and with patience and focus, we will discover it, and find success.

Today if you have doubts about someone near you, trust your instincts. Look for the truth in every interaction. You are wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and will find the best way forward. Every single blessing is waiting for you, and every destination is possible. Be strong and stand firm. Step forward with clarity, and take charge. All your dreams are there, and you can make them yours.

Stopping and Starting

27 Aug

Every day we make lots of decisions. We decide where we’ll go, who we’ll meet, what we’ll do and many other things. Our lives are under our own control, and we decide how we’ll live them. Although we all know what we want, we might find ourselves doing things that hold us back from the goals we want to achieve or prevent us from moving forward. We may be making choices that put barriers in our path, and prevent us from getting closer to where we really want to be. We may want to lose weight, but continue to have desert – after every meal. We may want a different job, but don’t take the time to look at what’s out there. Or we may want more freedom, but continue to do things that hold us down. There are millions of reasons why we may sabotage ourselves, but if we seriously want something, we can change what isn’t working and start again. We can stop doing what keeps us from success, and start doing what will move us closer to it. Every decision is ours alone to make. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been putting something off, how many times we’ve tried and failed, or if others don’t support our choice. We can have the lives we dream of if we’re willing to do what’s needed to make them ours. This life is a great blessing, and we can live it fully in ways that express who we really are. Every single destination is possible, and with clarity and focus we can go anywhere, and do anything.

Relationships are important, but if we’re in a situation where one is holding us back from the life we really want, we can step back and look at all the options possible. If it’s a family relationship, we can find ways to stay connected without being intensely involved. If it’s an intimate relationship that isn’t working, we can decide how to disengage in ways that allow us to move forward more freely and find happiness and peace. Our needs and desires are important and we can ensure they are being met. Our happiness is our responsibility. We know what we want, and have everything necessary to make it ours.

It’s easy to stick to a routine, even if it isn’t making us happy. We can continue to do the same things over and over again, and know what to expect. But every day is a gift. What we do with it is up to us. We can continue to coast along dissatisfied and not rock the boat, or we can take control and choose the roads that will take us to the goals we want the most. Nobody knows what we want better than we do. There is great happiness and satisfaction in living our lives exactly the way we desire, and doing things that will take us to the success we choose. Every blessing is already there for us. We just need to step forward, and claim them.

Today if you’ve been standing still and want to move closer to your goals, decide what you want the most and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you, and nothing can keep you from reaching them. Your life is yours to design. Nothing is out of reach. Be confident and sure. You are amazing and intelligent, and can make your dreams come true.

Olympic Gold

9 Aug

Excellence is powerful. When we see someone do something incredibly well, we may be astounded and seriously impressed, and rightly so. Watching someone do something amazing like achieve an Olympic gold medal is inspirational and motivating. Mediocrity is simple to achieve. We can coast by doing the minimum required to get things done and work marginally around the edges to get through. We can have small, uninspiring lives filled with monotony and routine, or we can live them fully and reach further. We are capable of achieving anything and when we apply ourselves and push beyond what is customary to what is exceptional, we can reach amazing success and do things we only imagined possible. All our dreams, even the very difficult and complex ones, are possible, but before we can accomplish anything, we must believe in ourselves. If we doubt we’ll be able to reach the goal, chances are we won’t. But if we’re determined to get there, no matter how complicated or difficult the road gets, nothing can keep us from success. There is greatness in all of us but it’s up to us to recognize and apply it. We are the only ones who can take us to the gold. Every dream we desire is possible, and if we’re wiling to do what is necessary to reach them, we will succeed. The lives we want the most are there for us and we can reach any destination. By stepping forward and staying the course, we can go anywhere and do anything. It’s all there for us. We just need to decide.

There are endless things we can accomplish, and everyone dreams about the things they want the most. Maybe we want to earn more money, go on vacation, get a degree, or a million other things. We can think about what we want for as long as we like, but until we do something to get it, nothing will change. If we want something different, we have to do something different. Repeating the same patterns and behaviors will guarantee we stay exactly where we are. The world is huge and there are unlimited things we can accomplish and places we can go. Instead of standing still and watching it go by, we can step up and move toward the goals we most desire and make them ours.

Everyone is different and we never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas about how we should live or what we should do. We define our own personal success, not the world or those around us. We can choose the roads that will take us where we most want to go, and design our lives any way we choose. Every option is open and when we’re ready we can begin any journey we desire. Our happiness is our responsibility and by being true to who we are and what we really want, we can find great satisfaction and success.

Today if you’ve been skirting the edges of your dreams and waiting for something to change, decide what you want the most. Your life belongs to you alone, and you can do anything you desire. There is greatness and excellence in you, and every goal is possible. Take control and start your journey forward. You can have the life you desire and make your dreams reality. It’s all there for you. Step forward and claim it.

Mandatory

24 May

There’s a lot going on all around us all the time, and our lives are often busy with responsibilities, details, tasks, and endless interruptions. Our “To Do” lists can be very long, and no matter how efficient we are or how hard we try to be effective, there will always be more to do than we will ever get done. There is a continual round of endless tasks and unlimited details that need our attention. It’s easy to get caught up and just rush from one thing to another, and if those around us need a lot of support, we may get burdened and overwhelmed. Each day is a gift and how we spend it will determine what we get out of it. If all we do is spend our time checking off boxes, we may lose sight of what’s most important. When things get out of hand and we’re so busy we can’t see straight, it’s impossible to think about what we most want and where we really want to go. When there’s a lot of static, it’s hard to hear the music. There may be a lot to do, but nothing is mandatory but breathing. That’s all. The other stuff may be important, but is circumstantial and superfluous to our existence. We’re in control of everything we do and how spend our time. We don’t have to do everything today to move forward. We can stop, take a break, look objectively at all that lies before us, and decide how we want to manage it and move ahead. Being busy doesn’t always mean we’re moving closer to our goals. By prioritizing what is most important to us individually, and then choosing what will move us ahead, we will reach success. We can take time out for our own good health, and do things that refresh us and give us additional strength. With planning and focus, we will accomplish much and still be able to reach our desired destinations.

There are people around us most of the time. They may request our help with something and if we can fit it into our schedules, we may agree. Not everyone is confident and there may be someone who continually asks us to do things for them because they are scared to do it themselves or are unsure about how to proceed. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and our personal goals are important. We can decide how much time we can give and still be sure we achieve our own goals.

Sometimes we may be tasked with something we’re told is absolutely imperative and must be done immediately. If there is a crisis or a time requirement for the task, we may need to drop everything to address it, but most things are not critical. As we decide what is most important in our lives, we can choose how we’ll spend our time. Everyone’s goals are important, and we are responsible for achieving our own.

Today if you’ve been working on many tasks but aren’t moving closer to your goals, think about what’s most important. Your time is valuable, and your dreams are important. Make a plan to accomplish the goal you most desire, and you will find great satisfaction and happiness when you achieve it. Every dream is possible, and with focus and determination, you can have the life you want the most. Be confident and stand strong. Nothing can keep you from success.

Unstoppable

20 May

People are very creative and inventive. We can come up with all kinds of ideas and explanations for whatever is happening and spin endless tales. If we’ve done something untoward or dishonest we don’t want others to see, we may create an explanation that skirts the facts and makes us look innocent, clearing us of any wrongdoing. Well, we can say anything we like, and we may fool those around us for a time, but truth is more powerful than whatever we may come up with. We may try to hide the facts, manipulate the data, use mirrors and screens to disguise what’s real, and that may delay reality for a while, but nothing, absolutely nothing can hold truth back forever. It is unstoppable and will inevitably rise and become apparent. It may take a while to surface, years even, and at some point, we may believe we have successfully circumvented it, but we will be wrong. Truth is the most powerful thing in life. Nothing can keep it from showing itself. If we’ve covered something up, it will be revealed. If we’ve lied, we will be found out. It’s just a matter of time. There is no way to hide it forever, and when it shows itself, any lies or fabrications will be uncovered. Hiding just delays the inevitable. There isn’t anything worth forsaking our integrity for. The truth may be painful, embarrassing, or even momentarily crippling, but when we face it, we can begin the process of correcting whatever has gone wrong. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes from time to time. If we’ve fallen down and made a mess, we can stand and clean it up. By being truthful with those around us, we will gain credibility and trust. Each choice defines who we are, and we have the power to change the world for good. We can make excellent choices that enrich our lives and bring light to those around us.

We may use distractions and diversions to try to hide something we’ve done. We can tangle our lives up with lies and dishonesty to try and bury the truth or buy time to cover it up, but it won’t work indefinitely. Lies are always laid bare, and we will be exposed. We are brave enough to face anything that’s happened and choose the best road forward. By being completely honest we’ll pave the road ahead to success.

Relationships are important, and if we’re involved with others when mistakes are made, they may pressure us to keep it hidden. We can do anything we like but if we go along with the subterfuge, guilt may weigh heavily on us. If we look someone in the eye and lie, our virtue and integrity will suffer greatly. There is no relationship worth selling our souls for. We have enough courage and strength to stand up for what’s right and choose honesty no matter what has happened.

Today if you’ve been trying to hide from something you’ve done and have been distorting facts to try and escape, stop and think again. You are amazing and valuable, and worth more than you can imagine. Your personal integrity is precious. Choose honesty and step forward with clarity and wisdom. Every dream is possible, and by choosing well, you will reach success.