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Underneath

6 Apr

Every situation in our lives is different. We know who we are, but we may alter how we appear to the world when circumstances change. If we’re in a formal setting that is important and critical to something we’re trying to accomplish, our actions may be more guarded and restrained than if we’re at a ball game with friends. We may change our outward appearance depending on the circumstances around us as a way of fitting in or making things go more smoothly. It’s normal to adjust ourselves to fit the situation we’re in but adjusting what we’re doing or wearing doesn’t mean we must change who we are. We can be flexible and still be authentic. Some people aren’t as confident as others, and when situations change, they not only change their outward look, but their personalities as well, and may agree with things they don’t believe in. They may believe that going along with what others are doing will help move them forward, and it might for a time. But there is no way to fake it forever. Eventually who we really are will surface, and if we’ve been playing make believe, we may find ourselves in situations we don’t want that don’t fit. The world will do what it will do. People make choices and may encourage us to follow them, but our lives are ours to design, and we can be true to who we really are underneath all the trappings of work, success, expectations, or plans. We can trust ourselves to live honestly and without pretense or façade. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and we bring specific and unique gifts to those around us. By believing in our personal value, and confidently stepping forward, our individual gifts will light the world around us. We are a blessing to the world just as we are.

Lobsters are delicious to eat, but they look like giant bugs and can be quite off-putting at first glance. Their outside appearance isn’t appealing but underneath their hard-shell exterior is something delicious and delectable. While we aren’t lobsters, the same can be true regarding people. Someone may appear very differently on the outside than they truly are underneath. By being patient and open, we can be accepting, and see more than what’s on the surface.

It takes courage to reveal our innermost desires and thoughts to others. Our dreams and aspirations are deeply personal, and we may want to keep them to ourselves and protect them. We can be as private as we like, but great relationships are possible when we share our deepest feelings with someone else. By opening ourselves to those we care about, we can build strong bonds of trust that will enhance us. There is always a lot going on beneath the surface and sharing it with others will bring depth and richness to our lives.

Today if you’ve been doing things to fit in, remember how unique you are. You are a gift to the world and have gifts to offer nobody else possesses. There is greatness in you. Be confident. You are amazing and valuable. Trust yourself and show us who you are. Your light illuminates us all, and the whole world is blessed because you are here.

Money and Fame

19 Mar

The world has all kinds of ideas about success and what equates to value. How much money we make, who we know, how much clout we possess, how famous and well known we are, and a million other things are touted as evidence of our self-worth. Many interpretations include great perks and attributes connected to them, but what happens on the outside of our lives isn’t always a reflection of who we really are. Money and influence don’t automatically reflect goodness and light. There are lots of examples of very bad people living very affluent lives. But the world can only see what’s on the outside. We are responsible for every choice we make, and nobody knows what goes on in our own minds. Our lives and the real success we achieve is a reflection of what we think about and the decisions we make. The world will do what it will, but our lives are ours to determine and design. If we’re honest and genuine, kind to those around us, caring and considerate, our influence will be helpful and beneficial. If we choose instead to only think of ourselves, and get what we want, no matter who gets hurt in the process, our influence will be different. Our personal self-worth is determined by how we live and who we are. It’s nice to accumulate money, and fame always has its allure, but what we do in the quiet moments, when nobody is watching, will define who we really are. There is greatness in all of us, and we all have the potential to bring great light and goodness to the world. Our choices are ours to make and each step we take will take us somewhere. Whether it’s where we most want to go, or we end up in never land depends on what we decide. Life is a precious experience. By choosing well, and holding fast to our personal nobility and integrity, we can create a life that brings us great satisfaction and joy. We know what we want, and where we want to go. We can accomplish anything we desire and be a blessing to the world.

Everyone has a past. We can’t control the circumstances we’re born into, who our parents are or who raises us. Some of us have better situations than others, but our beginnings can never control where we go. All the roads are there for us, and every destination is possible. We already have all the courage we need to accomplish anything we desire. By planning carefully, and continuing forward no matter what happens, we can reach any goal. The road doesn’t have to be paved for us to travel forward. We are more powerful than we realize, and we will succeed.

Our dreams are important, and possible. It would be nice to be born into privilege and wealth and money can pave difficult situations for us. But money is just a tool that greases the wheels. We must be the driver to get us there. We control our own destinies. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. Change is always possible. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. Every destination is waiting, and we can achieve greatness.

Today think about who you are and what you want. Decide how you want to live your life moving forward. You can reach any goal or destination you desire. Trust yourself and be confident. The whole world is there for you, and you will win.

Programmed

17 Mar

When we’re children, we see what our parents and other adults around us are doing and watch the decisions they make. We may begin to pattern our lives around their example because we don’t have much to compare them to. As we get older and begin to step away from the family unit more and more, our understanding of different ideas and interpretations broadens, and we begin to see that not everyone does things the same way. Everything we see changes us a little and we start to form our own ideas about how we want to live our lives and what we want to do. As we mature, we may think we’re on a completely different road than the one our parents taught us, and then we realize we’ve made a decision exactly the same way as they would. We may believe we really haven’t changed at all, and think we’re programmed to continue making the same choices and the same mistakes we saw our first family make, and there’s nothing we can do about it. While it’s definitely true that what we learned and saw as a child may have influence over what we do as adults, nobody is destined to repeat history. We all have our own agency and can do anything we like, but we must consciously decide what that will be. It takes effort to live “on purpose” instead of just going through the motions. Each of us is an individual and we can all design our lives any way we like. There is no destiny keeping us from making our own choices. It’s all up to us. If we want to turn in a different direction, we can. If we want to go down a new road, we can. Everything is possible. Nothing can keep us from achieving any goal we desire. By deciding what we want, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we can have the lives we want the most. Great success is possible, and we will prevail.

Some families stay very close to tradition. They follow the same rules the generation before followed and hold firm to the habits and customs of the past. Just because something has always been done one way doesn’t mean it cannot be done differently. Despite tradition, we are in control of our own lives. We can continue to follow the traditional behaviors if that’s what we want, or we can forge our own way forward. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

It takes courage to live our lives according to our own personal desires and aspirations. The pressure to follow along with the norm can be great, but it’s impossible to make our own dreams come true by following what others are doing. We are entitled to complete fulfillment and happiness, and by following our personal desires and doing what is needed to make them ours, we will achieve it. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you want to move in a different direction but have hesitated, decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and have all the courage you need to succeed.

Happiness 101

2 Mar

Everyone wants a happy life. We want things to go our way, the road ahead to be easy and paved, and everything we work for to come through for us. It’s natural to want things to go well, and oftentimes they do. If we want our lives to be happy, we can try to do what is needed to make that happen, but we aren’t alone here. Our plans can be complicated and interrupted by others around us who may do things that hold us in place or influence us in ways that keep us from moving forward. We may have a relationship with someone who exercises a lot of control over what we do. They may have specific ideas of how our lives should go that conflict with what we really want. If they are important to us, or are very strong and powerful, we may allow them to decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. We can certainly do anything we like, but if we let someone else drive the train, the chances of ending up where we really want to go are unlikely. Living a life based on someone else’s plans will not bring us true happiness. Our personal happiness is our responsibility. Others cannot provide it for us. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves and we know what we want, and despite any situation or relationship connection, are always in control of our lives. Others may try to dominate our decisions, and if we let them, decide our next steps. But we are the only ones who know exactly what we want, and can step forward on our own road at any time. The only person who can truly keep us from achieving our personal goals, is us. When we’re ready, we can step forward and move toward the destinations we desire most. We deserve complete and fulfilling happiness, and it’s always there for us when we’re ready to claim it. Every dream is possible, and we can make them ours.

There are a lot of very smart, highly educated people in the world. They know a lot about many things and may be very confident in their advice and personal suggestions. While they may know many things about the world and how it works, nobody can possibly know more about us than we know about ourselves. We already know what we want to do and where we want to go. If we are uncertain, we can ask for advice but in the end the decisions we make are up to us. We can decide how we’ll proceed and what we’ll accomplish and reach any goal we desire.

We may face a time when everything goes wrong, and nothing is working for us. The situation we’re in may make us miserable, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Hard times will certainly come to us all, but nothing stays the same forever. Happiness will never be unattainable indefinitely. We can manage any difficult situation, and when things change, step forward toward the goals we’re seeking. Every possibility will still be there for us and we can achieve any success we desire.

Today if you’re not happy with where you are and want a change, look at all the options available. You know what you want. Decide on the road that will take you to the destinations you desire most, and step forward. Nothing can keep you from success, and all your dreams are possible. Be confident. There is great happiness ahead and you will reach it.

Backhanded

13 Jan

We interact with a lot of people as we go through our lives. We build relationships, work along side them, and make connections through our shared experiences. Many people are sincere and open in their comments and conversations and we appreciate spending time with them. But there are others who don’t always say exactly what they mean, and instead use innuendo and make backhanded comments that leave us unsure as to what they mean or how they feel. If they are flippant or sarcastic, we might wonder if we’ve done something wrong, or if they don’t trust us for some reason. If we don’t speak clearly and state what we want, there will inevitably be confusion, and the road ahead will get cloudy. If we’re concerned about how our comments will make us look or feel superior to those around us, we may use double talk and insinuation instead of stating the facts. That way we can skirt around the issue if things get dicey. It’s disconcerting to be involved in a situation with someone who doesn’t speak openly and honestly, and instead talks around the issue instead of confronting it head on. We don’t know where we stand and may have no idea how to proceed. Everyone knows exactly how they feel in every situation, and we all have enough courage to say what we mean to clarify what’s happening. By being completely clear in our feelings and objectives, we can pave the way to our goals and find resolution to any problem. We are intelligent and have all the wisdom and courage we need to stand firm in our position and express ourselves confidently and openly. Every single destination is possible, and with focus and determination we will reach them all.

No two people are exactly alike. We all have our own preferences and ideas about how things should be done. When we’re working with others, we may differ and have diametrically opposed views about how to proceed. We can stand firm in our opinion and look for compromise, or we can cave and let others take over. What we do is up to us, but letting others drive the train will never take us where we want to go. Our desires are important and valuable. We can say what we want and move forward toward the goal.

When there is disagreement, if we don’t feel confident enough to stand up to opposition, but really want our viewpoint to prevail, we may choose to use coercion and manipulation to advance our cause. We can do anything we like, but the seeds we plant will determine what comes next. Being dishonest and manipulative may work in the beginning, but we may pay more in the end than we bargained for. By being completely clear, and saying exactly what we mean, the doors ahead will open, and we’ll reach success.

Today if you’re in a situation where you feel unsure you can prevail, be confident and state your views clearly. You are valuable and worthwhile. Tell us what you think and be courageous. You are amazing and your input is important. Step up and every door will open. All your dreams are there for you, and nothing can keep you from making them yours.