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Time to Stop

29 May

Everyone has goals and dreams they want to pursue. We all have our own desires and dreams about what we want to accomplish. We can do anything we like, but not everything will always be possible. We may dream of running a marathon, but because of circumstances beyond our control may not be physically able to accomplish it. Maybe we imagine being a super model but we’re far too short to make the cut. We can dream and wish and hope, but if we aren’t physically able to run the distance, or meet the standard, there will be no way to succeed. Nobody gets a perfect life with only paved roads to success. Everyone one has their own issues and limitations. If we’re determined, we can try to do everything in our power to overcome whatever is in the way, but if all the trying, and working, and pushing doesn’t help, it may be time to stop. Although every dream is possible, there will likely be times when what we want isn’t available to us. If it’s something we really desire, it’s disappointing to realize and hard to accept the goal is not within our reach. If we can’t actually run the marathon, or walk the runway, there will be other ways to be involved. It’s possible to modify our plans when we must, and still find fulfillment. Recognizing what is truly possible, and then moving forward with clarity and wisdom will help us find success. There are endless dreams and opportunities and if one road is closed there will always be another to take. We can decide how we want to proceed and by looking at everything openly and honestly, will find great satisfaction and happiness.

When a child is born with a talent, their family may push them to pursue it to perfection. They may see any other possibility as a waste. Talents are wonderful gifts, but just because we’re born with an innate ability to do something doesn’t mean it must define our whole lives. A gifted musician may push toward concert performance, and endure endless hours and years of practice to reach that goal. Or they may instead decide to use their gift in other ways. There is no one perfect way to do anything. We can decide how we want to express and share whatever gifts or talents we possess and find personal contentment our own way.

Tunnel vision may help us effectively reach a goal, but if all we see is the road ahead, we will miss the enrichment and embellishment of what’s happening around us. Everyone around us has something unique to offer, and different perspectives give us a greater understanding of ourselves and the world around us. We can pursue the goal, and still take time to look around and interact with others. There are answers everywhere, and when we’re open to seeing them, the road ahead will be easier and more joyful.

Today if you’ve been trying and trying to reach a goal but because of things you can’t control it has been unattainable. Look at everything objectively and decide if it’s time to stop and go in a new direction. There are endless destinations possible and the inability to reach one doesn’t mean you’ve failed. You can choose another way forward and find success.  You are amazing and more powerful than you realize. Choose your next step forward and proceed with confidence. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

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Ten Lies

9 Feb

We make endless decisions as we go through our lives. When we have to answer for something or explain a situation, we always have the choice of either being honest or making up a story. If the situation is difficult or we’ve done something that has caused problems, we may be tempted to lie about what actually happened.  Of course, we can do anything we like, and if we want to fabricate a tale that takes us out of the equation, we can certainly come up with something. Telling a lie may seem like it’ll clear the way ahead, but there’s always a catch. Nothing ever stands alone and remains untouched for long. Before we know it, we may have to tell another lie to explain circumstances that arise from the tale we told originally. In the end, we may have to tell ten lies to cover up for the first one. We’re all creative but it may become difficult to keep tangling the web without everything falling apart. It’s hard to remember made up stories over time, and we may find ourselves completely twisted up trying to keep our cover. No matter what’s happened or what we’ve done, the best and easiest way forward is to tell the complete truth. We might be embarrassed, but we can get over that. We might get in trouble, but we’re accountable for everything we do, and that’s fair. When we’re honest in all our dealings, even when it’s hard, we will gain the respect of those around us. They will understand they can trust us, and that may pave the road ahead to the goals we seek. We are intelligent and can make excellent decisions. By being wise and thoughtful before we act, and choosing the best path forward, we will achieve great success and satisfaction.

White lies are stories we tell because the truth may be difficult to navigate. Someone may ask us a question about their appearance, and if we’re concerned that being completely honest may hurt their feelings, we may choose to embellish the truth a little. Getting into the habit of telling little white lies that don’t seem to hurt anyone might be okay, but once we take one step away from the truth, it’s easy to take another step further. Instead of saying things that aren’t really true, we can find a way to be truthful without causing an issue.  

Some people are very ambitious and will do anything to get what they want. They may have no problem telling lies to get ahead. They are willing to cheat if necessary to go around anyone in their way. If we must deal with them, we will never know if anything they say is true or not. Instead of taking their word for anything, we can do our own research and figure out what’s real. Once we understand the true story and what is actually happening, we can decide how we want to proceed to get to our goal. We have all the wisdom we need to choose the best roads ahead. By being honest and careful, there isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation and it would be easy to lie to get out of it, think about the person you most want to be. Every decision brings a result, and by choosing well we will achieve what we want the most. Trust yourself and be confident. There isn’t anything you can’t manage, and every goal is possible. You are smarter and braver than you think you are. Step forward with clarity and you will succeed.

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Peppermint Spinach

13 Dec

There are endless things we can do with our lives and we’ll make many connections as we move ahead. Some things naturally go together and others don’t. Peppermint is delicious on its own and spinach is fine as well, but if we put them together the result will not be appetizing. In many cases, our lives are like that too. With some people we’ll easily relate and be able to build good relationships, and with others, not so much. The trick is being willing to see things as they are and not how we want them to be. It’s possible to remain in a relationship that isn’t working simply because we want it to work and hope somehow everything will change and it’ll be great. The old saying that, “Hope springs eternal” is true, but we only have control over ourselves and our own decisions. Everything else is beyond our reach. There is no way to change anyone else or make them do anything. By looking at everything clearly and openly, and willingly accepting what is real, we will make the best decisions that will bring us happiness and peace. Our lives are ours to design and our happiness is our responsibility. We can make choices that will create the lives we want the most. Everything is possible and with honesty and clarity, we will reach every destination.

Habits and addictions are hard to change. It’s painful to watch someone we love continually do things that hurt them. We may try to stand in their way when they’re headed for trouble, or make excuses when they fall down. We may even lie for them to cover for what they’re doing that is impacting their lives negatively. None of that will ever help them find success. We can be supportive without enabling bad behavior, and show our love by stepping aside and allow them to face the natural consequences of their actions.

We may have a dream we want very much but because of our current circumstances or situations is not possible. We may try and try to make it work, only to fail again and again. It’s like pushing harder and harder against a locked door. Despite all our energy it will not open. It’s hard to let go of something we really desire, but change is constant, and just because something’s not possible now doesn’t mean it’s gone forever. We can set the dream aside for now, and move forward toward something else. When things change, we can try again.

Today if you’re trying to do something that isn’t working, or you’re in a bad situation that isn’t changing, remember your happiness is important. Look at everything honestly and clearly, and decide on your next steps. You are worth more than you imagine. Trust yourself and step forward toward the goals you want the most. Every success is there for you and you will make them yours.

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Behind the Scenes

6 Dec

Our lives are complex and filled with endless decisions. Every day brings something new and whatever we choose will bring some kind of result. If we’re intent on staying the course moving ahead, and make choices that push us forward, we’ll continue to advance. But there are few times when everything is black or white and easy to see. Many times our decisions may be influenced by what’s happening around us, how we feel, who’s involved and dozens of other factors. Although we may try to be honest in all our dealings, we may face a time when we decide to step off center and do something behind the scenes that will make the road easier. Maybe we fabricate a story that makes us look better, or we bribe someone to say or do something that opens a door we want to go through. Our ethical standards and choices tell the world and those around us who we are. If we fall prey to situational ethics – meaning the situation instead of our standards decide what we’ll do – we may open all kinds of new risks to our project, ourselves, and our integrity. If the goal is very important, we may think it’s worth the tradeoff when we start, but there is no way to see the end or any road from the beginning. One left turn may take us completely off course, or bring more trouble and discord than we expect. It’s not always easy to make the best choices, and sometimes doing something less than honest that appears to pave the way ahead looks very appealing. We must decide what we want the most. Is the goal really worth selling out to get it? Will the reward be worth the cost? Only we can make these decisions, but one thing is certain. When we choose the first step on any path, we are also choosing the last. Choosing the roads that will take us to the destinations we most desire and enhance our credibility and true character will always bring success. We have greatness inside us, and with wisdom and clarity, we can share it with the world.

There are lots of people willing to do whatever it takes to reach a goal. They will manipulate, lie, steal, coerce, whatever is needed to make it happen. They don’t care who they hurt or how much damage they do. Their devious and unethical behaviors may bring them great success, and lots of money, but none of it will augment their character or make them better people. It’s easy to cheat and manipulate to get our way, but nothing can compare to the nobility of true honesty and integrity.

Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. If we don’t care about ethics or morality, there will be lots of opportunities to get what we want without them. However, true happiness comes when we choose what we know is best and hold fast to our personal standards. Not every destination will be easy to reach, but by keeping our eyes on the goal and continuing forward, we can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach and every success is possible.

Today if there’s a chance to do something untoward that will make your journey easier, think carefully about the person you most want to be. You have so much to offer and all the wisdom and intelligence you need to accomplish anything you desire. Trust yourself. There isn’t anything too difficult for you. You are amazing and capable, and have everything you need to succeed. Show us your best, and be confident. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

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Ho Ho Ho and All That Stuff

1 Dec

The holidays are a busy time and can be stressful and exhausting. There may be parties we’re expected to attend, traditions everyone wants to continue, or other situations we may or may not want to do. Everyone is unique and we all have our own ideas about how things should go and what we should do. Although we all understand that intellectually, there may be times when we are pressed to go along with others. We might even pressure someone else to follow our lead because it’s what we enjoy and we want them to participate. We’re in control of our own lives, but if someone in authority over us expects us to do things a certain way, we may have to comply. Family expectations and traditions are powerful. We may choose to go along just to keep the peace and get through with as little conflict as possible. No matter what’s going on or how we feel about it, we can work through any situation and find the best way forward. We never have to do anything we aren’t comfortable with and we can decline any offer with grace and patience. There may be much to accomplish, but with careful planning, and taking the time we need for ourselves, we will prevail. We know who we are and what we want. By keeping our eyes on the goal ahead, and moving forward with clarity, we will succeed.

Everyone wants to be happy but personal happiness is expressed in different ways. We don’t have to jump up and down, and laugh all day long to convince ourselves or others that we’re content. Our outward expressions are unique. Some people share every emotion with those around them and others are quiet and still even when they feel great joy. We can share our optimism and happiness with those around us if we like, or we may keep things to ourselves. Our lives are ours to design and every option is possible.

If we’re stressed and having a hard time, it can be very annoying if someone near us is bounding with holiday fun. We may wish they’d just put a sock in it and fade away. If we need time to ourselves to regroup and settle, we can step away from the activity around us and zone out for a while. Sometimes just a few minutes of quiet and peace can greatly refresh us and give us the boost we’re seeking. There are endless ways to express ourselves at any moment. We can do what works for us and find the happiness we desire.

Today if you’re tired and stressed, and feel pressure to participate in activities around you, decide what you really want. If you need time alone, take it. You are the most important person in your life. Your desires are important, and every dream is possible. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. You are wise and capable, and nothing is out of reach. Be happy and choose the way ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t do.

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