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Hope

12 Dec

We have a lot of different relationships and connections in our lives. They may be casual acquaintances we speak to once in a while and see only in passing, or very close and intimate. We value our close relationships and they may have deep impact on our lives. When we love someone and they make decisions that bring them unhappiness or negatively affect our relationship with them, we may hope they will change. We might talk to them about the situation and sincerely ask them to listen to our concerns. Sometimes they will and things improve, but other times we may hope in vain. It’s crushing to be in love with someone who says they love us in return but will not commit. It’s devastating to watch someone close addicted to substances that are hurting them but cannot stop. And it may be overwhelming to see someone we love make the same bad mistakes again and again, and suffer miserably. Although we may hope and pray for the changes needed to stop the suffering, the decisions of others belong to them alone. There is no way to control their choices even if they are destructive. We must evaluate the situation and determine what is best going forward. Sometimes we may stay in the relationship continuing to hope things will improve. Other times it may be important for us to go another way. We can never change anyone but ourselves. If we are in a relationship that is hurting us because of choices being made out of our control, we may choose another way forward.

We are responsible for our own happiness and there may be times when we must end a relationship in order to stay on the road that’s best for us. There is no way to carry anyone’s life but our own, and we may need to alter our course as we continue forward. They say hope springs eternal and in some ways, it does. We can always continue to hope someone will change and find success, but hope is not reality. It is only desire. Reality is what we’re living now. How we manage it will determine how happy we are. We can be loving and supportive without being part of a destructive game. We can allow others to make whatever choices they choose, and continue forward our own way.

We may be pressured to stay in a dysfunctional situation with the hope that if we do, it will improve. That might happen, but change is something that must come from within. If those we are hoping for do not want it, everything will remain the same. Staying in a damaging situation that does not change will hold us in place and prevent us from finding our own success. We can’t change anyone else no matter how much we desire or hope for it. Keeping our eyes focused clearly on what is real and what we want will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been hoping someone close to you would change to be happier or healthier, remember the change you seek cannot come from you. Be loving and kind, and supportive and caring, and continue forward. Your life is the only one you can control. Continue moving toward your goals and find success. Everything is there for you and you will reach it.

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Taking It

28 Nov

Everyone has dreams they want to pursue. We decide what we want from life and can move forward toward any desired destination. If the goal is outside our normal scope and will require a lot to accomplish, those around us may discourage us from going after it. They may want to protect us from disappointment if they don’t believe we will succeed, they may think we’re crazy to try to achieve something new, or they may be jealous we have the temerity to try. Although their opinions belong to them, if they are negative and they share them with us, we may begin to doubt our ability to move forward. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions. We can do anything we like but we have to be strong enough to step ahead even if everyone else disagrees. We have to be able to take it and still be confident we can win. We can always let go of what we really want and go the way that fits the ideas others have for us. It doesn’t take any energy to go along. But letting go of our dreams and allowing someone else’s vision of our lives to take over will never bring us happiness. Others may disagree with us, but that need not have bearing on our choices. We know ourselves better than anyone else and we know what we want and where we want to go. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us in place if we are determined to move forward. Every single dream is within our reach. Every single goal is attainable. Our lives belong to us and we may live them any way we choose. We deserve complete happiness and doing what we want the most will bring it.

It takes courage to change our lives. We may have to step out of our norm and do things differently in order to move ahead. Our routines are comfortable and we may continue them for as long as we like. But if we want something new, we must modify them to accommodate the change we desire. We are capable of trying unlimited new things. We can change direction, reach higher, step on a new path, and do anything we want. If we are willing to do what is needed we can accomplish anything. We are smart enough and brave enough to succeed.

Expecting our lives to simply bring us the dreams we imagine is a fool’s game. Wonderful things will come to us by chance but the desires of our hearts will require work. There are few things worth having that are achieved without effort. We can make all our dreams come true if we do what is necessary to make them possible. Every dream can become reality. Deciding what we want most and then planning our way forward to reach the goal will bring us satisfaction and happiness. There is nothing out of reach and no goal too high or too far for us achieve. We can focus on what we want and live in ways that bring success.

Today if you’ve been wishing for a change you desire, start doing what is needed to make things happen. You’re in control of your life and can do anything. There isn’t a dream too big or too difficult for you to reach. Step up and step forward. Everything is there for you. Reach out and make your dreams come true. Make your life exactly the way you want it and you’ll find happiness.

Around and Around

14 Nov

As we set goals and decide how we want to move forward, it’s wise to objectively look at what must be accomplished in order to succeed. There may be many things we need to do to move us ahead. Perhaps we must go somewhere new, or meet with others who will give us necessary information, or we may need to change something within ourselves in order to progress. Doing external things may take time but they are generally easier than changing something in our personal behaviors and choices. Change is rarely easy and often takes serious thought and commitment to achieve. If we aren’t sure we can do what is needed, we may decide to simply work with what we have instead. That might be enough for a time but if we really must change something in order to succeed it will only delay our progress. We can go around and around the issue indefinitely but if the only way forward requires change, until we do what is needed to make that happen, we may stand still. Even if we’re clear on where we want to go, if we haven’t done what is required to reach the destination we may find ourselves running in place. There isn’t any goal we can’t reach and we can do anything we desire. We have all the wisdom and courage needed to ensure our success. The world is open to us and we can do what is required to move forward and overcome any obstacle in our path.

It’s good to be creative. We can look at situations in different ways and use alternative methods to solve problems. Often there are many ways to resolve issues and we can discover and create new solutions in each case. However, if there is only one way to move forward and it requires a change within ourselves we may need to consider our options. We can look at what is required and then decide if the goal is worth the effort. Personal change takes time and concentration. If the destination is important to us we can do whatever is needed to reach it. Nothing will stop us if we are determined to succeed.

We can never fool ourselves into success. Pretending will never get us to the goal. If we don’t want to do what we must to succeed, we can make excuses for the lack of progress and try to explain why things haven’t worked out. But all the excuses in the world will never be enough to compensate for failure to move forward. If we don’t want the goal we can let it go, but if it’s valuable to us we must do what is needed to achieve it. We can do anything we desire and success is always there for us. We can take charge of any situation, accomplish what must be done, and find success. Once we decide we will win nothing will stop us.

Today if you’ve been going around and around trying to make things work without doing what is needed to move forward, decide what you really want. You have all the wisdom and determination you need to do anything. Choose the way forward and do what is needed to succeed. Everything is available to you and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. The world is yours to conquer and you will win.

Vipers

13 Oct

There are all kinds of people in the world.  Although most of us try to be the best we can be, there are some who have other ideas.  They think nothing of lying, or cheating or displaying other forms of unethical and difficult behaviors.  They may be ruthless having no feeling or compassion for others.  Their reasons are their own and have no effect on our lives unless we let them close to us, unaware of their true nature.  If we fall into their game we may develop connections with them not knowing the full story.  We may end up in a nest of vipers without even knowing what happened.  But truth is very powerful and will always rise.  Nobody can fool everyone forever.  In time we will know the real story and if we want to change our situation, can do what is needed.  We are very intelligent and perceptive.  If things don’t add up, and there are continual doubts and questions about what someone is doing, we will uncover the truth.  Snakes are certainly sly and can be very sneaky but we can see everything clearly when we’re ready.  We deserve the best relationships possible and if we find we’re in a situation where we’ve been manipulated to believe things that are not true we can correct our course.  We can turn away from those who are disingenuous and dishonest.  Our lives are ours and no matter what connections we’ve made, if they are not what is best for us, we can disconnect and begin again.  Every success is possible for us.  By wisely choosing with whom we share our lives we will reach every desired destination.

Beautiful packaging can be interpreted as value.  Lovely words, compliments, and seemingly sincere offers to help can draw us in and make us believe we are cared for.  If the person offering these is honest and ethical we may develop a close and lasting bond.  But if they are merely playing a game to get something from us they desire, believing in them may bring us trouble in the end.  If things are not as they seem, we may question the situation and find the truth.  It’s good to trust others but if we discover that trust was misplaced we can step back and reroute our course.

If we discover someone we’re very close to hasn’t been honest and we have believed in a lie, we may be devastated.  We may blame ourselves for falling for them and decide we will never trust anyone else again.  Bad behavior belongs to those who use it and not those they hurt.  Believing someone and trusting them is appropriate.  If we find they have been dishonest, we are not at fault.  Every experience teaches us more about our lives and those with whom we associate.  We can learn as much from the situation as possible and take that knowledge forward to help us discern truth more effectively in the future.  We are capable of making excellent decisions, and using what we learn as we move forward will enhance our ability to succeed.

Today if you discover you’ve been tricked into believing something that isn’t true, step back and see the entire situation clearly.  You are smart and strong and can discern what is real.  Determine how you want to go forward and correct your course.  Be confident and wise.  Every success is available to you and nothing will keep you from it.

Speeding Along

4 Oct

When we have a lot of things to do and we’re busy rushing from one point to the next, our days can pass by in a blur.  We may have dozens of tasks waiting for our attention and in an effort to get to them all we may rush forward trying to get as much done as possible.  Going faster will often help us get more things done but it’s possible to rush so quickly through our days that we forget our focus and what it is we’re actually trying to accomplish.  If there is pressure from others to hurry along we may find ourselves running from one place to another unaware of exactly what we’re doing.  We may end up engaging our auto pilot and just keep rushing forward.  Our days go by quickly even if we pay attention and if we’re distracted we may find days, even weeks have passed and we don’t remember how we spent the time.  Time is a commodity we can never replace.  It passes whether we pay attention or not, and once it’s gone can never be recaptured.  Getting so caught up in running forward may prevent us from having our fullest experiences while we’re here.  We can be successful in completing many tasks and still take the time we need to be aware and engaged, and enjoy each moment as it passes.  We are in control of every decision.  We can manage our time effectively and slow down enough to live our lives each moment.  This life is a precious gift.  Honoring it and being in control of our time will bring us great contentment and success.

We live in a “hurry up” world.  Never before have we been expected to accomplish more than we are today.  We are constantly bombarded with suggestions that we can go further faster, we can accomplish more with less, and we can do many things effectively at once.  While it’s often true that we may move faster, it doesn’t always follow that doing so will bring us success.  It doesn’t matter what others expect or what timeframe they follow.  We are in control of our decisions and we can plan our lives in ways that bring us both success and happiness.

As we travel along there are many clues and cues available to us with each step we take.  Sometimes the very answer we’re seeking is right in front of us but if we rush by too quickly we may miss it.  It’s impossible to think clearly about our objectives if our first priority is the speed with which we reach them.  Our days will pass no matter how we spend them.  We can do things in ways that work best for us, take the time we need to see everything clearly, and accomplish any task before us.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well.  We can achieve any success we desire and we can do it in our own timeframe.

Today if you’ve been pushed to rush faster and get to the goal more quickly, think about what you’re trying to accomplish and find the road that works best for you.  You know yourself better than anyone else and you know what you need to succeed.  Listen for inspiration and make the best choice going forward.  You are amazing and capable and nothing is out of reach.  Plan your time and move ahead with confidence.  Every destination is available to you.  Find success your way and happiness will follow.

All the Cards

28 Sep

There are many things going on in our lives all the time and dozens of ideas and thoughts fill our minds. Whatever is going on we learn to adapt and navigate our way forward. Things go right and things go wrong, and if we’re wise we face each situation honestly and allow ourselves to see everything in the open. But if the news is bad or the road ahead is complicated we may decide to revise our vision and edit out the pieces that are uncomfortable. We may look the other way and when difficult issues arise, ignore them. We can always do anything we like and proceed on any road we choose, but truth is truth and will remain whether we look at it or not. Ignoring problems will never solve them or make them disappear. They will remain in place until we address them. All the cards are already on the table. It’s best to turn them all over, look at them openly and then decide on the best way forward. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to face anything that comes. There isn’t anything too difficult for us to solve and we can garner enough confidence to find the best way forward. Success belongs to those who take it. We can be strong and move forward with strength and certainty that we will prevail and nothing will hold us in place.

Covering something up does not make it disappear. If we’re facing difficult challenges and aren’t sure how to proceed, pretending it doesn’t exist will never help. Convincing ourselves the situation is different than it is, or setting it aside where we don’t have to face it will not change it. Every problem has an answer and we have everything we need to solve even very hard issues. We have already resolved many complications and can be confident that no matter what the problem is, we will find our way through. We are smarter and stronger than we think we are and have everything we need to prevail. There really isn’t anything we can’t do once we decide.

Hiding from complicated or difficult issues will never move us forward. We cannot advance if there is something we need to solve holding us back. Like a heavy weight anchored to the floor, no matter how hard we try to move it will hold us in place. We have all the courage we need to face our problems openly. We can do what is needed to work out every tangle and let it go. Our lives belong to us and we can manage them any way we like. Being completely honest and open, and facing complications as they come will allow us to move forward unencumbered and free. There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. The world belongs to us and we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been hiding from a complicated and difficult issue and it’s holding you back, determine to face it head on and find your way forward. You have everything you need to succeed and there is nothing too difficult for you. There are reserves of strength and wisdom inside you and you will find every answer. Be confident and move forward. You are wise and courageous. Everything you desire is waiting for you. Step forward. Success is just ahead.

Unbelievable

6 Sep

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives and the choices we make reflect who we are.  We can say anything and the real testimony of our character is evident in the decisions we make as we move along.  If we continually make commitments we don’t meet or promises we don’t keep it will be hard for others to trust us.  If we continually break our word, over time our word will become meaningless.  It’s easy to go along and say we’ll do something we have no intention of doing just to get through a sticky situation.  And we can make all the promises we want to others to make them happy even when we know we’ll never follow through.  Words are cheap and we can say anything.  The true test of who we are comes after we speak and commit.  If we follow through and keep our word we will gain the respect and trust of those around us.  If we renege or back out of our promises, our word will mean nothing.  We will become unbelievable and others will understand they cannot trust us.  Personal character is defined by the choices we make every day.  When we step up and do what we’ve agreed to we become trustworthy and valiant.  Our personal relationships are built on trust and once destroyed, is difficult to restore.  Every choice we make is important.  Every time we give our word we put our trust on the line.  We can choose to follow through and if we do, our connections to those around us will be strengthened.  We can make any decisions we like and have any kind of life we choose.  Learning to be truthful and trustworthy will help us avoid confusion and disharmony and bring us happiness.

Some people struggle with honesty.  They may manipulate situations to make them appear different than they really are and say things they don’t mean to get through a hard issue.  If we skate through a problem pushing off our responsibility and saying whatever is needed to move forward we may damage our credibility with those around us.  There is no problem too difficult for us to face honestly and find a way through.  We can be truthful and only make commitments we intend to keep to resolve any issue before us.

We may face very complicated and difficult situations are we navigate through our lives.  We don’t always have all the information we need to make the best choices but we can use what we have and determine the best way ahead.  If things change we can modify our course.  If we are honest in our decisions we will find our way.  Making an honest mistake will not reflect negatively on our character.  If we do the best we can we will find the way forward and succeed.

Today if you’re facing a difficult issue and are tempted to say anything just to get through, reach higher and navigate the situation honestly and openly.  You have everything you need to conquer any problem and others will trust you when you choose well.  You are wise and competent and know the way forward.  Make the best choices you can today and they will bring you blessings tomorrow.