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Worthless

6 Nov

Life is complicated and we never know what will happen next. There are endless twists and turns that may appear without warning, and in an instant, everything may change and we may find ourselves alone and lost. Storms will come, darkness will fall, and we may wrestle with serious problems and disappointments. When everything is going wrong and nothing we do makes anything better, we may feel helpless, impotent or even incompetent. Our feelings of worth may be damaged, and we may conclude that because we can’t fix things, we’re failures. However, failure isn’t determined by what goes wrong in our lives. Things are going to go wrong, mistakes will happen, plans will fail, and there may be times when we may end up with nothing. Our personal worth is not a reflection of what happens to us, but how we handle what comes and continue to move forward. We can’t predict the future and unexpected developments may stop us for a time. But we are strong and intelligent, and even if every single plan collapses, and every turn we can see is blocked, we will find our way. We can stand still and process everything that’s happened, and then take the time we need to think about how we want to proceed. There will always be a way forward, and every answer we need will be there. We are powerful and wise, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. We can be courageous and trust ourselves. We know what we want and we know where we want to go. Nothing is permanent and we can adjust our plans and start again. Life is all about learning, and unexpected changes bring lessons in stamina and strength. Every success we desire is still possible, and each step we take moves us closer to the destinations we desire.

Our lives are defined by our actions and choices. Some people are born to wealth and privilege, some to a more modest life, and some to poverty and hardship. No matter how we come into the world, the type of life we lead is our responsibility. Each choice we make defines the person we become. If we’re compassionate and wise, and choose well, our lives will reflect honesty and nobility. There is greatness in all of us, and when we express it through our actions every day, the whole world is blessed.

Some people are critical, and judge those around them by standards they set themselves. Their opinions belong to them and have no impact on the choices we make. Our lives are ours to design, and we can do anything we like. Our self-worth is reflected in everything we do. We are unique and valuable, and we can be confident moving forward on the roads we choose. Every option is open to us, and we can have the lives we dream about.

Today if nothing is going right, and you feel hopeless and alone, remember how wise and powerful you are. There isn’t anything strong enough to hold you in place forever. Look around at all the options possible, and take a step forward. Be confident. Every success is possible and you will reach them. You are worth more than you can imagine and we’re all blessed because you are here.

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The Price

17 Oct

We make many decisions as we go through our lives and each choice defines who we are and what we stand for. We try to make good decisions and most of the time we’re successful. Of course, nobody is perfect and we’re going to falter from time to time. However, taking a wrong turn accidentally is different from making a bad decision because we hope to gain something by trickery or deceit. One area that causes some issues is when money is involved. Financial gain is a big motivator and if we aren’t careful, it may motivate us into doing something questionable at best, and unethical or illegal at worst. They say everyone has a price and it’s determined by the choices we make. For instance, if we get home from the store and discover the clerk accidentally dropped a roll of quarters into our bag, and we don’t return it – the price of our honesty and ethics is worth about ten dollars. That’s not much money to trade away our nobility and virtue. We can justify the decision not to return the money by saying the store makes plenty and doesn’t need it, it’s a long way to drive and will cost us time and gas to return it, or we can see it as an unintended gift. No reason we come up with for not returning what doesn’t belong to us is valid. We are in control of our lives and can live them any way we want. If we want to be honest in our all dealings, we must make choices that reflect that decision. Our ethical standards will define us in many ways. Others will see the decisions we make and base their ability to trust us on what we choose. We are valiant and important, and can make excellent decisions that show others who we are. The whole world is blessed because we are here, and we can ensure our influence is beneficial by choosing well.

People aren’t what they say they are, they really are what they do. Some will say they are honest, but then do things that reflect a different expression altogether. Maybe they cheat on their time sheet at work, saying everyone does it. Or they manipulate situations to make them appear more successful and further along than they are. There are unlimited ways to shape things to make them appear different than they really are. True honesty is a virtuous and impressive trait that brings goodness and value to every situation. We can choose wisely, and make excellent decisions.

We must decide what kind of people we want to be. We can determine there is no price high enough for us to trade our honesty and valor. When we live with integrity, people will trust us and doors will open that might otherwise remain out of reach. Every choice we make takes us somewhere. We can choose the paths that take where we most want to go, and reflect the highest standards possible. Being honest in everything we do embellishes our lives, and brings us satisfaction and true happiness.

Today if you’re tempted to do something beneath your values in order to gain something you want, remember, every decision you make defines who you are. You are amazing and important. Show us your wisdom and integrity by choosing well. We’re all blessed because you are here. Choose wisely and step forward with confidence. Every success is there for you and choosing well will ensure you reach it.

Shake it Off

4 Oct

Everyone makes mistakes. We all want to succeed but even when we try to choose the best road ahead, sometimes we falter. There may be moments we don’t have access to all the information necessary to make the best choice, and things spiral out of control. We may be criticized when the bottom falls out, we may be called names and ridiculed, and we may feel horrible. It’s easy to identify wrong turns on the other side of the road but when we’re headed into them, it can be hard to see what’s coming. A misstep isn’t the end of the world and it’s certainly not the end of us. If we’ve fallen down, we can get right back up. We can learn everything possible from the experience, and then let it go. There are endless chances to start again. We haven’t used up all our chips no matter how bad the situation becomes. There is no problem without a solution and we can amend any situation and turn it around again. Mistakes will happen, but we are smart and capable, and can shake them off and find our way. Every experience, even the bad ones, teach us something of value. We can take what we’ve learned forward to help us move ahead and accomplish our goals. Our lives are important and we are valuable. Nothing can replace us or take our place. We have so much to offer, and when we stumble, we can right ourselves and keep going. Every goal is possible and success is always there, waiting for us. We can be confident and sure we will reach it.

We may be fooled and lied to by someone who is dishonest, and get badly hurt. They make take advantage of us, use us for their own advancement, destroy our plans, cheat and steal, and do all kinds of things that bring serious conflict and disharmony into our lives. We may wonder how we believed them when the truth comes out, but we never have to stay in any situation permanently. We can step away and turn in a new direction at any time. Our lives are always in our control and we deserve complete happiness. We can modify the way forward, disconnect from anyone trying to hold us back, and continue with confidence.

When our plans don’t work out and we realize we’ve made a big mistake and are headed in the wrong direction, we may feel stupid and foolish. Looking back, everything may be clear and obvious, but things were different at the start. We can only use the facts we have at the beginning, and sometimes they are incomplete or misleading. Taking a wrong turn does not define us. What defines us is our ability to continue moving forward no matter what happens. We know what we want and we can be determined and focused, and reach every goal we desire.

Today if you’ve made a mistake and feel you should have known better, remember you are wise and intelligent. You would never choose the wrong road on purpose. Each decision can be modified and you can correct your course. Every road is there for you and you will find the way. Be confident and stand strong. Learn all you can and start again. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Every success is possible, and you will reach your goal.

Justify

28 Aug

We can do anything we want, and make any decisions we desire, good or bad. Our lives are always in our control and we can take any road, and choose any path we like. We may make good decisions most of the time, but life can get complicated and sometimes the waters can get muddy. Maybe someone who has influence over us wants us to do something that goes against our values, or is dishonest. Or someone we love does something wrong and asks us to keep it to ourselves, even though it may hurt others. We can do anything we want and if we go along with things that aren’t in our best interest, may justify the decision because of our relationships or some other excuse. We can try to justify anything and we might be able to explain the situation away in some ways, but there is no way to change the truth. Explaining our reasons for making a wrong turn will never make it right. We can talk until we’re blue in the face, but the facts will still remain. Nobody is perfect and we all err from time to time. Hanging onto a bad decision and trying to convince others it’s really a good choice will never work in our favor. It’s exhausting, and unlikely to bring the results we’re seeking. If we’ve made a mistake, we will suffer the consequences. No justification can keep us from reaping the harvest we’ve sown, but all is not lost. When we falter, we can acknowledge the situation and then do what is needed to correct our course, and repair any damage we’ve done. We are strong and wise, and can change direction at any time. Every goal is possible, and with determination and careful consideration, we can make the best decisions to reach them.

It’s nice to dream about how life could be, and when we’re unhappy we can spend all the time we like imagining a better situation, but dreams will never change our reality. If we’re unhappy, and aren’t on the road we want to travel, we can do what is needed to change. Nothing is permanent and we can step onto a new path at any time. We need only decide what we want, and then begin to move toward it. Our lives are in our control, and we can do anything we like. We deserve complete happiness and satisfaction, and can make choices that will take us to it.

Decisions are a constant fact of life. Every single day we make dozens of them, and every step we take is affected by the choices we make. If we find we’re headed in the wrong direction, continuing forward will not magically turn us toward where we want to go. The wrong road will never turn into the right one on its own. We’re in charge of our lives and can stop, consider all possible options, and then choose the best way ahead. Every dream is possible and we can achieve the goals we desire most.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and have been trying to justify it to yourself and those around you, reconsider the way forward. You already know what you want. Change your course until you’re headed in the right direction. Make decisions that will bring your dreams into focus and create the life you desire the most. Everything is possible. Be wise and thoughtful, and every dream can come true.

Bad to Worse

22 Aug

Nobody’s perfect and we all make mistakes. Even when we’re trying our best, things go wrong sometimes and we may do something we regret or don’t want others to know about. The mistake we’ve made may be so difficult that we try to hide it from those around us. That may work sometimes, but if it doesn’t and someone finds out, in our embarrassment or shame, we may lie and say we didn’t do it, or don’t know anything about it. We may hope it’ll just fade away and no one will ever bring it up again – which again may work sometimes. However, if others get involved trying to find out what happened or who is responsible, and we keep lying to cover our tracks, our situation will only worsen. A mistake isn’t the end of the world and even if it’s bad, we can recover. But complicating matters further by lying and denying won’t solve anything. Instead our situation may deteriorate and we may find we’re in deeper than if we’d told the truth at the beginning. It’s like digging a hole. The first denial is the first shovelful of dirt out of the ground. Each additional lie or distraction digs us in further and before we know it, we’re in a hole we can’t get out of. One mistake is just that – one mistake. Even if it’s big and impacts others negatively, owning up to it at the beginning will make it possible for us to fix whatever has gone wrong, and start again. Wrong turns teach us a lot about the way forward. We discover what doesn’t work and can use that information to help us find the best roads ahead. Life is all about learning and we’re going to stumble from time to time. When we falter, admitting what we’ve done and gaining all we can from the experience, will help us find success as we move forward.

When we’re interacting with someone who wants us to do something difficult, it may not be easy to comply. If the task is hard and we’re struggling to get through, we may try to find a way around it. When asked about our progress, we may lie and say we’re doing fine, when in fact we’re no closer to completion than when we started. We never have to compromise our values in an effort to please someone else. If we can’t do what’s been requested, we can say so. Being honest in all our dealings, even those that are complicated and difficult, will bring us great confidence and satisfaction.

It’s possible to get tangled up in someone else’s problems. They may come to us for advice but then dump their issue onto us. We can always help but we never have to take ownership of anyone else’s trouble. We can be supportive and allow them to keep what is theirs. Our lives are important and we deserve to be happy and comfortable. We can make excellent decisions, and find our way with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and are trying to cover your tracks so others won’t know, think again. Be honest and own what’s yours. Then step forward and adjust your course until you find the best road ahead. You are amazing and strong, and nothing can hold you down. Be confident and trust yourself. All the answers are there for you and you will prevail.

Pointing the Way

15 Aug

Unless we live on top of a mountain, an isolated island or in some cave somewhere, there are going to be other people around us. The world is covered with billions of them and no matter where we go, or what we’re doing, odds are we’re going to run into them. They all have ideas about life and how things should go, and they may have ideas about what we should be doing. Everyone is certainly entitled to their own opinions, but when those opinions infringe on our decisions, we may run into complications. It’s unlikely anyone will know more about our lives than we do. They may offer advice and guidance, telling us that if we go where they’re pointing and do what they propose we’ll find happiness. It’s possible they might be right once in a while, and we can always take any suggestions we like, but we know ourselves better than anyone else ever could, and we know what we want and need. Nobody has access to our inner most thoughts and nobody will ever know everything about us. We are unique and entitled to live authentically in ways that represent exactly who we are. There may be differences from those around us but we don’t have to conform to what others are doing. We can do things our way. We are the only ones with the gifts we have to offer. Expressing our true nature and desires, and living our lives in ways that represent who we most want to be will bring us great satisfaction and happiness. There isn’t now, nor will there ever be, anyone else exactly like us. We are unique and exquisite exactly as we are. We can trust ourselves to live our lives honestly and openly. The whole world is blessed because we are here, and nothing can ever take that away.

Some people are very sure of themselves. If they have strong personalities, we may get caught up in their wake and end up following them in their decisions. There’s nothing wrong with going along with something if it’s what we really want to do. But if we’re on the wrong road, headed to a destination we don’t want, we have all the power and authority we need to step off and change direction.

We can have the lives we most desire but first we must decide what kind of lives we want. Do we want to do lots of new things and have many adventures, have a life filled with learning and advancement, or keep things close and well defined? Once we decide what we want the most, we can begin making it a reality. Every dream is possible and every choice is ours to make. We’re in control and can do anything we choose. It’s all up to us. We really can have the lives we dream about.

Today if someone is trying to point the way for you to go, decide what you want the most. You can do what others suggest, or chart your own course. You have so much to offer and we’re all enriched because you are here. Decide what you want and show us who you are. There is no one who can bring the blessings you offer. You are amazing and valuable. Step forward toward the goals you want the most, and you’ll find great success and happiness.

Heart

25 Jul

We live in a world with billions of people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there are many others around us all the time. They come and go every day, and we build connections and relationships, some just in passing, and others that last our entire lifetimes. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas about how the world works and how things should go. We may agree, or disagree, and every exchange teaches us something new. Sometimes misunderstandings arise and we may have no idea what went wrong. There are always a lot of distractions on the surface, but if we want to know what’s really going on, we’ll have to dig a little deeper. If we want to find out what’s really happening, we’ll have to get to the very heart of the matter. That may mean looking at things we’re uncomfortable with and allowing ourselves to be see where we may have gone wrong. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we discover we’ve done something that’s caused pain or discomfort, we can look at the situation openly and do what is needed to amend it. In times of distress or misunderstanding, it will never serve us to ignore the issue and pretend it will go away on its own. Most problems won’t resolve without the input of those involved. They may get pushed back and ignored, but they will remain unsettled until we clearly look at them and do what is needed to address them. If we refuse to see them, we will carry them forward with us indefinitely and they may affect our future happiness and comfort. We deserve to live happily and unencumbered by problems. We can face any situation pulling on us and find the answers we need to resolve it and let it go. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find every answer we desire. Our lives are important and we are valuable. We can live effectively and openly, and find every happiness.

Some people are very private and don’t like to share their feelings. They may not tell us if we’ve done something that’s offended them. Instead, they may pretend everything is fine but we may sense something is amiss. It can be hard to find answers when the person holding them isn’t comfortable sharing information with us. We can be patient and understanding, and extend the hand of friendship even in times of duress. Showing we care, despite any friction, will help us build trust and open the doors to better communication.

We have all kinds of relationships, and can always choose to build a bridge, or close a door. We don’t have to continue relationships that are painful, or destructive, and we can walk away if a situation isn’t working. If we aren’t comfortable, we can change direction and step away. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives, and we have everything we need to get them.

Today if you feel something amiss in a relationship and don’t know what to do, think about what’s happened and get to the heart of the matter. Reach for understanding, and then move forward with confidence. Nothing is too complicated for you to comprehend, and you will find all the answers you need.