Archive | June, 2018

Passing Chances

29 Jun

There are endless opportunities available to us as we go through our lives.  When we choose a path we want to pursue and work to push forward we often find success.  There isn’t anything we can’t do but we only have control over our own choices.  Other people may do things that hold us up, situations may develop that prevent us from moving forward, and an endless array of complications may arise that keep us from our goal.  There is always a chance of success no matter what we’re seeking but our lives are complex and sometimes things get in the way.  The door we must walk through to succeed may be blocked or crowded or locked in a way we can’t overcome.  There may be times when the chance to move forward passes us by and we must wait until the opportunity arrives again.  If everything we wanted to accomplish was completely in our control nothing would be impossible.  But in the real world control is mostly an illusion and except for the choices we make ourselves, all bets are off.  It’s disappointing to want something badly and be prevented from achieving it because of factors beyond our reach.  Our desire may be sufficient and our willingness to do what is needed may be intense but if we aren’t the only ones playing the game we may have to sit this round out and wait until things change.  Change is the only constant we can rely on.  Life continually evolves and whatever was in our way in the past will eventually move aside and we’ll be able to reach the goals we desire.  We have everything we need to accomplish anything.  Being willing to wait when we must and start again when the time is right will ensure our success.

Our decisions are ours alone and we can choose anything we desire at any time.  We don’t need the agreement of others as we design our lives but if they work against us, despite our strong desire to succeed, we may have to modify our direction for a time.  There is no reason to indefinitely push against strong winds of dissent.  We don’t have to change our focus but if we can’t move ahead we can step aside and wait until the situation improves.  Sometimes the difference between success and failure is only timing.  We can look at each situation objectively and determine the best way forward.

Some situations only come around once in our lives.  They are rare but when they happen if we can’t embrace them when they are possible we may have to leave them behind.  There is no one right way to live life.  If we miss the chance to move forward on one road there will always be another to travel.  We can be flexible and accept change as it happens.  If we must redirect our course, we can find the best way forward.  Learning to bend and modify our plans when necessary will help us continue on the roads we most want to travel and ensure we’ll reach success.

Today if you’ve missed the chance to do something you wanted because of situations beyond your control, look ahead and choose the next road that will move you forward.  You are creative and wise and nothing is beyond your understanding.  Success is still possible and with time and patience you’ll reach it.

 

Waiting and Hoping

28 Jun

The world is filled with opportunities and we can do anything we want to do. There are endless activities and goals to achieve and if we’re determined we will reach success. There is no end to what we can accomplish and every dream is possible. We can plan and move forward step by step until we reach the destinations we desire. Although anything is possible it’s highly unlikely we’ll achieve our goals by standing around and waiting for them to appear. Coasting along and simply hoping what we really want will present itself will never work. While it’s true that sometimes things fall into our laps with little effort, those instances are rare and unusual. We can’t expect the world or those around us to give us what we want simply because we desire it. We must work and push our own way forward to get to our goals. Our lives are our responsibility and we own every decision we make. We can wait for things to happen until the end of time and maybe some things will come our way. But if we really want the life we dream about we have to take charge and do what is necessary to make it happen. Sitting around and waiting will only give us exactly what we have right now. If we want something more we have to work for it. It takes effort to change our lives and energy to take us where we want to go but we have sufficient drive and ambition to find success. We know what we want and we can figure out how to get it. We can make a plan, work hard and reach any goal. It’s all up to us but if we apply ourselves and continue to move forward, every destination is possible.

There are no fairy godmothers waiting in the wings to make our dreams come true. There are no magic wands or genies languishing in bottles eager to turn our lives around. If we aren’t where we want to be we can decide on a new road and begin forward in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and if we aren’t happy we can change our circumstances and move toward the lives we want. Nothing is too far to reach and we can do anything we desire. All options are possible and with effort and planning we can make them ours.

Waiting for our lives to change and happiness to arrive is like waiting for snow in July. It’s probably not going to happen but we have complete control over our lives and can do anything we want at any time. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. If we don’t like what we’re doing, we can change. We can have the lives we dream about by taking the steps needed to make them ours. We deserve complete happiness and with determination and persistence we can do anything.

Today if you’re not happy where you are and want a change, take the first step in a new direction. You can go anywhere and do anything. You are stronger and braver than you realize and there isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Take control and turn your course toward the goals you most desire. Everything is possible. You deserve complete and full happiness. Move forward and make your dreams come true.

Making Predictions

26 Jun

Our lives are a combination of what’s behind us, what we’re going through now and what we hope will come in the future.  When we make decisions that fail or take us somewhere we didn’t want to go we can learn from what happened and take the lessons forward with us to help us choose more wisely in the future.  Everyone has something in their past they would like to erase, some choice that turned out badly and hurt them or those around them.  It would be great if we could delete the things we’ve done we regret but this is real life and what’s behind us is permanent and unchangeable.  Looking back in an effort to see things more clearly and understand more deeply what happened in an effort to learn can be helpful.  But if we hold onto what we perceive as personal failures and get stuck obsessing over what we did wrong it may color our ability to be successful in the future.  There is no way to predict what will come to us but we have control over how we handle every situation every time.  We are not doomed to repeat mistakes again and again simply because they are part of our history.  We can change and grow and learn new ways to find success.  Everyone makes mistakes – sometimes big, disastrous mistakes – but they don’t predict what we’ll do in the future.  We are capable of learning and using increased wisdom as we move forward, and when we do, no matter what’s happened in the past, we can find success.
There is a common saying that “Once a dog, always a dog,” meaning if someone made a big mistake in the past, odds are they’ll do it again.  We’re all capable of change and if we fall down we can learn everything possible so we can choose more effectively in the future.  However, if we stumble and refuse to see the lessons there for us, we may well repeat the behavior, sometimes again and again.  We are in control of the decisions we make and our futures belong to us.  We can become the people we most want to be by paying attention and gaining all we can from what we experience each day and using the lessons learned to help us move forward.
One big mistake does not determine our future.  Even if everything falls apart and our lives seemingly blow up in our faces we are not permanently frozen in place.  Sometimes everything goes wrong and at first, we can’t see the way forward.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold us down forever.  No matter what goes wrong there will be another day and new decisions to make.  We can be confident, even if we’ve failed in the past, that we can reach success.  The wrong decision is only that – the wrong decision.  It’s not the end of the road.  We can reroute the way forward and start again.  Every dream is possible and nothing can keep us from achieving them.
Today if you’re focusing on something that went wrong in the past and aren’t sure you can reach your goals, there is always a way to find success.  There are unlimited choices before you and you can do anything.  Step forward and start again.  Every option is there and nothing is out of reach.  Learn from the past and push ahead.  The whole world is waiting for you.  Every dream can come true and you will succeed.

Pernicious Anger

25 Jun

Pernicious – Causing insidious harm or ruin; ruinous; injurious; or hurtful.

There are ups and downs in all our lives.  Things go right, they go wrong, disappointments happen, people let us down and there are endless other outcomes.  Anger is a normal part of life.  If someone does something that affects us negatively or our experience is far from what we want or expect we may get angry.  There is nothing wrong with feeling anger but how we express it can affect what happens next.  If we lash out at others and say or do things that are beyond what the relationship can bear, we may damage it beyond repair or lose it altogether.  Pernicious anger may ruin our connections going forward.  We are always in control of our lives and if we allow angry emotions to determine how we act we may end up somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we feel ourselves getting carried away in a wave of disappointment or anger, instead of acting out we can step back and allow ourselves to calm down before we react.  The fight or flight reflex is very strong and powerful but generally we neither need to fight nor run away to find resolution.  We can take a breath, stop and think and give ourselves a moment to see everything before we respond.  Learning to act on disappointment instead of react to it will help us find a positive outcome.  No problem is improved by adding intensity and anger to it.  We can control our actions and responses even in times of duress and navigate anger effectively.  There is always a possible positive outcome and if we take our time we’ll find it.

Self-control is a learned response.  Children express anger by crying, screaming or pouting but as we grow and mature if we want to be successful adults we must replace those instantaneous responses with something more thoughtful and successful.  There are few things more disagreeable than an adult who acts like a child.  We can learn the skills we need to be patient in disappointment and tolerant when things go wrong.  We are mature enough and wise enough to find the best way forward no matter the situation.

It’s impossible to listen to other perspectives if we’re concentrating on smashing the opposing point of view.  If we over react every time something goes wrong or someone disagrees with us we may end up burning bridges and ruining relationships.  We might win the current battle but lose the connection going forward.  We can align our priorities and address conflict in ways that protect our sincerest interests.  Maturity and wisdom come with practice and we can choose wisely in difficult times to help us become the people we most want to be and preserve the relationships we value.

Today if feel intensely angry over something, before you react take a moment to look at the situation objectively.  Determine what is most important before you move forward and then choose the path that will take you there.  You are wise and strong and what you want most is possible.  Every positive outcome is there for you and with patience and clarity you will find it.

Crucible

22 Jun

Each of us faces many challenges as we go through our lives.  We learn to overcome difficulty with practice and gain strength by pushing hard against trials that test and define us.  We may experience a severe complication that makes us question our ability to overcome and knocks us completely down.  We may lose everything we thought was real and have to face a brand new reality – one we may never have planned on and don’t want.  When everything blows up and we’re standing bereft and shaken it may seem impossible that anything will ever be right again.  The crucible is upon us and we must face it alone.  We will each face a moment when everything changes and our lives hang in the balance.  What we do from that moment forward will define the life we have.  If we allow the situation to utterly crush us and give up, surrendering to the pain and refusing to get up again, our lives will in essence stop at the moment of impact.  Nothing will change and we’ll be stuck in sorrow and pain forever.  But if we are determined to continue ahead we can pull from deep inside and garner all the strength and wisdom we possess.  Trouble will come and at some point we may be overwhelmed.  We can give up and lie down or we can stand strong against the wind and push forward despite the struggle.  Our lives are always in our control.  Even against terrific odds and intense distress, success is possible.  We always have everything we need to keep going no matter what has happened.  We can trust in ourselves to correct our course and find the way forward.

Sometimes the very thing we think we could never endure happens to us and suddenly we are faced with our worst nightmare.  There is never any way to turn back the clock to prevent a disaster or prepare for its arrival.  We have to take things as they come and when bad things happen it may be extremely difficult to keep going.  We may be stunned and shocked, unable to move or even think as we try to figure out what to do.  There is no way to control most of what happens in our lives but we have what we need to get through whatever comes and find our way again.  We are strong and possess everything necessary to solve any situation and continue forward.

We may face something so encompassing it changes our circumstances from that point forward.  What was possible before is no longer an option and we must recreate the road ahead.  When everything around us changes and nothing is familiar we may lose our confidence not sure of what’s happening or where to go.  If we step back and look at everything objectively and see the entire situation openly we will find the answers we need to begin again.  Starting over brings new blessings and lessons that help us in the journey ahead.  We can do anything.  We are powerful and capable and nothing, nothing can hold us down.

Today if you’re facing a serious trial and have no idea what to do, remember all the times you’ve faced trouble before and prevailed.  You are mighty and powerful and nothing is too strong for you to overcome.  Be courageous and confident.  You have everything you need to find your way.  Success is there for you and you will reach it.