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Over It

4 May

We go through many different experiences as we navigate the days, months and years of our lives. Some things are unexpected and take our breath away with their sudden appearance and intensity, and there may be times when it seems all at once everything has changed. What we counted on is no longer available and the whole landscape looks different. When we go through challenging and difficult periods, we may have to work hard to overcome serious issues and complications. But in time, as we find our way through, we’ll get over it and move on. We are very capable and can manage whatever happens, but life has a way of looping around. What we think we’ve mastered or overcome, may creep back in a new way that takes us by surprise and suddenly we’re reminded of where we were. It may seem that despite all the work we’ve done and everything we’ve accomplished, we’re right back at square one, but that won’t be completely true. Every day and with everything we do, we gain more insight and the tools we need to move forward. Old problems may resurface, but we will never be exactly the same today as we were the first time we faced them. We don’t need to fall down and get overwhelmed. Instead, we can step back, look at everything objectively and trust that we have everything we need to process any complication or situation that arises. We are stronger, wiser and more powerful than we think we are, and there isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. With confidence and clarity we can find all the answers we need and continue ahead toward success. There isn’t anything we can’t do, and every destination will always be there for us.

There are all kinds of people in the world and we’ll meet many different types of personalities. Sometimes we may have to work with someone who is rude or hateful, or for reasons we can’t identify seems to dislike us. It may be very difficult to engage with them and find any common ground. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, but we are not entitled to hurt others or make them feel bad. If there is a way to modify the situation so we don’t have to work with them, we can take it. If not, we can make the best choices possible and set the best example for good, fair behavior and continue on.

Heartbreak is very painful and can take a long time to recover from. No matter how hurt or disappointed we are, by focusing on our own personal goals and success, we will find the ways needed to overcome and heal. Once we’re on solid ground again, all the challenges and struggles we faced will bring us greater strength and wisdom. Wounds hurt but nothing lasts forever. By taking our time and learning all we can, we will gain great blessing and benefit from the experience, and more understanding as we move ahead.

Today if something you thought you were over has resurfaced and you feel like you’re back at the beginning again, take another look. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine and have learned many powerful and helpful lessons. Trust yourself and stand strong. Every dream you desire is there for you and every destination is possible. Nothing can hold you in place, and you will prevail. Step forward, confident and clear. Success is there for you and you will claim it.

Changing Them

12 Apr

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives. With some we build strong relationships and connections, others are co-workers and acquaintances, and there are some we just wave to in passing. There may be a time when we meet someone and are instantly captivated by them. Maybe it’s the way they look, or there is undeniable chemistry between us. Infatuation can be intense and if we’re under the spell, we may lose all sense of restraint and normalcy. There may be an extreme desire to abandon all caution and do anything to get closer. But first impressions can never tell us everything, and as we interact and spend time together, issues may arise that under normal circumstances may send us packing. If we’re entranced, we may think they don’t matter, we can do what is needed to change the other person so it won’t be an issue. We may believe that by spending more time with them, even marrying them, they will change and the problems will go away. Thinking we can change anyone else for any reason is a recipe for disaster. We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and the odds that we’ll be able to alter someone’s personality in ways that work better for us are slim to none. We are who we are, and although change is always possible, it must come from inside us and the desire to change must be great. No relationship is perfect, but if we’re willing to accept others for who they are instead of trying to change them, we have the best chance of success. We all have a lot to offer, but our gifts are different and varied. Looking at everything objectively and realistically will help us decide how best to proceed. We deserve complete happiness, and by being open and seeing things clearly, we will achieve it.

Love means different things to different people. To some it means we will do everything for them and change our lives to fit their model. They may tell us that if we love them, we’ll do as they ask. We’ll change the way we look, or how we act, or what we like, or a million other details. Loving someone doesn’t mean we give up who we are. We are unique and valuable and have individual gifts to offer nobody else can give. We never have to acquiesce to ideas we don’t want or that take us from who we really are. If the relationship requires more than we want to give, we can step away and move in a new direction.

Rushing into a relationship rarely leads to long term satisfaction. Getting to know someone takes time. Learning how we relate to one another and what works takes focus and effort. Running fast into the wind will definitely take us somewhere, but if we can’t clearly see where we’re headed, we probably won’t end up where we wanted to go. We can have rich, fulfilling relationships if we take things one step at a time. Our lives are important, and we deserve every good gift. Being thoughtful and wise, we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been captivated by someone and can’t get them out of your mind, stand still and think about how you want to proceed. Take the time you need to really know them, and then choose your next steps forward. You are amazing and have so much to offer. Everything you desire is possible, and with wisdom and patience, they will be yours.

Big Red Line

31 Mar

Everyone has their own ideas about how life should go and what we should do. We all have our own personal preferences about everything in our lives. We like some things over others, and pattern our lives in ways that enable us to do what we prefer. There are endless expressions and unlimited varieties all around us. When we want something, we can clearly define what it is, what it looks like, how we’ll get it and thousands of other parameters. If we’re looking for a companion, we can define the traits we like the most and try to find someone who fits them but it’s important not to draw the lines too severely. We can narrow the field all we like, but the more lines we draw and parameters we set, the smaller the group of possibilities will be. If we say we will only date people who are tall and have red hair, and refuse to even consider anyone else, we will eliminate a lot of other potential candidates. If we further add they must work in a specific field, make a defined amount of money, drive a certain type of car, and dress in ways we find attractive, we may specify ourselves right out of success. It’s good to know what we want, but if we keep our options open and allow a wide scope, we have a better chance at finding what we want. Sometimes the perfect situation is completely different than we imagined it would be. By keeping our minds open to all possibilities, we can achieve anything we desire. Every success is possible in every arena of our lives. We have what we need to find them, and with clarity and patience, we will reach them all.

When we’re facing a big decision and look at all the options before us, we may quickly discard some because we don’t like them, or they look too hard to manage. The first look at something can never tell us all the facts. New and uncharted roads may seem daunting at first, but if we take one step closer, and then another, we may find what looked impossible at first is within reach. Throwing ideas away before we find out what they have to offer may keep us from the best roads ahead. We are intelligent and highly capable. There isn’t anything we can’t understand and manage.

The past can never predict the future. If we’ve had a bad experience with something we might avoid anything that looks like it or reminds us of it as we move forward. Life isn’t a record that repeats over and over again. We need not limit anything because of a previous loss. One failure cannot keep us from success. It doesn’t matter what happened before, everything is still possible. Each day brings new opportunities for success, and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been drawing a big red line around things you will not do, think about expanding your vision. You are incredibly capable and powerful, and nothing is too difficult or complex for you to understand. Be open to new ideas, and courageously step forward. The world is full of possibilities and everything is on the table. Every success is there for you. Keep your eyes open and they will all be yours.

Sticks and Rocks

4 Mar

There is a lot of uncertainty in life and we never know what will happen next. There’s no way to see what’s around the next bend or what lies ahead. The best we can do is build the best foundation possible in our plans, and modify them as needed to accommodate whatever changes may come. When laying the foundation for a road, the area is plowed smooth and cleared of debris before the first layer of pavement is applied. If rocks and sticks are left in the way and get covered, as they move or disintegrate, they will compromise the strength of the base being prepared. As we try to lay a strong foundation for the future, if we ignore problems that need our attention, or leave issues unsettled, just like sticks and rocks in the foundation, our plans may become unstable and falter. Nobody likes to face difficult, hard to manage situations but looking the other way and pretending they don’t exist will never help us move forward. Crap happens, and it’s going to happen to us all at some point. What we do when things go wrong will impact how successful we are as we move ahead. By taking the time to unravel complications and find solutions to problems as they arise, we can pave the road ahead and make our journey easier. We are wiser and more capable than we imagine, and there isn’t anything too complex or hard for us to overcome. Every destination is possible if we take care of problems along the way, build a solid foundation, and do what is needed to succeed. We can go anywhere and do anything, and nothing is out of reach.

When there is a lot to do or a long way to go, we may look for shortcuts and ways to make the journey easier. Shortcuts may seem like a good idea, and sometimes they work out just fine, but if we miss necessary steps that ensure our success, they may come back to bite us in the end. If there’s a big event coming up we want to look our best for and have put off losing the ten pounds we wanted to lose before it happens, we may decide to go on a starvation diet to try and lose it all in two weeks. That’s definitely a short cut but it’s so extreme it may not work. By looking at the goal clearly and openly, we can choose the best way to achieve it without taking shortcuts, and reach success.

If we want to accomplish something, but do nothing to prepare to get to the goal, it’s unlikely we’ll get there. If we need to alter our plans due to complications or unforeseen changes, we can. If we need more information, we can get it. If we need help, we can ask for it. Everything we desire is possible, but we must put forth the effort required to make it ours. We are powerful and strong, and have all the wisdom we need to do anything we like. Every goal is possible, and when we’re ready, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if there’s something you want to do, begin laying the foundation to begin. You have everything necessary to prevail and all the answers you need are there for you. Decide what you want the most, and chart your course forward. Every dream is possible, and nothing is too difficult or complicated for you to manage. Trust yourself and be confident. All your dreams are there waiting. Step forward and make them yours.

Never Done

4 Feb

We all have responsibilities and things we need to get done. We have families, jobs, appointments, meetings, and a thousand other things we must attend to and take care of.  We are often busy and as we go about doing what must be done and addressing each situation and complication as it arises, time is passing by.  There is only so much we can concentrate on at a time, and as we busily check each item off our to-do list, we may set aside our own personal goals. Everyone knows what they want most in their lives, but there’s a lot going on, and it’s easy to forget the dreams in the backs of our minds as one thing leads to another and takes our attention. Routines become the norm, expectations get met, and we may rarely stop and think about what we want the most, or what destinations are calling us. Life goes by and before we know it, years may have passed and we haven’t moved any closer to the dreams we’ve tucked away. It’s important to take care of ourselves and attend to our responsibilities, but our personal lives are important as well. We don’t have to sacrifice the things we really want indefinitely, or give all our time and energy away. If we keep doing the same things, we’ll keep getting the same results. If we want something we’ve never had, we must do something we’ve never done. We are wise enough to figure out how to manage our lives and still move forward toward our dreams. There are endless possibilities, and nothing is out of reach. We really can have the life we dream of, if we’re willing to take the time to do what is necessary to create it for ourselves. We deserve complete happiness, and don’t have to settle for anything less. There is excellence in us, and with focus and determination, we can achieve anything we desire. 

No matter where we are, there will likely be other people around us. Every group has its own patterns and traditions, and they may have influence over what we do and where we go. If we want to step away toward something new and focus on a different destination, there may be pushback. It’s a lot easier to get along when everyone is going in the same direction, and we may be encouraged to just continue with the group moving forward. Going along may be easier, but if we want something different, we can have it. Every dream is possible and by keeping our eyes focused on what we desire most, we will reach success.

Doing something new means stepping onto an unknown road. We don’t know how things will develop, or what will happen next. It’s easy to stick to what’s familiar, but our greatest happiness comes when we step beyond where we are, and move toward what we want.  Deciding to push through complications in the way, and continuing forward until we reach the destination, will bring us incredible satisfaction and contentment. We can begin now to do what is needed to get the lives we want the most, and reach every goal.

Today if you’ve been busy getting things done, and have put off the dreams you desire, think about how you want to proceed.  This is your life and you can design it any way you like. Make a plan to move closer to what you want the most, and take the first step. Keep your eyes on the goal and trust yourself. You will gain the prize and every blessing will be yours.