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Thin Skin

7 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world and they each have their own ideas about life and how things should go. We know who we are, and are sure about what we want and how we want to move forward. It’s easy to make friends and feel comfortable when those around us are like us. When they believe the same things we do, and understand our point of view, it’s easy to connect and build alliances. But the world is a big place, and people come from many diverse backgrounds. There will be many others who are vastly different than we are, and their views may be in direct opposition to what we believe is right. That does not make them wrong, or wicked, or less than us. It only makes them different. If we can’t tolerate anything outside our own ideas, it will be very difficult to interact with them. We are entitled to believe anything we desire and we can form our own opinions about everything in life. But if we’re so thin skinned we cannot tolerate anyone who is different, it may be difficult for us to get along. Some people say they “celebrate diversity” but when someone questions their ideas and presents an opposing view, they shut down or become angry. No two people are exactly the same. Everyone has their own perspective, and unless they are hurting others, each has value. We don’t have to adopt anything we don’t want, and can decide how we’ll live our own lives. We can be confident in our views, and strong enough to accept other points of view, even if we don’t understand or agree with them. Life is full of variety and variation. We can be welcoming and respect other points of view, and still hold onto to what is most important. Everyone has worth, and we can honor each individual, and still choose our own way forward.

When we’re growing up, what we experience in our families seems normal and right. As we mature, we begin to see other expressions and understand that our experience is unique to us and not universal. We can hold onto exactly what makes us comfortable and refuse to change, or we can embrace other points of view and allow them to enrich our understanding of the world around us. Holding on may feel comfortable, but will never allow us to expand our thinking and become more accepting.

Life would be easier if everyone was the same. If we were all on the same road with the same ideas, there would be less conflict and more harmony. That may be true, but it’s the differences that bring great richness to our experience, and broaden our thinking. We can accept difference and uniqueness, and honor the right for everyone to express their own ideas and viewpoints. Life is a great teacher, and by being open and welcoming, we will gain great insight and wisdom.

Today if you want everyone to agree with you and find it hard to accept different points of view, remember we are all important and worthwhile. Each expression has value. Be open to new ideas that will enhance your experience and help you understand the world. You are incredible and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Let others tell you who they are, and welcome new ideas. Your life will be enriched, and you’ll find great satisfaction moving forward.

Along the Way

13 Jul

As we go through our lives there will likely be times when we badly want to accomplish something in particular. If we’re intensely interested in getting to the goal, it may consume our thoughts, and we may try to manipulate every step we take in order to move closer to it. We may become obsessed with getting there, and concentrate solely on what we need to do next to move forward. It’s good to be focused on the goals we want to accomplish but every day is a blessing, and as we push ahead, there will be other things going on. There will rarely be a time when we are only working on one thing. Most often, other areas and aspects of our lives will need our attention, and there will always be unexpected developments that require our consideration. If we only focus on the goal we’re seeking, we may brush other things off that happen along the way, and see them as distractions instead of opportunities. We are learning with each step we take and as we manage each issue, we gain new skills to carry forward. The road ahead is important, but there are other benefits we’re gaining as we move along. No matter what road we’re on, we’ll have lots of experiences along the way that open our vision a little more, and teach us something new. If we rush forward, focused only on our goal, we will miss the richness gained by embracing each step and learning all we can. Every goal is possible, and we already have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can trust ourselves to reach success, and still be involved in the world around us. There are unlimited blessings waiting for us, and we can have the lives we dream about.

Only concentrating on the road ahead might help us move forward a little more quickly, but tunnel vision prevents us from seeing what’s going on around us right now. If we ignore our relationships, thinking we’ll just set them aside until we reach success and then go back to them, we might find that when we go back, there is nothing there. Neglect can ruin connections and we might lose a precious bond pushing ahead. Good, strong relationships embellish our lives and bring us great satisfaction. We can keep our eyes on the goal we desire, and still make our personal connections a priority. If we do, we’ll find great success in all areas of our lives.

Each day we learn something new. We pick up a little more information about where we are and what we’re doing, and learn more about those around us and our place in the world. Being present for today instead of thinking only of tomorrow, will open our minds to every opportunity and help us open new doors ahead. Each day is a blessing, and by paying attention, not just to our personal goals, but to everything happening around us, our lives will be rich and fulfilling.

Today if you’re intent on reaching a goal, and are focused on your next step ahead, look up and see every opportunity around you. Today is the most important day of your life. It’s the only day you can live right now. Move toward the destinations you desire while embracing the world around you now. You are incredible and capable, and every goal is already there for you. Success is yours, and you will have it.

Under Fire

22 Jan

Every person in the world has their own perspective and ideas about how things should go. There is nobody exactly like us and with all these differences there’s bound to be conflict from time to time. If we feel strongly about something and others disagree, we may face a difficult situation filled with emotion and intensity. Sometimes the lines between right and wrong are obvious and everyone agrees on the limits. But most of the time, the options are flexible and will bend depending on what we want to accomplish and who we’re dealing with. If there are several others on one page and we’re on another, there may be a strong campaign to get us to change. We can always alter any views we like, but if we feel intensely about our position, we may hold fast to it and push ahead despite the opposition. When we’re on the outside of the prevailing viewpoint and want something different, we may find ourselves under fire. If we’re being criticized, ridiculed or denounced, it may be very hard to keep our composure and maintain our self-control. Of course, we always have the right to stand and defend our position and if we’re being unfairly treated can return equal fire. But screaming back and getting into an altercation will never help us settle the situation. We can keep our resolve, agree to disagree, and move forward on our own road. We have the right to live our lives any way we choose, even if it means going against everyone else. We don’t need agreement or permission to do things our way. If others disagree, they can deal with that. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them in ways that bring us complete satisfaction and happiness. Nothing is out of reach, and we can make our dreams reality.

Conformity is easy to manage. If everyone does the same things, we all know what to expect and there are few surprises. But conformity often requires us to go along with someone else’s ideas about life and when we sacrifice who we are and what we want, we can never reach our own goals. Our lives are important. We have unique and exclusive talents to bring and specific things we want to accomplish. We never have to trade what we want most to get along. We can live our lives individually and honestly, and reach any destination we desire.

We all want to get along with those around us and live a peaceful existence. If we’re under fire for a decision we’re making, we may be uncomfortable. We can always abandon our views and agree to do what everyone else wants, but if we give up on our dreams, we will never achieve them. We deserve complete happiness and by holding fast to what is important and choosing our own destinations, we will create the life we want the most. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if those around you are trying to convince you to go their way, but you have something else in mind, stay to true to what you want. Your life is important and you can choose your own way forward. Be confident and step forward with clarity. You are amazing and capable, and all your dreams are possible.

Control

7 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world. Most of us are nice, try to follow the rules and be considerate of others. We’re all entitled to make our own decisions and can design our lives any way we want. Although we can make our own choices, there are some people who like control. They tell others what to do, how to do it, when to do it and where. While controlling others may make them feel more confident and secure, it’s very uncomfortable for those with whom they interact. Nobody wants to be told how to live their lives. It’s annoying and awkward to get directions from an outsider regarding our personal choices. We already know what we want and don’t need someone else revising our plans. If we must interact with someone who wants to be in control of everything we do, it may be difficult to move ahead. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We can make our own plans and determine every step we take. If others try to move in and take command over our lives, we don’t have to comply. We can step back and turn in another direction. We never have to do anything that makes us uncomfortable or takes us away from the things we most want to achieve. Nobody can live our lives but us, and we are responsible for every choice we make. We can go anywhere we choose, but if we sit back and let others direct us, we will end up where they want to go. What is perfect for them may not be what we want at all. We never need follow along no matter who is involved. It doesn’t matter how powerful someone else is, or how much influence they have, we can take charge and make our lives our own. We know how we want our lives to be, and with confidence and determination, we can achieve everything we desire. Nothing is too difficult for us to overcome and we can reach every goal we choose. Our personal success is important, and with focus and persistence, we will reach it.

It’s inappropriate to try to control other people’s choices. If we’re sure we’re right, we may try to influence them, cajole them, entreat them and plead with them to do things our way. However, directing others to follow us will not bring us real satisfaction or  lasting happiness. We have our own lives to manage and we’ll never move forward if we insist on directing traffic. We can trust others to make their own decisions and travel their own journeys.

Nobody is perfect or has all the right answers. Even if we have a genius IQ, we can’t know everything, but we can share what we know to embellish every situation. We can contribute without trying to control. Everyone has something wonderful to give and by honoring each individual and respecting their choices, we will find the best answers moving forward.

Today if you’re sure you have the right answers and want others to do things your way, remember everyone has something to share. We are all valuable and important. Be confident in your abilities, and allow those around you to contribute to your success. You are wise and thoughtful, and we all want to work with you. Every goal is possible, and together we can make our dreams come true.

Making an Impact

28 Feb

Nobody lives in a bubble exclusive to those around them. We’re all part of the world and everything we do has an effect on something around us. Newton’s Third Law of Motion states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Everything we do causes something else to happen. The response may be small and we may not notice anything different but it’s impossible to live our lives without creating some sort of change. Each decision causes a ripple effect that may create a new situation somewhere else. What kind of effect we have depends on the decisions we make, and our behavior influences everything around us. If we have a happy demeanor and positive outlook, we may bring light to others. Conversely, if we’re rude or grumpy, angry or curt, we may bring something else entirely, and if we’re vengeful or manipulative, may sow seeds of discontent and distrust. Every choice will produce some sort of response. We aren’t responsible for the feelings and choices of others, but we are responsible for the way our behavior and decisions impact their lives. We are part of the whole and whether we acknowledge that or not is irrelevant. Each step leaves an imprint and it’s up to us to decide what that will do. We can be mindful of every decision and think about all the possible ramifications before we act. We have everything we need to live happily and successfully. We have so much to offer, and with patience and careful consideration, can bring light and joy to those around us.

Nobody lives in nirvana and sometimes disappointing things happen that hurt us and change how we feel about the world. When things go wrong and we’ve been hurt, we may decide we’ve had enough and determine to seclude ourselves from others. We have a lot to offer but it will be impossible to share our gifts if we lock our lives away because of pain or disappointment. We can manage anything that comes and find our way back to happiness. We are capable, strong and wise, and nothing can keep us from the lives we desire.

Happiness comes from our actions but some people think they can find it by hurting others out of spite or maliciously causing problems for those around them. Their motivations will never justify the hardship they create and, in the end, they may find themselves angry and alone. The law of the harvest is inescapable. If we sow seeds of discontent, we will never reap joy. Everything we do takes us somewhere. We can make excellent choices that take us where we want to go and bring us great happiness.

Today, think about your decisions before you act. Make sure they will bring you the results you desire. You’re in control of your life and can do anything you choose. Make choices that will take you to the destinations you want the most and bring happiness into your life. You are a blessing to us all and have so many gifts to offer. Share them with us and make the world a better place.