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Control

7 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world. Most of us are nice, try to follow the rules and be considerate of others. We’re all entitled to make our own decisions and can design our lives any way we want. Although we can make our own choices, there are some people who like control. They tell others what to do, how to do it, when to do it and where. While controlling others may make them feel more confident and secure, it’s very uncomfortable for those with whom they interact. Nobody wants to be told how to live their lives. It’s annoying and awkward to get directions from an outsider regarding our personal choices. We already know what we want and don’t need someone else revising our plans. If we must interact with someone who wants to be in control of everything we do, it may be difficult to move ahead. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We can make our own plans and determine every step we take. If others try to move in and take command over our lives, we don’t have to comply. We can step back and turn in another direction. We never have to do anything that makes us uncomfortable or takes us away from the things we most want to achieve. Nobody can live our lives but us, and we are responsible for every choice we make. We can go anywhere we choose, but if we sit back and let others direct us, we will end up where they want to go. What is perfect for them may not be what we want at all. We never need follow along no matter who is involved. It doesn’t matter how powerful someone else is, or how much influence they have, we can take charge and make our lives our own. We know how we want our lives to be, and with confidence and determination, we can achieve everything we desire. Nothing is too difficult for us to overcome and we can reach every goal we choose. Our personal success is important, and with focus and persistence, we will reach it.

It’s inappropriate to try to control other people’s choices. If we’re sure we’re right, we may try to influence them, cajole them, entreat them and plead with them to do things our way. However, directing others to follow us will not bring us real satisfaction or  lasting happiness. We have our own lives to manage and we’ll never move forward if we insist on directing traffic. We can trust others to make their own decisions and travel their own journeys.

Nobody is perfect or has all the right answers. Even if we have a genius IQ, we can’t know everything, but we can share what we know to embellish every situation. We can contribute without trying to control. Everyone has something wonderful to give and by honoring each individual and respecting their choices, we will find the best answers moving forward.

Today if you’re sure you have the right answers and want others to do things your way, remember everyone has something to share. We are all valuable and important. Be confident in your abilities, and allow those around you to contribute to your success. You are wise and thoughtful, and we all want to work with you. Every goal is possible, and together we can make our dreams come true.

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Making an Impact

28 Feb

Nobody lives in a bubble exclusive to those around them. We’re all part of the world and everything we do has an effect on something around us. Newton’s Third Law of Motion states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Everything we do causes something else to happen. The response may be small and we may not notice anything different but it’s impossible to live our lives without creating some sort of change. Each decision causes a ripple effect that may create a new situation somewhere else. What kind of effect we have depends on the decisions we make, and our behavior influences everything around us. If we have a happy demeanor and positive outlook, we may bring light to others. Conversely, if we’re rude or grumpy, angry or curt, we may bring something else entirely, and if we’re vengeful or manipulative, may sow seeds of discontent and distrust. Every choice will produce some sort of response. We aren’t responsible for the feelings and choices of others, but we are responsible for the way our behavior and decisions impact their lives. We are part of the whole and whether we acknowledge that or not is irrelevant. Each step leaves an imprint and it’s up to us to decide what that will do. We can be mindful of every decision and think about all the possible ramifications before we act. We have everything we need to live happily and successfully. We have so much to offer, and with patience and careful consideration, can bring light and joy to those around us.

Nobody lives in nirvana and sometimes disappointing things happen that hurt us and change how we feel about the world. When things go wrong and we’ve been hurt, we may decide we’ve had enough and determine to seclude ourselves from others. We have a lot to offer but it will be impossible to share our gifts if we lock our lives away because of pain or disappointment. We can manage anything that comes and find our way back to happiness. We are capable, strong and wise, and nothing can keep us from the lives we desire.

Happiness comes from our actions but some people think they can find it by hurting others out of spite or maliciously causing problems for those around them. Their motivations will never justify the hardship they create and, in the end, they may find themselves angry and alone. The law of the harvest is inescapable. If we sow seeds of discontent, we will never reap joy. Everything we do takes us somewhere. We can make excellent choices that take us where we want to go and bring us great happiness.

Today, think about your decisions before you act. Make sure they will bring you the results you desire. You’re in control of your life and can do anything you choose. Make choices that will take you to the destinations you want the most and bring happiness into your life. You are a blessing to us all and have so many gifts to offer. Share them with us and make the world a better place.

A Fair Shake

28 Nov

When we are children we’re taught to always play fair.  Cheating is seriously discouraged and we’re told to play by the rules and treat others fairly.  Those are true concepts and being fair in everything we do enhances our ethical standards and helps others trust us.  But sometimes things happen outside our control that aren’t fair and we may end up in situations that are difficult to manage and hard to understand.  We only have control over our own actions and it doesn’t feel fair to be subjected to someone else’s bad decisions but nobody is an island and there may be times when that happens and our lives are negatively impacted.  We can strive to always be fair but life won’t always cooperate.  Unexpected things can go wrong at any time.  We may get sick, or have a freak accident, or be hurt by circumstances beyond our reach.  Our sense of fairness may get bruised when things turn against us.  When we’re in the midst of unearned and unexpected trials we may suffer but we can hold onto our confidence.  Even if it’s hard to find our footing we can trust that we can still stand tall and look ahead.  No problem can last forever.  In the end, most of the time life is fair but while we’re in the middle, muddling through, we may get lost a time or two.  Life is constantly changing and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to navigate even the hardest times.  We can hold onto what we know is true and find our way.  Nothing is powerful enough to stop us from moving forward and every blessing is just steps away.

It seems fair that we should all get what we deserve.  Bad people who do things to hurt others should suffer and good people who are helpful and kind should gain happiness.  However, there will likely be times when we see bad people succeed while those who are trying their best struggle.  The law of the harvest is inescapable and immutable.  If we plant seeds of discontent, disharmony and pain, we will eventually reap the harvest of those choices.  It might not happen right away, and years may go by before we see things change, but balance will come. We are all accountable for everything we do and the choices we make determine our future happiness.

The old saying that “there is no such thing as a free lunch,” is correct.  Everything we do exacts a price of some sort.  If we make good choices that move us closer to where we want to be, we will reap the benefits and find success.  If we jumble up the works with confusion, complication and turbulence the way forward will be harder to navigate and more difficult to find.  We can make excellent choices that pave the road to happiness and peace, even in times of trial.  We can have the lives we dream about by choosing wisely and continuing forward with confidence and wisdom.

Today if you feel life is unfair and you can’t win, move toward your next step.  You can navigate through any complication or trial and choose wisely in ways that will bring you happiness.  Your life is yours to design and all your dreams can come true.  Nothing can keep you from success.  Continue forward and you will prevail.

Grudge Match

5 Jul

Conflict is a normal part of life. We may not like it and we may try to avoid it but we’re all individuals and differences will happen. We don’t have to agree with everyone and everything and there will be times when we won’t comply with what someone else wants. When there is tension and disagreement we may blame the other party for not agreeing with us and making things difficult. We may understand that we’re all entitled to our own opinions but when push comes to shove, despite that understanding, we may press to get our own way. If we can’t prevail we may hold a grudge against the other party and allow it to color our interactions with them going forward. Grudges have no power over anyone but the person carrying them. If we’re angry we may hold tight to them and they may keep us down and prevent us from moving forward. They can be crippling and will never solve any problems or help us find answers. It can be hard to let go of disappointment. We can blame everyone and everything for what goes wrong but that will change nothing. If we want our situation to improve we must let go and actively step forward. Our lives are always in our control and we can manage anything effectively to move ahead. We can accept differences and with patience and grace find the way forward through any conflict. Life is filled with challenges and we are certainly smart enough and wise enough to manage them. Every success is possible, even in disagreement, and we can find all the answers we need.

Some people like to argue and enjoy the intensity and dynamic of heated discussions. When we interact with them it may be difficult to find answers as they question every statement we make. It can be hard to get our point across if they dissect everything we say and oppose every suggestion. We don’t have to defend our position and we don’t need complete agreement in order to move forward. There are always possible compromises and adjustments to any plan. If we are open and flexible we will find the answers to address every concern and reach understanding.

There will be times when we won’t get our way and things will turn in a direction we don’t want. We may feel like we’ve lost the battle and carry anger away from the situation. Life is sometimes an uphill battle and sometimes we’re going to lose but that doesn’t mean we aren’t important and valuable. We can be open to new ideas and accept change when we must in order to keep moving ahead toward the goals we want the most. We can do anything even when things go wrong. We are strong and capable and with patience and determination we will find success.

Today if you’re struggling with a decision and unhappy about what’s happened, let go of any anger and look at your options going forward. Disappointments are just turns in the road. You can still get to your goals and succeed. Change direction and re-chart your course. Every destination is possible and you are strong enough and wise enough to get there.

What We See

13 Jul

“Two men looked out from prison bars. One saw the mud, the other saw stars.” Dale Carnegie

They say perception is reality. We all see things through our own paradigms and they are colored by our perception and how we think. Some people are natural optimists and even in dark times find something that makes them happy. Others see trouble in every aspect of their lives and struggle to feel joy. Two people facing the exact same issue may see it completely differently. We have the power to change our perspective and choose to find joy no matter what we’re facing. There will always be something to be happy about no matter how dire the circumstances. If we determine to find the one good thing while we struggle we will feel calmer and more confident as we go forward. Life is a great blessing. It isn’t always easy, it isn’t always fun and it isn’t always what we want to do. But no matter what it is, we have everything we need to not only survive but thrive as we progress. We can look down and see only mud, or we can turn our eyes upward and see the stars. It’s all there for us. We need only choose how we’ll see it.

We take a lot for granted as we go through our days. We grow accustomed to our comfortable homes, our cars, our clothes, our food, our jobs if we have them, and all the rest. We expect them to be there from day to day and rarely think about losing them. But sometimes life throws a wrench into the works and something fails. We get sick, or our cars die, or our jobs are threatened and suddenly we remember how many blessings we have and how much we want them. It’s easy to become complacent until the bottom falls out and we must face the possibility of losing something we love. We can choose to be thankful for everything we have. When we recognize our personal blessings, and appreciate all the gifts we possess, we’ll find more humility and grace and get closer to the person we most want to be.

Some people are never happy. They may complain because they don’t have a job and then get one and complain because it’s hard to go to work every day. There are lots of reasons why people are unhappy and we can justify every emotion we feel but happiness is a choice we make. It’s something only we can give ourselves. It really doesn’t matter what is going on outside us. If we choose to, we can find happiness in any situation. There will always be something for which to be grateful. If we seek out those precious, sometimes small gifts, our lives will be enhanced and we will feel deeper joy. Life is an incredible gift but how we live it is up to us.

Today if you’ve been feeling bad and find yourself looking down at the mud instead of up at the stars, change your focus. You have so many things to be grateful for. Find joy in the small moments and see every gift you possess. Your life is precious and priceless. Be happy and find joy. It’s right there for you. Reach for it and embrace it.

Worst Case Scenario

9 May

We are only able to control our own choices and the things we do. We have no control over what anyone else chooses or what the world brings to us. Although we may live well, are honest and caring, and choose things that will move us forward on the path we want to travel, all bets are off when it comes to the decisions of others. Despite our best efforts to be fair and kind, there may be times when someone will treat us badly. Perhaps they lie to us or about us, do devious and mean things to us, take our possessions or break into our space uninvited, manipulate us or even physically harm us. We can’t control anything but ourselves and sometimes others may make bad decisions that bring hardship, pain, and sadness into our lives. It’s difficult to manage when it’s someone close to us and worse when it’s someone we love. We may struggle to understand why they would hurt us and we may be heartbroken but trying to understand why others do anything is wasted time. Everyone makes their own choices and sometimes people choose badly. Instead of trying to figure out why they are doing what they are doing, it’s better to find a way to navigate the situation with grace and keep our standards high. In the end our choices are what direct our lives. If we make the best choices, even when there is trouble, we will prevail.

When someone attacks us our first instinct may be to fight back. The fight or flight reflex is coded into our genes and helps us survive. It’s a valuable trait but unless we’re in a face off with a lion we can choose something higher. Getting down in the dirt and hitting back will never help us. Even if we win the fight, we may lose our self-respect. Responding badly to a sucker punch only makes us the sucker. We can stand taller and refuse to take the bait. Often when someone hurts us they are seeking control over us. If we stay calm, we can use wisdom and composure to control the situation and win. Even in a worst-case scenario we have everything we need to be in control and choose wisely.

Everyone is different and all we can see is what they show us. Sometimes the person we’ve trusted and shared our lives with isn’t honest about who they really are. They may play along and pretend they are friends but if their intentions aren’t authentic, in time their real attributes will become apparent. When that happens, if they turn out to be someone who is untrustworthy and hurts us we may feel betrayed. We may wonder how we ever believed in them and struggle to forgive ourselves for falling into a bad situation. But trusting others is noble and it’s honorable to extend friendship. We only answer for our own choices and can choose what is right no matter what others do.

Today if you’re in a situation where someone you trusted has hurt you and you feel betrayed and angry, choose wisely going forward. Don’t let the decisions of others pull you from the path you most want to travel. Keep your eyes focused ahead and let your actions set the example for what is right and good. You deserve every happiness. Choose well and be true to yourself. You will succeed and you will win.