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What Doesn’t Kill Us

17 Jul

“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” Friedrich Nietzsche

Life is filled with challenges. We face something new every day, and sometimes we’re up against serious trials and things that test us, and push us hard. Everyone dreams of a life filled with pleasure, where nothing ever goes wrong, and each day is like a holiday. Dreaming is nice, but we live in reality. There are times when our lives sail along without much distress, but nothing stays the same forever, and we will eventually face something difficult and troublesome. Living in nirvana sounds nice but if everything was easy, we would learn nothing, and never get the chance to build our personal strength. There are endless lessons to learn, and when trials press on us, we get the opportunity to learn more. Each challenge teaches us something new about ourselves and the world around us, and even when we think we can’t survive, we will. If we want a fit body with strong muscles, lifting weights helps. When we lift something heavy our muscles strain to complete the task. The tension and pressure we exert isn’t easy, but when we’re done, we are stronger. The same is true in our personal lives. When we must pull from deep within to find the answers we need, and unravel complex and difficult issues, we get stronger and more capable. It’s unlikely anything we face will be so hard it could kill us. Even when the odds are against us, and we’re up against a fierce problem, we will find our way. There really isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us down. We can manage any complication, face any trial, and find success. As we do, we will gain strength and wisdom, and great satisfaction.

Nobody gets a perfect life. We will all struggle from time to time. Sometimes the problems come from decisions we’ve made, and sometimes we have no influence or control over what happens. Many things will go well for us, but not all roads ahead are paved. We may have to climb over big obstacles, face detour after detour, and get turned around a time or two. Difficult journeys take persistence and patience. We already possess everything we need to face whatever we must. We can trust ourselves to prevail no matter what lies ahead. Every destination is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will reach success.

If we’re facing something daunting and overwhelming, we may doubt ourselves. We might imagine the problem is too big to overcome, or we don’t have the intelligence necessary to prevail. We all have doubts from time to time, but every single answer we need is already there for us. We don’t have to overcome everything all at once. We can take one step at a time, unravel the first problem and then the next, and we will find our way.

Today if you’re facing something difficult, and you aren’t sure you can overcome, trust yourself. You’ve already managed many hard issues and prevailed, and have everything you need to win. Be confident, and step forward. Nothing can hold you in place, and you will succeed.

Standing By

25 Jun

There are a lot of things we want to accomplish in our lives, and we can reach any goal we desire. If all the parameters of success are up to us, and we have control over each step forward, it may be easy to reach the goal. But life is complicated, and many times our success depends not only on what we do, but on what’s going on around us, and the decisions being made by others. We’re all more connected than we think we are, and things happening far beyond our reach may prevent us from moving ahead. It’s not easy to wait when we want to move, and it’s hard to be patient when we’ve done all we can and must wait for the situation to change. Standing by and watching others move forward while we stand still can be maddening. If we’ve done all we can, and still are unable to progress, we will have to wait. If it looks like the wait will be long, we can set the goal aside and begin working on something else. We never have to stand in place indefinitely. We can set our sights on something new, and when things change and the road opens up ahead, we can start again, and proceed toward the original goal. Every destination is possible but timing is everything. What we want may not be available to us right now but that doesn’t mean it will never be possible. What’s out of reach at the moment will not be out of reach forever. We can be patient and work on other projects and goals until we are able to gain success. Every option is always there for us, and there are many ways to reach success. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need, and if we must wait, can still proceed forward. All our dreams can be ours, and we can reach every destination we desire.

Sometimes it seems the road ahead is paved and we move forward with few problems, accomplishing the task with little discomfort. Other times, it seems that everything that could possibly hold us in place comes into play and we struggle to make even the tiniest bit of headway. Trouble moving forward doesn’t mean the goal isn’t meant for us or we won’t be able to succeed. Complications give us the chance to learn something new and refine our patience. We can do anything, and already have everything we need to get to any destination. Through wisdom and persistence, we can reach the goal, and have the lives we dream about.

Standing by and waiting for a chance to move forward toward an accomplishment cannot keep us from completing other goals. There are many destinations available to us and if one is locked up now, we can focus on another. Life is long and there is time to achieve the things that are most important to us. We can design our lives any way we like, and with patience and focus, will make our dreams come true.

Today if you’re standing by, waiting for things to change so you can move ahead, look at all the possibilities available. Step toward another goal and actively move forward. Your life belongs to you and every goal is possible. Decide what you want, and take the first step toward it. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Success is there for you, and you will reach it.

In the Moment

27 May

We’re often busy with things we need to accomplish, and as we go from one task to another, time flies by. Before we know it, the day is over, and although we may have accomplished a lot, if we didn’t pay attention to our own goals, we might feel unsettled. Each moment we’re here is priceless, and once it’s gone will never be ours again. What we do with our time matters. Nobody knows how long they’ll be alive on earth. Putting off what we most want to accomplish, and procrastinating our own success may work against us. There will always be stuff we need to do. We have lots of responsibilities, tasks that need completion, and endless details that crop up. If we don’t pay attention, days, weeks, months or even years may rush past before we stop to look at where we are. Every day is a blessing. We get one shot at it, and then it’s gone. Work will always expand to fill the time we give it. If we want to achieve our personal goals, we need to focus on them. We always do what we want to do most. Sometimes our commitments take over and leave little time for personal reflection, but we are in control of everything we do, and if we want personal success, we have to make our lives a priority. No matter what’s going on around us or how much we have to address, there will always be time to take care of ourselves. Our lives belong to us alone, and we can accomplish anything we desire. Each moment counts. We can have the lives we dream of if we take charge of our decisions and continue forward. Life is full of distractions and we may get turned around a time or two, but we know what we want, and can move toward any goal we desire and make it ours.

It isn’t selfish to focus on our own lives, and work on our own personal goals. We deserve complete happiness but nobody can give it to us. It’s our responsibility to do what is necessary to achieve it. Deciding what we want and then doing what is needed to make it ours will bring us great satisfaction. There isn’t anything too far away for us to reach, and no road too difficult to travel. We can take the time we need to move forward toward the lives we want, and achieve greatness. Everything is there for us. We need only decide what we want, and then step forward to claim it.

We decide how we’ll spend our time. There will always be more to do than we can accomplish, and we’ll never run out of tasks that need our attention. Our lives are our responsibility, and we decide how we’ll manage them. Even if we’re busy, we can make time to work on our own personal goals. It’s impossible to be completely happy if we aren’t where we want to be, or haven’t reached our desired destinations. We already know what we want, and have everything we need to get it. We can manage our time in ways that allow us to move toward every goal, and reach every success.

Today if you’ve been caught up in completing tasks and checking off boxes, remember your time is precious. Decide what you most want, and then plan your time in ways that help you achieve it. Every dream is possible, and you already possess everything you need to succeed. Step forward with confidence. Nothing is out of reach, and you will win.

Best Friend

29 Apr

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what they should do. Most of us want to be successful completing what’s important to us and try to move forward a little every day toward the destinations we desire. Life is complicated and sometimes our progress doesn’t exactly go the way we hope it will. Problems arise, we make decisions that don’t always work out and it seems we have to continually modify and adjust to push through. We might get to a point where we think we should be further down the road than we are or that somehow, we should be doing better in some way. We may set our personal standards very high and if we don’t meet them, become critical of our performance. There is always room for improvement no matter what we’re doing, and we can always do a little more, but we can honor how far we’ve come and what we’ve already accomplished. Berating ourselves for not getting to the goal fast enough, or doing everything perfectly isn’t helpful. We aren’t perfect – nobody is. We learn with each step we take, and as long as we keep stepping forward, we’re winning. It’s fine to have high standards and want to do our best, but we only have control over our own decisions, and things we know nothing about may derail us. We can learn to accept complications and the delays they may cause without tearing ourselves down for not getting to the goal fast enough. We know what we want and have everything we need to get it. We can do anything we like, but we can’t do it all today. Trusting ourselves as we push through, and being patient when there are detours and setbacks will give us the confidence we need to succeed.

If our best friend comes to us upset because they didn’t reach a goal as planned, instead of ridiculing them for not getting it done, we probably would offer them support and kindness. Because we care for them, we may encourage them not to get discouraged, and help them start again. However, we are often harder on ourselves in the same situations. We expect more of ourselves than we expect of others, and that can work against us. Learning to allow the same patience and support we give to others for our own individual struggles will bring us great relief and encouragement. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We can trust that no matter what comes, or what goes wrong, we’ll find our way forward.

Perfection may be our goal, but it’s not likely to be our achievement. There is no way to know everything, and there are endless situations that may enter our lives and disrupt everything we have going on. Learning to bend when things go wrong, and keep our eyes on the goal, even when the road turns, will help us reach success. We are stronger and wiser than we think we are, and nothing can keep us from our goals.

Today if you’re disappointed in yourself because you haven’t gotten as far as you think you should, stop and look at how far you’ve already come. You are amazing and nothing is beyond your reach. You know what you want, and each step takes you closer to the goal. Be confident and continue forward. Every success is there for you and you will prevail.

Heavy Load

26 Mar

The things we must face change every day. There can be unexpected developments that suddenly alter the road ahead, and make it necessary for us to change our plans. When things don’t work out the way we thought they would, or something serious goes wrong, there may suddenly be more to carry than we planned on. Problems arise, details get in the way, and complications creep in that make the way forward, if not impossible, certainly more difficult than we want. We already have responsibilities and things we must attend to, and when there’s a change in the road ahead, it may make getting them done more difficult. Let’s say there’s a huge field covered with rocks and it’s our job to pick them all up and move them. All we have is a big bag to carry them in and each rock we pick up and add makes the load heavier. After a while, the bag may become too heavy to carry and we have to drag it behind us, until in the end, we can’t move. When lots of things go wrong and we have to navigate through, it’s like picking up rocks along the way and trying to manage them all. If we can’t solve the problems as they arise, we add them to the bag, until we get to a point where we can’t handle any more. But we never have to carry a load that’s too heavy for us. We don’t have to solve everything right away. We can carefully evaluate what we can do, and if we can’t resolve an issue right now, instead of carrying it along with us, we can set it aside for later. When our situation clears, we can go back to the issues waiting for us and begin to unravel them, one at a time. We can decide what’s most important, and let the others things wait. With patience and wisdom, we will make the best decisions moving forward, and reach the goals we most desire.

Lots of people have lots of opinions about the way things should go. They may tell us we should be able to handle more than we’re managing, or that we need to solve every problem as soon as it appears. They are entitled to their opinions, and even if they are important to them, it doesn’t mean they must be important to us. We don’t need agreement or permission to set our own course. We have all the intelligence and inspiration we need to find the way forward, and reach any destination.

There may be times when we must deal with a lot of complicated, difficult pieces to a hard situation. When there’s a lot going on it can be challenging to find the answers we need. If we step away from the fray and take some time to see the situation objectively, our vision will clear and we will see the road ahead. We are completely capable of handling anything that comes to us. There isn’t anything that can hold us back indefinitely. We can trust ourselves to find all the answers we need, and manage every situation competently, and move forward toward success.

Today if you’re dealing with a lot of complex and difficult issues and you’re confused and concerned about finding your way, step back and look at the situation openly. All the answers you need are already there for you. Let your vision clear and the road ahead will arise. You are incredible and strong, and will always find your way. Nothing is out of reach, and you will succeed.