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Save Me

22 Feb

Human relationships are important to all of us. As we learn to understand others and build connections, we may rely on them for strength, balance, and support. The world is a huge place with millions of strangers, and our close relationships give us an anchor to hold onto as we face each day. It’s good to have strong associations with those close to us and when things go wrong it’s a blessing to have someone who understands us on our side. While we may reach for others in times of need, our lives are always our responsibility. We cannot push our personal issues over onto someone else to solve. Our problems belong to us and we must find our own answers. Nobody can save us from trouble or protect us from sorrow. Trouble and sorrow come to everyone and we must manage them in our own lives. If we feel unsure or weak, we can get support but, in the end, we must find the way forward ourselves. Nobody gets a free pass from struggle. How we manage our struggles defines who we are. If we lean on others and whine, refusing to face our challenges, we will never learn to be strong. If we give up and surrender when things go wrong, we will never reach the goals we desire. We have all the wisdom and strength we need to face anything we must. We can trust in our ability to overcome anything and be confident going forward. Our lives belong to us and what we do with them is our responsibility. There is no challenge too difficult to resolve and we can have the lives we dream about.

Everyone is different. Some people are very confident and bold, and if we’re timid and unsure it may seem their way forward is easier. Problems come to us all and how we manage them often depends on how we perceive their influence over us. If we’re sure they will bring our demise, we may give up and allow them to stop us in our tracks. However, if we remember all the times we’ve overcome adversity and trust ourselves to find the answers, we can move forward with confidence, knowing we will reach a resolution. There isn’t anything we can’t do, and we can find answers for any complication that comes.

In a relay race, when a runner completes their responsibility, they hand the baton to the next person to take over and finish the race. It would be great when we have serious troubles if we could do some of the work and then hand the problem off to someone else to solve. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way, and our responsibility does not end until the issue is resolved. If the problem is serious and involves many complications, it may take time to find the answers. The answers will always be there and we have everything we need to uncover them. There is nothing we can’t overcome and we are strong enough, and wise enough, to do anything.

Today, if you’re facing a difficult issue and want badly to hand it off to someone else, hold fast and move forward. You have everything you need to find the solution. There is nothing too complex or hard for you to overcome. Be confident and move forward. You will find the way ahead and reach success.


Working Doubt

14 Feb

We all face difficult situations that make us doubt our ability to get through.  Doubt is simply a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction that something will work.  It’s a normal response when we face situations that are unknown or threatening in some way.  We can’t see what lies ahead and when we’re facing challenging issues we may feel unsure moving forward.  We may be convinced we cannot prevail and may worry about what will happen next.  We can effectively manage and address our doubts with hard work.  When we’re working hard and are actively engaged in something there is no time for worry.  We’re busy processing where we are and planning for our next move.  Fear gets pushed aside as we begin to plan our way forward and each step we take quiets any doubts we may have.  There is an old saying that when the going gets tough the tough get going.  If we begin moving forward when we are concerned, we will feel stronger and more in control.  Hard times come to us all.  We can try to hide from them, ignore them, and look the other way but they will persist until we address them.  Even if we don’t have enough confidence to feel comfortable, we can begin to work the problem and sort it out.  We can untangle all the details, and as we resolve each question our confidence will rise and the doubts we may have felt at the beginning will subside.  We are strong and capable, and possess all the wisdom we need to overcome anything that happens.  There isn’t anything too complicated or difficult for us to manage, and by working hard we can find our way through any problem.

The world is big and complex.  There are unlimited things that can happen and no way to predict what will come.  If we’ve been through several difficult challenges in a row we may start to doubt our ability to continue.  Sometimes things go wrong consecutively and when we’re tired from the struggle we may feel like giving up.  It’s hard to feel positive when we’re in a negative position.  But if our backs are against the wall we can be pushed no further.  If we’re on the bottom we can only move up.  We can reach deep within ourselves and find the strength and courage we need to continue one more time and work the problem.  We can push off the wall and stand up again.

They say the harder we fall the stronger we rise.  When obstacles before us are heavy and there is a lot to work through, we gain strength as we learn new lessons and find our way forward.  Overcoming each challenge teaches us something we can carry ahead with us, and pushes us to manage more effectively.  We can find the way around any barriers and prevail.  Hard lessons often bring great blessings.  We can be confident even when we doubt, and strong in our conviction that we will win.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation that is so complex you aren’t sure you will get through, trust yourself.  You’ve overcome hard times already and have everything you need to prevail.  Pull from the strength and courage you possess and move forward with confidence.  Nothing is too difficult for you to overcome.  Take control and start moving.  There is great success just ahead.

Knowing and Hoping

5 Jan

As we interact with others, either in our personal relationships or in passing, we learn how they respond to different situations and what we can expect from them.  It’s helpful to recognize their patterns and choices and have a clear expectation of their behaviors.  But sometimes we may hope their expected responses will change in ways that are better for them or will fit into our needs more effectively.  They say hope springs eternal, and in some ways it does.  If someone we’re close to often makes bad decisions and those decisions hurt them and those around them, we may hope they will change and our hope may make us believe something that isn’t real.  We must always be willing to face things as they are and understand we can only control our own lives and the decisions we make.  Even if we know what is best, even if we are sure we know the right way forward, if it’s someone else’s decision to make we have no control over the end result.  It takes a lot of energy to try to control situations that belong to someone else and no matter how much we put into our efforts, if the decisions aren’t ours to make, we will not change the outcome.  It’s best to step back, see the facts clearly, hope for the best, and then accept whatever choices are made.  We can control our lives any way we desire while allowing others to do the same and make their own choices despite what we hope for them.  Doing so will give us the freedom to move forward on our own road while still being available when needed.

When we love someone who is doing something destructive, it’s hard to stand by and watch as things go wrong.  We may offer counsel and advice if they are receptive, but then we must step back and let them make the decisions they desire.  It’s very hard to watch those we love suffer, especially if we are sure we know how to fix the situation.  We all learn from the things we experience, and ultimately every lesson must come from within.  We can let go and allow those around us to make their own choices and learn their own lessons, despite what we hope they will choose.

Facts may tell us all about how something works, how it looks, or what we can expect it to do but they can never predict our personal reactions and how they will affect us.  We really don’t know a stove is hot unless we touch it.  Until then it’s undefined information.  The same is true in our lives.  Most of what we do is done through trial and error.  We learn from the things we experience and those we love learn the same way.  It takes some of us more time than others, and we all take different roads on the journey.  We can hope for the best, while understanding and accepting whatever comes.  Life is a great teacher that allows each of us to learn our own way.  We can walk beside those around us, and let them choose their own path forward.

Today if you’re hoping someone you love will make a positive choice, do what you can to set a good example.  Be there to offer help when needed and let them choose for themselves.  Share your life with them while focusing on your own journey forward.  Live your life well and let your success light the way.


21 Dec

Sometimes we must face a very difficult situation that carries with it extreme sorrow and sadness. Things may go very wrong, something unexpected may break our heart, and we may be left standing, bereft and broken. If the pain is very deep it will take time to recover and as we walk through it we may feel the hurt is endless. It may seem there is no bottom to the well we’ve fallen into. It’s hard to move forward when we’re in pain and we may believe the suffering will never stop, and the millions of tears and sleepless nights will never end. But each day moves us a little further down the road and away from the sorrow. Even if it’s hard to imagine, joy will return. The hurt will heal and we will be whole again. The only thing we can depend on in life is change. Whatever we’re going through today will be different in some way tomorrow. It’s impossible to keep things exactly the same over time. Just like each night eventually ends with the rising of the sun, no matter how sad and bereaved we may be, there is light ahead. We can hold on during the difficult moments knowing they will pass. We can take comfort that our suffering will end. Hard times come to us all and we each manage them our own personal way. If we need to be alone, we can. If we want to be with others, we may reach out to them. Whatever it takes to heal and right ourselves is there for us. We can be patient when it hurts, and remember this is just a passage that we will successfully walk through. Life is long and many things will come to us. We have everything we need to manage any difficulty or sorrow. We can find the light to brighten the darkness and get through.

Our individual experiences are very personal. How we manage them and process them is unique to us, and may be very different from the way those around us would handle the situation. It doesn’t matter how anyone else would manage our personal experiences. We will find the way that works for us and helps us continue walking forward. There is no one right way to live life. We can do things our way and get back on the road that leads us forward.

There are no rules for how long sorrow should take to overcome. Some people manage disappointments and trouble quickly and let it go. Others need more time to process what’s happened and decide how they want to move forward. Great upsets may change the course of our lives and we can take all the time we need to understand where we are and determine where we want to go from here. We have enough strength even when we feel weak, and we will know what to do. There is no reason to doubt. We are strong enough to face any adversity and continue forward.

Today if you’re struggling with sorrow and it seems it will never end, look back and see how far you’ve come already. If you’ve only moved one step forward you are closer to where you want to be. Have faith. You can do anything and nothing is strong enough to defeat you. There is sunshine ahead and you are only steps away from the light.

Moving On Again

6 Dec

We have countless experiences as we go through our lives.  Sometimes things go well and we feel happy and content, and sometimes there is trouble.  We may have an experience that devastates us, is hard to understand, and makes going forward difficult.  Perhaps someone we love unexpectedly dies, we lose something important, or a relationship we value suddenly breaks apart.  When we go through something very difficult that is far reaching and touches us deeply it can be hard to find our footing again.  We may feel lost, untethered and drifting, unable to find an anchor.  Trying to touch down again and figure out what to do next may be confusing and seem too complicated.  We may face a jumble of thoughts rolling through our mind making it hard to connect to anything that might work.  When we begin a jigsaw puzzle and dump the entire collection of pieces out of the box, there is a lot to look at and sort through.  But as we pick up each piece and examine it and begin to put one with another, after a time we find our way to the solution and picture is whole.  As we try to navigate a complicated and painful time in our lives we can begin by looking at just one thing we can control and use that to help us connect to the next piece, and the next, until we find our way through.  We can manage anything that comes to us, even very difficult and complex issues.  Taking them step by step and giving ourselves time to process each development will help us move forward.  Life is long and there is time to work everything out.  We are strong enough and wise enough to find our way through.  Each step takes us closer to the light we seek and if we continue nothing will keep us from success.

Getting over a heartbreaking experience isn’t easy.  As we make headway and begin to feel stronger we may hear or see something that reminds of what we’ve lost and the walls begin to crash in again.  Healing takes time and isn’t a straight line forward.  We will have setbacks and pauses in our journey.  If we fall into despair we can stop for a moment to regain our footing.  Every sorrow will be overcome and we will find happiness again.  We can trust in our personal strength and remember how far we’ve come.  Nothing is too hard for us to manage and no matter what has happened we will find our way through.

Learning to trust again after a serious disappointment may not come easily.  If we’ve been extremely hurt we may need to step back for a while to regroup and determine how we want to proceed.  There is no rush to heal and there is plenty of time to find all the answers we need.  We can rest until we feel ready to begin again.  We will find the road forward.  We know who we are and what we want, and nothing can keep us from reaching any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been hurt and feel lost and unsure about the way forward, take a step back and let your mind rest.  All the answer you seek are there for you.  Every door will open as you move forward.  Trust in your strength and rely on your wisdom.  You can do anything.  There is light for you just ahead.  Keep moving forward and reach it.


21 Nov

Life can be complicated and we may experience all kinds of twists and turns as things unwind and occur. Sometimes everything goes well and other times we may worry about what is coming and how we’ll manage. Worry may rob us of our comfort, and our confidence, and we may struggle through sleepless nights wondering what will happen. Nobody knows what today will bring and tomorrow is out of our control. We can try to guess what will come but guessing doesn’t make us clairvoyant. Worry is merely the imagining of outcomes. Unfortunately, when we are struggling with worry, most often the only outcomes we envision are negative. But there are many sides to every story. Negative outcomes may happen but positive possibilities are always there as well. Worrying about what disaster may come will never cause or prevent anything. The energy we expend thinking about what may go wrong will not bring us comfort in return. We can wonder about the future but as we wonder we can imagine not only the way things may fail but also the way things may succeed. There will always be unknown developments and possibilities out of our control. No matter what may go wrong we have everything we need to get through and find the answers we need. We can let go of worry and doubt. We are strong and able to handle anything that happens. There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for us to figure out and we have everything we need to overcome anything we face.

We choose how we live our lives. We can complain and find problems with every experience. We can bemoan our lot in life and whine when things don’t go our way. There will always be plenty to complain about but seeing only the complications will never bring us happiness. Instead, we can determine to see the endless possibilities for goodness before us. Everyone goes through hard times and nobody lives on a rainbow filled with roses and sunshine. Things will go wrong and sometimes we may fail. But no matter what happens or what problems we must face, we have everything we need to find the way through. The sun will always rise again and we have endless opportunities to win.

We may face extremely difficult challenges that make us question our ability to survive. Sometimes things go very wrong, and unexpected, serious developments may take our breath away. When those things happen, we may feel overcome and unable to move. But we have everything within us already to face anything. There is nothing too difficult for us to manage and we have all the wisdom we need to find our way through. Life is unpredictable and when bad things happen we need not lose our faith. Good things are always just around the corner and we will prevail.

Today if you’re worried about something that may happen and feel overwhelmed at the possibilities before you, remember there are many sides to every story. Even if the bottom falls out you will stand strong. You are powerful and capable. Nothing will overcome you. Be confident. You have everything you need and you will succeed.

Night and Day

12 Sep

We will all face hard days as we navigate through our lives. There may be dark nights that keep us awake with concern and worry as we face problems and difficulties that confuse or confound us. Life can be complicated and there will be times when all of us will face complex issues that make our lives worrisome. We may feel lost trying to overcome what lies before us. In the small hours of the night as we lie awake pondering our situation we may feel hopeless and overwhelmed. We may believe we will never find the answers and we will fall, unable to stand. But no night lasts forever and no matter how long the night may be, the day will rise and we will have another opportunity to begin again. Even if we can’t count on anything else, we can count on the sun rising again and the start of a new day. Each day brings with it new opportunities and interactions with others, and we will find the answers we seek. There is no problem too complex for us to unravel and no matter how arduous the journey, we will find our way through. If we feel lost, we can seek help from others. If we need advice, we can request it. Everyone has trouble from time to time and we can draw on the strength of others until we feel sure. Every answer we need is available to us and we will find the direction forward. We can be confident and trust in our ability to find our way with strength and courage. There is greatness within us and we can reach for it and rise.

It’s easier to manage problems when they come one at a time. We have the space to review them and take them apart to find the way forward. But sometimes an avalanche of trials may present all at once. It’s far more difficult when there are many things that need our attention and we are pulled in many directions to solve more than one issue. It may feel like there is too much to face and we may be overwhelmed. We can step back and look at the situation objectively and take it apart one piece at a time. We have all the wisdom and knowledge we need to solve any problem and there is nothing we can’t accomplish.

Sometimes we may get a lot of suggestions or advice about an issue we’re working on. If we want the help we may be grateful but there may be times when we need to do things our own way. We already know where we want to go and what we need to do. We have everything necessary to succeed and we can do it in ways that work best for us. We don’t have to do things the way others think we should. We can choose our own path and find the way forward. Success is always there for us and we will find it.

Today if you’re worried and concerned about a serious issue and don’t know how to move forward, step back and look at the situation objectively. The answers are already there for you. Be open to all the options available and you will find your way through. Every night ends and brings a new day. Be confident and trust in your wisdom. You have everything you need to succeed and you will win.