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No Go

8 Aug

There are limitless things we can accomplish and endless goals we can work toward.  When we want something we can create a plan to achieve it and move forward toward success.  If we had control over everything around us we could always guarantee we’d be able to reach every goal we desired.  Unfortunately, we live in the real world and the only control we have is over ourselves.  There will always be other people making decisions that impact us and other things we don’t know about and can’t prevent from getting in the way.  If we’re determined to reach a goal we can work diligently and push through obstacles in our way but we may face a situation where no matter what we do we can’t get there.  Sometimes the hurdles are too high or the barrier in front of us is too wide to get around.  If there is nothing we can do to change the situation we may have to abandon the goal and let it go.  It’s hard to face defeat when we’ve worked hard to succeed especially if we’ve worked hard for a long time.  We don’t know what we don’t know and can’t see everything at the beginning.  Sometimes no matter how well we plan or hard we push things won’t work out for us.  If we must let go of a goal, we can set it down and walk away – for now.  Life is constantly in flux and everything changes around us over time.  What is impossible today may come easily in the future so although we have to leave the dream behind now, if we still want to accomplish it we can revisit it later and try again.

It’s great to reach the destinations we desire but the journey along the way is what teaches us about our world.  Every experience teaches us something and we take that knowledge forward with us.  Even if things don’t work out we have more information than when we started and understand more clearly where we are and what we need.  We can use all the lessons we’ve gained to reach new heights moving forward and continue toward the lives we want the most.

When we’ve been stopped and can’t move before we reach a goal we can develop another plan and try again.  We can try as often as we like and may reach success.  Most goals are attainable but there are some things we won’t be able to achieve no matter what we do.  To continually knock ourselves out trying to do something that can’t be done is not in our best interest.  Trying to do the impossible will only hold us back from finding success in other areas.  If we’ve done all we can and still can’t move forward we can turn our course toward something else.  It’s wise to accept defeat when success isn’t possible.  We can be confident in choosing well and living in ways that bring satisfaction and ultimate success.

Today if you’ve been working hard for a long time toward a goal and can’t move forward, look at everything clearly.  If there are possible options that will bring success, try them.  If not, determine where you want to go now and begin again on a new road.  There is no failure as long as you continue forward.  Be confident and trust your judgement.  You are wise and capable and will find success.

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Ghosts

18 Jul

Our lives are a compilation of all our experiences, and we become who we are as we learn going through everything that happens.  Sometimes it’s easy and there is sunshine and cake, but other times the clouds roll in and we get caught in a mire of difficulty, confusion and trouble.  There is no predicting what will happen next and what’s in the past is tattooed on our history forever.  There may be times when something painful from before returns and demands our attention.  Lots of things can go wrong and remembering a bad experience can bring all the painful feelings back in an instant.  Doubt, sorrow, grief, and despair may revisit us and remind us of what we thought we’d left behind.  As we remember what happened and how we felt we may review again and again our actions and try to figure out what went wrong.  There is no way to change the past and if we’ve been hurt, the ghosts of the memory may come again and again until we finally let them go.  There is no way to move forward and hold onto the past at the same time.  When we’re ready we can look at everything clearly, accept that our lives have changed, set the heartache down, and walk away.  Letting go doesn’t mean we have to forget what we’ve learned.  We can carry the lessons forward with us to help us navigate the future and deepen our understanding of life.  We deserve complete happiness and allowing ourselves to leave pain behind and move forward will bring it.

Every problem has a solution but there may be times when the only way to end a problem is to change course.  We can leave a bad relationship that brings us pain and suffering, a job that is unfulfilling or demeaning, or a connection with someone that is destructive.  Once we identify what the problem is we can begin to find the answers we need to address it.  If the answer requires a big change in our lives it will take determination and courage to bring it about.  It doesn’t matter how hard it is to resolve any issue.  We have all the courage and strength we need to do whatever is necessary to correct our course and find happiness.

Everything we experience becomes part of who we are and goes forward with us forever.  How we manage the memories is up to us.  There is no need to go back and dissect every action, every word, or every outcome.  We are not perfect and when we look back there will be things we wish we could change.  But the past is behind us and cannot be altered.  There is no need to carry every disappointment forward.  We can learn everything possible from the experience and continue on with confidence.

Today if there are ghosts from the past reminding you of things that went wrong, be confident and let them go.  What’s behind you is gone and will not return.  Take everything you’ve learned going forward and continue toward your dreams.  You are incredible and wise, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Everything is possible and you will reach every goal you desire.  Nothing can keep you from success.

Beyond the Limit

11 Jul

“The sky is falling! The sky is falling!”  Chicken Little

We may face times when we’re in situations that are so difficult we feel pushed up against our ability to cope.  We may struggle to understand what’s going on and what is required for us to solve the problem may be more than we think we can manage or tolerate.  Serious, complicated and intensely painful issues are not easy to navigate.  Everyone has an idea of what their limits are for things that go wrong.  Terrible and unexpected things may happen and we may believe we can never survive.  We may suffer greatly but no matter what comes, no matter how horrible and devastating it may be, we will always have everything we need to overcome it.  Our personal limits can be stretched and moved out of the way and we can find resolution to anything we must face.  We have deeper reserves of strength and resilience than we may recognize and we discover them when everything goes wrong and we are left with nothing but our own resources to find the way through.  Turmoil and trouble may be unpleasant but they open the gates to greater understanding and personal growth.  While we’re walking through the fire we learn about ourselves and understand more about life.  At the end of the trial we will be stronger and wiser and will carry everything we’ve learned forward with us.  Trouble comes to us all.  Recognizing and accepting that we’ll always find our way will give us greater confidence and calm as we travel through our lives.

Life is filled with change but there are some things we can always count on.  The sky will never fall, the sun will come up, and whatever we’re going through today will change.  The changes that come aren’t always what we want and there will be times we won’t be able to alter a situation we don’t like.  We may have to change direction when we don’t want to, or accept a decision we find disagreeable.  When the road we’re on turns we can be flexible enough to bend and find a new way forward.  Even during times of disappointment and duress, happiness is possible.  We are always in control of our lives and can change anything to find our way.

We always have control over how we manage our lives and what we do.  When things go wrong and we’re lost we don’t have to sit down and give up.  There will always be options available that allow us to continue moving ahead.  Being open to new ideas and different possibilities will help us create a new plan and reach our objectives.  We are strong and powerful and nothing is too difficult to manage or too complex to solve.  We can be confident in times of trouble and courageous moving forward.  Our destinations will always be there waiting and we will find our way to them.

Today if you’re facing an extremely difficult problem and feel pushed against the wall unable to think, trust your instincts and be strong.  You have reserves ready within you to get you through.  There isn’t anything you can’t conquer.  Be courageous and have confidence.  All the answers are there and you will find them.  Take another step.

Making Predictions

26 Jun

Our lives are a combination of what’s behind us, what we’re going through now and what we hope will come in the future.  When we make decisions that fail or take us somewhere we didn’t want to go we can learn from what happened and take the lessons forward with us to help us choose more wisely in the future.  Everyone has something in their past they would like to erase, some choice that turned out badly and hurt them or those around them.  It would be great if we could delete the things we’ve done we regret but this is real life and what’s behind us is permanent and unchangeable.  Looking back in an effort to see things more clearly and understand more deeply what happened in an effort to learn can be helpful.  But if we hold onto what we perceive as personal failures and get stuck obsessing over what we did wrong it may color our ability to be successful in the future.  There is no way to predict what will come to us but we have control over how we handle every situation every time.  We are not doomed to repeat mistakes again and again simply because they are part of our history.  We can change and grow and learn new ways to find success.  Everyone makes mistakes – sometimes big, disastrous mistakes – but they don’t predict what we’ll do in the future.  We are capable of learning and using increased wisdom as we move forward, and when we do, no matter what’s happened in the past, we can find success.
There is a common saying that “Once a dog, always a dog,” meaning if someone made a big mistake in the past, odds are they’ll do it again.  We’re all capable of change and if we fall down we can learn everything possible so we can choose more effectively in the future.  However, if we stumble and refuse to see the lessons there for us, we may well repeat the behavior, sometimes again and again.  We are in control of the decisions we make and our futures belong to us.  We can become the people we most want to be by paying attention and gaining all we can from what we experience each day and using the lessons learned to help us move forward.
One big mistake does not determine our future.  Even if everything falls apart and our lives seemingly blow up in our faces we are not permanently frozen in place.  Sometimes everything goes wrong and at first, we can’t see the way forward.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold us down forever.  No matter what goes wrong there will be another day and new decisions to make.  We can be confident, even if we’ve failed in the past, that we can reach success.  The wrong decision is only that – the wrong decision.  It’s not the end of the road.  We can reroute the way forward and start again.  Every dream is possible and nothing can keep us from achieving them.
Today if you’re focusing on something that went wrong in the past and aren’t sure you can reach your goals, there is always a way to find success.  There are unlimited choices before you and you can do anything.  Step forward and start again.  Every option is there and nothing is out of reach.  Learn from the past and push ahead.  The whole world is waiting for you.  Every dream can come true and you will succeed.

Enduring Greatness

30 May

Everyone has their own ideas about life and the choices they make.  There will always be some bad players, but most of us are good and try to do our best most of the time.  Our excellent personal choices and individual humanity make life easier for all of us.  We are precious and valuable but when we get caught up in the things we must get done, or the responsibilities that press us, we may begin to feel insignificant and because there are so many of us, hardly noticeable.  It’s true there are billions of people on earth and sometimes others don’t see us but that does not diminish our personal importance.  We are all part of the whole and where we are and what we’re doing can only be magnified because we’re there.  Even at times when we’re only going through the motions and simply completing tasks that need to get done, our personal impact on the world around us may be great.  We have far more influence over those around us than we may realize.  People watch us and notice when we do things well, when we’re kind, when we give, and when we sacrifice our own comfort to help others.  We have tremendous power to impact the world for good simply by living well.  We don’t have to be loud, and we don’t have to be famous to bring about change.  By being the very best we can be in everyday circumstances we exhibit greatness.  Everyone near us and every situation we’re in is embellished when we choose well.  By sharing with those around us we have incredible potential to bring about goodness and light.  There is no end to the blessings we can bring and the world is better because we’re here.

It’s easy to feel small and insignificant when we compare ourselves to those who are doing big, impressive things the world values and applauds.  We may never find some great cure that changes the world, or discover something amazing but that doesn’t mean the impact we do have is insignificant.  Making choices that bring goodness can change lives and bring great happiness to those around us.  As we choose to share our light and bring joy we lift not only ourselves but everyone with whom we connect.

Having personal greatness does not mean we are perfect.  We all have bad days, we all make mistakes and sometimes we choose things that don’t work out.  Every time we choose to keep going instead of giving up, every time we reach further than we think we can, and every time we stay on the road when it gets dark and hard to see, we magnify who we really are.  We are stronger and more powerful than we realize and when we choose to keep moving forward we magnify the greatness within us.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well.  We have all the gifts and tools we need to find incredible success and happiness.

Today if you feel insignificant and unimportant, remember you are the only one who can give the world your personal gifts.  Your influence is greater than you realize and we need you.  The whole world is blessed because you are here.  You are amazing and wonderful in your own perfect way.  Be the best you can be and show us who you are.

The Next Page

12 Apr

As we travel through our lives we go through countless experiences, and with each development learn more about ourselves and those around us. Some experiences are wonderful such as marriage, the birth of a child, or the accomplishment of a long-desired goal. Others are difficult and we may go through events that are extremely painful and leave us devastated. There may be the unexpected death of a loved one, the loss of a cherished relationship, or a severe failure that takes our breath away. Extremely difficult changes in our lives can be so overwhelming we may feel paralyzed for a time and unable to move. It may seem impossible to process what’s happened and begin to figure out how to navigate through. Hard times come to us all and when the bottom falls out of our lives and everything changes we may feel completely lost and unsure. Life is unpredictable. Even if we try to make sure everything goes well, sometimes things will go wrong. No matter what happens or how difficult it is to face, there will always be another day. Extreme changes take us away from where we are but don’t leave us forever suspended in limbo. The book of our lives is long and there will always be another page to turn. We can take the time we need to stand still and adjust to what’s happened, and when we’re ready step forward and begin again. Trouble will come but there isn’t anything too powerful or difficult for us to manage. We are capable of figuring out any problem and finding our way forward. We can adapt and change as needed and walk ahead with confidence. Every possibility will open as we move forward and we’ll reach happiness again. Change is constant. Nothing can hold us in place forever. We are strong and capable, and every success is possible.

We may believe there are some things we could never survive if they happened to us. They are so difficult to imagine they seem impossible to face. But we are stronger than we think we are and even if our worst nightmare became a reality, we would find the way through. No matter what comes we have all the courage and wisdom we need to overcome. We always have enough strength and understanding to get through anything we must face. There isn’t anything too complicated or difficult for us to manage.

In the darkest night when we’re struggling to understand a difficult situation and there appear to be no answers possible, hope may seem far away. We may feel helpless and lost trying to figure out what is happening and what to do. Long, hard nights of despair are painful but no night lasts forever. The sun will rise and the answers will come. There is a new page waiting and we will write it. Every success is possible and nothing is out of reach. We will find our way.

Today if you’re overwhelmed and aren’t sure how to move forward, remember all the times you’ve overcome difficulty in the past. You are strong and wise and there are endless possibilities ahead. Turn the page and start again. You are powerful and precious, and nothing can keep you from happiness and success.

Getting It Back

11 Apr

There are all kinds of people in the world.  Some are nice, helpful and polite, and when we deal with them things often go well.  But there are opposites in everything and some people we run into may be mean spirited and cruel.  They may do things that hurt us, demean us, or in other ways make us feel bad about ourselves and our lives.  If they are forceful and powerful we may shrink every time we interact with them.  It’s difficult to be around mean people who are rude and hateful and as we deal with them, we may feel our confidence slipping away.  If they continually insult us or make snide remarks to us or about us we may begin to feel insecure and find our resolve weakening.  We all have the right to choose anything we like and some people will choose badly.  When they come into our lives they may bring us hardship and grief.  When we begin to feel the effects of their negative influence we may try to simply deal with it or ignore it and continue on, but we have the power and the right to stand up for ourselves.  We need not allow anyone to demean us or criticize us without responding.  If we’ve lost our confidence, we can get it back.  We can stand strong in the face of ignoble behavior and refuse to allow it to compromise us.  If someone says something derogatory to us, we can state clearly that we will not tolerate comments that hurt or demean us.  There is great power is speaking up and we can claim it.  We are strong and capable and need not allow others to run us down.  Our gifts to the world are unique and we are precious and valuable.  Remembering our personal self-worth will help us face any difficulty or challenge in our lives.  We can stand strong, reclaim any confidence we’ve lost, and continue forward with strength and determination.

Diminishing others may make some feel more powerful and influential, but this kind of behavior is destructive and there is nothing of value to be gained by demeaning others.  Each individual brings something the world needs and when we honor them instead of ridicule them we are embellished and gratified.  When we reach out with charity and benevolence, we enhance goodness in those around us and raise them up.  We choose the type of influence we bring to the world and when we choose wisely, everyone benefits.

No influence is more powerful than kindness and charity.  Everything we do brings something into our lives.  If we lie, we lose the trust of those around us.  If we cheat, we lose our integrity.  If we criticize and demean, we lose our connections to others.    We can be noble and virtuous and choose paths that will bring us peace and each choice we makes tells the world who we are.

Today if you feel bad because of something someone has said or done and have lost your confidence, remember who you are and do what is needed to get it back.  You have so much to offer.  You are incredible and amazing, and the whole world is blessed because you are here.  Be strong and sure.  You have everything you need to succeed and nothing will hold you down.