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The Next Place

9 Apr

We go through many experiences in our lives. Nobody gets a perfect life, and we’ll all go through ups and downs, highs and lows, disasters, and joyful reunions. Although we may wish for a life filled with only good times, we don’t live in paradise, and we’re going to face trouble at some point. When we’re going through a difficult passage, we may wish we were someplace else – anything to get us away from where we are. It’s natural to want to avoid suffering, but we are living in this moment and wishing for the next will never help us through. Although we may have some perfect days when everything goes well, the sun shines, and we’re blissfully happy, they cannot last forever. Problems will arise, conflict will come, and we may feel overwhelmed and discontented. While we’re suffering, we may believe that our happiness is in the next place, the next job, or the next connection, and if we hang on until we get there, we’ll be fine. If we continually believe our happiness is somewhere else, it can’t be where we are. It’s possible there are great blessings just ahead, but constantly believing what’s next is where we need to be is a fool’s game. We are living now, in this moment. If we’re going through a difficult time, we can believe we’ll prevail, trust in our ability to overcome, and step forward with confidence. There is no need to wish for tomorrow. Every situation, even very bad ones, give us something of value. We can live in each moment, treasuring the benefits there for us, and be sure we’ll find our way forward. We don’t need to wish for tomorrow to get through today. Everything necessary to prevail and reach happiness is here for us at every moment, and we are wise enough to find all the answers we need. Today is the most important day of our lives. Yesterday is gone and can never be changed, and tomorrow is ahead. We are here now, and every happiness we desire is possible.

We all have things about ourselves we want to change. It’s good to have goals that move us closer to where we want to be, but there is no need to put our happiness off until we achieve them. We can be happy where we are, even if it’s not exactly where we want to be. There is goodness in every step, and by embracing what is positive and uplifting, we will find great satisfaction as we move ahead.

Happiness isn’t something we earn. We don’t get it after we’ve marked off enough boxes or filled enough requirements. It’s a gift we give to ourselves and can be found in every situation. There is always something for which to be grateful and by recognizing every blessing, we can uncover great personal joy. Hard times will come and we’re going to struggle, but if we keep our minds focused on where we are, and all the good around us, we will find peace.

Today look at your life exactly where you are and notice every blessing. You are perfect just as you are and exactly where you need to be. Decide how you want to move forward and begin toward the goals you most desire. There is great joy in living today well. Be confident, and every blessing will be yours.

Pause

30 Mar

Everyone has their own dreams and goals they want to accomplish. They are personal to our own individual journeys, and we decide where we want to go and what we want to do. If we were all alone and there were no obstacles to impede our progress, we could accomplish everything as soon as we desired. But life is full of diversions, distractions, unexpected developments, other people making all kinds of decisions that impact us, and a million other complications. We may run into something that stops us and blocks the way forward that requires us to pause in our pursuits for a time. It’s frustrating to have to wait when we want to move, but if we must endure an interruption, we can find ways to make it beneficial. As we wait, we can use the time to review how far we’ve come and look at all the possibilities for the way ahead. Answers may appear that we overlooked while we were pressing forward, and we might discover better methods for accomplishing our goal. Taking a pause in our progress doesn’t mean we must forsake the goal. Time out is not the end. It’s just a break from the road to address something else. While some goals may be time sensitive and stopping might prevent us from achieving them now, most of the time what we’re after can wait while we take care of other things. We can manage what needs our attention right now, take care of it, and then resume our journey forward toward our own personal goals. We know what we want, and there isn’t a detour powerful enough to keep us from it. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we desire. Every goal is possible, and with patience and focus, we will make them ours.

Those around us may ask for our time and assistance. If they have authority over us, we may not be able to decline whatever they request, but if not, we can decide what we want to do. It’s good to be helpful and share our talents and time with others, but if we continually pause our own journey for the sake of someone else’s, we will not achieve the goals we most desire. We can judiciously decide how much time we can offer, be helpful, and still continue forward toward our own goals.

We may be in a relationship with someone who needs a lot of support and guidance, and who continually asks us to do things for them. If we always do everything they ask, we may find it difficult to accomplish our own goals. We’re all responsible for our own lives. It’s impossible to reach our own goals if we give all our time to someone else. We are important and our dreams matter. We can be supportive and kind, and help out, but we need never sacrifice our entire lives for someone else’s comfort.

Today if you’ve been stopped from moving toward your own goals because of the needs of others, look at everything objectively. You are amazing and valuable, and your dreams are important. Be supportive and helpful, and serve in ways that allow you to move forward toward the goals you desire most. You are in control of your life. Every dream is waiting for you, and you have everything you need to make them yours.

Reasons

22 Mar

Lots of things happen to us in life. Sometimes we have great experiences that bring us happiness and satisfaction, and other times we go through ordeals that try our patience, push us to despair, and make us miserable. Ups and downs are the nature of life and we’ll likely go through things we never imagine will happen. When we’re struggling, someone may tell us, “Everything happens for a reason,” as though that will comfort us. While it’s true that everything does indeed happen for a reason, it’s ridiculous to think there is some sort of master plan at work manipulating and steering our lives. The reasons for what we’re going through may be a result of someone else’s bad decision, or circumstances beyond our control, or something we did, or the Bermuda Triangle. This is life – not fairyland, and the fact is, crap happens. What comes, comes, and we must deal with it when it arrives. There is no way to predict the future or see beyond the next bend. Things may go exactly as we expect them to, or everything may go sideways, and we may end up flat on our backs wondering what happened. It doesn’t mean we’ve done anything wrong, or we must suffer to get ahead. It’s just how it goes. Unexpected and unwelcome surprises will come, and we may be confused about how to manage them, but we are intelligent and highly capable. There will be a resolution for every problem, and with patience and determination, we will find our way through. There may be times when the road ahead of us is paved and nothing gets in our way as we move toward success, but those times are few and far between. Most of the time, there will be obstacles and complications, but we will always have what we need to find the answers to continue forward. Every destination is possible, and nothing can keep us from them. We are smart enough and strong enough to do what is necessary to reach success.

Those close to us who care about us and want us to be happy may give us all kinds of advice for our lives. They may tell us where they think we should go and what we should do. They are certainly entitled to their opinions, but we are in control of our lives. We can listen with grace, and then do what we want. It’s impossible to find complete happiness living someone else’s life. We already know where we want to go and have everything we need to achieve any goal we desire.

Nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. When trouble comes, we may believe it’s because of a mistake we made in the past. While a previous decision may take us somewhere we don’t want to go, we can always change direction. There is no scorecard that needs balancing because we took a wrong turn. Mistakes teach us what doesn’t work and give us new skills for success moving forward. We can be confident as we move ahead, and trust that we’ll succeed.

Today if your plans have fallen apart and the road ahead has suddenly disappeared, think about what you want the most. Difficulties and problems cannot keep you from your goals. Decide how you want to proceed and step forward with confidence. Nothing can keep you from any destination you desire, and every success will be yours.

Chapter One

26 Feb

We go through many experiences as we navigate the years of our lives. Each stage brings new things to discover as we learn more about ourselves and the world around us. But life isn’t divided into defined segments. It’s a continual process of learning and growing, but things may happen along the way that mark specific changes in what we’re experiencing. Like starting chapter one of a new book, we may be in situations where suddenly our lives have turned and we’re stepping on a new road. A new job, marriage, the birth of a child, a painful breakup, the death of a spouse, and a thousand other things may instantly change us moving forward. Important changes that affect us deeply give us the opportunity to review what we’re doing and where we are. We may choose to change everything, go in a completely new direction, or we may decide to stand still. Life is all about change, and sometimes those changes are far reaching and permanent. When our world shifts and we’re on a new road, we may feel uncomfortable, but facing a new story doesn’t mean we can’t succeed. With determination and focus, we can make what is uncertain and foreign become sure and familiar. There are great adventures for us and our first steps toward them may be unsettling, but once we move ahead, we will gain greater confidence and find comfort and satisfaction. The first chapter of a book never tells the whole story. It unfolds with each page. We can step forward and take advantage of every possibility as we move closer to the destination. Every success is there for us, and nothing is out of reach. We can be confident we will prevail and find joy and gratification in the process.

There are all kinds of books out there. Some have similar plots, and we can tell after the first few pages what will happen next. Others are more complex, and we have no idea where they will take us. Our lives are often the same. There will be predictable outcomes we expect and can prepare for, and there will be other times when unexpected developments surprise us and knock us down. We never know what will come but whatever it is, we can be sure we’ll have what we need to find our way forward. We can resolve even the most difficult and complex problems. Nothing can keep us from advancing, and we will prevail.

When we’re moving along in one direction and happy with our progress, if a sudden roadblock appears, we may be stopped and no longer able to move forward. If that happens, we can waste a lot of time trying to make it work, or we can change direction. It’s hard to turn around when the destination we desire is straight ahead, but everything changes in time. Turning our course doesn’t mean giving up. The goal is still possible, and when the doors open again, we’ll be ready to move ahead.

Today if something has changed and you’re facing a new and difficult situation, remember all the times you’ve already been successful. You are highly capable and will find the way forward. You know what you want and have everything you need to achieve it. Be sure of yourself and step forward. Nothing can keep you from the destinations you seek, and you will succeed.

Chasing the Wind

24 Feb

When we’re children, we have ideas about how our lives will go and what we’ll do. We may dream of being fighter pilots, astronauts, ballerinas, super models and a million other things. Because we’re young and haven’t yet learned about how things work, our ideas may be unrealistic and completely different from what we choose after we get a little older and start to understand things a little better. We all have dreams about how we want our lives to go and what we want to accomplish. If we work hard and do what is necessary to make things happen, and the world around us cooperates, we can make many of our dreams reality. It’s wonderful when we accomplish something we really want, but life is unpredictable. Even if we do everything possible, some things may elude us. We aren’t alone on the earth and can only control what we do. Sometimes what other people are doing and the decisions they’re making may keep us from advancing toward a goal we desire. Like chasing the wind, some things may be continually out of reach. It doesn’t mean we aren’t trying hard enough or that the goal isn’t possible, but that it isn’t available to us right now. It’s difficult to set down something we want badly, but nothing stays the same forever. Instead of spinning our wheels and exhausting ourselves trying to achieve a goal that’s unattainable now, we can move on to something else. In time, the road will change and all the doors we need will open. Life is all about change. If we can’t continue forward on the road we’re on at this time, we can change direction and return later. We can accomplish anything we want, but we may not be able to accomplish it today. Life is long and we have all the patience and wisdom we need to keep our eyes on the goal and adjust our course accordingly. With focus and determination, everything is possible, and we will succeed.

There may be times when we want something completely different than where we are. Maybe we want a different career, or to move to another location far away. Big, life changing, dreams don’t come easily. Some take a lot of time, a lot of financial resources, and a lot of effort. If, after careful thought and consideration, we decide we definitely want to proceed, we can begin doing what is needed to get to the goal. There will probably be complications, and we may have to take a detour or two, but if we stay the course, we can prevail.

Some roads are harder than others and as we move ahead if there are endless problems and obstacles, and it’s difficult to make any headway, we may begin to rethink the goal. Our lives belong to us, and if we don’t want to continue the struggle, we can take a turn and go in a new direction. The goal will still be there and when our situation changes and we’re ready, we can begin again.

Today if you’ve been pushing hard trying to move closer to a goal and can’t get ahead, look at the situation objectively and decide how you want to proceed. You are intelligent and capable. Be confident and wise. Every success is possible, and with clarity and planning, you will find the way forward and reach the destination.