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The Endless Wait

10 Nov

There are lots of people around us and we may develop many different types of relationships. If we want them to be strong and healthy, we must be willing to invest time and attention in them. Since we’re all different, what that looks like may be very different from one person to the next. Some families are very connected and stay intensely involved with each other. Other families are more independent and don’t include everyone in their business. Although they are very different, it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. There are endless ways to express our attachments. We all have ideas about how things should go and if we get intimately involved with someone whose ideas about how to manage our connection is different than our own, there may be complications. If we want to move the relationship forward, and the other person says they want the same thing, but keep putting us off, it may be confusing. We can listen to their promises, and hope for things to change, but if all we do is wait and nothing happens, we may need to re-evaluate what we’re doing. Words are cheap and without action, they mean nothing. All the promises in the world are worthless if there is no follow through. We can wait as long as we like for things to develop, but our lives belong to us and we are in control of what we do. We don’t have to remain in place any longer than we’re comfortable. If we want something different or something more, and the other party isn’t responding, we can look at all our options and change direction. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been connected to them. If what they’re doing isn’t working, we can move on. We deserve complete happiness and by keeping our eyes open and choosing the road ahead we most desire, we can achieve it.

Procrastination is a deadly behavior trait that can quickly kill a relationship. We always do what we want to do most, and when we push something aside and leave it undone, it’s an indication that it’s not important to us. If we ignore our relationship responsibilities or promises, our connection will surely suffer. It’s demeaning and insulting to constantly be promised something that never materializes. Instead of going along to keep the peace, it’s far better to state our true intentions and be as honest as possible. If we don’t want to or don’t intend to do something, there is no need to pretend otherwise.

It’s hard to wait for something we really want. If the goal is something we can achieve on our own, we can make an effective plan and set forth to achieve it, but if it involves the participation of someone else, all bets are off. Someone may agree to doing something just to prevent contention, when they have no intention of complying. Who we are is defined by what we do. If we continually commit to things and don’t follow through, others will learn we cannot be trusted. There is greatness in us, and by being completely honest and keeping our word, we will build great connections and strong relationships that will move us closer to the success we desire.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to change for a while, remember you are in control of your life. There is no need to wait longer than you are comfortable. Look at everything objectively and openly, and decide how you want to proceed. Your life is precious and valuable and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and choose the road ahead that will take you to the destinations you most desire. Everything is possible if you’re willing to do what is needed to make it yours. Be confident. There is great happiness and success waiting and you will reach it.

Not Never

8 Nov

The world is a big place and there are endless opportunities to do things and unlimited places to go. We are in control of our lives and can design them any way we like and set any goals moving forward. We can make any decisions we desire but not everything will be easy to achieve. As we move along we may encounter serious problems, complications and delays as we try to push ahead. If we don’t have all the information we need to succeed, we may end up going in the wrong direction and fail to reach the goal. Failure is difficult to accept and can make us feel like we can’t do anything right. But failure is a great teacher if we take the time to see everything clearly and learn all we can from what went wrong. We may not reach the destination today, but that doesn’t mean we’ll never get there. Success is always possible and failure is just an indication that it hasn’t happened yet. Just because we didn’t make it to the goal this time, doesn’t mean the journey is over. There are countless roads to take, and if the one we’ve been on doesn’t take us where we want to go, we can step onto another. The only time failure is terminal is if we quit. It may be hard to start again, but quitting will certainly never take us anywhere. Of course, if we want to, we can give in and surrender to defeat, stay in our own lane and keep doing what we’re doing. But we have great potential and if we want to move forward, we will find the way to do it. We are smarter and more capable than we think we are, and when we’re ready there isn’t anything we can’t do. By trusting ourselves, and keeping our eyes focused ahead, we will reach every goal. The whole world is there for us and every dream is possible. We can be sure and confident that no matter what happens, we’ll reach success.

Routines are comfortable and powerful. When we do the same things over and over, we pretty much know what to expect. If we try something new and it doesn’t work out, we aren’t doomed to stay in place. There is great value and benefit to experiencing new things and opening new doors, and there will always be endless chances to try again. We can explore whatever we want, and each new experience will enrich us and enhance our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

Change is constant and if we want something more than where we are, just turning a little to the left or right may open broad new horizons. We don’t have to completely upend our lives to bring more interest and value. Success isn’t defined by doing the extreme like climbing Mt. Everest or traveling the world. Success is ours when we open new doors around us and try new things. We don’t know what we’re capable of until we try. We have so much to offer, and every success is possible. Nothing is out of reach and we really can have the lives we dream of.

Today if your plans didn’t work out and you didn’t reach the goal, it’s not the end of your journey. If you still want to reach the destination, look at everything objectively and decide on a new plan. Learn all you can from where you’ve been and take that knowledge forward to help you succeed. You are the most amazing person in your life. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident, trust yourself, and start again. Everything is there for you and you will win.

The Road Ahead

15 Aug

Wherever we are in life, there will always be endless new roads around us. Options are unlimited and we can make any decisions we like. If we’ve been on the same road doing the same things for a while, we may feel there is no way we can start again. It may seem impossible to stand up and turn in a new direction, and too hard to change. Change isn’t always easy, but we are in control of our lives and are never frozen on one path. If we’re headed somewhere we don’t want to go, but feel compelled to continue because of a relationship or other pressures, we may believe there is nothing we can do. If those around us are insistent that we stay with them, we may comply and keep moving toward a goal or destination we haven’t chosen. We can do anything we like, but our lives belong to us and our happiness is our responsibility. Our dreams are possible and we can do anything we like. Decisions of others belong to them, and we never have to follow along if we want something else. We know who we are and we know what we want. We don’t need agreement or permission to do anything we desire. By looking at everything openly and objectively, and choosing the way forward that leads where we want to go, we will find great satisfaction and happiness. Every destination is possible and nothing is out of reach. By being confident and trusting ourselves, we can have the lives we want the most. We are intelligent and wise, and everything is there for us. All our dreams are possible, and we can make them ours.

Life is full of unexpected developments. We never know what will happen next, and we may face a difficult time that is complex and challenging. If the road ahead seems dark and filled with trouble, we may feel powerless and unsure. We only have control over our own decisions and things may go awry and our worst fears may be realized. It’s hard to find our footing when there is little light and we are overwhelmed, but we are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing is powerful enough to keep us from moving forward. Every success will still be there for us and with patience and clarity, we will find all the answers we need.

We can make excellent plans and still things can go sideways. There will always be factors we can’t see and information we don’t know about. Everything may blow up and we may face complete failure, but failure isn’t fatal. Once we discover what doesn’t work, we can start investigating new ideas and open new doors. Failure is just a detour and never the end of the journey. By learning all we can from what’s happened, we can take new skills ahead with us until we reach success.

Today if the road ahead is dark and bleak and you can’t see a way out, stop and look at everything clearly. There is always another option. Open your eyes and focus on the goal you want to reach. You are powerful and strong, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident and step forward. Every destination awaits, and you will reach them all.

The Ending

2 Aug

Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes things go well and we sail through happy and content. It’s enjoyable when everything fits into place and we’re moving forward, but change is constant and nothing stays the same forever. We’ll all face times of hardship, trials and trouble. There is no way to know what will come tomorrow and our best plans may disintegrate and fall apart in a moment. Everyone has an idea of how they want their life to go and nobody plans on disasters and detours. We can’t see them until they arrive and when they do, our lives may be upended and confused until we figure out what’s going on and how to proceed. If we’re facing an extremely difficult situation that has us gripped in despair and worry, we may think this is the end. There is no way to survive. But that will never be true. We may struggle mightily, and we may be sure we’ll be overcome, but we have more strength and courage than we think we have. When we’re pushed to our limit we will always be able to stretch further and find the answers we need. The ending isn’t here yet. We will prevail and get through. We have already overcome many difficult challenges and have everything we need to manage whatever comes. By trusting ourselves and looking ahead, we can continue forward toward success.

If we’ve been trying to break away from something we want to change and don’t want in our lives, we may try hard to let it go. Some changes are hard to accomplish and if we’ve been trying for a long time and are still struggling, we may believe we will never win and may as well give up. It’s hard to overcome very serious issues, but just because it’s difficult doesn’t mean it’s impossible. We don’t have to do it all today. We don’t have to do everything perfectly. We can take things one step at a time, and focus on the road ahead and what we want the most. One step doesn’t seem like much, but if we take one step toward the goal every day, we will move closer to success. If we persist and keep our eyes focused ahead, we will prevail.

Sometimes it seems like everyone else has it easier than we do. They look happier, they have more money, they have better jobs, and a thousand other things we might believe. Despite the way things may look on the outside, nobody gets a perfect life with paved roads and rainbows. There is no such thing as fate and we are in control of our lives. We can do anything we like, and if we want something more than where we are, we have everything we need to accomplish it. By focusing on what we want the most instead of comparing ourselves to others, we can make a plan to move toward the destinations we desire and find great success.

Today if you aren’t happy where you are, think about what you want the most. The ending hasn’t been written yet and you can do anything you desire. Look at all the options possible and make a plan to move toward the destinations you want the most. You are stronger, wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and nothing is out of reach. Be sure and confident, and step forward. Every success is waiting and you will make them yours.

Digging A Hole

22 Jul

People are incredibly creative. No matter what happens or what gets in the way, we can figure out how to proceed and what to do next. We’re intelligent and highly capable and can do anything we put our minds to. Everything we do defines who we are. If we’re honest in all our dealings, those around us will trust us and we’ll be free to move forward untethered by made up tales or stories that are untrue. Being honest requires intent and if we get into a situation that is uncomfortable and the best way ahead is difficult, we might choose to manipulate things by creating a fictitious scenario that allows us to move forward more easily. We can tell all the lies we want, but once we start fabricating, it’s hard to turn back around and tell the truth. It’s like digging a hole. When we first start we may make only a shallow dent in the surface, but if we keep digging, the hole will get bigger. Eventually we may find ourselves standing on the bottom with no way out but to climb up a vertical wall which is very difficult. Each lie is like digging another shovel full of dirt putting us in deeper and deeper. Lying complicates our lives in ways we can never predict. It’s hard to remember all the various things we’ve said and eventually, however long that takes, we may get so tangled up, moving forward will become impossible. Life can be hard and we’ll all face situations we don’t want to deal with, but by honestly looking at everything objectively we will find the way forward. We are smarter than we think we are, and nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and manage well. Choosing honesty brings freedom. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and integrity, we can reach any goal we desire.

We all want healthy, happy relationships. We may try hard to be cooperative and helpful, and not do things that bring stress or disharmony. It’s good to try to get along, but we don’t have to pretend to be something we’re not. We’re all different, and if we’re in a group where everyone wants to do something we have zero interest in, we can certainly go along to appease everyone else, or we can honestly and openly decline. There is sometimes a lot of pressure to conform and it’s always easier to follow along than to choose our own road. But our ideas are important and we are entitled to our own opinions. We can be polite and still say no. When we’re true to who we really are, we will find great satisfaction moving forward. 

Some people believe telling lies is okay so long as nobody gets hurt. That’s like saying it’s okay to cheat a little if nobody knows. The problem with being dishonest is that it tends to feed on itself. We tell one little tiny lie, and then it’s easier the next time to do it again. Then maybe something bigger happens and lying worked before so we do it again. After a while it may become a behavior trait and we may forget all about being honest. The best choice is to choose to tell the truth, no matter what. When we do, we will always be clear on where we stand, and have access to all the answers we need. We have so much to offer, and choosing to live well will bring us endless blessings.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation and it would be so easy to fix if you just lied about it, remember who you are. There is greatness in you and you are an incredible gift to the world. Be the best you can be, and choose wisely. Every single blessing is waiting for you and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident in your decisions, and step forward with clarity and integrity. Every goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success.