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Tag Archives: Failure

Second Place

9 Sep

Everyone wants to be successful. Nobody seeks failure but it’s impossible to win at everything every time. At some point, we all lose. No matter how hard we try, or how well we plan, sometimes things won’t work out. It’s hard to face defeat, especially when we really want the goal. There isn’t anything wrong with being in second place, but it isn’t the same as being first, and disappointment is inevitable. But winning is only one facet of the process. What we experience along the way, how much we learn, and everything we gain from all we’ve done will stay with us forever. We know more at the end of the journey than we dreamed possible when we began. The skills and tools we gain as we move forward teach us what works and show us how to proceed. We’re intelligent and highly capable, and nothing can elude us indefinitely. If we didn’t make it to the top this time, we can use everything we’ve learned to help us get there the next time around. Some goals take time and we may have to change things about our methods and behaviors to reach them. Each step we take gives us more information and if we’re focused and persistent, we will prevail. We can find our way even on the most complex and difficult road. Getting to the destinations we desire and reaching the top of every goal is always possible. Every destination is there for us. If the first try doesn’t work, we can try again. If that fails, we can try again. Each attempt will teach us more and show us the way forward. Nothing is beyond our reach, and with patience and determination, we will find success.

When we don’t succeed at something we’re trying to do, we have options. We can quit and give up on the goal completely, which will guarantee failure. We can never move forward if we quit, but if we decide the goal isn’t what we want after all or is too hard to manage, we may choose that option. If we want to continue, we can review what’s happened, learn everything possible where we are, and then make a new plan to try again. If we keep trying, we’ll find the key that unlocks all the doors ahead and takes us to the goal.

Sometimes no matter what we do we can’t get any closer to the destination we desire. If nothing is working, there may be a problem with our timing. There are endless decisions being made by those around us and some goals aren’t available when we want them. If we can’t move forward, we can set the goal aside for now and work on something else. Nothing stays the same forever, and if we’re patient, in time, the way ahead will open and we’ll be able to proceed straight to the destination.

Today if you’ve worked hard on a goal you really want and can’t seem to achieve it, step back and look at everything objectively. If you want to continue forward, decide on the best road ahead and take another step. Everything you’ve done so far has given you information and ideas that will help you succeed. Trust yourself and be confident. You are strong and amazing, and can accomplish anything. Step forward. Success is there for you and you will reach it.

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Blue Oranges

3 Sep

Our lives are ours to design and we have control over every decision we make. We are valuable and worthwhile, and can be confident in ourselves and the lives we’re living. However, there may be times we don’t feel we’re good enough or that we lack some attribute that would make us more beneficial and a greater asset. Nobody’s perfect and we all have personal traits we want to improve, but no matter what we want to change, we’re important and meaningful just the way we are now. We have gifts to offer the world nobody else possesses and each day brings an opportunity for us to show others who we are. There is no need to wish we were different or think we aren’t good enough. Oranges are a delicious fruit and are beautiful in their unique coloring and flavor. Nobody wishes oranges were blue. We don’t think they’re insignificant or meaningless because they are orange. They are perfect just as they are, and so are we. We can change anything we like, but as we’re pressing forward and working on making our lives better, we can be happy where we are. We have so much to offer and the whole world is blessed because we are here. Our lives are good and meaningful, and we can do anything we want. We can change anything we like, go anywhere we want to go, and create the lives we want the most. We are the only person exactly like us in all of creation, and our presence brings depth and flavor to the world around us. Nobody could ever take our place and we are more valuable than we realize. We can be confident and strong, trusting ourselves moving forward, knowing we are making a positive difference.

Change isn’t easy and sometimes takes a lot of time. As we’re working toward something we desire, we may be constantly reminded of how long it’s taking to turn the corner, and may feel overwhelmed and sure of failure. But while we’re pushing hard on trying to change, where we are is still working. We are able to do many things well, even in the midst of trial, and success is always in our future. We can be happy for what we currently have and grateful for every opportunity we enjoy.

There will always be another hill to climb and another challenge to conquer. No matter how far we’ve come down the road we want to travel, there will be endless miles ahead yet unexplored. We are always a work in progress. We learn as we go and with each step understand more about the world around us and our place in it. Our influence is great and with confidence and clarity, we can move forward toward any goal we desire and reach any destination before us. We are powerful and smart, and nothing is beyond our reach.

Today if you feel like you don’t count and aren’t valuable enough, remember blue oranges, and think again. Change is always possible but you are incredible and amazing, just as you are right now. We’re all blessed by your presence, and your influence reaches further than you can imagine. Be confident and trust yourself. You are the only one like you. You have so much to offer and bring light to those around you. Step forward and stand tall. You are amazing and we’re all glad you’re here.

Rewrite

18 Dec

Our lives are filled with experiences and we face new situations every day.  When we do well we feel confident and positive about our future.  It’s great when things go as planned and we prevail, but sometimes things go the other way and we not only falter but may actually fail in what we’re trying to do.  Failure hurts and can rattle our confidence and make us believe we can’t succeed.  But it also brings us many personal blessings and is a great teacher.  It we allow ourselves to see everything clearly, including our mistakes, we can learn a lot about what doesn’t work and use the lesson to help us moving forward.  However, if we refuse to see where we’ve blundered and decide instead to rewrite history so it looks like we had nothing to do with what happened we won’t learn anything from the experience.  There will always be other people and situations to blame and if we look for them we’re sure to find them.  Pretending we’re not responsible when we fail will never help us.  If we want to gain as much as we can moving forward, we must own both our successes and our failures, and let them stand clearly and truthfully.  When we are honest about our shortcomings, we learn valuable lessons that teach us about success and show us the way ahead.  There is no need to rewrite history.  We can let it stand as it happened, gain as much as possible from the experience, and step forward with clarity and confidence.  We are capable of every success and nothing is too far for us to reach.  Every step we take teaches us something of value.  If we take a wrong turn, we can correct our course.  We can reach any goal we desire with determination and courage, and every destination is there for us.

We are the only ones who can define who we are and what we want to achieve.  There will always be others with opinions about our lives and what we’re doing, and we may certainly listen to them but we are responsible for our own decisions.  If we follow along with someone else and things work out we’ll be glad we made the decision to go with them.  However, if everything goes south we may feel bad and blame the other party for leading us along.  While the idea may have started with them, we own the choice we made to follow along and are responsible for where we end up.

Everybody makes mistakes and when they’re extreme and far reaching, if we’ve hurt others along the way, we’ll have to deal with the situation we’ve created.  Looking the other way trying to ignore the mess we’ve made will not make things better.  We can own every decision we make, even if it fails, and do what is needed to rectify the situation.  There is no need to rewrite the past.  We can own what’s happened and move forward confidently and with purpose.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and are trying to figure out what to do next, own your part and take a step toward resolving the issue.  There is no shame in failure and you can learn much and take that knowledge with you.  Be confident and clear in your decisions.  You are capable of great success and nothing can hold you down.  Keep moving forward.  The best is yet to come.

Not the End

25 May

When things go wrong and all our plans go up in smoke, and the one thing we’ve wanted to accomplish has seemingly moved further away, we might feel like we’ve reached the end.  We may be tired from trying hard to move forward, disappointed because nothing has gone the way we hoped, and overwhelmed at the idea of starting again.  When everything stops and the goal we want is nowhere in sight it’s tempting to give up and walk away.  When we’re sure we’re done and have reached the end of the road, and we’ve decided enough is enough, we can stop.  We don’t have to keep trying to accomplish anything difficult if we don’t want to.  There are unlimited roads available and limitless chances possible.  We can change direction or continue to take another step forward and determine to stay the course until we reach success.  We have all the courage and wisdom we need to accomplish anything we desire.  We need only decide if the goal is worth the cost, and if it is, move forward.  All our dreams can come true but they will not simply be given to us because we desire them.  They will require work and diligence even when things fall apart and if we’re willing to do what it takes we will make them real.  We can do anything.  Nothing is too difficult for us achieve if we’re determined to win.  All options are possible and we can always find success.

When we’ve been working diligently toward a difficult goal it’s normal to tire.  Even if the goal means a lot to us fatigue may make us re-think our plans.  No battery runs forever and there is no way to push hard endlessly.  When we feel the wear and tear of the struggle, we can take a break and find refreshment.  It’s good to stop when we need a rest and put everything on hold while we recharge.  When we’re ready to begin again we can continue forward with renewed conviction and confidence.  Sometimes the only difference between success and failure is taking time off.  We can be wise and pay attention to where we are and choose what we need to ensure we reach our goals.

We are always changing and sometimes our ideas about our goals going forward change with us.  If we decide we no longer want to continue on any road we can always change direction.  There is nothing wrong with revising our plans.  Change doesn’t mean failure.  Our lives are ours to design and if we no longer want something we’ve been working toward, we can change our plans and redirect the way forward.  We don’t know what we don’t know and sometimes we must get closer to a goal to see it clearly.  We can do anything we want and go anywhere we desire.  By taking the time we need to decide what’s next we can have the lives we dream about and make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve reached an impasse pushing toward a goal you’ve been seeking, decide how you want to proceed.  You’re in charge of your life and can go anywhere you choose.  Take a moment to think about what you really want and then move forward closer to your destination.  You are amazing and strong, and can do anything you desire.  Every dream can come true and you will find your way forward.

Blockade

13 Oct

We all have ideas about how we want our lives to go and what we want to do. When there is something that entices us, something we want, or a destination we’ve decided on, we may be captivated by our plans to achieve it. It’s great when we’re able to succeed and gain the prize but sometimes no matter what we do we can’t get there. Sometimes the door is shut – and locked – and nothing we do will open it. There is a blockade in our path. Perhaps others are involved and blocking our way, or maybe the goal we’re seeking isn’t available to us, or it’s a desired relationship with someone else who isn’t interested in us. Whatever the reason, it’s hard to face a stop sign when we want to proceed. But if there truly is no way to get to the goal we will eventually have to accept the situation as it is. We may try to go around whatever is in our way, or try to negotiate to get in, or a dozen other tactics to try to move forward, but if the answer is truly no we will have to let it go. It’s very difficult to turn away from something we want badly. It can be hard to change and move in another direction but sometimes that’s where we are.

Facing a great disappointment takes time to process. At first we may think it’s a temporary setback and we’ll eventually get to the prize. We may convince ourselves the timing just isn’t right but feel that will change. There is nothing wrong with having a positive attitude but if the goal we’re seeking is truly out of reach it’s better to face the situation and move forward in another direction. There is little to be gained by living in a dream state. Reality is what will bring us truth and truth is what brings happiness. If we need time to grieve over the disappointment, we can take it. If we need a change of scenery, we can get it. And if we need to re-evaluate our plans going forward, we can do that. Serious disappointments aren’t easy to accept and they take time to get through. But we are capable of managing anything we have to face and if we give ourselves the time we need we can move on.

When things go wrong and we’re struggling to find our way we may feel like failures. We may overreact to the disappointment and make it personal. We may believe the lie that we always fail, that nothing we do every goes right, or that nobody will ever love us. Sometimes we will make mistakes and sometimes we will fail. And sometimes even if we haven’t done anything wrong things won’t go our way. It’s important to remember we have many excellent qualities and are capable of doing many things well. We do some things very well. Even if our plans fail, we aren’t failures. Things just didn’t go our way this time. Next time everything will be different. We can be confident in our abilities, and remember we are intelligent and lovable just as we are. Plans may fail but we don’t have to. We can learn and grow and go forward with courage to face the next challenge. There is a lot of success coming our way. We can focus on that and move forward with confidence.

Today if you’re facing a terrible disappointment and feel shaken and unsure, remember all the times you’ve succeeded in the past. There is greatness in you and many more successes ahead. Look forward and be strong. Be confident. You have so much going for you. The future is bright and it’s waiting for you.

I Think I Can

22 Feb

In all our lives, there are times when we want to try something new, stretch, and reach for a goal that is beyond where we are. We think about it, we wonder about it, and sometimes it haunts us when we want to do it but haven’t started because we aren’t sure we can. If we want it badly enough, at some point we will have to stop ignoring it and start going for it. It might be a professional goal, or an educational goal, or a physical goal, or it might just be a change we want to make in our lives that will take effort. Whatever it is, before we start going forward and doing what is needed to achieve it, we must believe we can do it. It’s easy to talk ourselves out of trying something new. There are countless reasons not to attempt it. It might be hard. We may have to change our schedules. It may be inconvenient. It may take away from our personal time, or it may take a long time to achieve.  There are a thousand reasons that may come forward to discourage us from trying. But if we want to do anything, no matter what it is, we only need one reason to do it – because we want to.  And all we have to do to start is believe that we can.

We can do anything we want to do, but if we share our dreams or goals with others, we may not get positive support for our decision to try. Our friends and family love us and sometimes they think they know what’s best for us. They don’t mean to quash our dreams when we share them, but they may feel they are protecting us because we might fail. And they are right. We might fail. And if we don’t try failure is a certainty. But we won’t know what we can do unless we try. If we try and fail, we will have learned a lot as we’ve moved forward, and we can use that information to try again. If we believe we can succeed, and try our best, there is a high probability that we’ll conquer the challenge and gain the prize. It may not be easy but we are capable of taking on difficult tasks. It might take a lot of time, but the time will go by even if we aren’t striving for what we want. It might mean we have to change our personal schedules but we can handle that. We can manage anything we need to change to accommodate this challenge. We can go forward with confidence and we can succeed.

Our lives are ours to live any way we choose. We can take the easy road and keep things the same and predictable. There is nothing wrong with that if we don’t want to learn anything new and don’t want to grow. But learning is a gift we give to ourselves. It embellishes who we are, and deepens our understanding of life. Personal growth allows us to understand ourselves and those around us more completely. And that understanding goes a long way in helping us navigate the challenges that come to us. If we want to be the very best we can and get everything out of our experience here on earth we have to be willing to push ourselves. We have to believe we can do anything. If we do, we’ll enlarge our capacity for understanding, and stretch our wings to encompass anything we set out to do. They say faith precedes the miracle. We don’t get faith after we’ve succeeded. We must have faith first. We really can do anything we want to do. Anything is possible. We just have to believe.

Today if you’ve been thinking about trying something new and you really want to achieve it, you can. Start moving forward today. The first step is all you need to take. The next will follow and if you have sufficient faith, you will succeed. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Take the first step today. Let your confidence lead you all the way to the finish line.

Straight Lines

10 Feb

Our lives don’t usually travel in straight lines. As we move forward, perhaps we take one road and hit a detour, and then turn our course toward another direction. Sometimes we change direction several times until we find our way. We learn as we go, and as we’re learning we modify where we’re headed. At first we might think we know the way, but after several complications make an adjustment. Most things we accomplish are done through trial and error. The errors aren’t permanent road blocks, but merely indications that some correction is needed. Generally the only time we move forward in a straight line is when we’re traveling a road we’ve already conquered. When we’ve been there before, we know the way and it’s easy to get from the beginning to the end. But when we want to go somewhere new, it’s all up for grabs. Maybe this way will work, may that. It doesn’t matter how many times it takes us to find the direction that works. What matters is that we don’t quit when the first road doesn’t take us there.

If we want to do something and the first time out doesn’t work, we don’t have to continue. We can quit. If we didn’t find our way the first time we may decide that trying again isn’t worth the effort. Our lives belong to us and we can manage them any way we like. But if we really want to get somewhere, and it’s important to us, we can try again. The great thing about life is we get unlimited chances to figure things out. We are where we are at any given moment. We know what we’ve learned so far and when we’re reaching for something new there will be situations we haven’t yet faced. We won’t know the perfect way to get there, and sometimes don’t know how much effort it will take. But we do know where we want to go, and knowing that will give us the temerity and courage to find our way.

Failure doesn’t happen when we don’t find our way the first time. Failure only happens when we give up and quit trying. We can get lost again and again and again, but if we reset our direction and try one more time, we haven’t failed. We’ve learned more than we knew when we started out, we’ve discovered what doesn’t work, and we can keep refining things until we get to the destination. There are lots of different roads to every destination. If we keep going, turning here when needed, redirecting there when we reach a detour, we will find our way. We are creative and strong enough to keep going. If the goal is important, it really doesn’t matter how many times it takes us to reach it. What’s important is that we keep going until we succeed. And when we’ve achieved a difficult goal, when we’ve finally mastered everything we need to be successful we will feel great accomplishment, and our confidence will soar. There really isn’t anything we can’t do if we want to badly enough. We can climb mountains, build cities, master new skills, and become the person we most want to be. Everything is available to us. All we have to do is keep going. There is no road too long to travel, no journey too hard to conquer, and no goal too lofty to reach. We can do anything.

Today if you’ve been trying to accomplish something and haven’t found the right road yet, keep trying. It’s there and you will see it. Every road you’ve taken so far has brought you closer to where you want to be. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Try again. The goal is just around the next bend. It’s waiting for you and you will reach it. Don’t stop. You have everything you need to succeed.