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Taking Time

27 Jun

When we’ve been through a seriously painful event, we may suffer greatly. The death of a loved one, a terrible and difficult break-up of a relationship, or a personal and deep betrayal from someone we trusted, may bring us intense sorrow and serious anguish. It takes time to process painful and difficult changes and find a way to manage them. Pain and grief have their own timetables, and how long it takes us to adjust to our new reality is different for every person and every situation. It’s impossible to predict how long it will take until we feel settled again. Nobody wants to suffer for a long time but there are no rules for coping with grief and sadness. We must take things as they come and do our best to continue forward each day. We can always control what we do but we can’t always control how we feel. Recovery will take the time it takes, but no matter how hurt we are or how desperate things may seem, healing will come. Change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever, not even suffering. If we’ve been struggling for a long time, we may feel we should be further down the road, but we are changing a little every day and in time, no matter how long that takes, we can overcome anything. Life is filled with unexpected developments and if we’ve been surprised by a painful and disappointing experience, we can trust that no matter how difficult it is today, we will find our way through. We’re stronger than we think we are and nothing is powerful enough to overcome us. Every blessing is still there for us and we will find peace and happiness again.

Heartbreak comes in many forms. When we’ve been heartbroken, no matter what the circumstances are, we can find our way through in our own way and in our own time. There is no need to rush and we can take all the time necessary until we feel whole again. Nobody knows our deepest sorrows better than we do, and we can move forward one step at a time. Being patient and allowing time to find our footing again will enable us to heal and proceed again with confidence. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and no matter what we’re facing, we have everything we need to prevail.

Some people may try to push us forward in an effort to alleviate our suffering. They may make all kinds of suggestions or give us advice about how to let go and move forward. We can listen to whatever they offer, but we know what we need and can trust ourselves to find our next steps. Pain gives us patience, and we learn how resilient and strong we are as we navigate through it and continue forward. We are powerful and capable, and nothing can hold us down forever. We already have everything we need to prevail and find all the answers.

Today if you’ve been through a serious and painful event, and feel lost and frozen in place, give yourself time to think and rest. There’s no rush to get through. Stand still until you feel ready to move forward again. You are strong and wise, and nothing will overcome you. Trust yourself and take another step forward. Every dream is still there, every blessing is possible, and you will prevail.

Paying the Piper

16 May

We make all kinds of decisions as we go through our lives. Everyone wants to make good choices that bring us the results we’re seeking. Often, we’re successful but sometimes, because we don’t have all the information or we’re pressured by someone or something to go a certain way, we may falter. If we persist in making foolish choices out of habit or laziness, or if we just don’t pay any attention before we jump, we may find we’ve complicated our lives and have no idea how to correct them. There is an old saying, that if you call the dance you have to pay the piper, meaning for every decision we make, there will be an inescapable consequence. If the result is something we don’t want or can’t face we may deny we made the decision or try to hide from the ramifications of our choice. Denials and running away will never work. In the end, we are accountable for everything we do. Once we have chosen the first step on the path, we also must accept the last. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we’ve stumbled and chosen badly, we can stand tall and face whatever happens as a result. We can admit our mistake and then do what is needed to correct our course. If others have been hurt or impacted negatively, we can address each situation and amend our actions. Life is all about learning and we never know what lies ahead. We don’t know everything and each step we take opens our vision a little further. We learn more about where we are, who we are, and where we’re headed as we move ahead. In time, any doubts will clear and we’ll find our way step by step. We can do anything and go anywhere, and we can make excellent choices. The whole world is there for us and with wisdom and patience, we can make it ours.

There isn’t anything we can’t change. Nothing in life is permanent and if we’ve made a mistake in judgement – even a huge one – we can change direction and correct our course. We aren’t doomed forever because we took a wrong turn. Even the direst of situations can be modified and amended until we find resolution. The world won’t end because we made a bad choice. Life will continue and we will survive. Nothing can keep us from success. If we’ve gone the wrong way, we can turn around and start again.

Some people like to play the blame game. When someone does something wrong, they continue to hold it against them and refuse to trust them again. That is their decision and belongs solely to them. If they cannot move beyond what’s happened, we can still continue forward. Blame belongs to those who carry it and cannot keep us from progressing. We can continue on with confidence and make choices that will take us where we want to go until we reach the destinations we desire.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and it’s caused serious disharmony and disruption, look at the situation clearly and change direction. Mistakes don’t control your life. Correct your course and forgive yourself. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent decisions. Every challenge is manageable and you will find your way. Be confident. You have so much to offer. Step forward and find success.

Ghosts

18 Jul

Our lives are a compilation of all our experiences, and we become who we are as we learn going through everything that happens.  Sometimes it’s easy and there is sunshine and cake, but other times the clouds roll in and we get caught in a mire of difficulty, confusion and trouble.  There is no predicting what will happen next and what’s in the past is tattooed on our history forever.  There may be times when something painful from before returns and demands our attention.  Lots of things can go wrong and remembering a bad experience can bring all the painful feelings back in an instant.  Doubt, sorrow, grief, and despair may revisit us and remind us of what we thought we’d left behind.  As we remember what happened and how we felt we may review again and again our actions and try to figure out what went wrong.  There is no way to change the past and if we’ve been hurt, the ghosts of the memory may come again and again until we finally let them go.  There is no way to move forward and hold onto the past at the same time.  When we’re ready we can look at everything clearly, accept that our lives have changed, set the heartache down, and walk away.  Letting go doesn’t mean we have to forget what we’ve learned.  We can carry the lessons forward with us to help us navigate the future and deepen our understanding of life.  We deserve complete happiness and allowing ourselves to leave pain behind and move forward will bring it.

Every problem has a solution but there may be times when the only way to end a problem is to change course.  We can leave a bad relationship that brings us pain and suffering, a job that is unfulfilling or demeaning, or a connection with someone that is destructive.  Once we identify what the problem is we can begin to find the answers we need to address it.  If the answer requires a big change in our lives it will take determination and courage to bring it about.  It doesn’t matter how hard it is to resolve any issue.  We have all the courage and strength we need to do whatever is necessary to correct our course and find happiness.

Everything we experience becomes part of who we are and goes forward with us forever.  How we manage the memories is up to us.  There is no need to go back and dissect every action, every word, or every outcome.  We are not perfect and when we look back there will be things we wish we could change.  But the past is behind us and cannot be altered.  There is no need to carry every disappointment forward.  We can learn everything possible from the experience and continue on with confidence.

Today if there are ghosts from the past reminding you of things that went wrong, be confident and let them go.  What’s behind you is gone and will not return.  Take everything you’ve learned going forward and continue toward your dreams.  You are incredible and wise, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Everything is possible and you will reach every goal you desire.  Nothing can keep you from success.

Making Predictions

26 Jun

Our lives are a combination of what’s behind us, what we’re going through now and what we hope will come in the future.  When we make decisions that fail or take us somewhere we didn’t want to go we can learn from what happened and take the lessons forward with us to help us choose more wisely in the future.  Everyone has something in their past they would like to erase, some choice that turned out badly and hurt them or those around them.  It would be great if we could delete the things we’ve done we regret but this is real life and what’s behind us is permanent and unchangeable.  Looking back in an effort to see things more clearly and understand more deeply what happened in an effort to learn can be helpful.  But if we hold onto what we perceive as personal failures and get stuck obsessing over what we did wrong it may color our ability to be successful in the future.  There is no way to predict what will come to us but we have control over how we handle every situation every time.  We are not doomed to repeat mistakes again and again simply because they are part of our history.  We can change and grow and learn new ways to find success.  Everyone makes mistakes – sometimes big, disastrous mistakes – but they don’t predict what we’ll do in the future.  We are capable of learning and using increased wisdom as we move forward, and when we do, no matter what’s happened in the past, we can find success.
There is a common saying that “Once a dog, always a dog,” meaning if someone made a big mistake in the past, odds are they’ll do it again.  We’re all capable of change and if we fall down we can learn everything possible so we can choose more effectively in the future.  However, if we stumble and refuse to see the lessons there for us, we may well repeat the behavior, sometimes again and again.  We are in control of the decisions we make and our futures belong to us.  We can become the people we most want to be by paying attention and gaining all we can from what we experience each day and using the lessons learned to help us move forward.
One big mistake does not determine our future.  Even if everything falls apart and our lives seemingly blow up in our faces we are not permanently frozen in place.  Sometimes everything goes wrong and at first, we can’t see the way forward.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold us down forever.  No matter what goes wrong there will be another day and new decisions to make.  We can be confident, even if we’ve failed in the past, that we can reach success.  The wrong decision is only that – the wrong decision.  It’s not the end of the road.  We can reroute the way forward and start again.  Every dream is possible and nothing can keep us from achieving them.
Today if you’re focusing on something that went wrong in the past and aren’t sure you can reach your goals, there is always a way to find success.  There are unlimited choices before you and you can do anything.  Step forward and start again.  Every option is there and nothing is out of reach.  Learn from the past and push ahead.  The whole world is waiting for you.  Every dream can come true and you will succeed.

Going Through

16 Feb

As we go through our lives we experience many new things.  Some experiences are easy, make us happy and move us forward, and others are more difficult to navigate and may leave lasting scars.  If we’ve been through a very intense and unpleasant event, and we’ve been hurt deeply or our way forward has been completely altered, we may feel the pain for some time.  Everything we go through teaches us something, and not all lessons are positive.  When we’re overcoming a difficult passage and must find a new way forward, we may feel bruised and uncertain.  We may even begin to believe we will never succeed again, and choose to stand still and hold tight to what is familiar.  We can live our lives any way we like and there is always the option of staying in the same place.  But we are capable of achieving even our highest expectations and if we stand still we will never know how far we could go.  There is comfort in familiarity and if we’re recovering from something difficult, staying close to what we know may help us feel strong again.  But once we’re back on our feet and things have settled, we can start on a new road and begin once more.  Life is filled with opportunity and there is nothing we can’t do.  We can be courageous enough to let go of pain from the past and move forward with confidence.  The road is long and we have much to learn.  Walking forward and pushing ahead will help us become the people we really want to be.  We are stronger and braver than we realize.  There is nothing we can’t do.  We can move forward and overcome any obstacle.  Our lives belong to us and we will find happiness and success.

If we’ve been through a traumatic event and our lives have changed dramatically, it can feel like we’ve fallen into a deep well that is impossible to escape.  The only constant in life is change.  No matter where we are or what’s happening now, it will change.  There is no way to hold anything in place forever.  When it feels like everything is out of control and we are held down by pain or fear, we can step back and trust that soon things will be different.  We are capable of managing anything that comes to us.  Time will turn the tide, and we will find our footing again.

We cannot control what others do or what comes to us but we are always in control of our own lives.  Our decisions are always in our power and even if we feel lost we can make our own choices going forward.  There will always be another road to walk on, and another way to get where we want to go.  Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place or take our choices from us.  We can decide how we want to continue forward.  Success is always there for us and no matter where we are now, there is a road that will take us to it.

Today if you’ve been through a difficult passage and are holding yourself in place, remember how strong and capable you are.  There isn’t anything too complicated for you to overcome.  Your life belongs to you alone and you can make excellent decisions.  Look ahead and choose the road you want to travel.  Be confident and begin forward.  Everything you dream of is waiting for you and you will reach it.

Beginning

21 Sep

We all experience loss as we go through our lives. Sometimes it’s minor and easily forgotten, but other times the loss may impact us greatly. If we lose a loved one, the friendship of someone we value, a personal relationship or something we want very much to keep, we may suffer greatly. Loss is a difficult process and we may seriously grieve for a time. Learning to live without what is gone may feel nearly impossible at first but as time passes we find a way to move forward and adjust our understanding of where we are. Endings can be painful but each ending brings the gift of a beginning with it. We may not see anything new at first and may hold onto hope that somehow, we may restore what has passed. All endings have beginnings attached to them and in time we will see them. We are not frozen in place and every time we end something we start something else. If the loss is great we may struggle to navigate for a while and the future may seem dark and bleak. But as each day passes we gain strength and eventually acceptance. Once we accept that our lives have changed and we are on a new road we can begin to plan the way forward. Loss is a natural part of life. Even when it’s very difficult we will find a way through. There isn’t anything strong enough or difficult enough to hold us in place. We will begin to walk forward again and find joy.

We have all the power we need within us to do anything. No matter what is happening we know what we want and what we need to do. The lessons and challenges of our lives have taught us how to survive and find our way. All the experiences we’ve had already will come forward and help us navigate a new road ahead. We’ve been successful many times already and will be successful again. If we trust in our abilities to overcome trials and remember how strong we are, we will prevail. There isn’t anything we can’t do. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward and start again.

If we’ve suffered a sudden extreme loss we may be stunned and unable to move. It’s okay to stand still when we need to and we can take time to think and process what’s happening. There is no rush and we can go slowly. Healing takes time and we can move at our own pace. We can allow ourselves the space we need to understand our situation and look at our options going forward. We have everything necessary to begin again and when we’re ready we can take the first step. The future is still there for us and we will find our way.

Today if you’ve suffered a difficult loss and are confused and unsure how to move forward, give yourself time to think and take things slowly. There is no rush and you will find your way. Your future is still secure and you will find success. The answers are there for you and you will find them. You have everything you need to face anything you must. You are stronger than you know and perfectly capable of overcoming anything. Trust yourself. Every good thing is there for you.

Moving On

11 Jul

There are all kinds of people in the world. Some embellish our lives and bring us fun and happiness. Others may bring complication and drama. There are limitless experiences and we might face times when we get hurt because of our association with someone. The human race is a mixed bag and from day to day we never know what we’re going to see. When we have painful experiences with others and are hurt deeply we may want to get as far from them as possible, and sometimes we can do that. But if we must continue to interact with them because of professional alliances or personal connections we can’t break such as family relationships, it may be hard when they are near us. If the pain is raw it may be difficult to breathe when they appear and very hard to navigate the situation. Even if we’ve been successful in staying away from them for a time, if they unexpectedly re-enter our circle it may be hard to get through. The memory of the pain from our previous experience may come flooding back and we may feel we’re suffering through it all again. Even if it feels we’re right back where we were it’s only an illusion triggered by memory. We can take a breath and remember how far we’ve come. We need not re-live anything that is painful and if old feelings wash over us we can see them objectively and let them go. Old wounds always heal if we let them and memories only have the power we give them. We have so much to offer and can keep moving forward no matter what has passed. Each day brings a new promise and we can create happy and successful lives going forward.

Deception is a destructive tool. It can be used to create convincing mirages that mislead us. If others use deception to pull us in we may find ourselves walking foreign territory, unsure of what is real and where to go. Often there is much confusion and misdirection but we may miss the cues if we value those leading us along. When the deception is revealed, as it inevitably will be, we may feel lost or shame that we fell for the lie. But there is no fault when we have faith and believe in others. The blame and responsibility belong to those who deceive and not those who are taken in.

Honesty is an all or nothing position. We’re either honest or we aren’t. There is no sliding scale or gray area. When we are honest in all our dealings our lives are easier to manage and clearly understood by those around us. If we manipulate the truth to suit our needs, or pretend to be something we aren’t, in time our deception will be uncovered. Hurting others through deception will never bring us lasting happiness. It’s far better to live cleanly and openly, even when the truth is difficult. Using dishonest plans, following those who deceive or reshaping what is real to fit our personal desires will only bring us hardship. We can live noble and honest lives and choose what is best at every turn and when we do we’ll find lasting happiness.

Today if you must face a situation that carries with it bad memories from the past, remember who you are and how far you’ve come. You are strong and resilient and capable of living an excellent and successful life. The past is behind you and has no power over your future. Go forward with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do.