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Turning the Page

15 Sep

We’ll all have good times and bad times, things will go well or we may fail, we’ll rejoice or experience heartbreak. Good experiences lift us and bring greater joy and hope for the road ahead. Hard times filled with worry, concern, or sadness, help us gain greater stamina and strength. If we have a very extreme event that hurts us deeply or completely changes our direction, we may feel stunned and unsure. When the world turns upside down, it’s hard to find our footing. We may stumble and get lost for a time, and begin to think we’ll never survive. But we are stronger and more resilient than we think we are, and as each moment passes, our confidence will increase and we’ll find our way forward. We can modify our plans for the future and stay where we are, or decide to completely change direction. Like turning the page in a book, we can change everything and start again somewhere new. The world is a huge place. There are endless destinations, and things to do. We are never restricted to where we are and what we’re doing. We don’t need agreement or permission from those around us to change our lives in any way or at any time. A new location with new opportunities opens the door to different experiences that expand our thinking, and bring the possibility of great happiness. We’re always in control of our lives, and never need suffer longer than we want to. If we’re ready to move on to something new, we can. Every option is possible and nothing is out of reach. The book of life is long, and we can turn the page to a new experience at any time. We deserve complete happiness, and with determination and confidence, will have it.

Personal heartbreak is very painful. When someone we love walks away, they leave a big hole in our happiness. If we’re devastated, we may think we’ll never get over it, and will be emotionally destroyed for the rest of our lives. That will never happen. No matter how much pain we’re in now, tomorrow will be better. Each day will bring healing, and in time, however long it takes, we’ll be whole again. We can trust that no matter how hard things seem right now, the road will straighten and we’ll be able to move ahead with clarity and confidence. Nothing can hold us down indefinitely. Every dream is still there for us, and we will reach them.

There can be great comfort in routine. We know what to expect and are used to how things work. However, if our lives are upended by something unexpected, everything may change. The road we were on may turn and we may find ourselves headed toward something we no longer want. There are endless roads possible and we can change direction at any time. We are more valuable and precious than we can imagine, and can do anything we desire. Despite what’s happened, nothing can keep us from success, and we can have the lives we want the most.

Today if your life has suddenly changed, and you’re unsure about how to proceed, trust yourself. You are powerful and strong. Decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. You deserve complete happiness and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident. Every dream is there for you, and you will make them yours.

Not Yet the End

31 Aug

We go through all kinds of experiences as we live our lives. Sometimes things go well and we feel settled and comfortable, but we may experience seriously difficult challenges that make us miserable. If we go through a terrible heartbreak, we might feel we’ll never get over it. Breaking a relationship can bring a lot of pain and distress. It hurts to lose someone we love, and it may be impossible to think about the future. If we’re truly suffering and it’s painful to even breathe, we may think we’ll never get over it. This is it, and our lives are ending. Even the worst-case scenario where we are devastated and completely lost doesn’t mean we’re done. The end of a relationship isn’t the end of us. It may really hurt badly, and we may think we can’t survive, but then one day passes and we’re still here. Then another day passes, and if we just keep enduring, time will ease the pain and help us continue on. There are no quick fixes when our lives have taken a dramatic turn that brings us great discomfort. We won’t be back to our happy selves overnight, but we will return. How long it takes depends on a lot of factors, but we can trust that we’ll find peace and comfort again. Life is filled with all kinds of events. It doesn’t matter how difficult they are, we are stronger than anything we’ll face. If we can’t have what we want, we can change our focus. There will always be another road and another opportunity to reach success. Although we may suffer, nothing is powerful enough to hold us down forever. If we can’t stand up and look ahead with confidence today, we will do so tomorrow. We are more resilient than we know, and nothing, not even heartbreak, can keep us from success. Tomorrow will come and the storm will clear. Every dream is still there for us, and with determination and faith, we will reach them all.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. When someone we trust or love, lets us down or does something purposely to hurt us, it can be devastating. We may stand in disbelief, wondering how this happened. We can only control ourselves and the decisions we make. It’s good to trust others, and believe in them, and we can design our lives in ways that bring us great happiness and satisfaction. Our relationships are important, but if they hurt us, we can step away and move in a new direction.

We only know what others reveal to us. They may be open and honest about their feelings, or they may hold back information that may hurt us, or reveal something they don’t want us to know. Truth is powerful and no matter what we do to conceal it, will always rise and become clear. If we discover our relationship isn’t what we thought, we can decide how we want to proceed. We are never doomed to stay in any situation we don’t want. There will always be new options possible, and we can choose the way ahead with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’re struggling with heartbreak and feel like you’ll never be happy again, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing can break you or hold you in place indefinitely. Take your time and trust yourself. You are amazing and capable. There is great happiness just ahead and every success is still possible.

Taking Time

27 Jun

When we’ve been through a seriously painful event, we may suffer greatly. The death of a loved one, a terrible and difficult break-up of a relationship, or a personal and deep betrayal from someone we trusted, may bring us intense sorrow and serious anguish. It takes time to process painful and difficult changes and find a way to manage them. Pain and grief have their own timetables, and how long it takes us to adjust to our new reality is different for every person and every situation. It’s impossible to predict how long it will take until we feel settled again. Nobody wants to suffer for a long time but there are no rules for coping with grief and sadness. We must take things as they come and do our best to continue forward each day. We can always control what we do but we can’t always control how we feel. Recovery will take the time it takes, but no matter how hurt we are or how desperate things may seem, healing will come. Change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever, not even suffering. If we’ve been struggling for a long time, we may feel we should be further down the road, but we are changing a little every day and in time, no matter how long that takes, we can overcome anything. Life is filled with unexpected developments and if we’ve been surprised by a painful and disappointing experience, we can trust that no matter how difficult it is today, we will find our way through. We’re stronger than we think we are and nothing is powerful enough to overcome us. Every blessing is still there for us and we will find peace and happiness again.

Heartbreak comes in many forms. When we’ve been heartbroken, no matter what the circumstances are, we can find our way through in our own way and in our own time. There is no need to rush and we can take all the time necessary until we feel whole again. Nobody knows our deepest sorrows better than we do, and we can move forward one step at a time. Being patient and allowing time to find our footing again will enable us to heal and proceed again with confidence. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and no matter what we’re facing, we have everything we need to prevail.

Some people may try to push us forward in an effort to alleviate our suffering. They may make all kinds of suggestions or give us advice about how to let go and move forward. We can listen to whatever they offer, but we know what we need and can trust ourselves to find our next steps. Pain gives us patience, and we learn how resilient and strong we are as we navigate through it and continue forward. We are powerful and capable, and nothing can hold us down forever. We already have everything we need to prevail and find all the answers.

Today if you’ve been through a serious and painful event, and feel lost and frozen in place, give yourself time to think and rest. There’s no rush to get through. Stand still until you feel ready to move forward again. You are strong and wise, and nothing will overcome you. Trust yourself and take another step forward. Every dream is still there, every blessing is possible, and you will prevail.

Paying the Piper

16 May

We make all kinds of decisions as we go through our lives. Everyone wants to make good choices that bring us the results we’re seeking. Often, we’re successful but sometimes, because we don’t have all the information or we’re pressured by someone or something to go a certain way, we may falter. If we persist in making foolish choices out of habit or laziness, or if we just don’t pay any attention before we jump, we may find we’ve complicated our lives and have no idea how to correct them. There is an old saying, that if you call the dance you have to pay the piper, meaning for every decision we make, there will be an inescapable consequence. If the result is something we don’t want or can’t face we may deny we made the decision or try to hide from the ramifications of our choice. Denials and running away will never work. In the end, we are accountable for everything we do. Once we have chosen the first step on the path, we also must accept the last. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we’ve stumbled and chosen badly, we can stand tall and face whatever happens as a result. We can admit our mistake and then do what is needed to correct our course. If others have been hurt or impacted negatively, we can address each situation and amend our actions. Life is all about learning and we never know what lies ahead. We don’t know everything and each step we take opens our vision a little further. We learn more about where we are, who we are, and where we’re headed as we move ahead. In time, any doubts will clear and we’ll find our way step by step. We can do anything and go anywhere, and we can make excellent choices. The whole world is there for us and with wisdom and patience, we can make it ours.

There isn’t anything we can’t change. Nothing in life is permanent and if we’ve made a mistake in judgement – even a huge one – we can change direction and correct our course. We aren’t doomed forever because we took a wrong turn. Even the direst of situations can be modified and amended until we find resolution. The world won’t end because we made a bad choice. Life will continue and we will survive. Nothing can keep us from success. If we’ve gone the wrong way, we can turn around and start again.

Some people like to play the blame game. When someone does something wrong, they continue to hold it against them and refuse to trust them again. That is their decision and belongs solely to them. If they cannot move beyond what’s happened, we can still continue forward. Blame belongs to those who carry it and cannot keep us from progressing. We can continue on with confidence and make choices that will take us where we want to go until we reach the destinations we desire.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and it’s caused serious disharmony and disruption, look at the situation clearly and change direction. Mistakes don’t control your life. Correct your course and forgive yourself. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent decisions. Every challenge is manageable and you will find your way. Be confident. You have so much to offer. Step forward and find success.

Ghosts

18 Jul

Our lives are a compilation of all our experiences, and we become who we are as we learn going through everything that happens.  Sometimes it’s easy and there is sunshine and cake, but other times the clouds roll in and we get caught in a mire of difficulty, confusion and trouble.  There is no predicting what will happen next and what’s in the past is tattooed on our history forever.  There may be times when something painful from before returns and demands our attention.  Lots of things can go wrong and remembering a bad experience can bring all the painful feelings back in an instant.  Doubt, sorrow, grief, and despair may revisit us and remind us of what we thought we’d left behind.  As we remember what happened and how we felt we may review again and again our actions and try to figure out what went wrong.  There is no way to change the past and if we’ve been hurt, the ghosts of the memory may come again and again until we finally let them go.  There is no way to move forward and hold onto the past at the same time.  When we’re ready we can look at everything clearly, accept that our lives have changed, set the heartache down, and walk away.  Letting go doesn’t mean we have to forget what we’ve learned.  We can carry the lessons forward with us to help us navigate the future and deepen our understanding of life.  We deserve complete happiness and allowing ourselves to leave pain behind and move forward will bring it.

Every problem has a solution but there may be times when the only way to end a problem is to change course.  We can leave a bad relationship that brings us pain and suffering, a job that is unfulfilling or demeaning, or a connection with someone that is destructive.  Once we identify what the problem is we can begin to find the answers we need to address it.  If the answer requires a big change in our lives it will take determination and courage to bring it about.  It doesn’t matter how hard it is to resolve any issue.  We have all the courage and strength we need to do whatever is necessary to correct our course and find happiness.

Everything we experience becomes part of who we are and goes forward with us forever.  How we manage the memories is up to us.  There is no need to go back and dissect every action, every word, or every outcome.  We are not perfect and when we look back there will be things we wish we could change.  But the past is behind us and cannot be altered.  There is no need to carry every disappointment forward.  We can learn everything possible from the experience and continue on with confidence.

Today if there are ghosts from the past reminding you of things that went wrong, be confident and let them go.  What’s behind you is gone and will not return.  Take everything you’ve learned going forward and continue toward your dreams.  You are incredible and wise, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Everything is possible and you will reach every goal you desire.  Nothing can keep you from success.