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Second Guessing

10 Jan

In difficult and complicated situations when we’re making decisions about what we want or need to do, we want to make the best choice going forward.  If we need to confront someone about something they did or apologize for something we’ve done it might be difficult to decide how to proceed.  We can objectively review all the facts to clarify exactly what we want to say and how we want to address our concerns.  Once we determine what the best course of action is we can proceed with confidence and do what is needed to amend the situation.  But sometimes after we’ve decided what needs to be done we might second guess our decision.  What if things don’t go the way we want them too, what if our interaction goes awry and things get worse, what if the other person refuses to see us, the list of possibilities is endless.  Second guessing may hold us back from doing what we need to move forward and hold us in place somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we need to do something to fix a situation and default to doing nothing because we are afraid or unsure about what might happen, the situation will remain unresolved.  We will carry it with us going forward.  The only way around any problem is to solve it. There is no way to know how anything will work out when we’re trying to move forward, but one thing is certain, if we do nothing everything will remain the same.  Addressing our problems head on and facing them instead of looking away will help us continue forward toward our goals and bring us confidence.  We don’t have to hold onto any issue longer than we want to.  All the answers are there for us.  Taking control of the issue and facing it will help us find our way forward and bring us happiness and satisfaction.

There are endless “what ifs” if we think about them.  Lots of things can always go wrong but lots of things can also go right.  If we try to address a problem or situation with someone else and they don’t want to settle the issue, it then belongs to them.  Once we’ve done all we can to resolve the problem we don’t have to carry it forward.  We can’t control what anyone else does and if they will not agree to work things out, we can let it go and hope things will improve over time.

In our lives we will have the opportunity to solve many difficult situations.  Some answers will come easily and others will take time and serious thought.  There is no problem without a solution.  We can be confident in our ability to understand any situation clearly and find the answers we need.  Nothing is impossible and we are wise and capable.  Our happiness and comfort are our responsibility, and when things go wrong we can take control of our decisions and choose the best path forward.

Today if you need to solve a difficult problem and have been second guessing the way forward, choose the best solution and move ahead.  You know what needs to be done and you are wise enough to find the answers you need.  Be confident and brave.  You have everything you need to succeed.  There isn’t anything too difficult for you to resolve.  Make your decisions and move forward.  Success is there for you.

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Check Marks

27 Jun

When we have a lot to do and many things to accomplish we sometimes make lists. As we get something done we might check it off and move onto the next item. When all our tasks have been done and we have many check marks showing our progress we may feel great accomplishment at what we’ve achieved. Making a check mark when we complete something helps us see our progress and makes it easy to see what we have yet to do. Lists are great for chores and errands but in our personal lives the things we most want to accomplish aren’t always that easy to check off. Personal growth doesn’t happen all at once and even if we’re working hard toward achieving it, it’s unlikely we’ll check it off quickly. Change isn’t usually a one step process. It may require us to modify and re-think many parts of our lives before we can move forward. We are complex beings and nothing is ever as easy as it looks at the beginning. Personal growth is a progression from one place to another. It doesn’t happen instantaneously and may take considerable time. It won’t work to make a list of personal changes we want to achieve and expect to check them off like a list of chores. We can set small goals that will lead us to the change we want and as we master one move onto the next. Each day we can move forward a little more. We can do anything we want to do and change anything in our lives we desire but we must do it our own way on our own timetable. We don’t need a check mark to show how far we’ve come. Growth is a continual process and once we’ve reached a specific goal we may continue on to the next.

Being goal oriented helps us accomplish many things. We can make a plan, decide the steps we want to take and begin forward. When we look inward the changes we desire will require personal thought and introspection. There is no schedule or time frame restriction on personal growth. We move forward as we change and modify our behaviors. It may come quickly or it may take some time. We can take things step by step and embrace change in ways that are best for us individually.

When we really want to make a personal change, we may be impatient and expect it to happen overnight. Our personalities are complex and there are many facets to the behaviors that define us. We can change anything we desire but if we must modify long standing patterns and routines it will require effort. Forging a new road forward may take time and perseverance. With patience and determination there isn’t anything we can’t do. We have everything we need to accomplish anything we desire if we resolve to make it happen and refuse to quit. We can design our lives any way we like and there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if you want to change something in your life but it’s harder than you thought it would be and taking longer than you imagined, keep moving forward. The goal is within reach and you will achieve it. You have everything you need to accomplish anything you desire. Keep moving forward. You will reach the destination.

Not Stopping

20 Jun

There are a lot of things going on in our lives all the time. We have responsibilities we must attend to, things we have to get done, commitments we need to keep and endless details to address. In the midst of all this we also have our personal goals and dreams we want to pursue. It can be hard to keep our focus on everything and still find time to do the things we really want to accomplish. It’s frustrating to want something badly and feel like we’re stuck because of other things in the way. The journey can get muddled and we may lose our confidence that we’ll ever get to the destination. We may have to move slowly and we may face detours and roadblocks but if we keep taking another step forward we will get closer to the goal. The only time we are destined to fail is if we stop. Stopping the journey will guarantee we won’t arrive at the destination. We can take a break if we need to but that doesn’t mean we stop altogether. If we’re on a road trip and stop for gas we don’t stay and move into the gas station forever. We take care of what is needed and continue on. The same is true in our personal lives. We may have to stop momentarily but as soon as we’re ready we may continue forward again. Not stopping is the only way to reach any goal. Persistence is the most powerful attribute we possess and will help us achieve anything. We can face what comes and overcome any obstacle if we are motivated enough. There isn’t anything we can’t achieve.

There are a lot of interesting and intriguing things in the world. We may come upon a detour that captures our attention. If it draws us aside and captivates us we may take a step off the road forward. There is nothing wrong with taking a break from the journey but we may find that time passes and we’ve spent it doing things that have kept us in place. If we’ve decided we no longer want to pursue the goal we may change our focus but if we still want to continue forward we can redirect our attention and begin again.

We can do anything we want with our lives. They belong to us and we may design them and take them anywhere we want to go. We all have dreams and goals we want to accomplish but they will never come to us without effort. If we sit back and simply enjoy things as they are they will remain the same. We may be content to do nothing but if we want to achieve something new we must go forward to get there. We have everything we need to do anything we want. We can progress with confidence and stay on the course until we reach the destination.

Today if you’ve been distracted by all the things going on in your life and haven’t moved closer your goal, make a plan to move forward and re-direct your path. You can achieve anything you desire. You are smarter and stronger than you imagine. Be determined and move forward with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t achieve. All your dreams are waiting for you and you will make them come true.

Making the Cut

22 May

When we’re trying to move forward to accomplish something we really want to achieve we may face many obstacles.  As they come, others may say we aren’t smart enough, strong enough, wise enough or frankly just not good enough to get through.  When we don’t move forward the way we think we should we may feel they are right.  We can push forward toward any dream we want but there may be times when things stand in our way.  We never know the whole story when we’re starting out.  There are few journeys without complications, detours, setbacks or problems.  If they are continuous we may feel we can’t do it, we can’t make the cut and get to the prize.  Life is filled with uncertainty.  Things change constantly.  People get involved who may complicate the road forward and we may tire of pressing through problems.  If we let the complications become personal we may believe we are failures and can’t win and if our confidence is compromised we may be convinced.  The way to a happy life is doing the things that mean the most to us.  We’ve proven again and again that we can achieve what we desire.  We can find our way around any problem we face and with enough determination we can achieve anything.  We always make the cut when we persevere.  We have everything we need to succeed and nothing can stop us from getting to the goal.

Some people aren’t interested in learning new things, don’t want to advance down the road and are content staying in the same place.  If we have someone like that in our lives they may discourage us from trying.  They may say it’s too hard and we should be happy where we are.  They may even try to do things to keep us from moving forward.  We can hear their advice and then do what is best for us.  We own our lives and are in control of where they go and what we do.  Taking control and doing what we want most will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Some roads have a lot of bumps and detours.  The higher the hill the harder it is to climb.  If we are striving for greatness the path may be complicated and difficult but we can navigate it with persistence and patience.  There is no road that can’t be traveled.  We always have everything we need to succeed.  Each step we take forward will take us closer to the prize.  It doesn’t matter how hard it is to get there or how long it takes.  What matters is that we continue forward until we reach it.  We are more capable and stronger than we think we are and we can do anything we desire.  There is nothing out of reach.

Today if you’ve been pushing hard toward a goal you want to reach and it seems everything is standing in your way, keep looking ahead.  Focus on the path forward and continue moving closer to your destination.  Complications are there to show what doesn’t work and you will find your way.  Persevere and you will find success.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are amazing, capable and strong, and worth more than you can imagine.  Keep going.  You will win.

Cake

28 Feb

Cake is delicious and most of us enjoy it from time to time. If we want to bake it ourselves, we must pull together all the ingredients and combine them to get the best results. If we don’t have an ingredient we may be able to substitute something instead but we can’t usually leave something important out and expect things to go well. In our lives, we have lots of opportunities to try new things and with each endeavor we need the skills and tools – the ingredients – to be successful. Sometimes we may have some of the things necessary and must work to gain the remaining items before we begin. Other times we may have everything we need to accomplish a goal but instead of moving forward we wait. Perhaps we aren’t confident we can succeed, or there are others telling us we will fail. We may wait until we feel sure or we may forge ahead and go after success now. There may be obstacles but we have everything we need to manage any difficulty before us. It takes heat to make a cake and it takes work to achieve our goals. When we want to accomplish something, we can pull our talents together and face anything that comes as we press forward. We have everything we need to succeed and when we’re ready there is nothing that will stop us.

No matter what we’re working toward there will likely be complications along the way. There are few times in our lives when everything goes exactly as planned. We’re flexible enough to adjust our trajectory going forward if something is in our way and wise enough to figure out any problem we may have to solve. If we are determined to achieve something, and if we’re willing to do what it takes to move forward, we will succeed. Success doesn’t just happen because we want it. We must see the objective clearly, determine what we must do to achieve it, and then work toward the goal. Each step forward brings us closer to where we want to be. If we stumble we can correct our course. If take a wrong turn we can revise our plans. Working diligently and consistently will get us to the destination we’re seeking.

There are lots of choices in the world. Before we do anything we first must decide what it is we want to accomplish. We must determine what we want to do and where we want to go. Even if we know we want cake, there are dozens of flavors we can choose. Do we want chocolate, vanilla, cherry, black forest, German chocolate, Boston cream or something else? The same is true in our lives. Our choices are limitless and we can’t move forward if we don’t know where we want to go. We can determine what we want most to accomplish, and then we can make a plan to achieve the goal. There isn’t anything we can’t do. Our lives are ours to design. Once we decide what we really want there is nothing that will stop us from success.

Today decide what you want most and where you want to go. The world is here for you and you can do anything you choose. Be confident. There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Determine what you want most and then plan to achieve it. Success is waiting for you. Take the first step toward it today.

Try After Try

26 Jan

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

When we’re trying to find our way through something complicated, sometimes the first road we choose doesn’t take us to resolution. If the situation is very complex and there are others involved, we may try several options before we find our way through. Day after day if what we thought would take us to the answer doesn’t work, we must try again. Try after try can wear on our patience when nothing changes and we may begin to believe we are stuck forever someplace we don’t want to be. It’s like having our tires stuck in the mud, spinning and spinning trying to break free but going nowhere. Our patience may be tested, our reasoning may be challenged and we may become exhausted trying to find our way. If we’ve tried and tried and haven’t found success, sometimes we may need to step back for a moment to regain our perspective. Being in the middle of a problem may influence our vision and make it hard to see all the options available. Stepping back from the issue, clearing our minds and looking at it objectively may open new ideas and help us see a way forward we hadn’t considered. Problems come and go and we can find our way through anything. Stopping and stepping away from the fray for a moment may open doors we didn’t see before and help us solve whatever has held us captive.

Feeling overwhelmed won’t help us find answers. If we believe the problem is too big to solve and doubt we will ever find answers we may get stuck. If we don’t think we can solve the issue, or lack the confidence to continue when things go wrong, we will fail. We can give up at any time and refuse to continue but if we do, we will never find success. The willingness to try one more time, no matter how many times we’ve tried before, will open the way forward. Although it may take time, there are no answers too difficult for us to find. We can solve any problem if we keep trying until we find our way. There is nothing too difficult or too complex for us to figure out. We have what we need to succeed as long as we keep trying.

There may be others around us who may encourage us to give up. They may tell us it’s too hard or it’s not worth the trouble. We may certainly take their advice and quit but if we do we guarantee the goal we are seeking will not be met. If we decide we no longer want to proceed, we may stop. But if what we’ve been trying to accomplish is important to us and we really want to achieve it, we may continue forward. Success is always possible and we can have it. We can try one more time, and we will find our way.

Today if you’ve tried and tried to make something work and you’re still struggling, decide if the goal is still important to you. If it is, step back to see things objectively, and then try again. You are worth every success you are seeking. Try one more time. The doors will open and you will find your way.

Cheating

10 Jan

When there’s something we want to accomplish, sometimes we think we’re ready but find it hard to move forward. We may think we’re prepared to make the change, talk about it, get others to help us, make a plan and attempt to work it. But if we aren’t convinced we really want it, despite all the planning we may look for ways to cheat. If we aren’t ready to do what’s needed to turn the tide, we may vacillate back and forth with our decision. For instance, if we want to lose weight we may sign up for a program we think will work and determine to move forward. At the beginning, we may feel strong in our decision but if we aren’t ready to change we may look for ways around the diet requirements, make up “cheat days,” or pretend we’re eating less than we know we are. Our confidence may suffer as time passes and nothing changes. We won’t find success even if we pretend we’re working hard and nothing will change. Looking for a way to cheat is a sign that we’re not yet ready to move forward and it’s unlikely we’ll find success. Everyone is on their own timetable. If we really want something to happen, we can do what is needed to achieve it. But if we’re unsure, or unconvinced, it’s better to wait before we try to implement the actions we need to take. If we aren’t ready, we can be honest with ourselves and prepare to get ready. We can take the time we need to change our thinking, decide what we really want, and then plan our way forward. There isn’t anything we can’t do, but we must decide we really want to achieve the goal or we’ll go nowhere.

Sometimes we make decisions based on what others think we should be doing instead of what we really want to do. There may be pressure from friends or family to change something in our lives and if that pressure is great enough we may try to go along. But change only happens when we decide we want it. We are the only ones in control of our lives and if we aren’t ready, we can wait. The best we can do is decide what we want most for ourselves and then live our lives accordingly.

There may be times when we really want to change something but haven’t had the courage or the ability to make it happen. Maybe we aren’t convinced we can do it, or perhaps it will take longer than we hoped, or it’s harder than we thought it would be. We can always change our plans and modify what we want going forward. But if there is something we really want and haven’t been successful in achieving, evaluating our reasons for wanting the change may help us commit. If our motivation is strong enough we will succeed. We can do anything when we’re ready. If we want a change, even if it’s eluded us in the past, we can make it happen.

Today if you’ve been going back and forth with a decision you want to make, decide what you really want and go forward. You can do anything you want to do. What’s happened in the past doesn’t matter. The road ahead belongs to you and you can make it any way you want. Decide where you want to go and be confident. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to achieve.