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Don’t Tell

17 Sep

We go through a lot of experiences as we travel through our lives. Most of us want to be open and honest, but we might face a time when something happens, or we do something we don’t want anyone to know about. Maybe it’s something we’re ashamed of, or we fear others will think less of us if the truth comes out. If we’ve done something illegal or unethical, we may be intensely motivated to keep it hidden. Nobody is perfect and we all do things we wish we hadn’t, but keeping secrets isn’t easy. They are heavy, and tend to get heavier as time passes. Truth is powerful, and no matter what we do or how well we try to hide it, will eventually make itself known. Nothing can hold it back indefinitely. We may feel secure that we have covered all the bases, but we cannot know everything and we’re all far more connected than we may realize. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we want. Trying to hide something we’ve done may work for a time, but eventually, however long that takes, the truth will rise and we’ll be exposed. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us in place forever. We are strong enough and brave enough to face the consequences of anything that’s happened. We can open all the doors, and move through whatever we must to correct our course. There is great relief and blessing in telling the truth. All the destinations we desire are still there for us, and with honesty and determination, we will reach them all.

Some people are very private. They don’t want to share intimate details about their lives and prefer to keep a low profile. There is a difference between being private and being secretive. We’re all individuals, and are entitled to set the boundaries of what we do and how we manage our own lives. There are no mandatory rules, and we can determine how much we’ll say and what we’ll do. It’s all up to us, and we can do things that make us comfortable while still sharing our lives with those around us.

If we’ve made a mistake that is far reaching and believe our standing with others will be diminished if they find out, we may try to lock it away and keep it hidden. Every decision we make has a consequence and takes us somewhere. Keeping secrets may cause us to entangle our lives as we try to skirt around what has happened. It’s much harder to navigate a web of lies than it is to simply face the truth. Our lives are important, and by being honest in all our dealings, we can pave the road ahead toward where we most want to go. We can trust ourselves to be truthful and manage whatever comes.

Today if you’ve been keeping a secret and it’s weighing heavily on you, think about how you want to proceed. There is no need to hide anything. You are stronger and have more courage than you think. Trust yourself and be honest. There are countless blessings waiting to pour down on you. All your dreams are possible. Step forward with clarity and confidence. You are worthwhile, amazing and powerful. Nothing can keep you from success.

Play It Again

10 Sep

Our lives belong to us and we are responsible for the decisions we make. We make choices and then face whatever consequences they bring. We can do anything we like, but if we don’t move forward in ways that take us to the things we want the most, chances are we won’t be happy. Life is complicated and there are all kinds of people who influence us and do things that may hold us back or affect us negatively. We can’t do anything about what others are doing, but we have complete control over what we do. If someone tells us to do something and we do it, only to suffer disappointment, failure or sorrow, we may try to blame them. “You made me do it!” we may protest, but that isn’t authentic. The influence of others can be strong, and if we’re under their authority we may have to do some things they direct, but those are exceptions. Our decisions are ours, and we own them completely. If we stay in a job we hate, or a relationship that is hurtful or abusive, we are deciding, for whatever reasons, that we want to stay more than we want to move. People are complex and make choices based on their experiences, impressions, hopes and a million other things. We deserve complete happiness and success, but if we don’t do what is needed to make them happen, we will never achieve them. Every decision takes us somewhere, and if we’re careful and look at all the possibilities, we can move forward and reach any goal we desire. Our happiness is our responsibility. All our dreams are there waiting, and we can make them ours.

We’ll all make a bad decision at some point in our lives. Once we recognize what went wrong, we can correct our course and start again. But if we find ourselves making the same bad choice over and over again, we can stop and evaluate what is happening. Repeating bad behaviors again and again will never take us to success. It’s like playing a record with a big scratch in it that keeps repeating the same music. It can’t move ahead, and neither will we until we uncover what is holding us back. We can do what is needed to change direction, and confidently step forward toward what we want the most.

Life is filled with possibilities and opportunities. We know what we want, but if we don’t believe we can achieve it, odds are we’ll never succeed. We don’t need to know everything about everything to be successful. By taking the first step forward and trusting ourselves to manage whatever we must to reach the goal, we will find our way to success. Nothing is too difficult or complicated for us to figure out, and we already have everything we need to prevail.

Today if you’re repeating the same mistake again, and are not moving closer to your goal, think about what you want the most. The road is already there for you. Stand strong and step forward. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Every blessing is waiting and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. You are amazing and capable, and every dream is possible.

Inside Out

26 Mar

There are all kinds of ideas, interpretations, scenarios, and concepts all around us all the time. Everyone has their own perspective about what’s happening and how things should go. If we believe our viewpoint is the only one that’s correct, it may keep us from seeing other ideas even if they’re pertinent and valuable. That’s fine if our idea is the only one we need and we control the situation, but if we’re working with others, and must collaborate, it will be necessary to open our minds to what they offer. We may uncover information that will help us move forward, but not everyone will have our best interests at heart. We may be in a situation where someone appears to be trying to help but are only pushing us toward something they desire. They may manipulate the facts to sell their point in an effort to convince us to follow their lead. There are countless ways to accomplish any goal and we can certainly hear every perspective and suggestion. We can be open to new ideas and find a new, and improved path to follow but we must also validate each option before proceeding. We don’t know what we don’t know and there is no way to comprehend everything around us. Everyone has their own slant on each situation and every perspective can evaluated on its own terms. We can be confident and trust that we can discern between truth and fiction. We can listen to other ideas, determine the value of their suggestions and then proceed. We are intelligent and capable, and success is always possible. Every road is open and we can reach any destination we desire by listening carefully and choosing what works.

Truth will always rise no matter how it’s colored, bent, or manipulated. It’s more powerful than any deception but while we’re finding our way, it’s possible to be convinced of a lie. Some people may be determined to push us in one direction and make us believe something untrue to advance their agenda. If we trust or admire them, or they are close to us personally, we may fall victim to their plan. When the truth becomes apparent, we may feel completely inside out and confused. Despite the deception, we can trust ourselves to step forward with confidence knowing we will find the way ahead. We can learn from the situation and reach success.

We live in the real world with real facts and consequences. There may be times when something in our lives is hard to accept. We may desperately want things to be different than they are, and may decide to create a reality that’s easier to swallow and more what we desire. Living in a dream state may make us feel better temporarily but truth will persist and in time, if we want to move forward, we’ll have to accept it. Things don’t always go the way we want them to. We can accept what is real and then proceed forward with determination.

Today if you’re struggling to find your way, remember you are wise and capable. You can recognize what is real and true, and will know how to proceed. You know what you want and have everything you need to reach your goals. Choose the best road ahead and move toward your dreams. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. All your dreams are waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

Snakes

8 Feb

There are all kinds of people in the world. Many are good, honest individuals who are helpful and kind, but there are some who are differently inclined. They may be hurtful and mean, and cause problems for those around them. When someone who is disruptive and hateful enters our lives, we may feel like we’ve fallen into a den of snakes, unable to escape. As we struggle through the conflict, we may try to avoid them as much as possible. We can’t control what anyone else does and if someone is determined to wreak havoc on us, we may not be able to stop them, and have no choice but to deal with it as it happens. They may say nasty things about us, make up stories that demean or disparage us, or try to alienate our friends and family. It’s upsetting to go through and even if we try to extricate ourselves from their focus, until they are ready to let us go, we may suffer. There is no way to know their motivations for causing others pain. Some people are unhappy and angry, and because misery loves company, instead of facing their problems and finding solutions to move forward, they may exercise their control by making those around them miserable. It’s a very uncomfortable situation to be in. We’re all accountable for the choices we make. Although we can’t stop anyone from hurting us, we can choose well ourselves. We can set the bar high by focusing on what is good and right, and continuing forward with honesty and integrity. Truth always rises and whatever negative things are said about us, or what is done to us, it will be offset by the excellent example we set.

When someone is hateful, it’s tempting to return back to them the same treatment. Fair is fair, right? Unfortunately, bowing down to their level to get back at them only proves we can be as low as they are. It’s easy to do and say nasty things, and it’s easy to be vengeful and mean. But choosing the better path and staying true to our high personal standards expresses our authenticity and gives us power. We can continue forward with confidence that truth will prevail and we will overcome.

It’s hard to fight a liar. If we try to expose their deception, they will simply lie again. One lie leads to another and we may be swept away as they create their own reality. We can remain still and stand strong despite the whirlwind of fiction surrounding us. We don’t need to defend ourselves when truth is on our side. We can be polite and firm, and confident and resilient, as we navigate our way through. Nothing can keep us from the values we set for ourselves, and we can be sure when we choose the right, in the end we will prevail.

Today if you’ve gotten tangled up with someone who is determined to undermine you through dishonesty and bad behavior, remember who you are. You have enough power to stand firm even in conflict. Hold fast to your excellent standards and set the bar high. Your virtue will overcome any falsehood or treachery. You are amazing and valiant, and nothing can hold you down.

Bottom of the List

10 Sep

We all want positive connections with those around us.  Good, strong relationships embellish our lives and when we feel supported and loved things go more easily, even during times of stress.  It’s nice to have someone in our corner who cares about us and helps us when we need it.  Helpful and happy relationships are a great asset every day of our lives.  But sometimes things don’t work out the way we want them to.  If we have a connection with someone who continual breaks their promises or ignores us when we need them, we can feel like we’re at the bottom of their list.  They may say we’re important but it’s hard to believe we matter if we’re treated like we’re insignificant and aren’t heard.  Some people take a very casual view of their relationships and don’t value them as strongly as we may desire.  We deserve to feel cared for and certainly are worth the very best friendships and connections possible.  There are always plenty of options available and if we aren’t getting what we need we can build new relationships that will be more supportive.  We are important and valuable, and having others around us who cherish our friendship and love is important.  We can take the steps we need to make connections that bring us the support we desire.  Every happiness is possible and we can have it in our lives.

We’re all connected to each other and what we do affects those around us.  If we fall down on promises we make or pretend to care when we don’t, our influence will have a negative impact on those around us.  We may have good intentions but good intentions mean nothing if there is no action to back them up.  Ignoring those we say we care about will eventually ruin the relationship.  Continually breaking our word will destroy any trust others may have in us.  We own every single decision we make and if we go about our lives without any thought for those around us, we may find ourselves standing alone.  We can be wise and considerate and remember our actions speak far louder than anything we say.  If we choose to, we can make excellent choices and build strong connections that bring us happiness and joy.

There may come a time when what we thought would be a good connection turns out to be something else entirely.   We can only know what others show us and some people may pretend to be something they aren’t or to have feelings they don’t possess to get something from us.  Truth will always rise and if we’ve been deceived we may struggle to understand what has happened.  We only answer for the choices we make.  If others deceive us they are responsible for the results of that decision.  We are worth the very best of everything including our relationships.  We can move forward from a disappointment with confidence, taking any lessons learned with us.  Happiness is always possible and we will find it.

Today if you’ve been pushed aside again and again, and feel like you don’t matter, remember you are precious and priceless.  The world is better because you are here.  Go forward with confidence.  You deserve the very best of everything and you can have it.  Nothing can stop you from achieving complete happiness.