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Wasn’t Me

24 May

We’ll make millions of decisions as we go through our lives, and will succeed at many things. We are intelligent and capable, and generally if we want to do something, we can make it happen. But life is full of complications, unforeseen developments and lots of drama and intrigue we may not see at the beginning. When problems arise and things go south, if we’re involved but intent on looking good, we may say, “It wasn’t me.” Despite our involvement, we may deny having anything to do with what’s happened, and try to walk away unscathed. It nobody looks too closely, we might get away with that, but truth is powerful, and in time it’s likely we’ll be found out. Denying what’s real is just a smokescreen that only delays the inevitable reveal. Unless we stay on the move and constantly change our situation, which is very hard to accomplish, eventually our dishonesty will be exposed. Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some point. It’s one thing to make a big mistake, and quite another to make it and then lie about it. Others will forgive errors in judgement even if it impacts them personally, but it’s harder to forgive lies used to cover up the mistake after it’s happened. When things go wrong and everything blows up, if we’re involved, we can step forward and honestly accept our part in the issue. We can then do whatever is needed to correct the situation and regain our footing. Every success is there for us, and there isn’t a problem or detour that can keep us from achieving it. By being truthful and open, we can step forward with clarity and confidence, sure we will reach every destination.

We all want to look as good as possible. We want to impress those we admire, make changes that improve our lives, and do things that will move us forward. We are capable of making excellent plans and reaching the goals we most desire. But life is complex and we may be unaware of decisions and situations going on that may impact our progress. Crap happens and eventually it’s going to happen to us. People get in the way, problems arise, things break and endless details may go wrong. It doesn’t always mean we took a wrong turn, or reflect on our choices. If we get stuck or turned around, we have everything we need to regroup and start again.

Some people will do or say anything to look good. They may lie about their qualifications or credentials, or manipulate those around them so they can jump over them and move ahead. When things go wrong, they may blame others and refuse to accept responsibility for their actions. It’s impossible to trust them and if we must interact with them, it may be very difficult. We are not responsible for anyone else’s choices but our own. We can choose wisely and stand strong, knowing success is just ahead and we will claim it.

Today if your plans have gone awry and others have been impacted, own your part in the situation and stand firm. You are intelligent and capable, and will find all the answers you need to move forward with clarity and confidence. Be wise and clear. The road ahead is still there for you and with determination and focus, every destination you desire is possible. You are strong and smart, and nothing can keep you from success. Move forward and every dream will be yours.

Don’t Tell

17 Sep

We go through a lot of experiences as we travel through our lives. Most of us want to be open and honest, but we might face a time when something happens, or we do something we don’t want anyone to know about. Maybe it’s something we’re ashamed of, or we fear others will think less of us if the truth comes out. If we’ve done something illegal or unethical, we may be intensely motivated to keep it hidden. Nobody is perfect and we all do things we wish we hadn’t, but keeping secrets isn’t easy. They are heavy, and tend to get heavier as time passes. Truth is powerful, and no matter what we do or how well we try to hide it, will eventually make itself known. Nothing can hold it back indefinitely. We may feel secure that we have covered all the bases, but we cannot know everything and we’re all far more connected than we may realize. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we want. Trying to hide something we’ve done may work for a time, but eventually, however long that takes, the truth will rise and we’ll be exposed. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us in place forever. We are strong enough and brave enough to face the consequences of anything that’s happened. We can open all the doors, and move through whatever we must to correct our course. There is great relief and blessing in telling the truth. All the destinations we desire are still there for us, and with honesty and determination, we will reach them all.

Some people are very private. They don’t want to share intimate details about their lives and prefer to keep a low profile. There is a difference between being private and being secretive. We’re all individuals, and are entitled to set the boundaries of what we do and how we manage our own lives. There are no mandatory rules, and we can determine how much we’ll say and what we’ll do. It’s all up to us, and we can do things that make us comfortable while still sharing our lives with those around us.

If we’ve made a mistake that is far reaching and believe our standing with others will be diminished if they find out, we may try to lock it away and keep it hidden. Every decision we make has a consequence and takes us somewhere. Keeping secrets may cause us to entangle our lives as we try to skirt around what has happened. It’s much harder to navigate a web of lies than it is to simply face the truth. Our lives are important, and by being honest in all our dealings, we can pave the road ahead toward where we most want to go. We can trust ourselves to be truthful and manage whatever comes.

Today if you’ve been keeping a secret and it’s weighing heavily on you, think about how you want to proceed. There is no need to hide anything. You are stronger and have more courage than you think. Trust yourself and be honest. There are countless blessings waiting to pour down on you. All your dreams are possible. Step forward with clarity and confidence. You are worthwhile, amazing and powerful. Nothing can keep you from success.

Play It Again

10 Sep

Our lives belong to us and we are responsible for the decisions we make. We make choices and then face whatever consequences they bring. We can do anything we like, but if we don’t move forward in ways that take us to the things we want the most, chances are we won’t be happy. Life is complicated and there are all kinds of people who influence us and do things that may hold us back or affect us negatively. We can’t do anything about what others are doing, but we have complete control over what we do. If someone tells us to do something and we do it, only to suffer disappointment, failure or sorrow, we may try to blame them. “You made me do it!” we may protest, but that isn’t authentic. The influence of others can be strong, and if we’re under their authority we may have to do some things they direct, but those are exceptions. Our decisions are ours, and we own them completely. If we stay in a job we hate, or a relationship that is hurtful or abusive, we are deciding, for whatever reasons, that we want to stay more than we want to move. People are complex and make choices based on their experiences, impressions, hopes and a million other things. We deserve complete happiness and success, but if we don’t do what is needed to make them happen, we will never achieve them. Every decision takes us somewhere, and if we’re careful and look at all the possibilities, we can move forward and reach any goal we desire. Our happiness is our responsibility. All our dreams are there waiting, and we can make them ours.

We’ll all make a bad decision at some point in our lives. Once we recognize what went wrong, we can correct our course and start again. But if we find ourselves making the same bad choice over and over again, we can stop and evaluate what is happening. Repeating bad behaviors again and again will never take us to success. It’s like playing a record with a big scratch in it that keeps repeating the same music. It can’t move ahead, and neither will we until we uncover what is holding us back. We can do what is needed to change direction, and confidently step forward toward what we want the most.

Life is filled with possibilities and opportunities. We know what we want, but if we don’t believe we can achieve it, odds are we’ll never succeed. We don’t need to know everything about everything to be successful. By taking the first step forward and trusting ourselves to manage whatever we must to reach the goal, we will find our way to success. Nothing is too difficult or complicated for us to figure out, and we already have everything we need to prevail.

Today if you’re repeating the same mistake again, and are not moving closer to your goal, think about what you want the most. The road is already there for you. Stand strong and step forward. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Every blessing is waiting and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. You are amazing and capable, and every dream is possible.

Inside Out

26 Mar

There are all kinds of ideas, interpretations, scenarios, and concepts all around us all the time. Everyone has their own perspective about what’s happening and how things should go. If we believe our viewpoint is the only one that’s correct, it may keep us from seeing other ideas even if they’re pertinent and valuable. That’s fine if our idea is the only one we need and we control the situation, but if we’re working with others, and must collaborate, it will be necessary to open our minds to what they offer. We may uncover information that will help us move forward, but not everyone will have our best interests at heart. We may be in a situation where someone appears to be trying to help but are only pushing us toward something they desire. They may manipulate the facts to sell their point in an effort to convince us to follow their lead. There are countless ways to accomplish any goal and we can certainly hear every perspective and suggestion. We can be open to new ideas and find a new, and improved path to follow but we must also validate each option before proceeding. We don’t know what we don’t know and there is no way to comprehend everything around us. Everyone has their own slant on each situation and every perspective can evaluated on its own terms. We can be confident and trust that we can discern between truth and fiction. We can listen to other ideas, determine the value of their suggestions and then proceed. We are intelligent and capable, and success is always possible. Every road is open and we can reach any destination we desire by listening carefully and choosing what works.

Truth will always rise no matter how it’s colored, bent, or manipulated. It’s more powerful than any deception but while we’re finding our way, it’s possible to be convinced of a lie. Some people may be determined to push us in one direction and make us believe something untrue to advance their agenda. If we trust or admire them, or they are close to us personally, we may fall victim to their plan. When the truth becomes apparent, we may feel completely inside out and confused. Despite the deception, we can trust ourselves to step forward with confidence knowing we will find the way ahead. We can learn from the situation and reach success.

We live in the real world with real facts and consequences. There may be times when something in our lives is hard to accept. We may desperately want things to be different than they are, and may decide to create a reality that’s easier to swallow and more what we desire. Living in a dream state may make us feel better temporarily but truth will persist and in time, if we want to move forward, we’ll have to accept it. Things don’t always go the way we want them to. We can accept what is real and then proceed forward with determination.

Today if you’re struggling to find your way, remember you are wise and capable. You can recognize what is real and true, and will know how to proceed. You know what you want and have everything you need to reach your goals. Choose the best road ahead and move toward your dreams. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. All your dreams are waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

Snakes

8 Feb

There are all kinds of people in the world. Many are good, honest individuals who are helpful and kind, but there are some who are differently inclined. They may be hurtful and mean, and cause problems for those around them. When someone who is disruptive and hateful enters our lives, we may feel like we’ve fallen into a den of snakes, unable to escape. As we struggle through the conflict, we may try to avoid them as much as possible. We can’t control what anyone else does and if someone is determined to wreak havoc on us, we may not be able to stop them, and have no choice but to deal with it as it happens. They may say nasty things about us, make up stories that demean or disparage us, or try to alienate our friends and family. It’s upsetting to go through and even if we try to extricate ourselves from their focus, until they are ready to let us go, we may suffer. There is no way to know their motivations for causing others pain. Some people are unhappy and angry, and because misery loves company, instead of facing their problems and finding solutions to move forward, they may exercise their control by making those around them miserable. It’s a very uncomfortable situation to be in. We’re all accountable for the choices we make. Although we can’t stop anyone from hurting us, we can choose well ourselves. We can set the bar high by focusing on what is good and right, and continuing forward with honesty and integrity. Truth always rises and whatever negative things are said about us, or what is done to us, it will be offset by the excellent example we set.

When someone is hateful, it’s tempting to return back to them the same treatment. Fair is fair, right? Unfortunately, bowing down to their level to get back at them only proves we can be as low as they are. It’s easy to do and say nasty things, and it’s easy to be vengeful and mean. But choosing the better path and staying true to our high personal standards expresses our authenticity and gives us power. We can continue forward with confidence that truth will prevail and we will overcome.

It’s hard to fight a liar. If we try to expose their deception, they will simply lie again. One lie leads to another and we may be swept away as they create their own reality. We can remain still and stand strong despite the whirlwind of fiction surrounding us. We don’t need to defend ourselves when truth is on our side. We can be polite and firm, and confident and resilient, as we navigate our way through. Nothing can keep us from the values we set for ourselves, and we can be sure when we choose the right, in the end we will prevail.

Today if you’ve gotten tangled up with someone who is determined to undermine you through dishonesty and bad behavior, remember who you are. You have enough power to stand firm even in conflict. Hold fast to your excellent standards and set the bar high. Your virtue will overcome any falsehood or treachery. You are amazing and valiant, and nothing can hold you down.