Archive | December, 2019

Not Yet

30 Dec

We have many experiences as we go through our lives. Mostly we manage whatever comes but we may face a situation that is extremely painful, and so invasive, it changes the way we see ourselves and the world around us. Terrible things can happen and we may suffer greatly as we push through a situation that leaves us bereft and shaken. Pain and suffering will happen, and if we’re devastated and heartbroken, we may feel lost and unable to move for a time. Those around us may try to help by telling us we’ll get over it, and we undoubtedly will eventually find a way to continue on. But how long that will take can’t be predicted and depends on a lot of factors. There is no way to rush grief. It takes as long as it takes. We can do things to try to heal more quickly, get counseling if we think that will help, or talk to those we trust for advice, and in the end, healing will come. While we’re suffering and in pain, it can be hard to believe we’ll ever feel whole again. Situations remind us how our lives were before things changed, and we may yearn and wish that somehow everything could go back to how it was. Of course, going back in time is never possible, no matter how much we desire it. There is no way to revise the past and life continues on. We can take the time we need to process everything that’s happened, and think about how we want to proceed. There is no rush to move forward. If standing still helps, we can wait, but our lives are important, and eventually we must find our way forward. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us in place indefinitely. We are stronger than anything we must face. We can trust ourselves to find the strength and wisdom we need to modify our lives in ways that bring us fulfillment, satisfaction and happiness. Every dream will always be there for us, and with patience and courage, we will reach them.

After a big unexpected upset, we may be stunned and unable to move. If our world has been shaken and what we thought was real turned out to be a mirage, it may take time for us to find our footing again. The whole world around us may change, but we are wise and powerful, and no matter what has happened, can find our way ahead. We can step back and look at everything openly and decide what we want to do. Our lives belong to us, and we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to discern the way forward.

There are endless roads before us and we can go anywhere and do anything. Even if everything goes wrong, the world turns upside down, or the road ends before we reach our destination, we can find another way around. Every challenge and disappointment teach us something new, and give us additional strength to continue forward. We know what we want, and nothing can keep us from it.

Today if you’ve suffered a terrible setback, and feel unsure about what to do next, take the time you need to decide exactly what you want. Every destination is still there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself and be confident. You can overcome anything, and you will prevail.

What We Feel

20 Dec

People come in and out of our lives constantly. We have families, friends, acquaintances and people we simply notice in passing. There are billions of people in the world and each has a unique perspective about what’s going on and where we’re headed. We may be attracted to someone’s ideas, or how they express themselves, and as we interact with them, our feelings for them may grow and increase. We may begin to fall in love and expect the other person is having the same experience. People fall in love all the time, and when those feelings are reciprocated, our connection becomes deeper. It’s wonderful to find someone who loves us and with whom we can share our lives. But sometimes things may go another way. Our tender feelings might be strong but they will not create the same experience in someone else. We may discover we’re on completely different pages. It’s very painful to realize the one we love does not feel the same way about us. If that happens, everything will change. No matter how much we want to be close, if our feelings aren’t returned, we’ll have to chart a different course going forward. There is no way to make someone love us, no matter what we do, or how hard we try. It’s either there, or it isn’t. We are lovable and amazing but if the feelings aren’t there, we’ll have to find a new way to continue. It’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves, and we can decide what’s best moving forward. We deserve to be completely happy, and can decide what works best for us. Unrequited love can be very painful, but we have a lot going for us, and with patience and wisdom, we’ll find the right way ahead. We can do what is needed to find balance, and ensure our happiness.

A one-way love affair will never bring us complete satisfaction. If we’re in a situation where we’re in love by ourselves, we may feel completely devastated, and alone. We can recognize our feelings and honor them, and then create a plan that takes us to a new situation and helps us move toward a new goal. By focusing on our own choices, we will begin to heal and find true happiness. We are intelligent and highly capable of doing anything we desire. We can accept the way things are, and then step forward with confidence.

When we suffer a great loss, we can take the time we need to grieve. Every painful process will be resolved in time, but every experience is different, and there is no way to know how much time that will take. We are strong and wise, and will find our footing again. We have so much potential and by focusing on where we want to go and what we want to do, will create the lives we want the most.

Today if you feel unloved or unappreciated, remember how incredible and valuable you are. You are a gift to the whole world. Your light shines on all of us, and we are blessed because you are here. Every dream you desire is within reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and then step forward with confidence and clarity. There is great happiness ahead, and nothing can keep you from success.

Reaching Higher

19 Dec

Every decision we make has a consequence. Where a choice will take us after we decide may be obvious, or we may have no idea what’s coming next. It isn’t always easy to see the best option, and even when we try to choose wisely, sometimes things go awry. If we’re thoughtful and take the time we need to see the possibilities before us, we’ll more effectively be able to make good decisions. But if we’re in a hurry, stressed or pressured to move, we may simply choose the easiest road. Choosing the easiest option without thinking might get the job done for now, but odds are we’ll face complications ahead. Bad decisions never bring happiness or peace, and can make it hard to do the things we desire. They tangle us up, and make moving forward nearly impossible. If we want happy, peaceful lives, it’s important to weigh each choice carefully and then step forward with confidence. We can’t read the future and there will always be things we don’t know, but if we’re diligent in doing all we can to choose open, clear roads, we’ll have a better shot at success. There will always be many options possible, and if we want real success, we can reach higher for the best alternative. Reaching higher for the best choice isn’t always easy, and may require more from us than something simpler. The best roads ahead may be longer, and more arduous than the easy way out but choosing well, even if it’s harder, will bring us happiness and satisfaction. Everyone wants a happy life. We can’t control what will come, what decisions others make that impact us, or where the road turns, but we can always control what we choose. We don’t need agreement or permission to decide how we want to proceed. We can do what is needed to choose wisely, and create the lives we want the most.

Our lives are busy, and sometimes there is much to do, and many responsibilities to manage. If we’re rushed and pressed for time, we might make a choice quickly without looking at all the possible ramifications. We just choose and rush on to the next item. Some decisions have little consequence, but others, like a snowball racing down a hill, pick up problems at every turn. One simple decision made quickly can turn into a nightmare of complications and messy details we don’t have time for or want to face. We are wise and intelligent, and even if we’re in a hurry, can make excellent decisions.

If we’ve chosen badly and ended up somewhere we never intended to go, we can stop and consider how we want to proceed. We are never restricted or held at one destination indefinitely. There will always be other roads to travel and we can step away and correct our course until we’re headed in the right direction. Every dream is possible, and we can make the decisions needed to make them ours.

Today, if you’ve made a mistake in judgement and don’t like where it took you, you have all the power you need to revise your plan and continue forward. Every option is possible and you can do anything you want. Decide where you want to go and step forward with confidence. You can have the life you dream about, and find success.

The Last One

18 Dec

We live in a very competitive world. There are constant suggestions that we should do more, reach further, make more money, accomplish more success and other opinions. There will always be many ideas about how we should live our lives and spend our time. We can listen to them and spend all our time trying to be what others think we should be. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves, or has any idea what we want to accomplish. However, the promptings to do what the world values are endless, and if we don’t accomplish whatever level of success we’re told we should reach, we may begin to feel we don’t measure up. Like being the last one chosen for a game in school, our self-esteem may get dinged, and we might begin to doubt we’ll ever succeed at anything. We know it’s impossible to be everything to everyone, but if we’re being told we should be more, do more, and have more, we might feel compelled to try. There are billions of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about success. If we try to accommodate every suggestion, we’ll only end up exhausted and frustrated. We know who we are and what we want. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t match someone else’s view of what we should do, or if we’re the only ones going in our direction. We define what our personal success looks like, and can live our lives any way we choose. Even if everyone around us is blue, we can be green. We can express our own personal choices any way we decide, and move forward in any direction. Our lives are a reflection of every decision we make, and if we’re true to the desires we hold close, we’ll find happiness and satisfaction. The symphony of our individuality lies within us. The rest is just background music.

Life is not a race, and there is never only one winner. There are endless roads leading to endless destinations, and we can design our own journey moving forward. Our families and traditions may influence us, and the expectations of others may come into play, but in the end, we decide what we’ll do. We are always in control of our next steps. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish and every destination is possible. We can trust ourselves to choose the best direction ahead, and reach every goal we desire.

There is comfort and ease in conformity. If everyone is doing the same things, and traveling the same road, there is a lot of support and convenience. But our lives are important and following someone else’s path will only take us where they are going. We are powerful and wise, and can decide how we’ll live our lives and what we want to accomplish. By choosing for ourselves, and confidently striking out on our own, we’ll have the lives we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve been going along with what others think you should be doing, remember your life is a gift, and how you live it is up to you. You can do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most, and then step forward with confidence. Every dream is possible and you can make them yours. Success is there for you, and you will reach it.

Getting Ready

17 Dec

There are unlimited things we can do and places to go. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we want to do. We can choose the paths we want to travel, make plans, and then step forward and begin toward the goals we desire most. But sometimes we aren’t quite ready to start toward something new. Maybe we don’t have all the resources we’ll need to succeed, or our time is limited and there is nothing extra. Or maybe we aren’t sure we can do what is needed to achieve the goal. Our confidence may not be strong enough for us to believe we can succeed. Confidence is a valuable asset and helps us push ahead even when the odds are against us. We all have the potential for strong and vibrant confidence that makes us feel powerful and capable. But life is filled with all kinds of experiences and sometimes we may go through something that pulls us down, and damages our self-reliance and personal belief. Things may go wrong, people may hurt us and belittle us, or we may fail at something we thought we had hold of. We may go through a terrible time of self-doubt and begin to believe we cannot find success, no matter what we do. Painful disturbances may come and we may fall away, and lose our footing. If we don’t think we can prevail, we probably won’t win. Life is ever changing, and we can modify our thinking and trust ourselves again. We are more powerful and wise than we think we are, and no matter what’s happened before, have all the reserves and intelligence we need to do anything and go anywhere. Trouble may come, but we can shake it off, and start again. If we need time, we can take it. If we need help, we can find it. Every destination is possible, and with determination and faith, we will reach our goals.

In a foot race, the runners line up and get into position before the race starts. If one fails to get set and prepared in advance, when the gun goes off, it’s unlikely they will be able to bound out of the blocks and get ahead. Being prepared for what we want to accomplish helps us begin on solid ground. When we know where we want to go, and have decided on a clear path to get there, we ensure our success. It’s impossible to reach any destination without a clear idea of how to get there. We can carefully plan our next steps forward and confidently move toward the goal.

When we want to do something new, it’s important to clearly understand what will be required of us before we begin. If the road is long and tenuous, we can plan to start when we have ample time and energy to face every challenge and continue forward. It does no good to start on a goal with half the resources we need to accomplish it. We can look at everything objectively, and make the best plan for advancing to safeguard our success.

Today if there’s something you want to do, but don’t have everything you need to accomplish it, make a plan and prepare to begin. You are amazing and every goal is within your reach. Decide what you want the most, choose the best road going forward, and take the first step. Every success is possible, and you will win.