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Gutters

22 Jul

People are complicated. There are endless expressions, ideas, emotions and personal experiences that color our behaviors and how we act and react to the world around us. No two people are exactly the same. We all have our own ideas about life and chart our own courses, making individual decisions that take us to various destinations and bring endless results. Two people can have the same exact experience and yet come away with entirely different perspectives. We may feel things intensely or be able to brush off what happens with little thought. We’re all different, and those differences bring great depth and richness to the world, but can also cause complications. If we’re not confident and disagree with those around us, we may hold our feelings in, and try to keep a low profile in an effort to prevent conflict or intense disagreement. That might work, but pretending we’re fine when we’re not, or going along with something we believe is wrong will eventually work against us. It’s like having clogged gutters on a house. They look fine from the outside and as long as the weather is nice there are no problems. But when a storm comes and the rain is intense, the water will not flow away and protect the house from flooding. Instead, it will build up and splash over the sides, soak the wood nearby and may cause great permanent damage. The same is true if we hold in how we really feel. We may look fine on the outside, but keeping our real thoughts to ourselves may cause us great stress and inner turmoil as we try to get through a difficult situation. It’s hard to feel good when we’re not being our true selves. Being open and allowing our honest opinions to flow will enable open communication and allow for greater understanding. We are entitled to our own opinions even if they’re different from those around us. We can be confident in expressing ourselves truthfully and making choices that reflect our own personal standards. Our input is important and the whole world is better because we are here.

It’s always easier to navigate through decisions if everyone is on the same page. When everyone agrees on the way forward, the road will be smoother than if there is dissent. When there is disagreement, the process may take longer and be more complex, but every idea has value. The simplest answer isn’t always the best in the long run, and a paved road will not always lead to the destinations we desire most. Allowing everyone to give their full and honest opinions about the choices ahead will open new doors and allow for alternative interpretations of every situation, shining a light on a completely new perspective.

Families and traditions are powerful influences in our lives. If we want to do something different from the way things have always been done in the past, we may face serious resistance and opposition. We may be pressured to just go along even if we disagree. We can always do anything we like, but pretending to be something we aren’t is like dealing with clogged gutters. Our true feelings may be held back for a time, but eventually we’ll need to express ourselves and be honest about who we are and what we want. Every expression has value and our contributions, even if different, are important. There is great satisfaction and happiness in being true to ourselves and living our lives openly and confidently.

Today if you don’t agree with what’s going on around you, speak up. Your voice is important and your feelings are worthwhile. Stand tall and show us who you are. You bring great richness and depth to the world and your contributions count. Be confident and honest. You are amazing and powerful. There is nobody like you in all of creation and nobody else can give the gifts you have to offer. You are precious and priceless, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Information Please

10 Dec

We’re all unique and our perceptions vary depending on the life experiences we’ve had. We might all live in the same place, and speak the same language, but that doesn’t mean we really understand each other. It’s possible to misinterpret what others are saying, or frankly have no idea what they mean even though they are speaking clearly and using words we understand. Misunderstandings happen but the problem is we don’t know what we don’t know. When interacting with someone else we may agree to do something we are sure they are requesting, and end up going a completely different direction than they asked for. How is this possible? We all have our own paradigms and viewpoints. What is obvious to one, may be completely invisible to another. That doesn’t mean anyone is stupid or wrong, it just means we’re looking at the situation through a different window. There are endless ideas and interpretations of every situation. We can always just plow ahead and hope somehow, we’ll get it right, or we could stop before we start, and ask for clarification. Asking for more information isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom. It’s hard to see through fog, and if we aren’t clear of the expectations, instead of bumbling forward, we can ask for more information until we’re sure what’s expected. Once we know where we’re headed and what the goal is, we can proceed, confident we’ll reach it and achieve success. Life is filled with challenges and trying to find our way in the dark will only make the journey longer and harder than it needs to be. We can pave the road ahead by getting all the facts before we start and ensuring we understand the objective. We are intelligent and capable and can accomplish anything we set out to do. Every goal is possible and with clarity and focus, we can reach any destination.

If we’re concerned about the opinions of others, and want to appear smart and capable, we might rush to accomplish a goal without getting all the information we need beforehand. Looking good is one thing. Being successful is another. It does no good to look confident and capable, and then fail at the task because we didn’t ask for help. The destination is the goal, not how we look accomplishing it. By getting all the facts before we begin, we can make all our dreams and goals reality.

Everyone gets lost from time to time. Losing our way or going in the wrong direction doesn’t mean we’ve failed. Taking the wrong road gives us more information and teaches us what doesn’t work. We can use that information moving forward to find the best road to the destination we seek. Nothing is complex enough to keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and can achieve anything we desire.

Today if you’re struggling to figure out which way to proceed, get all the information you can and look at all the possibilities. Every option is there for you, and you will find the right way forward. You have already accomplished so much. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident. Success is waiting, and nothing can keep you from reaching it. Step forward and proceed. You will prevail.

Loud Mouth

22 Jul

There are billions of people on the planet sharing space with us. We’ll never see them all but there will likely always be people around us. We are constantly interacting with others, some we know and others who are strangers in passing. Everyone out there is making their own decisions, and doing things that may affect our lives, not always positively. Some people have strong personalities and are very forceful. They know what they want and make sure everyone around them is aware of where they’re headed. If we’re timid and more reserved, and don’t agree with them, they may run over us pushing forward, never looking back. If we must work with them, and they power over us, and we feel intimidated, we may shrink down and try to blend into the background to avoid a confrontation. It can be hard to stand our ground in front of someone determined to diminish us. Everyone is valuable, and we all have things to offer that are important and worthwhile. Those who are louder may try to push us, but being loud doesn’t mean they have all the answers or know everything. It just means they’re loud. We don’t have to outmatch them in sound or muscle to make our positions known. We can speak up with confidence and clarity, and offer our own perspectives. Nobody will see things exactly as we do, and we can share our point of view in ways that open new doors ahead. We are the only ones who can give the gifts we have to offer. By trusting ourselves, and refusing to shrink, we can contribute to every situation and be part of the road ahead. There is greatness within us. We can share our impressions and ideas, and find intense reward and satisfaction.

Nobody sees everything the same way. We all perceive what is happening through our own filters, formed by the experiences we’ve had so far. What is obvious to one, may be unseen to another. There will rarely by only one way to accomplish anything, or one road that leads to a destination. When we feel strongly about a situation, we can share our thoughts with others involved, and then allow them to express their ideas as well. We don’t have to insist that everything be done our way, but can compromise and bring everyone into the plan.

If we must work with someone who believes they are the only one who has the answers, and they refuse to hear another other options, it may be hard to feel valued and appreciated. If they have authority over us, we may have to follow their instructions. But if not, we can express our opinions and suggestions, and request consideration. If they refuse, we may decide to step away. We have much to offer, and our contributions make the world a better place.

Today if you have to work with someone who is loud and forceful, and is trying to convince you their way is the only possible option, trust yourself and remember your ideas are valuable. Speak up and share your thoughts with those around you. You are amazing. There is nobody else like you in all of creation. You bring light and wisdom, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Busy Signal

29 Jun

There’s often a lot going on in our lives. We have jobs, family, homes to manage, details to attend to, people to see, chores to accomplish, and endless unexpected events that arise and cause interruptions and distract us. We can achieve anything we want, but sometimes what we want to do requires us to work with someone else. If we must depend on them to succeed, and they don’t have time for us, we’ll either have to wait or abandon our plans. Some things require careful planning, and if one step isn’t possible, we may have to look at something else. It’s like trying to connect over the telephone. If we really need to talk to someone but get a busy signal when we call them, we’ll have to wait and try again later. In our personal lives, when we can’t get everything together to accomplish something we’re trying to do, it’s like getting a busy signal. Even if we’re ready to move, if we’re stuck due to circumstances beyond our control, we may have to wait and try again later, or make a new plan for moving forward. Life is full of surprises, and we never know what will happen next. If we get stuck because we can’t get everything we need to move ahead, we can set the goal aside for now, and return to it later when everything is available. Getting a busy signal doesn’t mean the goal is unreachable. We don’t have to give up and forget about what we want to accomplish. Change is constant and we will get the chance to try again. Every destination is there for us. If we can’t get there today, we can try again tomorrow. Nothing is out of reach and with determination, and focus, we will achieve success.

It’s good to build strong relationships with others and form connections that help us move forward and bring satisfaction and pleasure to our lives. But good relationships take time and effort. If we constantly push them off and cancel plans to meet, it will be difficult to build a strong connection. Constantly putting off our plans with someone else, will never build the bonds we may desire. We always do what we want to do most, and if the relationship is important, we will invest the time and energy we need to make it strong and rewarding. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. With focus and attention, we can have the lives we desire most.

When someone is important to us, we want to spend time with them. If they are always too busy to see us, or can’t commit to the plans we make, the relationship will suffer. We can only control our own actions, and if neglected, our connection will diminish. Our happiness is important, and we can always move forward in a new direction. There will always be another option and a new road possible. We can reach any goal and find satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you keep getting a busy signal when you try to connect with someone else, look at all the possibilities around you. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you’re here. Step forward toward the destination you desire most, and move ahead with confidence. Nothing can hold you in place, and every dream is possible. Success is just ahead, and with determination and clarity, you will reach it.

Looking Ahead

9 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and as we go through our days we’ll come in contact with many different kinds of personalities.  Some will be welcoming and fun, others may try our patience, and we may even interact with some truly mean and evil people.  Often we can tell by their actions what someone is like, but people are smart and may hide traits they don’t want others to see.  If they’re good at hiding, we may become their friends and spend a lot of time with them before we really see them for who they are.  They may suddenly turn on us and display behaviors we were previously unaware of.  We may be left confused and stunned trying to figure out what’s happening.  People can do anything they want and sometimes their choices hurt us.  They may blame us for something we haven’t done, judge us for a simple mistake, sabotage us around others or even do things to keep us from moving forward.  If we can’t reason with them or get them to listen to us, we may not be able to resolve the issue.  We all make our own decisions and if someone has decided we’re the enemy no matter what we do, we may have to accept things as they are and walk away.  People change when it’s important to them and if our relationship is important enough, those involved will do what is necessary to make it work.  Not every connection will be positive and we may need to let go from time to time.  We are worthwhile and if we aren’t valued can choose another path.  We deserve every happiness and can do what is needed to ensure we get it.

Our perceptions form our reality.  If we see things clearly and openly, often those perceptions will be accurate.  But we are influenced by the experiences we’ve had, and if they’ve been negative and hurtful, our perception may affected.  Jumping to conclusions based on emotion may color our understanding further and may make things seem very different than they really are.  We can take our time and set impressions aside until we understand everything clearly.
If we’re open to listening to everyone’s opinions and withhold judgement until we get all the facts, we’ll have a better chance of seeing the situation as it really is.

Misunderstandings happen and often we can correct them and clear the air, but sometimes the link gets broken and nothing we do will fix it.  It’s heartbreaking when someone we’re close to shuts the door on our relationship and we may feel great sadness.  But life is constantly changing and what is broken today may mend in time.  We can be kind and patient, and hope for the future.  Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring and we can be hopeful that in time we’ll reach a positive outcome.  We are strong and valiant, and can navigate through any complication.  We know what we want and will find success.

Today if you’ve been hurt by someone and are unable to change the situation, remember misunderstandings don’t define you.  You are worthwhile and valuable.  The whole world is better because you are here.  Be patient and kind, and show us your true self.  Set the best example you can.  Success will come and you will prevail.