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Step Two

6 Jul

There are all kinds of scenarios we envision for our lives and many different things we want to do and experience.  We can work hard toward our goals and with determination and persistence may achieve many of them.  There will be times when things don’t go the way we planned and what we thought we’d gain escapes us.  There are countless factors always involved in every decision we make and most of them are out of our control.  When we get stopped and everything we thought would work out has crashed and burned, we may get stuck at step one of our plan.  We can redirect our path forward and decide if the original goal is still worth the effort or if we want to let it go and move on to something else.  We can always roll over and give up when the going gets tough.  We’re in charge of our lives and can change anything we like at any time.  But if we still want to push forward toward the destination we’ll have to create a new plan and begin again.  There is always more than one way to accomplish any goal.  If our first attempt doesn’t work, we can try again.  If that fails, we can create yet another plan and can continue until we find the path that takes us all the way there.  Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we want to do.  We only need to decide exactly what that is.  Everything is possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to succeed.  If one road doesn’t work we can choose another.  There are unlimited possibilities and nothing can keep us from success.

We never have to stay in a situation we don’t want.  It doesn’t matter what others are doing around us, it doesn’t matter what is expected or how things usually go.  We can live our lives any way we choose and if we don’t like where we are, we can move.  We can leave relationships that are unfulfilling or that don’t make us happy.  We can move from locations that don’t offer us the opportunities we desire.  We are always in control of our lives and if we want something different we can get it.  Complete happiness is possible and by directing our lives toward the things we want the most, we will find it.

It’s easy to go along with the routines we’ve established even if we’re unhappy.  There is comfort in knowing what to expect and it takes courage to reach for something more.  But we have sufficient courage to step away from where we are and strive for the lives we most desire.  Every dream is possible and we can begin moving toward them whenever we’re ready.  The whole world is there for us and nothing is too far or too difficult to reach.  We need only take the next step forward and start on the road that will take us where we want to go.  All roads are open and waiting.  The possibilities are endless and we can achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’re stuck and want a change, look ahead and decide what you want the most.  You can have the life you dream about.  You can make your dreams come true.  Take the next step forward toward the destination you desire.  Every opportunity is possible and nothing is out of reach.  Make your dreams come true and find the happiness you deserve.

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Making the Choice

23 Mar

The choices we make have a lot of influence over our lives.  Every decision takes us somewhere and if we’re engaged and aware we may choose roads that take us where we want to go.  But life is busy and can be complicated, and sometimes we make choices quickly out of necessity or even desperation.  Perhaps anger or frustration plays a roll and instead of thinking ahead, we pick a road based on what we’re feeling at the moment.  For every action we take there will always be a reaction of some sort.  If we are quick and thoughtless when we choose our steps forward, we may get a response we don’t want.  It’s impossible to be right all the time.  We all stumble and make mistakes but if we are careless and irresponsible, we may be beset with problems we’ve created ourselves.  Our lives belong solely to us and we are in control of every decision we make.  We can direct our lives forward with positive intent or we can choose without thinking and hope everything works out.  If we want our dreams to come true, or achieve anything, we must purposely direct our decisions.  We can drive out onto the highway but without a destination in mind and the desire to get there we may drive around indefinitely, going nowhere.  Without purposeful intent, and the choices needed to bring us success, we may spin in circles as time passes and never achieve the things we truly want.  Life is an incredible blessing.  Each day brings the chance to move closer to where we want to be.  With careful thought we can take control, make excellent decisions, and find success.  Every dream can come true if we do what is needed to move forward.

Opportunity is everywhere but it’s up to us to claim it.  We can watch others achieve their goals and complain that it was easier for them or they got chances we weren’t afforded.  It’s true that sometimes we will miss out on things we want to do but most of the time the opportunity to move forward is completely in our control.  If we sit back and do nothing, nothing will happen.  It takes determination and action to make any change a reality.  We are in control and every decision is up to us.

It’s easy to stay within our comfort zones and keep a routine we’re familiar with.  If we want something more, or something different we must be willing to step away from what we’re doing.  It can be unsettling to step into unknown territory and we may feel uncomfortable when we try.  But the unknown is only unknown until we make it ours.  We are capable of facing any challenge and embracing any change we desire.  The first steps forward will open new horizons before us and as we push ahead we will achieve success.  There isn’t anything we can’t do.  The world is there for us and we can reach any destination we desire.

Today if you want more opportunity and success, step away from what is familiar and move toward the goals you really want.  You have everything you need to accomplish anything you desire.  Be engaged and aware of each decision and choose the roads that will take you where you want to go.  You are strong and powerful, and nothing is out of reach.  Your life is yours to design and every success is possible.

Broken Clocks

8 Mar

When we think about our lives and the goals we want to achieve, if we really want to accomplish them we must work to make them a reality. Our dreams are important but life is busy and sometimes with all the responsibilities before us, we set things aside thinking we’ll get to them later. As time goes by, even though we think about the things we really want to do, we may find we’re no closer to them than we were in the beginning. They say a broken clock is right twice a day, or two out of 1440 minutes. So, by doing nothing but staying in place it’s successful about .001 percent of the time. We’re not clocks but our chances of succeeding at anything by doing nothing are probably not much better. Of course, we have responsibilities that must be addressed every day, and there are always complications and unforeseen problems, but if we want to do anything we have to find time for it and do what is necessary to make it happen. It’s like planning to run a race. We can study the course, learn everything possible about the mechanics of running, and read stories about the great runners of our time. But until we actually put our feet on the track, nothing will happen. No goal can be achieved without action. Everything we desire is possible and we can go anywhere we want. Once we decide to move forward, and plan our time around what we want most, every dream we desire can become a reality. There isn’t anything we can’t manage and when we’re ready, nothing can keep us from successfully accomplishing whatever we desire. Our lives belong to us and how we live them is our responsibility. We can purposely move forward toward our goals and find success.

When we have a lot of responsibilities and many people depend on us, taking time for ourselves can feel selfish. We may believe our commitments are more important than what we want do on our own, and push our desires and dreams off until we have time. Additional time will never magically appear, no matter how much we want it. We must work within the boundaries before us and decide on our priorities. Our lives are important and our dreams are precious. We can plan effectively and do what is needed to make them come true.

Time moves forward whether we’re actively engaged in a pursuit or sitting idly by. There is always enough time to do what is most important to us, even if we’re busy. The most hectic day gives way for time to eat when we’re hungry. It’s a priority that presses on us until we address it. Our goals can be as important as any other priority when we decide we value them. The whole world is available to us and there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can choose the best way forward to accomplish anything we desire.

Today if you’ve been putting your dreams on hold thinking you’ll get to them later, take the first step toward them now. Put your feet on the track and start moving toward the goal. You are powerful, wise and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. All your dreams are just ahead waiting to be uncovered, and you will reach them. Begin now and you’ll find success.

Mirror Image

1 Feb

We meet a lot of different people as we go through our lives. Some of them may be very attractive to us, and if we meet someone we admire greatly, we may look up to them and desire to be like them. If they have a lot of influence over us and are doing things we want to do, we may begin to copy their behaviors and mannerisms, associate with those they are close to, or even begin to dress like them. We may think if we do all the things they’re doing, we’ll end up with the lives they have. They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and that may be true, but imitation will never be reality. Even if we act and dress just like someone else and copy everything they do, we are still ourselves. We can do what is required to achieve everything they have but we will still be living in our own skin. We are all individuals and there is no way to clone ourselves into a mirror image of someone else. We have unique and precious gifts to present to the world that nobody else can give. There is no need to try to become someone else and attempt to capture their gifts and talents to be successful. We have everything we need to define and find our own personal success. We can be ourselves and do things our own way. We have so much to offer and nobody else can bless the world with the gifts we have to share.

We all face all kinds of comparisons and judgements, and there may be times we don’t feel we measure up. Maybe we’re not as financially secure as we’d like to be, or aren’t as tall or beautiful as we want to be, or despite our efforts there are achievements we’ve been unable to conquer. There are millions of people in the world and there will always be someone with more of something we want, but our experience is exclusive to us and we are exactly where we need to be. We can change anything we like and continue to grow and learn as we go forward. Every goal is possible and there is nothing too far for us to reach. Every accomplishment is within our grasp.

There isn’t only one road to happiness or one perfect destination. There are endless possibilities to do what we want and go where we want to go. One person may choose one road, another may choose a road going in a completely different direction and both may find great success. If we’re on the road that takes us where we want to be, we’re successful. There are countless destinations ahead and which we choose, and how we get there is up to us. We don’t have to follow someone else’s path, and we don’t have to go at their speed. We can customize our lives to fit us perfectly and find success.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s ideas and copying their choices thinking it will bring you success, remember your success is defined by you. It doesn’t matter how anyone else lives their life. Your life is yours to design and nothing is out of reach. Choose the roads that will take you where you want to go. You have so much to offer and the world is blessed for the gifts you bring. Do it your way. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

Knowing and Hoping

5 Jan

As we interact with others, either in our personal relationships or in passing, we learn how they respond to different situations and what we can expect from them.  It’s helpful to recognize their patterns and choices and have a clear expectation of their behaviors.  But sometimes we may hope their expected responses will change in ways that are better for them or will fit into our needs more effectively.  They say hope springs eternal, and in some ways it does.  If someone we’re close to often makes bad decisions and those decisions hurt them and those around them, we may hope they will change and our hope may make us believe something that isn’t real.  We must always be willing to face things as they are and understand we can only control our own lives and the decisions we make.  Even if we know what is best, even if we are sure we know the right way forward, if it’s someone else’s decision to make we have no control over the end result.  It takes a lot of energy to try to control situations that belong to someone else and no matter how much we put into our efforts, if the decisions aren’t ours to make, we will not change the outcome.  It’s best to step back, see the facts clearly, hope for the best, and then accept whatever choices are made.  We can control our lives any way we desire while allowing others to do the same and make their own choices despite what we hope for them.  Doing so will give us the freedom to move forward on our own road while still being available when needed.

When we love someone who is doing something destructive, it’s hard to stand by and watch as things go wrong.  We may offer counsel and advice if they are receptive, but then we must step back and let them make the decisions they desire.  It’s very hard to watch those we love suffer, especially if we are sure we know how to fix the situation.  We all learn from the things we experience, and ultimately every lesson must come from within.  We can let go and allow those around us to make their own choices and learn their own lessons, despite what we hope they will choose.

Facts may tell us all about how something works, how it looks, or what we can expect it to do but they can never predict our personal reactions and how they will affect us.  We really don’t know a stove is hot unless we touch it.  Until then it’s undefined information.  The same is true in our lives.  Most of what we do is done through trial and error.  We learn from the things we experience and those we love learn the same way.  It takes some of us more time than others, and we all take different roads on the journey.  We can hope for the best, while understanding and accepting whatever comes.  Life is a great teacher that allows each of us to learn our own way.  We can walk beside those around us, and let them choose their own path forward.

Today if you’re hoping someone you love will make a positive choice, do what you can to set a good example.  Be there to offer help when needed and let them choose for themselves.  Share your life with them while focusing on your own journey forward.  Live your life well and let your success light the way.

The Frog

3 Jan

There is an old saying that if you want to cook a frog, put it in a pot of cold water and slowly heat it up.  It’s said that a frog will hop out of hot water but will sit in cold water and not notice the additional heat until it’s cooked.  If we’ve never wanted to cook a frog we may never need to test this hypothesis, but we may still experience the same process.  If someone wants us to do something they know we would never agree to, they may begin by including us in a situation we would find acceptable and then, slowly and carefully, modify the process until they reach their desired result.  Nobody is exempt from the deceit of others and there may be times when we may be shocked to find ourselves in situations we would never have chosen had we seen all the facts up front.  If we’re involved with someone we like or admire, and they slowly heat the water around us taking us where we don’t want to go, we may not notice anything until we’re metaphorically cooked.  We don’t know what we don’t know, and if we’re connected to someone who has secret plans, we may follow along until we end up in the wrong place.  It’s hard to believe anyone we care about and trust would do anything to mislead or deceive us, but it may happen.  When we finally see everything clearly we may feel like a fool wondering how we didn’t see the signs.  It’s easy to look back and see everything openly but if someone is blocking our vision it’s impossible to see the whole picture.  It’s like walking through fog.  Everything is muted and unclear, and even if we try we can’t see everything that is before us.  When the fog lifts it’s easy to look back at the path and see everything we missed.  In time all truth becomes evident.  Every deception will be uncovered and when it is, if we need to, we can correct our course.  We never have to continue on any road we don’t want.  We can turn and move forward toward success.

Shame is a very powerful emotion and can be quite destructive.  It may make us feel inadequate and unworthy.  We may feel intense shame if we discover we’ve fallen for a lie and taken our lives somewhere we don’t want to be.  We only answer for the choices we make and if we’ve been tricked into believing lies, the responsibility belongs to those who own them. If we find we’ve been fooled and manipulated, although we may be hurt, there is no need to feel ashamed.  It’s good to believe in and trust others.  If we are misled because of that belief and trust, those who have abused us are accountable.  We need not disparage ourselves for falling down.  We can stand tall, learn everything possible from the experience, and walk away with confidence knowing more than we did before.

Life is an incredible teacher if we are willing to listen. There are unlimited lessons to learn and everything we experience teaches us something new.  If we believe someone who lies to us, we may fall.  If we learn everything we can from the experience and take that information forward, remembering all the clues we learned, we will be more successful in preventing the same thing from happening again.  We don’t have to fall for the same story twice.  We can learn to feel the heat and step away before the water starts to boil.  Everything we need to be successful is already inside us.  We can watch, listen, and learn, and be wiser going forward.  Every possibility is available to us, and there isn’t anything we can’t comprehend and understand.

Today if you’ve discovered you’ve been tricked into a situation you don’t want, look ahead and decide how to correct your way forward.  A detour will never keep you from your goals.  You are wise and strong, and capable of understanding everything around you.  Keep your eyes on the road ahead and your path will become clear.  Every success you desire is waiting for you.  Nothing will hold you back and you will find the way.

Mirage

19 May

We all have things we want to accomplish, dreams we want to pursue and goals we want to achieve.  We can plan for them and work toward them until we succeed and sometimes when we get to the destination everything is exactly like we thought it would be.  Other times we may arrive and discover the goal we were after isn’t exactly what we expected.  Like a mirage in the desert something may look good from a distance but upon closer inspection is a bit different.  If we’ve worked hard for a long time to achieve the goal and then discover it isn’t what we want after all we may be disappointed or feel we’ve been cheated.  We can’t know everything from the beginning but if we pay attention as we move along there are often clues that will give us more information about the road we’re on.  If we simply storm ahead sure of ourselves, we may find in the end we’ve reached a destination that isn’t anything like what we want.  Everything we do changes us in some way and as we’re moving forward our lives are evolving and we may find what we sought at the beginning isn’t what we want now.  We can turn our course and change direction any time we’re ready.  There are countless roads that lead to happiness.  Which one we choose depends on where we want to go and what we want to become.  The whole world belongs to those who take it.  We can do anything and go anywhere. If we’ve reached a place that doesn’t fit we can turn our course and begin again.

Few things in life are permanent and unchangeable.  Most ideas and decisions can be changed and modified if needed.  If we are open and honest with ourselves and clearly see what isn’t working we can modify our plans to find happiness.  If we aren’t happy we need not stay in any situation and if we don’t feel fulfilled and content we may change whatever is needed to correct our course.  We may leave a relationship, a job, move to a different location or open a new door.  Whatever is needed to find joy in our lives is available to us and we have enough courage and wisdom to move forward to get it.

Some situations are very alluring and captivating.  Like a mirage in the distance they call to us and we may be consumed with attaining them.  We can make all our dreams come true but first we must be sure that what we’re seeing is exactly what we want.  Do we really want what’s at the end of that road?  Are we sure we are willing to do what is needed to achieve it?  Being clear on what is required to move forward and then making our decision will enable us to find success.  We can take the time we need to make the best decisions for our future and then plan our way forward. We can be wise and careful and find the happiness we seek.

Today if you’ve been working hard to reach a goal but aren’t sure it’s exactly what you’re seeking, take a moment to think before you proceed.  See all your options clearly and choose the road that’s best going forward.  You know what you want and are wise enough to make excellent choices.  Happiness is there for you.  Look for it, plan for it and then begin forward to achieve it.