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Flawless

23 Mar

Life is a great experience, but it isn’t without pitfalls. There are always lots of options for every decision we make and although we may try hard to be perfect, we are only human. Everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. There is no road map telling us which way to go, or guidebook advising us about what to avoid. We make our choices and learn as we go. If things fall apart, we learn what doesn’t work. If we do something that hurts us, we learn what to avoid. Every day we step a little closer to the person we want to be. Some people are very critical and may point out a time when we did something they find unacceptable. They may call us out or make us an example, choosing to highlight a bad decision we have already acknowledged and corrected. There is nothing to be gained by ridiculing others for making mistakes. Nobody is flawless, and we will all stumble from time to time. Falling or taking a wrong turn teaches us a lot about ourselves and the world around us. Holding someone continually accountable for previous errors in judgement serves nobody, and reminding others of their mistakes doesn’t make us better or superior. One thing is certain, none of us are flawless. We will all make errors in judgement from time to time, may choose the wrong road, take a wrong turn, or say something we regret. Those actions don’t permanently define us. We are always learning and growing, and can move forward with confidence, even though we’ve missed a turn or two. There is greatness in all of us, but if all we focus on is the missteps, it will be hard to recognize. Life isn’t always easy. By being aware of what we’re doing and choosing the best we can, we can move forward toward success and achieve it. The past can never predict the future. We are in control and can reach any goal we desire.

Some people are very judgmental and feel it is their responsibility to point out everyone’s shortcomings. Putting others down can never raise us up. Instead of focusing on the perceived shortcomings in others, we can look inward and choose our own road ahead. By honoring ourselves and those around us, we will gain more grace and gratitude for the blessings we possess and focus on the goals we want the most.

We may strive for perfection and try hard to always make the best decisions, but life is complex. Although we may do our best to choose wisely, there will always be a lot of factors we can’t control. Unexpected situations may arise, others may alter our direction, and our plans may go sideways. That doesn’t mean we’re incompetent or insufficient. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. It may not work out the first time we try, or the second, or third, but with determination and clarity, we can continue forward until we reach success.

Today if you’re hesitating because of a mistake you made in the past, recognize how capable and strong you are. You know how you want to proceed and have everything you need to reach any goal. Be confident and trust yourself. You are more powerful than you realize and can accomplish anything. Every dream is possible, and you can have the life you desire most. Stand tall and step forward. Happiness is just ahead.

Shelter

18 Jan

When we’re outside and the weather suddenly turns, a hard wind begins to blow and rain starts pelting us, we may quickly look for shelter. We may rush to find cover so we can be shielded from the storm. We want to find somewhere to be protected from the onslaught until things settle down. Physical storms can happen unexpectedly, and we may be caught unaware and unprepared. The same is true in our personal lives. Everything can change in a second and we may find ourselves suddenly exposed and vulnerable to situations that threaten to destroy our progress or personal well-being. Instead of seeking a roof to protect us, we may need the shelter of someone else’s advice and counsel. We’re all in different places in life and what we’re going through that’s new and unexpected may be something someone close to us has already overcome. We can ask for help when things fall apart and lean into the understanding of others until we find our footing. Nobody knows everything, and we don’t have to face hard challenges alone. There will always be help there for us, and by reaching out and seeking it, we will find the comfort and guidance we need to get through. Storms will come and trouble will follow, but every answer will always be there for us. We know how to get help and we will find our way. The shelter of those who care about us will help shield us from the torrent until we are able to stand on our own. We’ve already faced many difficult times and overcome, and we will again. We can trust in our ability to get the help we need and find our way through. Every destination is possible, and nothing can keep us from reaching them all.

There are billions of people on earth and they’re all making choices and decisions. Each choice brings a result and when those results affect the road we’re on we’ll have to find a way around it. Screaming and complaining because there’s something in the way will never move us forward. There will always be way around any obstacle we must face. We can find another road in another direction and still achieve our goal. A detour is not the end of our journey. Nothing can hold us in place forever, and we will find our way.

When our lives are going well and we’re reaching success, someone near us may suffer a hardship. If they need help, we can extend ourselves and offer assistance. We’re all more connected than we realize, and by being the shelter for someone else in times of stress and discomfort, our compassion will increase, and our understanding of others will deepen. We are wise and capable and can lend our strength to help others through. Our kindness and consideration will enrich those in need, and bring light to us and the world around us.

Today if there’s a storm raging and you don’t know how to proceed, ask for help and let those who care about you give you shelter until you find your way. You are strong and capable, and will find all the answers you need. Be confident and trust yourself. All your dreams and goals are possible. Step forward and the road will open. Nothing can keep you from success, and all your dreams can be yours.

Being Heard

7 Jan

When we think of people in groups, and assign them to a category, it’s easy to forget that the group or category designation isn’t who they are. Each person is an individual with something to offer, and each is valuable. We all deserve to be heard and treated with respect. If we are ignored, criticized because we are different, and disregarded, we may endure it for a time, but eventually the need to be heard may push us to a breaking point. We may shout to make others listen, or storm the castle to make our leaders remember we are there. Everyone has a tipping point. Treating those who are different with distain, calling them names, disparaging their opinions, or saying they don’t matter, is a recipe for eventual disaster. Nobody is better than anyone else. There is not one perfect way to live life. We are not all the same, and will never agree on everything, but each of us is precious and unique, and brings something of value to the world. Our differences are sometimes difficult to understand but that does not mean we cannot co-exist respectfully and peacefully. We are responsible for what happens after we use vindictive and hateful speech about those with whom we disagree. Every decision has a result and everything we do defines who we are. No idea or ideology is worth the destruction of others. We are all connected more than we realize. By thinking before we act and understanding and accepting differences, we can make the world better and bring peace. We are more powerful than we think we are and can make excellent decisions. By choosing wisely, and being open to every idea, our lives will be enhanced, and we will find greater satisfaction and happiness.

Some people are very sure of themselves and believe their ideas are the only ones worth having. They are confident they have all the answers and if someone disagrees, may strongly criticize them and do whatever they can to make them comply. We are in control of our own lives and may live them any way we like. We don’t have to follow anyone else’s ideas or obey. Our differences are what bring interest and depth to the world. Honoring everyone’s ideas and allowing free expression without judgment enriches our experiences and opens our minds to other possibilities.

We all have the right to choose anything we like, but we don’t have control over anyone else. We will never have all the answers or inspiration over anyone else’s life. It’s good to be confident in our decisions but that doesn’t make us ruler over the decisions of others. Everyone is valuable and worthwhile and has something to offer. By respecting the rights of others to make their own choices and honoring the gifts they offer, we bring light to everyone around us, and richness to the world.

Today if you’ve been critical of those who are different, and want them to comply with your beliefs, remember every idea has value. We all have personal inspiration unique to each of us. Listen to others and be open to new ideas. You are a great gift to the world and have so much to offer. Be confident and be wise, and the road ahead will open and take you to success.

Still Down

31 Jan

Disappointments are a normal part of life. Everything doesn’t always go the way we want it to, or how we think it will. Small disappointments are easy to overcome and we navigate through them without much distress. But some things impact us greatly and alter how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. If we’ve suffered through a devastating development that has left us feeling broken and deeply hurt, we likely won’t sail through it quickly or without serious discomfort. Heartbreak, betrayal, and intense, serious setbacks can be very difficult to overcome. We’re capable of managing anything that comes to us, but when we’ve had the emotional air knocked out of us by an acutely painful event, it may be impossible to immediately bounce back. We’ll need time to understand what’s happened, and find our footing again, but no matter what happens, our lives continue forward. Even when we’re suffering, life goes on. There are things we have to take care of, places we need to be, and responsibilities that must be tended to. We must continue forward despite how we feel. Intense sorrow and grief are not permanent and cannot hold us indefinitely. Time will help, but there is no way to know how much time it will take. Each day will bring a little more relief, and moment by moment, we will move forward. No matter what’s happened or how badly we’ve been hurt, we will eventually find our way through. It won’t happen overnight, and we may have many days of despair before we heal completely, but we have everything we need to find our way back to full confidence and peace. Life is complicated and there will be trouble. But we are strong, and nothing can hold us down forever.

Nobody can know our deepest feelings or the full extent of anything we’re going through. If we’ve been struggling over something difficult for a while, those around us may have lots of ideas and advice. They may give us suggestions and recommendations for moving forward. We can listen to and try anything they offer if we feel it will help, but we know ourselves better than anyone else, and know what we need. We have all the courage and strength necessary to overcome anything. In time, we will find peace and comfort, and be sure of the way ahead.

When we’re trying to get over something difficult, we may feel we should be further down the road than we are. Grief has its own timetable, and although we may try to rush it, will take the time it takes. By being involved in the world around us we can improve our outlook, and refresh our thinking. There are endless goals still possible and we can accomplish anything we desire. A setback may be difficult, and it may hurt, but it isn’t the end of the road. It’s just a pause, and there is great success ahead.

Today if you’re suffering from a painful event, and feel disconnected and lost, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing can hold you down indefinitely. There is still light. Give yourself time to heal and be confident. Look ahead, and step forward. You are amazing, and every dream is still there for you. You will find the way ahead, and reach great success.

Escape

6 Aug

Life is full of options and opportunities. Every single day brings something new into our lives, and new people will come and go as time passes. Sometimes we make lasting relationships and spend significant time with someone, getting to know them well, and incorporating them into our lives. If our values are similar, and we’re interested in the same things, those bonds may be very strong. It’s good to make close connections but it won’t happen with everyone we meet. We may have passing interactions with people we see once and don’t see again. As we’re getting to know someone and begin to build rapport with them, we learn more about them. We might find we have lots in common, or we may discover their true attributes are nothing we want to be involved with. Maybe they’re dishonest, or make horrible decisions that bring grief and destruction to everyone around them, or they have deep, hidden hatred for others. We never have to stay in any situation or relationship that makes us uncomfortable. We can always step back, and step away. There is no reason to continue an association that isn’t working or that will bring us discomfort. Escape is always an option in every circumstance, no matter what’s going on. We can choose another path and go our own way. We are never inexorably tied to anyone else. Our lives belong to us and we can manage them in ways that are positive and work well. If someone around us is doing things we don’t want, or is making decisions that don’t work for us, we can walk away. We’re all responsible for the lives we live. Every choice we make takes us somewhere, and we can ensure where we’re headed is where we want to go. Every blessing is possible and there are unlimited roads to travel. We can have the lives we dream about and find great, abiding happiness.

Most of us try to be helpful and want to be patient with others who are struggling. We can be supportive but it’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves. It never works to try to fix someone else’s life for them. Everyone owns their own problems and must find their own solutions. We’re not responsible for saving anyone else, and we need not accept or excuse bad behavior, or go along with bad decisions. We can set an excellent example for success, and step forward with confidence and clarity.

We may be asked to help when someone has twisted their lives up and don’t know what to do. We can be kind and offer any advice we feel appropriate, but they must solve their problems on their own. Getting tangled up in the confusion of someone else’s mistakes will not help them find resolution. We can be supportive and still allow them to do what is needed to resolve their situation. We all have everything we need to find the way forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that’s uncomfortable, and you don’t want to continue, you can step away. You know what’s best for you and how you want to proceed. Take control and do what is needed to change direction and start again. You are valuable and important, and can go anywhere. Make the best decisions moving forward and you will reach your goals. Nothing can keep you from the life you desire.