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Sorry, Not Sorry

24 Oct

Nobody is perfect and although we may try hard to do everything right, and always say the right things, at some point we’re going to falter. We interact with lots of other people and they all have their own ideas about how things should go and what we should say. If we do something without thinking, or if we’re mad and do something on purpose that causes pain or distress for someone else, we may, or may not, feel bad about it. A lot depends on the situation and our relationship with the other party. If they are someone who is very difficult and we struggle to get along with them, and we say something that offends them, we frankly may not care. They can deal with it.  After all, we have to deal with them all the time. Other times we might do something offensive simply because we don’t have all the facts, or our information is inaccurate. When the mis-step is pointed out to us, we may apologize and correct our course moving forward. Life is full of all kinds of differences and interpretations, and it’s impossible to get them all right every time. Every situation is different and we can look at everything objectively and then decide our next step. Most of us want to get along with others, and try not to put obstacles in the road ahead by hurting those around us and making enemies. If we cause a problem we can always do what is needed to fix it. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to understand. By choosing wisely and making the best decisions moving forward, we can be sure we’ll reach success.

Not everyone is nice and easy to get along with. Some people are rude, impolite or even mean. They have their own reasons for how they act and we need not spend any time trying to figure that out.  However, if we have to interact with them, we will need to find a way to do it without causing too much distress. We don’t have to succumb to anyone else’s demands if they are not in authority over us. We can listen to them, respond politely, and then make the best choice moving forward. 

Families and relationships are complex. If we’re in a situation with someone we love where they are constantly criticizing and berating us, or telling us what to do, we may feel oppressed and overrun. We’re all entitled to our own opinions but we don’t have any control over anyone else. Everyone gets to make their own choices. Our lives are our responsibility and we always have the power to step away from any situation that isn’t working. We can define how much contact allows us to stay connected without letting others control us. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’ve offended someone, look at the situation carefully and completely, and determine the best step forward. Be polite and gracious, even if you disagree, and continue moving toward your goals. You are highly capable and intelligent, and will always find your way. Be confident and wise. Every single blessing is waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

Going Under

17 Aug

Our lives are a reflection of the decisions we make. If we are paying attention, and purposely moving toward the goals we most desire, we will accomplish them and find great satisfaction. If we’re just going through the motions and following someone else, the odds of being happy are diminished. We are in control of every decision we make and can decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. However, if we lack confidence or are unsure that we can find our own way, we may attach ourselves to someone else and instead of choosing our own path, simply mimic what they are doing. If they turn right, so will we.  If they stop and choose something else, we’ll be right behind them. That may work out if the person we’re following is choosing wisely and is noble and honest. If they are not, and we don’t take the time to think before we act, we may find ourselves in difficult and complicated situations we never wanted. If we don’t know how to swim and try to save a drowning man, we may go under with them simply because we don’t have the skills to keep us both afloat. The same is true if we attach ourselves to someone who is unscrupulous and makes bad decisions. We will never be able to stay above the fray if we blindly follow where they lead. It’s fine to have a role model or mentor and they may bring great benefit to our lives, but in the end, every decision we make is our responsibility. There is no escaping the results of our choices. If we lack information, we can get it. If we need more skills to figure out the way ahead, we can gain them. Every success is possible but it’s up to us to make them ours. Nothing is out of reach and we have all the wisdom and courage we need to do whatever we desire.

We may face a time when someone more powerful than we are asks us to forsake a relationship because it’s inconvenient for them or they want all our attention. If the relationship we’re asked to give up is not important to us or pulls us from the roads we want to travel, we may walk away. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like, but nobody knows what will happen next, and the connections we sacrifice today may become crucial in the future. Instead of severing ties, we can modify our lives to preserve the relationships we’ve built and still move forward toward the goal.

Some people need a lot of support and struggle to find their way forward. They may lean on us for constant help and rely on us to save them when things go wrong. Constantly bailing someone else out will never move us forward. We can be helpful and kind, but we don’t have to do everything we’re asked to do. We can give advice and then let others discover their own answers. We know what we want and with clarity and focus, we can find the road ahead and reach every destination.

Today if you’ve been following someone else and are not headed in the direction you want to travel, stop and think about what you want the most. You already possess everything you need to go anywhere and do anything. You are intelligent and highly capable and nobody knows you better than you know yourself. Decide what you want and then take the first step forward. Every dream is possible and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and you will win.

You Take It

25 Mar

We share the world with billions of other people, and although we won’t meet even a tiny fraction of them, there are often people around us much of the time. They pass us on the street, work for us and with us, we have friends, family members, acquaintances and others. Unless we live alone and stay inside, we’re likely going to run into someone. Everyone has their ideas about life and what they will do. Nobody gets a free pass, and we’re all going to face trouble and challenges at some point. Some people are very confident and rarely get flustered even when things are going wrong, but others may struggle and find it hard to manage even the smallest problems. If we are close to them and they rely on us, and they are easily overwhelmed, they may try to push their problems off on us. They might simply hand them over, and say “Here, you take care of it,” and walk away. If they are in a position of authority over us, we may have no choice but to do as they ask. But if we’re on a level field, we never have to take on what isn’t ours. They may try to hand whatever they don’t want off onto us, but we never have to accept it. We all have enough personal crap to manage, and complicating our own lives by trying to manage someone else’s will never lead us to success. We can listen when others complain, and offer any advice that might help, and then leave them to it. If they don’t take care of business, it’ll be their mess to clean up. Our lives are important and we deserve complete happiness. By taking care of ourselves, and doing what is needed to reach our own personal goals, we will find great satisfaction and peace. Life is what we make it and by being wise and clear about what is ours and what we will do, we will reach every destination and find great success.

It’s good to be helpful and offer assistance when we can. We can give guidance and help others when needed. It’s noble to sacrifice ourselves for those around us, but it isn’t selfish to be sure we take care of our personal needs first. There is nothing to be gained if we give up all our time to someone else and neglect our own journeys. Our lives are our responsibility and we can be wise and do what we can without breaking the bank. We can find the right balance between giving and taking, and reach every goal.

Nobody wants to suffer or go through hard times. When we’re facing a very difficult situation and we don’t know what to do, we don’t have to surrender and try to hide. Even the most complex problems have solutions, and there isn’t anything we can’t figure out. By taking our time and looking at every possible option, we will find the answers we need. We are stronger and more capable than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down when we want to move. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we can overcome anything and win.

Today be confident and trust yourself. Remember what is yours, and let others manage their own. Be kind and caring, and move forward with confidence and clarity. You are amazing and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. Every single goal is possible and nothing can hold you in place. There is great success just ahead and you will reach it.

Lighting the Way

10 Mar

The world is filled with all kinds of people in different places, situations, locations, and cultures. Although we will never meet them all, we may be aware of the magnitude humanity encompasses. There are people all around us most of the time. We see them at work, at play, and in passing. There may be periods when we’ll be completely alone but much of the time someone else will be nearby. Although we don’t have close and intimate relationships with everyone around us, we are far more connected as human beings than we may realize. We feel pain when someone else gets hurt, we feel sad when others are suffering, and we rejoice when good things come to those around us. What we do every day impacts the world in some way. If we are rude and hateful, and mean to those we come in contact with, our influence will be negative and may cause those with whom we interact to suffer. Conversely, if we are kind and welcoming, and offer help when needed, we may bring great blessing and light to the world around us. We can do anything we like, but whatever we choose will leave an indelible mark on where we’ve been. If we choose to light the way forward through our kindness and good example, we will bring goodness and virtue that will enhance those around us and the world as a whole. Every choice we make will bring a result. There is greatness is us all and by choosing wisely, we can share all the gifts we have to offer. We are more important and powerful than we think we are. By expressing the best we have within us, we can bring intense light and blessing to everyone around us.

We can spend our lives thinking about what’s in every decision for us, and only see our own personal road. We can focus only on our own achievements, and live in ways that exclude others from our plans so we can do everything exactly the way we like. There’s nothing wrong with keeping our eyes on the goals we want the most, but it’s impossible to build personal connections if all we see is ourselves. Building relationships requires us to think about others, and consider their needs as well as our own, which isn’t always easy. But strong friendships and relationships enhance our lives is very positive ways, and teach a lot about ourselves and the world around us. By sharing our journey forward, we will be enriched and find great comfort and happiness.

We may think we’re insignificant and it doesn’t matter what we do. Although we may not be famous or wealthy, well known or publicly recognized, our influence will still make an impact. Others see us and what we’re doing, and our choices and examples may alter how they choose to proceed. If they see us help someone out of a car, or open a door, they may offer to help someone else. There is no way to know how much our actions change what comes next. We can change the world for the better simply by choosing well and lighting the way ahead.

Today think about the choices you’re making. Choose the best options moving forward and be a shining example for good. You can bring great blessings to the world around you. Be the best you can be, and every door ahead will open. The road will be paved with good works moving forward, and you will reach every success.

Still Waters

14 Feb

Everyone wants an easy life where everything always goes well and there is no stress or complication. It would be great if all our stories had happy endings, and nothing terrible, painful or disastrous ever happened. That works in storybooks, but isn’t generally the case in real life. Some roads are paved and clear, and when we sail along without trials or problems, life is great. There are sunny skies overhead and we feel good. But change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever. Trouble comes to us all. Lovers leave, jobs disappoint, others hurt us, we’re short on money and patience, and there are dark clouds looming. Everyone’s experience is different, and even when we know someone well, we may have no idea what they’re going through inside. Our personal sorrows are private and we may not wish to share them. Instead of putting everything out in the open and letting everyone see what’s wrong, we may slap a smile on our faces, and pretend all is well. We might push ourselves through the heartache and keep going. There is no way to know what anyone else is really going through unless they tell us, and private pain is just that – private. Still waters look lovely, and the sun glistening on the surface can never expose what is happening underwater. There may be piranhas, sharks, poisonous plants or a number of other terrible possibilities. If we only see the surface, we only have part of the story. People are the same way. They may look fine on the outside, and be suffering a terrible pain on the inside. Life isn’t always easy and we’re all going to suffer at some point. By being patient and listening, even when things look fine, we can be supportive and helpful to those around us.

Some people guard their emotions. They don’t share their troubles with others, and when things go wrong, they may prefer to face them alone. We may learn of their difficulties through someone else, and want to help while still honoring their privacy. By extending ourselves we can do something for them without prying into their personal lives. Just being there and offering our friendship can soothe a difficult situation and make the road ahead a little easier.

Sometimes people are short, impatient or rude with those around them. Maybe they’re just impolite, or maybe there is something more going on. Painful situations can cause a lot of stress and if someone near us is acting out in difficult ways, before we lash out we can step back and look at everything objectively. There may be more to the story than we can see. Being supportive and kind, even in difficult situations, may go a long way toward healing a broken heart or painful experience. We’re all in this together, and by showing we care, and helping those around us, we can bring great light into the world.

Today, remember that things are not always as they seem. Be kind and supportive to those around you, and willing to help when needed. Your light can lift others and brings comfort and cheer to those in need. The whole world is blessed because you are here. There is greatness in you, and you bring goodness to us all.