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Escape

6 Aug

Life is full of options and opportunities. Every single day brings something new into our lives, and new people will come and go as time passes. Sometimes we make lasting relationships and spend significant time with someone, getting to know them well, and incorporating them into our lives. If our values are similar, and we’re interested in the same things, those bonds may be very strong. It’s good to make close connections but it won’t happen with everyone we meet. We may have passing interactions with people we see once and don’t see again. As we’re getting to know someone and begin to build rapport with them, we learn more about them. We might find we have lots in common, or we may discover their true attributes are nothing we want to be involved with. Maybe they’re dishonest, or make horrible decisions that bring grief and destruction to everyone around them, or they have deep, hidden hatred for others. We never have to stay in any situation or relationship that makes us uncomfortable. We can always step back, and step away. There is no reason to continue an association that isn’t working or that will bring us discomfort. Escape is always an option in every circumstance, no matter what’s going on. We can choose another path and go our own way. We are never inexorably tied to anyone else. Our lives belong to us and we can manage them in ways that are positive and work well. If someone around us is doing things we don’t want, or is making decisions that don’t work for us, we can walk away. We’re all responsible for the lives we live. Every choice we make takes us somewhere, and we can ensure where we’re headed is where we want to go. Every blessing is possible and there are unlimited roads to travel. We can have the lives we dream about and find great, abiding happiness.

Most of us try to be helpful and want to be patient with others who are struggling. We can be supportive but it’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves. It never works to try to fix someone else’s life for them. Everyone owns their own problems and must find their own solutions. We’re not responsible for saving anyone else, and we need not accept or excuse bad behavior, or go along with bad decisions. We can set an excellent example for success, and step forward with confidence and clarity.

We may be asked to help when someone has twisted their lives up and don’t know what to do. We can be kind and offer any advice we feel appropriate, but they must solve their problems on their own. Getting tangled up in the confusion of someone else’s mistakes will not help them find resolution. We can be supportive and still allow them to do what is needed to resolve their situation. We all have everything we need to find the way forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that’s uncomfortable, and you don’t want to continue, you can step away. You know what’s best for you and how you want to proceed. Take control and do what is needed to change direction and start again. You are valuable and important, and can go anywhere. Make the best decisions moving forward and you will reach your goals. Nothing can keep you from the life you desire.

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Changing Everything

3 Jul

We all have our own personal responsibilities, details, chores, and worries. As we go through our days, getting things done and working on what’s next, we might share our lives with those around us. If we’re close, we may share our personal worries and concerns, but if we’re very private we may keep everything to ourselves. If we’re having a personal issue that’s weighing on us, we may be distracted and concerned. If we’re good at hiding our feelings, others may not notice we’re struggling. But in the midst of getting through our days, everything can change in a moment if someone reaches out a hand and offers a kind word. Suddenly we may feel lightened and lifted, and the next step forward is a little easier. They don’t have to know the whole story, and we don’t have to share more than we’re comfortable with. Just the simple act of showing they care can ease our burden and we can feel strengthened and more confident. Small gestures of kindness can turn everything around. We never know what those around us are going through, we can’t see inside their private thoughts, but we can express our gratitude for them and show we care. A smile, a comforting word, or a moment to share some insight or encouragement, may change everything for someone else and make their journey easier. It doesn’t take much time or effort, and we can reach out to those around us in many different ways. We don’t have to pry into their personal affairs, and we don’t need to know the whole story. We can just be there, be aware, and offer comfort. We’re all more connected than we may realize. By reaching out and supporting those around us, we can change the world. We have so much to offer and with patience and caring, can be a blessing to others.

Nobody has a perfect life. Everyone gets trouble from time to time, complications arise in all our lives, and the road ahead is rarely clear and paved. We may have no idea of the suffering someone close to us is enduring. Everything may seem fine on the outside and there may be a tempest roiling on the inside. A kind word, a caring touch, or a gentle smile may mean more than we can imagine to someone who is struggling. It may change darkness to light in an instant, and be what they’ve been hoping for.

The world is a huge place with billions of people. When we’re going through difficult times, it’s easy to feel isolated and disconnected. It may seem everyone else has a better situation than we do, but we all have problems and challenges. When we feel alone, and problems surround us, we can reach out to someone we trust and share whatever we’re comfortable with. We can ask for support and find relief through sharing. Talking about our trouble may alleviate some of the stress and help to find answers moving forward. We’re all in this together. We can share our lives with those around us, ask for help or offer kindness, and when we do the whole world is better.

Today if you’re carrying a heavy burden and feel alone and sad, remember those around you. Share your feelings with someone you trust and let them comfort you. You are an amazing gift to the world and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Reach out and be encouraged. We’re all blessed because you are here.

Your Turn

17 May

People constantly come in and out of our lives, and we interact with them in different ways depending on our circumstances. Sometimes we work together in order to achieve something. Perhaps we’re in a formal team that’s been set up to accomplish a specific task, or maybe we’re just cooperating and working with others on something less formal. Whatever the situation, if we’re all in the project together and we want to reach success, everyone must do their part. We can take care of our own responsibilities and then hand it over to the next person for their input. It all works out fine unless someone drops the ball and doesn’t get their assigned portion done. When that happens, the whole thing can fall apart. If we’re in that type of situation and want the goal to be reached, we may feel tempted to step in and take over where someone else has neglected to move. It’s great to be helpful, but it’s important for everyone to recognize their input is necessary for success. If we jump in and cover when someone else forsakes their part, the job might get done, but the precedent we’ve set may cause problems going forward. If people know we’ll cover every time something goes wrong, we may end up with more work than we can manage. A group effort is just that – a group effort, meaning everyone in the group should participate. If someone neglects their responsibility the group can come together and determine the best way forward. Once everyone decides how to manage the loss, a solution will be found and the goal can be reached. We are very capable and able to do many things. If we work together, we will find the answers we need without taking too much on ourselves. Every goal is possible and with planning and determination, we will reach it.

Everyone must carry their own weight, but if someone needs our help, we may step in and take some of their burden from them. It’s noble to be kind and assist others, but if we take on everyone else’s burdens, the weight may become oppressive and we may find we can no longer carry our own. We can recognize our limits to be successful and still share our strength. Everyone has their own road to travel. We can manage our time effectively in ways that ensure our success.

Some people need a lot of support. They may lack the confidence necessary to proceed forward without constant reassurance and help from others. Help is always available, but in the end, we are all responsible for our own successes. We cannot expect others to carry us forward, or find the right roads for us to travel. We have everything we need to find our own way and reach any goal we desire. We can be confident that we have everything necessary for success.

Today if you’ve over-extended yourself helping others or have taken on more responsibility than you can effectively manage, take a good look at what you can successfully accomplish, and set the rest aside. You are strong and capable, and can accomplish many things. Be wise and plan your time in ways that help you reach success and achieve the goals you desire. You are amazing and can do anything. Make your plan and move ahead with confidence. You will prevail.

Different Color

15 Aug

It’s easy to be around people who are like us.  If they have similar values, see the world in basically the same way we do and share our views of what’s right and wrong, it’s easy to be around them and share our lives with them.  But everyone is different and even if we’re sure our way of thinking is best for us, it’s foolish to believe it’s the way everyone else should live.  There are endless ideas and expressions possible and we all form our own views based on what we’ve experienced and what we want to gain.  What’s important to us may mean nothing to someone else.  It doesn’t mean either is wrong.  It’s just a difference in interpretation.  If we draw a hard line in the sand and require others to be like us in order to have a relationship with us, we may have a very lonely life.  We all have some things in common – we’re human beings, our basic needs are the same and we’re sharing the earth at the same time.  Other differences don’t change those parameters.  A horse of a different color is still a horse after all.  But everything else for us may be different than those around us and that’s fine.  We are unique and our expressions and desires are specific to our personal experience.  As long as nobody is getting hurt, allowing others to express themselves according to their own wishes is wise.  We may not understand their viewpoint but we can respect their right to it and honor their choices.  We don’t have to do anything that isn’t right for us and can follow our own specific paths.  As we do we can walk beside others who are taking a different road and create friendships despite the difference.

Hatred is a caustic emotion.  It never brings peace or anything of value to us.  Hating others because they are different than we are will never bring us happiness.  Even if we have no understanding of why someone would choose something we can understand and accept their right to make the decision.  We don’t have to agree or support anything that is contrary to our personal values but we can’t impose our beliefs on others.  We all have the right to live our lives any way we choose.  Respecting that right will help us clarify where we stand and define the paths we want to take.

Our personal experiences are unique to us.  Nobody is living our lives but us and nobody else is privy to the insight and understanding we gain as we go through different passages.  We can be confident in our choices and sure of our decisions.  It doesn’t matter if everyone else is going left, we can turn right if it’s right for where we are.  There are limitless roads to travel and the ones we choose are up to us.  We are unique and perfect in our own way.  Honoring that uniqueness in ourselves and others will bring us true and complete happiness.

Today if you’re confused about the decisions made by others around you, remember you only have insight into your own life.  Your experiences are unique to you and you can make any choices you like.  Honor the same in others and your life will be enriched.  We’re all different.  You are perfect in your own way.  Be welcoming to others and show the world your best.

Branded

5 Mar

How we are perceived by others is sometimes the result of what we’ve done in the past.  Our personal behavior as we move through different situations may color what other people think of us and how much influence we carry.  We often hear about personal branding and how important it is to make sure ours represents what we want it to portray.  It’s a complicated issue and people may use all kinds of measuring factors regarding it.  We may have no idea how we’re being judged, and who we really are may have nothing to do with the impressions others may assume.  It’s dangerous to label people, and although we can’t prevent anyone from assuming things about us, we can refuse to judge those around us the same way.  Branding is important in business, and how successful we are managing it will sometimes decide whether we are entitled to some opportunities.  But in our personal lives, branding may be harmful and destructive.  Although we need information to make good decisions, basing any judgement on hearsay, or rumor, or assuming people will do anything before they have the chance to try will never bring us success.  We learn about people as we interact with them.  Every time we meet with them, talk to them, or work with them we learn more about them and as we get to know them can decide how our relationship will be defined.  The world is a big place and there are infinite human expressions and experiences.  Instead of believing what we hear, we can allow others to show us who they are, and trust our personal wisdom moving forward to make the best decisions.

Everyone judges situations and those around them.  It’s a natural reflex and when we see someone who is very much like someone else we’ve known we may make assumptions about who they are.  We may instinctively assign all kinds of traits to them simply because they remind us of a previous situation.  If we don’t have much interaction with them, those reminders may stay in place indefinitely.  But everyone is different.  Even people who look alike or act alike are not the same.  Assumptions are dangerous and are sometimes based on fiction.  We are wise enough to set aside any pre-conceived ideas about anyone and let them show us who they are.  We can be open to building relationships going forward.

There may be times in our lives when we may be judged or excluded from something we desire because of a previous situation.  Perhaps we didn’t manage something the way others felt was best, or we got caught up in some drama where there was no way to win.  Life is complicated and sometimes we end up in places that convolute our path for a time.  We all go through unexpected situations, but nothing is permanent.  Change is constant, and we learn as we go.  No matter what has happened in the past, we can be confident moving forward that we will make excellent decisions and choose the right road.  We can find success ahead and achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’ve judged someone without knowing them, let them show you who they are.  Be welcoming and keep the doors open.  There is great blessing in sharing our lives with others.  Refuse to brand and label those around you, and learn about them as you go.  Your life will be richer, and your relationships will be stronger.

Pause

19 Dec

When we’re working on completing a goal or pushing through an important project, the last thing we want is an interruption. However, this is life and unexpected developments come to all of us. When they do and we’re busy we may push them off in order to get back to the task at hand. It’s good to be focused and nobody wants to go around in circles with continual detours. But some things may happen that need our attention and ask us to stop for a moment to address them. If something happens to someone around us where they are hurt or confused, or need our help, we can stop what we’re doing and turn our focus to them. Projects, goals and deadlines are important but nothing is more valuable than the human spirit. Often what is needed won’t take long before we’re back on track again, and the time spent giving assistance may change someone else’s life. Being the best we can be isn’t just about what we accomplish but about the attributes we gain as we travel forward. Who we are is far more important than what we’ve done. Achieving goals, being ambitious and getting things completed are all great assets. Becoming compassionate, caring and kind are attributes that will change our perspective and benefit the entire world. We can accomplish anything we set out to do but we don’t have to get it all done today. If someone needs us, really needs our help, we can take a break from the journey and share our lives with them. When we do, we will find greater joy and a deeper understanding of who we are and what we really want.

It’s easy to get tunnel vision when we’re trying to complete something. We can tune out everything around us and become immersed only in what we want to do and where we want to go. We may not hear other voices, we may not see anything but the road ahead, and we may miss a lot of information as we push through. If we are oblivious to everything but what we want to accomplish, we may miss the needs of a friend, or the request for help when someone is falling. Our goals are important but keeping them in perspective will help us live our lives more fully and effectively. We can be open to what’s going on around us even when we’re pushing forward, be available when someone needs us, and still accomplish the goal.

Pausing to help someone is thoughtful and kind but we may get into a situation where someone abuses our kindness. We can evaluate each situation objectively and decide how much we can offer. We can be helpful and still manage our time carefully to ensure we achieve what is most important. There isn’t anything we can’t do and being mindful of those around us and managing our time will help us succeed.

Today if you’ve only been focused on the goal you want to achieve and zoned everything else out, look around. If there is a need, offer your help. You can accomplish your goals and still be available to those around you. Learn to be giving and compassionate, and carry those attributes forward. Share your life with others and everything you desire will come to you. Be a gift to the world. You have the power to change everything.

Who We Are

5 Oct

When people ask who we are we may give them descriptions of our lives. We are siblings, children, parents, grandparents, friends, co-workers, professionals, laborers and dozens of others. All of these representations help people understand us and our place in life but they don’t really define who we are. They are merely what circumstances we were born into or where we are in our lives. Who we are goes far deeper than any outward descriptor. It’s what defines us morally, ethically, spiritually, and individually, and is reflected by the actions we take. Our true selves are defined by the choices we make and the values we express. It has little to do with what others expect and more to do with what we expect from ourselves. We set our own personal standards and how we define what is noble and good is reflected in the people we become. We can bring goodness and light to the world or we can bring trouble and conflict. We can be anything we choose and everything we do will show the world what those decisions are. There are endless opportunities in life to make an impact. What that impact looks like is our decision. We can bring joy or sorrow. It’s all up to us.

Most people try to do well and be kind to those around them. We see incredible acts of goodness when trouble strikes as people step up to assist and carry those around them. We hear of heroic acts that save lives and incredible sacrifice that brings comfort. When others give selflessly to those around them it embellishes us and gives us hope for the future. Those willing to give bring great blessings to us all. Our connections to the human race are strong and more valuable than we may realize until things go wrong. We can choose to be noble and kind. We can be a light when there is nothing but darkness and the hand that reaches up when things go wrong.

Personal nobility is a choice we make. It’s easy to coast through life doing the minimum needed to get by. We can keep our eyes only on ourselves and our personal needs and refuse to get involved in anything outside our private world. If we do, we may feel safer in our routines and secure knowing what to expect. But if we take the chance to reach out and help others, and risk our personal comfort to extend ourselves in service, our lives will be enriched and we will become more connected to those around us. We can be anything we choose. Choosing to be noble and kind, selfless and loving, and helpful and charitable, will bring us incredible blessings and enrich our lives beyond our imagining. We have so much to offer. We can be the very best versions of ourselves and bless the world.

Today if you’ve been keeping to yourself, think about sharing your life with others. Look up. There are opportunities to help and serve all around you. Reach out and expand your focus. There is greatness and nobility inside you. Build on it and let it grow. You have so much to offer. Be the best you can be and you’ll change the world.