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Backhanded

13 Jan

We interact with a lot of people as we go through our lives. We build relationships, work along side them, and make connections through our shared experiences. Many people are sincere and open in their comments and conversations and we appreciate spending time with them. But there are others who don’t always say exactly what they mean, and instead use innuendo and make backhanded comments that leave us unsure as to what they mean or how they feel. If they are flippant or sarcastic, we might wonder if we’ve done something wrong, or if they don’t trust us for some reason. If we don’t speak clearly and state what we want, there will inevitably be confusion, and the road ahead will get cloudy. If we’re concerned about how our comments will make us look or feel superior to those around us, we may use double talk and insinuation instead of stating the facts. That way we can skirt around the issue if things get dicey. It’s disconcerting to be involved in a situation with someone who doesn’t speak openly and honestly, and instead talks around the issue instead of confronting it head on. We don’t know where we stand and may have no idea how to proceed. Everyone knows exactly how they feel in every situation, and we all have enough courage to say what we mean to clarify what’s happening. By being completely clear in our feelings and objectives, we can pave the way to our goals and find resolution to any problem. We are intelligent and have all the wisdom and courage we need to stand firm in our position and express ourselves confidently and openly. Every single destination is possible, and with focus and determination we will reach them all.

No two people are exactly alike. We all have our own preferences and ideas about how things should be done. When we’re working with others, we may differ and have diametrically opposed views about how to proceed. We can stand firm in our opinion and look for compromise, or we can cave and let others take over. What we do is up to us, but letting others drive the train will never take us where we want to go. Our desires are important and valuable. We can say what we want and move forward toward the goal.

When there is disagreement, if we don’t feel confident enough to stand up to opposition, but really want our viewpoint to prevail, we may choose to use coercion and manipulation to advance our cause. We can do anything we like, but the seeds we plant will determine what comes next. Being dishonest and manipulative may work in the beginning, but we may pay more in the end than we bargained for. By being completely clear, and saying exactly what we mean, the doors ahead will open, and we’ll reach success.

Today if you’re in a situation where you feel unsure you can prevail, be confident and state your views clearly. You are valuable and worthwhile. Tell us what you think and be courageous. You are amazing and your input is important. Step up and every door will open. All your dreams are there for you, and nothing can keep you from making them yours.

Being Heard

7 Jan

When we think of people in groups, and assign them to a category, it’s easy to forget that the group or category designation isn’t who they are. Each person is an individual with something to offer, and each is valuable. We all deserve to be heard and treated with respect. If we are ignored, criticized because we are different, and disregarded, we may endure it for a time, but eventually the need to be heard may push us to a breaking point. We may shout to make others listen, or storm the castle to make our leaders remember we are there. Everyone has a tipping point. Treating those who are different with distain, calling them names, disparaging their opinions, or saying they don’t matter, is a recipe for eventual disaster. Nobody is better than anyone else. There is not one perfect way to live life. We are not all the same, and will never agree on everything, but each of us is precious and unique, and brings something of value to the world. Our differences are sometimes difficult to understand but that does not mean we cannot co-exist respectfully and peacefully. We are responsible for what happens after we use vindictive and hateful speech about those with whom we disagree. Every decision has a result and everything we do defines who we are. No idea or ideology is worth the destruction of others. We are all connected more than we realize. By thinking before we act and understanding and accepting differences, we can make the world better and bring peace. We are more powerful than we think we are and can make excellent decisions. By choosing wisely, and being open to every idea, our lives will be enhanced, and we will find greater satisfaction and happiness.

Some people are very sure of themselves and believe their ideas are the only ones worth having. They are confident they have all the answers and if someone disagrees, may strongly criticize them and do whatever they can to make them comply. We are in control of our own lives and may live them any way we like. We don’t have to follow anyone else’s ideas or obey. Our differences are what bring interest and depth to the world. Honoring everyone’s ideas and allowing free expression without judgment enriches our experiences and opens our minds to other possibilities.

We all have the right to choose anything we like, but we don’t have control over anyone else. We will never have all the answers or inspiration over anyone else’s life. It’s good to be confident in our decisions but that doesn’t make us ruler over the decisions of others. Everyone is valuable and worthwhile and has something to offer. By respecting the rights of others to make their own choices and honoring the gifts they offer, we bring light to everyone around us, and richness to the world.

Today if you’ve been critical of those who are different, and want them to comply with your beliefs, remember every idea has value. We all have personal inspiration unique to each of us. Listen to others and be open to new ideas. You are a great gift to the world and have so much to offer. Be confident and be wise, and the road ahead will open and take you to success.

Cheater

5 Jan

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Each choice, bad or good, will clearly define who we are and what we want. Lots of people say they are honest, and many people are. But the idea of real honesty may differ from person to person. For some, it’s clearly defined – do what is right according to our standards and the culture around us, and never waiver. Others see it more fluidly. If they mostly do what’s right and only bend the rules and cheat when they absolutely feel they must in order to win, they are honest enough. Maybe they’ll pay their bills on time but add an hour or two to their timesheets to make ends meet. Or they’re honest in the small things like making sure they don’t accept too much change at the store but will do whatever is needed to make sure they get that promotion at work – even if it means breaking the rules. Desperation may make us so determined to win, we may choose to cheat, lie or whatever else we think will get us there. Cheating does work. It will give us an edge and push us over those around us, but winning by cheating isn’t winning at all, and the advantage is counterfeit and fake. It will look like a win to those around us, but we’ll know we took it dishonestly. The stain of hypocrisy will be permanent, and like a bad tattoo, impossible to remove. Cheating is a characteristic of weakness, and the cost to our integrity will be intense. Once we step over that line and lie to get ahead, it’s hard to step back. We will never be the same and the possibility of doing it again will be easier. If we continue, the road of deceit will be etched in our minds and we may forget what it was like to be completely honest and true. Every decision we make tells the world who we are. Nothing is more important than our self-worth and by choosing wisely, we will pave the road ahead to success.

When we want something intensely, we may decide on shady and dishonest options to help us open the doors ahead. Some things may be very important to us, but there will never be anything so important it’s worth the cost of sacrificing our integrity. Others may be fooled the first time we cheat, but once we are exposed and the truth is clear, we may lose their trust indefinitely. Like breaking glass, we may try to glue the pieces back together, but it will never be whole again.

When we tell people about ourselves, we may say anything we like. If we want to impress them, we may embellish what we’ve done and who we are. But in the end, we are what we do, not what we say. Our actions define us in every sense. The world decides who we are by the choices we make not the beautiful words we use. Every choice determines our standards and what we value. When we choose honestly and valiantly, we bring great success and satisfaction to our lives.

Today if you’re desperate to get to a goal and are considering lying or cheating to reach it, think about your personal worth. You are valuable and worth more than you imagine. Show us how valiant and honest you are by the excellent decisions you make. You have the power to bring greatness and light to us all. Be the best you can be, and the whole world will be blessed.

Nothing Bigger

23 Dec

Life is full of possibilities. There are endless roads to travel and unlimited things to accomplish. We can do anything we desire and reach any destination we like. The world is a big place filled with unlimited options. When we think about everything possible, we might think we want something bigger than ourselves. It’s good to reach for something beyond our grasp, but it’s impossible to find anything bigger than ourselves. We are the number one focus of our lives. If we don’t attend to our personal needs and desires, it will be nearly impossible to succeed at anything else. Our personal safety and health must take priority if we intend to reach our goals. Ignoring what we need to thrive will rob us of the vibrance we need to succeed. There are a lot of demands on us much of the time and it’s easy to put off our own needs while we tend to others. If we aren’t careful, we may find all our time is taken in service and assignments. Sacrificing our time to help and serve those around us is noble, but if we give everything away and keep nothing for ourselves, we will ultimately fail. Success comes when we find the balance between giving and taking. It’s not selfish to take excellent care of ourselves – it’s wise. When we make sure our personal needs are met, getting enough sleep, eating well, and getting the exercise we need to be strong, the road ahead is easy. If we suffer neglect, we won’t have the energy or strength to give our very best. Time for ourselves must be a priority if we want to reach our goals and do everything we desire. There is nothing bigger or more important. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent decisions. By valuing our personal best and doing what is needed to ensure we can offer it, we will reach success in every endeavor. Every goal is possible, and with wisdom and clarity, we will reach them.

We live in a time of information overload. We are constantly bombarded with directions and advice about how to live, what to do, and where to go. There is no end to the suggestions we may receive, and we must filter it to fit into our own needs and desires. Our goal is never to do everything everyone else thinks we should do, but to do the one thing we want most to accomplish. It doesn’t have to match anyone else’s ideas. We can choose our own road ahead and move toward success.

Preparation is the key to any successful venture. If we want to be strong and vibrant, we must do what is needed to get there. Desiring success will not magically make it happen. We must first define what we want, then move forward with confidence. Strength comes from struggle and hard work. We are more powerful than we realize and can accomplish anything we desire. By preparing carefully, and moving forward with determination and clarity, we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been sacrificing your own needs for work or service, remember you are the most important person in your life. By caring for yourself you will more effectively move ahead and reach greater heights of success. Be mindful and prepare. Every success is there for you, and with focus and wisdom, you will make them yours.

Worth

22 Dec

The world is a big place with billions of people. Customs and cultures are different and what we value changes depending on circumstances and where we are. Some things are worth more in one area than another. If we live in a snow-covered wasteland, fresh fruits and vegetables are highly valued and desired. However, if we live in the topics where the temperatures are always intense and food grows virtually on its own, ice is treasured. Worth is used to indicate value, and there are endless examples of placing value on things, but what about us? Does our value change depending on where we live or what we do? Are we worth less if we live a simple life than if we we’re rich and famous? Does it depend on how many friends we have or what we’ve accomplished? We are the only person exactly like us in all of creation, since the beginning of time and until the end. We are rarer than the rarest diamond, more precious than the finest gold, and worth more than anything in the whole world. Our worth is limitless and infinite. Nobody can replace us, and without our presence everything would be different. Even the meekest among us possesses inestimable worth. Knowing that, we can have great confidence that we are important and necessary. We don’t have to prove our worth to anyone. We are valuable simply because we are here. Everything we do embellishes our lives and the lives around us in some way. Each action enriches us and teaches us something new, and we can step forward with confidence and surety. Our influence brings depth and variety to the world around us and deepens the experiences of others. We can trust in our own personal worth, and step forward toward any destination, confident we will prevail and reach the goal.

Some people have very high opinions of themselves, and think they have the answers for everyone around them. They may tell us what they think we should do, where we should go, how we should dress, and a thousand other suggestions. We can always listen to any advice we’re given, but nobody is more aware of our desires or needs than we are. We are perfectly capable of designing our own lives in accordance with our own choices. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire, and with focus and determination we can do anything.

We may be in a relationship where someone belittles us and tells us we are nothing. They point out our flaws and exaggerate their power over us. Nobody is perfect and we all have things we want to change or modify. That doesn’t mean we are defective in some way – it only means we’re human. We’re all important and nobody is worth more than anyone else. If someone else doesn’t believe that, that’s their loss. We are valuable and perfect, just as we are, and nothing can diminish our worth.

Today if you feel small and insignificant, remember you are unique and a gift to the world. You are amazing and valuable, and we are all blessed because you are here. Let your light shine and step forward with confidence. Every single dream is there for you and you will make them yours.