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Stepping Away

15 Dec

There are many people and influences in our lives.  They come and go every day and as we interact they influence us in some way.  Sometimes that influence is subtle and barely noticeable, and other times we are intensely impacted by what we hear and see.  If the influence is strong we may find ourselves being drawn to a different point of view and perspective, and stepping away from what is important to us.  There is nothing wrong with learning about others and trying out different ideas but if those experiences pull us away from our core values and the things that matter most to us, we may find ourselves in situations that take us far from where we really want to be.  We may begin to change in ways that align us more directly with someone else’s view and take us away from our own.  The world has its own ideas about what is right and wrong, what is good and bad, and how we should behave.  We are the only ones who can decide what is best for us.  Being careful of influence and remembering what is most important will help us stay true to the path that will bring us complete happiness.  We don’t need to assimilate to find our way forward.  We can do what is best for us to achieve the lives we want the most.  Real happiness comes when we are true to ourselves and who we really are.  There is nothing more satisfying than living an authentic life.  We know what we want and nothing is powerful enough to keep us from it.

Cultures change over time.  What was forbidden and discouraged in times past may now be acceptable and routine.  Although times change and the concept of what is acceptable modifies as we move forward, we are in control of the decisions we make.  If we go along with every passing idea, as the winds of change blow over us we will have nothing to hold onto.  Holding fast to our beliefs, even if they are very different from those around us, will bring us clear direction going forward and confidence as we travel.

We can change our minds about anything at any time.  All the roads ahead are open to us and we may choose any way forward we like.  If we are making our own decisions, no matter what happens, we will be in control.  If we allow the influence of others to unduly control our choices, we may end up on roads to destinations we never wanted to achieve.  Nobody can read the future and the end of the road is not visible at the beginning.  We have everything we need to make excellent choices and if we set the influence of others aside, and determine what is best for our unique plan going forward, those choices will take us where we want to go.

Today if you’ve allowed the influence of the world around you to color your decisions and find you are in the wrong place, redirect your way forward and correct your course.  There is no destination out of reach.  Look ahead and wisely determine your next step.  You will find great success and happiness as you move forward and every door will open for you.

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Hope

12 Dec

We have a lot of different relationships and connections in our lives. They may be casual acquaintances we speak to once in a while and see only in passing, or very close and intimate. We value our close relationships and they may have deep impact on our lives. When we love someone and they make decisions that bring them unhappiness or negatively affect our relationship with them, we may hope they will change. We might talk to them about the situation and sincerely ask them to listen to our concerns. Sometimes they will and things improve, but other times we may hope in vain. It’s crushing to be in love with someone who says they love us in return but will not commit. It’s devastating to watch someone close addicted to substances that are hurting them but cannot stop. And it may be overwhelming to see someone we love make the same bad mistakes again and again, and suffer miserably. Although we may hope and pray for the changes needed to stop the suffering, the decisions of others belong to them alone. There is no way to control their choices even if they are destructive. We must evaluate the situation and determine what is best going forward. Sometimes we may stay in the relationship continuing to hope things will improve. Other times it may be important for us to go another way. We can never change anyone but ourselves. If we are in a relationship that is hurting us because of choices being made out of our control, we may choose another way forward.

We are responsible for our own happiness and there may be times when we must end a relationship in order to stay on the road that’s best for us. There is no way to carry anyone’s life but our own, and we may need to alter our course as we continue forward. They say hope springs eternal and in some ways, it does. We can always continue to hope someone will change and find success, but hope is not reality. It is only desire. Reality is what we’re living now. How we manage it will determine how happy we are. We can be loving and supportive without being part of a destructive game. We can allow others to make whatever choices they choose, and continue forward our own way.

We may be pressured to stay in a dysfunctional situation with the hope that if we do, it will improve. That might happen, but change is something that must come from within. If those we are hoping for do not want it, everything will remain the same. Staying in a damaging situation that does not change will hold us in place and prevent us from finding our own success. We can’t change anyone else no matter how much we desire or hope for it. Keeping our eyes focused clearly on what is real and what we want will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been hoping someone close to you would change to be happier or healthier, remember the change you seek cannot come from you. Be loving and kind, and supportive and caring, and continue forward. Your life is the only one you can control. Continue moving toward your goals and find success. Everything is there for you and you will reach it.

What it Takes

4 Dec

When we really want to change something about ourselves we have be willing to do what is necessary to make it a reality.  Some believe people don’t ever change and many times that’s true.  It’s certainly easier to coast through our lives and do nothing to better ourselves than it is to strive for excellence.  We can have any kind of lives we desire.  If we’re content being who we are and keeping things the same, we may.  But if we want to see how far we can go and really push ourselves toward excellence we must pay attention and purposely go forward with intent.  It takes time and vigilance to make a change that becomes part of who we are.  We can dream about being different and hope that somehow something will happen to simply create the changes we desire.  Wishing and dreaming will never bring us what we want but if we don’t put forth any effort, that’s as far as we’ll go.  There is nothing we can’t achieve if we want it badly enough.  There is no change too difficult or impossible to reach.  If we are determined to turn something in our lives, and we are intent on making the change a reality, we will succeed.  It won’t happen overnight and it may not be easy but we have everything we need to get to the goal.  True happiness comes when we achieve the life we want the most.  Deciding what that means and doing what is needed to make it happen will bring us great satisfaction and contentment.

It’s comfortable to be around situations with which we are already familiar.  We know what to expect, we may know all the players involved, and we feel confident we can manage whatever develops.  It’s nice to be comfortable and we can do the same things every day if that’s as far as we want to go.  But life is full of possibilities and no matter where we are today if we want something different we can get it.  There are endless new experiences available to us and nothing can stop us from having them.  There is so much to be found if we’re willing to step off our regular path and try something new.  We can open any doors we desire and go to new destinations.  The world is there for us and if we want to move, nothing can keep us in place.

There will always be some risk when we want to change something.  We can’t see the future and the road ahead is unknown.  Things may go exactly as we think they will or we may face completely unexpected developments.  It doesn’t matter what we face, we have everything we need to figure out any situation that comes to us.  We are smarter and braver than we think we are and nothing will stop us from succeeding.  We can embrace any change we desire and do what is needed to make it ours.  The world belongs to us and there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something different but are unsure, be confident and take the first step toward the goal.  You have everything you need to do anything you want.  Every dream is possible and nothing will keep you from success.  You are powerful and strong, and nothing is out of reach.  Step forward and make all your dreams come true.

On Hold

29 Nov

In our busy lives it’s sometimes hard to fit everything in we want to get done. We can manage our time well but sometimes we may need to set something aside and put it on hold. We may need to postpone meetings with others or wait to do something we’ve been planning, and we are flexible enough to manage adjustments when we must. But if we get into a situation where we continually set someone or something aside and there is no plan to actually engage them and take care of matters, we may create problems going forward. Most situations can wait for a while but if we hold them in suspense indefinitely they will likely suffer. Relationships put on hold will eventually break down through neglect and if we don’t make them a priority we may lose more than we’re comfortable with. Being on hold doesn’t freeze time. Things continue to change. If we wait too long to return to those we’ve set aside we may find ourselves alone. We can always find time for the things that are most important to us. Leaving someone out in the cold while we do other things indicates where our priorities truly lie. We always do what we want to do most and what we decide to do indicates who we are. It takes effort and attention to build close relationships. Paying attention to those who mean the most and taking the time to follow through to show we care will create strong bonds and lasting connections. Our lives are what we make them. When we value what is most important we will find comfort and happiness.

People say a lot of things. They may tell us what they are going to do, what they want to happen, and that they care for us. Words are important in communicating how we feel but without action to back up our statements they mean nothing. If someone says they love us but never have time for us it will be difficult to believe. If they constantly put us off, postpone meetings again and again, and don’t respond when we need them, all the professions of love will be meaningless. They old saying that actions speak louder than words is accurate. We are what we do, not what we say.

Sometimes we have good intentions and want to be there but desire is only the first step in any endeavor. We can identify what we want and if we are sincere we must then move forward in ways that bring it to us. Putting it off until later will not get us closer to the goal. Nothing robs success as effectively as procrastination. Planning to do something later is planning to do nothing now. If we want strong connections to those around us and real success we must actively pursue our goal and do what is needed to bring it to pass. We can do anything we don’t put on hold. Every happiness is there and actively pursuing it will make it ours.

Today if you’ve been putting others off thinking you’ll get to them later, remember later never arrives. You only have now to do what is important. Determine what you want most and go forward caring for the things you treasure most in your life. Remember who is important and keep them close. You have everything you need to be completely happy. Be open, be available, and show the love you have for those around you. Their love in return will bring you limitless happiness and constant joy.

Taking It

28 Nov

Everyone has dreams they want to pursue. We decide what we want from life and can move forward toward any desired destination. If the goal is outside our normal scope and will require a lot to accomplish, those around us may discourage us from going after it. They may want to protect us from disappointment if they don’t believe we will succeed, they may think we’re crazy to try to achieve something new, or they may be jealous we have the temerity to try. Although their opinions belong to them, if they are negative and they share them with us, we may begin to doubt our ability to move forward. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions. We can do anything we like but we have to be strong enough to step ahead even if everyone else disagrees. We have to be able to take it and still be confident we can win. We can always let go of what we really want and go the way that fits the ideas others have for us. It doesn’t take any energy to go along. But letting go of our dreams and allowing someone else’s vision of our lives to take over will never bring us happiness. Others may disagree with us, but that need not have bearing on our choices. We know ourselves better than anyone else and we know what we want and where we want to go. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us in place if we are determined to move forward. Every single dream is within our reach. Every single goal is attainable. Our lives belong to us and we may live them any way we choose. We deserve complete happiness and doing what we want the most will bring it.

It takes courage to change our lives. We may have to step out of our norm and do things differently in order to move ahead. Our routines are comfortable and we may continue them for as long as we like. But if we want something new, we must modify them to accommodate the change we desire. We are capable of trying unlimited new things. We can change direction, reach higher, step on a new path, and do anything we want. If we are willing to do what is needed we can accomplish anything. We are smart enough and brave enough to succeed.

Expecting our lives to simply bring us the dreams we imagine is a fool’s game. Wonderful things will come to us by chance but the desires of our hearts will require work. There are few things worth having that are achieved without effort. We can make all our dreams come true if we do what is necessary to make them possible. Every dream can become reality. Deciding what we want most and then planning our way forward to reach the goal will bring us satisfaction and happiness. There is nothing out of reach and no goal too high or too far for us achieve. We can focus on what we want and live in ways that bring success.

Today if you’ve been wishing for a change you desire, start doing what is needed to make things happen. You’re in control of your life and can do anything. There isn’t a dream too big or too difficult for you to reach. Step up and step forward. Everything is there for you. Reach out and make your dreams come true. Make your life exactly the way you want it and you’ll find happiness.

Accomplished

6 Nov

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives.  Some of them share common traits with us and others are very different.  We all define success in unique ways and accomplish many different things as we navigate forward.  Sometimes if we meet new people who have achieved great and impressive goals we may feel our lives are small in comparison.  We may look at ourselves compared to them and believe we haven’t done enough or our contributions are in some way less valuable.  None of us will have identical experiences and we all move in different ways on the roads we have chosen.  When we see the success others have achieved we may think our successes aren’t as important or are somehow beneath them.  It’s easy to believe we haven’t done enough when we compare ourselves to others we admire but every achievement no matter how small has value.  Every single step we take forward is an important success.  If we’re on the road we want to be on and headed in the direction we want to go we are successful.  The world’s ideas of success mean nothing.  We define our personal success by the standards we set for ourselves.  Maybe we haven’t published a book, run a marathon, or built a corporation.  But if what we’ve done has brought us satisfaction and happiness, we are successful.  Nothing can compare to the joy we find when we accomplish something we truly desire, no matter if others notice or not.  We are defined by our own standards.  Our lives are valuable and important and our contributions count.  Everything we do makes an impact and we are an integral part of the world around us.

Fame and fortune are big and spectacular.  We see it splashed across headlines, the covers of magazines and those who enjoy it get a lot of attention.  If we get caught up in what others think we should achieve and aren’t on those roads, we may believe we are failures.  If we haven’t earned a lot of money, or done anything sensational and noteworthy to those around us, we might think our lives are inconsequential and meaningless.  But every life has value.  Every one of us plays a role in the history of the world.  Every decision we make brings a result that affects the situation around us.  We fill an emptiness the world would experience without us.

We define our lives and design them in ways that bring us happiness and satisfaction.  What we value may not be what others find important.  Our goals are unique to what we want to accomplish.  We need not define our personal success by the parameters the world sets.  Our happiness is achieved when we do what is most important to us and takes us where we want to go.  The world belongs to us and we may define it according to our unique standards and desires.

Today if you’ve been comparing yourself to the successes of those around you and feel you haven’t accomplished enough, remember your life is yours to define.  You decide what your personal success looks like.  You are important and the world needs your influence.  Be yourself and be confident.  You have so much to offer and we’re all lucky you’re here.

Spreading it Around

1 Nov

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan and sometimes we end up in places we never wanted to go.  There may be problems, obstacles, complications, unforeseen situations and a thousand other things that go wrong.  When we’re in a difficult situation and unhappy, as we struggle with what has happened and try to figure out where to go next we may be quite unhappy.  We may share our discomfort and unhappiness with others around us.  We might gripe, complain, find fault or other expressions of our misery.  It may feel good to share our trouble with others but bringing them down because we feel bad will never help us find the way out.  There are no answers to be found in spreading misery around.  They say misery loves company and in some ways that’s true.  It can feel better to know everyone else is suffering right along with us but there is a quicker way to find peace.  If we set our problems aside for a moment and focus on what is going right in our lives we can regroup and see the issues we’re facing more objectively.  There will unlikely be a time in our lives when everything is going wrong.  Most often when we’re navigating difficulty in one area of our lives, we are succeeding at something else at the same time.  If we can step back and see everything clearly, and acknowledge what we are doing well in the midst of duress, our way forward will be clearer.  We are capable of managing anything that comes to us.  We can accept challenges and find solutions.  There isn’t anything we can’t overcome.  Every success will come to us and we can face trouble confidently and peacefully.

Some people aren’t happy and complain constantly.  If the weather is beautiful, they complain because there is no rain.  If they succeed in a project they’ve been working on, they complain because it took longer than they planned.  If they win a race, they complain because they are sore.  If we look for something to complain about we will always find it.  But along with all the things that go wrong, there are many things that go well.  Instead of looking for what failed, we will be happier if we look at what worked.  Lots of things go right for us.  Recognizing them and embracing them will bring us peace and a happier perception of our lives.

If we’ve suffered through several disappointments one after the other, we may begin to believe we are somehow cursed.  We might think no matter what we do we will never win.  Repeated disappointments are difficult and it can be hard to stay positive when things go wrong again and again.  But if we focus on the big picture and look back at how far we’ve come already instead of only looking forward to how far we have yet to go, we will find comfort.  We have the potential for great success but we must continue forward in order to reach it.  We are wise and capable, and can do anything we desire.  We can be confident and strong going forward and we will reach every destination.

Today if you’re facing a big disappointment and you feel unhappy and unsuccessful, stop and look back at the road behind you.  You’ve already accomplished so much.  You can do anything.  Be confident.  You will reach success no matter what stands in the way.  The world belongs to you and you will reach every destination you desire.