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Fabricating Happiness

3 Jul

We interact with many different types of people on a daily basis. We connect with them as we move through our lives and build relationships with those we enjoy, those we love, and those on whom we rely. Many times, those connections bring great pleasure and security to our lives but sometimes we may build a relationship with someone who makes choices that bring us disharmony and confusion. If we want strong and healthy relationships there must be complete honesty in our interactions. But some people aren’t consistently honest and bend the truth to suit their needs. It’s not pleasant to confront a lie and we may choose to give them the benefit of the doubt despite their choices. It’s difficult to be in a relationship with someone who lies or pretends that things are different than they really are. Truth is truth and the only way to live successfully is to face it openly and completely. Wanting to believe in a lie will never make it the truth. Looking the other way in the face of dishonesty will never bring us happiness. Everyone makes their own decisions and we are all accountable for every choice. We can choose to be honest in all our dealings and build strong relationships based on real trust. We never have to go along with a lie. We can live straight and true to the values we honor and choose the right at every turn. When we do we will find happiness and peace going forward.

Few things in life are constant. Things change continually and just when we’re sure we know what will happen next, something turns us around and everything is different. Our situations are constantly in flux and if we want to reach success we must be clear and honest about our intentions and desires. We can’t control what may happen but we are always in control of our decisions. If we are honest and up front in our interactions we will more effectively find the path we need to travel and reach the goals we desire.

Honesty doesn’t come on a sliding scale. There is no such thing as being somewhat honest, or honest most of the time. We either are honest is our dealings or we aren’t. If we bend the truth, color the facts to get what we want, or pretend that things are different than they are, we are lying to ourselves and those around us. Lies may bring us immediate gratification but they will never bring us lasting happiness or success. We can face our lives as they are even if they aren’t where we want them to be. Change is always possible and if we aren’t happy we can truthfully and honestly do what is needed to modify our course to reach the happiness we desire. Our lives are our responsibility and our choices make us who we are. We can choose well and find great contentment and success.

Today if you’re dealing with someone who isn’t honest with you, look at the situation openly and completely. Let the facts show you the truth and decide how you want to proceed. What you choose tells the world who you are. Show us your best and lead the way to success.

 

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Pernicious Anger

25 Jun

Pernicious – Causing insidious harm or ruin; ruinous; injurious; or hurtful.

There are ups and downs in all our lives.  Things go right, they go wrong, disappointments happen, people let us down and there are endless other outcomes.  Anger is a normal part of life.  If someone does something that affects us negatively or our experience is far from what we want or expect we may get angry.  There is nothing wrong with feeling anger but how we express it can affect what happens next.  If we lash out at others and say or do things that are beyond what the relationship can bear, we may damage it beyond repair or lose it altogether.  Pernicious anger may ruin our connections going forward.  We are always in control of our lives and if we allow angry emotions to determine how we act we may end up somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we feel ourselves getting carried away in a wave of disappointment or anger, instead of acting out we can step back and allow ourselves to calm down before we react.  The fight or flight reflex is very strong and powerful but generally we neither need to fight nor run away to find resolution.  We can take a breath, stop and think and give ourselves a moment to see everything before we respond.  Learning to act on disappointment instead of react to it will help us find a positive outcome.  No problem is improved by adding intensity and anger to it.  We can control our actions and responses even in times of duress and navigate anger effectively.  There is always a possible positive outcome and if we take our time we’ll find it.

Self-control is a learned response.  Children express anger by crying, screaming or pouting but as we grow and mature if we want to be successful adults we must replace those instantaneous responses with something more thoughtful and successful.  There are few things more disagreeable than an adult who acts like a child.  We can learn the skills we need to be patient in disappointment and tolerant when things go wrong.  We are mature enough and wise enough to find the best way forward no matter the situation.

It’s impossible to listen to other perspectives if we’re concentrating on smashing the opposing point of view.  If we over react every time something goes wrong or someone disagrees with us we may end up burning bridges and ruining relationships.  We might win the current battle but lose the connection going forward.  We can align our priorities and address conflict in ways that protect our sincerest interests.  Maturity and wisdom come with practice and we can choose wisely in difficult times to help us become the people we most want to be and preserve the relationships we value.

Today if feel intensely angry over something, before you react take a moment to look at the situation objectively.  Determine what is most important before you move forward and then choose the path that will take you there.  You are wise and strong and what you want most is possible.  Every positive outcome is there for you and with patience and clarity you will find it.

Not the End

25 May

When things go wrong and all our plans go up in smoke, and the one thing we’ve wanted to accomplish has seemingly moved further away, we might feel like we’ve reached the end.  We may be tired from trying hard to move forward, disappointed because nothing has gone the way we hoped, and overwhelmed at the idea of starting again.  When everything stops and the goal we want is nowhere in sight it’s tempting to give up and walk away.  When we’re sure we’re done and have reached the end of the road, and we’ve decided enough is enough, we can stop.  We don’t have to keep trying to accomplish anything difficult if we don’t want to.  There are unlimited roads available and limitless chances possible.  We can change direction or continue to take another step forward and determine to stay the course until we reach success.  We have all the courage and wisdom we need to accomplish anything we desire.  We need only decide if the goal is worth the cost, and if it is, move forward.  All our dreams can come true but they will not simply be given to us because we desire them.  They will require work and diligence even when things fall apart and if we’re willing to do what it takes we will make them real.  We can do anything.  Nothing is too difficult for us achieve if we’re determined to win.  All options are possible and we can always find success.

When we’ve been working diligently toward a difficult goal it’s normal to tire.  Even if the goal means a lot to us fatigue may make us re-think our plans.  No battery runs forever and there is no way to push hard endlessly.  When we feel the wear and tear of the struggle, we can take a break and find refreshment.  It’s good to stop when we need a rest and put everything on hold while we recharge.  When we’re ready to begin again we can continue forward with renewed conviction and confidence.  Sometimes the only difference between success and failure is taking time off.  We can be wise and pay attention to where we are and choose what we need to ensure we reach our goals.

We are always changing and sometimes our ideas about our goals going forward change with us.  If we decide we no longer want to continue on any road we can always change direction.  There is nothing wrong with revising our plans.  Change doesn’t mean failure.  Our lives are ours to design and if we no longer want something we’ve been working toward, we can change our plans and redirect the way forward.  We don’t know what we don’t know and sometimes we must get closer to a goal to see it clearly.  We can do anything we want and go anywhere we desire.  By taking the time we need to decide what’s next we can have the lives we dream about and make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve reached an impasse pushing toward a goal you’ve been seeking, decide how you want to proceed.  You’re in charge of your life and can go anywhere you choose.  Take a moment to think about what you really want and then move forward closer to your destination.  You are amazing and strong, and can do anything you desire.  Every dream can come true and you will find your way forward.

Finding Balance

22 May

Life is busy and there are always a lot of things going on. No matter what we’re facing we can center ourselves and stand strong. The middle of anything must be stable in order to find balance. If it leans a little to one side or is weak, everything will fall over. We understand this when it comes to physical things we are trying to settle but the same is true within ourselves. When we’re in the midst of turmoil or stress, or a storm is raging around us, the only way to stand strong and straight is make sure we’re centered and focused on the way ahead. Distractions will always be a factor and if we look away and drop our focus we may falter and lose our balance. If we’re off kilter and leaning far in any direction but forward we may fall and take ourselves far from where we want to go. Learning to balance the many things we deal with every day takes practice. We must prioritize what is most important and find a way to accomplish them to keep us moving forward. There isn’t any destination we can’t reach and planning and concentrating on the goal will ensure we get there. No road is paved in gold and there will always be complications and unforeseen developments that tangle us up and muddy the way forward. They may push against us and require our time and effort to resolve but they need not knock us off course. We are capable of managing anything that comes and still continuing toward the goal. We can strengthen our resolve, settle our concerns and regain our balance. Every goal is possible and nothing is complex enough to keep us from success. We can stand strong even when the winds are heavy and push forward with confidence.

When we’re in a difficult situation and there are a lot of things going on we may feel we’re being pelted by an unlimited number of issues and begin to lose our balance. It can be hard to find the road ahead when all we can see is confusion and complication. There is no way to solve many problems at once but by standing firm we can solve one at a time until the situation is manageable. There isn’t anything too hard for us to unravel and we will always find the answers we need. We can be confident that we’ll find the way through and reach success.

Life teaches us something new with everything we experience. We carry those lessons forward with us to help us navigate new situations and challenges. We can rely on our personal strength and confidence to anchor us and help us when things become difficult and the winds start to blow. We’ve overcome many difficulties already and have all the wisdom we need to move forward and reach any goal we desire. We know who we are and what we want. Nothing can keep us from any destination we choose. We are powerful and wise and will always prevail.

Today if you’ve lost your balance because of what’s going on around you, remember how powerful and strong you are. Stand straight and step ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t understand and overcome. You are wise and courageous and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. All options are available and nothing is too far away. Every success is possible and you have everything you need to win.

Walking Away

17 May

There are times in everyone’s life when what we want to happen simply won’t come. We may try and try and try again to move forward but the result we’re seeking is out of our hands and no matter what we do we can’t achieve it. At some point we must decide if we want to continue pressing ahead or turn and walk away. They say hope springs eternal. We can hope for anything but hope is only the expectation that what we want to happen will come, and sometimes our expectations aren’t met. We can work toward any goal we desire for as long as we choose but if nothing we do moves us closer to it we may need to rethink the way forward. There is nothing wrong with changing our plans and walking away from something that doesn’t work. There is much to accomplish and spinning our wheels and staying in place isn’t helpful. Setting a goal aside doesn’t mean we have to give it up completely. What we can’t achieve today may come easily in the future when our lives have changed and we’re in a different place. We can look at a difficult situation objectively and choose the way forward that will bring us success. Life is filled with endless opportunities and we are capable of achieving many things as we move forward. Being wise about how we spend out time and choosing the most productive roads will open all the doors we’re seeking. Life is long and we can revisit anything we’ve set aside and try again. Everything we want to do is possible in time. We can choose what works today and plan for new destinations tomorrow.

Our personal relationships may be very important to us. There may be someone we want to get closer to but no matter what we do they remain elusive and out of reach. We may try to pursue them indefinitely but our time is valuable and if things aren’t improving we can move on to something else. We never have to stay stuck in a holding pattern waiting for something to change. We can step away and walk in a new direction. Our lives belong to us and what we do is our responsibility. We can be successful and accomplish many things, and we can direct our lives in ways that move us forward.

Patience is a beneficial attribute. It’s good to be able to wait and we can be patient with others when they need time. We can wait for as long as we like but if we want to succeed eventually the situation must improve. If it doesn’t, we can walk away for now and move on with our lives. It will never work for us to keep waiting for something that doesn’t change. There may be an opportunity in the future if we want to try again. We can move ahead and if things are different later we can revisit our previous plans.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to happen and nothing has changed, think about how you want to move forward. There are countless opportunities for you and you need not wait indefinitely for anything. Move forward and step on the next road. Your time is valuable and your life is precious. Seek the things that bring you happiness and move toward success. All options are possible. Open all the doors and step ahead. Every happiness is there and you will achieve it.

Aspersions

16 May

People have all kinds of ideas about everything.  We’re all different and the way we see the world may be completely different than those around us.  We interpret what we see and hear through our own personal filters.  Different ideas may work against us at times if what we say or do is interpreted to mean something entirely different than what we intend.  Aspersions may be unjustly cast on our character due to incorrect interpretations and may cause us great discomfort as we try to figure out what happened.  If someone says something about us that has no basis in fact or reality but is merely based on their translation of something we did, we may find ourselves trying to untangle a mess we didn’t create.  The truth will always rise in time but in the interim we may be twisted around defending ourselves even if we’ve done nothing wrong.  The world is filled with all kinds of people and we have no control over what they think or do.  They may cause us considerable grief because they mistakenly believe something untoward about us.  If that happens, we will have to work through the situation until we find resolution.  It’s frustrating to feel persecuted unjustly and it may complicate our lives until we find the way through.  Truth is truth and will always rise.  No matter what has happened we will find the answers and correct any situation necessary.  We can stand firm and confident that our personal integrity and excellence will shine through.  We will find the answers and reach resolution.

No matter how nice and friendly we are, not everybody will always be our friend.  There may be times we meet someone who doesn’t like us or with whom we find it difficult to interact.  Perhaps their temperament is unpredictable, or they are angry or judgmental.  We have no control over what others do but we can control our response to anything they bring.  We can be gracious and kind in the face of anger, and polite and calm if things get out of control.  We are always in control of ourselves and can choose the best road regardless of what is happening around us.

Some people are dishonest and unethical.  If we have high personal standards it may be difficult to interact with them.  If we must work with them and they do things that are not in keeping with our values we may be very uncomfortable.  We don’t ever have to compromise what is important to us.  We can express our personal views and walk away from any situation that isn’t in keeping with them.  Our lives are ours and we may hold fast to what is important to us.  Opinions vary but our standards are ours to keep.  We can live true to the values we cherish and stay focused on what we want the most.

Today if someone has said something about you that isn’t true, remember your actions express who you really are.  Words mean nothing when they don’t represent what is real.  Continue to hold fast to the values you cherish and be the best person you can be.  Set an example of honesty and truth to the world around you.  You are amazing and nothing can diminish you.  Be confident and strong.  You know who you are and nothing will hold you back from achieving every goal you desire.

Darkness

14 May

The world is a big place with millions of people making all kinds of decisions.  Many people are kind and loving, and make choices that bring goodness and charity.  However, there is wickedness all around us and sometimes those who seek it make decisions that create problems and danger for the rest of us.  Although there is plenty of light for us to trust and rely on, there is also an element of darkness just a step away.  As we navigate our lives sometimes our path is influenced by pressures around us and we may end up somewhere far away from where we want to be.  Those who wish to control or manipulate can be very cunning and convincing, and if we aren’t careful we may be fooled into following them.  When we allow others to control our lives or color our decisions we may choose things that impact us negatively.  We know what we want and have all the power we need to achieve anything we desire.  We can be wise in our decisions and choose the best way forward even in the midst of confusion.  If we take the time to see everything objectively before we decide we will find the road that will take us where we want to go.  Our lives belong to us and we are responsible for every decision we make.  If we take a wrong turn we can change direction and redirect our course going forward.  Nothing is permanent and even if we’ve gone far away from where we want to be we can find our way back.  We deserve every happiness and success.  Nothing is impossible and we can do anything we desire.

There are many influences around us all the time and if someone wants something from us and it compromises our standards they may try to convince us by telling us they’ll only ask us this once and never again.  If we care for them we may go along but if we step away from our core values one time it will be easier to do it again.  Once we open the door to options outside our ethical standards we may muddy the waters going forward and it may become harder and harder to find the road back to where we really want to be.

Some people lie to accomplish their objectives.  If we do, we may well reach the goal but the lies will follow us and until we’re ready to tell the complete truth will live dishonestly.  There is nothing positive to be gained by deceit or trickery.  It will only lead to more lies and more confusion.  Our lives may get so tangled up and turbulent it may be hard to find our way forward.  We can always stop and correct our course and choose another road.  We can turn toward truth and choose wisdom going forward.  When we do we will find comfort and clarity, and every option will be available to us.

Today if you’ve been tempted to do something that is not in keeping with your personal standards, remember who you are.  You are precious and valuable, and every choice you make expresses your worth.  Nothing is more important than your personal integrity.  Be wise and make excellent choices.  They will take you where you want to go and bring you increased success.  You are powerful and intelligent, and nothing is out of reach.  Choose wisely and every destination will be possible.