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New Roads

8 Apr

Nothing is permanent in life and change is constant. We go through many different passages and each day brings something new. As we develop and grow, our preferences and desires modify. What was important and captivating in the past may no longer interest us, and we may step forward onto something new. Opening new doors is exciting, but it also means we’re leaving where we were behind. We may change our jobs, our location, relationships, personal associations, or anything else in our lives at any time. If there is contention, it may be easier to walk away and not look back, but if we’re happy where we are but our focus has changed, and we want to go in a new direction, it may be painful to let go and move on. Nothing can stay the same forever, but that doesn’t always make the transition from one road to another easy. Even if we know we’re making the best choice for us, leaving what is familiar can be difficult. We all want to be comfortable but it’s impossible to experience something new by staying in the same place. The world is filled with opportunities and possibilities. There isn’t anything we can’t do if we’re willing to step away from where we are onto a new road. We have all the courage and wisdom to accomplish any goal and reach any destination, but if we want to move forward, we must be willing to let go of where we are. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. By trusting ourselves, deciding what we want the most, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we will gain great satisfaction and happiness. Everything is possible. Every dream can be ours. We can step forward with confidence and clarity and move toward the lives we desire. The whole world is there for us, and we will succeed.

Routines are comfortable. When we do basically the same things every day, we know what to expect and it’s easy to continue. We can keep the same jobs, live in the same place, and follow the same patterns we’re accustomed to for as long as we like. But if we yearn for more and want something new, we must be willing to step onto a new road. Foreign territory can be intimidating, but it’s only foreign until we make it ours. We know what we want, and by stretching beyond where we are, we can reach any goal we desire.

There are no guarantees in life, but some things are predictable. If we do the same things over and over again, nothing will change. Trying something new can be uncomfortable at first, and we may be unsure we can succeed. The first step may be tremulous, but each successful step forward will bring more confidence and determination. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we continue forward and keep our eyes on the goal. Every gift is possible, and we have everything we need to succeed.

Today if you want to try something new but are unsure, trust yourself. You are stronger and more powerful than you imagine. There is greatness in you, and you can accomplish anything. Step onto a new road and move toward the goal. Every single dream is possible, and you will make them yours.

Come What May

7 Apr

Our lives belong solely to us and we’re in control of everything we do.  There are endless roads to travel and unlimited destinations to reach.  Every goal is possible, but life is uncertain and unpredictable, and we never know what will happen next.  We don’t have any control over what others do, or what happens, but we are in charge of how we handle whatever comes and what we do.  We know what we want, and our decisions are ours to make.  There isn’t anything we can’t achieve if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours.  As we plan the way forward, we can choose the best roads ahead to reach the goals we most desire.  Those close to us may want us to be happy but they might not agree with the choices we’re making.  When we decide on the path that’s right for us, others may be disappointed or unhappy with what we’ve chosen.  We are responsible for our own happiness, and nobody else’s.  Some may say it’s important that we get agreement from family, friends, or associates before we proceed, but that isn’t necessary.  Every choice we make belongs to us and there is no need to get approval or permission to do the things we most want to do.  If our choices make others uncomfortable, that will be their issue to manage.  Life is filled with opportunity and every dream is possible.  Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves or knows what we want most to accomplish.  We can be confident in our choices and step forward toward the destinations we desire.  Some things will come easily, and others will try us, but come what may, we can succeed.  Each day is a blessing and as we move closer to our goals, we will feel great satisfaction and happiness.  Nothing can keep us from the destinations we want, and with focus and determination, we will reach them all.

Everyone has their own ideas about how life should go and what we should do.  We’re all entitled to our own opinions, but the opinions of others do not determine our actions.  We don’t have to swim downstream with everyone else if the goal we’re seeking is in the other direction.  We are certainly strong enough, and powerful enough, to do anything we like.  By trusting ourselves and setting our course for the goals we want the most, we can find great success and gratification.

Our families and those close to us may know us very well.  They may have ideas about what we want to do and how we should do it, and give us lots of suggestions and advice.  We can listen to everything they offer, and then do what’s best for us.  The destinations ahead are ours to choose, and we can accomplish any goal we desire.  Nothing can keep us from success and every dream is possible.

Today if someone is disagreeing with your plans, listen respectfully, and then step forward toward your goal.  You know what you want and where you want to go.  Trust yourself and be confident.  The whole world is there for you.  Move ahead and claim success.  You are amazing and capable, and nothing can keep you from it. 

Underneath

6 Apr

Every situation in our lives is different. We know who we are, but we may alter how we appear to the world when circumstances change. If we’re in a formal setting that is important and critical to something we’re trying to accomplish, our actions may be more guarded and restrained than if we’re at a ball game with friends. We may change our outward appearance depending on the circumstances around us as a way of fitting in or making things go more smoothly. It’s normal to adjust ourselves to fit the situation we’re in but adjusting what we’re doing or wearing doesn’t mean we must change who we are. We can be flexible and still be authentic. Some people aren’t as confident as others, and when situations change, they not only change their outward look, but their personalities as well, and may agree with things they don’t believe in. They may believe that going along with what others are doing will help move them forward, and it might for a time. But there is no way to fake it forever. Eventually who we really are will surface, and if we’ve been playing make believe, we may find ourselves in situations we don’t want that don’t fit. The world will do what it will do. People make choices and may encourage us to follow them, but our lives are ours to design, and we can be true to who we really are underneath all the trappings of work, success, expectations, or plans. We can trust ourselves to live honestly and without pretense or façade. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and we bring specific and unique gifts to those around us. By believing in our personal value, and confidently stepping forward, our individual gifts will light the world around us. We are a blessing to the world just as we are.

Lobsters are delicious to eat, but they look like giant bugs and can be quite off-putting at first glance. Their outside appearance isn’t appealing but underneath their hard-shell exterior is something delicious and delectable. While we aren’t lobsters, the same can be true regarding people. Someone may appear very differently on the outside than they truly are underneath. By being patient and open, we can be accepting, and see more than what’s on the surface.

It takes courage to reveal our innermost desires and thoughts to others. Our dreams and aspirations are deeply personal, and we may want to keep them to ourselves and protect them. We can be as private as we like, but great relationships are possible when we share our deepest feelings with someone else. By opening ourselves to those we care about, we can build strong bonds of trust that will enhance us. There is always a lot going on beneath the surface and sharing it with others will bring depth and richness to our lives.

Today if you’ve been doing things to fit in, remember how unique you are. You are a gift to the world and have gifts to offer nobody else possesses. There is greatness in you. Be confident. You are amazing and valuable. Trust yourself and show us who you are. Your light illuminates us all, and the whole world is blessed because you are here.

Valuable

1 Apr

There is value in everything in life. How much value we place on something depends on our paradigms of what things are worth, their rarity, and how much they influence our lives. Simply because something costs a lot of money, doesn’t determine its value in our personal lives. If we don’t like diamonds, the most precious and rare specimen may mean little to us. However, if we love sports, the championship game may carry great worth and bring us intense pleasure. It’s all a matter of perspective. No matter what happens in the world or how much societies change, nothing can ever replace us. The world is filled with messages about how we should be. There is the constant suggestion that in order to count we must have wealth, and possessions, and be noticed and talked about, but none of that really matters. We are unique and specific, and there never has been, nor will there ever be anyone else exactly like us. We don’t have to have anything more than ourselves to be an asset. It isn’t necessary to be good at pretending to be someone else. We can be perfect at being ourselves. We are priceless, and nothing we do or don’t do changes that. We may not be proud of something we did in the past, but we can still be proud of who we are today. Being priceless and valuable doesn’t mean we are perfect. Perfection is unattainable, but we can choose the very best we can be and find great satisfaction in our lives. Every day is a gift and when we live it to the fullest and give our very best, we find intense gratification and happiness. We are all amazing and recognizing our real value, and understanding what a blessing we are to the world and those around us will help us realize our true worth.

In every society there are norms and traditions which are practiced and valued. They may be long standing and highly encouraged. We can follow them and fit in, and go along or we can choose a different road and design our lives going in a new direction. We can be respectful and honor the choices of others, and still make our own. Our lives belong solely to us, and we know what we want. By being true to who we are and moving forward toward the goals we desire most, we will achieve great happiness. Every blessing is possible, and we can make them ours.

Some people think we must look and act a certain way to be valuable. It doesn’t matter what color we are, what kind of clothes we wear, where we live, or who we know. Those are all external markers that have nothing to do with our intrinsic value. We are precious because of who we are. We bring gifts to the world nobody else can offer. Everything we do changes everything in some way. Nothing is more important or treasured than the benefits we bring.

Today if you feel like you don’t matter, and aren’t important, remember you are unique and precious. You enhance the world with the gifts only you can offer. Nothing could ever replace you and we are all blessed by your presence. Stand tall and recognize your personal worth. It’s beyond the value of anything in the world. You are priceless and unreplaceable. Be confident. You are amazing just as you are.

Reasons

22 Mar

Lots of things happen to us in life. Sometimes we have great experiences that bring us happiness and satisfaction, and other times we go through ordeals that try our patience, push us to despair, and make us miserable. Ups and downs are the nature of life and we’ll likely go through things we never imagine will happen. When we’re struggling, someone may tell us, “Everything happens for a reason,” as though that will comfort us. While it’s true that everything does indeed happen for a reason, it’s ridiculous to think there is some sort of master plan at work manipulating and steering our lives. The reasons for what we’re going through may be a result of someone else’s bad decision, or circumstances beyond our control, or something we did, or the Bermuda Triangle. This is life – not fairyland, and the fact is, crap happens. What comes, comes, and we must deal with it when it arrives. There is no way to predict the future or see beyond the next bend. Things may go exactly as we expect them to, or everything may go sideways, and we may end up flat on our backs wondering what happened. It doesn’t mean we’ve done anything wrong, or we must suffer to get ahead. It’s just how it goes. Unexpected and unwelcome surprises will come, and we may be confused about how to manage them, but we are intelligent and highly capable. There will be a resolution for every problem, and with patience and determination, we will find our way through. There may be times when the road ahead of us is paved and nothing gets in our way as we move toward success, but those times are few and far between. Most of the time, there will be obstacles and complications, but we will always have what we need to find the answers to continue forward. Every destination is possible, and nothing can keep us from them. We are smart enough and strong enough to do what is necessary to reach success.

Those close to us who care about us and want us to be happy may give us all kinds of advice for our lives. They may tell us where they think we should go and what we should do. They are certainly entitled to their opinions, but we are in control of our lives. We can listen with grace, and then do what we want. It’s impossible to find complete happiness living someone else’s life. We already know where we want to go and have everything we need to achieve any goal we desire.

Nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. When trouble comes, we may believe it’s because of a mistake we made in the past. While a previous decision may take us somewhere we don’t want to go, we can always change direction. There is no scorecard that needs balancing because we took a wrong turn. Mistakes teach us what doesn’t work and give us new skills for success moving forward. We can be confident as we move ahead, and trust that we’ll succeed.

Today if your plans have fallen apart and the road ahead has suddenly disappeared, think about what you want the most. Difficulties and problems cannot keep you from your goals. Decide how you want to proceed and step forward with confidence. Nothing can keep you from any destination you desire, and every success will be yours.