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Hard Road Ahead

25 Mar

Life is filled with all kinds of unexpected events. Things may be rolling along smoothly and then suddenly, out of nowhere (or out of China), something comes along that stops everything. When we’re restricted from living our normal lives, and doing the things we want to do, we feel it deeply. If we have to re-order everything and try to figure out how to get things done, we may struggle to find the way forward. It’s not easy to reconfigure our lives to accommodate some unforeseen complication and find the answers we need. Nothing is certain in life. Even when things are going well, we never know what might come. When we have to change what we’re doing and all our plans have to wait, it can be hard to know how to proceed. There will always be another way to accomplish our tasks. It will take patience at a time when we may feel frustrated and restrained against our will. There may be a lot of moving parts we must consider, and finding a way to accommodate them all may not be easy. But we are smart and highly capable, and no matter what we have to modify, will find our way. Every answer is there for us, and we will find it. We can change course and adjust our plans until we find a workable version, and continue moving ahead. During times of stress and uncertainty, when we can’t do things the way we want to, and have no idea when the situation will change, we still have control over every decision we make. We can be confident that we will find the road that takes us closer to the goals we seek, and keep moving forward. Nothing lasts forever, and we have everything we need to manage whatever we must. Every destination is still there for us, and with determination and focus, we will reach them all.

If we look at a road map, we will see many different roads to every destination. We can take a direct route from point A to point B, or choose a more winding one that takes us through interesting towns and attractions. If there’s a detour on one road, we can turn and take another. When our lives are restricted and we can no longer continue forward as before, it doesn’t mean the journey must stop. We are intelligent and can discover another way to get to the goal. There will always be more than one option to get ahead. We can take the time we need to find the best choice and continue moving forward.

Unexpected changes can be unsettling. When the rug is suddenly pulled out from under us, we may stand suspended for a moment trying to process what’s happened. We may feel uncertain, and unclear about what we should do to manage our new reality. The answers are there for us and we can be sure we’ll find them. Nothing can hold us in place forever. We are capable and strong, and will always find the road ahead.

Today if you’re struggling trying to figure out how to move forward, take the time you need to see everything clearly. All the answers are already there for you and you will find them. Trust yourself and be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from success.

Facing Fear

24 Mar

Every day is a new beginning and we never know what will happen. We have wonderful, amazing days, some boring times, and a lot of average and predictable moments. Sometimes we might face a very difficult, frightening and unsettling situation. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, everything can change in an instant. When we’re up against a big challenge that tests our stamina and courage, and we aren’t sure what to do, we may feel overwhelmed, and for a moment, may be scared out of our minds. If we’re so unsettled that we can’t think, we can stop and let everything sink in until we begin to comprehend what’s going on and start to form our next steps. Fear is a natural response to threatening or alarming situations. It may come over us quickly but it doesn’t mean we’re weak or incapable. When our fight or flight reflex has been triggered, our survival instincts are on high alert. We can run and cower, and try to hide, but the most effective response to fear is to face it openly and see everything clearly. The situation may be worse than we imagine, or it might be more workable than we first thought. By facing it head on we can clearly look at the whole picture and begin to formulate a plan. There is great power to be gained by standing firm and looking straight into the abyss. We have more courage and stamina than we think we have, and there isn’t anything that can overcome us. By calmly and bravely looking at everything, we will see the way forward, and find our footing. The world is full of surprises and there may be times we are taken off our guard. But we are powerful and wise, and nothing, absolutely nothing, can stop us.

When we go through routine days, we may begin to believe our lives are predictable, and in some ways they may be. We mostly know where we’re going, and may be sure of what will occur along the way. However, we only have control over our own personal decisions, and there are many others making choices we may know nothing about that cause ripples in the water and knock us off course. Unforeseen things may happen, we may be shocked by a sudden turn, and the road we were on may completely disappear. We are strong and can modify our direction when things change. We can find our way forward, no matter what comes.

The world is a big place and sometimes what happens in lands far away may impact our personal lives. Diseases travel around the globe, and unexpected problems arise. We are flexible and wise enough to figure out what to do in any situation. We can be proactive and care for ourselves, and do what is needed to make sure we’re safe. Nothing stays the same forever, and no matter what complications come, in time they will modify and we’ll be able to continue ahead. We already have everything we need to succeed, and with patience and wisdom, will find our way.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult situation and you’re afraid you won’t survive, trust yourself. Look at everything openly and stand strong. You are a great asset to the world and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident and be sure. You are amazing, and nothing will keep you from success.

Fearless

6 Mar

Life is unpredictable and we never know what will happen next. Things go right, and things go wrong. Sometimes we’re surprised by a turn of events, and when they turn in ways that are difficult or daunting, we may be concerned or fearful we cannot face them. A lot can go wrong when we least expect it and if the rug is quickly pulled out from under us, we may be stunned and for a moment be unable to move. Fear is a natural emotion we all experience from time to time. Even the most courageous and brave among us is not immune. Our innate fight or flight reflex will be triggered at some point, and we may be rattled. When we’re unsure and worried, when the future is uncertain, and we don’t know what to do next, fear often enters the equation. It can paralyze us and make it impossible to think. But we are intelligent and have all the wisdom we need to figure out any problem or complication. It doesn’t matter if everything goes wrong, it doesn’t matter if the road we were on has disappeared, or if what’s happened is beyond what we can process right now. There will always be options before us and every answer we need will be there. We can take the time necessary to consider everything, decide on our next steps and confidently choose what we will do. Nobody is fearless, but when fear comes, we need not let it overcome us. We are more powerful than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. The future is always unknown, but nothing will happen we can’t manage. Every goal will still be there for us, even if we have to reconfigure how we’ll reach it. Life may throw us for a loop, but we are flexible and smart, and can bend to adjust. The destinations we desire are still there, and with confidence and assurance, we will reach them.

We’re always in control of ourselves and our personal lives, but we have no control over anything else. Illness, calamity, accidents, unforeseen roadblocks, and endless other complications will come. Even if we sequestered ourselves and tried to hide from the world, there would still be risk of some sort that things will go wrong. Nothing is ever certain and change is constant. But we are strong and capable, and can trust ourselves to manage whatever we must, and find our way through.

There is no way to know what tomorrow will bring. Even if we try to prepare, everything may change and all our preparations may be for naught. Our plans may fail, others may let us down, and at times it may feel the whole world is conspiring against us. It will never be true that there is no way out. There will always be another door and another road ahead. We can be sure of our ability to find the answers we need, and move forward with determination and confidence. We already have everything we need to accomplish our goals, and find complete happiness.

Today if your world has been rattled and you’re afraid you won’t succeed, trust yourself. You are smarter and more capable than you think. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Be sure of yourself, and step forward with confidence. Everything is possible, and nothing can keep you from success.

What I Do

25 Feb

Every day we make dozens of decisions and do countless things. We may have many responsibilities and tasks that need to be completed, places to be, and people to meet. How we accomplish our tasks and what we choose defines who we are and tells the world more about us. If we’re honest, what we say we’re doing will actually be reflected in our actions. But if things get away from us, and we fall behind, we might choose to stretch the truth in an effort to buy some time. If someone asks us about a task they’re waiting for and we don’t want them to know we haven’t even started on it yet, we may tell them we’re working on it and expect to complete it soon. Telling a story that’s not true may hold our place for a while, but it won’t work indefinitely. When the real truth comes out, we may get caught short and have to explain ourselves. The old saying, “Do what I say and not what I do,” has never worked. What we say is only part of the situation. What we do tells the whole story. If we bend the truth about what’s going on, and pretend we’re doing things we aren’t, chances are we’ll face complications. Truth will always rise, and if we’ve been dishonest, it’s only a matter of time before we’ll be found out. We can say anything we like. We can create an amazing and interesting story, but what we actually do tells the world who we are. If we want the trust and confidence of the those around us, it’s imperative to be completely honest, even if we’ve dropped the ball. Failing to follow through or accomplish a promised action cannot hold us in place. We can revise our plans and still find success.

They say image is everything. We’re encouraged to protect and build our “brand” and make sure everything that reflects on us is positive. It would be great if everything we did was flawless, and every move we made took us closer to the goal. But this is real life, and we’re not perfect. Things go wrong, we make mistakes, there are misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. Nothing will always go exactly right. If we stumble, we can right ourselves and continue on. We can change anything that isn’t working and start again. Every possibility is there for us, and we are smart enough and wise enough to make them ours.

We are where we are. Sometimes we don’t move forward the way we hoped we would, and sometimes we get stopped completely. Lying and pretending to make things seem different than they really are, or to make us look like we’re further along will only backfire on us in the end. We are strong enough to face the truth of every situation, and intelligent enough to find the answers we need. If we’re stuck, we can revise our plans. If we’re lost, we can get help. Nothing is beyond our reach, and with patience and determination, we can make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’re tempted to pretend things are different than they are, remember how important your honesty and integrity are. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be clear and confident. You can do anything. Take a step forward and move toward the goal. Every success is there for you.

The Name Game

18 Feb

The world is full of names and labels that help us understand what things are and what we’re dealing with. Although they can be helpful, they can also be misleading. After all, we can call anything we want by any name we desire, and if we want to mask something undesirable, can deflect away from any negative influence. We may see this in advertising campaigns. Sales won’t increase if problems and complications are highlighted, and renaming them in ways that make them seem acceptable can help disguise them. We might do the same in our lives. For instance, instead of saying someone is mean and rude, we might simply say they are challenging and intense. Learning to label things in ways that make them seem easier may help us in some situations, but like all things, there will be two sides to the coin. Truth is truth and no matter how we try to manipulate it or color it to look like something else, will remain. It’s important to be honest in all our dealings. Difficult and unpleasant situations will remain no matter what we call them, so it’s best to simply state things as they really are. We are capable of facing any complication and managing any problem, no matter how convoluted or intense. We can see and accept things as they really are, and proceed with confidence that we’ll find our way through. We have all the wisdom and intellect we need to travel any road ahead, and every destination is possible. With clarity and confidence, we will succeed.

If we don’t like something in our lives, where we live, the job we have, or some other situation that may be embarrassing or in some way makes us feel uncomfortable, we might pretend things are different and simply use terms that aren’t exactly clear when we talk about them. We don’t ever have to tell others more than we’re comfortable with, and saying things that aren’t exactly true may bring unexpected and unwanted complications. Instead of making up a story that veers away from the truth, it’s better to simply say nothing. We’re in control of our lives and don’t have to share anything we don’t want to. We can be honest and still keep private information to ourselves.

When we’re dealing with others it’s important to be completely honest. Trying to influence someone by glossing over the truth or describing something in ways that divert what’s real may work at first, but in time, the whole story will be revealed. Things aren’t always easy but no matter what the situation is, we can face it openly and with complete clarity. We can handle anything just the way it is. We are competent and capable, and nothing can stand in our way.

Today if you’re dealing with an unpleasant situation, tell the complete truth. Be honest about what’s happening and step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to manage and manage well. The truth will pave the way forward, and you will reach your destination. Be confident and clear. You are amazing and nothing can keep you from success.

Over and Over Again

11 Feb

Everyone makes their own decisions. If we think about our actions before we make them and don’t simply react to what’s going on around us, we have a better shot at choosing things that will move us forward. We all have the right to choose anything we like but we only have control over ourselves. Others may do what they will, and we cannot prevent their choices from affecting us. If someone hurts us, we can learn from the experience and pay closer attention to our dealings with them. If we could look at only the facts and make our decisions clearly and without influence, everything would be simpler. However, we’re human, and our emotions are part of everything we do. If we get hurt by someone we love, we may let them close enough to hurt us again. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and if we’re involved with someone who is mean and hateful, they will be accountable for those choices. But we’re accountable for what we do as well, and if we continue to allow them to hurt us, that’s on us. The old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me,” is valid. If we allow others to hurt us over and over again, we are partially responsible for the pain we suffer. We never have to stay in any situation that isn’t beneficial. We can always step away and move on to someplace new. If we remain in place, and allow ourselves to continue to be abused, we own that choice. There isn’t any situation powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. We always have the ability to change. We are more powerful than we imagine, and can do anything we desire. We can have the lives we dream about by making choices that take us to it. Every day is a blessing, and we can reach any goal and find complete happiness.

Promises are sacred commitments. If someone makes a promise to us, we hold it close and fully expect them to fulfill it. If the promise is broken, so is part of our trust. If they continually make promises and never keep them, we learn their word is worthless. If we continue to trust them, we will likely be disappointed. We can say anything to get what we want. We can promise the moon and everything that goes with it, but unless we fully deliver, our word means nothing. Deciding to keep our commitments and always follow through will open valuable doors for us, and pave the way toward success.

If we’re caught in a situation where we’re suffering but there is no easy way out, we can decide what we want the most. No matter where we are, we can move. The road may be difficult, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. We are powerful and intelligent, and no matter what’s going on, can find our way forward. Our happiness is important. We can move away and start again. Every dream is possible and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to make them ours.

Today if you’ve been hurt, step back and look at all your options. You never have to stay anywhere you don’t want to be. There are endless opportunities possible, and you have everything you need to find the way forward. Be strong and trust yourself. Every blessing is possible and you will succeed. Be confident. The best is just ahead.

Hear What I Say

10 Feb

We communicate constantly in many different ways. Although most of our communication is non-verbal, what we say counts a lot. Good communication skills can open many doors for us and when we’re open and state exactly what we want and how we feel, those around us will understand us more clearly. What we say not only communicates to those around us, but has a great impact on us as well. If we’re feeling awful and express that, our words may reinforce our feelings. Each time we tell others or ourselves out loud how badly we feel, we are listening. Our verbal expressions tell us again what’s going on. If we continually talk about how awful things are, or that we’ll never get through whatever is happening, we are teaching ourselves to believe it. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about our feelings – we should – but we need to remember that each negative statement not only communicates how we feel to others, but tells us as well. We hear everything we say. Repetition secures our memory, and if what we’re learning is we’re unhappy, we won’t likely forget it. Nobody lives in nirvana and there will be times when our lives don’t go the way we want them to. Bad things will happen and we will struggle. As we’re navigating through a hard time, we can pay attention to the messages we give ourselves and remember how strong and capable we are. We can trust ourselves to overcome whatever we’re facing and find peace and happiness once again. If we say things that boost us up, the road will be easier. There isn’t anything we can’t handle. We can be confident and clear that no matter where the road goes, we will prevail.

How we phrase our concerns can have an impact on how they affect us. When we’re facing a difficult challenge, we can say we’ll never manage it and it’s impossible. Telling ourselves we can’t handle a situation may construct roadblocks ahead and keep us from finding solutions. It’s impossible to look for answers when we’re focused on failing. No matter how hard the issue is, we are smart enough to figure it out. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we have all the tools we need to do anything.

Even when things are going wrong, we can have faith in our abilities and the future ahead. Terrible things may happen, we might fall down, and everything we thought was real may disintegrate. But we will still be here and nothing can hold us in place forever. The sky is never going to fall. Darkness will lift, and the sun will rise again. We are incredibly capable and nothing can keep us from success. We already have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing a very hard challenge and feel overwhelmed, remember how many obstacles you’ve already conquered. Remind yourself that you are powerful and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You are amazing and can accomplish incredible things. Be confident and trust yourself. Nothing can hold you down, and you will succeed.