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Trusting It

21 Jul

No matter where we are or what we’re doing, chances are there’s something we’re working toward or trying to accomplish. Maybe we want to change direction in our career, or find someone to share our time with, or find a way to make more money or a thousand other things. Nobody can read the future and there is no way to know how anything will eventually roll out. Most things are out of our control and the best we can do is choose options that will most likely bring us the results we’re seeking. The world is filled with billions of people and they’re all making decisions, some of which may impact us negatively. We may be moving along easily, everything may be going according to plan, and then bam, without warning something changes and our plans go up in smoke. Although this is always a possibility, if we’ve planned effectively and done everything we can to protect the way forward, we will generally be able to find our way around any snags that come up. We are intelligent and capable and can figure out what needs to be done to accomplish the goals we desire, and then trust the process to work. We may face complications and there might be a problem that creeps in from time to time, but we can find the answers we need and continue on. Learning to trust isn’t always easy, especially if we’ve suffered a calamity in the past, and we’ve all suffered calamities in the past. When things go unexpectedly wrong and knock us down it leaves a mark and we may struggle to believe things will go well in the future. But every goal is possible and nothing can keep us from success. We have everything we need to accomplish anything we desire. By doing what’s necessary to find the best options possible, we can proceed with confidence that no matter what happens things will work out. The world isn’t going to end because one thing goes wrong or we hit a bump in the road. The destination will still be there for us, and we will reach it.

Some things are easier to accomplish than others. They say if you’re going to dream, you should dream big. Common goals that have paved roads leading to them are simple to overcome, but if we want something more, we have all the intelligence and wisdom needed to find a way to accomplish it. Our most treasured dreams, the things we think about and wish for, are possible if we’re willing to do what is required to make them ours. We can shoot for the moon, and gain the sun and stars as well. Everything is there for us and we can have the lives we desire most.

Self doubt can be crippling if we let it control our decisions. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes, but no matter how far we fall, there will always be a way back up. We know what we want and can trust ourselves to get it. Every single destination is achievable and with focus and determination, nothing can keep us from what we want. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and can do anything. By stepping forward with clarity and confidence, sure of success, we will conquer every dream and reach every goal. Our lives are ours to design. Everything is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you want to do something but are thinking about when things went wrong in the past, trust yourself. The past never determines your future. Every single dream is there for you and you have everything you need to get the life you want. Stand strong and move forward. You are amazing and capable, and nothing, absolutely nothing is too hard or too far away for you to reach. Your dreams are waiting. Step forward and claim them.

Skipping Over

16 Jul

Everything we want to accomplish will require something. Few things we desire will come without effort , and if we want to get to a goal, generally we’ll have to plan and work diligently to make it ours. Some things will come easily and require little to achieve, but others may be very difficult and demand lots of time, work, and focus to accomplish. When we want something that’s hard to reach, and it will require a lot of sacrifice to get it, we might look around for some kind of shortcut. Maybe we can skip over some things, fudge on some others, and try to wiggle our way through without having to work so hard. We might find a way to get around some of it, and reach the goal earlier and easier than if we’d done all the work. That may seem like a great idea, but the catch is that everything we do to get to the goal teaches of something of value we’ll need once we achieve it. We may arrive with only half the tools necessary to proceed forward with success. If we’re in college and don’t want to do an assignment, write a paper, or accomplish a task, we could get someone else to do it for us. Of course, that’s cheating, but if our personal standards are low and all we want is the grade, we may choose that option. Once done, we may complete the course and get the desired grade, but the knowledge we could have learned by doing the work ourselves will be absent. We may face a situation going forward where our future success depends on the experience and knowledge we would have gained by doing the previous work ourselves. Success is always possible, but the road to it is paved with work and focus. Skipping over the lessons we need to succeed will never help us. We are capable of accomplishing anything. By choosing to pave the road ahead by staying in and working hard, every dream will be possible. We can trust ourselves to accomplish whatever we desire, and create the lives we want the most.

We all have the same amount of time every day. We’re responsible for our own lives, and if we take on more than we can reasonably accomplish in the time allotted, our situation will become stressful and difficult. Doing half the work needed or skipping over necessary steps to get everything done will not help us succeed. We may look like we’re accomplishing tasks, but the items overlooked may come back to bite us. By taking the time to plan our work effectively, and declining more than we can manage, we will gain greater confidence and find increased success.

Many things must be done in order. Skipping steps and trying to succeed is like trying to drive a car without putting gas in it. No matter how much we think positively, the car isn’t going anywhere without fuel. We are intelligent and capable, and have everything we need to accomplish anything we want. We have all the wisdom and courage to tackle difficult accomplishments and succeed. By trusting ourselves, and stepping forward with confidence, nothing is out of reach and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been sidestepping and looking for shortcuts to get through a difficult task, trust yourself. You’ve already accomplished many challenging things and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Stand firm and look at everything objectively. All the answers you need are there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.

Disguised

2 Jul

Life is full of challenges and trials. Some things come easily but many times we have to work through problems and complications to get what we want. People and situations may get in our way, and we may be frustrated just trying to take another step forward. Obstacles are a normal part of life and we all face them from time to time. They interrupt our plans, and give us grief. When we’re facing a big obstacle, it may be a huge impasse and inconvenience. But we can look closer and discover opportunities. Every challenge has value and some sort of blessing attached to it. Many opportunities are disguised at first as obstacles. When we come upon them, instead of pulling our hair out and screaming because there is yet something else blocking us, we can step back and look at everything objectively. Yes there’s something in the way, but if we look under the surface, we may see there is also an opportunity hidden beneath. Hard trials are difficult, but as we navigate through them we gain additional strength. Complicated issues may confound us, but as we untangle them we gain increased knowledge. No matter what we’re facing, no matter how dire things seem, there are benefits to be gained as we confront them. Everything may look jumbled up and confused at first, but as we peel back each layer and solve each problem, the road ahead will clear and we will find our way forward. We are intelligent and capable, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage. By taking things one step at a time, and looking carefully at each development, opportunities will arise and we will prevail. We are amazingly strong and can do anything. The whole world is there for us, and nothing can keep us from success.

There will be few times when everything we plan goes exactly as predicted. Some roads will be paved and clear, and we’ll advance easily and comfortably, but those experiences are rare. Most of the time there will be snags and complications. If we’ve been pushing through trouble for a while, we may begin to believe the goal isn’t possible, and it might not be possible right now. We can set it aside and wait for our situation to change, and then go back and start again. Every destination is there for us and with patience and determination, we can do anything.

Dreaming and planning for what we want is important, but until we begin to do what is necessary to gain the goal, nothing will change. There is no magic genie to grant us three wishes, or a fairy godmother to magically change our situation. We are in control of our lives, and if we want something different, we can make it happen. We are more powerful than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach. By trusting ourselves, standing strong, and moving forward with confidence, we can make our dreams come true.

Today if there’s a big obstacle in your way and you’re stuck and frustrated, look at everything clearly and objectively. There is an opening there for you and an opportunity to advance, and you will find it. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and step forward. You will reach the destination.

Digging In

3 Jun

Everyday we face new challenges and make choices about how we’ll proceed. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and since we don’t live on a deserted island, there will be others around who may influence us one way or another. We may get all kinds of advice and suggestions, which may be helpful or might be misleading. If someone near us is very powerful and strong willed, they may demand that we follow their suggestions for moving forward. Some people are very smart and confident and may be sure they are steering us in the best direction, and maybe they’re right. Of course, we can listen to any advice we’re given, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. Nobody will have our personal insight regarding what we want and how we want to proceed. Taking someone else’s suggestion might be great, or it might not. There will be no way to find out unless we implement whatever they have suggested and try it out. If we follow someone else’s lead, and things go well, terrific. If everything goes bust and we end up in a terrible situation, we may be tempted to blame them for our demise, but we own every decision we make. We choose the roads we’ll travel. We own them whether they bring us happiness or misery. Everyone has their own ideas about life, and each is unique and individual. We know what we want and have everything we need to go anywhere and do anything. We can trust ourselves to choose the best road ahead and find our way to success. If we need more information, we can find it and then step forward on our own path. Others may disagree and criticize our choice, but the choice is ours to make. We can dig in and stand firm on what we want to do and how we will proceed. There is enough courage and wisdom inside us to guide us anywhere we want to go. Success is always there, and we will reach it.

Nobody knows everything. We can only get information that’s available at any moment in time and sometimes we may take a wrong turn because there were facts we were unaware of. We can only see what’s just ahead and there may be twists and turns in the future that hold us back or stop us in our tracks. If the road gets tangled, and we can’t push forward, we can choose another route. There are endless roads to every destination, and with persistence and patience, we will prevail.

Someone may think they know us better than we know ourselves, and if they aren’t in agreement with our plans, may try to dissuade us or obstruct the way forward. They may know us well, but nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. The road ahead may be difficult, but we are strong. It may be complex, but we are intelligent. Nothing can keep us from any goal we desire, and we will succeed.

Today if you’re getting lots of advice regarding a specific goal, trust yourself. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. You are wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and every destination is there for you. Success is waiting, and with focus and clarity, nothing will keep you from it. Every dream is possible, and you will prevail.

Fitting In or Standing Out

4 May

Life is full of differences, and sometimes it seems just when we’ve figured everything out where we are, something happens and suddenly everything changes. Variety may be the spice of life, but when we’re different from everyone else, we may wish for commonality. There’s a lot to be said for sameness when we feel out of our element, and like the odd man out. We’re all individuals, and nobody is exactly like anyone else, but cultural and other influences may cause people to adopt similar behaviors and traditions. If we’re new to the scene, and aren’t like everyone else, we may feel uncomfortable. It’s easier to fit in when everyone is on the same page and doing the same things. We may feel pressure to conform to a behavior or pattern we don’t understand or don’t want. Fitting in usually makes social situations easier, and if we look like everyone else, use the same language and act the same way, we will be able to blend in. Nobody stands out when they are just like everyone else. There may be times when we’ll want to blend in and basically be invisible because we are unsure or lack the confidence necessary to do things our own way. We can certainly fade into the background all we like, but we are the only ones on the entire earth who can offer the gifts we have to give. The blessings we have to share are ours alone and will bring great light and benefit to those around us. But nobody will ever know what we have if we stay quiet and hide in the shadows. We don’t have to be loud and boisterous to make ourselves known, but we can step forward and share our lives and ideas with those around us. We have so much to offer and we can be confident enough to speak up. We can be ourselves and still find our place, no matter where we are. The whole world is blessed because we are here.

We make lots of connections as we go through our lives and build many kinds of relationships. Those around us may wish to include us in their activities, and we can certainly participate in anything we like. But we never have to do anything we don’t want to do. Just because everyone else in the group wants to be involved, if it doesn’t feel right for us, we may politely decline and step away. Our journey is ours to design and we can manage it any way we like.

There may be times when because someone has authority over us, we may be compelled to do certain things we don’t want. Our bosses, our family members, someone we love and honor very much, may ask us for something we would prefer not to do. In those moments, it will be up to us to weigh agreement against any ramifications a denial may bring. Every situation is different, and we are smart enough and wise enough to make the best decision at every turn.

Today if you’re having trouble fitting in where you are, remember you are unique and valuable. You don’t have to go along to get along. Be yourself and share your ideas. Your gifts are valuable and worthwhile. Stand tall and be confident. The whole world is better, and we’re all blessed because you are here.