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Backhanded

13 Jan

We interact with a lot of people as we go through our lives. We build relationships, work along side them, and make connections through our shared experiences. Many people are sincere and open in their comments and conversations and we appreciate spending time with them. But there are others who don’t always say exactly what they mean, and instead use innuendo and make backhanded comments that leave us unsure as to what they mean or how they feel. If they are flippant or sarcastic, we might wonder if we’ve done something wrong, or if they don’t trust us for some reason. If we don’t speak clearly and state what we want, there will inevitably be confusion, and the road ahead will get cloudy. If we’re concerned about how our comments will make us look or feel superior to those around us, we may use double talk and insinuation instead of stating the facts. That way we can skirt around the issue if things get dicey. It’s disconcerting to be involved in a situation with someone who doesn’t speak openly and honestly, and instead talks around the issue instead of confronting it head on. We don’t know where we stand and may have no idea how to proceed. Everyone knows exactly how they feel in every situation, and we all have enough courage to say what we mean to clarify what’s happening. By being completely clear in our feelings and objectives, we can pave the way to our goals and find resolution to any problem. We are intelligent and have all the wisdom and courage we need to stand firm in our position and express ourselves confidently and openly. Every single destination is possible, and with focus and determination we will reach them all.

No two people are exactly alike. We all have our own preferences and ideas about how things should be done. When we’re working with others, we may differ and have diametrically opposed views about how to proceed. We can stand firm in our opinion and look for compromise, or we can cave and let others take over. What we do is up to us, but letting others drive the train will never take us where we want to go. Our desires are important and valuable. We can say what we want and move forward toward the goal.

When there is disagreement, if we don’t feel confident enough to stand up to opposition, but really want our viewpoint to prevail, we may choose to use coercion and manipulation to advance our cause. We can do anything we like, but the seeds we plant will determine what comes next. Being dishonest and manipulative may work in the beginning, but we may pay more in the end than we bargained for. By being completely clear, and saying exactly what we mean, the doors ahead will open, and we’ll reach success.

Today if you’re in a situation where you feel unsure you can prevail, be confident and state your views clearly. You are valuable and worthwhile. Tell us what you think and be courageous. You are amazing and your input is important. Step up and every door will open. All your dreams are there for you, and nothing can keep you from making them yours.

Not Exactly

6 Jan

The words we choose, and the things we say as we go through our lives explain who we are, what we want, and what we need from those around us. It’s good to be truthful, but sometimes the truth isn’t exactly what we want everyone to know. Maybe it will reflect poorly on us or expose a bad decision that has taken us somewhere we don’t want to be. We can say anything, make up any story, and create our own little reality, but truth is powerful, and even if we try to hide it now, it won’t stay hidden for long. We can justify and excuse manipulating others with half-truths or even all out lies if the circumstances are difficult or we’re afraid of what the real facts might cause. We can say anything to cover ourselves or someone else, and we may get away with it – at least for a while. However, whatever short term benefit we get will be outweighed by the long-term losses we may suffer. Each time we sacrifice our integrity to do something dishonest, we lose a little bit of confidence and self-respect. We know we’re being deceitful and if we continue misleading others, we will suffer. We are valuable and worthwhile, and there isn’t anything worth losing our self-respect or personal dignity. Every answer we need will always be there for us and we are intelligent and highly capable. There is no need to lie or bend the truth to get ahead or accomplish our goals. Nothing is too difficult for us to accomplish by being honest and truthful. There is greatness in each one of us, and we are impressive just as we are. We already possess everything we need to do anything we want. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with clarity and focus, we can reach every goal and every destination. Nothing can keep us from our dreams, and we will succeed.

Fiction is a great diversion, but there is no place for it in our everyday lives. We live in reality, and pretending or lying that things are different than they are will change nothing. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. If we don’t want the situation we’re in, we can change it. We’re in control of our lives and never have to stay anywhere we don’t want. Every option is possible, and we have everything we need to prevail.

Who we are and how we’re seen by those around us is a reflection of the things we do. We can design our lives any way we like. We are never frozen in place and nothing can hold us down when we’re ready to move. By facing things exactly as they are, warts and all, we can decide how we want to proceed. If we want something different or something more, instead of just talking about it, we can make it happen. Every single goal is possible, and we are wise enough and strong enough to make them ours.

Today if you’ve been embellishing the truth or hiding facts as you interact with others, think about who you really want to be. There is greatness inside you and by choosing well and being completely honest, you can reach every destination you desire. Be the best you can be, and every door will open for you. All your dreams are waiting. Step forward with clarity and claim them.

Cloud Break

30 Dec

Our lives are filled with different experiences. We never know what’s coming around the bend. Some days go easily, and our plans work out the way we want them to, and other times the bottom falls out and the sky is dark and threatening. Nobody gets a perfect life where everything always goes well. We all face troubling times of uncertainty and doubt, and situations that complicate the road ahead. Stressful times may come, and we might be so inundated with the struggle that it seems we won’t survive. The darkest storms may push us against trials we never imagined. Just because the sky is black, the rain is pounding and we can’t see the road ahead, doesn’t mean it’s not there. If we look hard, we may see a break in the gloom where a tiny pocket of sunlight is peeking through. The sun is shining brightly above the ceiling of clouds and even if it’s not visible, we can trust it’s still there. It’s always there waiting to shine down on us after the storm passes. When hard times press and we feel overwhelmed and overcome, we can trust that the answers are waiting and will show the way through. Every answer we need will always be there for us. Each moment we endure gives us greater strength and courage to continue on. There isn’t anything that can hold us down indefinitely. We can be sure we will prevail no matter how hard or complex the problem may be. Life has already taught us many powerful and helpful lessons, and we have all the experiences we’ve already faced pushing us toward success. There will always be enough power and wisdom for us to draw on, and we will find the way forward. Change is constant, and in time, however long that takes, things will change, and we’ll be able to move ahead. By trusting ourselves to prevail, and taking each step as it comes, we’ll reach every success we desire.

Trouble may come when we already have a lot to deal with and we may feel overwhelmed and unable to manage. We don’t have to do everything at once and can take the time we need to look at everything objectively and decide on the best way forward. We are smarter than we think we are, and nothing is too complex for us to overcome.

There may be times when we may be tempted to simply walk away and ignore a problem we don’t want to face. If we need time to think about how we want to handle something, we can set it aside until we’re ready, but we must return once we’ve decided how we want to proceed and take care of it. We can unravel any issue and find the solutions we need. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage and we will succeed.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with a difficult problem and aren’t sure you can succeed, trust yourself. The sky may be dark but there is sunshine overhead waiting to shine through. You have all the skills and intelligence you need to accomplish anything. Nothing can overcome you. Every success is there for you, and you will reach it.

Nirvana

29 Dec

Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. Every option we desire is possible but the things we want won’t suddenly appear or fall into our laps while we sit and dream. Although we may wish for them, magic genies who can grant our wishes will never be real. We can have every single dream we imagine but making them come true is up to us. There might be a fairy godmother somewhere but it’s unlikely she’s going to appear any time soon. Instead of wishing and hoping that our lives would change into our fondest desires and dreams, we can objectively look at what it will take to make it happen, and then set forth to accomplish the task. Some things take a lot of work and will require a lot of time, but everything worth having is worth working for. By deciding what we want the most, and then doing what is necessary to make it ours, we can create the life we dream about. We can create our own Nirvana and find complete happiness and satisfaction. Or we can sit around and dream about what our lives could be like and do nothing. Complaining because we aren’t where we want to be, or shrinking back because we lack the confidence we need to get there won’t move us forward. What we do is our choice and responsibility. We don’t have to know everything, or have all the tools we need before we start the journey. Taking a step forward will give us more information to move ahead, and the confidence to take another. Step by step, staying focused on the goal, we’ll move forward until we reach it. Every dream is possible, and nothing is too difficult for us to accomplish. We can plan effectively, and then stay on course until we find success. The lives we desire most are waiting for us, and with determination we will make them ours.

A road that has been well-traveled is much easier to navigate than one we have to cut ourselves as we push forward. We can always do what everyone else is doing and settle for what’s common and easy. But if we want our own dreams to come true and have lives filled with rich experiences and success, we’ll have to reach further than what’s easy. We can reach beyond where we are and strive for more. By moving toward the dreams we really want, we can reach every goal and find true happiness and satisfaction.

If we don’t take control of our lives and push toward the goals and dreams we really want, time will roll on and we’ll simply go where life takes us. It’s impossible to go where we want to go if someone else is driving the train. Instead of coasting along, we can proactively take charge of our decisions and move toward the goals we want the most. We are intelligent and strong, and nothing can keep us from any destination. Every dream is possible, and we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been kicking back and letting things just roll out as they will, remember your dreams are important. You know what you want, and already possess everything you need to make it yours. Take charge of your destiny and move toward your goals. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire. You are amazing and powerful, and you will prevail.

Socks

17 Dec

Nobody gets a life constantly filled with fun and good times. We all have wonderful moments we cherish that buoy us up and bring great happiness, but those times don’t last forever. Periods of distress and trouble eventually arrive, and we may have to find our way through complex and difficult developments. It’s natural to feel unsettled when our world is in flux and things are going wrong. We might be overwhelmed and unsure, and we may struggle with depression and anxiety as we navigate through whatever we’re facing. When we don’t feel our best and are beset by worry and concern, it can be hard to be around others who are happy and having fun. They may try to cheer us up by telling us our situation isn’t “that bad” or in other ways try to divert us from the issue. If we’re feeling open to encouragement, that may help but we all manage things our own unique way, and there may be times when we wish all the cheerleaders around us would just put a sock in it and go away. We may prefer to face our demons alone and on our own, and being around others who aren’t suffering may be more than we want to face. We’re entitled to manage our lives our own way, and don’t need agreement or permission to check out for a while. We’ve been successful in managing many difficult situations and solving complex problems, and we will be successful again. Even if the road ahead is dark and unclear, we can trust ourselves to find the answers we need and be confident of success. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage or too hard to overcome. We are powerful and wise, and will find the way forward.

When we’re going through hard times, it’s easy to feel isolated and alone. Nobody really knows what’s happening inside our heads but us, and if the situation is personal or intensely private, we may not be interested in sharing it with others. We can keep the situation to ourselves, and take the time we need to process it clearly to find the way ahead. Or we can reach out to someone we trust, share our concerns, and listen to any advice they offer. By managing the issue in ways that make us comfortable and confident, we will find our way through, and resolve it successfully.

There is no one perfect way to handle difficult problems. Each is unique and specific to its own parameters. What works in one situation, may not apply in another. There are endless ways to navigate through any problem. We are intelligent and capable, and already possess everything we need to prevail. We can seek the answers desired, confident they will arise when needed. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely, and we will always, every single time, find the road ahead.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge, take the time you need to process everything objectively and find the road ahead. Every answer you seek is there for you. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself. Step ahead with confidence. The road is there for you, you will find it, and you will win.