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Owning It

15 Feb

Everyone has dreams and goals, and things they want to accomplish. Maybe we want to climb mountains or run marathons, maybe we want to write books and influence others, or maybe we just want to be happier. Whatever we desire is possible but it won’t happen just because we want it. There is no magic wand or genie who will appear to grant our wish. The only way to get what we want is to do what is needed to make it happen. If we want to climb mountains or run a marathon, we must put in the hours of physical training required. If we want to write a book we have to actually start typing, and if we want to be happier, we must determine what is holding us back and change our situation so we can move forward. It’s really a simple calculation – if you want to get to “B” you must go through “A” first. Choosing what we want and then pushing forward toward it will bring us success. When we look at our goals objectively it’s easy to see what needs to be done, but actually engaging and doing the work is a whole different story. We can set any goal we choose but if we want to accomplish it, we must do everything necessary to achieve it. Every dream is possible but nothing will change if all we do is dream. Imagine what our lives would be like if we were willing to do everything to make all our dreams come true. The confidence and satisfaction that come from achieving a long-desired goal brings great happiness. We deserve complete and abounding happiness. We can give it to ourselves by focusing on what we want most, and then doing what is needed to make it happen. We can focus on the road ahead and push through until we succeed. There isn’t anything we can’t do. Every destination and every goal are possible, and we can make them ours.

There are many reasons why we may not pursue something we want. It may take a lot of time, it might be difficult, it will change our lives, our families may not like it, we may have to change – the list is long and unending. If we want, we can live a mediocre existence, simply doing what is expected and going through the motions. But we own our choices and can go anywhere we desire. Deciding to create the lives we want the most will bring us the greatest happiness and fulfillment.

Fear of the unknown can be crippling. It can hold us in place even if where we are isn’t comfortable. We can’t see what lies ahead and there will always be some risk when we step out of our routine and choose something more. We may face challenges, but we are intelligent and capable, and even if we get tangled up, can find our way through. There are endless roads to every destination, and if one doesn’t work, we can step on another. Every goal is possible, and we have all the wisdom and courage to make our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something more and want to change your life, look ahead and choose the path that will take you there. You are amazing and nothing is out of reach. Believe in yourself and step forward. Make the choices that will open all the doors. You can go anywhere and have the life you desire. Nothing can keep you from success. Start today. All your dreams are possible, and you will have them.

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Personal Time

13 Feb

We make many decisions every day. Some are easy, but others are more complex and can be quite difficult. If we must make a decision in a hurry our judgement may be impacted, and we might miss possible complications that may result. If there are others around us pressing us to agree with them, they may insist we don’t need to think about anything. They’ve already looked at all the parameters, and we need only agree so the plan can move forward. When people are convinced they have the answers they can be very persuasive. If we buckle under the pressure and give in before we’ve had time to think, everything might be fine and go exactly as expected.  But if the situation fails because something was overlooked, we may become part of a mess we never planned on. We’re always in control of what we do and when we want or need time before making a decision, we can take it. Personal time to review everything is important and as we ponder our next steps, we can be open to inspiration and personal direction. Taking time to think before making an important decision will always work in our favor. It will allow us to examine any developments that may arise and give us time to be confident in the choice we’re making. There are few decisions that must be made immediately, and there will often be time to think before we choose. We can take the time we need to plan the way ahead. We can be wise and careful, and make decisions that will take us where we most want to go.

Trust is a valuable asset when dealing with others. If someone we trust asks us to do something we don’t feel comfortable with, we may agree because of our relationship with them. But trust is fragile and if something goes wrong or we find they weren’t completely honest, everything will change. We’re always entitled to our own personal reflection in every situation, and can take time to consider all options before deciding what works best going forward. We have all the insight and wisdom we need to make excellent choices that bring us the results we seek.

We live in a hurry up world. Time is always of the essence and we are often pressed to rush through one situation after another. There’s nothing wrong with accomplishing much but if we do things before we have time to think, chances are some of them will fail. If we don’t take the time we need for personal reflection, our decisions may be negatively impacted. We know what we want and we don’t have to be rushed to get it. We can take our time and choose carefully to ensure we create the lives we desire.

Today if you’re pressed to hurry through an important decision, step back for a moment and take the time you need to see all the possibilities going forward. You are wise and capable, and know how to choose well. Give yourself the personal time you need to make the best decisions you can. You are amazing and powerful, and have everything you need to succeed. Every destination is there for you. Choose wisely and move forward with confidence.

Snakes

8 Feb

There are all kinds of people in the world. Many are good, honest individuals who are helpful and kind, but there are some who are differently inclined. They may be hurtful and mean, and cause problems for those around them. When someone who is disruptive and hateful enters our lives, we may feel like we’ve fallen into a den of snakes, unable to escape. As we struggle through the conflict, we may try to avoid them as much as possible. We can’t control what anyone else does and if someone is determined to wreak havoc on us, we may not be able to stop them, and have no choice but to deal with it as it happens. They may say nasty things about us, make up stories that demean or disparage us, or try to alienate our friends and family. It’s upsetting to go through and even if we try to extricate ourselves from their focus, until they are ready to let us go, we may suffer. There is no way to know their motivations for causing others pain. Some people are unhappy and angry, and because misery loves company, instead of facing their problems and finding solutions to move forward, they may exercise their control by making those around them miserable. It’s a very uncomfortable situation to be in. We’re all accountable for the choices we make. Although we can’t stop anyone from hurting us, we can choose well ourselves. We can set the bar high by focusing on what is good and right, and continuing forward with honesty and integrity. Truth always rises and whatever negative things are said about us, or what is done to us, it will be offset by the excellent example we set.

When someone is hateful, it’s tempting to return back to them the same treatment. Fair is fair, right? Unfortunately, bowing down to their level to get back at them only proves we can be as low as they are. It’s easy to do and say nasty things, and it’s easy to be vengeful and mean. But choosing the better path and staying true to our high personal standards expresses our authenticity and gives us power. We can continue forward with confidence that truth will prevail and we will overcome.

It’s hard to fight a liar. If we try to expose their deception, they will simply lie again. One lie leads to another and we may be swept away as they create their own reality. We can remain still and stand strong despite the whirlwind of fiction surrounding us. We don’t need to defend ourselves when truth is on our side. We can be polite and firm, and confident and resilient, as we navigate our way through. Nothing can keep us from the values we set for ourselves, and we can be sure when we choose the right, in the end we will prevail.

Today if you’ve gotten tangled up with someone who is determined to undermine you through dishonesty and bad behavior, remember who you are. You have enough power to stand firm even in conflict. Hold fast to your excellent standards and set the bar high. Your virtue will overcome any falsehood or treachery. You are amazing and valiant, and nothing can hold you down.

The Missing Piece

7 Feb

It’s disappointing to do a jigsaw puzzle and get to the end only to discover we’ve lost a piece. Every piece is in place except one. No matter how many pieces fit into the design the last one missing ruins the picture. There’s a hole glaring at us that can’t be filled. It’s obvious and undeniable. In our lives there may be times when we feel insignificant, or that somehow, we don’t count or don’t matter. It can be hard to feel important, especially if we’re in a group of outspoken and powerful people. If we’re quiet and timid, we may drift into the background and all but disappear. But each of us is unique and offer gifts to the world nobody else can offer. Our lives matter, and are important. Each of us is like a piece of the puzzle. We’re all needed. If even one is missing, there will be a loss. Our voices are critical to the entire piece and even if they’re soft, we need to hear them. The world is huge, and can be overwhelming. There are billions of people, and we might feel there’s no way we could possibly make a difference. But each time we extend ourselves to help someone else, each time we speak up, and each time we step forward, we change the world around us. Like a pebble in a pond, our actions extend far beyond where we are and make the world a better place. Everything we do changes something. We can participate, be confident and share our thoughts and opinions. The world needs our ideas and we are integral to everything that’s happening. We can be confident we matter and remember our importance each day.

Every choice we make has a result. If we are kind and approachable, those around us will be more open and welcoming than if we are rude and aloof. A sealed box hides what’s inside until we open it. If we shut ourselves off from those around us, they will never know who we are or what we can offer. However, if we’re open and receptive to letting others in, we can build a great network of personal connections that can embellish and enhance our lives. We have so much to offer. Allowing others to share it will bring us satisfaction and happiness.

Small gestures of kindness and support can bring great results. A reassuring smile can help someone through a difficult day. If our attitude is one of friendship and understanding, we can bring great benefit to our lives and to those around us. Others will learn they can rely on us when they feel unsure and we’ll build a feeling of companionship and support. We’re all connected more deeply than we realize. We can be the one piece that turns everything around toward a happier and more complete result.

Today if you feel you’re insignificant and don’t count, remember your voice is a piece of the great puzzle. You are important and valued, and we all need you. Nobody can give the gifts you possess. Your voice is important and we want to hear it. You bring a unique and valuable perspective. Speak up and let us know who you are. The whole world is blessed because you are here.

Starting Again

5 Feb

People are complex beings, filled with all kinds of different ideas, perceptions and emotions. We interpret our experiences through what we’ve already seen and done, and many times, we’ll have an expectation of how things will evolve and what will happen. Things they might actually go the way we think they will, but sometimes unexpected developments turn everything upside down and we are caught unaware and unprepared. Maybe we had no control over how things played out or we didn’t understand the entire situation, or misunderstood something important. A thousand things can go sideways at any time and if we end up somewhere we had no intention of going, or find ourselves in a situation we don’t want, we may struggle to find our way again. We only have control over ourselves and the decisions we make. Everything else is out of our hands. Even if we’ve chosen well, the decisions of others may alter our course and cause disruption in our plans. There are many roads to every destination, and if the road we’re on isn’t working we can step aside and try something else. If we aren’t happy with the direction we’re traveling or where we’re headed, we can turn and start again. We can change anything necessary to create a situation that works best for us. We’re always in control of our lives and we know what we want. We can do anything and go anywhere we desire. There are endless possible options always available and we need only decide how we want to proceed. No road is a permanent destination and nothing can stop us from having the lives we dream about. Everything is possible and we can achieve anything we desire.

A lack of control over our lives can lead to depression and sadness. We may be in a situation where someone else is telling us what we should do and where we should go. If they are powerful and demanding, we may simply follow their lead and obey their direction. If we do, we will end up with the lives they design and desire. We are all unique and deserve to live our lives in ways that bring us complete fulfillment and happiness. It’s impossible to find satisfaction living someone else’s life. Our dreams and desires are important and valuable. We can stand strong and choose to live the lives we want the most.

Our choices make us who we are. Each decision takes us somewhere and teaches us something. If we aren’t happy or feel unsettled, we can change course and start again. We have unlimited opportunities to try something new. We can always move in a new direction that will bring us satisfaction and happiness. Life is filled with possibilities and we can do anything. All our dreams are possible and by taking control and choosing the way forward we can make them real.

Today if you don’t like the road you’re on and want something more, turn in a new direction that takes you toward your dreams. Look ahead and decide what you want. Nothing is too far for you to reach and every destination is possible. You deserve complete happiness. Step forward and start again on the road that will take you to it.

Mirror Mirror

30 Jan

The world is full of illusions.  Things may look one way when in fact they may be something entirely different.  Often this is done purposefully to entice us to do something, buy something or go somewhere.  It’s like a big sales convention.  Everywhere we turn we see pictures that have been altered to look better than they are, and we are bombarded with suggestions and promptings to do things others are promoting.  It’s sometimes difficult to discern actual truth when there is so much deception all around.  In our personal lives if we feel we should be one way or another in order to please others or move forward, we may begin to pretend we actually possess attributes we don’t have.  We may tell others we can do things we don’t know how to do, recreate our personal history to reflect what someone else wants to hear, or in other ways fake our way through.  All of that might work for a while, but truth is powerful and will always rise.  When we look in the mirror we see ourselves as we are.  Accepting ourselves exactly as we are now will help us clearly decide how we want to move forward.  We don’t have to pretend to be anything.  We don’t have to look like or act like anyone else to get ahead.  We can be genuine and true to the attributes we possess.  If we want to change, we can do what is needed to get there and move forward with confidence.  Illusions may be pretty, and they may captivate us, but they aren’t real.  Deciding to be honest about ourselves and truthful in all our interactions will give us the confidence and power we need to do anything we desire.

If we’re unhappy, we can bemoan our situation and spend all our time dreaming of how things could be.  Wishing and hoping for change is a waste of time, and sitting around waiting for something to happen that will turn our course toward the goals we want is foolish.  If we want the lives we’re dreaming of we must define what is needed to make it happen and then actively pursue it.  Our lives are our responsibility.  We’re always in control of our decisions and what we do going forward.  Every dream is possible and if we’re determined and focused, we can achieve the lives we want the most.

Nobody is perfect and there may be times when we feel disappointed in something we’ve done in the past.  Carrying around disappointments that are behind us can hold us back and keep us from happiness.  We can learn everything possible from the experience and take the lessons forward to help us make better choices.  Life is a continual process of learning.  We can make excellent choices going forward and find the success we seek.

Today if you’ve been pretending to be something you aren’t in an effort to move ahead, remember you are worthwhile and valuable just as you are.  Trust yourself and be confident.  We need your influence and there is nobody else like you.  You are amazing and have gifts nobody else can offer.  Share them with us and the whole world will benefit.  There is great success ahead and you will reach it.

Doubt

24 Jan

When we’re children we might imagine being a grown up as a great adventure filled with all sorts of freedom and privileges. As we age and mature, we begin to understand how life works and each day teaches us something new. As we navigate all the ins and outs of each situation, we gain skills that help us move forward toward the successes we desire. We learn valuable lessons and gain confidence as we make good, strong decisions and find our way. Sometimes things go well and other times things go wrong and we struggle to figure out our next steps. If we’ve had to face many difficulties or have suffered a serious failure, we may doubt we can live well and find happiness. We may believe we’ll never find our footing or the right road ahead, and that we’re doomed to a life filled with stress and despair. While it’s true we can’t control most of what happens, we are always in control of our decisions and outlook. If we’re convinced we will fail, no matter what we do, the chances of success are diminished. We can create our own self-fulfilling prophecy. There is always the chance we’ll falter in any situation, but there is also always the chance we will prevail. Doubt is only a feeling of uncertainty and we can acknowledge it and then set it aside and trust ourselves to get through. We can push forward with determination, and any failure we may experience will be diminished by our personal self-confidence. Everyone has doubt from time to time but we need not give it power over our decisions. We can do anything we desire and nothing can hold us in place. Every goal is possible and with confidence and certainty we can achieve anything.

There is no way to guess what life will bring us. Change is constant and no matter what we’re experiencing today, chances are it will be different tomorrow. We may face situations so daunting we don’t feel we can manage them. They seem too hard to look at and we may feel sure we can’t survive. But deep within we have incredible resources of strength and courage, and regardless of what comes have everything we need to endure and overcome. We are stronger and more resilient than we may realize and can do whatever is necessary to manage anything that comes.

Sometimes we may choose to do something that others around us doubt we can achieve. They may try to dissuade us from the journey, telling us it’s too hard, too long or not worth the effort. We can always listen to any advice we like, but our choices are ours to make and approval isn’t necessary. We can design our lives and create them any way we like. We can do anything we desire and push ourselves toward any goal. We have everything we need to be successful and can reach any destination with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’re facing a difficult situation and aren’t sure you can manage it, remember how strong you are and trust yourself to find the answers. You already have everything you need to succeed. Pull courage from within and stand strong. Every goal is possible and nothing is too difficult. Be confident and step forward. All the doors will open and you will succeed.