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Choosing the Ending

17 Aug

There is a popular children’s book series where there are several different endings to the stories.  After reading the basic story in the book, the reader can choose the ending they want from a few at the end.  It’s a great and creative idea that allows us to imagine how it would be if we could decide how things end up.  In our lives it would be wonderful – amazing even – if we could decide where our decisions would take us and design how everything would come together.  We could do the things we wanted without concern for the result because we could always change the ending if we didn’t like where we landed.  But life is reality, and we have all the freedom and power to make any decisions we like but no control over where those decisions take us.  Sometimes everything works out exactly as we hope and other times we may end up in a place that is nowhere we want to be.  There is no way to predict the future and all we can do is look at the options available and make the best choices possible.  Life will take us places we never dream we will go and sometimes we may end up somewhere that isn’t comfortable or easy.  We don’t have to stay anywhere forever and always have the power to change our situations, whatever they may be.  If we land in foreign territory and don’t like the scenery or the players involved, we can move.  Although we can’t control everything, we can always control our own lives.  We can change our location, our relationships, our job, or anything else that isn’t working.  We deserve complete happiness and can do whatever we need to achieve it.

There are all kinds of opinions about life and how we should be living.  We can listen to all the advice we’re given and decide how much of it we want to take, if any.  Some people have very strong ideas about how things should go and if we’re different from them they may try to persuade us to change our ways.  We are responsible for our own lives and can follow their example if we like, or continue to do things our own way.  We know what we want and who we want to be.  Our expressions are ours alone and never have to mimic anyone else.  The unique gifts we bring are ours to offer and enhance the world in ways nobody else could.

When we make decisions that take us far from where we thought we were headed we can choose to go back and start again, or investigate our new situation and see what it brings.  Change offers us new insights and a wider vision of our world.  Foreign territory may be intimidating at first but we can learn about it and make it ours.  There are countless roads to explore and endless locations to find.  If we end up someplace new, instead of running back to home plate, we can see what the new landscape offers us.  There are great blessings just waiting to be discovered and we can be confident and sure we will find them.

Today if a choice you made took you somewhere you had no intention of going, before you retreat, take a look around.  You may find great pleasure and unexpected benefits as you get to know something new.  The world is filled with possibilities and they are all open to you.  Be confident and open all the doors.  There are blessings waiting for you.

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Try

19 Jul

There are unlimited things we can do in life.  The chance to try something new is ever present and there is no end to the different experiences we can have.  There are always new places to visit, people to meet, and things to see.  We can open new doors every single day and never exhaust them.  Trying new things and going to new places takes us away from where we are.  If we are timid and unsure of things we don’t know we may choose to stay in place.  There is nothing wrong with having a small life, if a small life is what we really want.  But we can gain a broader perspective and a deeper understanding of our lives if we step out and try something new.  It’s impossible to have fresh, invigorating and enriching experiences if we restrict ourselves to the same routine every day.  While new people will surely come in and out of our lives and we will see new things simply by going through the motions, our sphere of influence will be smaller than if we reached beyond what we know.  It may feel safe and secure to keep things the same but we don’t know what we could accomplish until we try.  There is greatness is all of us but unless we push beyond what is comfortable we may not fully grasp it.  Life is an incredible blessing filled with endless possibilities.  Being open to new experiences and pushing beyond our comfort zone will enrich us in ways we can’t possibly imagine.  Being comfortable is important but we can stretch further and make what is foreign ours.  There are unlimited things to try, endless places to see, and more opportunity than we can imagine.  The whole world is there for us.  We need only step out a little further and open the doors.

It’s common to be unsure of what we don’t know.  If we’ve never done something we don’t know how it will go or what will happen.  We might stumble, or fall flat on our faces.  We might make a wrong turn and get lost for a time.  We might not be able to succeed the first time we try.  Lots of things could go wrong, but lots of things could also go right.  Even if it’s hard and we lose our way, we will find it again.  Even if we fall, we can get right back up.  Fear only has the power we give it.  We can push forward and be confident in our ability to manage any complication that comes as we strive for more.

When we try something new we might succeed the first time out.  Beginner’s luck may be our friend a time or two but often we may face setbacks and will have to find our way step by step as we go.  New roads are unknown and we may not be sure what lies beyond the next bend.  But if we are determined to get to the goal we can push forward and find our way.  New experiences teach us new things and deepen our understanding of life.  They bring us refreshment and satisfaction.  We can try anything and succeed.  The possibilities are endless.

Today if you’ve been afraid to reach beyond what you know, be confident.  You are stronger and smarter than you think you are and there isn’t anything you can’t do.  Trust yourself.  Open a new door and pursue your dreams.  They are there waiting for you.  Step out.  Reach further.  Everything is possible and you will succeed.

Ghosts

18 Jul

Our lives are a compilation of all our experiences, and we become who we are as we learn going through everything that happens.  Sometimes it’s easy and there is sunshine and cake, but other times the clouds roll in and we get caught in a mire of difficulty, confusion and trouble.  There is no predicting what will happen next and what’s in the past is tattooed on our history forever.  There may be times when something painful from before returns and demands our attention.  Lots of things can go wrong and remembering a bad experience can bring all the painful feelings back in an instant.  Doubt, sorrow, grief, and despair may revisit us and remind us of what we thought we’d left behind.  As we remember what happened and how we felt we may review again and again our actions and try to figure out what went wrong.  There is no way to change the past and if we’ve been hurt, the ghosts of the memory may come again and again until we finally let them go.  There is no way to move forward and hold onto the past at the same time.  When we’re ready we can look at everything clearly, accept that our lives have changed, set the heartache down, and walk away.  Letting go doesn’t mean we have to forget what we’ve learned.  We can carry the lessons forward with us to help us navigate the future and deepen our understanding of life.  We deserve complete happiness and allowing ourselves to leave pain behind and move forward will bring it.

Every problem has a solution but there may be times when the only way to end a problem is to change course.  We can leave a bad relationship that brings us pain and suffering, a job that is unfulfilling or demeaning, or a connection with someone that is destructive.  Once we identify what the problem is we can begin to find the answers we need to address it.  If the answer requires a big change in our lives it will take determination and courage to bring it about.  It doesn’t matter how hard it is to resolve any issue.  We have all the courage and strength we need to do whatever is necessary to correct our course and find happiness.

Everything we experience becomes part of who we are and goes forward with us forever.  How we manage the memories is up to us.  There is no need to go back and dissect every action, every word, or every outcome.  We are not perfect and when we look back there will be things we wish we could change.  But the past is behind us and cannot be altered.  There is no need to carry every disappointment forward.  We can learn everything possible from the experience and continue on with confidence.

Today if there are ghosts from the past reminding you of things that went wrong, be confident and let them go.  What’s behind you is gone and will not return.  Take everything you’ve learned going forward and continue toward your dreams.  You are incredible and wise, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Everything is possible and you will reach every goal you desire.  Nothing can keep you from success.

Adjusting the Compass

17 Jul

We share the world with billions of other people.  There are often people around us and their influence is continually present.  We hear what they say, we see what they do and each interaction, no matter how benign, will impact us in some way.  We all have ideas about what is right and wrong and how we want to live our lives.  If we are surrounded by others whose ideas are far different from ours, as we engage with them we may find we begin to adopt their behaviors and practices.  We are always changing and everything we see and do alters our patterns in some way.  Our personal compass points where we direct it.  We decide what kind of people we will be, where we’ll go, and what we’ll do.  If we keep our compass pointed in the direction we most want to proceed we will find satisfaction in reaching our goals.  However, the influence of others and things that happen around us may bump the needle toward something we didn’t plan on and if we simply follow along we may find we end up somewhere we never intended to go.  We are always in control of our lives and if we find we’re walking away from the road we desire most we can turn around and change direction.  There is a lot of noise in the world, but if we pay attention to what we’re doing and watch where we’re going we will stay true to the course we want to travel.  With diligence and preparation success is always possible.  We can accomplish anything we desire by adjusting our compass when needed and continuing forward with confidence.

Charismatic people are very influential.  It’s easy to get caught up and lose our direction when they want something from us.  They may try to persuade us to follow them and it may be hard to turn them down.  If we go forward with them we may be pulled away from the path that takes us to the personal goals we’ve set.  Our compass may be modified or stop working altogether.  Following someone else will take us places but they will always be places others have chosen.  If we want to achieve the things we want the most we must choose the road specific to our dreams.  We can do anything and by directing our lives we will reach every goal we desire.

When we’ve been pursuing a destination for a while and have had to overcome many obstacles to continue forward, it’s natural to get tired.  Sometimes the shine of the goal fades in the struggle to push forward.  There is no rush to reach our objectives.  We can rest and regroup at any time.  If we need refreshment we can take it.  Our dreams will always be there for us and when we’re ready to start again, the road will be waiting.  We can do anything we desire.  No achievement is too difficult or too far to reach.  By adjusting our compass and staying true to the way forward we can go anywhere.

Today if you’ve gotten caught up in something that’s taken you off course, step back and focus on what you want the most.  You know the way forward.  Turn your course toward the dreams you desire and start again.  Every goal is possible and you will prevail.  The road is waiting for you and you will succeed.

Beyond the Limit

11 Jul

“The sky is falling! The sky is falling!”  Chicken Little

We may face times when we’re in situations that are so difficult we feel pushed up against our ability to cope.  We may struggle to understand what’s going on and what is required for us to solve the problem may be more than we think we can manage or tolerate.  Serious, complicated and intensely painful issues are not easy to navigate.  Everyone has an idea of what their limits are for things that go wrong.  Terrible and unexpected things may happen and we may believe we can never survive.  We may suffer greatly but no matter what comes, no matter how horrible and devastating it may be, we will always have everything we need to overcome it.  Our personal limits can be stretched and moved out of the way and we can find resolution to anything we must face.  We have deeper reserves of strength and resilience than we may recognize and we discover them when everything goes wrong and we are left with nothing but our own resources to find the way through.  Turmoil and trouble may be unpleasant but they open the gates to greater understanding and personal growth.  While we’re walking through the fire we learn about ourselves and understand more about life.  At the end of the trial we will be stronger and wiser and will carry everything we’ve learned forward with us.  Trouble comes to us all.  Recognizing and accepting that we’ll always find our way will give us greater confidence and calm as we travel through our lives.

Life is filled with change but there are some things we can always count on.  The sky will never fall, the sun will come up, and whatever we’re going through today will change.  The changes that come aren’t always what we want and there will be times we won’t be able to alter a situation we don’t like.  We may have to change direction when we don’t want to, or accept a decision we find disagreeable.  When the road we’re on turns we can be flexible enough to bend and find a new way forward.  Even during times of disappointment and duress, happiness is possible.  We are always in control of our lives and can change anything to find our way.

We always have control over how we manage our lives and what we do.  When things go wrong and we’re lost we don’t have to sit down and give up.  There will always be options available that allow us to continue moving ahead.  Being open to new ideas and different possibilities will help us create a new plan and reach our objectives.  We are strong and powerful and nothing is too difficult to manage or too complex to solve.  We can be confident in times of trouble and courageous moving forward.  Our destinations will always be there waiting and we will find our way to them.

Today if you’re facing an extremely difficult problem and feel pushed against the wall unable to think, trust your instincts and be strong.  You have reserves ready within you to get you through.  There isn’t anything you can’t conquer.  Be courageous and have confidence.  All the answers are there and you will find them.  Take another step.

Waiting for a Sign

10 Jul

When we’re trying to find our way forward and aren’t sure which road to choose, and there are a lot of variables and decisions to be made, we may feel daunted and overwhelmed at the task. It can be hard to make decisions when there are a lot of possible good choices and if we’re confused and unsure we may hope for a sign to point the way. Signs are helpful and we use them every day to guide us and give us the direction we need to move forward safely and in the right direction. They are often easy to understand and help us navigate difficult passages. When we’re unsure in our personal decisions we may wish for a clear and obvious sign that points us toward where we want to go and gives us the information we need to find success. We can wish for a sign that tells us what to do and hope it will come but it’s unlikely to happen. If we take the time to think about our decisions and rely on our personal experiences and wisdom to guide us we will find the best way forward. We already have all the tools we need to make the best choices going forward. We have all the signs we need inside us. There is no need to wish for answers – we can find them on our own. We are capable of making excellent decisions. There isn’t anything we can’t figure out and everything we need is available. We can be confident and brave moving forward and choose the best roads to take us to any destination we desire.

Life is all about cause and effect. Things always happen for a reason but the reason may not be what we imagine. When something changes that seems to be pointing us in a new direction, before we change course, we can take the time to look at the situation objectively and ensure it will take us where we really want to go. There is no pre-destination at play. We make all our decisions independently and choose the paths we want to travel. Every road will take us somewhere and there are endless possibilities before us. We need only decide where we want to go and then take the first step forward.

When we’re in difficult and challenging situations it would be great if someone came along at just the right moment to tell us exactly what to do to reach success. That might happen at some point but generally we must find our own way forward. There is no need to be intimidated even if the decisions before us are hard and far reaching. We have everything we need to evaluate any circumstance and choose the best way forward. We are intelligent, strong and capable of making the best choices. All the answers are there for us and we will find them.

Today if you’re facing a big decision and wish there was some sign to point the way, remember all the good decisions you’ve already made and trust yourself to choose wisely. You know what you want and where you want to go. Look ahead and decide on the best road forward. Every success is there for you. Take the first step. You know the way and you will reach the destination.

Step Two

6 Jul

There are all kinds of scenarios we envision for our lives and many different things we want to do and experience.  We can work hard toward our goals and with determination and persistence may achieve many of them.  There will be times when things don’t go the way we planned and what we thought we’d gain escapes us.  There are countless factors always involved in every decision we make and most of them are out of our control.  When we get stopped and everything we thought would work out has crashed and burned, we may get stuck at step one of our plan.  We can redirect our path forward and decide if the original goal is still worth the effort or if we want to let it go and move on to something else.  We can always roll over and give up when the going gets tough.  We’re in charge of our lives and can change anything we like at any time.  But if we still want to push forward toward the destination we’ll have to create a new plan and begin again.  There is always more than one way to accomplish any goal.  If our first attempt doesn’t work, we can try again.  If that fails, we can create yet another plan and can continue until we find the path that takes us all the way there.  Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we want to do.  We only need to decide exactly what that is.  Everything is possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to succeed.  If one road doesn’t work we can choose another.  There are unlimited possibilities and nothing can keep us from success.

We never have to stay in a situation we don’t want.  It doesn’t matter what others are doing around us, it doesn’t matter what is expected or how things usually go.  We can live our lives any way we choose and if we don’t like where we are, we can move.  We can leave relationships that are unfulfilling or that don’t make us happy.  We can move from locations that don’t offer us the opportunities we desire.  We are always in control of our lives and if we want something different we can get it.  Complete happiness is possible and by directing our lives toward the things we want the most, we will find it.

It’s easy to go along with the routines we’ve established even if we’re unhappy.  There is comfort in knowing what to expect and it takes courage to reach for something more.  But we have sufficient courage to step away from where we are and strive for the lives we most desire.  Every dream is possible and we can begin moving toward them whenever we’re ready.  The whole world is there for us and nothing is too far or too difficult to reach.  We need only take the next step forward and start on the road that will take us where we want to go.  All roads are open and waiting.  The possibilities are endless and we can achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’re stuck and want a change, look ahead and decide what you want the most.  You can have the life you dream about.  You can make your dreams come true.  Take the next step forward toward the destination you desire.  Every opportunity is possible and nothing is out of reach.  Make your dreams come true and find the happiness you deserve.