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Small Things

25 Apr

We make countless decisions as we navigate through our days.  Many of them are trivial and have no lasting impact on our lives, but some have far reaching consequences.  Sometimes the simplest, seemingly innocent choices can turn our lives toward something we don’t want and never planned on.  There is no way to read the future and many things are out of our control.  If we don’t pay attention we may choose quickly and move on only to end up with complications we never wanted and aren’t prepared for.  Small things may combine to become big issues and before we know it we’re tangled up in ways we never imagined.  It’s easy to coast through our lives and ignore cues that something may change.  We’re busy and sometimes don’t take time to review all the facts before we move forward.  Rushing through in order to move on in a hurry may work against us.  It does no good to do something quickly if it results in a situation that takes time to clean up.  We are capable of making excellent decisions but they require thought and preparation.  We are responsible for every decision we make and we can take a moment to look ahead and do our best to ensure we are choosing well.  We can’t blame a negative choice on those around us, bad timing, or any other convenient excuse.  We own it.  If we’ve chosen poorly and now have a mess to deal with we can face it head on, do what is needed to correct our course, and continue forward.  We can have any kind of life we desire and our choices are what create it for us.  We are wise enough to choose well and make decisions that take us where we want to go.

When things go wrong because of something we’ve done it’s easy to shift the blame.  We can say we were influenced by others around us, were having a bad day, or didn’t have all the facts before we decided.  All of these things may be true but we are the only ones responsible for the choices we make.  We have enough wisdom and patience to see any situation clearly.  We know how to make good decisions and when we do the chances of things going our way are increased.

There will be times when we’re not sure of the road ahead but if we make the best choice possible we will be able to manage any complication that arises.  Confidence comes over time as we make choices that bring us the results we’re seeking.  There isn’t anything we can do and do well.  We can trust ourselves to choose wisely and fearlessly move forward toward our goals.  Complications may come but we have everything we need to untangle any problem we must face.  We can move forward with courage and make excellent choices.  When we do, all our dreams can come true.

Today if you’re tangled up because of a choice you’ve made, take your time and see everything clearly.  You know how to correct your course and you will find the way forward.  You are amazing and strong.  Think about your next step and choose the road that will take you to your goal.  Nothing is too far away for you to reach.  All options are possible.  See the way ahead and move forward confidently.  You are wise and capable and all your dreams are there for you.

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Getting It Back

11 Apr

There are all kinds of people in the world.  Some are nice, helpful and polite, and when we deal with them things often go well.  But there are opposites in everything and some people we run into may be mean spirited and cruel.  They may do things that hurt us, demean us, or in other ways make us feel bad about ourselves and our lives.  If they are forceful and powerful we may shrink every time we interact with them.  It’s difficult to be around mean people who are rude and hateful and as we deal with them, we may feel our confidence slipping away.  If they continually insult us or make snide remarks to us or about us we may begin to feel insecure and find our resolve weakening.  We all have the right to choose anything we like and some people will choose badly.  When they come into our lives they may bring us hardship and grief.  When we begin to feel the effects of their negative influence we may try to simply deal with it or ignore it and continue on, but we have the power and the right to stand up for ourselves.  We need not allow anyone to demean us or criticize us without responding.  If we’ve lost our confidence, we can get it back.  We can stand strong in the face of ignoble behavior and refuse to allow it to compromise us.  If someone says something derogatory to us, we can state clearly that we will not tolerate comments that hurt or demean us.  There is great power is speaking up and we can claim it.  We are strong and capable and need not allow others to run us down.  Our gifts to the world are unique and we are precious and valuable.  Remembering our personal self-worth will help us face any difficulty or challenge in our lives.  We can stand strong, reclaim any confidence we’ve lost, and continue forward with strength and determination.

Diminishing others may make some feel more powerful and influential, but this kind of behavior is destructive and there is nothing of value to be gained by demeaning others.  Each individual brings something the world needs and when we honor them instead of ridicule them we are embellished and gratified.  When we reach out with charity and benevolence, we enhance goodness in those around us and raise them up.  We choose the type of influence we bring to the world and when we choose wisely, everyone benefits.

No influence is more powerful than kindness and charity.  Everything we do brings something into our lives.  If we lie, we lose the trust of those around us.  If we cheat, we lose our integrity.  If we criticize and demean, we lose our connections to others.    We can be noble and virtuous and choose paths that will bring us peace and each choice we makes tells the world who we are.

Today if you feel bad because of something someone has said or done and have lost your confidence, remember who you are and do what is needed to get it back.  You have so much to offer.  You are incredible and amazing, and the whole world is blessed because you are here.  Be strong and sure.  You have everything you need to succeed and nothing will hold you down.

Calm Waters

9 Apr

Sometimes our lives get complicated and things go wrong.  There’s always a lot going on around us, people coming and going in and out of our lives, and endless situations we have no control over.  We may get tangled up and twisted around when situations arise that are intense and complex, and finding the way out may elude us for a time.  When we are beset by problems and issues we may be stressed and worried about how to get through.  It may be hard to concentrate and we may be unable to rest thinking about everything we must face.  Outside issues will always be a factor in our lives.  We can only control what we choose and what we do.  The rest is up for grabs and what comes, comes.  When we’re in acute situations that test our patience and understanding it can be hard to find peace.  But what happens on the outside of our lives need not disrupt our calm within.  We can have faith in every instance that no matter what is going on, and no matter how intense the issue is, we will find the answers we need.  We can trust our wisdom and ability to find the way forward and when we do we will find comfort.  Above every dark storm, the sun is still shining, and no problem lasts forever.  When we’re in the midst of turmoil we can hold fast to calm waters within and find the way.  We are stronger and more capable than we realize.  We can find the answer to any problem and navigate any complication with grace and patience.  We have everything we need to find our way forward.  Success is always there for us and we can trust ourselves to find it.

We all hope for the best in every situation but sometimes the worst scenario we imagined may actually happen.  We may be stunned and stopped in our tracks if everything goes wrong, but we will only be held down for a moment.  There are answers all around us and we are perfectly capable of finding them.  No matter how extreme or dire the situation, we have everything we need to overcome it.  There isn’t anything strong enough to keep us from our dreams and goals.  We can find the answers we need in every instance and continue forward with confidence.

When things go wrong and we find ourselves in foreign territory, if we’ve been trying to get through for a while and still can’t move forward, we may believe we will stuck there forever.  That will never happen.  Life is all about change.  Nothing can stay the same indefinitely, and everything we are experiencing now will be different going forward.  It may take time for the situation to adjust and we may have to be patient as we work through it, but we have everything we need to succeed and will find our way.  There is no road too complex for us to navigate and every door will eventually open.

Today if you’re stressed over something you’re going through and feel upset and worried, remember how strong you are and trust in your ability to overcome.  There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well.  You are amazing and capable of managing anything that comes.  Be confident and step forward.  This is just a complex moment and you will find the way forward.  All your dreams are there for you.  Keep moving ahead and you’ll reach them.

Uncharted and Unknown

2 Apr

Life is filled with change and opportunity.  Each day brings us something new to discover and navigate.  Often we take these experiences in stride and continue on without much thought, but sometimes our lives turn dramatically and we may find ourselves in uncharted territory.  Maybe our job changes suddenly, or an unexpected death impacts us, or a close relationship ends without warning.  There are countless things that happen every day and sometimes they move us away from where we are into the unknown.  When what was familiar and expected no longer exists we may feel like the world has turned upside down and struggle to find the way forward.  We may feel frozen in time as we try to comprehend where we are and what to do next.  It’s uncomfortable when the road we were on disappears and it can be hard to decide which way to turn.  There are countless ways forward but deciding which one to choose may take some time.  We don’t need to rush forward all at once.  We can take a moment to see all the options before us, evaluate where we want to go and then decide how to get there.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and we can move forward with confidence we will find our way.  Nothing is permanent and if our first choice doesn’t work, we can choose again.  There are limitless possibilities before us and as we move forward we will gain strength and knowledge to help us reach our destination.  Life is all about change and nobody knows what will come.  But whatever happens, no matter how great the impact on our lives, we have everything we need to find our way.  We are stronger than we realize and nothing can hold us down.

Our personal relationships are important and if they change suddenly we may feel disoriented.  Breakups happen and even if we want them, can be difficult to manage.  If someone we love suddenly leaves us it may be extremely hard to get through and take a long time before we are able to let it go.  But every breakup brings with it the opportunity to start again.  When we’re ready we can chart a new course.  Life is filled with opportunity and even when we’re unsure, those opportunities are there for us.  Every road is possible and we will find success.

Death is the one experience we all share.  Nobody knows when their time on earth will end.  When someone close to us dies suddenly we may struggle feeling unsettled and unsure.  Everything may feel foreign as we try to navigate through all the changes.  Even when we aren’t sure, we can be trust in our ability to find the way forward.  We are strong and capable and even in the unknown we can find our way.  There will always be another step forward.  We can be confident that no difficulty will last forever.  Happiness will return and we will prevail.

Today if you feel like you’re suddenly in foreign territory and aren’t sure of the way forward, trust yourself.  You’ve navigated strange roads before and found success.  You are strong and wise and will find your way.  There isn’t anything you can’t manage.  Every step forward will take you closer to happiness.  Be confident.  You will prevail.

Steering

29 Mar

Life is filled with unlimited possibilities. There are countless roads we can travel and nothing is out of reach if we are determined to get there. Each decision we make alters our course a little and if we carefully consider the destination we want to reach we can steer our lives toward it and find success. But life is complicated and there are all kinds of people coming in and out of our daily experiences. Each one brings their own interpretations about the road ahead and we may be influenced by their impressions and opinions. We may get caught up in someone else’s goals and instead of staying on our own course, follow them. Their path may be on the same trajectory as the road we want to travel or it may take us far away from where we really want to go. When we admire someone or they have power over us in some way their influence may pull us away from our personal goals. We can follow anyone we desire but if we forsake the road we most want to travel we will not reach our destination. We are the ones driving the train in our lives. We own every decision we make. If we steer our course away from where we want to go we are responsible for where we end up. We can’t blame anyone for the choices we make. If we find ourselves somewhere we never intended to go, we can go back and re-route our course. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we desire. Happiness comes from traveling the roads that take us to the destinations we want the most. It’s all up to us. There is nothing out of reach and we can go anywhere but we have to be in control to get there.

Lots of people may have opinions about our lives and what we should do. They may tell us they know how we can find success or give us directions that worked for them. They may have good advice for us but we are the only ones who know what we truly want. We can listen to everything we receive and make decisions based on what we want most. What is right for someone else may not fit our true desires.   Every decision we make will take us somewhere. We have everything we need to choose the roads that will lead to the destination we want and find success.

There may be times when someone close to us tries to control the decisions we make. They may feel we aren’t do things as well as they could and try to help by taking over. We are in charge of our lives and we need never relinquish our power over where we go or what we do. We are capable of finding success in our own personal way. There isn’t a road we can’t travel and nothing is too far away. We can take our time and do things our way. We are capable of great success and nothing can keep us from it.

Today if you’ve been steering your course away from the road you really want to travel, change direction and correct the way forward. Every destination is there for you and you can do what is needed to reach it. Be confident in your decisions and trust your instincts. You know what you need and where you want to go. The whole world is there for you. You can do anything and nothing is too far to reach. Press forward and you will find success.

Chipping Away

20 Mar

It would be wonderful if everyone around us was supportive and kind. We could face each day knowing no matter what happened we could count on others for help. While many of us are helpful and willing to shoulder burdens with those around us, not everyone embraces that model. There are all kinds of expressions and some people are frankly rude and mean. Others are selfish and don’t care about anyone but themselves. If we’re in a situation with people like that we may feel stranded and alone. If we do something they don’t like they may ridicule and demean us. They may criticize and treat us with distain, and each exchange with them may chip away a little of our confidence. Continual exposure may leave us feeling insignificant and worthless. Everyone makes their own decisions and some people choose poorly. We can only control what we do and if we have to deal with those who hurt us, we may struggle to stand tall. It’s not easy to endure people who demean and it’s hard to remain confident near them, but we have all the strength and courage we need to stand strong. Those who want to chip away at others may do so, but we need not internalize their criticisms and judgements. We don’t have to accept anything that diminishes us and can simply let it slide away. It doesn’t matter why someone is being destructive, and it doesn’t matter what their objectives are for employing bad behavior. What matters is how we feel about ourselves. We know who we are and nothing anyone says can change that. We can stand tall, brush off any criticism, and continue forward with confidence. Our lives belong to us and we can choose to make the best choices as we push ahead.

If we’re in a situation with someone who makes a point of putting us down or hurting us, we can walk away. No matter what the relationship is, we don’t have to stay and endure personal attacks. We don’t have to fight back, and we don’t have to engage and defend ourselves. We can simply walk away. We can take control of the situation and take care of ourselves. We are courageous when we manage our actions effectively and protect our self-esteem.

If the decisions of others impact us negatively, we may do what is necessary to correct the situation. We may disengage our relationship with them, distance ourselves from their influence, and stand up and hold firm in response. We have so much to offer. We are good and strong, powerful and wise. We need never fall down under the criticism of anyone else. Our presence is a gift to the world and we can honor that and remember how valuable and precious we are.

Today if someone has demeaned you and made you feel small and unworthy, remember who you are. You are amazing and bring light and goodness to the world. We’re all blessed because you’re here. Stand up and stand tall. You are extraordinary and precious. Every success is possible and nothing will hold you back. Remember who you are and move forward with confidence.

Impending Doom

19 Mar

Life is unpredictable and sometimes things go wrong.  We may find ourselves thrown into a sudden tempest without warning and grasping for anything to bail us out.  There are many factors involved in every decision and we have no control over many of them.  We don’t know what decisions others are making, and there are countless complications that may arise without warning.  If we suddenly find we’re on foreign territory and nothing we expected is happening, we may feel impending doom is upon us and we will never succeed.  There may be desperation as we try to find our footing again and figure out how to proceed.  If there are black clouds looming over us and the situation feels oppressive, we may believe there is no way to get through.  We can always step back, sit down and give up, but if we do, the goal we wanted to achieve will never become reality.  Instead, we can dig deep and take the next step.  It might be dark, but above every black cloud the sun is still shining.  We can count on that and push forward until we reach it.  Few situations will go exactly as we plan them.  The road forward may be convoluted and twisted, and we may need to backtrack once or twice, but if we continue pushing ahead we will reach our goal.  Life is filled with complications and unexpected developments.  It doesn’t matter what happens on our journey.  If we want to reach the destination we can continue forward.  There isn’t anything out of reach.  We are strong and powerful and nothing can hold us in place.  Every single dream is possible if we are willing to continue in the face of adversity.  Our lives are precious and our potential is unlimited.  We can do anything and go anywhere.

There are many situations beyond our reach that may prevent us from doing something exactly the way we planned.  Complications and problems may hold us back but each brings with it the opportunity to stretch and reach beyond what is comfortable.  Strength comes from overcoming difficulties and wisdom is obtained when we find new ways to move forward.  All the complications we face teach us new ways to see the world and help us find success.  We are strong enough to face anything that comes and learn the lessons that will take us where we want to go.

When things go wrong again and again we may begin to believe we are cursed and doomed to a life of despair.  We all feel overwhelmed from time to time but in fact, nobody is cursed to a life of despair.  Sometimes it’s all about timing and we must wait for the right opportunity to arise.  Other times it’s about persistence and patience.  We have everything we need to be as successful as we desire.  Life is filled with opportunities and promise.  We can do anything, and nothing is strong enough to hold us back.

Today if everything you counted on has failed and you can’t see the way ahead, be confident.  There is always another road to any destination you desire.  Look at everything objectively, let go of despair and step forward again.  Every dream is possible.  There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish.  Try again.  You are amazing and strong, and nothing is out of reach.