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In the Weeds

20 Feb

As we live our lives we go through all kinds of struggles and complications, problems and difficulties, and sometimes it seems we will never succeed. We have dreams we want to work on, goals we want to achieve, and when there is a lot to untangle we may feel we’ll never get to them. It’s like trying to find the way through a complex and convoluted maze with blinders on, and can feel like the obstacles before us will never end. If we must push through a lot just to move forward a little we may become overwhelmed and tired, and feel we’ll never prevail. Even if we can see the road ahead, if we’re caught in the mire where we are, moving forward may seem like an impossible dream. As we tire of the struggle we may lose hope and give up. But there is always a clearing ahead. There is always a road in front of us. No matter how tangled we are, and no matter how thick the weeds become, if we continue to take another step forward we will reach it. It may take time to find it, and we may make a few wrong turns, but if we continue the road ahead will open for us. Every problem has a solution. There isn’t anything strong enough or convoluted enough to hold us in place forever. If we keep moving forward, if we keep pushing ahead, we will find all the answers we seek. Life can be hard, but we are strong and capable, and nothing is too difficult for us to manage. We have all the endurance we need to continue. We can be confident even when we fail, and courageous even when we stumble. Everything is there for us, and we have everything we need to succeed.

Sometimes the road ahead seems endlessly perplexing and continuously complicated. If we get overwhelmed, we may decide moving forward is impossible. There are a lot of factors involved in every decision and sometimes the goals we want to reach aren’t available to us when we want them. If we can’t move forward, if the weeds are too thick, we can set the goal aside for a time and return to it later when our circumstances have changed. Often success is about timing. We need never give up on anything we want to achieve, but we can step away until our situation modifies and we can move forward.

Success doesn’t always come with the first try. If we aren’t committed to the objective, the first time things go wrong we may give up and walk away. But if the goal is important we can do whatever it takes to achieve it. There is nothing too far out of reach or too difficult for us to understand. We can do anything we desire. We are wise enough to figure out any complication and strong enough to continue forward.

Today if you’re in the weeds and the road ahead is hard to find, decide how you want to proceed. You can reach any goal you choose if you are willing to do what is needed to get there. Decide on the way forward and proceed with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You are strong, wise, and powerful. Choose your next step. Success is always there for you. Nothing will stop you from reaching the goal.

 

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Going Through

16 Feb

As we go through our lives we experience many new things.  Some experiences are easy, make us happy and move us forward, and others are more difficult to navigate and may leave lasting scars.  If we’ve been through a very intense and unpleasant event, and we’ve been hurt deeply or our way forward has been completely altered, we may feel the pain for some time.  Everything we go through teaches us something, and not all lessons are positive.  When we’re overcoming a difficult passage and must find a new way forward, we may feel bruised and uncertain.  We may even begin to believe we will never succeed again, and choose to stand still and hold tight to what is familiar.  We can live our lives any way we like and there is always the option of staying in the same place.  But we are capable of achieving even our highest expectations and if we stand still we will never know how far we could go.  There is comfort in familiarity and if we’re recovering from something difficult, staying close to what we know may help us feel strong again.  But once we’re back on our feet and things have settled, we can start on a new road and begin once more.  Life is filled with opportunity and there is nothing we can’t do.  We can be courageous enough to let go of pain from the past and move forward with confidence.  The road is long and we have much to learn.  Walking forward and pushing ahead will help us become the people we really want to be.  We are stronger and braver than we realize.  There is nothing we can’t do.  We can move forward and overcome any obstacle.  Our lives belong to us and we will find happiness and success.

If we’ve been through a traumatic event and our lives have changed dramatically, it can feel like we’ve fallen into a deep well that is impossible to escape.  The only constant in life is change.  No matter where we are or what’s happening now, it will change.  There is no way to hold anything in place forever.  When it feels like everything is out of control and we are held down by pain or fear, we can step back and trust that soon things will be different.  We are capable of managing anything that comes to us.  Time will turn the tide, and we will find our footing again.

We cannot control what others do or what comes to us but we are always in control of our own lives.  Our decisions are always in our power and even if we feel lost we can make our own choices going forward.  There will always be another road to walk on, and another way to get where we want to go.  Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place or take our choices from us.  We can decide how we want to continue forward.  Success is always there for us and no matter where we are now, there is a road that will take us to it.

Today if you’ve been through a difficult passage and are holding yourself in place, remember how strong and capable you are.  There isn’t anything too complicated for you to overcome.  Your life belongs to you alone and you can make excellent decisions.  Look ahead and choose the road you want to travel.  Be confident and begin forward.  Everything you dream of is waiting for you and you will reach it.

Working Doubt

14 Feb

We all face difficult situations that make us doubt our ability to get through.  Doubt is simply a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction that something will work.  It’s a normal response when we face situations that are unknown or threatening in some way.  We can’t see what lies ahead and when we’re facing challenging issues we may feel unsure moving forward.  We may be convinced we cannot prevail and may worry about what will happen next.  We can effectively manage and address our doubts with hard work.  When we’re working hard and are actively engaged in something there is no time for worry.  We’re busy processing where we are and planning for our next move.  Fear gets pushed aside as we begin to plan our way forward and each step we take quiets any doubts we may have.  There is an old saying that when the going gets tough the tough get going.  If we begin moving forward when we are concerned, we will feel stronger and more in control.  Hard times come to us all.  We can try to hide from them, ignore them, and look the other way but they will persist until we address them.  Even if we don’t have enough confidence to feel comfortable, we can begin to work the problem and sort it out.  We can untangle all the details, and as we resolve each question our confidence will rise and the doubts we may have felt at the beginning will subside.  We are strong and capable, and possess all the wisdom we need to overcome anything that happens.  There isn’t anything too complicated or difficult for us to manage, and by working hard we can find our way through any problem.

The world is big and complex.  There are unlimited things that can happen and no way to predict what will come.  If we’ve been through several difficult challenges in a row we may start to doubt our ability to continue.  Sometimes things go wrong consecutively and when we’re tired from the struggle we may feel like giving up.  It’s hard to feel positive when we’re in a negative position.  But if our backs are against the wall we can be pushed no further.  If we’re on the bottom we can only move up.  We can reach deep within ourselves and find the strength and courage we need to continue one more time and work the problem.  We can push off the wall and stand up again.

They say the harder we fall the stronger we rise.  When obstacles before us are heavy and there is a lot to work through, we gain strength as we learn new lessons and find our way forward.  Overcoming each challenge teaches us something we can carry ahead with us, and pushes us to manage more effectively.  We can find the way around any barriers and prevail.  Hard lessons often bring great blessings.  We can be confident even when we doubt, and strong in our conviction that we will win.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation that is so complex you aren’t sure you will get through, trust yourself.  You’ve overcome hard times already and have everything you need to prevail.  Pull from the strength and courage you possess and move forward with confidence.  Nothing is too difficult for you to overcome.  Take control and start moving.  There is great success just ahead.

Avalanche

6 Feb

As we travel our journey through life there are countless turns, switchbacks, detours and times when we must re-route our way forward. There are rarely moments when the road ahead is paved, perfectly straight and without problems. We learn to navigate by adjusting our course as needed, and try to be as flexible as possible in order to get to the goal. Even if we do everything to plan well, sometimes things go awry and all our ideas get stopped in their tracks. It can feel like a huge avalanche has fallen on the road ahead and there is no way around it. We may stop and wait until the road is cleared but there are always other options available. We can sit and watch while others sort out the mess before us, and be patient while a solution is determined, or we can act on our own to move forward. Huge complications that stop our progress take time to untangle and while we’re working on them new options become available. It’s hard to see other roads when we’re focused on moving forward. When we’re stopped we can look around and all other possibilities become clear. There is never only one road to any destination we desire. There are countless ways to travel and endless options to try. We can review all the potential roads ahead and choose the one that works. There is no destination out of reach or impossible to find. We can alter our course and find the way around any avalanche in our path.

Everyone has their own ideas about what can and cannot be done. Some people are confident in their purposes until something goes wrong, at which time they throw up their hands and walk away. If we stop our journey forward every time we hit a snag we’ll end up staying exactly where we are. There will always be problems, there will always be things in the way, and we will often need to change course. Our goals are important and we certainly have everything we need to achieve them. There is no problem we can’t solve, or change we can’t accommodate. We are strong and powerful and can do anything we desire.

We may think we want an easy life, filled with comfort and success that requires us to do little. However, when things are easy we don’t learn anything new and don’t have the opportunity to become strong. Strength is built through trial, not ease. When things go wrong and we have to try harder, or when our plans fail and we have to start over, we gain wisdom and power. We learn to trust ourselves and understand more deeply what we’re made of and how the world works. Everything we need is already inside us. We can reach and find all the courage and insight necessary to go forward toward success and have the lives we want. It’s all there for us. We need only move forward and claim it.

Today if all your plans have been stopped in their tracks and you can’t move forward, look around at the options available. There are many roads that will take you where you want to go. Make a new plan and chart a new course. You will reach your destination. You are powerful and wise, and nothing will keep you from your dreams.

Off the Beaten Path

5 Feb

There are many ways to get to any destination, and countless roads we can travel.  It’s easy to follow others along and go with the flow of traffic.  Roads that are constantly traveled are usually easy to navigate.  They tend to be paved and without much obstruction.  It’s easy to move forward and because we’re on a common road we often have company to enjoy along the way.  Traveling a common road that’s easy is always possible, but if we only travel common roads we will only go where others have gone and see what others have seen.  If we step off the beaten path we may find new experiences that heighten our perception of life and as we push through, strengthen us in ways a common road never could.  It may be harder to forge our own road going forward but what we learn about ourselves as we push through difficulties and complications deepens our wisdom and broadens our understanding.  They say the only difference between mediocrity and excellence is effort.  If we want to have the richest most rewarding lives we can, we must step off the beaten path and forge ahead on our own.  We have greatness inside us and allowing that to come forward and bring with it the courage we possess, we will open new horizons before us we may have only imagined.  Every possibility can happen.  Every destination is reachable.  We can move in a new direction and find the success we dream about.

Others may have expectations about our lives and decisions.  Maybe there are long held traditions that are assumed or accepted behaviors that are encouraged.  We can live our lives any way we want to and if the pressures of expectation are great we may follow along with someone else’s ideas and maintain the norm.  But we get only one chance at this and if we waste our time living someone else’s ideas of life we will forfeit the opportunity to live our own.  We are the only ones who can give the gifts we possess.  Everything we do enhances the world around us and our personal expressions are valuable and needed.  We can do things our way, travel any road we desire, and create the lives we want the most.

There is comfort in traveling easy roads.  The way forward is well marked and there are plenty of signs to help us if we get lost.  Stepping off and going our own way through new territory requires courage to face whatever comes.  There is no way to know what lies ahead but the opportunities we find will open new vistas of possibilities before us.  We have everything we need to travel forward and open new experiences we’ve only dreamed of.  Everything is there for us and we can reach any goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been following everyone else and doing things as expected but yearn for more, step away onto a new road and move toward your dreams.  Everything is available and you can reach any destination.  Open your horizons and travel with confidence.  All your dreams are possible.  Move forward your own way and make them come true.

Playing Chicken

23 Jan

Everyone is different, and goals and dreams vary from person to person.  What’s important to one is useless to another, what is desired by one is cast off by another, and so on.  While we may often be successful in managing those differences there will likely be times when we clash with someone else and conflict arise.  If neither side is willing to bend we may decide to play chicken and push our way forward, daring the other person to blink.  It’s good to know what we want and how to get it, but in times of conflict, pushing forward in direct opposition to someone else may not always be our best option.  Determining not to bend may escalate the conflict and before we know it the situation may spiral out of control to a place nobody wanted to go.  Being open to other opinions and listening intently to other viewpoints will help us understand opposing views more clearly.  Once we see things from both sides we may more easily find a compromise that is acceptable to everyone that allows us to move forward.  There is no one right way to do anything.  There are always several options in any scenario and if we’re open to seeing them, the way forward will be easier to find.  Playing chicken will never open the door to increased understanding or acceptance.  It will only prove we know what we want and don’t care about other ideas.  We are capable of being open and willing to hear all viewpoints.  Once everyone knows the whole story from all perspectives, finding an acceptable way forward will be possible.

It’s good to be confident about our lives and decisions, but if we allow our confidence to become superior to those around us it may turn into arrogance.  The difference between solid confidence and arrogance is the conviction that not only can we accomplish what we want to do, our ideas are better than anyone else’s.  Arrogance closes doors before us and other options available.  We can be open to new ideas and outcomes and still be confident in our ability to succeed.  New ideas will bring us fresh perspective and help us find success more easily.

We can always live our lives any way we choose.  We don’t need permission to decide what we want.  If there is dissent, we can be patient and listen to opposing views, and then make whatever decision works best for us.  There need not be tension and stress because we disagree.  We can be gracious and kind, thank others for their input and then choose the best option going forward.  Disagreement need not always turn into a fight.  We can be open and polite, and then make our decisions.

Today if there’s something you really want to do and someone is standing in your way, give them time to express their opinion and listen carefully.  Discuss your views and then decide the best way forward.  There is more than one way to do anything.  The best options are there for you.  Be open and wise.  You will find the best way forward.

What is Real

15 Jan

Life is filled with all kinds of distractions and complications. When we’re unhappy with where we are, those distractions and complications may allow us to keep our eyes off what we don’t want to see and help us ignore things we don’t want to face. It’s not hard to look away or pretend a disappointing situation is different than it really is. All we have to do is focus on something else and we can defer what we don’t want to address. But what is real is where we are and looking the other way or ignoring anything will never make it change. If we’re unhappy with our appearance we can avoid anything that reflects our image and just keep moving. If our personal relationships are disappointing, or worse, we can go through the motions and make believe they will improve even if there is nothing indicating any change will happen. We can live in a make-believe world and we may convince ourselves that what we imagine is really happening. That might work for a time but reality has a way of breaking through and eventually we must face things as they really are. What is real is where we are. We have everything we need to create lives that are fulfilling and satisfying on every level. Pretending will never take us where we want to go. It’s like living in a house of mirrors, each one bending the truth to something that isn’t real. We can find true happiness and success when we look at everything openly and truthfully. We can take the blinders off, face any situation before us and determine where we want to go. Success is always available to us and we will have it.

Our dreams are personal and unique and we have everything we need to make them come true. It takes courage to decide to live our lives our own way and do the things we dream about. It takes determination to find the right roads and stay focused on the goal. We have all the courage and determination we need and once we decide we deserve the lives we dream about, we can make everything reality.

There will always be a reason to stay in a situation that isn’t working for us. If it’s a relationship that isn’t working we may think we have to stay to prevent hurting the other person. If it’s a job that’s unfulfilling we may think we owe something to our boss. If it’s a personal change we want to make we may hesitate worried we won’t succeed. We deserve true and complete happiness and nothing is more valuable than living our lives authentically, in complete harmony with what we truly want. We have everything we need to do anything. It’s all there for us and we can take the steps needed to find success.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t working, or you want to make a personal change you’ve put off, afraid that you’ll fail, be brave. Take the first step today to move forward toward where you really want to be. Your life is yours and you can live it exactly the way you desire. Be strong and confident. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Take control of what you want and go get it. It’s all there for you.