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Hard Choices

31 Oct

We will make millions and millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Some of them are consequential and have serious results, and others we may make on the fly without any impact. Choices that have clear and defined likely results may be easy to make. We can look at what will happen based on what’s happened before, and then decide how we want to proceed. The hardest choices are often those that have no right or wrong answer. There is no best way to proceed, but only the way we choose. When there is a wide open possibility no matter which way we go, we may struggle with making the decision. For instance, when deciding on a change in our career, we may apply for a lot of positions. If we get offered two very good options, with comparable benefits and we like them both, how will we choose?  It can be hard to discern between equally beneficial options but if we take our time and look closely, there will be some differences that may help us decide. Every decision we make will bring a result. By looking at everything clearly, and deciding how we want to proceed, we will make excellent choices and reach the destinations we most desire.

We may face a time when we must make a choice that will dramatically change our lives. If we’re unhappy in a relationship that we’ve had for a long time, and we want to step away and go in a new direction, it may be painful even if we’re sure it’s the right decision for us. If it’s too hard, we might give in and just remain despite how we feel. Breaking away from someone we’ve been attached to is never easy but we deserve complete happiness, and if we want something different, we have all the wisdom and courage to do what is necessary to get it.

When we were children, chances are our parents did everything they could to protect us and keep us safe. As we grew and matured, in order for us to learn and grow, they had to step back and let us make our own decisions, even if we were headed down the wrong road. It’s hard to watch someone you love do something you are sure is going to hurt them, but each of us is responsible for our own lives, and we can trust ourselves to make choices that will take us where we want to go.

Today if you’re facing a hard decision and aren’t sure how to proceed, look at everything objectively and clearly. Take the time you need to discern everything to find the best road forward. You are extremely capable and can make excellent choices. Focus on what you want to achieve, and be confident. Every success is possible, and you will reach them all.

Small Changes

26 Sep

“If you make a 1% improvement in a host of tiny areas, the cumulative benefits would be extraordinary.” Sir Dave Brailsford

Everyone has something they want to change about their lives. We want to be the best we can be, and that often means there are things we need to work on. Maybe we want to lose weight, maybe we want more education, or maybe we just want to be more patient and forgiving. Change and improvement are always possible, but they usually won’t happen overnight. We can take all the time we like to think about what we want do but until we actually begin to do what’s needed, nothing will change. We don’t have to do everything all at once, or completely change our lives to start the journey. By starting small and focusing on just one facet of the goal, we can begin the process of reaching it. We could give up desert just two nights a week, take just one night class, or stand still for moment before we speak. Small changes don’t seem like much, but once we master them we can add another small layer, and day by day, inch by inch we will reach the goal. There is no rush to succeed. The road ahead will wait as long as it takes, and will be there for us. By taking things one step at a time, we really can have the lives we want the most, and reach any destination.

Some people like to talk about all the things they’re going to do and all the places they’re going to go, but day by day, they remain in the same place doing the same things. The old saying that “Talk is cheap,” is true. We can talk all we want, and make all kinds of plans but until we actually do something to achieve the goal, nothing will change. We are highly capable and can do anything we desire. By trusting ourselves, and taking the first step forward, we can be confident that we will succeed.

If the goal is hard to reach and will require a lot of work and time, we may hesitate before we begin. Our routines are comfortable and easy, and we pretty much know what to expect. We never have to change anything if we don’t want to, but our lives are ours to design, and if there’s something we really want, we can go after it. By changing one thing we can move closer to where we want to be. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing is out of reach.

Today if there’s something you want to achieve, think about how you want to begin and take the first step. You are amazing and powerful, and can do anything you desire. Trust yourself and be confident. Nothing is too complex or difficult for you to manage.  Decide what you want, and begin. Every single dream is possible, and you will prevail.

Rescue Me

8 Sep

Nobody gets a perfect life where everything goes as planned, there are no problems to overcome, and they always look good. Life is filled with unexpected complications and even when we try hard to prevent them, problems will arise. Most of the time we can take them in stride and solve each one as it comes, but there may be a time when it seems the planets have aligned against us and everything we touch goes wrong. Sometimes it may seem we can’t get anything right and we’re doomed to a life of despair. When we feel defeated and can’t see any way out, we may hope and pray for someone to come along and magically save us. Maybe someone with a cape and super powers who can rescue us and create our brand new trouble free life with a fabulous new job, a closet full of amazing clothes (that fit perfectly), all the money we want and a loving family that doesn’t complain.  Yeah, we can hope for that and if we lived in fantasyland it might happen. But we live in the real world and we are the only ones who can rescue us and fix our lives. There will be few times when everything falls into place perfectly. Most of the time there will be some kind of issue, or complication, or problem or someone who’s really annoying who gets in the way. But we are intelligent and able to figure out any problem and find our way through. It might not be easy, and it might not come quickly, but with determination and focus, there isn’t anything we can’t overcome. It doesn’t matter what the issue is. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to move forward and reach success. Everything is possible, and nothing can keep us from the prize.

Fear is part of our survival mechanism. It tells us when danger is near so we can prepare to fight or run. But not all fears are a matter of life or death. If we’ve had a bad experience in a certain situation, when that same situation arises again, we may be afraid of what will happen. We may be uncertain around people who are very powerful or loud, and we may shy away from new experiences because we don’t know what lies ahead. But we can be afraid and courageous at the same time. Just because we aren’t sure we can succeed, never means we shouldn’t try. There is no way to know what we can accomplish unless we put ourselves out there and give it a shot. There is greatness in all of us, and by being confident and standing strong, no matter the circumstance, we will achieve amazing success.

Some problems are very complex and difficult to understand. We share the world with lots of other people and if we need help we can ask for it. Everyone has different experiences and it’s possible someone we know has already been through what we’re dealing with and will have helpful information and guidance. It isn’t weak to seek support – it’s wise. Everything problem has a solution, and with patience and clarity, nothing is beyond our ability. We are powerful and strong, and will find our way through.

Today if you’re overwhelmed and feel unsure about how to proceed, look at everything objectively. The answers you need are already there. If you need help, ask for it. You are smarter than you think and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Remember all the times you’ve already succeeded and trust yourself. You are amazing and powerful. Be confident and sure. Success is just ahead, and you will reach it.

Our Journey

6 Sep

There are billions of people on the earth and each is individual and unique. We all have ideas about how things should go and what we want to do. Our personal journeys are ours to determine and design. There are endless possibilities and we can do anything we like and go anywhere we want. The future awaits and once we decide how we want to proceed, we can step on any road we choose and move forward. It would be great if others agreed with our choices, and that will likely happen at some point. But our lives belong to us and we don’t need agreement or approval to move in any direction we desire. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves, and nobody else needs to understand our journey. All families and groups have traditions, and it’s easier when everyone goes along with what’s always been done, but we aren’t responsible for making life easy for those around us. There may be pressure to conform, but we are responsible for our own lives, and no matter what others think or prefer, can go our own way. The world is a big place filled with opportunities. Each choice we make will take us somewhere, and if we choose what we want the most, we will find great happiness and satisfaction. By trusting ourselves, and stepping forward toward the goals we most desire, every dream is possible. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and determination, will reach every success.

Sometimes when there are a lot of choices possible, it’s difficult to decide on one. Everything has its benefits and drawbacks, and before we can make a decision, we must first decide what we want to accomplish. Just going from one thing to another, trying this and that, is fine if we just want to superficially experience a lot of different things. But if we want to be successful at actually achieving a goal, we must choose the destination and then do what is necessary to make it ours. There will always be unforeseen complications and snags along the way, but they don’t mean we cannot succeed. We are intelligent and capable, and with determination can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody can see the future or know what will happen next. Once we begin toward a goal we may discover that the road to reaching it is far harder and will take far longer than we thought. If it’s too complex for us to manage right now, we can set it aside until we get more information or our situation changes. There is no rush to reach success, and once we’re ready to start again, we can move forward one step at a time, untangling complications as we go, and with faith and determination, reach the goal.

Today decide what you want and how you want to proceed. The journey ahead is yours to determine, and nothing is out of reach. You don’t need to explain your choice or get approval before you begin. Every destination is possible and nothing can keep you from success. Choose the road forward, and take the first step. Nothing can keep you from success. You are wiser and stronger than you imagine, and you will win.

Long Way Around

22 Aug

Life is full of challenges and everyone’s experiences are different. What one person sees as a trial, another may see as an opportunity. We’re all unique and our interpretations of what is happening differ from one to another. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what they want to accomplish, but the road isn’t the same for everyone. Although we know what we want to do, sometimes our vision of how to get there gets cloudy. If we have many responsibilities and lots of complications going on, even the shortest journey can be difficult to achieve. Although we can see where we want to go, due to circumstances around us or others involved, instead of moving straight ahead, we may need to take the long way around to get there. We have complete control over our own decisions, but nobody lives on a deserted island, and there may be lots of other people making choices that prevent us from proceeding as we’d like. It’s hard to be patient and turn away from the goal we want, and it may seem the way ahead is so complicated and tangled, we’ll never succeed. But nothing stays the same forever and change is constant. We may need to change direction for a time, but whatever is happening will eventually change, and we’ll be able to move forward. Every destination is possible but they won’t all be possible today. We can set things aside and work on something else until our circumstances change. There isn’t anything we can’t do and with patience and clarity, we will prevail.

Some things take a lot of work and focus to accomplish. It’s impossible to see the end of the road from the beginning, and we may find the way ahead is far more complex and difficult than we first perceived. If we don’t have all the tools we need to get there when we start, we can take time to gain the skills and knowledge necessary to proceed, and then start again. There is no rush to reach the goal and we can move forward at a pace that allows us to manage every complication and detour. We are intelligent and wise, and can figure out anything we must to reach success.

Other people in our lives may not agree with the choices we’re making, and may advise us against proceeding. We can certainly listen to any advice that’s offered, but our lives are ours to design. We already know what we want, and no matter how complex or difficult it may be to reach the goal, we have everything we need to move forward. If we need help, we can ask for it. If we need more information, we can get it. There is greatness in us, and nothing is out of reach. By being confident and trusting ourselves, even if the road is long and twisted, we will find our way forward.

Today if the goal you want to achieve is far away and the road ahead is complicated and long, trust yourself. There isn’t anything you can’t manage. Failure will only come if you stop moving forward. Every destination is possible and all your dreams are there for you. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. You are stronger, wiser and more powerful than you imagine. Success is waiting, and you will reach it.