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Counterfeiting

23 Mar

In this day of information overload, virtually everywhere we go we are bombarded with advertisements with pretty pictures telling us how we should live our lives, what we should do and how we should look. They are filled with scenes of happy people loving life, the suggestion being if we do what they say, we’ll be happy too. However, all those pictures are just actors playing a role. Doing what others think is best might bring us happiness, or it might not. We can play any role we like, pretend we’re something we aren’t, and dress up any situation to appear different than it really is. Counterfeit money looks real from a distance. By simply making Xerox copies of bills, we could fool anyone if they were far enough away. But upon closer inspection it will be obvious that the paper isn’t right, the ink is all wrong and it’s completely fake. If we haven’t yet achieved the level of success in our jobs we desire, or made all the money we think we deserve, or if we’re not as informed as we want others to believe, we may use counterfeit measures to convince them. We can dress up, act out, and manipulate others until we’re sure we’ve convinced them of whatever it is we want them to believe. We might fool them for a while, but just like getting a closer look at counterfeit bills, eventually our true selves will emerge and the truth will rise. It’s impossible to keep up false appearances forever. Instead of pretending, we can work to gain the attributes we desire. By living openly and honestly, we will gain the trust of those around us and make good, strong connections. Nobody is perfect and we all have things we want to change. We can show our true selves and be confident in who we are, and where we stand. Every success is possible, and with determination and focus, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Sometimes it can seem others have it easier than we do. They seem to get what they want and don’t struggle. We may think they have no idea how hard life can be, but we may be way off base. There is no way to know the personal dealings of anyone’s life unless they share the details with us. There may be hidden sorrow and disappointments we cannot see from the outside. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with rainbows and butterflies. We all face challenges and trials, and roads filled with rocks and detours. By keeping our eyes focused on our own journey and not comparing ourselves to others, we will ensure our success and reach every destination.

Many people prefer everyone to be on the same page, doing the same things, and agreeing as a group. Peer pressure is real and we may be asked to conform to something we don’t want. We can do anything we like, but we all have specific gifts to offer that nobody else can give. We can choose what works best for us and take our own path, no matter what others are doing. We have so much to offer, and by being true to who we really are, we can bring great light and blessing to the world.

Today if you’ve been pretending or following someone else’s path, remember you are important and have your own gifts to give. Be yourself and choose the road that takes you to the goals you desire most. There is greatness in you and you can set an amazing example for us all. Be strong and confident, and step forward focused on your own journey. Success is waiting and nothing can keep you from it.

Clearing It Away

16 Nov

Our lives are busy and there is often a lot that needs our attention. We have relationships to nurture, jobs that need our time, chores to take care of, people to consider, and the list goes on and on. Every experience we have teaches us something, and they may also leave us with unfinished business. Unresolved issues will linger and hang onto us until we face them, and do what is needed to take care of them. We can try to avoid thinking about them but like static electricity, they cling to us and continually remind us they are there. There may be unresolved feelings from a former relationship, or conversations we need to have in an unsettled situation. Whatever the issue, carrying it around will never bring us freedom or peace. Until we clear it away, we may feel burdened and get stuck unable to move ahead. It’s not easy to open painful doors and look inside, but the only way to let go of whatever is holding us down is to bring it all out in the open and address every unfinished aspect. We have everything we need to face anything we must, and already possess all the courage and wisdom necessary to find our way through. By being completely honest with ourselves and those around us, and taking the time to work through any issue, we will find great release and satisfaction. All the answers we need will be there for us, and we will find the road ahead. Success is waiting, and by looking at everything clearly, and stepping forward with confidence, we will reach it.

There is an old saying, “Out of sight, out of mind.” That works with some things but simply looking away from trouble will never fix it. Hiding from something we don’t want to face changes nothing. No matter how long we look away and pretend things are different than they are, the problem we’re avoiding will wait until we turn back around. There is no need to run from trouble. We have all the courage and wisdom necessary to solve whatever comes. By trusting ourselves, and taking control, we can solve any complication and find the road ahead.

We may face an issue that is so complex and difficult we struggle to get through. Everyone has different experiences and chances are someone around us will have information and ideas that will assist us in finding the answers we need. By reaching out to others, and being open about what’s happening, we can get the help needed, and reach success. Nothing can hold us in place, and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been holding onto unresolved feelings and conflict, stop and look at everything openly and objectively. Let go of any unfinished business and clear away any unsettled issues. Close the books on the past, and start again. You are amazing and capable, and bring great light to the world. Trust yourself and be confident. There is great success just ahead, and nothing will keep you from it.

What We Know

27 Aug

People continually come into our lives. We meet them in passing, from others we know, as business associates, or just by saying hello. There are billions of them on the earth and no matter where we go, or what we’re doing, chances are they’ll be around us. As we develop personal bonds and relationships, we get to know them on a deeper level. We start to understand how they think and begin to expect how they’ll react to certain situations. But we can never know everything about anyone and sometimes things happen that make us see them in a different light. We may find they have a hidden volatile side, or a raging temper if they’re crossed, and we can step back a bit to see them more clearly. If they’re very important to us or we have strong feelings for them, if we see behaviors that are destructive or demeaning, we may ignore them and pretend they don’t exist. Knowing something doesn’t always mean we’ll acknowledge it openly. As we look the other way, we may be able to continue our relationship with them for a while, but eventually everything will be exposed and we’ll have to decide how we want to proceed. By facing the situation clearly and accepting the way things really are, we’ll be able to choose the best road forward. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and we can only solve our own problems. If our relationship is negatively impacted by bad behavior, and the other party is unwilling or unable to change, what happens next is up to us. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives. We can make choices that will move us forward toward the goals we want the most, and create the lives we desire. Nothing can hold us in place. We are in control of our lives and by choosing well, can find great happiness and peace.

Nobody knows everything about everything. It’s possible to find ourselves in difficult and complex situations because of decisions made by others that have nothing to do with us. If we’re suddenly somewhere we don’t want to be and didn’t plan on going, we can stop and change direction. We’re not inexorably controlled by anything. We can turn around and step away from any situation that isn’t working for us. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

People sometimes hide personality traits from others. If they’re selfish, they may pretend to be kind and giving. If they’re intense and angry, they may pretend to be easygoing and polite. It’s possible to fool others for a time, but nobody can keep up pretenses forever. When we’re getting to know someone new, if we take our time getting close to them, we’ll have the chance to see them as they really are. Once we can see them clearly, we can decide how we want to proceed. Our happiness is important and valuable. We can keep our eyes open and see everything objectively, and create the connections we want the most.

Today if you’re entangled in a relationship that isn’t working, remember your happiness is important. You deserve the very best of everything and never have to stay in any situation that’s uncomfortable or difficult. Decide what you want the most, and then begin moving toward the goal. Every happiness is there for you, and you will have it.

Meaning It

31 May

We can tell people all kinds of things about ourselves, use any positive adjective we like to describe us and create any image we desire. We can say anything but who we are is reflected not in what we say, but in what we do. Words are cheap and easily manipulated to express ideas that may or may not be true, but actions show our real character and display to the world what is real. If we’re honest about ourselves, our actions will reflect what we’ve expressed. If not, another reality will show itself. There is no way to gain the trust of others if we’re insincere or untruthful. If we mean what we say and follow through on our promises, people will learn we are trustworthy and that they can rely on us to keep our word. We don’t have to agree with everyone or do everything that’s requested. If we don’t want to do something, we can say so and move on. But if we say we’ll be there, and then don’t show, nothing else we’ve said will matter. Once those around us lose faith and trust in us, it will be hard to re-establish. It takes a lot of time to overcome personal disappointments when they involve our integrity and honesty. If we’ve been untruthful in the past or dropped the ball when we said we’d take care of it, there’s no reason to believe we’ll handle things any differently in the future. We can choose to be noble and valiant, and always keep our word. We can hold fast to the values we cherish and choose to be the best we can be. Our lives are a reflection of our actions. Every decision takes us somewhere. We can choose wisely to ensure we reach the destinations we desire most.

When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and want to escape, it’s easy to lie to get away from the issue. We can make up a story that will enable us to step back, or pretend we’re not involved and just walk away. Even if nobody ever finds out about the dishonesty, it will mar our character going forward. Like a chink in the armor, the surface will never be smooth again. We will always know we let our principles slide and it may affect our confidence going forward. Nothing is worth endangering our future success. Even in times of duress, we can choose well, and hold fast to what is right.

Everyone forgets things from time to time. If we’ve agreed to participate in something we later decide we don’t want, we can simply pretend we forgot we were committed and let it go. That may work and we may get out of our responsibility and move on. However, the stain of the lie will remain with us. It’s far better to simply be honest and decline our involvement before its expected. We may be uncomfortable for a moment, but our integrity will remain strong and we will walk forward knowing we did our best.

Today if you’re tempted to lie to get out of something you don’t want to do, remember your honesty and integrity are priceless and worth protecting. Tell the truth and clear the air. You are in control of your life and can make excellent choices. Choose well, and stand tall. Every success is there for you and with determination and honesty, you will reach it.

Fabricating Happiness

3 Jul

We interact with many different types of people on a daily basis. We connect with them as we move through our lives and build relationships with those we enjoy, those we love, and those on whom we rely. Many times, those connections bring great pleasure and security to our lives but sometimes we may build a relationship with someone who makes choices that bring us disharmony and confusion. If we want strong and healthy relationships there must be complete honesty in our interactions. But some people aren’t consistently honest and bend the truth to suit their needs. It’s not pleasant to confront a lie and we may choose to give them the benefit of the doubt despite their choices. It’s difficult to be in a relationship with someone who lies or pretends that things are different than they really are. Truth is truth and the only way to live successfully is to face it openly and completely. Wanting to believe in a lie will never make it the truth. Looking the other way in the face of dishonesty will never bring us happiness. Everyone makes their own decisions and we are all accountable for every choice. We can choose to be honest in all our dealings and build strong relationships based on real trust. We never have to go along with a lie. We can live straight and true to the values we honor and choose the right at every turn. When we do we will find happiness and peace going forward.

Few things in life are constant. Things change continually and just when we’re sure we know what will happen next, something turns us around and everything is different. Our situations are constantly in flux and if we want to reach success we must be clear and honest about our intentions and desires. We can’t control what may happen but we are always in control of our decisions. If we are honest and up front in our interactions we will more effectively find the path we need to travel and reach the goals we desire.

Honesty doesn’t come on a sliding scale. There is no such thing as being somewhat honest, or honest most of the time. We either are honest is our dealings or we aren’t. If we bend the truth, color the facts to get what we want, or pretend that things are different than they are, we are lying to ourselves and those around us. Lies may bring us immediate gratification but they will never bring us lasting happiness or success. We can face our lives as they are even if they aren’t where we want them to be. Change is always possible and if we aren’t happy we can truthfully and honestly do what is needed to modify our course to reach the happiness we desire. Our lives are our responsibility and our choices make us who we are. We can choose well and find great contentment and success.

Today if you’re dealing with someone who isn’t honest with you, look at the situation openly and completely. Let the facts show you the truth and decide how you want to proceed. What you choose tells the world who you are. Show us your best and lead the way to success.