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Holding the Bag

20 May

We share our lives with lots of other people. Everyone has their own responsibilities and things they must address, and we all have things we continually need to get done. We’re all different and not always on the same playing field. Some of us have more money than others, more opportunities, more influence, more contacts and endless other benefits. We each have specific and unique lives, can control some things, and deal with the rest. When we interact with those around us, we may make commitments to do things, or be somewhere to help or assist in some project or task. If we’re honest when we make the deal and keep our word, generally everything works out fine. But some people don’t value honesty or loyalty, and may say they’ll do something they have no intention of following through on. If we’re the ones they gave their word to and they fail to show, we may be stuck holding the bag. It may be very uncomfortable to have issues we didn’t commit to pushed over onto us because someone else didn’t follow through. If that happens, what we do next is up to us. We can shake our heads, drop everything, and simply walk away, but if that affects others negatively, even though we weren’t initially at fault, it may come back to bite us. We can try to choose what’s best for all involved, but that may require our time and energy. By looking at everything clearly and objectively, we can decide how we want to proceed. We never have to cover for anyone else’s bad decisions, and can make the best choice for each situation. Every answer we need will be there and we can trust ourselves to choose wisely. The decisions of others may complicate our lives from time to time, but we know who we are and can move forward with confidence.

Families are complex. We all have our own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and they may vary greatly even in the same family. If one person struggles with poverty, some may step up to help, and others may not. Each has their own reasons, and despite being in the same family, they may philosophically be very far apart. We can do what we like and make our own decisions, but still be respectful of those whose choices are very different. Few things have only one right answer and there are endless interpretations for everything. By staying true to who we are and honest with those around us, we will feel good about our choices, even if they are different.

Wherever we are, if there are others around us, we may feel pressure to conform to the group. If we make a suggestion they don’t agree with, but it will benefit our situation, we can proceed on our own. We never need permission or agreement to do anything we desire. We know what we want to do and possess everything necessary to make it ours. If we need information, we can find it. If we need help, we can ask for it. There isn’t anything too difficult or complicated for us to manage, and with persistence, focus and determination, we can accomplish whatever we desire.

Today if you’ve been left holding the bag because someone didn’t follow through, decide how you want to proceed. If the goal is important, look at all the possibilities and choose the best road ahead. You are intelligent and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and stand strong. Every single destination is possible and nothing can keep you from success. It’s all there for you. Step forward and claim it.

After

10 Jun

Nobody gets a perfect life and we all face challenges and difficult passages that try us and test our strength and courage. When we’re struggling and trying to get through something difficult, our attention is focused on the problem at hand, and as we try to find our way through, we may exert a lot of personal energy into solving it. The problem may be intense, and we might feel overwhelmed as we try to push through it, but as we struggle, we’re gaining behavior traits that increase our understanding of life and give us additional tools to carry forward. It’s hard to believe anything good can come out of a terrible trial, but every experience, even the awful ones, give us something of value to take with us. After the trial is over and we’re on solid ground again, we will be different. Our wisdom will have increased, and we will have more endurance, and a greater ability to cope when things go wrong. The greater the hardship, the greater the blessing in the end. Nobody wants to suffer, but there is much to be gained as we untangle serious complications and find new ways to move through turmoil and strife. Life is all about learning, and we learn the most when things go wrong. Hard times will come to us all. How we handle them and what we learn from them is up to us. If we pay attention, and hold onto every lesson possible, we will be embellished and enriched because of the experience. We may fall down, and doubt our ability to survive, but in truth, there is nothing we can’t manage and overcome with patience and determination. Every blessing is waiting for us and we can claim them all. Life can be hard, and at some point, we may suffer greatly. But by trusting ourselves, and standing firm, we will prevail. Success will always be possible, and nothing can keep us from it.

We share the world with billions of other people. They are infinitely creative and unpredictable, and may do things that hurt us and leave us devastated. Best friends may betray us, lovers may leave us, and trusted associates may lie. We are precious and valuable, and our presence is a gift to the world around us. There is greatness in us, and even if others walk away and leave us abandoned and alone, we will have what we need to move forward and succeed.

We may face a terrible personal disaster that impacts us so greatly it changes the entire course of our lives. No storm can last forever, and when it’s over, we may end up standing on foreign ground with no idea how to proceed. No matter what has happened there will be a way to recover and begin again. We are stronger than we imagine, and nothing can hold us down forever. Every success is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if you’re standing in the aftermath of some personal catastrophe and have no idea what to do, trust yourself. You have all the wisdom and intelligence you need to step forward and succeed. Your dreams are still there for you and every destination awaits. Stand tall, and step forward with clarity and confidence. You are amazing and you will succeed.

Sinking Feeling

11 May

We share the world with billions of other people. We’ll build relationships with some of them, we’ll love some of them and tolerate others, and they’ll be a part of our experiences. When we trust someone and believe in them, we may include them in our most private thoughts and plans, and build connections that are strong and rewarding. Although we may feel we’re good judges of character, and often we are, we may face a time when someone turns out to be very different than we thought. If we discover they have been dishonest with us, have manipulated us or flatly lied to us and we believed in them, we may be devastated. When all the facts come out, we may have a sinking feeling that we’ve been used and everything we thought was real was fiction. There may be a feeling of great shame that we fell for the lie, but we are not at fault. It’s good to trust and give others the benefit of the doubt. If they let us down, the blame is theirs to carry. If we’re facing a situation where our trust has been damaged, if the situation isn’t too severe and there are extenuating circumstances that have come into play, there may be a way to mend the relationship. However, if the other party simply manipulated us for their own enjoyment or personal gain, there may be no way to repair the damage. We may need to sever our ties, walk away, and move forward without them. It’s heartbreaking to lose a connection because of dishonesty, but we are strong, and nothing can keep us from reaching success. We can change direction, and alter our plans, and still reach every goal we desire. Others will do what they will, but we know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve it. Every road is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will succeed.

After a bad relationship, we may decide that trusting others isn’t worth the risk and choose to move forward alone. We may avoid building relationships with others to protect ourselves and keep everything inside. We can do anything we like but most people are good, and everyone has something of value to offer. Cutting ourselves off from the human race may seem wise, but it will keep us from all the blessings that building good, strong relationships will bring. Getting hurt is painful, but we will heal, and can trust ourselves to make wise connections moving forward.

We can’t control anything but the decisions we make. Some people will be wise, and some will be foolish. Some may delight in bringing us joy, and others may taunt and tease. We don’t set our personal standards by what others are doing. We set them by what we want to accomplish and who we want to be. We can trust ourselves to make excellent choices and move forward with confidence and clarity that we will prevail in every situation.

Today if you’ve discovered that someone you trusted has been dishonest, and you are hurt and unsure how to proceed, trust yourself. You know what you want, and you know who you are. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. Decide what you want to do and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are still there for you and you will reach them.

Cheater

5 Jan

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Each choice, bad or good, will clearly define who we are and what we want. Lots of people say they are honest, and many people are. But the idea of real honesty may differ from person to person. For some, it’s clearly defined – do what is right according to our standards and the culture around us, and never waiver. Others see it more fluidly. If they mostly do what’s right and only bend the rules and cheat when they absolutely feel they must in order to win, they are honest enough. Maybe they’ll pay their bills on time but add an hour or two to their timesheets to make ends meet. Or they’re honest in the small things like making sure they don’t accept too much change at the store but will do whatever is needed to make sure they get that promotion at work – even if it means breaking the rules. Desperation may make us so determined to win, we may choose to cheat, lie or whatever else we think will get us there. Cheating does work. It will give us an edge and push us over those around us, but winning by cheating isn’t winning at all, and the advantage is counterfeit and fake. It will look like a win to those around us, but we’ll know we took it dishonestly. The stain of hypocrisy will be permanent, and like a bad tattoo, impossible to remove. Cheating is a characteristic of weakness, and the cost to our integrity will be intense. Once we step over that line and lie to get ahead, it’s hard to step back. We will never be the same and the possibility of doing it again will be easier. If we continue, the road of deceit will be etched in our minds and we may forget what it was like to be completely honest and true. Every decision we make tells the world who we are. Nothing is more important than our self-worth and by choosing wisely, we will pave the road ahead to success.

When we want something intensely, we may decide on shady and dishonest options to help us open the doors ahead. Some things may be very important to us, but there will never be anything so important it’s worth the cost of sacrificing our integrity. Others may be fooled the first time we cheat, but once we are exposed and the truth is clear, we may lose their trust indefinitely. Like breaking glass, we may try to glue the pieces back together, but it will never be whole again.

When we tell people about ourselves, we may say anything we like. If we want to impress them, we may embellish what we’ve done and who we are. But in the end, we are what we do, not what we say. Our actions define us in every sense. The world decides who we are by the choices we make not the beautiful words we use. Every choice determines our standards and what we value. When we choose honestly and valiantly, we bring great success and satisfaction to our lives.

Today if you’re desperate to get to a goal and are considering lying or cheating to reach it, think about your personal worth. You are valuable and worth more than you imagine. Show us how valiant and honest you are by the excellent decisions you make. You have the power to bring greatness and light to us all. Be the best you can be, and the whole world will be blessed.

Meaning It

31 May

We can tell people all kinds of things about ourselves, use any positive adjective we like to describe us and create any image we desire. We can say anything but who we are is reflected not in what we say, but in what we do. Words are cheap and easily manipulated to express ideas that may or may not be true, but actions show our real character and display to the world what is real. If we’re honest about ourselves, our actions will reflect what we’ve expressed. If not, another reality will show itself. There is no way to gain the trust of others if we’re insincere or untruthful. If we mean what we say and follow through on our promises, people will learn we are trustworthy and that they can rely on us to keep our word. We don’t have to agree with everyone or do everything that’s requested. If we don’t want to do something, we can say so and move on. But if we say we’ll be there, and then don’t show, nothing else we’ve said will matter. Once those around us lose faith and trust in us, it will be hard to re-establish. It takes a lot of time to overcome personal disappointments when they involve our integrity and honesty. If we’ve been untruthful in the past or dropped the ball when we said we’d take care of it, there’s no reason to believe we’ll handle things any differently in the future. We can choose to be noble and valiant, and always keep our word. We can hold fast to the values we cherish and choose to be the best we can be. Our lives are a reflection of our actions. Every decision takes us somewhere. We can choose wisely to ensure we reach the destinations we desire most.

When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and want to escape, it’s easy to lie to get away from the issue. We can make up a story that will enable us to step back, or pretend we’re not involved and just walk away. Even if nobody ever finds out about the dishonesty, it will mar our character going forward. Like a chink in the armor, the surface will never be smooth again. We will always know we let our principles slide and it may affect our confidence going forward. Nothing is worth endangering our future success. Even in times of duress, we can choose well, and hold fast to what is right.

Everyone forgets things from time to time. If we’ve agreed to participate in something we later decide we don’t want, we can simply pretend we forgot we were committed and let it go. That may work and we may get out of our responsibility and move on. However, the stain of the lie will remain with us. It’s far better to simply be honest and decline our involvement before its expected. We may be uncomfortable for a moment, but our integrity will remain strong and we will walk forward knowing we did our best.

Today if you’re tempted to lie to get out of something you don’t want to do, remember your honesty and integrity are priceless and worth protecting. Tell the truth and clear the air. You are in control of your life and can make excellent choices. Choose well, and stand tall. Every success is there for you and with determination and honesty, you will reach it.