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Go Faster!

16 Aug

We all have our own ideas and methods for getting things done. Some people like to jump into projects with both feet and storm through them as quickly as possible. Others like to take time to look at the situation before beginning and then carefully and cautiously proceed watching out for any stumbling blocks in the way. Neither method is wrong but when we’re on one side of the process we may deride the other as either being foolish for moving so fast, or become impatient because they are taking their time. The way we do things is completely up to us. We can rush through or ponder each step along the way. It’s a matter of personal choice for what we feel will work best. If we’re in a hurry it’s hard to wait for someone who is going slowly. We may press them to go faster, tell them to forget the minutiae, skip the finer points and details, and get on with it. It’s nice to accomplish many things and we may feel successful when we’ve checked a lot of boxes off our list, but rushing doesn’t always bring the best results. We may find the things we skipped over in order to get the job done fast are the very details that come back to haunt us because we left them undone. Fast doesn’t always translate into complete. It will do us no good to get something done quickly if we have to go back and do it again. Even if our schedule is pressing, we can take a moment to ensure we are clear on all the details and understand exactly what needs to be done. Then we can proceed with confidence and complete everything as effectively as possible.

It can be hard for high energy people to wait. Waiting takes patience and it’s hard to be patient when we want to move forward. If others are taking more time than we like and we think we know the way forward, we may jump in and take control. If we push others aside and rush forward with our own plans we may reach the goal faster but it may cost us in personal relationships we value. Everyone’s opinion is important and all views are valuable, even if they’re different from ours. We don’t have to do things our way every time to succeed. There is never only one road forward. We can be open to other ideas and still reach the goal.

There is no way to know what lies ahead before we get there. We can’t read the future and there will always be unforeseen complications we don’t expect. Although we can’t prepare for what we can’t predict, if we keep our vision open to everything around us instead of laser focused only on the goal, we will be ready when problems arise. We are capable of navigating through any issues that come up. Success is always possible and by allowing different ideas into play, we will find it and reach the destination.

Today if you’re impatient because someone is moving slowly, be open to their perspective and listen to their ideas. You may find their choice will take you forward more quickly than rushing ahead yourself. There are limitless options available to you. Open your eyes wide and see everything before you. Success will always be there and you will reach it.

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Just and True

16 Jul

We are all accountable for everything we do.  When we make decisions that work out well we may feel great satisfaction that we chose wisely.  We are capable of making excellent choices but we aren’t perfect and there will be times when we may choose something that doesn’t go the way we want it to.  If we make decisions that bring unhappiness or negatively impact our lives or those around us, we may feel the ramifications going forward.  Life is complex and there are often many factors involved in every decision we make. If we’re dishonest and blatantly do things to hurt others or deceive, we may try to deflect our involvement by making excuses or blaming others.  If we choose badly we may point to the influence of those around us, or the stress we’ve been under, or the complications of the decision that were misleading, or even the weather.  All the excuses may be valid but we still own the decision.  It is right and just to be accountable for what we do.  If we want to live honestly we must accept that justice – even if it means we will suffer – must prevail.  Reasons and excuses for a bad decision may bring understanding of how the choice was made but they cannot change the result.  We are going to make mistakes and when we do we can accept the error, learn all we can from it, do what is needed to correct our course, amend anything we’ve damaged, and move forward.  We can be honest in accepting our part and take what we’ve learned with us to help us in the future.

After a bad decision we might distract those around us from the truth by creating a lot of noise blaming others or the situation.  We might get a pass if we are loud and convincing enough but nothing can change the past and what has happened will remain.  If we refuse to openly admit the error and look at it clearly we won’t learn anything from the experience.  They say those who refuse to learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them, and that’s likely true.  If we don’t use the experience as a teaching tool, we may repeat the same behaviors again and again, even if they bring us hardship.  Instead, we can determine to see everything completely and learn as much as possible so we don’t suffer through the same situation again.

When we’re responsible for a situation that turns out badly, we may try to deny our part in the mess as a way of escaping accountability.  We may be able to fool others for a while but truth always rises.  Denial simply delays the inevitable.  Everyone makes mistakes and there is no need to pretend things are different than they are.  We are capable of managing any situation and if we’ve stumbled we can right ourselves and start again.

Today if you’ve made a decision that has brought you trouble, look at the situation openly and honestly.  Be accountable for your actions and do what is needed to correct your way forward.  You are wise and capable of making excellent choices.  Don’t let a mistake hold you back.  Be confident and start again.  Success is always possible and you will reach it.

Pernicious Anger

25 Jun

Pernicious – Causing insidious harm or ruin; ruinous; injurious; or hurtful.

There are ups and downs in all our lives.  Things go right, they go wrong, disappointments happen, people let us down and there are endless other outcomes.  Anger is a normal part of life.  If someone does something that affects us negatively or our experience is far from what we want or expect we may get angry.  There is nothing wrong with feeling anger but how we express it can affect what happens next.  If we lash out at others and say or do things that are beyond what the relationship can bear, we may damage it beyond repair or lose it altogether.  Pernicious anger may ruin our connections going forward.  We are always in control of our lives and if we allow angry emotions to determine how we act we may end up somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we feel ourselves getting carried away in a wave of disappointment or anger, instead of acting out we can step back and allow ourselves to calm down before we react.  The fight or flight reflex is very strong and powerful but generally we neither need to fight nor run away to find resolution.  We can take a breath, stop and think and give ourselves a moment to see everything before we respond.  Learning to act on disappointment instead of react to it will help us find a positive outcome.  No problem is improved by adding intensity and anger to it.  We can control our actions and responses even in times of duress and navigate anger effectively.  There is always a possible positive outcome and if we take our time we’ll find it.

Self-control is a learned response.  Children express anger by crying, screaming or pouting but as we grow and mature if we want to be successful adults we must replace those instantaneous responses with something more thoughtful and successful.  There are few things more disagreeable than an adult who acts like a child.  We can learn the skills we need to be patient in disappointment and tolerant when things go wrong.  We are mature enough and wise enough to find the best way forward no matter the situation.

It’s impossible to listen to other perspectives if we’re concentrating on smashing the opposing point of view.  If we over react every time something goes wrong or someone disagrees with us we may end up burning bridges and ruining relationships.  We might win the current battle but lose the connection going forward.  We can align our priorities and address conflict in ways that protect our sincerest interests.  Maturity and wisdom come with practice and we can choose wisely in difficult times to help us become the people we most want to be and preserve the relationships we value.

Today if feel intensely angry over something, before you react take a moment to look at the situation objectively.  Determine what is most important before you move forward and then choose the path that will take you there.  You are wise and strong and what you want most is possible.  Every positive outcome is there for you and with patience and clarity you will find it.

Chipping Away

18 Jun

Confidence helps us find success in every arena of our lives.  When we’re sure of our next steps and believe we will reach the goal, the inevitable complications and detours are easier to see beyond and we are able to move ahead with determination and focus.  Personal confidence is important but may be fragile from time to time.  If someone criticizes choices we’ve made it may chip away a bit of our certainty.  If we have a few failures in a row, a little more may chip off and if we make a decision that brings us trouble and trials, we may lose even more.  As we face difficulties going forward, bit by bit we may lose our confidence.  If we believe we cannot succeed we will never reach the destinations we desire.  There are a lot of things that can go wrong but our confidence is built within us and we are in complete control of how weak or strong it becomes.  Failure will come at some time but failure is just an indicator that the path we chose did not take us to the destination we were seeking.  It doesn’t mean we can’t choose again and it’s not the end of the road.  Finding out what doesn’t work is as important and finding out what does.  We need not internalize the disappointment indefinitely.  We can reset, and begin again in a new direction.  Success is always possible and we can bolster our confidence when needed and continue on.  Our lives belong to us and every dream we desire can become reality.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  We can learn from mistakes and trust ourselves to move forward and reach any goal we desire.

When others disagree with a goal we’ve set and believe we are going down the wrong road, if they cannot dissuade us from our course, they may choose to sabotage us to divert us from the path.  If they are determined they may stand in front of us to block us from proceeding.  The opinions of others belong to them and have no bearing on our personal decisions.  We don’t need the agreement of anyone to make personal choices.  We know who we are and what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

There will always be many reasons not to do something we dream about.  Maybe it’ll take a lot of time, cost money, take us from our routines and require us to learn a new skill, or countless other details.  If we focus on the difficulties of trying something new we will never leave the comfort of where we are.  It’s impossible to make our dreams come true by doing the same things over and over again.  We are capable of change and can accomplish anything.  All possibilities are available and we can go anywhere and do anything we desire.  The whole world is there for us and we can achieve every single dream.

Today if you’ve lost confidence because of something that’s happened and aren’t sure you have what it takes to succeed, step back and remember all the times you’ve overcome trials and hardship.  You are strong and capable and nothing is too difficult for you.  Be sure.  Every dream is possible.  Step forward and reach beyond your grasp.  Everything you want is there for you and you will achieve it.  Nothing is out of reach.

Mission Control

4 Jun

Control is an illusion for anything outside ourselves.  We can’t control what other people do, how things happen or when something will occur.  There are a lot of variables in each moment and we have to be ready for the changes that will inevitably happen.  Although we don’t have any control over anything around us, we have complete control over ourselves.  We’re in charge or our behavior and the choices we make with each passing moment.  To say “I couldn’t help it” after making a poor choice is just an excuse.  Whether we admit it or not, we are responsible for every step we take, every action we display, and everything we say and do.  Nobody is perfect and when there is conflict or a lot going on there may be times when we do things we regret.  It’s perfectly normal to make mistakes but we must accept our ownership of them.  It’s inappropriate and dishonest to try to push a bad decision off onto others or blame the situation.  We always know what we’re doing.  When we’re upset and confused, there is no off-site mission control that will take over for us.  We’re in charge and must forge ahead no matter the circumstances.  Taking the time to see everything clearly before we jump into a quick decision will help us.  Every decision we make will take us somewhere.  We can remember the destination we are seeking and make the choices that will take us closer to it.  We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to lead strong, successful lives.  We can be in control and move forward toward the goals we value most.

If we’re unsure about what we’re doing or don’t really know where we want to go, when it’s time to make a choice we may lean on others or follow someone else.  It’s easy to ride in the backseat.  If we aren’t driving we don’t have to know where we’re going, we don’t have to find the way forward, and we can simply relax and enjoy the ride.  But if we stay in the backseat we will only go places others have chosen.  Our lives cannot truly belong to us if we don’t direct our plans.  We have enough courage to step up front and decide where we want to go.  Every destination is possible and we can find our way step by step until we reach success.

It takes courage to live the lives we want the most.  We must be willing to try new things and face the possibility of failure.  We know where we are now, it’s comfortable in routine, and we know what to expect, but staying in the same place will never take us where we want to go.  Every option is available if we are willing to do what is needed to achieve it.  We have all the courage and strength we need to make our dreams come true.  We don’t need to rely on others to take us where we want to go.  We can drive our own train and reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been unsure about the way ahead and are tempted to follow others instead of being in control, remember how strong and effective you are.  You know what you want.  Be courageous and step forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are more powerful than you realize.  Every dream can come true.  Take control and push ahead.  Success is waiting for you and you will reach it.

Here and Now

29 May

Life is busy and there are often many things going on around us. We have responsibilities to address, details to attend to and an endless list of things we want to get done. We can be very effective and move forward efficiently and quickly but there are always a lot of distractions and it’s sometimes hard to stay tuned to the things we’re doing. Our thoughts determine how successful we are as we move along. If we’re in the moment and aware of what’s going on here and now we will see everything clearly and make the best decisions. If we’re distracted by something and looking in a direction away from where we want to go it will be harder to get to our destination. Our thoughts are fluid and continually moving from one topic to the next. One idea leads to another and if we’re not careful we might find we’ve spent a lot of time thinking about situations that have nothing to do with where we are right now. Being mindful of exactly where we are and what’s happening will help us move forward to where we want to go. We can manage whatever distractions are in our path and continue forward focused on our goal. Every destination is possible and when we’re thinking clearly and are determined to get there, nothing can keep us from success. We can control our thoughts and with discipline and determination get to any goal we seek.

We all have memories of things that have passed. Some will be good, some may be difficult and if we’ve been hurt and those memories are strong they may hold us back from what we want to do. Difficult memories may haunt us as we try to process what happened and wonder about why things went awry. We can’t go back in time and it’s impossible to live in the past and if we carry disappointments forward and hang onto them, they may prevent us from living in the present. All we have is what’s happening now. The past is gone and can never be recaptured. We can learn from what we’ve been through, let it go and move forward.

There is no way to know what will come to us. We can plan and proceed toward goals we want and we will achieve them but often we get there in ways we didn’t anticipate. Life is filled with unknowns and we only have control over ourselves. Nothing can prevent the future from arriving and worrying about what might happen or how we’ll handle what we don’t know is time wasted. We have all the skills we need to face anything that comes. We are strong, resilient and capable and nothing can hold us down. The future will come and we will manage whatever it brings with confidence.

Today if you’ve been spending time dissecting something that has past, or worrying about what might come in the future, focus on today. You only have this moment to live your life. The past is behind you and the future will come in its own time. Be the best you can be right now and every goal you’re seeking will become a reality. Your life is precious and valuable, and every decision you make will take you closer to the goals you desire. Be courageous and confident. You are amazing and every dream can come true. There is greatness ahead for you and you will reach it.

Time to Breathe

23 May

As we go through our lives we play many roles.  We are daughters and sons, spouses, partners, lovers, workers, and dozens of others.  Each day requires us to fulfill some role in our lives and take care of the responsibilities attached to it.  In the midst of all this activity and interaction we may forget to stop and pay attention to what’s going on inside us.  It can be hard to express who we truly are when we’re putting out fires and getting things done.  We may neglect personal time for reflection and private growth because of everything pressing on us.  While it’s important to accomplish the things that move us forward and take care of business as needed, it’s also important to take time for ourselves.  Peace comes when we do what’s important for us to become the people we want to be.  Time is always limited and if we don’t control it, it will control us.  There will always be one more thing to get done but our personal needs are as important as anything else we need to accomplish.  Valuing time for reflection and quiet thought will settle our minds and make the road ahead easier to navigate.  We can push and push and we may find great outward success but if we’re exhausted and unhappy when we get there our efforts will be wasted.  Life is an incredible blessing.  We have only the moment we’re in.  We can value ourselves as much as any task before us.  True happiness is always possible and caring for ourselves will make it happen.

Never in history have we been expected to do more than we are expected to accomplish today.  The standard for success is very high, and rest and relaxation have sometimes fallen by the wayside.  We can be highly motivated and productive and still take time out.  The road will not disappear if we step off it for a moment.  Everything will remain and wait for our return.  Rest brings refreshment and new ideas, and allows us to focus inwardly and let our imaginations roam.  When we sit still, ideas for complex issues have time to rise and all the hidden answers we’ve been seeking may appear.  We may discover new ways forward and have more confidence when we begin again.

It’s fine to be busy and actively engaged and we learn a lot as we complete different activities.  As we move forward it’s important to remember that every battery eventually runs low and needs to be recharged.  We don’t have to wait until we feel overwhelmed or get sick from fatigue.  We can be proactive and take time to breathe even in the midst of turmoil.  Our lives belong to us and we can design them to have the highest quality and best experience possible.

Today if you’ve been pushing personal needs aside in an effort to be more effective in the tasks at hand, take a step back and rest for a moment.  Give yourself time to breathe and think quietly.  Let your imagination soar and rest from the world.  You will find greater peace and happiness and everything you are seeking will come more easily.  You are amazing and capable, and every success is possible.  Take care of yourself and everything else will fall into place.