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Permanent Ink

19 Sep

As children, we learn many things. We watch and quickly understand how our behaviors bring different results. We learn what is acceptable and what is forbidden, what is ridiculed and what is praised, and we understand how to navigate all that information to get what we want. As we grow into adulthood we may carry many of the patterns we’ve learned with us and incorporate them into our lives. Some of them help us achieve the goals we desire, but some may hold us back. Childhood patterns can be powerful and even if we don’t know why something is done a certain way, we may continue it even if it no longer makes sense. There is the story of a woman who always cut up her Sunday pot roast and cooked it in two pots. When her daughter asked why she cooked it that way she said that’s the way her mother did it. The daughter then asked the grandmother and she laughed and said, “I never had a pot big enough for the whole thing!” Traditions often start out of need but over time, even when that need is no longer there, the tradition may remain. We may repeat a pattern in our lives that no longer works because it’s what we learned in the past. Keeping things the same is like using permanent ink to write our story. But life changes, and we change as we move forward. We can modify anything to find the best answers and make the best choices. There are few permanent rules that cannot be broken or changed. Our lives belong to us and we may design them any way we like. We can shake off what doesn’t work and forge a new path that is uniquely our own. When we choose the road that’s best for us and takes us where we want to go, we will find happiness and satisfaction going forward.

We may feel pressure to conform and stay within the bounds of customary patterns with those around us. Everyone has their own ideas about how life should look and what is acceptable. But we are all individuals and what is right for one may be uncomfortable for another. We can choose what is best for us even if it doesn’t fit into someone else’s model. The gifts we present to the world are unique and nobody else can give them. Our influence is important and we can share who we really are, honestly and completely.

There are many kinds of families in life. We have biological families, adopted families, work families and others. Every group has its own interpretations about how things should go. If we are comfortable with the patterns presented we may adopt them into our lives, but if we disagree we don’t have to go along. We can be who we really are and make choices that reflect our individual personalities and desires. We can find joy in being true to ourselves. There is no permanent ink to hold us in place. We can change and modify, and find happiness our own way.

Today if you’ve been following a pattern that’s holding you back, change your focus. You have a lot to offer and the world is eager to share your gifts. Be confident and go forward with courage. You are perfect just as you are and there isn’t anything you can’t do. You bring blessings to us all.

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Connections

14 Sep

There are billions of people on the earth. We will never meet them all but we are connected to them in many ways. We influence each other constantly as we navigate our lives. Whether we’re aware of it or not, we change every situation we’re in just because we’re there. We have more influence on those around us than we may realize. If we’re happy and feel good, our positive energy will show and those who see it will be drawn to us. We have the power to lift others by our example and can be a great influence for good. Conversely, if we’re struggling we may push others away. The impact we make is up to us. Our connections to those around us may be invisible but will always be present. We can be mindful of our influence and remember how important we are in everything we do. We can share ourselves in ways that are comfortable and allow others to share with us in return. When we keep our connections strong we feel more confident and supported. We’re all in this together and that bond can be the glue that takes us from trial to success. We have millions of brothers and sisters around us who can help us through difficult trials and rejoice with us when things go well.

We all process trouble differently. Some people like to talk things out with others, some people bury themselves in activity as a way to get through, and some of us just want to be left alone. Being alone can give us the space we need to clear our heads and find the answers we seek. It can be helpful for a time but being locked away will also keep the influence of others away. Everyone has different experiences and someone near us may know things about our situation that are helpful. We can reach out to those we trust and allow them to share their advice with us. A different perspective may open new options we hadn’t considered and those options may help us find our way forward more easily.

There is a grove of over 40,000 aspen trees growing in a forest that are not individual organisms but in essence all one tree. They share the same network of roots and each tree is a clone of the one next to it. In some ways, we are like that grove of trees. Although we are all individuals, as people we share a common ancestry and even though our desires are different our needs are the same. We can lean on each other in times of discomfort and enjoy each other’s company when things go well. Remembering and strengthening our connections to those around us will bring us comfort and confidence, and help us find new ways forward to success.

Today if you’ve set yourself apart and are facing a problem alone, remember the help available from those around you. Reach out for answers and let others in. We’re all cheering for your success. You’re a valuable member of the team and we’re glad you’re here. You deserve the very best of everything. Strengthen your connections to those around you and let them help you make your dreams come true.

 

Aimless

13 Sep

We can do anything we want with our time as we live our lives.  We can wander around aimlessly taking things as they come, or purposefully set goals and achieve the things we desire.  Our time is ours to use as we like and anything is possible.  If we have no compass for the way forward, or lack confidence in our ability to accomplish things we dream about, we may spend our days simply going through the motions of whatever life presents to us.  There are always plenty of things to occupy our thoughts and distract us, and if we choose to, we may spend all our time merely watching the constantly changing landscape.  It’s all up to us but if we are aimless in our direction with no specific destination or goal in mind, we may discover that years have drifted by and nothing has changed.  While it’s comforting to be in situations that are familiar, change can bring great satisfaction.  We all have unlimited potential and there isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  We are the only ones who can make our dreams come true and direct our lives to the places we want to go.  Sitting back and waiting for things to come to us will not bring success.  Every day is a gift and we can capture each moment going forward and design our perfect life.  Sitting back will never move us forward.  We can pursue any dream or desire, and we can succeed.  There isn’t anything out of reach and all things are possible if we’re willing to work for them.  Our lives are ours and we can make them any way we choose.  We can be happy and fulfilled, and find joy living the lives we want the most.

It can be hard to think about changing our lives.  Even if we want something very badly it may be intimidating to begin doing the things needed to bring it to pass.  When we step onto an unknown path we may feel unsure of our ability to continue.  But the unknown is just a place we haven’t yet visited.  We have all the courage and wisdom needed to open new doors and take new roads going forward.  The scenery and players involved may change but soon they will become familiar and our confidence will rise.  We can trust in ourselves to manage whatever comes and find success.

Nobody can give us the lives we want the most.  Wandering aimlessly through our days will not bring us happiness.  We must take action to create the lives we want.  Real joy comes when we do the things needed to take us to the destinations we desire.  Each step we take brings us closer to the goal.  When we live fully aware of where we are, and push to move forward to where we want to go, we will find happiness.  We deserve complete happiness and choosing to live on purpose, pointed in the direction of our dreams will bring it to us.

Today if you’ve been drifting through your time and just taking things as they come, stop and think about what you want the most.  Where do you really want to be?  Take the first step forward toward the life you dream about.  You can do anything and go anywhere you desire.  Success is always there for you but you must choose it.  Move forward and direct your course to fulfill your dreams.  You can do anything.  Start today.

Cleaning Up

21 Aug

We make countless decisions as we go through our lives.  It’s not always easy to make the best choices and we can create a mess by making them quickly and without thought.  We all take a wrong turn once in a while but if we’re lazy and pass things off, choosing to let things happen as they will instead of purposely making a considered choice we may end up with a life filled with unnecessary complications and difficult scenarios that may have been avoided.  Instead of moving forward we may spend a lot of time cleaning up messes we’ve created by making bad choices.  The time spent turning things around again is time lost and cannot be used toward achieving our goals.  Deciding to live our lives thoughtfully takes effort but when we do we have a better chance of things going the way we want them to.  We can live our lives any way we choose.  If we like conflict and disharmony, it’s easy to create but both require time and energy to repair and keep our eyes from the road ahead.  Learning to live in ways that bring harmony and cooperation, and choosing to make choices carefully will take us closer to the goals we’re seeking and bring us satisfaction and happiness.

Our emotions lag behind our intellect.  When something happens that triggers a negative emotional response instead of taking time to think we may jump.  Instead of taking of moment to evaluate our next move, we may simply charge right back and make the situation worse.  We may allow our emotional reaction to decide how we’ll act.  Emotions are important and help us understand our world but when we let them decide how we’ll respond to conflict we may not get the best results.  We can step back for a moment and think about what’s best going forward before we act.  It isn’t easy to step back when we feel threatened or hurt but we have all the strength and wisdom we need to accomplish it.  Taking a moment to think first may save us additional duress going forward and help us resolve conflict before it gets out of hand.

If we choose to go through our lives reacting to things instead of taking time to respond in ways that help we may end up in situations that are heated and difficult to navigate.  Reactions are normal and when things happen that upset or confuse us if we don’t take a moment to stop and think we may do things that elevate the situation and make things worse.  We are always in control of our lives.  We can choose ways that make the road ahead easier instead of react in ways that make it harder.  There will always be conflict but how we manage it is up to us.  We can choose what’s best and make decisions that will prevent a mess going forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that is filled with conflict and you feel the tension rising within you, take a moment to step back and think about your options going forward.  You are in complete control of everything you do and you can make excellent choices that will bring harmony and peace into your life.  Choose the way forward that helps you keep your eyes on your goals.  There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for you to figure out.  You have everything you need to succeed.  Take your time and choose success.

Pointed Ahead

18 Aug

There are endless choices we can make about where we’ll go in our lives.  We can do what our families think we should, we can make choices based on our friends’ suggestions, or we can decide on our own where we want to go.  There are limitless opportunities and choices we can make and we may customize our lives any way we choose.  Before we begin, the first step is to decide where we want to go.  Important decisions take time and careful consideration and if we are undecided and begin walking forward unsure of where we’re headed we may end up somewhere we don’t want or even walking in circles.  Starting on a journey without a defined destination will not help us achieve anything we desire.  Being busy doesn’t always mean being productive and wandering around in circles may keep us moving but it will get us nowhere.  Before we start moving we must choose a destination and then plan our steps forward to reach the goal.  When our feet are pointed ahead in the direction we desire we have a good chance of reaching our goals.  We can go anywhere but first we must decide exactly what destination we desire.  We already know what we want most and have all the courage and wisdom needed to achieve anything.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and no place we can’t go.  Choosing carefully will help us find success.  Everything is available to us once we decide we will do what it takes to get it.  Every choice is ours to make.  We can choose what we want most and point our feet in the direction needed to achieve it.

It’s easy to coast through life going here and there with no destination in mind.  It’s easy to go with the flow of other people’s decisions and play along even if the goal isn’t something we really want.  But going along and simply taking things as they come will never help us get to the destinations we want most.  We can do anything but we must take control of our time and decisions and move forward toward our goal with determination.  Happiness comes from living our lives on purpose and choosing our own way forward.  We can accomplish anything we desire and begin forward on the road that will take us to success.

Everyone has their own ideas about life and what is best.  What is right for others may not be what we want.  We don’t have to conform to anyone’s suggestions about our future and we can determine our way forward on our own.  We know what we want to accomplish, we know where we want to go, and we know how to find success.  Being true to our sincere desires will bring us happiness as we move forward on the road that is genuinely ours.  Each day we choose what is best for us will take us one step closer to success and real happiness.

Today if you want to change direction from the road you’ve been on but there is pressure to stay on course, remember your life is yours to design.  You can go anywhere you want.  Point your feet in the direction you desire and begin forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t do and every step with take you closer to the life you want most.  This is your day.  Move forward with confidence.  It’s all there for you.

Revision

7 Aug

We all have particular behavior idiosyncrasies that make us unique and special.  We have some traits that bring us happiness and help us manage our daily lives and we are grateful for them.  We may also have some behaviors that don’t work so well and hang us up from time to time.  We all learn behavior patterns as we grow and when we’re accustomed to doing things a certain way we may continue even if they bring us discomfort.  Whether or not we continue to repeat them is up to us.  We can have any kind of life we want.  If we want a life filled with drama and tension, it’s not difficult to create.  But if we want lives filled with peace and harmony we may need to look at our behaviors clearly and objectively and change some patterns in order to achieve it.  We all know what’s best for us and when we’re doing things that will bring problems and complications to our lives.  In every decision we can do our best to create situations that bring order and calm instead of conflict and tension.  We can’t control what others do but we can determine to carefully consider all the options before us and choose the options that bring resolution and comfort.  Every day is a blessing.  Learning to care for ourselves and make the most positive choices will help us enjoy our time and bring us peace and added joy.

Some decisions fill our lives with conflict.  They may include some kind of deception or manipulation that intensifies the problem.  If we like tension or feel energized when there are problems to solve it’s not difficult to create a life filled with trouble.  If we want constant struggle we can create scenarios that make it happen.  We may manufacture situations to prove how strong we are or how affective we can solve difficult situations.  It takes a lot of energy to live in continual conflict. There is enough natural complication in our lives already and we don’t have to prove anything to anyone.  We can revise decisions that may bring added conflict and make choices that resolve it by choosing peace over contention.

Learning to live peacefully opens doors to new opportunities.  Everyone enjoys being around those who have a positive outlook and seek the best options in their decisions.  There is no way to completely avoid conflict but when it comes we can decide to do things that will minimize the problem and defuse the intensity.  We are in complete control of our decisions and can make any choice we desire.  Since we can never choose the outcome of any choice we make it’s in our best interest to weigh our options carefully and make the decisions that have the greatest chance of bringing the results we desire.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well.  Learning to live peacefully and happily will bring us great reward and satisfaction.  Our lives are precious and we can fill them with joy.

Today if you’ve been struggling with conflict and pushing against resolution, look at the issue clearly and decide the best way forward.  You have everything you need to be happy and successful.  Make decisions today that will bring you joy in the future.  You are precious and priceless.  Be happy and choose wisely.

Broken or Blessed

4 Aug

Relationships are important to all of us.  When we have a healthy and strong network of family and friends around us we feel supported and cared for.  Relationships come in all varieties and when they are good for us they are blessings in our lives.  But sometimes we may develop a relationship with someone who doesn’t have our best interests at heart.  Perhaps they are dysfunctional in their own lives and use us to fill in the gaps and missing pieces they experience within themselves.  Or maybe they see us as a stepping stone to something better.  Sometimes they may manipulate us into believing they care for us when they don’t or convince us to trust them in ways that work against us.  If they need more than we’re comfortable giving or have problems that interfere with our happiness it will be impossible for us to continue.  We don’t have to end any relationship that is important to us but if it’s hurting us we can find ways to manage it that ensure we’re comfortable and safe.  If a relationship is too difficult it may break and we may have to walk away.  Our personal happiness and safety are important and if we’re in a relationship that hurts us or makes us feel unsure we can change our involvement.  There are all kinds of people in the world and some need more than we can give.  We don’t have to continue in any situation that doesn’t work.  We can choose a new path at any time and are in complete control of our lives.  We know ourselves and know what is best for us.  Taking control and choosing the best road forward will bring us happiness and peace.

Perception is reality and sometimes our perception of an issue may be different than someone else’s.  What is acceptable and appropriate for one person may be offensive and unwelcome to another.  If we develop a relationship with someone whose ideas about what is right differ from ours, there will likely be conflict.  It may be possible to find a compromise but if the differences are extreme and feelings are strong it may become unworkable.  If we’re involved with someone whose personal values are far different than ours we may need to step back.  We deserve to be happy and choose to live our lives according to our personal standards.  We need not compromise what is most important to us.

There are few things more rewarding than a loving relationship with someone who respects us and treats us with kindness.  We feel strong when we’re with them and confident going forward knowing they have our backs and we can count on them for support.  Sharing our lives with someone who understands us and cares for us is a great blessing.  We can have any kind of relationships we desire.  We know what we want and what we need, and if we choose well we will be happy.

Today if you’re struggling with a relationship that brings you pain and frustration, consider all your options going forward.  You are in control of your life and you deserve every happiness.  Make choices today that will bring you comfort and joy.  You know what you need and you know what to do.  Be confident.  You have everything you need to have the life you desire.