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Blown Apart

27 Jun

There are opposites in all things and all kinds of people in the world. Some are good or bad, kind or wicked, helpful or hurtful. They may be a great asset to us or they may try to take everything away. If we’ve suffered through a situation where someone destroys our sense of well-being – they breach our accounts and steal all our money, or break into our homes, or take our car – or any other serious, malicious situation, we may feel extremely vulnerable and violated. Everything may feel blown apart and we may struggle for a time to find our footing again. When our foundations have been shaken and what we thought was strong has been penetrated and looted, the exposure may shatter our sense of safety and security. When something has been broken it takes work to rebuild and fortify it again. If it’s very personal it may take serious courage and intense focus to unravel everything and put it back together. Dangerous and difficult issues are not easy to process and overcome. We may be attacked and left standing bereft and confused, but all the answers we need will be there for us. We will never be left devastated without a way out. It may take a lot of time and work, but there will always be a way forward. Even in our weakest moments, we are strong enough to prevail. There isn’t anything we can’t manage, and nothing is powerful enough to hold us down forever. We can trust ourselves to do what is needed to correct anything that happens, and find resolution. Life is complicated and trouble may come, but we are intelligent and wise, and no matter what goes wrong, no matter how hard the road is, we will reach success.

It’s hard to understand wickedness and why some people hurt others for their own personal gain. We hear stories about it all the time, but until it happens to us, we may have no idea how pervasive and painful it can be. With one action, someone may destroy our security and peace. The shock may leave us speechless for a moment, but we are stronger than we imagine, and with determination and clarity, will be able to figure out how to amend the situation and start again.

When terrible things happen, and we feel tremulous and worried, it’s natural to want to hide. The fight or flight reflex may kick in and tell us to run, and we can lock ourselves up in our rooms and hide under the covers. But looking away from trouble will never solve it. It doesn’t matter how bad everything seems, it doesn’t matter how desperate the situation appears, we already have what we need to overcome it. We can stand strong and step forward with confidence, sure we will find every answer and be able to correct every issue. There isn’t anything too difficult for us. We are powerful and wise, and we will win.

Today if something terrible and extreme has happened, and you feel unsure and exposed, trust yourself. You are intelligent and highly capable and nothing can hold you down indefinitely. Get the help you need and confidently begin. All the answers are there for you and every success awaits. Be confident and sure. The whole world is still there for you and you will prevail.

Better Late

23 May

Life is busy and we often have a lot of things to take care of and accomplish. It would be nice if we had people to do our chores, run our errands and take care of details for us, but that is a luxury most of us don’t have. It’s always nice, despite our busy schedules, to make time for friends and family. We might set up lunch dates or times to walk and talk together or any number of other activities that re-connect us and allow us to share our lives. When we set a time to meet, we expect everyone to be there. If someone is late, we can be understanding and continue on, but if they’re late every time it may become an issue. There is an old saying, “Better late than never,” well maybe. We can certainly excuse late arrivals once or twice, but if it’s a constant issue, and every time we set a time to meet the other person is consistently, habitually late, it may become a problem. Our time is valuable, and deserves to be honored. Constantly showing up late shows a lack of respect and can logistically create problems for our personal schedules. If we see that our appointments with someone will always run late, we can decline future requests to meet. We are always in control of our own lives and never have to do anything that doesn’t work for us. We can make excellent choices and decide how we will proceed in every instance. Our lives are ours to design and with clarity and focus, we can choose the best way forward.

Some people have trouble keeping their word. If they don’t show for appointments, and don’t follow through on commitments, it will be hard to trust them. They may apologize profusely when they drop the ball, and promise it won’t happen again, only to forget the promise the next time something comes along. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and every decision we make – good or bad. Nobody will cover our mistakes indefinitely, and we must accept accountability for every choice. If we’re negligent, we will face the consequences of our actions. Change is always possible, and when we’re ready we can correct any problem or issue.

Blaming others or situations when we’re at fault never works. If we’re irresponsible we can say it’s the way we were raised. If we’re rude we can say the situation warranted it, and on and on. We can try to excuse any bad behavior, and others might believe us for a time, but that won’t work indefinitely. By looking at every choice carefully, choosing the best path forward, and keeping our word, we will gain the trust and companionship of those around us. We can create the lives we dream of by being wise and considerate of others. Every goal is possible if we’re willing to follow through and do what is needed to make it ours.

Today if you’ve dropped the ball on a commitment, decide how you want to proceed. There is greatness inside you, but it’s up to you to choose the better part. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and every dream is possible. Be the best you can be and every door will open. You are amazing. Show us your best, and every success will follow.

Another Let Down

8 Apr

Everyone makes their own decisions and we’re all accountable for each choice we make. If we make commitments and honor them, people will learn to trust us. If we give our word and then just forget about it because we really didn’t mean it, others will understand we are not reliable. Life is complicated and we will face all kinds of dicey and uncomfortable situations. If we’re pressed against something we don’t think we can manage, we might say anything just to escape. We may agree to do what someone else wants, or say we’ll take care of the issue, when in fact we have no intention of doing either. We may focus on simply looking good for the moment and getting away, and push off any responsibility we have for following through. We can do anything we like, but one thing is certain – every decision we make will have a result. Dodging our accountability doesn’t eliminate it. We own every choice, good or bad. If we can’t do something, or don’t understand how to proceed, instead of making up stories to get through, it’s far better to be completely honest about what’s happening. Nobody knows everything and we’re all going to be in situations that confound us and tangle the way forward. If we’re open about our true feelings and refuse to agree to something we cannot do, we can stand strong and step forward with confidence. Our lives are what we make them. By being truthful and clear, we can pave the road ahead and reach success.

It’s good to trust others, but we may face a situation when that trust is abused and broken. Maybe someone makes a date with us, but then fails to show. They may have a very convincing excuse, and we may forgive them and try again. If they stand us up a second time, it will be harder to believe them when they try to explain. Some people don’t care how their decisions affect others. They may make all kinds of commitments they never intend to keep, and if we care for them, their irresponsibility may hurt us deeply. We know who we are and what we want. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can step away and go in a new direction

There is an old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn be twice, shame on me.” Continually trusting someone who constantly lets us down will never take us where we want to go. There is no way to change anyone else or control their decisions. Once we see who they are and how they act, it’s up to us to decide what our relationship with them will be. We never have to stay in any relationship that brings pain or discomfort. There will always be another road and a new way forward. By trusting ourselves, and choosing what’s best for us, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been let down again by someone, think about what you want the most. You are more precious and powerful than you imagine, and deserve complete happiness. There is nothing strong enough to hold you in place. Choose the roads that will lead you to success and step forward confident and sure. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself. The best is just ahead.

Skate Shoes

30 Mar

There are lots of people on the earth, and all around us. As we interact with them, we get to know them, what they’re like, what they do well, how they respond and a thousand other cues that help us communicate effectively with them. Most people are polite and try to do their best, but there are always some who are ready to cheat or find ways to manipulate us and the situations we’re in. It’s like that one person on the team project who does nothing. They don’t prepare anything and skip the meetings, but when it’s time to present, they show up and take credit for what’s been done. They don’t want to work so they skate through on the efforts of others, and many times, they may get away with it. When we figure out who they are we may do everything we can to avoid them, and it’s frustrating and difficult if we have to deal with them. It’s unethical and dishonest to skip out and then take credit for things we haven’t done, but those who do it don’t really care about ethics or honesty. They just want the glory, and will take it any way they can. We can speak up and point out what’s going on and hope that will make a difference, and it might, or it might not. The best we can do is deal with what we have, be the best we can be, and continue forward toward our goals despite the annoyance. We know what we want, and there isn’t anything or anyone who can keep us from it. By keeping our eyes trained on the road ahead, with determination and confidence we will reach every success.

Life can be complex and we may face some seriously troublesome times. When things are going wrong and it feels like nothing is working out, we may be tempted to throw up our hands in despair, surrender to defeat and walk away letting someone else handle it. We can do anything we like, and if the goal is too hard right now, we can set it aside until things change, but we never have to give up. Nothing is permanent, and no matter what’s going on now, or where we are, everything will eventually change. If we keep our options open and our watch carefully, we’ll be ready when the door opens ahead.

Some people are frankly lazy. They want to move ahead but they don’t want to work. They want to achieve their goals, but they don’t really want to do anything to make that happen. When they have assignments they need to address, they may lean on those around them, and try to push them off so they skate on through to something they want to do. We’re in control of our lives, and unless someone is in authority over us, never have to take on anything we don’t want. We always have the power to say no, and can continue forward focusing on the goals we’ve set for ourselves.

Today if you’re dealing with a troublesome situation, remember all the times you’ve faced challenges in the past and succeeded. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. All the answers are there for you and you have everything you need to move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal. You are capable of amazing success and nothing can hold you in place. The whole world is there for you and you will win.

Making Them Pay

27 Jan

There are all kinds of people in the world doing all kinds of things and making all kinds of decisions. Everyone has their own motivations for what they do, and if someone else’s decisions are in direct opposition of our own and we collide, there will likely be conflict. If we’re in their way, they push us aside and storm on through, or do something to sabotage us. When someone does something that purposely hurts us we may be so angry we decide to make them pay. A lover cheats, a business partner sets us up, or dozens of other painful scenarios may push us to seek revenge and do our best to destroy them. We can do anything we like, but all the time spent plotting and planning, and then executing whatever we’ve chosen to do is wasted time we can’t use to move forward. Seeking revenge may make us feel better, but it will do nothing to enhance our situation or advance us toward the goals we’re seeking. And if we do attack, they may attack back. And then what? We try again? That’s a lot of wasted time and energy. Yes, they probably deserve to suffer for what they’ve done, but spending time trying to make that happen will never help us succeed. And even if we manage to hurt them, their discomfort may not stop them from doing it again. We don’t have to roll over and take abuse, and can stand firm and defend ourselves clearly and effectively. We can stand up to bullies and refuse to allow them to distract us and keep us from success. We know who we are and what we want, and when we’re focused and determined, nothing and nobody can keep us from achieving it.

Some people think they know us better than we know ourselves. They may criticize our decisions, and tell us what to do and where to go. We can listen to any advice we like, but allowing others to control our lives will never bring us satisfaction and happiness. We already know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. We can be confident in our decisions, and move forward toward any goal we desire.

Getting deeply hurt by someone can change the way we see ourselves. We may begin to second guess our decisions, and worry that somehow their insults were right. Words only have the power we give them. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of us or what we’re doing. We can design our lives any way we want, and never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas or opinions. By charting our own course and trusting ourselves, we can move forward and reach success.

Today if someone has done something to hurt you and you are angry and obsessed with getting them back, stop and think about what you want the most. Focus on your own road and your own destinations. Leave trouble behind and move forward with confidence. You are amazing and a great light to the world. Be strong and step forward toward success. Everything is there for you, and you will win.