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Sharpening Knives

6 Jan

The world is filled with all kinds of people. Many of those we meet are nice, often polite and helpful. But we’re all on different pages and some people may do things that offend, annoy or hurt us. Sometimes these things happen by accident but other times we may get tangled up with someone who does things against us on purpose for their own reasons. Maybe they’re jealous of us, or they think we’re a bit too confident and want to bring us down a notch. Maybe they’re unhappy and want us to suffer along with them. There’s no way to know why people do what they do unless they tell us, and when they’re in attack mode, chances are that won’t happen. We may build what we believe is friendship with someone who seems to like us, only to discover that the nice, gentle lamb we were dealing with was really a wolf. They may smile and agree when we are near but once we walk away, may begin sharpening the knife they plan to stick in our backs. It’s unproductive to live our lives under constant suspicion and paranoia that someone is out to get us, and we can trust others until they give us a reason not to. But it’s wise to keep our eyes open so we aren’t caught off guard. If we pay attention we’ll see cracks where things don’t add up and can do what is necessary to make sure we’re on solid ground. There are many great people in the world we can make wonderful connections and long lasting relationships with. By being wise and seeing everything openly we can avoid unwanted surprises and move forward with confidence.

Nobody knows everything or can read the future. We learn as we go and take all the knowledge we gain forward with us. We don’t have to touch a hot stove twice to know it will burn us. The same is true in our relationships. If someone hurts or manipulates us, they are telling us more about themselves. Of course, we all make mistakes but mistakes that are repeated again and again are personality patterns. We can trust our instincts and step away from any situation that isn’t working. We deserve complete happiness, and have everything necessary to achieve it.

It’s possible to be involved in a relationship with someone who is destructive and feel like there’s no way out. A long time relationship has it’s own dynamic and even if we’re desperately unhappy, we may remain because the unknown is intimidating. Our lives belong to us and we control every choice we make. We can choose unhappiness and despair, or we can decide to make a change. We are intelligent and capable, and when we’re ready, can do anything we desire.

Today if you feel unsure about something that’s happening, trust yourself. You never have to stay in any situation that makes you uncomfortable. Look at every option possible and step toward what you want the most. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You are a blessing to the world and bring great light. Be confident and sure. Every success is there for you and you will make them yours.

Getting the Blessing

29 Oct

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never meet most of them, there are generally people around us most of the time. We build relationships with them of varying degrees, and when we’re close to them, what they do and say may have a big effect on us. If someone does something that really hurts us, destroys our trust, or in other ways breaks down our connection, we may suffer great pain and disappointment. They may refuse to acknowledge what they’ve done and instead expect us to simply let it go and move on. Unresolved conflict doesn’t just disappear because it’s inconvenient, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Carrying around past pain and suffering and holding onto serious disappointment will never help us move ahead, and may hold us down and keep us from achieving our goals. We may think forgiveness is out of the question, but sometimes the only way to set pain down and walk away is to forgive those who have hurt us and let it go. The gift of forgiveness is hard to give in situations where the transgressor is unrepentant, but the blessings aren’t for them. The blessings go to those who have forgiven them. People who hurt others rarely feel bad about what they’re doing, but those they hurt may suffer indefinitely until they decide to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean we must forget what’s happened. We can remember everything clearly and take what we learn from the experience forward with us. Anger and resentment take a lot of energy to sustain, and after we forgive someone, we can release any ill feelings, sustain every valuable bit of information, and walk away with confidence. Nobody is perfect and we all falter at some point. Learning to release any negative experience, forgive those involved, and take the lessons forward, will enable us to find great success and happiness moving forward.

Few things hurt more than a broken heart. It’s painful when a relationship we desire suddenly ends, but it’s worse if it ends because of lying or cheating. It’s hard to look past the pain of betrayal and find relief. We may be shocked when we get all the facts, and decide we’ll never, no matter what, ever forgive them. We can hold onto the pain for as long as we like, but every day we give up to spite or suffering is lost and cannot be restored. Our lives are important, and we have a lot to offer. We can look at the situation clearly and objectively, let go of the sorrow, move forward and start again.

If we’re enmeshed in a difficult situation fraught with despair and grief, we may be overwhelmed and unable to see anything but the pain we’re enduring. Some things are very hard to navigate, but no matter where we are or what’s happening, there will always be a way ahead. The sun will rise again in the morning, and there will be a light to guide us through. Nothing is too hard for us to face, or too challenging for us to resolve. We are powerful and strong, and will prevail.

Today if you’re suffering because of something someone has done, think about what’s most important. Let go of any anger, and trust yourself. You are amazing and worth more than you know. The whole world is enriched because you are here. Take a deep breath, look at all the options possible, and start again. Every success awaits, and you will make them yours.

Shake it Off

31 Aug

We interact with lots of people as we go through our lives. They come and go in and out of our lives on a continual basis. Some relationships are close and strong, others are casual and fleeting. How close we are depends on our circumstances and what’s going on, and lots of other factors. Human beings are complex and even when we know someone well, they may do something, or say something, that confuses us and catches us off guard. We can never know everything about anyone, and even those we are very close to may surprise us from time to time. We may get hurt by something they do or say, or misunderstand their intentions. Not everyone will care about our feelings and someone my offend us – either accidentally or on purpose. When we’re hurt by someone we care deeply about, it can be hard to shake it off. It can be difficult to let go of the pain inflicted by someone close to us. Of course, we can hold onto anything for as long as we like. If there is no resolution, we can carry it with us throughout our lives and let it color how we feel and what we do indefinitely. Hanging onto pain will never bring us happiness, and may hold us back from success. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with butterflies and rainbows. We’ll all go through hard times, face pain and suffering at some point, and have to muddle through difficult issues. It’s the nature of life. But we are intelligent and can see above whatever has gone wrong to the road ahead. Pain hurts but we can decide to shake it off, let it go, and continue on. We are the only ones powerful enough to hold us down and keep us from moving forward. With determination and focus on the road ahead, we can push forward and achieve our greatest goals and desires. Every dream is there for us, and we will prevail.

There is an old saying that, “The best revenge is living well.” If someone has hurt or maligned us, they may rejoice in our temporary demise and suffering. Instead of rewarding them by keeping quiet and staying under water, we can overcome them by simply choosing to stand strong and continue forward. There isn’t anything anyone can do that can hold us down indefinitely. We are strong and powerful, and we know what we want. There is no situation painful enough to paralyze us forever. Every goal we desire is waiting, and we can step forward to claim them all.

Each day is a new beginning. It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or last week, or last year. What matters is what we do today. If the road we were on has ended and there is no way to continue, we can step off and start in a new direction. There are unlimited roads possible and every destination is waiting. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we want. It’s all there for us. We need only decide to begin, and step forward.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to look ahead, remember how strong and capable you are. Stand firm and shake it off. Nothing is powerful enough to hold you down. Decide what you want and start again. Trust yourself, be confident, and step forward. Every goal is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.

Masquerade

6 Jul

Lots of people continually come in and out of our lives. We build many different types of relationships and connections with them, and when they’re positive, our interactions may be helpful and enjoyable. We may have some very close friends with whom we share our most private dreams and desires. If they care for us and value our friendship, they will be trustworthy and loyal. But sometimes things aren’t exactly as they seem, and we may have an experience where someone we thought was a true friend turns out to be something else. They may manipulate us into believing they are on our side and support us, and we may believe they are looking out for our best interests. We may trust them with confidential information and feel we can rely on them. If we care for them, they may use it to their advantage. Truth always rises and although we may be fooled for a while, nobody can keep up a masquerade forever. If they are unworthy of our friendship, in time, however long that takes, their true colors will surface, and we will see them for what they really are. Once the charade is exposed, we may suffer great pains of betrayal and disappointment. How could we ever have believed them? How did we fall for the lies? We are never to blame when others abuse us. It’s good to trust those around us and give them the benefit of every doubt, but we never have to stay in any relationship that isn’t working, no matter how long it’s been going on or what others may advise. We deserve complete happiness and can do what is needed to correct anything in our lives. We can’t change the past, but we are in control of where we go next, and can decide how we’ll proceed. Our lives are ours to design. If something isn’t working, we can change direction and start again. There isn’t anything we can’t do. By trusting ourselves, and moving toward the goals we most desire, we will reach success.

Physical beauty can be a great deceiver. If we’re attracted to someone because of their amazing outward appearance, we may gloss over signals that they aren’t exactly as they seem. But infatuation cannot last indefinitely. As time passes, cracks will appear in the veneer and we’ll be able to see things more clearly. External beauty has nothing to do with internal valor. We are intelligent and wise, and can see beyond the packaging to what lies beneath. We can trust ourselves to build good, strong relationships with others that will bring light and blessing into our lives.

If we’re in a relationship with someone who says all the right things, we may believe in them and wish to be close to them. Words are easy but without follow through, they mean nothing. We can say anything, but if we don’t show how we feel through our actions and decisions, the words we say will mean nothing. It’s like putting a fresh coat of shiny new paint on a ruined car. It looks good from the outside and we may be fooled in the beginning but when we try to move forward, the truth will be easy to see. We are intelligent, and can trust ourselves to uncover what isn’t real. True happiness will always be there for us, and with determination and focus, we will find it.

Today if you’ve discovered you have been manipulated into believing a lie, be confident. Everyone gets fooled sometimes. You are more intelligent and wise than you imagine. Trust yourself and step forward. There is greatness in you and nothing can keep you from every success. Stand strong and be wise. You will prevail.

Sinking Feeling

11 May

We share the world with billions of other people. We’ll build relationships with some of them, we’ll love some of them and tolerate others, and they’ll be a part of our experiences. When we trust someone and believe in them, we may include them in our most private thoughts and plans, and build connections that are strong and rewarding. Although we may feel we’re good judges of character, and often we are, we may face a time when someone turns out to be very different than we thought. If we discover they have been dishonest with us, have manipulated us or flatly lied to us and we believed in them, we may be devastated. When all the facts come out, we may have a sinking feeling that we’ve been used and everything we thought was real was fiction. There may be a feeling of great shame that we fell for the lie, but we are not at fault. It’s good to trust and give others the benefit of the doubt. If they let us down, the blame is theirs to carry. If we’re facing a situation where our trust has been damaged, if the situation isn’t too severe and there are extenuating circumstances that have come into play, there may be a way to mend the relationship. However, if the other party simply manipulated us for their own enjoyment or personal gain, there may be no way to repair the damage. We may need to sever our ties, walk away, and move forward without them. It’s heartbreaking to lose a connection because of dishonesty, but we are strong, and nothing can keep us from reaching success. We can change direction, and alter our plans, and still reach every goal we desire. Others will do what they will, but we know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve it. Every road is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will succeed.

After a bad relationship, we may decide that trusting others isn’t worth the risk and choose to move forward alone. We may avoid building relationships with others to protect ourselves and keep everything inside. We can do anything we like but most people are good, and everyone has something of value to offer. Cutting ourselves off from the human race may seem wise, but it will keep us from all the blessings that building good, strong relationships will bring. Getting hurt is painful, but we will heal, and can trust ourselves to make wise connections moving forward.

We can’t control anything but the decisions we make. Some people will be wise, and some will be foolish. Some may delight in bringing us joy, and others may taunt and tease. We don’t set our personal standards by what others are doing. We set them by what we want to accomplish and who we want to be. We can trust ourselves to make excellent choices and move forward with confidence and clarity that we will prevail in every situation.

Today if you’ve discovered that someone you trusted has been dishonest, and you are hurt and unsure how to proceed, trust yourself. You know what you want, and you know who you are. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. Decide what you want to do and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are still there for you and you will reach them.