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Not Yet the End

31 Aug

We go through all kinds of experiences as we live our lives. Sometimes things go well and we feel settled and comfortable, but we may experience seriously difficult challenges that make us miserable. If we go through a terrible heartbreak, we might feel we’ll never get over it. Breaking a relationship can bring a lot of pain and distress. It hurts to lose someone we love, and it may be impossible to think about the future. If we’re truly suffering and it’s painful to even breathe, we may think we’ll never get over it. This is it, and our lives are ending. Even the worst-case scenario where we are devastated and completely lost doesn’t mean we’re done. The end of a relationship isn’t the end of us. It may really hurt badly, and we may think we can’t survive, but then one day passes and we’re still here. Then another day passes, and if we just keep enduring, time will ease the pain and help us continue on. There are no quick fixes when our lives have taken a dramatic turn that brings us great discomfort. We won’t be back to our happy selves overnight, but we will return. How long it takes depends on a lot of factors, but we can trust that we’ll find peace and comfort again. Life is filled with all kinds of events. It doesn’t matter how difficult they are, we are stronger than anything we’ll face. If we can’t have what we want, we can change our focus. There will always be another road and another opportunity to reach success. Although we may suffer, nothing is powerful enough to hold us down forever. If we can’t stand up and look ahead with confidence today, we will do so tomorrow. We are more resilient than we know, and nothing, not even heartbreak, can keep us from success. Tomorrow will come and the storm will clear. Every dream is still there for us, and with determination and faith, we will reach them all.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. When someone we trust or love, lets us down or does something purposely to hurt us, it can be devastating. We may stand in disbelief, wondering how this happened. We can only control ourselves and the decisions we make. It’s good to trust others, and believe in them, and we can design our lives in ways that bring us great happiness and satisfaction. Our relationships are important, but if they hurt us, we can step away and move in a new direction.

We only know what others reveal to us. They may be open and honest about their feelings, or they may hold back information that may hurt us, or reveal something they don’t want us to know. Truth is powerful and no matter what we do to conceal it, will always rise and become clear. If we discover our relationship isn’t what we thought, we can decide how we want to proceed. We are never doomed to stay in any situation we don’t want. There will always be new options possible, and we can choose the way ahead with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’re struggling with heartbreak and feel like you’ll never be happy again, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing can break you or hold you in place indefinitely. Take your time and trust yourself. You are amazing and capable. There is great happiness just ahead and every success is still possible.

Over and Over Again

11 Feb

Everyone makes their own decisions. If we think about our actions before we make them and don’t simply react to what’s going on around us, we have a better shot at choosing things that will move us forward. We all have the right to choose anything we like but we only have control over ourselves. Others may do what they will, and we cannot prevent their choices from affecting us. If someone hurts us, we can learn from the experience and pay closer attention to our dealings with them. If we could look at only the facts and make our decisions clearly and without influence, everything would be simpler. However, we’re human, and our emotions are part of everything we do. If we get hurt by someone we love, we may let them close enough to hurt us again. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and if we’re involved with someone who is mean and hateful, they will be accountable for those choices. But we’re accountable for what we do as well, and if we continue to allow them to hurt us, that’s on us. The old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me,” is valid. If we allow others to hurt us over and over again, we are partially responsible for the pain we suffer. We never have to stay in any situation that isn’t beneficial. We can always step away and move on to someplace new. If we remain in place, and allow ourselves to continue to be abused, we own that choice. There isn’t any situation powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. We always have the ability to change. We are more powerful than we imagine, and can do anything we desire. We can have the lives we dream about by making choices that take us to it. Every day is a blessing, and we can reach any goal and find complete happiness.

Promises are sacred commitments. If someone makes a promise to us, we hold it close and fully expect them to fulfill it. If the promise is broken, so is part of our trust. If they continually make promises and never keep them, we learn their word is worthless. If we continue to trust them, we will likely be disappointed. We can say anything to get what we want. We can promise the moon and everything that goes with it, but unless we fully deliver, our word means nothing. Deciding to keep our commitments and always follow through will open valuable doors for us, and pave the way toward success.

If we’re caught in a situation where we’re suffering but there is no easy way out, we can decide what we want the most. No matter where we are, we can move. The road may be difficult, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. We are powerful and intelligent, and no matter what’s going on, can find our way forward. Our happiness is important. We can move away and start again. Every dream is possible and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to make them ours.

Today if you’ve been hurt, step back and look at all your options. You never have to stay anywhere you don’t want to be. There are endless opportunities possible, and you have everything you need to find the way forward. Be strong and trust yourself. Every blessing is possible and you will succeed. Be confident. The best is just ahead.

Not Forgetting

7 Jun

There are all kinds of people in the world making all kinds of decisions that may affect our lives. We interact with them and build relationships with them, and they give us an anchor and offer support when we need them. Relationships are like bridges we build that connect us to each other. Trust is imperative as we develop bonds that bring us together. Without it, there is no foundation on which to build and we can never have rich, deep connections. Most people try to be honest but there are some who only think of themselves and have no concern for those around them. They may lie, or cheat to achieve what they want, and feel no guilt or remorse as they leave a trail of broken promises and broken people in their wake. If we’ve fallen into their trap, we may get hurt as they drive the knife of betrayal deep into us. Most of us will be fooled by someone at least once in our lives. Being manipulated and fooled doesn’t mean we’re stupid. It doesn’t mean we’re weak. It just means we believed in someone who wasn’t worth our trust. It’s good to give others the benefit of any doubt and have faith that they’re honest and trustworthy. If it turns out we were completely wrong, the guilt belongs to the one who lied and manipulated, and not to us. When we see everything clearly, we can learn a lot from what’s happened. We may forgive those who offended, but we need not forget the lessons we’ve learned. Every experience gives us something to take forward with us. Each step, even the wrong ones, teach us something valuable. We can gain everything possible from what’s happened, and move forward with increased wisdom and understanding. We’re intelligent and powerful, and nothing is strong enough to overcome us. With courage and confidence, we can move forward and find great success.

Love is a powerful emotion. When we love someone, we may overlook actions and patterns that may end up hurting us. Because we care, we might make excuses for bad behavior, or look the other way when there are offenses and pretend everything is fine. Our happiness and comfort are important. We never have to sacrifice what’s best for us because we have tender feelings for someone else. We can choose wisely and make decisions that will bring us what we desire most going forward.

We’re all responsible for our own lives and never have to stay in any situation that’s uncomfortable or doesn’t work for us. We can’t control what others do, but we’re always in control of our own decisions. There are countless roads to travel and we can always adjust our lives if we want something different. We learn as we go and can use every experience to guide us forward toward the destinations we desire most. We can have the lives we dream about and find true and complete happiness.

Today if you’ve been manipulated and hurt, learn everything you can from the experience and remember the lessons going forward. Learn all you can and take the knowledge with you. You are worth every happiness and nothing can keep you from it. Choose your next steps carefully. Be confident. Every success is possible and nothing is out of reach.

Bruised and Bleeding

4 Mar

We interact with all kinds of people every day and there might be someone who doesn’t agree with us, doesn’t like us, or in some way finds it difficult to deal with us. We’re all different and personality conflicts can happen. If we get entangled with someone who truly dislikes us or wants something from us we can’t give, there may be trouble ahead. Most of us want to get along and try to be flexible when there’s disagreement, but some people hold a hard line on their expectations, and if we don’t meet them, we may pay a high price. They may malign us to our associates, or say we’re liars and manipulators simply because we don’t agree with them. They may even try to turn our family members against us. We can’t control what anyone else does and if they are determined to hurt us and leave us bruised and bleeding, there isn’t much we can to do stop them. Lies may tarnish us for a time, but truth always rises and will show itself. In the end, the only person lies hurt is the one telling them. Dishonesty may bring temporary satisfaction as the intended victim is hurt, but the cost to our integrity will be high. We will lose the trust of those around us and it will be impossible to build strong relationships. We might achieve the damage we desired, but we will be alone in the victory. Nobody wants to associate with someone who is vindictive and mean. They may be our friend today but eventually we may become their target. We can honor those around us, even if they’re completely different. There’s always a compromise possible and with respect and honesty, we can find the best way through.

It’s very painful when someone is persecuting and maligning us to our friends and family, and we will suffer. We can try to defend ourselves and correct the information and that might work, but people are complex and their opinions may be influenced by what they hear. If someone is determined to make us suffer, the damage may be intense. We may lose friends, associates, and even family members. Despite the disappointment and pain, we can stand firm. We know who we are and in time, the truth will show itself. By keeping our standards strong and honestly holding onto what is right, we will prevail.

It’s very difficult to fight a lie. If someone isn’t constrained by truth they may say and do anything to make a point. If there is evidence of the lie, we may offer it, but often lies are merely one person’s word against another. We need not get tangled up in fabrication and deceit. We can go forward and continue making excellent choices and choosing the right. Our honesty will shine through and in time, every lie will be exposed for what it is, and we will succeed.

Today, if someone is saying terrible things about you and you’re being hurt, remember who you are. You are valiant and wise, and nothing can keep you from success. Hold fast to the truth and be honest in all your dealings. Your virtue will shine through and truth will rise. Be confident and step forward. Nothing can hold you down and you will prevail.

Never Ending

1 Feb

We have a lot of good experiences in life and sometimes things go exactly the way we want them to and we feel happy and content.  But pain is a normal part of our lives and we’ll all go through difficult passages from time to time.  When we’re hurting and feel overcome, it can be hard to see any light ahead.  Intense, painful events can knock us down and we may feel the impact of the disappointment for a long time.  If we suddenly lose a job we value, a trusted friend betrays us or a lover leaves, or we experience the death of someone close, we may be left bereft and devastated.  It takes time to recover from very difficult situations.  We may try to put it behind us and each day the pain recedes a little, but it may take longer to feel strong again than we imagine.  Deep, invasive disappointments affect how we feel about ourselves and how we see the world around us.  While we suffer, we may lose faith in the future, doubt that we are lovable, or think the whole world has turned against us.  It can be a lot to overcome.  They say time heals all wounds, and that’s true but it might take more time than we thought.  It may seem the pain is never ending but each day we step a little further down the road, and heal a little more.  It doesn’t matter how long it takes us to feel whole again.  The important thing is to keep moving forward.  In time, however long that takes, we’ll feel confident and complete again.  We can trust ourselves to find our footing.  Life will give us many opportunities to learn and grow, and even if it hurts, each lesson gives us something valuable to carry forward.  We can face anything that comes.  We are strong and capable, and nothing can hold us down.

It’s fun and exciting to eat something really delicious and we may enjoy trying new foods from different places.  What if something happened and suddenly our taste buds no longer worked?  If everything we ate was tasteless and bland the whole experience would be altered.  When we’re in pain, it can feel like life has lost its flavor and nothing is appealing any longer.  Colors may seem dull, and we may feel numb and invisible.  When pain takes over it’s hard to feel anything else but nothing lasts forever and eventually we will heal and everything we’ve lost will return.

When the road has been long and challenging, and we’re tired and feel overcome, it can be hard to take another step.  We may believe we can’t move anymore and think about giving up and giving in.  Life can be difficult and when we’re in pain it can be hard to feel hope.  We can give up, but we are stronger than we realize, and nothing is powerful enough to stop us.  There is nothing capable of holding us down if we are determined to stand.  Pain hurts and we will suffer, but no night lasts forever.  The sun always rises and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to find your way, trust yourself.  You have overcome many difficulties already and you can conquer anything.  Step forward and have faith.  Every blessing is possible and nothing will keep you from success.  The road to happiness is already there for you.  Stand strong and look ahead.