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Beaten and Destroyed

14 Oct

Everyone wants an easy, happy life. We all want to find true love, win the lottery and be enormously successful. It’s nice to think about the situations we dream of that we believe will bring us endless happiness and long lasting peace, but life isn’t nirvana and no matter who we are or what we’re doing, odds are at some point things will go wrong. There is contention and opposition in everything, and if we’re on the wrong side of the story, we may suffer greatly. We may face failure in business, we may lose our money, our lovers may walk out, a serious health issue may develop, or a million other unexpected possibilities. If the situation is devastating and at first we have no idea how to proceed, we may feel beaten down and lost. It may seem our lives are destroyed and there is no way to recover. Bad things will come to us all, serious and unbelievable events may knock us down, and we may be sure we’re doomed and will never survive. It’s hard to have faith in the light when all we can see is darkness. Terrible things may happen but nothing stays the same indefinitely. No matter what’s gone wrong or fallen apart, or how our plans have blown up, everything will eventually change. Even when we’re unsure, we can trust that we will find our way. Even if it seems there is no answer, an answer will come. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage and manage well. We can stand firm in the wind, and be confident we will prevail.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. It’s hard to understand when someone we trust or love intentionally does something to hurt us. Instead of wasting time trying to figure out why they did what they did, despite the pain, we can step back and look at the situation objectively. Their actions have been destructive, but they have given us more information that will help us as we move forward. We know them better now than we did before, and can do what is needed to protect ourselves in the future. The pain will eventually ease and we will find our way forward.

If we do something that causes a serious setback, we may lose our confidence. It may seem we aren’t smart enough, or capable enough, or any number of other factors. None of that is true. Even when we make excellent decisions, we have no control over what happens next. Failure is painful but it gives us valuable information. By focusing on what we’re learning, we can use it to help us move forward, and be confident and sure of success.

Today if everything has fallen apart and you are devastated and unsure, remember how strong and capable you are. The whole world is blessed and embellished because you are here. Look at everything objectively and learn all you can, and then start again. You have so much to offer.  Trust yourself and move forward. Every dream awaits, and you will make them yours.

One Moment

29 Jul

Life is filled with unexpected situations. We never know what will happen next, and we may be surprised by something that suddenly challenges and tests us. There may be an uncomfortable ethical issue that arises out of nowhere and we have to choose between being completely honest or going along with something we don’t agree with. We may face a test of our strength as problem after problem arises and we’re underwater trying to find the way out. Nobody can read the future and no matter how hard we try to make excellent decisions, moments of difficulty will come. What we do when they show up will determine what happens as we move forward. If the issue is ethical and we fold because someone more powerful than us demands it, we may be very disappointed in ourselves and our lack of courage. If the road ahead gets very hard and we give up and let go of our goals because we don’t want to walk through the fire, we will never reach the destinations we most desire. One moment, one decision, can change the course or our lives but all is not lost. No matter what’s happened already or what we’ve done, we can go back and start again. We may not be able to recreate the exact situation or change the outcome of a bad decision, but we can amend our actions moving forward and ensure that what we’re doing matches who we really are. Life can be complicated and hard, and we’ll all face times of uncertainty and worry. But we are stronger and more powerful than we imagine, and are in control of everything we do. We don’t have to bend to bullying, and we don’t have to go along. We’re entitled to our own opinions and decisions, and with clarity and wisdom, will choose the right path.

Bad decisions can have serious consequences. If we do something that moves us forward but betrays our company or our associates, we may never be able to regain their trust. If we lie and cheat on a lover, we may lose the relationship. Everything we do brings some sort of result, and what that is depends on what we’ve done. If we only see ourselves and are only concerned with our own success, we may betray everyone in our path and walk over them to win. We can do anything we like, but our connections with others are important. If we pave the road ahead with deception and distrust, it will be impossible to build good relationships and alliances as we move ahead. We may believe we don’t need them, and maybe we don’t, but life has a way of looping around and we may find at some point the very bridge we need is one we’ve already burned.

Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some point. If we make a bad choice or choose the wrong road we may get stuck for a time as we try to figure out how to correct our course. Nothing is permanent and everything can be changed, but whatever we’ve done may color opportunities until we’re able to reset and rebuild. There is greatness in all of us. If we lose our way, we can find it again. If we make a wrong turn, we can stop and start over. Nothing is out of reach if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. Every single goal is possible and we can reach them all.

Today remember that mistakes never define who we are. If you’re on the wrong road, you can turn around and begin again. No matter what’s happened, every success is still possible. Think about what you really want, trust yourself and start again. You are wise and capable, and nothing is too far away or too difficult for you to reach. Be strong and step forward. Every blessing awaits, and you will claim them all.

Blown Apart

27 Jun

There are opposites in all things and all kinds of people in the world. Some are good or bad, kind or wicked, helpful or hurtful. They may be a great asset to us or they may try to take everything away. If we’ve suffered through a situation where someone destroys our sense of well-being – they breach our accounts and steal all our money, or break into our homes, or take our car – or any other serious, malicious situation, we may feel extremely vulnerable and violated. Everything may feel blown apart and we may struggle for a time to find our footing again. When our foundations have been shaken and what we thought was strong has been penetrated and looted, the exposure may shatter our sense of safety and security. When something has been broken it takes work to rebuild and fortify it again. If it’s very personal it may take serious courage and intense focus to unravel everything and put it back together. Dangerous and difficult issues are not easy to process and overcome. We may be attacked and left standing bereft and confused, but all the answers we need will be there for us. We will never be left devastated without a way out. It may take a lot of time and work, but there will always be a way forward. Even in our weakest moments, we are strong enough to prevail. There isn’t anything we can’t manage, and nothing is powerful enough to hold us down forever. We can trust ourselves to do what is needed to correct anything that happens, and find resolution. Life is complicated and trouble may come, but we are intelligent and wise, and no matter what goes wrong, no matter how hard the road is, we will reach success.

It’s hard to understand wickedness and why some people hurt others for their own personal gain. We hear stories about it all the time, but until it happens to us, we may have no idea how pervasive and painful it can be. With one action, someone may destroy our security and peace. The shock may leave us speechless for a moment, but we are stronger than we imagine, and with determination and clarity, will be able to figure out how to amend the situation and start again.

When terrible things happen, and we feel tremulous and worried, it’s natural to want to hide. The fight or flight reflex may kick in and tell us to run, and we can lock ourselves up in our rooms and hide under the covers. But looking away from trouble will never solve it. It doesn’t matter how bad everything seems, it doesn’t matter how desperate the situation appears, we already have what we need to overcome it. We can stand strong and step forward with confidence, sure we will find every answer and be able to correct every issue. There isn’t anything too difficult for us. We are powerful and wise, and we will win.

Today if something terrible and extreme has happened, and you feel unsure and exposed, trust yourself. You are intelligent and highly capable and nothing can hold you down indefinitely. Get the help you need and confidently begin. All the answers are there for you and every success awaits. Be confident and sure. The whole world is still there for you and you will prevail.

Better Late

23 May

Life is busy and we often have a lot of things to take care of and accomplish. It would be nice if we had people to do our chores, run our errands and take care of details for us, but that is a luxury most of us don’t have. It’s always nice, despite our busy schedules, to make time for friends and family. We might set up lunch dates or times to walk and talk together or any number of other activities that re-connect us and allow us to share our lives. When we set a time to meet, we expect everyone to be there. If someone is late, we can be understanding and continue on, but if they’re late every time it may become an issue. There is an old saying, “Better late than never,” well maybe. We can certainly excuse late arrivals once or twice, but if it’s a constant issue, and every time we set a time to meet the other person is consistently, habitually late, it may become a problem. Our time is valuable, and deserves to be honored. Constantly showing up late shows a lack of respect and can logistically create problems for our personal schedules. If we see that our appointments with someone will always run late, we can decline future requests to meet. We are always in control of our own lives and never have to do anything that doesn’t work for us. We can make excellent choices and decide how we will proceed in every instance. Our lives are ours to design and with clarity and focus, we can choose the best way forward.

Some people have trouble keeping their word. If they don’t show for appointments, and don’t follow through on commitments, it will be hard to trust them. They may apologize profusely when they drop the ball, and promise it won’t happen again, only to forget the promise the next time something comes along. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and every decision we make – good or bad. Nobody will cover our mistakes indefinitely, and we must accept accountability for every choice. If we’re negligent, we will face the consequences of our actions. Change is always possible, and when we’re ready we can correct any problem or issue.

Blaming others or situations when we’re at fault never works. If we’re irresponsible we can say it’s the way we were raised. If we’re rude we can say the situation warranted it, and on and on. We can try to excuse any bad behavior, and others might believe us for a time, but that won’t work indefinitely. By looking at every choice carefully, choosing the best path forward, and keeping our word, we will gain the trust and companionship of those around us. We can create the lives we dream of by being wise and considerate of others. Every goal is possible if we’re willing to follow through and do what is needed to make it ours.

Today if you’ve dropped the ball on a commitment, decide how you want to proceed. There is greatness inside you, but it’s up to you to choose the better part. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and every dream is possible. Be the best you can be and every door will open. You are amazing. Show us your best, and every success will follow.

Another Let Down

8 Apr

Everyone makes their own decisions and we’re all accountable for each choice we make. If we make commitments and honor them, people will learn to trust us. If we give our word and then just forget about it because we really didn’t mean it, others will understand we are not reliable. Life is complicated and we will face all kinds of dicey and uncomfortable situations. If we’re pressed against something we don’t think we can manage, we might say anything just to escape. We may agree to do what someone else wants, or say we’ll take care of the issue, when in fact we have no intention of doing either. We may focus on simply looking good for the moment and getting away, and push off any responsibility we have for following through. We can do anything we like, but one thing is certain – every decision we make will have a result. Dodging our accountability doesn’t eliminate it. We own every choice, good or bad. If we can’t do something, or don’t understand how to proceed, instead of making up stories to get through, it’s far better to be completely honest about what’s happening. Nobody knows everything and we’re all going to be in situations that confound us and tangle the way forward. If we’re open about our true feelings and refuse to agree to something we cannot do, we can stand strong and step forward with confidence. Our lives are what we make them. By being truthful and clear, we can pave the road ahead and reach success.

It’s good to trust others, but we may face a situation when that trust is abused and broken. Maybe someone makes a date with us, but then fails to show. They may have a very convincing excuse, and we may forgive them and try again. If they stand us up a second time, it will be harder to believe them when they try to explain. Some people don’t care how their decisions affect others. They may make all kinds of commitments they never intend to keep, and if we care for them, their irresponsibility may hurt us deeply. We know who we are and what we want. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can step away and go in a new direction

There is an old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn be twice, shame on me.” Continually trusting someone who constantly lets us down will never take us where we want to go. There is no way to change anyone else or control their decisions. Once we see who they are and how they act, it’s up to us to decide what our relationship with them will be. We never have to stay in any relationship that brings pain or discomfort. There will always be another road and a new way forward. By trusting ourselves, and choosing what’s best for us, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been let down again by someone, think about what you want the most. You are more precious and powerful than you imagine, and deserve complete happiness. There is nothing strong enough to hold you in place. Choose the roads that will lead you to success and step forward confident and sure. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself. The best is just ahead.