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Shake it Off

31 Aug

We interact with lots of people as we go through our lives. They come and go in and out of our lives on a continual basis. Some relationships are close and strong, others are casual and fleeting. How close we are depends on our circumstances and what’s going on, and lots of other factors. Human beings are complex and even when we know someone well, they may do something, or say something, that confuses us and catches us off guard. We can never know everything about anyone, and even those we are very close to may surprise us from time to time. We may get hurt by something they do or say, or misunderstand their intentions. Not everyone will care about our feelings and someone my offend us – either accidentally or on purpose. When we’re hurt by someone we care deeply about, it can be hard to shake it off. It can be difficult to let go of the pain inflicted by someone close to us. Of course, we can hold onto anything for as long as we like. If there is no resolution, we can carry it with us throughout our lives and let it color how we feel and what we do indefinitely. Hanging onto pain will never bring us happiness, and may hold us back from success. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with butterflies and rainbows. We’ll all go through hard times, face pain and suffering at some point, and have to muddle through difficult issues. It’s the nature of life. But we are intelligent and can see above whatever has gone wrong to the road ahead. Pain hurts but we can decide to shake it off, let it go, and continue on. We are the only ones powerful enough to hold us down and keep us from moving forward. With determination and focus on the road ahead, we can push forward and achieve our greatest goals and desires. Every dream is there for us, and we will prevail.

There is an old saying that, “The best revenge is living well.” If someone has hurt or maligned us, they may rejoice in our temporary demise and suffering. Instead of rewarding them by keeping quiet and staying under water, we can overcome them by simply choosing to stand strong and continue forward. There isn’t anything anyone can do that can hold us down indefinitely. We are strong and powerful, and we know what we want. There is no situation painful enough to paralyze us forever. Every goal we desire is waiting, and we can step forward to claim them all.

Each day is a new beginning. It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or last week, or last year. What matters is what we do today. If the road we were on has ended and there is no way to continue, we can step off and start in a new direction. There are unlimited roads possible and every destination is waiting. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we want. It’s all there for us. We need only decide to begin, and step forward.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to look ahead, remember how strong and capable you are. Stand firm and shake it off. Nothing is powerful enough to hold you down. Decide what you want and start again. Trust yourself, be confident, and step forward. Every goal is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.

Masquerade

6 Jul

Lots of people continually come in and out of our lives. We build many different types of relationships and connections with them, and when they’re positive, our interactions may be helpful and enjoyable. We may have some very close friends with whom we share our most private dreams and desires. If they care for us and value our friendship, they will be trustworthy and loyal. But sometimes things aren’t exactly as they seem, and we may have an experience where someone we thought was a true friend turns out to be something else. They may manipulate us into believing they are on our side and support us, and we may believe they are looking out for our best interests. We may trust them with confidential information and feel we can rely on them. If we care for them, they may use it to their advantage. Truth always rises and although we may be fooled for a while, nobody can keep up a masquerade forever. If they are unworthy of our friendship, in time, however long that takes, their true colors will surface, and we will see them for what they really are. Once the charade is exposed, we may suffer great pains of betrayal and disappointment. How could we ever have believed them? How did we fall for the lies? We are never to blame when others abuse us. It’s good to trust those around us and give them the benefit of every doubt, but we never have to stay in any relationship that isn’t working, no matter how long it’s been going on or what others may advise. We deserve complete happiness and can do what is needed to correct anything in our lives. We can’t change the past, but we are in control of where we go next, and can decide how we’ll proceed. Our lives are ours to design. If something isn’t working, we can change direction and start again. There isn’t anything we can’t do. By trusting ourselves, and moving toward the goals we most desire, we will reach success.

Physical beauty can be a great deceiver. If we’re attracted to someone because of their amazing outward appearance, we may gloss over signals that they aren’t exactly as they seem. But infatuation cannot last indefinitely. As time passes, cracks will appear in the veneer and we’ll be able to see things more clearly. External beauty has nothing to do with internal valor. We are intelligent and wise, and can see beyond the packaging to what lies beneath. We can trust ourselves to build good, strong relationships with others that will bring light and blessing into our lives.

If we’re in a relationship with someone who says all the right things, we may believe in them and wish to be close to them. Words are easy but without follow through, they mean nothing. We can say anything, but if we don’t show how we feel through our actions and decisions, the words we say will mean nothing. It’s like putting a fresh coat of shiny new paint on a ruined car. It looks good from the outside and we may be fooled in the beginning but when we try to move forward, the truth will be easy to see. We are intelligent, and can trust ourselves to uncover what isn’t real. True happiness will always be there for us, and with determination and focus, we will find it.

Today if you’ve discovered you have been manipulated into believing a lie, be confident. Everyone gets fooled sometimes. You are more intelligent and wise than you imagine. Trust yourself and step forward. There is greatness in you and nothing can keep you from every success. Stand strong and be wise. You will prevail.

Sinking Feeling

11 May

We share the world with billions of other people. We’ll build relationships with some of them, we’ll love some of them and tolerate others, and they’ll be a part of our experiences. When we trust someone and believe in them, we may include them in our most private thoughts and plans, and build connections that are strong and rewarding. Although we may feel we’re good judges of character, and often we are, we may face a time when someone turns out to be very different than we thought. If we discover they have been dishonest with us, have manipulated us or flatly lied to us and we believed in them, we may be devastated. When all the facts come out, we may have a sinking feeling that we’ve been used and everything we thought was real was fiction. There may be a feeling of great shame that we fell for the lie, but we are not at fault. It’s good to trust and give others the benefit of the doubt. If they let us down, the blame is theirs to carry. If we’re facing a situation where our trust has been damaged, if the situation isn’t too severe and there are extenuating circumstances that have come into play, there may be a way to mend the relationship. However, if the other party simply manipulated us for their own enjoyment or personal gain, there may be no way to repair the damage. We may need to sever our ties, walk away, and move forward without them. It’s heartbreaking to lose a connection because of dishonesty, but we are strong, and nothing can keep us from reaching success. We can change direction, and alter our plans, and still reach every goal we desire. Others will do what they will, but we know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve it. Every road is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will succeed.

After a bad relationship, we may decide that trusting others isn’t worth the risk and choose to move forward alone. We may avoid building relationships with others to protect ourselves and keep everything inside. We can do anything we like but most people are good, and everyone has something of value to offer. Cutting ourselves off from the human race may seem wise, but it will keep us from all the blessings that building good, strong relationships will bring. Getting hurt is painful, but we will heal, and can trust ourselves to make wise connections moving forward.

We can’t control anything but the decisions we make. Some people will be wise, and some will be foolish. Some may delight in bringing us joy, and others may taunt and tease. We don’t set our personal standards by what others are doing. We set them by what we want to accomplish and who we want to be. We can trust ourselves to make excellent choices and move forward with confidence and clarity that we will prevail in every situation.

Today if you’ve discovered that someone you trusted has been dishonest, and you are hurt and unsure how to proceed, trust yourself. You know what you want, and you know who you are. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. Decide what you want to do and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are still there for you and you will reach them.

Closing the Book

18 Feb

When we read a book, we open our minds to new ideas that increase our understanding of the world and those around us. We enjoy the learning and when we’re finished, can close the book, and put it on a shelf where it may remain. In our lives we’ll have millions of experiences. Some of the lessons will be fun and enjoyable, but others might bring sadness, and heartbreak. Each is important, and as we move forward, we can draw on all we’ve learned to help us as we move ahead. A new challenge may be similar to something we’ve already gone through, and like pulling a book back off the shelf, we can remember what happened and how we navigated it, looking for clues that will assist us now. That’s helpful when we prevailed before, but if what happened was left unresolved and painful, opening it back up may flood us with difficult emotions. We may be temporarily paralyzed as we recall everything that went wrong and how much it hurt. It may feel like we’ve been transported back in time and are going through it all over again. The past is gone, and we are in complete control of what we’re doing now. We can step back and objectively view what has happened and look at where we are. No memory can keep us in place. We are strong and can do anything we like. Every book has a lesson, and when we’re ready, we can close it, and move on. We’re in control of our lives and our future is ours to design. Life is filled with challenges, but nothing can keep us from anything we desire. Remembering how strong and capable we are, and trusting ourselves to prevail no matter what comes, enables us to step forward, confident we will succeed.

When we cut ourselves, our bodies respond immediately to heal the cut and create a scar. At first, scars are thick and tough, but over time they smooth out and flatten to blend in with the surrounding skin. It’s the same when an experience hurts us. In the beginning, we may put up barriers to prevent from being injured further, but as time passes, as we begin to trust we can let those walls come down a little. It’s good to protect ourselves, but if we want to build connections and create relationships, we must be willing to start again.

If we’ve suffered through a terrible experience that has hurt us deeply, we may decide to retreat and try to keep to ourselves. Avoiding relationships and isolating ourselves may make us feel safer but will not guarantee we’ll never be hurt again. Instead of hiding we can remember all the times we’ve overcome adversity in the past and trust ourselves to manage anything that happens. We are more powerful than we realize, and nothing can keep us from moving forward.

Today if you’re going through something that brings back a past disappointment, remember how strong and capable you are. Close the book on what has passed, and step forward with confidence. You are more wise and powerful than you imagine, and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself. The best is yet to come.

Pierced Through

28 Jan

We build all kinds of relationships as we go through our lives. Our families, our close friends, our treasured associates, and others embellish our lives and we cherish our connections to them. It’s good to have strong, healthy connections with those we value and love. But our interpretation of a relationship may be different from the other’s point of view. They may not feel as close to us as we do to them, or they may have their own ideas about what the relationship can give them. If they are looking to use it to move themselves forward or get something they want, and don’t care about our feelings, they may betray us in ways we never imagined. Being set up or betrayed by someone we trust can be excruciating. It can feel like we’ve been pierced through with something sharp and wicked. We may be so stunned by what they’ve done we can’t move and must stand still until we fully understand what’s happened. Betrayal is a bitter and extremely painful experience. Everything has gone up in smoke and the connection we thought we had has been completely severed. It’s very difficult to repair the damage done. After the fracture, our entire landscape may change, and we may find we’re on completely new ground. It’s a very hard thing to endure, but it gives us valuable information. Once the truth of our relationship has been exposed, we can look at everything clearly and make the best decision for stepping forward. Even if we’ve lost something important, we’ve gained the wisdom and knowledge we need to continue with confidence, sure of the road ahead. We are far stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing can hold us in place. With clarity and focus, we will find the way forward and reach success.

When someone hurts us deeply, after we recover from the initial shock and pain, we may set our sights on revenge. They hurt us, so we’ll hurt them right back. It seems fair – they started it after all. But focusing on revenge will take us away from the things we want to accomplish. The time spent coming up with ways to make someone else miserable is time we could be spending on moving closer to the goals we want. By letting it go and pushing forward toward success, we win. We control our future and can achieve anything we desire.

Some people are just rotten. They don’t care who they hurt so long as they get what they want. We’re all accountable for everything we do, and eventually will pay for every choice we make. But when that happens is unknown. It’s hard to watch bad people get ahead and succeed, but their day of reckoning will come. In the meantime, we can focus on our own goals and dreams, and design our lives in ways that bring us great joy and satisfaction. We are powerful and intelligent, and can do anything we desire. Every single blessing is there for us, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’ve been betrayed by someone and are struggling to find the way forward, trust yourself. You are amazing and capable. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Look at everything openly and objectively, and choose the road ahead that will take you to success. Every dream is there for you, and you will prevail.