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Sinking Feeling

11 May

We share the world with billions of other people. We’ll build relationships with some of them, we’ll love some of them and tolerate others, and they’ll be a part of our experiences. When we trust someone and believe in them, we may include them in our most private thoughts and plans, and build connections that are strong and rewarding. Although we may feel we’re good judges of character, and often we are, we may face a time when someone turns out to be very different than we thought. If we discover they have been dishonest with us, have manipulated us or flatly lied to us and we believed in them, we may be devastated. When all the facts come out, we may have a sinking feeling that we’ve been used and everything we thought was real was fiction. There may be a feeling of great shame that we fell for the lie, but we are not at fault. It’s good to trust and give others the benefit of the doubt. If they let us down, the blame is theirs to carry. If we’re facing a situation where our trust has been damaged, if the situation isn’t too severe and there are extenuating circumstances that have come into play, there may be a way to mend the relationship. However, if the other party simply manipulated us for their own enjoyment or personal gain, there may be no way to repair the damage. We may need to sever our ties, walk away, and move forward without them. It’s heartbreaking to lose a connection because of dishonesty, but we are strong, and nothing can keep us from reaching success. We can change direction, and alter our plans, and still reach every goal we desire. Others will do what they will, but we know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve it. Every road is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will succeed.

After a bad relationship, we may decide that trusting others isn’t worth the risk and choose to move forward alone. We may avoid building relationships with others to protect ourselves and keep everything inside. We can do anything we like but most people are good, and everyone has something of value to offer. Cutting ourselves off from the human race may seem wise, but it will keep us from all the blessings that building good, strong relationships will bring. Getting hurt is painful, but we will heal, and can trust ourselves to make wise connections moving forward.

We can’t control anything but the decisions we make. Some people will be wise, and some will be foolish. Some may delight in bringing us joy, and others may taunt and tease. We don’t set our personal standards by what others are doing. We set them by what we want to accomplish and who we want to be. We can trust ourselves to make excellent choices and move forward with confidence and clarity that we will prevail in every situation.

Today if you’ve discovered that someone you trusted has been dishonest, and you are hurt and unsure how to proceed, trust yourself. You know what you want, and you know who you are. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. Decide what you want to do and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are still there for you and you will reach them.

Closing the Book

18 Feb

When we read a book, we open our minds to new ideas that increase our understanding of the world and those around us. We enjoy the learning and when we’re finished, can close the book, and put it on a shelf where it may remain. In our lives we’ll have millions of experiences. Some of the lessons will be fun and enjoyable, but others might bring sadness, and heartbreak. Each is important, and as we move forward, we can draw on all we’ve learned to help us as we move ahead. A new challenge may be similar to something we’ve already gone through, and like pulling a book back off the shelf, we can remember what happened and how we navigated it, looking for clues that will assist us now. That’s helpful when we prevailed before, but if what happened was left unresolved and painful, opening it back up may flood us with difficult emotions. We may be temporarily paralyzed as we recall everything that went wrong and how much it hurt. It may feel like we’ve been transported back in time and are going through it all over again. The past is gone, and we are in complete control of what we’re doing now. We can step back and objectively view what has happened and look at where we are. No memory can keep us in place. We are strong and can do anything we like. Every book has a lesson, and when we’re ready, we can close it, and move on. We’re in control of our lives and our future is ours to design. Life is filled with challenges, but nothing can keep us from anything we desire. Remembering how strong and capable we are, and trusting ourselves to prevail no matter what comes, enables us to step forward, confident we will succeed.

When we cut ourselves, our bodies respond immediately to heal the cut and create a scar. At first, scars are thick and tough, but over time they smooth out and flatten to blend in with the surrounding skin. It’s the same when an experience hurts us. In the beginning, we may put up barriers to prevent from being injured further, but as time passes, as we begin to trust we can let those walls come down a little. It’s good to protect ourselves, but if we want to build connections and create relationships, we must be willing to start again.

If we’ve suffered through a terrible experience that has hurt us deeply, we may decide to retreat and try to keep to ourselves. Avoiding relationships and isolating ourselves may make us feel safer but will not guarantee we’ll never be hurt again. Instead of hiding we can remember all the times we’ve overcome adversity in the past and trust ourselves to manage anything that happens. We are more powerful than we realize, and nothing can keep us from moving forward.

Today if you’re going through something that brings back a past disappointment, remember how strong and capable you are. Close the book on what has passed, and step forward with confidence. You are more wise and powerful than you imagine, and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself. The best is yet to come.

Pierced Through

28 Jan

We build all kinds of relationships as we go through our lives. Our families, our close friends, our treasured associates, and others embellish our lives and we cherish our connections to them. It’s good to have strong, healthy connections with those we value and love. But our interpretation of a relationship may be different from the other’s point of view. They may not feel as close to us as we do to them, or they may have their own ideas about what the relationship can give them. If they are looking to use it to move themselves forward or get something they want, and don’t care about our feelings, they may betray us in ways we never imagined. Being set up or betrayed by someone we trust can be excruciating. It can feel like we’ve been pierced through with something sharp and wicked. We may be so stunned by what they’ve done we can’t move and must stand still until we fully understand what’s happened. Betrayal is a bitter and extremely painful experience. Everything has gone up in smoke and the connection we thought we had has been completely severed. It’s very difficult to repair the damage done. After the fracture, our entire landscape may change, and we may find we’re on completely new ground. It’s a very hard thing to endure, but it gives us valuable information. Once the truth of our relationship has been exposed, we can look at everything clearly and make the best decision for stepping forward. Even if we’ve lost something important, we’ve gained the wisdom and knowledge we need to continue with confidence, sure of the road ahead. We are far stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing can hold us in place. With clarity and focus, we will find the way forward and reach success.

When someone hurts us deeply, after we recover from the initial shock and pain, we may set our sights on revenge. They hurt us, so we’ll hurt them right back. It seems fair – they started it after all. But focusing on revenge will take us away from the things we want to accomplish. The time spent coming up with ways to make someone else miserable is time we could be spending on moving closer to the goals we want. By letting it go and pushing forward toward success, we win. We control our future and can achieve anything we desire.

Some people are just rotten. They don’t care who they hurt so long as they get what they want. We’re all accountable for everything we do, and eventually will pay for every choice we make. But when that happens is unknown. It’s hard to watch bad people get ahead and succeed, but their day of reckoning will come. In the meantime, we can focus on our own goals and dreams, and design our lives in ways that bring us great joy and satisfaction. We are powerful and intelligent, and can do anything we desire. Every single blessing is there for us, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’ve been betrayed by someone and are struggling to find the way forward, trust yourself. You are amazing and capable. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Look at everything openly and objectively, and choose the road ahead that will take you to success. Every dream is there for you, and you will prevail.

In Pieces

15 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life where things always go well, and all our dreams and desires come true. We may dream of a world where nobody suffers, and everyone lives in peace and harmony. It’s nice to think about situations like these, but the real world doesn’t work that way. There will be good times when everything goes well and our plans work out, but there will also be hard times when our lives are turned upside down and nothing works. If something happens that hurts us badly and we are devastated, we may feel torn in pieces, holding onto the way things were before everything went south, and trying to figure out what to do now that it’s all gone. It’s hard to grasp sudden and difficult changes immediately, and for a time we may feel stunned and completely confused about what’s going on and what to do. Lots of things can go wrong – we may lose our jobs, our lovers may leave us, we may get seriously ill, or a thousand other scenarios. Nobody wants to suffer but suffering may come, and when it does, we may face our worst fears as we try to navigate through. It may seem the pain is so deep and all encompassing, that we cannot survive. No matter how bad the situation is, nothing is powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. We already have everything we need to get through anything that comes. The answers are there for us and we have all the intelligence and wisdom necessary to find them. We can stand firm even when the winds blow against us, and reach deep for the courage to continue. Feeling broken in pieces by pain and suffering isn’t easy, but we are more powerful than we think we are, and will prevail. Hard times may stop us for a moment, but we know what we want, and will find our way through. By looking at everything objectively, we will see the road ahead, and be sure of success. Nothing can keep us from any destination we desire. We will find our way and claim the prize.

There are few things more painful than a broken heart. When someone we love deeply turns away from us or hurts us beyond repair, we may feel completely fractured and sure we’ll never be whole again. Our hearts may feel torn and battered, and we may lose faith in ourselves and trust in the future. No matter how it happened, it hurts to lose love. We can take the time we need to grieve and cope with our new situation, and when we’re ready, can look ahead at all the options before us. There will always be a new road and every destination will be waiting for us.

Grief and pain have their own timetable. We can’t rush healing. It takes how long it takes. While we’re getting through, we can take care of ourselves and reach out to others for support. We can lean on the strength of those who care about us until we feel strong enough to stand alone again. Life is full of promise and possibilities. Every dream is possible, and with courage and focus, we can have the lives we desire most.

Today if you’ve been devastated and are in pain, remember how strong you are. Be still and take the time you need to heal. You are incredible and have so much to offer. We’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself and step ahead. Every dream is there for you, and you will succeed.

Not Yet the End

31 Aug

We go through all kinds of experiences as we live our lives. Sometimes things go well and we feel settled and comfortable, but we may experience seriously difficult challenges that make us miserable. If we go through a terrible heartbreak, we might feel we’ll never get over it. Breaking a relationship can bring a lot of pain and distress. It hurts to lose someone we love, and it may be impossible to think about the future. If we’re truly suffering and it’s painful to even breathe, we may think we’ll never get over it. This is it, and our lives are ending. Even the worst-case scenario where we are devastated and completely lost doesn’t mean we’re done. The end of a relationship isn’t the end of us. It may really hurt badly, and we may think we can’t survive, but then one day passes and we’re still here. Then another day passes, and if we just keep enduring, time will ease the pain and help us continue on. There are no quick fixes when our lives have taken a dramatic turn that brings us great discomfort. We won’t be back to our happy selves overnight, but we will return. How long it takes depends on a lot of factors, but we can trust that we’ll find peace and comfort again. Life is filled with all kinds of events. It doesn’t matter how difficult they are, we are stronger than anything we’ll face. If we can’t have what we want, we can change our focus. There will always be another road and another opportunity to reach success. Although we may suffer, nothing is powerful enough to hold us down forever. If we can’t stand up and look ahead with confidence today, we will do so tomorrow. We are more resilient than we know, and nothing, not even heartbreak, can keep us from success. Tomorrow will come and the storm will clear. Every dream is still there for us, and with determination and faith, we will reach them all.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. When someone we trust or love, lets us down or does something purposely to hurt us, it can be devastating. We may stand in disbelief, wondering how this happened. We can only control ourselves and the decisions we make. It’s good to trust others, and believe in them, and we can design our lives in ways that bring us great happiness and satisfaction. Our relationships are important, but if they hurt us, we can step away and move in a new direction.

We only know what others reveal to us. They may be open and honest about their feelings, or they may hold back information that may hurt us, or reveal something they don’t want us to know. Truth is powerful and no matter what we do to conceal it, will always rise and become clear. If we discover our relationship isn’t what we thought, we can decide how we want to proceed. We are never doomed to stay in any situation we don’t want. There will always be new options possible, and we can choose the way ahead with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’re struggling with heartbreak and feel like you’ll never be happy again, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing can break you or hold you in place indefinitely. Take your time and trust yourself. You are amazing and capable. There is great happiness just ahead and every success is still possible.