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Hard Line

14 Jan

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never come in contact with many of them, there are others around us most of the time. Sometimes it’s easy to interact with them but other times they may interfere with our plans, get in our way, object to our ideas, and basically make it harder for us to do what we want to do. It takes some skill and decorum to get through sticky situations when someone else isn’t on the same page we’re on and doesn’t share our views. Compromise is always a possibility but if we’re mad or determined to get things our way, we may draw a hard line and refuse to budge. That might work for us sometimes, but often all it does is escalate the situation and make things worse. If others feel their views are dismissed or ignored, we may find ourselves in an emotionally charged and difficult position. The whole idea is to move forward in every aspect of our lives, and there are many roads to every goal. Whatever we want to accomplish can likely be done in several ways. Instead of deciding it’s our way or the highway, we can open our minds up to the possibilities and options presented by others and bring them on board. Everyone wants to be heard and feel valued. We can get to our goals and reach every destination by listening carefully and finding a solution that expresses everyone’s point of view. It takes a little more work than just forging ahead our own way, but the ultimate success is worth it. Everyone has good ideas. We can include them in our plans and move forward.

We’re all at different places on the spectrum of intelligence and understanding. Some people are very smart and understand concepts and ideas quickly and completely. Others take more time to comprehend the goal and what must be done to accomplish it. How fast we understand the issue doesn’t define our success. When everyone is ready, they can contribute ideas for success, decisions can be made, and a plan can be put into motion. Everything is attainable and with patience and cooperation we can reach any goal.

When we’re confident and have a clear understanding of an issue, if we want others to agree with us, we may state our position and the reasons why we feel the way we do. We may convince those around us to follow our lead, or they may prefer to do things their way. There is not one, absolute, perfect answer to any problem. We can accept modification of our plans that include everyone’s perspective. The idea is to get to the goal – not necessarily to get to it in one specific way. We can be tolerant and patient enough to include those around us and choose the best road ahead.

Today if you’re sure you have the perfect answer to a problem but others around you disagree, listen carefully to their suggestions. There are always many roads to any destination. Include those around you and find an answer that represents everyone. You are wise and strong. Share your wisdom and allow others to share theirs with you. Compromise will bring freedom and success. You have so much to offer. Be willing to listen and move forward with confidence.

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Stumbling

11 Dec

Life is busy and there are always complications and unforeseen developments. Things rarely go exactly as planned or expected. Most of the time we are able to bend with the tide and continue forward but sometimes something may trip us up and we may stumble or even fall down. Perhaps someone makes a decision we never dreamed of and it throws us for a loop, or a development happens that suddenly alters the road moving forward. When everything changes and we trip trying to find our footing it sometimes takes a while to figure out what to do next. Everything may look different and we may be unsure which way to turn. If we are determined to hold onto our previous plan and refuse to adjust to the changes before us, we may get stuck and unable to move. There is no way to travel a road that no longer exists. Demanding that everything return to the way it was will not help us. Life is all about change and sometimes that means we have to change with it and rethink the way ahead. There is always more than one road to any destination we desire. We can look at all the options before us and consider new ideas that will help us reach the goal we seek. It’s frustrating to have to stop and regroup when we’re focused on the road ahead, but if we keep our eyes open, we’ll see new possibilities that can take us where we want to go. We can learn about new roads and find our way forward. Everything we want to do is there for us. We can adjust our thinking and continue on.

We don’t know what we don’t know, and even if we’ve planned well there will always be unknown influences we have no control over. If we hit a snag and can’t get through, we can find our way around it. We might stumble trying to see the road but stumbling isn’t a full stop. It’s a chance to stand still for a moment and re-assess where to go next. We can try something new and step on a different road to get to the goal. We are certainly capable of changing our focus and learning new ways to accomplish anything. We can be confident, even if everything changes, that we’ll find our way.

When dancers practice for a performance they don’t always perform every action perfectly. If they miss a step, they go over it again and again until they master it and learn to make it work. It’s the same for our personal lives. If something trips us up, we can try different ideas until we find the one that works and moves us forward. We can make the stumble part of the dance and continue on. Every dream we desire is possible if we continue forward and do what is needed to make it come true. We can have the lives we want the most by deciding we will succeed, no matter what comes.

Today if your way forward has been upended and you aren’t sure what to do next, take a look around. There are endless possibilities before you and you will find your way. Everything you desire is in your power. Start again and press forward. All your dreams are only steps away. You have everything you need to reach them and make them come true.

True

8 Nov

There are unlimited things we can do with our lives. We can go along with everyone else and coast through the years without paying much attention. Or we can live on purpose and actually do the things we dream about. Our lives belong solely to us and what we do with them is our responsibility. We are always in complete control of our decisions and can do anything we choose to. Of course, not everything will come easily but the challenge is to continue forward even if the road gets rough. There will always be complications and unforeseen developments and some of them may block our path from time to time but if we’re determined we can reach any goal we set. It’s all up to us and in the end we all get the lives we wanted the most. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can change. We can do anything and go anywhere. We just have to decide but before we set out to make our dreams come true, we need to figure out who we are and what we really want. It sounds easy but for most of us really uncovering what we want to do with our lives takes some thought. The dreams we had as children may no longer apply. We’ve grown and matured and gotten a taste for what we do and don’t like. The ballerina of yesterday may strive to become the CEO today. The childhood race car driver now wants to be an engineer. Dreams change as we learn about life and grow into adulthood and when they do if we want them to become reality we must change as well. We can choose any path we want to travel and if we keep our eyes focused on the goal, will reach it.

Our parents taught us many things as they raised us and we learned what their beliefs were, how they thought life should go, their opinions about food, religion, politics, and many other topics. We don’t have to do things the same way our parents did, we don’t have to fulfill their dreams or follow the same roads they chose. We are free to create our lives any way we desire but adopting a new lifestyle can be challenging. If we want our dreams to come true, we cannot allow fear of the unknown to hold us back. Nobody knows everything. There will always be uncertainty but we can manage it and move forward anywhere we want to go.

We aren’t like anyone else in the entire creation. We’re the only person exactly like us and we can express that individuality even if it’s different from those around us. Defining who we are and what we want is the first step toward a satisfying and contented life. We don’t have to wish for the lives we dream about. We can create them through careful planning and continued diligence. Everything is possible. Nothing is out of reach and we can do anything we truly desire.

Today decide what you want most in your life. Define exactly where you want to go and what you want to achieve and then take the first step forward. You are powerful and wise and nothing is too far to reach. Every road is open to you and success is possible. Choose your future and start walking toward it. You are amazing and strong, and every dream is there for you.

Confusion

23 Oct

A lack of understanding or a state of disorder. Cambridge English Dictionary

Our lives are busy and as we go from one task to another we may get caught up in our responsibilities and forget exactly where we’re headed. It’s easy to lose track of the big picture when we’re busy dealing with details and specific items that need our attention. When we’re focused on doing something we must get done, it may be hard to pay attention to the personal goals we value and want to accomplish. It’s easy to get carried away with one thing and another and as we busily go from one task to the next we may forget other things we value. Life has a way of taking control and distracting us if we don’t focus on what’s most important. We decide what we’ll do at every moment and we must be in control of our lives if we want to accomplish the things we want the most. We are responsible for the lives we create. If they are filled with rushing around in confusion trying to do many things at the same time, we will have busy, confusing lives that will bring us little satisfaction. There will always be more to do than we can accomplish. If we want to be happy and completely fulfilled each day, we must plan our time in ways that bring us clarity and success. We can plan our activities to allow us to complete anything pressing and still remember our personal goals and objectives. There is great satisfaction in being clear on what’s most important to us and then planning our lives to ensure we accomplish them.

There are unlimited ways we can spend our time. We can go from one idea to the next in a flash and spend all our time trying new things. Being busy and rushing around doesn’t always mean we’re being successful. Running from one place to the next does not guarantee we’re moving forward. If we want to accomplish specific goals we must plan the way ahead, and make time to reach them. We are smart enough to design our lives in ways that help us find success. We can eliminate confusion and find the road forward.

There are many people around us all the time and they may ask us to do things for them to help them reach their goals. It’s good to be helpful and we can serve as much as we like, but we can remember that our objectives are also important and guard the time we give away to ensure we have enough for ourselves. True happiness comes when we live our lives in clear ways that take us where we really want to go. Every destination we desire is possible and we have everything we need to accomplish any goal we choose.

Today if you’ve been running around accomplishing a lot of tasks that haven’t moved you forward, rethink your plans. Your personal goals and objectives are important and valuable. Clear your thinking and manage your time so you can make them yours. You are capable and wise and nothing is out of reach. Plan for your dreams. They are waiting for you and you can make them come true.

House of Mirrors

18 Oct

We’re all different and our experiences as we go through our lives make us into the people we become.  Most of us learn from things that go wrong and adjust our lives to prevent making the same mistakes going forward.  But some people have trouble discerning the mistakes they make.  It’s hard for them to understand how their actions connect to what happens to them.  It’s not our place to judge what anyone else does but if we have people like this in our lives, we may be affected.  It’s hard to have a relationship with someone who continually makes choices that bring heartache and trouble.  We may find ourselves continually adjusting to the next disaster and trying to find a way around it.  Although we are only responsible for the decisions we make, we may be seriously impacted by those made by others close to us.  Like paint, they can smear their dysfunction all over our lives and before we know it we may get caught up in their problems in ways that are not helpful.  If we remember we are individuals and have complete ownership over our own decisions, we can stand beside someone who struggles and be supportive without becoming part of the issue.  We can be friends without getting caught up in turmoil and confusion.  Learning to stand beside someone and still stand apart will help us navigate through any difficult relationships we have.  Life isn’t always easy but we have everything we need to find the right road going forward that will bring us comfort and peace.

We don’t know what we don’t know.  Sometimes we may begin a relationship with someone that seems positive and satisfying.  We connect with them, we think we understand them and they seem to understand us.  It’s great to make connections with others that make us feel good and brighten our lives.  But sometimes people hide their true selves and it takes time for their real behaviors to shine through.  When things change, if the turn is dramatic enough, we may feel we’ve entered a house of mirrors.  Nothing is as we thought and we aren’t sure what to do next.  We are always in control of our lives and never have to stay in any situation that is uncomfortable.  We can make a turn and change our lives at any time.

We may get into situations where the people we’re associating with begin to make decisions we aren’t comfortable with.  They are choosing to continue toward a goal we don’t want or their methods are ideas we don’t agree with.  We always have the power to change any relationships in our lives.  We aren’t assigned to others and can move in a new direction away from those near us at any time.  Our lives are ours to design and we can decide how we will proceed.  We can be confident when we make choices that take us where we want to go and courageously continue forward toward success.

Today if you’re in a relationship that isn’t working or have been caught up in a situation that is moving you toward a destination you don’t want, take control.  You know where you want to go and have everything you need to get there.  You don’t have to stay in any situation that isn’t comfortable.  Change direction and move forward toward success.  You can do anything you desire and every option is possible.

Living Well

30 Jul

We all live in ways that are unique to our personal desires and goals.  We make our own decisions and the lives we end up with are the lives we choose.  Some people are very successful and inventive, and do things that impact the world or change the way it works.  Some discover cures for diseases, or create things that alter the way we live, or serve in grand ways that embellish thousands and change the world for the better.  It’s amazing and wonderful to have such greatness among us, but we don’t have to do incredible or grandiose things to live well.  The world is blessed by things that amplify goodness and make it work more easily but we also bless it when we choose well in small ways.  By being kind, serving others, and showing charity to those around us, we change the world for the better and augment the environment around us.  We have far more influence over those we interact with than we may realize.  When we reach out to comfort sadness, or extend our hands to help lift a heavy burden, when we listen with compassion or offer a kind word when someone is down, we change the world for the better.  Like ripples in the water after a pebble is tossed in, our influence can move forward indefinitely.  When we choose well we bring glory to the world around us.  That glory brings light into darkness and joy where sorrow once prevailed.  We have the power to change the world.  By choosing well, and living in ways that serve not just ourselves but those around us we turn everything toward light and bring joy and comfort.  We are powerful and good, and our choices reflect who we most want to be.

No life is perfect and there will be days when clouds roll in and the skies of trouble darken.  We may face serious trials and difficult challenges as we push forward and there may be times when we feel doubt and fear over what will happen next.  Misery may overwhelm us and we may be uncertain about how to proceed.  When we’re struggling we can allow others to reach out to us and offer help and support.  We don’t have to do everything alone.  Allowing others to comfort us will bring light and lift us as we continue forward.  Letting others help us when we are overcome helps us live well.  When things settle again and we’re back on a more even keel we can reach out to others and share the gift we received.

The world is filled with billions of people but we are all important and valuable.  Reaching out in kindness, even in small ways, can change everything for someone who is struggling.  Cheering a crying child, helping lift a grocery sack, opening a door, or simply listening when others speak are simple and effective ways to serve.  We can turn sadness into peace, sorrow into comfort and grief into hope.  We are more powerful and influential than we realize.  The whole world is blessed because we are here and we can share that blessing every day.

Today if you feel like your life is small and inconsequential and don’t think you’re important, remember your influence is greater than you know.  You are amazing and powerful and we all want to share our lives with you.  The whole world is better because you are here.  Be joyful.  Your light brings happiness to us all.

Changing the World

20 Jul

Everyone is different and there are endless interpretations to everything we do, see, and experience. We all have our own ideas about how things should be and what is right. If we feel strongly about something and someone disagrees it may be difficult to accept their viewpoint and opinions. In an effort to convert them to our side we may speak loudly and forcefully trying to make them listen. If they don’t follow along and we’re angry, we may belittle them, criticize them, call them names or insinuate they are too stupid to see what to us is the correct point of view. There is nothing noble in demeaning others for any reason and nothing can be gained by diminishing their value. Being disrespectful and rude doesn’t elevate anyone and reduces us. We’re entitled to our own ideas and opinions but it’s inappropriate and destructive to demand that others agree with them. Each of us is unique and our decisions are ours to make. To punish those who disagree with us will never bring us happiness but will only increase suffering and disharmony, and ruin relationships. The only way to effectively influence others is through patience, kindness, inclusion and acceptance. We have the power to change the world but only by setting the example for love and charity will we prevail. Nothing is more powerful than a loving and understanding attitude. When we are accepting and kind people will be drawn to us and we can share our lives with them.

Opinions vary and we can respect the right of everyone to believe what they choose and live their lives according to their own values and desires. It may be hard for us to understand their viewpoint but we don’t have to understand everything to be accepting. We can be respectful and kind and if we disagree we may share our opinions and ideas. We’re all different and when we clash there may be conflict. We have the power to diffuse any tension through kindness and a welcoming attitude. Being patient when there is disagreement and listening openly to every idea will pave the way to friendship and inclusion.

It’s impossible to push people into agreeing with us. Everyone has their own ideas and can live their lives any way they choose. We can express what we believe and exhibit how our beliefs are beneficial. We can lead by example and display goodness and nobility, and with patience and love bring others close. There is greatness in us and by showing it to the world through kindness and charity, especially in conflict, we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been pressuring others to listen to you and trying to get them to accept your viewpoint, remember gentleness and kindness will open the doors. Be patient and loving and accept other opinions. Express your respect and love to those around you and they will draw close to you and feel your influence. Acceptance will give you power and charity will bring you success. You have the power to change the world. Be the best you can be and set the example for good.