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Silver Linings

31 Mar

Everything is fluid in life, and nothing is certain. When we want to accomplish something, we can do our research, make excellent plans, and chart a positive course ahead, but we can’t read the future. Although we have complete control over the choices we make, there is no way to know about all the other decisions being made by those around us. Someone completely unconnected to us, maybe even far away, may do something that causes the dominoes to fall in our direction and when they reach us, suddenly all our plans have to change. The road we chose may close and all the ideas we so carefully put together may no longer work. It’s disappointing, sometimes heartbreaking, when what we want isn’t possible. We may feel depressed for a time, and unable to think about starting again, but nothing stays the same forever. We can take time to grieve if we need it and then when we’re ready, we can look at all the options before us and choose our next steps. Hard times come to all of us, but with every experience there will be something of value to carry forward. Weathering the storm will make us stronger, and we’ll have more knowledge than we had before. There will be a silver lining if we look for it. Life is all about learning and everything we go through teaches us something new. Whatever we gain, even if it seems small now, will embellish us in ways we may not perceive. We are strong and capable, and we know what we want. If we can’t move ahead as planned, we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find another way. If our situation isn’t workable, we can set our plans aside for a time, and when things change, return and start again. We have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can have the lives we want the most.

Sometimes unexpected developments stop us in our tracks. The doors that were previously open and welcoming may close and force us to change direction. There is never only one road to any destination. If the goal is still possible, we can chart a new course and continue on. If circumstances prevent us from achieving it right now, we can move on to something else and wait until the opportunity to try again presents. We can do everything but we may not be able to do it all today. We can make plans for the future, and when things open again, we will be ready.

It’s very hard to stand still when we want to move. It’s challenging to wait but waiting gives us time to evaluate every possible option, and see every opening. We can look at everything clearly, review the benefits of each choice and make a plan for when things change. We are completely capable of finding our way to any goal we desire. If we have to wait, we can. We know what we want, and in time, we will achieve it.

Today if you’re frustrated with a situation that’s holding you in place, think about how you want to move ahead. Make a plan for the future, and prepare for when things change. The door may be closed now, but it will open, and when it does you will be ready. Everything you desire is still there for you. Be patient and stay focused. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success.

Repeat Performance

27 Mar

People are complex beings with different ideas, interpretations, and beliefs that color every decision and choice. We see the world through our own unique filters, but others, even those very close to us, may see the same situations in completely different ways. We’re all individuals, and our life experiences affect how we see the world around us and color our perception of what’s happening. If we’ve been hurt badly in the past by a particular situation, we may anticipate the same pain if we get close to something similar. While the situation may seem like a repeat of where we’ve already been, nothing in life returns in exactly the same way. Life isn’t a continual round of the same things over and over again. Things change and we gain knowledge as we continue forward. If we’re faced with similar problems we suffered through in the past, how we manage them today may be completely different from how we handled them before. Our past does not determine how things will go in the future. We learn as we go, and every experience gives us something of value to carry forward. As we mature and learn more about the world and those around us, our perceptions deepen and our understanding increases. We learn something new with everything we face. Our ability to grow and develop is limitless. Each day teaches us something new, and we can get closer to the person we most want to be with each choice we make. Every destination we desire will always be possible, and we can accomplish anything.

Making the same mistakes over and over again will never move us forward. While practice may make things perfect, repeating poor judgement will not improve anything. Just because we’ve done something one way in the past does not mean we must repeat it again. Staying on the same road and hoping it will take us somewhere new is useless. We are always in control of every decision we make, and our lives are a reflection of every choice. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can move. If we don’t like where we’re headed, we can change direction. Everything is possible, and when we’re ready, we can have the lives we dream about.

Routines and traditions are powerful motivators, but repeating the same behaviors over and over again does not guarantee success. It only guarantees we’ll get the same result we’ve gotten in the past. If we want something more, or something different, we must modify what we’re doing. Every single goal is possible and nothing is out of reach. We have all the power we need to get the lives we most desire. Success is always there for us, and with focus and determination we will prevail.

Today if you’re not moving toward the goals you want the most, look at all the possible options before you. The road you’re on is only one option, and there are endless others available. Decide what you want the most, and choose the way forward that will take you to it. The past does not determine your future. You are more capable and powerful than you think. Nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. Everything you desire is there for you, and you will succeed.

Breaking Apart

13 Mar

Lots of things go right in our lives every single day. Sometimes everything sails along without a care, and we’re relaxed and happy. Change is always constant and nothing can remain the same forever, and eventually something will modify our plans, and our lives may be turned toward difficulty or pain. Bad experiences will come our way whether we’re ready for them or not. Life is filled with all kinds of undefined complications, and when they hit us out of the blue, we may feel lost and broken for a time. Everything we thought we could count on may break apart, and we may be left standing alone, bereft and uncertain. It may feel our world has dissolved in front of us and we have no idea how to continue on. Bad things may happen, we may be devastated, and the road ahead may be fuzzy and unclear. It’s not easy to find our footing when it feels like the rug has been pulled out from under us and we’re standing in mid-air, struggling to touch the ground. Even in our most difficult times, we always have what we need to survive. We have incredible reserves of courage and stamina inside ourselves, and when we need them, can reach deep and claim them. There will never be a time when things get so bad that we’ll crumble and disappear. We are stronger than we imagine, and nothing, absolutely nothing can hold us down. Every road will always be there for us, and with determination and strength, we will find our way. Nothing can keep us from our dreams, and no matter what comes, we will succeed.

A bad personal breakup can be devastating. If our feelings for the one leaving us are deep and intimate, we may struggle to breathe when they walk away. The pain may be intense and for a moment, we may think we can’t survive. But as each day passes, we get stronger, and in time, we recover. How long that takes depends on a lot of variables, but no matter if it’s one week, one month, or a whole year, we will get through. We can take things one step at a time, and build on each success until we feel whole and complete once again.

When everything changes all at once we may need time to process what’s happened and figure out what to do next. We can’t do everything at the same time. If we step back, and take a breath, we can let our minds rest for moment. There will always be many possible options for the way forward, and we can look at them all and decide which is best. We can’t control what will come to us, but we always have control over ourselves. We know what we want and with patience, and persistence, we will find our way.

Today if your world has tilted and everything has broken apart, take the time you need to see everything clearly. Life is uncertain, but you are strong and nothing can hold you in place. Consider every possible road ahead, and choose your next steps. You are incredible and strong, and every dream is still there for you. Have faith. You will prevail.

Hats

9 Mar

Our lives are filled with endless opportunities for growth, change and the ability to move ahead. We can decide what we want, and then look at all the ways forward that will take us there. We have many talents and each day we get the chance to do something new. Like trying on different hats, we can choose which we like and what fits before we move forward. Some hats may be too big, and at the first gust of wind, blow away never to be seen again. Some may be too restricting and uncomfortable, and it’s difficult to get them on and wear them for any period of time. However, some hats will fit us perfectly, and we can put them on and wear them with confidence moving forward. Our lives and the things we do reflect all the choices we make and the goals we want to achieve. We are highly capable and can do anything we set our minds to, but there may be times when what we want to accomplish doesn’t fit into our lives at this time. If we’re too busy, that hat may be too tight. If we haven’t clearly defined what we want to accomplish, it may be too loose, and we need to wait until we have a better idea of what we want to do. Not everything is possible when we want to do it. If the goal isn’t available right now, we may need to set it aside until things change. We can review our objectives, look at all the options possible and then decide what works best for us. Life is long and there will always be many opportunities available to us. Once we decide what we want, we can plan the way forward and move toward the goal. Everything is possible, and with patience, determination, and focus, we can have the lives we want the most.

Everyone is different and we all have varying talents and gifts that enhance our lives and the lives of those around us. Our individual contributions are what make the world interesting and rich with differences and interpretations. Some are good at one thing, some at another, and each offering adds something new to the equation. Nobody can do everything well, but altogether we can blend our talents and create something amazing and incredible. Every idea has worth and value, and working in tandem can bring about results beyond our imagining. We are powerful and wise, and bring great depth to the world around us.

We’re all good at many things but nobody is good at everything. Maybe the negotiation hat doesn’t fit us well, but we’re good at listening. Maybe we can’t manage the technical realm but we’re excellent at interpersonal communications. Understanding where our talents lie, and then making the most of them will enrich our lives and pave the road ahead. We all have a lot to offer. Recognizing our unique gifts and sharing them with those around us will bring us great depth and understanding.

Today, look at all the possibilities before you and decide what you want the most. Make a plan and take the first steps forward. You are smarter and stronger than you imagine, and every goal is possible. Choose your destination and with determination and focus, move toward it. Nothing can keep you from success. Be confident. You can make your dreams come true. Every goal is possible, and you will win.

Over and Over Again

11 Feb

Everyone makes their own decisions. If we think about our actions before we make them and don’t simply react to what’s going on around us, we have a better shot at choosing things that will move us forward. We all have the right to choose anything we like but we only have control over ourselves. Others may do what they will, and we cannot prevent their choices from affecting us. If someone hurts us, we can learn from the experience and pay closer attention to our dealings with them. If we could look at only the facts and make our decisions clearly and without influence, everything would be simpler. However, we’re human, and our emotions are part of everything we do. If we get hurt by someone we love, we may let them close enough to hurt us again. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and if we’re involved with someone who is mean and hateful, they will be accountable for those choices. But we’re accountable for what we do as well, and if we continue to allow them to hurt us, that’s on us. The old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me,” is valid. If we allow others to hurt us over and over again, we are partially responsible for the pain we suffer. We never have to stay in any situation that isn’t beneficial. We can always step away and move on to someplace new. If we remain in place, and allow ourselves to continue to be abused, we own that choice. There isn’t any situation powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. We always have the ability to change. We are more powerful than we imagine, and can do anything we desire. We can have the lives we dream about by making choices that take us to it. Every day is a blessing, and we can reach any goal and find complete happiness.

Promises are sacred commitments. If someone makes a promise to us, we hold it close and fully expect them to fulfill it. If the promise is broken, so is part of our trust. If they continually make promises and never keep them, we learn their word is worthless. If we continue to trust them, we will likely be disappointed. We can say anything to get what we want. We can promise the moon and everything that goes with it, but unless we fully deliver, our word means nothing. Deciding to keep our commitments and always follow through will open valuable doors for us, and pave the way toward success.

If we’re caught in a situation where we’re suffering but there is no easy way out, we can decide what we want the most. No matter where we are, we can move. The road may be difficult, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. We are powerful and intelligent, and no matter what’s going on, can find our way forward. Our happiness is important. We can move away and start again. Every dream is possible and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to make them ours.

Today if you’ve been hurt, step back and look at all your options. You never have to stay anywhere you don’t want to be. There are endless opportunities possible, and you have everything you need to find the way forward. Be strong and trust yourself. Every blessing is possible and you will succeed. Be confident. The best is just ahead.

Not Me

7 Feb

Nobody is perfect and although we try to always make good decisions and choose well, sometimes we’re going to make mistakes. It’s the normal course of life. We might decide to do something that seems good at the beginning but turns into a complete mess, screwing up our lives and anyone else involved. It happens to everyone and nobody is exempt. We’re going to go the wrong way from time to time, and what we do after that will determine what happens next. When the bottom falls out and we’re left holding the bag, we can try to deflect the blame onto someone else. We could say it wasn’t us, we weren’t involved, nobody told us about it, and a million other excuses that won’t change anything. Pushing the blame for something we’ve done onto someone else will never help, and will reflect badly on us going forward. Many times, everyone already knows who was involved when things go wrong. Pretending to be invisible or making sure we’re somewhere else when it all hits the fan won’t fix anything. We’re accountable for everything we do and every decision we make. Hiding, deflecting, pretending or trying to dodge our involvement will only delay the inevitable. It’s far better, no matter how bad things are, to stand tall and admit our involvement. It’s only a mistake, not the end of the world. Nothing is permanent and no matter what’s happened there will be a way to correct our course. We are intelligent and can find the way forward no matter how convoluted the situation may seem. With confidence and courage, we can address any misstep and make whatever changes are needed to point us in the right direction. Every destination is possible and we will find the way ahead.

It’s impossible to know everything about everything. When we’re making decisions, there may be something we can’t see or some fact we don’t know about. We can only use the information available to us at any time, and if we discover later there is more to the story that affects the way forward negatively, we can modify our plans. If we’re flexible and open, we can still find our way to the goal despite any complications. Life is filled with possibilities and there will always be another way ahead. With focus and planning, we can reach any destination we desire.

There may be times when we might be blamed for something we didn’t do. It’s difficult to feel the scorn of others for something we’re not responsible for and we may certainly stand up for ourselves and protest our innocence. If doubt still remains, we can continue forward making the best choices possible, and in time, truth will prevail. We can make excellent decisions that show the world who we are, and that take us where we want to go and help us achieve our most valued goals. We are strong and powerful, and we will prevail.

Today if things have gone wrong from a decision you’ve made, own your part and do what is needed to correct the situation. Mistakes happen and you can change direction. Look at everything openly and decide on the best course of action. You are wise and intelligent, and all the answers are there for you. Trust yourself. You will prevail.

Waiting

16 Jan

Our lives are often busy and we sometimes have a lot to accomplish in a short period of time. When we’re pressed for time, we may find ourselves in a situation where we must wait for something. Waiting is a common fact of life, and if we’re impatient, may be hard to endure. Sometimes we have to wait in line, which isn’t too bad if those ahead of us are efficient and quick, but that’s rarely the case. Everyone has their own pace and sometimes there are delays. If we feel those in front of us are wasting our time, it can be maddening. Nobody wants to wait to get their tasks completed, and if we’re in a hurry, it may very difficult to stand still while the minutes tick by. We may not be able to do anything to move ahead physically, but we are always in control of our thoughts. We can get impatient and frustrated, and let our anger rise, or we can take a deep breath and try to think of something else. Accepting the situation, even if it’s not where we want to be, and taking a step back to relax and let our minds rest will help us until we’re ready to move. There will be time to accomplish our tasks and if not, it’s not the end of the world. We can modify our plans to accommodate any delays. Nothing is so important it’s worth losing our self-composure over. We are capable and wise, and no matter what’s in our way, will be able to reach success. Each moment is a blessing, and we can manage every step with confidence and control until we reach our destination.

We have lots of different kinds of relationships. We have families, friends, co-workers, lovers, acquaintances and others. Each has a level of attention and interaction needed for them to grow and strengthen. Being continually put on hold by someone we’re attached to may damage our connection. If they’re too busy to get to us, or we can never reach them, the bonds that hold us close will diminish. Over time, if nothing changes, chances are the relationship will fail. Valuable connections need attention, and time to build. We can manage our personal relationships so they are healthy and strong, and enjoy the benefits from building strong alliances and friendships.

When we’re trying to accomplish something that requires the help of others, it’s important that everyone acknowledge the importance of communication. When we talk to one another and share our perspective, whatever we’re doing is enhanced and our understanding increases. If we hold others back and make them wait because we aren’t comfortable or want to have control over the situation, progress will be stalled. Success often depends on everyone sharing and doing their part. We are wise and capable, and can be confident in everything we do. We are important to everything we’re involved in, and with patience and cooperation can reach any goal.

Today if you’re in a hurry and have to wait, instead of getting impatient and frustrated, take the time to think about your plans and modify what is needed to accommodate the delay. You are incredibly smart and will always know what to do. Be confident and calm. Every goal is possible, and you will succeed.