Archive | January, 2022

No Way Back

31 Jan

We have endless experiences as we go through our lives and since there are many people around us, chances are they will be included. Our connections with others are many and varied. We may only wave to them in passing, they may be coworkers with whom we have a professional relationship, close friends, lovers or something else. When we get along and our interactions are positive, we may value our time with them and try to keep the connection strong. But we’re all different and there will be times when we disagree. We may face intense arguments that cause hurt feelings and damage the relationship. If someone offends us and we feel they are unbearable, we may choose to sever our ties with them, burn that bridge down and build an impermeable wall in front of them. There is nothing we want from them and there is no way back. We can do anything we like, but nobody can see the future or what will happen next. Life has a way of looping around and if something happens that brings them back into our sphere, and we need them for something, if we’ve completely cut them off, it may be hard to re-establish our connection. People often have great memories, and burning everything down will take a lot of effort and time to resurrect. Some people are impossible and we may want nothing to do with them – that is our prerogative. But we don’t have to completely sever all our ties to them. We can walk away and steer our lives in another direction. The old saying, “Live and let live,” will apply. They can do what they want, and we don’t have to be a part of it, but we can keep the link intact, however distant, just in case something changes and we have to interact with them in the future. We can be honest in all our dealings, and do not need to pretend to like them, but we can be polite and tolerant. Every decision we make takes us somewhere. By being pro-active and making the best choices possible, we will achieve great satisfaction and success.

Some people are rude and hateful, and don’t care about anyone but themselves. It’s hard to work with someone like that, and if we must, it may test our patience and endurance. If we have a professional relationship we can’t change, we can find a way to do what is needed to work with them and then move on. If they are family, we can define how much time we can spend with them and still be comfortable and work within those boundaries. We are always in control of everything we do and we can manage our time with difficult people in ways that help us move forward with the least amount of distress.

Love relationships are complicated. If we go through a painful breakup, and it wasn’t our idea, we may be angry and devastated. If there was cheating or some other offense involved, we might want them to suffer and try to think of ways to get back at them. Breakups are hard, but we are valuable and our time is precious. Our decisions define who we are. Instead of revenge, we can walk away from any painful situation with grace and dignity, and move forward toward what will bring us happiness and peace.

Today if there’s a relationship you want to get away from, do what is needed to feel comfortable but don’t burn everything down. You are intelligent and wise, and know how to make excellent decisions. Every destination you are seeking is there for you, and every success is possible. Be confident and step closer to your goals. All things are possible, and you will prevail.

What’s Left

28 Jan

We all want to be successful in everything we do. We want to win and get to the prize, and many times that will be our experience. But nobody wins everything every time. We’ll all face moments when our fondest dream goes up in smoke and the goal we were seeking eludes us. If we are intensely invested in achieving the destination, we may suffer great disappointment if it slips from our fingers. We may feel devastated, ruined, and without hope. No matter how bad the situation is or how much we lose, there will always be something left we can use to start again. There will never be a time when absolutely everything is lost. Even if all our assets disappear, all our friends forsake us, and every road we desire is blocked, we will still be here. As long as we’re still breathing, we have enormous potential for success. There are unlimited ways ahead and endless destinations before us. If our initial plans fail, we can try again. If that doesn’t work, we can create another plan, and try again. We have endless chances for success, and already possess all the courage and wisdom we need to reach any goal. The only time failure is permanent is if we quit. If we keep going and moving forward, everything is possible. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and nothing can hold us in place forever. By looking at all the options available, deciding what we want the most, and then taking the first step toward it, we will prevail. The whole world is there for us, and nothing is out of reach.

Life is unpredictable and we never know what will happen next. We can’t see beyond the moment we’re in and may be surprised by an unexpected development. If we’re determined to forge ahead, clinging to our original plan, we might be able to push through. If that isn’t possible, we can be flexible enough to adjust our trajectory and change direction until we find what works. There is never only one way to get to a goal. We are intelligent and can figure out any complication, overcome any problem, and achieve the goal.

If our plan doesn’t work out, those near us may suggest we give up. They may say it’s too difficult, and tell us to be content where we are. We can quit anything at any time, but if we quit when trouble arises, we’ll never have the lives we desire. If the goal is important, we can learn everything from what’s happened, and start again. Our lives are ours to design and we don’t need agreement from those around us to do anything we want. We can be confident and trust ourselves to make a new plan, and step forward sure of success.

Today if everything has gone wrong and your plans have failed, decide how you want to proceed. The past does not predict the future. You are smart and wise, and know what you want. Make a new plan and start again. Every destination is there for you, every goal is possible, and with determination and focus, you will make them yours.

Making Them Pay

27 Jan

There are all kinds of people in the world doing all kinds of things and making all kinds of decisions. Everyone has their own motivations for what they do, and if someone else’s decisions are in direct opposition of our own and we collide, there will likely be conflict. If we’re in their way, they push us aside and storm on through, or do something to sabotage us. When someone does something that purposely hurts us we may be so angry we decide to make them pay. A lover cheats, a business partner sets us up, or dozens of other painful scenarios may push us to seek revenge and do our best to destroy them. We can do anything we like, but all the time spent plotting and planning, and then executing whatever we’ve chosen to do is wasted time we can’t use to move forward. Seeking revenge may make us feel better, but it will do nothing to enhance our situation or advance us toward the goals we’re seeking. And if we do attack, they may attack back. And then what? We try again? That’s a lot of wasted time and energy. Yes, they probably deserve to suffer for what they’ve done, but spending time trying to make that happen will never help us succeed. And even if we manage to hurt them, their discomfort may not stop them from doing it again. We don’t have to roll over and take abuse, and can stand firm and defend ourselves clearly and effectively. We can stand up to bullies and refuse to allow them to distract us and keep us from success. We know who we are and what we want, and when we’re focused and determined, nothing and nobody can keep us from achieving it.

Some people think they know us better than we know ourselves. They may criticize our decisions, and tell us what to do and where to go. We can listen to any advice we like, but allowing others to control our lives will never bring us satisfaction and happiness. We already know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. We can be confident in our decisions, and move forward toward any goal we desire.

Getting deeply hurt by someone can change the way we see ourselves. We may begin to second guess our decisions, and worry that somehow their insults were right. Words only have the power we give them. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of us or what we’re doing. We can design our lives any way we want, and never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas or opinions. By charting our own course and trusting ourselves, we can move forward and reach success.

Today if someone has done something to hurt you and you are angry and obsessed with getting them back, stop and think about what you want the most. Focus on your own road and your own destinations. Leave trouble behind and move forward with confidence. You are amazing and a great light to the world. Be strong and step forward toward success. Everything is there for you, and you will win.

End of the Rope

26 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life where things go well, the sun always shines, nothing ever gets in the way, and we’re all wealthy. It’s a nice dream but unfortunately we don’t live in fantasy land, we live in the real world. There will be times when everything sails along nicely and we’re comfortable just cruising on through, but those times cannot last forever. Eventually things will change, the road will turn, something will fall apart, and we’ll be faced with problems and issues that try our sanity and patience. Although we’re all capable of facing whatever comes, there may be times when there’s so much going wrong and we’re so overwhelmed we begin to feel like we can’t take anymore. We’re at the end of our rope, and are sure that if anything else bad happens we’re going to completely fall apart and die. Of course, even if our worst fears are realized and our whole lives are turned upside down we probably won’t die. We may suffer desperate pains of loss or disappointment, we may find it hard to process what’s happening, and we may lose our way for a time. But we are stronger and more capable than we imagine, and no matter how bad the situation seems, can find our way through. Nothing lasts forever, and change is constant. Whatever is happening now is going to change, but when that happens is anybody’s guess. We can stop, set our emotions aside for a moment, and look at everything objectively. There is always a way forward, and with focus and determination, we will prevail. Life can be hard, and unexpected things will happen, but we are powerful and wise, and can always reach success.

Sometimes it can seem like we can’t win. Everything is working against us and nothing we try helps. Perhaps the timing for what we’re trying to do isn’t right, maybe someone is standing in our way and refuses to move, or issues have arisen that make our forward progress impossible. Getting stuck doesn’t mean the goal is unreachable. Every goal is possible but they aren’t all possible today. If we can’t move forward, we can turn in another direction and work on something else. As time passes our situation will change, and we will be able to return and start again.

We only have control over our own decisions. Trying again and again to open a locked door will not move us forward. There are many roads to every destination, and if the one we’re on stops or gets blocked, we don’t have to stand and wait for it to change. We can try a different approach and go a different way. We are intelligent and there is no problem too tangled for us to unravel. Every destination is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if nothing is working and you feel frustrated and overwhelmed, remember all the times you’ve been successful. You are wiser and more capable than you think you are. Every blessing is there for you. Be patient and trust yourself. You know what you want and have everything you need to get it. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. There is great success ahead and it will be yours.

Getting Back in the Pool

25 Jan

Life is filled with opportunities. It is also filled with challenges. When we’re trying hard to move forward toward a goal, or pushing to change something in our lives, we may exert a lot of energy in time and effort. It’s easy to keep moving when the road ahead is clear and we’re making good progress. When we’re successful in moving the ball forward, there is great satisfaction and we feel energized. Unfortunately, that will not always be the case. Sometimes it seems no matter what we do, how clearly we focus, or how hard we try, nothing changes and we’re still in the same place. It can be maddening to try hard and feel like we’re going nowhere. If we get stuck we can look at everything objectively and decide how we want to continue. Do we want to keep pushing, or do we want to stop? Timing is important, and if we’re stuck and tired of the struggle, we can set the goal aside until our situation changes. Setting something aside isn’t the same as abandoning it forever. We can change anything at any time and we never have to keep doing something we don’t want. Taking the time to consider all the options before us and determine what we want the most will help us decide what to do next. Once we decide how we want to proceed, we can plan our steps forward and continue on toward success.

If we want to learn to swim, the first time we step into the pool, the water may seem dangerous and deep. In our initial attempt to swim across the length we may gasp for air as we try to keep from going under. If we get overwhelmed, we may climb out, convinced we’re going to drown, and decide we’re done. But if we really want to learn to swim, we have to get back in the pool, and push forward. It’s the same with anything new we’re trying to learn. The first steps aren’t always easy and we may face a setback at the beginning, but the goal will always be possible if we’re willing to keep going. Each step forward will take us closer to the destination, and with persistence and focus, we will prevail.

It’s impossible to see the end of any road from the beginning. When we’re starting toward a new goal, we may make an excellent plan for moving forward, but there is no way to know what will happen, what unexpected complications will arise, or how things will go. Trouble may come, problems may get in the way, there may be a detour or some delay we didn’t see coming, and a thousand other possibilities. Success will always be possible, but we may have to change the way we get to it. By being flexible and trusting ourselves to overcome whatever happens, we can be confident we will win.

Today if you’ve been pushing toward a goal but it’s still beyond your reach, decide how you want to proceed. You are wise and capable, and can accomplish anything you desire. Plan your next steps and be confident of success. Nothing is powerful enough to hold you in place indefinitely, and with persistence and focus, every dream will be yours.