Tag Archives: Sabotage

Chipping Away

18 Jun

Confidence helps us find success in every arena of our lives.  When we’re sure of our next steps and believe we will reach the goal, the inevitable complications and detours are easier to see beyond and we are able to move ahead with determination and focus.  Personal confidence is important but may be fragile from time to time.  If someone criticizes choices we’ve made it may chip away a bit of our certainty.  If we have a few failures in a row, a little more may chip off and if we make a decision that brings us trouble and trials, we may lose even more.  As we face difficulties going forward, bit by bit we may lose our confidence.  If we believe we cannot succeed we will never reach the destinations we desire.  There are a lot of things that can go wrong but our confidence is built within us and we are in complete control of how weak or strong it becomes.  Failure will come at some time but failure is just an indicator that the path we chose did not take us to the destination we were seeking.  It doesn’t mean we can’t choose again and it’s not the end of the road.  Finding out what doesn’t work is as important and finding out what does.  We need not internalize the disappointment indefinitely.  We can reset, and begin again in a new direction.  Success is always possible and we can bolster our confidence when needed and continue on.  Our lives belong to us and every dream we desire can become reality.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  We can learn from mistakes and trust ourselves to move forward and reach any goal we desire.

When others disagree with a goal we’ve set and believe we are going down the wrong road, if they cannot dissuade us from our course, they may choose to sabotage us to divert us from the path.  If they are determined they may stand in front of us to block us from proceeding.  The opinions of others belong to them and have no bearing on our personal decisions.  We don’t need the agreement of anyone to make personal choices.  We know who we are and what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

There will always be many reasons not to do something we dream about.  Maybe it’ll take a lot of time, cost money, take us from our routines and require us to learn a new skill, or countless other details.  If we focus on the difficulties of trying something new we will never leave the comfort of where we are.  It’s impossible to make our dreams come true by doing the same things over and over again.  We are capable of change and can accomplish anything.  All possibilities are available and we can go anywhere and do anything we desire.  The whole world is there for us and we can achieve every single dream.

Today if you’ve lost confidence because of something that’s happened and aren’t sure you have what it takes to succeed, step back and remember all the times you’ve overcome trials and hardship.  You are strong and capable and nothing is too difficult for you.  Be sure.  Every dream is possible.  Step forward and reach beyond your grasp.  Everything you want is there for you and you will achieve it.  Nothing is out of reach.

Collateral Damage

20 Dec

Everyone has their own plans about their lives and what they want to accomplish.  As we interact with one another there may be some tug and pull moving forward.  When we were young we were taught not to push or cut in line in an effort to get to the end more quickly.  Although we may think we learned that lesson well, when there is something we really want and others are in the way, we may justify pushing them aside or jumping ahead of them in order to get there.  If we don’t care what happens we may run over them or bully our way through.  Some people believe the ends justify any means necessary and if that means hurting someone else, so be it.  Every time we hurt someone serving ourselves we may be burning a bridge.  Perhaps we don’t think we’ll ever return so it doesn’t matter how many we burn pushing ahead.  But life has a way of looping back around to where we’ve been and if we must come back it’ll be harder to find success if we’ve eradicated the connections necessary to allow it.  No matter what our goals are or what time frame we’ve set to accomplish them, it is far better to work with those around us than against them.  We can find successful ways to incorporate others if they are in our way and allow them to help us move forward.  Bringing those around us into the plan will allow us to build strong connections that will help us through and be there in the future.  We can do anything on our own but sharing the journey with others will make the trip more interesting and may take us to the destination more quickly.  Collateral damage isn’t a requirement for success.  We can build bridges instead of burning them, and move forward together.

Someone near us may be very ambitious and determined in their desires.  If they want something we have they may simply take it instead of asking for it.  If we must interact with them we may feel great frustration or anger as they act out in discriminatory ways.  We don’t have to allow others to treat us badly.  We can speak up and set boundaries that bring us confidence.  We deserve respect and consideration, and we may demand it.  The world doesn’t belong to anyone.  We all have a part to play, and we can own what is ours and define what we need.

We may be a situation where someone hurts us deeply as they push forward to get what they want.  Maybe they destroy a tender relationship we have with someone else, sabotage us at work, or cast aspersions on our character.  It’s painful to go through such betrayal and it may be hard to get back up after being knocked down.  But we have all the courage and strength we need to face anything that comes, and with grace and patience can continue forward despite any efforts to stop us.  Success is always there.  There is nothing and no one powerful enough to hold us down.

Today if you’ve been brushed aside or demeaned by someone pushing their way ahead, step out of the way and let them pass.  You can move forward on your own road without interference and find success.  Trust in your abilities and strength.  You have everything you need to be happy and reach any destination you desire.  Be confident.  Everything is there for you and nothing will keep you from it.

Your Favorite

6 Sep

Recently I was talking to a friend whom I really admire. She said she had been discussing what her favorite bad feeling was with an associate. She explained that our favorite bad feeling is what we most often turn to when we’re feeling low. For her it was discouragement. She told me that when things go wrong, she always feels discouraged. It’s like a reflex for her, and now that she’s defined it, she’s working on changing it. She asked me what my favorite bad feeling was and I wasn’t sure how to answer. After thinking about it, I realized that I also go to one specific feeling when things go wrong. It was interesting to think about and now that I understand it, I’m working on making it a more positive reflex.

Determining what our favorite bad feeling is will help us discover more about ourselves. If we can identify where we go when we feel bad, if it’s negative we may change how we process disappointment, and turn to something more positive. For instance, if, like my friend, we automatically go to discouragement we can try to recognize when that’s happening, and think about something different. Maybe instead we could think about what we’re learning, or about what the next step to move forward would be. Or if we turn to fear when things go wrong, perhaps we could instead recognize that we are strong enough to face the disappointment, and brave enough to go through it. Understanding what we’re doing that’s sabotaging us is the first step.

Our personal patterns are changeable. None of us is made of stone. We are flexible and able to learn. But our personal patterns are strong, so it takes time and effort if we really want to change them. If we find we’re doing things that hold us back, that hurt us, or that make us feel inadequate, we can change them. But first we have to identify them. If we take the time, and pay attention, we can accomplish it. And then we can begin the journey to let go of what we don’t want, and replace it with something that makes us feel strong and capable.

Today if things aren’t going well, and you’re disappointed, pay attention to how you feel. Think about when you’ve faced difficult times in your life and see if you can identify where your feelings generally go. If it’s a negative reaction, think about how you could change it. You are perfectly capable of changing anything you like. You are both strong and flexible. Determine what’s best for you and do what you need to make sure you get it. Nobody deserves the very best more than you. You’re worth it all.