Archive | November, 2017

On Hold

29 Nov

In our busy lives it’s sometimes hard to fit everything in we want to get done. We can manage our time well but sometimes we may need to set something aside and put it on hold. We may need to postpone meetings with others or wait to do something we’ve been planning, and we are flexible enough to manage adjustments when we must. But if we get into a situation where we continually set someone or something aside and there is no plan to actually engage them and take care of matters, we may create problems going forward. Most situations can wait for a while but if we hold them in suspense indefinitely they will likely suffer. Relationships put on hold will eventually break down through neglect and if we don’t make them a priority we may lose more than we’re comfortable with. Being on hold doesn’t freeze time. Things continue to change. If we wait too long to return to those we’ve set aside we may find ourselves alone. We can always find time for the things that are most important to us. Leaving someone out in the cold while we do other things indicates where our priorities truly lie. We always do what we want to do most and what we decide to do indicates who we are. It takes effort and attention to build close relationships. Paying attention to those who mean the most and taking the time to follow through to show we care will create strong bonds and lasting connections. Our lives are what we make them. When we value what is most important we will find comfort and happiness.

People say a lot of things. They may tell us what they are going to do, what they want to happen, and that they care for us. Words are important in communicating how we feel but without action to back up our statements they mean nothing. If someone says they love us but never have time for us it will be difficult to believe. If they constantly put us off, postpone meetings again and again, and don’t respond when we need them, all the professions of love will be meaningless. They old saying that actions speak louder than words is accurate. We are what we do, not what we say.

Sometimes we have good intentions and want to be there but desire is only the first step in any endeavor. We can identify what we want and if we are sincere we must then move forward in ways that bring it to us. Putting it off until later will not get us closer to the goal. Nothing robs success as effectively as procrastination. Planning to do something later is planning to do nothing now. If we want strong connections to those around us and real success we must actively pursue our goal and do what is needed to bring it to pass. We can do anything we don’t put on hold. Every happiness is there and actively pursuing it will make it ours.

Today if you’ve been putting others off thinking you’ll get to them later, remember later never arrives. You only have now to do what is important. Determine what you want most and go forward caring for the things you treasure most in your life. Remember who is important and keep them close. You have everything you need to be completely happy. Be open, be available, and show the love you have for those around you. Their love in return will bring you limitless happiness and constant joy.

Taking It

28 Nov

Everyone has dreams they want to pursue. We decide what we want from life and can move forward toward any desired destination. If the goal is outside our normal scope and will require a lot to accomplish, those around us may discourage us from going after it. They may want to protect us from disappointment if they don’t believe we will succeed, they may think we’re crazy to try to achieve something new, or they may be jealous we have the temerity to try. Although their opinions belong to them, if they are negative and they share them with us, we may begin to doubt our ability to move forward. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions. We can do anything we like but we have to be strong enough to step ahead even if everyone else disagrees. We have to be able to take it and still be confident we can win. We can always let go of what we really want and go the way that fits the ideas others have for us. It doesn’t take any energy to go along. But letting go of our dreams and allowing someone else’s vision of our lives to take over will never bring us happiness. Others may disagree with us, but that need not have bearing on our choices. We know ourselves better than anyone else and we know what we want and where we want to go. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us in place if we are determined to move forward. Every single dream is within our reach. Every single goal is attainable. Our lives belong to us and we may live them any way we choose. We deserve complete happiness and doing what we want the most will bring it.

It takes courage to change our lives. We may have to step out of our norm and do things differently in order to move ahead. Our routines are comfortable and we may continue them for as long as we like. But if we want something new, we must modify them to accommodate the change we desire. We are capable of trying unlimited new things. We can change direction, reach higher, step on a new path, and do anything we want. If we are willing to do what is needed we can accomplish anything. We are smart enough and brave enough to succeed.

Expecting our lives to simply bring us the dreams we imagine is a fool’s game. Wonderful things will come to us by chance but the desires of our hearts will require work. There are few things worth having that are achieved without effort. We can make all our dreams come true if we do what is necessary to make them possible. Every dream can become reality. Deciding what we want most and then planning our way forward to reach the goal will bring us satisfaction and happiness. There is nothing out of reach and no goal too high or too far for us achieve. We can focus on what we want and live in ways that bring success.

Today if you’ve been wishing for a change you desire, start doing what is needed to make things happen. You’re in control of your life and can do anything. There isn’t a dream too big or too difficult for you to reach. Step up and step forward. Everything is there for you. Reach out and make your dreams come true. Make your life exactly the way you want it and you’ll find happiness.

Complete Darkness

27 Nov

There are times in everyone’s life when things go wrong. We may face times of great struggle and extreme duress during something very difficult and painful. It can be hard to find our footing when we feel bad and the road ahead is unknown and uphill. If the situation is extreme we may feel we can’t live though it and we will be overcome. As we stand in the midst of hopelessness and darkness we may feel overwhelmed and lost. But even in the bleakest of times, we can look outward toward the way forward and see a light ahead. There will never be a time in our lives when we are in complete darkness. There will always be a light to guide us forward. There is no problem so encompassing and difficult we can’t find the way out. We are stronger than we realize and have reserves of wisdom and courage deep within us to pull from to help us through. No matter how hard the problem, there will always be a solution. No matter how painful the situation, we have everything necessary to not only endure but overcome. We already possess everything we need to continue forward. We can be confident in distress and self-assured we will find the answers. Everything is possible and nothing will defeat us. If we remember all the things we’ve overcome already and trust in our ability to manage whatever is before us, we will find comfort even in sorrow and certainty in conflict. There isn’t anything too strong or difficult for us to manage and overcome. We are powerful and strong, and can succeed even when things go wrong.

The influence of others around us during times of distress may be a comfort or a distraction. Everyone has their own ideas about how to manage every situation. We may get suggestions that are helpful or may further complicate our way forward. We can listen to any ideas we receive and decide what to do. The decisions are ours to make and we must determine our steps ahead. We know what we need and where we want to go. We can point our compass forward and confidently step toward resolution. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.

When we’re in the depths of a complicated and difficult situation our thoughts may be jumbled and in disarray. We may be confused and overwhelmed with what has happened already or worried about what might happen next. No matter how much we may wish to, we cannot change the past and have no control over the future. But we can control what we do. If we take a moment to look at the possibilities before us we will find the best steps forward. Taking control of our personal actions will empower us and help us feel more confident. We don’t need to feel lost. We will find the answers and the road ahead.

Today if you’re overwhelmed by a difficult and painful situation and have no idea how to move forward, remember how strong and wise you are. It doesn’t matter how hard the situation becomes. You have everything you need to manage it. You are powerful, wise, and strong. You have overcome many challenges and you will succeed. Step forward with confidence. There is a light ahead and you will find it.

Bending

22 Nov

When we know where we want to go and have a plan to get there, we may make the goal a priority and begin to move toward it.  When things go the way we’ve planned we may make excellent progress but if something gets in the way, or some complication arises that makes it hard to push ahead, we may have to stop for a time and rethink our next move.  Life is unpredictable and there are many people around us making decisions that may impact our choices.  Trying to walk forward through a strong wind is hard and taking each step may be difficult.  If we don’t bend forward against the gusts we may fall backward.  Learning to bend into trouble will help us progress.  It seems counterproductive to think about leaning into something that is causing distress but when we do we can hear more clearly and see things we might miss otherwise.  If someone does something that prevents us from getting to our goal we can fight against them and try to make them change and do things our way.  Or we can step closer to them and try to see things from their perspective to find an easier road.  Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and there will be times when our ideas will be in conflict with others.  It doesn’t necessarily mean anyone is wrong.  It only means we are different.  We can learn to bend a little away from the plans we’ve made and adjust our direction so we can continue to move forward.  There are countless ways to succeed in every endeavor.  We can be flexible and willing to listen to alternate ideas and then if we need to, create a new road that will take us where we want to go.  We can do anything.  Learning to bend will help us find success.

As children we learned the patterns of our families and may adopt those same patterns into our lives as adults.  What is comfortable for us may be foreign to someone else.  When we must work together those differences may bring contention as everyone campaigns for their own way.  Although every choice may have value they don’t have to stand alone to be effective.  We can allow other interpretations to blend with ours and combine ideas to find the best decisions.  We can’t make cookies using only flour.  We must bring all the different ingredients together to create the best result.

In some situations it’s impossible to bend and find success.  If we’re dealing with laws and regulations that cannot be broken without serious consequences we can find the way forward while still honoring them.  We can be true to the things we value most and still work within any bounds we must.  There are infinite ways to accomplish any task.  We are wise and creative enough to find the way forward.  We can bend when possible and hold fast when we must, and still find success.  We can do anything.  Nothing is beyond our grasp.

Today if you’ve decided how you want to move forward but something is standing in your way, look carefully and find a way around it.  You can go anywhere you want to go.  There isn’t anything strong enough or complex enough to hold you in place.  Be flexible and willing to bend, and every success will be there for you.

Sleepless

21 Nov

Life can be complicated and we may experience all kinds of twists and turns as things unwind and occur. Sometimes everything goes well and other times we may worry about what is coming and how we’ll manage. Worry may rob us of our comfort, and our confidence, and we may struggle through sleepless nights wondering what will happen. Nobody knows what today will bring and tomorrow is out of our control. We can try to guess what will come but guessing doesn’t make us clairvoyant. Worry is merely the imagining of outcomes. Unfortunately, when we are struggling with worry, most often the only outcomes we envision are negative. But there are many sides to every story. Negative outcomes may happen but positive possibilities are always there as well. Worrying about what disaster may come will never cause or prevent anything. The energy we expend thinking about what may go wrong will not bring us comfort in return. We can wonder about the future but as we wonder we can imagine not only the way things may fail but also the way things may succeed. There will always be unknown developments and possibilities out of our control. No matter what may go wrong we have everything we need to get through and find the answers we need. We can let go of worry and doubt. We are strong and able to handle anything that happens. There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for us to figure out and we have everything we need to overcome anything we face.

We choose how we live our lives. We can complain and find problems with every experience. We can bemoan our lot in life and whine when things don’t go our way. There will always be plenty to complain about but seeing only the complications will never bring us happiness. Instead, we can determine to see the endless possibilities for goodness before us. Everyone goes through hard times and nobody lives on a rainbow filled with roses and sunshine. Things will go wrong and sometimes we may fail. But no matter what happens or what problems we must face, we have everything we need to find the way through. The sun will always rise again and we have endless opportunities to win.

We may face extremely difficult challenges that make us question our ability to survive. Sometimes things go very wrong, and unexpected, serious developments may take our breath away. When those things happen, we may feel overcome and unable to move. But we have everything within us already to face anything. There is nothing too difficult for us to manage and we have all the wisdom we need to find our way through. Life is unpredictable and when bad things happen we need not lose our faith. Good things are always just around the corner and we will prevail.

Today if you’re worried about something that may happen and feel overwhelmed at the possibilities before you, remember there are many sides to every story. Even if the bottom falls out you will stand strong. You are powerful and capable. Nothing will overcome you. Be confident. You have everything you need and you will succeed.