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Heart

25 Jul

We live in a world with billions of people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there are many others around us all the time. They come and go every day, and we build connections and relationships, some just in passing, and others that last our entire lifetimes. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas about how the world works and how things should go. We may agree, or disagree, and every exchange teaches us something new. Sometimes misunderstandings arise and we may have no idea what went wrong. There are always a lot of distractions on the surface, but if we want to know what’s really going on, we’ll have to dig a little deeper. If we want to find out what’s really happening, we’ll have to get to the very heart of the matter. That may mean looking at things we’re uncomfortable with and allowing ourselves to be see where we may have gone wrong. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we discover we’ve done something that’s caused pain or discomfort, we can look at the situation openly and do what is needed to amend it. In times of distress or misunderstanding, it will never serve us to ignore the issue and pretend it will go away on its own. Most problems won’t resolve without the input of those involved. They may get pushed back and ignored, but they will remain unsettled until we clearly look at them and do what is needed to address them. If we refuse to see them, we will carry them forward with us indefinitely and they may affect our future happiness and comfort. We deserve to live happily and unencumbered by problems. We can face any situation pulling on us and find the answers we need to resolve it and let it go. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find every answer we desire. Our lives are important and we are valuable. We can live effectively and openly, and find every happiness.

Some people are very private and don’t like to share their feelings. They may not tell us if we’ve done something that’s offended them. Instead, they may pretend everything is fine but we may sense something is amiss. It can be hard to find answers when the person holding them isn’t comfortable sharing information with us. We can be patient and understanding, and extend the hand of friendship even in times of duress. Showing we care, despite any friction, will help us build trust and open the doors to better communication.

We have all kinds of relationships, and can always choose to build a bridge, or close a door. We don’t have to continue relationships that are painful, or destructive, and we can walk away if a situation isn’t working. If we aren’t comfortable, we can change direction and step away. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives, and we have everything we need to get them.

Today if you feel something amiss in a relationship and don’t know what to do, think about what’s happened and get to the heart of the matter. Reach for understanding, and then move forward with confidence. Nothing is too complicated for you to comprehend, and you will find all the answers you need.

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Becoming Real

19 Feb

Becoming Real

“You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.” Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit

We have the opportunity to experience many things as we navigate through our lives. Everything that happens changes us in some way. We learn about what works and what doesn’t, what brings us pain and what brings happiness, and how to find our way forward. It isn’t always easy, and sometimes we may be overwhelmed with what we must face, but in time the answers always come and we find our way. Each day brings us something new and we learn as we go, taking our lessons forward to help in the future. Life is constantly changing and as we struggle through difficulty, we learn to be strong. As we face sorrow, we gain insight and understanding. Over time and with each step, we can let go of superficial ideas and become more authentic. Growth comes when we learn to accept and trust is what is real. We have enormous potential and can accomplish anything we desire, but first we must be willing to see things as they truly are and embrace truth going forward. Life doesn’t always go the way we wish it would, things don’t always work out and sometimes we’ll fail. But every challenge teaches us something valuable and if we remain focused, each step will take us closer to where we want to be. There isn’t anything we can’t do and no destination is too far to reach. We are strong and capable, and when we embrace things as they are, can do anything.

As adolescents our primary concerns are generally focused on our personal lives and those in it. Being part of the group is important and we may not be ready to stand alone or express anything unique or different. But as we grow, we learn more about life and understand we’re important just as we are. We step into adulthood knowing what we have to contribute is valuable and worthwhile, and find our way forward.

Letting go of childhood and embracing life as an adult is imperative if we want to find success. There are few things more annoying or disappointing than adults who act like children. Holding onto the past will never move us forward. We can step up and embrace our lives where we are, choose the paths we want to travel, and take charge of our futures. Every blessing is possible and we can achieve any goal we set.

Today if you’ve been afraid to let go of something that’s holding you back, trust yourself and remember how strong you are. Embrace your life as it is and choose the road that will take you where you want to go. You are amazing, and nothing is too far for you to reach. Make your dreams come true and live the life you desire. Be confident and step forward. Everything is possible.

Not Again

9 Jan

There are times in everyone’s life when it seems everything goes wrong. Our plans won’t work, the people we depended on don’t show, everything is taking more time than we thought and costing more than we allocated, and nothing is going right. If we’ve been dealing with one problem after another and simply can’t move forward, and then something else goes wrong we may feel it’s hopeless and consider just giving up and walking away. The frustration of facing another issue and trying to find a way through may be more than we want to face. If the goal is flexible enough to set aside for now, we can move on to something else and continue forward. But if we must press on and cannot let it go, we’ll have to stand strong and patiently keep going. It isn’t easy to stay the course when the road is filled with trouble and obstacles but no matter where we are or what we’re facing, we can find the answers we need. Every goal is possible but may not be easy to achieve. However, we are stronger than we think we are and even when we’re up against serious trials can continue pushing forward. We can be confident that every tangle will be unraveled, every problem will be solved and we will prevail. There really isn’t anything strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely. We need only hold on a little longer and trust in our personal wisdom and understanding to get through. We can do amazing things and nothing is out of reach. We are perfectly capable of managing whatever we must and finding the way to success.

There will inevitably be times when what we want to accomplish isn’t available when we want to do it. If that happens, we may have to stop where we are and set the goal aside for a while. Everything changes every day and in time we may have the opportunity to return and start again with greater success. Life is sometimes all about timing. What isn’t possible today may come easily tomorrow. We can look at the situation objectively and discern the best way forward. If we can’t get there right now, we can change direction toward something new and return later when things have improved.

Success is not a destination and does not have a timetable. There is no need to rush or worry if the road we’ve been on turns and we have to alter our course. Every step we take moves us forward on the journey toward where we want to go. There is no end to our personal progress and each step forward helps us define our next move. Every experience teaches us something new to take with us and as we advance, we get closer to the person we most want to be. Every dream is possible and with determination and patience we will achieve every goal we set.

Today if everything is going wrong and nothing is working out the way you planned, remember there are many roads to every destination. Nothing can stop you from reaching success. Look at all the options before you and choose your next step forward. Every possibility is there for you. You are amazing and capable, and nothing will keep you from your goal. Step forward with confidence. Success is just ahead.

Wishing Well

25 Oct

Life brings us all kinds of experiences and sometimes when things are going wrong we may be filled with frustration and worry. We never know what will happen next and although we always hope for the best, there may be times when it seems like the planets have aligned against us and nothing, absolutely nothing, will go right. We have little control over what comes to us each day. There are all kinds of things happening outside our control, many of which we don’t have any idea about. When we feel overwhelmed and tired of fixing messes and cleaning up problems, we may wish for a reprieve. We may wish we could win the lottery and leave everything behind, or that someone will come along who will solve all our problems and take care of us. While it may feel good to indulge in wishful thinking, odds are those wishes won’t come true. Unfortunately, there is no magic well we can throw coins into that will improve our lives. We must face the problems and challenges that appear and find our way through. Wasting time wishing it would all go away on its own and that our lives would magically turn into paradise is wasted time. We have everything we need to solve any issue we must and even when it seems the deck is stacked against us can find all the answers. There isn’t anything we can’t do and we can find our way through anything. Instead of wishing for resolution, we can create it. We are powerful and strong, and nothing can stop us from fixing whatever is going wrong, and reaching any success we desire.

There may be a time when the challenges before us are so great and intense we are sure we can’t get through. We may feel completely inadequate in processing what’s happening and sure, completely positive, there is no way we’ll ever survive it. Big trouble may come our way but no matter how grave the situation may appear, no matter how hard the answers are to find, we can prevail. There is always a way out of any complication, and we can be confident, even if we’re unsure, that we’ll find it. Nothing is too hard for us to manage and we will find the road forward.

When trouble comes and it seems never ending, fatigue and worry may make us believe we aren’t strong enough to continue. If those around us are supportive and helpful we may be more confident but if they don’t believe we can get through we may fall into depression. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks about anything we’re going through. It doesn’t matter how hard the issue is. We have all we need to manage anything. We can trust ourselves and rely on our personal strength and wisdom to help us through and we will overcome. We are stronger and smarter than we may realize and nothing is too difficult for us to manage.

Today if you’re in a difficult and complicated situation and you’re wishing you could just escape, remember how strong and capable you are. You can manage anything. Dig deep and trust your instincts. You know what to do and you will find your way. The whole world is there for you and you will have it.

Looking for Silver

2 Oct

Hard times come to us all. We never know what tomorrow will bring and sometimes our lives turn toward places we never want to go. Things will go wrong from time to time and our plans will sometimes fail. When everything gets turned upside down and we’re miserable trying to figure out what happened, why it happened to us, and what we should do next, it can be disheartening and overwhelming. They say every cloud has a silver lining, but when we’re in the midst of the storm, it can be hard to find anything to hold onto. If we’re devastated, and have lost our footing, we may feel stranded and alone. We know tomorrow will come and eventually things will change but it might be hard to figure out what to do until that happens. Trials and challenges can push us way beyond our comfort zones. We may feel the situation it too intense to manage. We may want to give up when it’s hard to continue and just sit down and refuse to move. Or we can trust ourselves and remember all the other times we’ve been overwhelmed and found the way through. We have everything inside us already to manage anything that comes. We are strong and intelligent, and even if we feel overcome, can find every answer we need to prevail. Nobody wants to suffer but hard times teach us valuable lessons about ourselves and the world around us. That knowledge is priceless and benefits every step we take moving forward. The silver will be there for us if we press ahead and do what is needed to solve whatever problem is troubling us. We are more powerful and wise than we realize and nothing can hold us down.

Some problems are very personal and we must face them alone. There may be internal conflict as we wrestle with the possible solutions before us. One road will take us one way, another will lead us to a different destination altogether. Sometimes we just need to change where we are and it doesn’t matter which road we take. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and what we need. By taking our time and reviewing all our options patiently and carefully we will find the best way forward.

If the situation we’re in is severely dire it may feel nothing good could ever come from it. We may not see any redeeming quality in the suffering we’re going through. But no matter what’s happening, there will always be something of value to be gained. Perhaps we’ll learn to be a little more patient. Or we’ll gain greater trust in ourselves. Or maybe the only blessing will be that we increased our strength by enduring. Every trial gives us something to hold onto and those lessons go forward with us to help us and guide our path.

Today if you’re in a terrible situation and are overwhelmed with the problems before you, trust yourself to find the answers. You are smarter than you think you are and will find your way. Learn all you can from the problems you’re facing. That knowledge will be a great benefit to you in the future. Stand strong. You can do anything and you will prevail.

Truth or Dare

26 Oct

There are unlimited opinions in the world around us. Everyone has their own perspective of what is going on, what is real, and what is true. All interpretations have some truth in them and as we live we will naturally modify our ideas as we grow and experience different situations. We all have opinions but truth and opinion are not always the same things. What is real can be camouflaged by what is popular, what is important to us, or what is desired by others. If we believe something strongly and want others to follow us and only focus on converting them to our way of thinking, we may neglect to discover if what we’re doing is based in truth or not. If we dare to take the time to really uncover what is real, we will gain greater clarity and learn to listen more willingly. Nobody has all the answers. If we arrogantly go about telling others how things should be and how they should change we may miss the opportunity to genuinely and openly understand them as they are. It’s like missing the forest while we concentrate on looking at the trees. When we feel compelled and passionate about something and don’t take time to objectively evaluate our way forward, we may push ahead blindly missing important cues that tell us the whole story. A wide view of what is real will deepen our understanding of the way forward and help us correct our course if needed. Looking for all the facts, and seeking the complete truth will bring us confidence and success. We are capable of understanding great things and the more we know the better we can move forward.

Seeing only a small section of any picture will modify our understanding of what we’re looking at. If we see only the top of a mountain we cannot comprehend how high it is. The same is true when evaluating situations in our lives. If we hear only one side of the story we cannot know the entire thing. It takes time and willingness to listen to all points of view to fully understand. If we are emotionally involved it may be difficult to hear other ideas but if we step back and allow ourselves to see them openly we will more easily find resolution.

It’s impossible to change our point of view if we refuse to hear anything new. If we are absolutely sure we are right it may be very difficult to even consider anything else. But nobody can know everything all the time. Even if we are confident there is only one answer, if we allow others to share their suggestions and listen openly we may find that although our way forward will get us to the goal, there may be ways to improve. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices. Being open to new ideas will help us find the best road forward and build connections that will help us on the journey.

Today if you’re trying to convince others that you know the truth, be willing to listen when they give their points of view. Everyone has something to offer and the complete truth will rise when everyone has the opportunity to share. You know what you want. Everything is within reach and all the information is there. Be open, listen carefully, and build the connections you need to get to your goal.

Mother May I

19 Feb

When we were children as a way of protecting us from doing things beyond our ability to manage or that may hurt us, we were taught to ask for permission. Whenever we wanted to do something away from home, or anything different than the norm we were expected to ask first.  If we rebelled against that requirement and did something without asking, and it was something that should have been discussed prior, there were often unpleasant consequences to face afterward. And so we learned to ask or at least to make sure it was okay before proceeding. As we got older our lives became more independent and eventually we began to make decisions on our own. Permission is an agreement from someone in authority over us that we may do something we want to do. As adults, outside of work, or social situations where others may be impacted, we don’t need anyone’s permission to make our personal decisions. We are capable of choosing on our own.  The days of “Mother may I,” have passed.

Despite the fact that we are perfectly capable of managing our lives, we can get into situations with others where we feel we need to get their agreement in our personal decisions. Perhaps it’s a close friend who has a strong personality and wants to guide us. Perhaps the old patterns with our parents still linger. Perhaps it’s a relationship we value greatly and the other person wants control over or input into our decisions. There are lots of reasons we can feel we need to get permission or approval before going forward. But our lives belong to us and only us. We can make any personal decisions we want to and we don’t need anyone’s approval. We don’t have to tell anyone before we make a decision, even if it’s one we know others may not like. Our decisions are ours. We can make them on our own, be confident in our ability to choose well, and direct our lives accordingly.

People are complex. We have all kinds of emotions and feelings to contend with on a daily basis. Sometimes we may be fearful of doing something differently than what others may expect. That fear may prevent us from making decisions we really want to make. Or we might be unsure we can make a good decision without getting the approval of others first because we’ve always done that in the past. But we know how to make good decisions. We know how to weigh all the options and choose what’s best for us. Nobody really knows what’s best for us better than we do, not even those who love us. We are the only ones who know everything that’s going on inside and what we truly want. We know who we are and are able to make good, strong choices. If others disagree that will be their burden to carry. It is not our responsibility to ensure everyone is happy with the way we choose to live our lives. If we can remember that and trust in ourselves, we can go forward and make any decision we choose to with confidence. We can do anything. We just have to decide.

Today if you’ve been holding back on a personal decision because you know somebody won’t like it or won’t agree, if it’s important to you, go forward. You know what you need and what you want. There is nothing you can’t do. You are in charge of your life and can make it any way you want it. This is your day. Choose to make it completely yours.