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Tattoos

23 Apr

As we go through our lives, we must make millions of decisions, and each one we make brings a result and takes us somewhere. We may continue moving forward on our current path or make a choice that takes us far from where we were initially headed. There are limitless opportunities and we can do anything we like. Most of the time we may try hard and make good decisions that work out well, but we aren’t perfect, and will all make mistakes from time to time. If we make a decision that impacts our lives in very difficult and negative ways and takes us down a road that brings hardship and trial, we may be seriously adversely affected. We might struggle to get past what’s happened and it may seem that one bad decision will stick to us like a tattoo, ever present and never fading. We might falter and things may go seriously wrong, but nothing is permanent. There is no indelible ink stain that can’t be removed. The past can never predict the future, and we can learn from where we’ve been and take all that knowledge and wisdom forward with us. It doesn’t matter if we feel we’ve made the biggest mistake in history, it’s just one moment and cannot determine where we go next. No previous error can sentence us to a life of despair. There are endless chances for us to try again and re-route our course toward where we want to go. If the door in front of us is closed and locked, we can turn in a new direction and continue forward. If we’ve created a situation that is turbulent and fraught with stress, we can change it. We are in control of our lives and there isn’t anything we can’t modify if we need to. Mistakes happen, and we may fall down, but we can get back up and start again. Every success is still there waiting, and with determination and clarity, we will reach it.

If we’re in a situation where others see us make a big mistake, they may decide we can’t make good decisions and are not to be trusted. They may choose to define us by one choice, and that is their prerogative, but can never tell the whole story. We are intelligent and capable and can revise any plan or situation that isn’t working. By trusting ourselves to make good choices, and bravely stepping forward, we can find the answers we need to achieve anything we desire.

Salt looks a lot like sugar. When we bake a cake, if we add salt instead of sugar the batter may look fine, but our mistake will be obvious when we finish baking and taste the final product. The same is true in our lives. Some decisions look fine when we first make them, but we may not get all the information we need beforehand, and the entire situation may fall apart. Instead of worrying and bemoaning the error, or belittling ourselves because we faltered, we can look at everything objectively and start again.

Today if you’ve been struggling with a bad decision you made in the past, let it go. Today is what matters. You are amazing and intelligent and can make excellent choices. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and you will prevail. All your dreams are there for you, and you will reach them.

Come What May

7 Apr

Our lives belong solely to us and we’re in control of everything we do.  There are endless roads to travel and unlimited destinations to reach.  Every goal is possible, but life is uncertain and unpredictable, and we never know what will happen next.  We don’t have any control over what others do, or what happens, but we are in charge of how we handle whatever comes and what we do.  We know what we want, and our decisions are ours to make.  There isn’t anything we can’t achieve if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours.  As we plan the way forward, we can choose the best roads ahead to reach the goals we most desire.  Those close to us may want us to be happy but they might not agree with the choices we’re making.  When we decide on the path that’s right for us, others may be disappointed or unhappy with what we’ve chosen.  We are responsible for our own happiness, and nobody else’s.  Some may say it’s important that we get agreement from family, friends, or associates before we proceed, but that isn’t necessary.  Every choice we make belongs to us and there is no need to get approval or permission to do the things we most want to do.  If our choices make others uncomfortable, that will be their issue to manage.  Life is filled with opportunity and every dream is possible.  Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves or knows what we want most to accomplish.  We can be confident in our choices and step forward toward the destinations we desire.  Some things will come easily, and others will try us, but come what may, we can succeed.  Each day is a blessing and as we move closer to our goals, we will feel great satisfaction and happiness.  Nothing can keep us from the destinations we want, and with focus and determination, we will reach them all.

Everyone has their own ideas about how life should go and what we should do.  We’re all entitled to our own opinions, but the opinions of others do not determine our actions.  We don’t have to swim downstream with everyone else if the goal we’re seeking is in the other direction.  We are certainly strong enough, and powerful enough, to do anything we like.  By trusting ourselves and setting our course for the goals we want the most, we can find great success and gratification.

Our families and those close to us may know us very well.  They may have ideas about what we want to do and how we should do it, and give us lots of suggestions and advice.  We can listen to everything they offer, and then do what’s best for us.  The destinations ahead are ours to choose, and we can accomplish any goal we desire.  Nothing can keep us from success and every dream is possible.

Today if someone is disagreeing with your plans, listen respectfully, and then step forward toward your goal.  You know what you want and where you want to go.  Trust yourself and be confident.  The whole world is there for you.  Move ahead and claim success.  You are amazing and capable, and nothing can keep you from it. 

Underneath

6 Apr

Every situation in our lives is different. We know who we are, but we may alter how we appear to the world when circumstances change. If we’re in a formal setting that is important and critical to something we’re trying to accomplish, our actions may be more guarded and restrained than if we’re at a ball game with friends. We may change our outward appearance depending on the circumstances around us as a way of fitting in or making things go more smoothly. It’s normal to adjust ourselves to fit the situation we’re in but adjusting what we’re doing or wearing doesn’t mean we must change who we are. We can be flexible and still be authentic. Some people aren’t as confident as others, and when situations change, they not only change their outward look, but their personalities as well, and may agree with things they don’t believe in. They may believe that going along with what others are doing will help move them forward, and it might for a time. But there is no way to fake it forever. Eventually who we really are will surface, and if we’ve been playing make believe, we may find ourselves in situations we don’t want that don’t fit. The world will do what it will do. People make choices and may encourage us to follow them, but our lives are ours to design, and we can be true to who we really are underneath all the trappings of work, success, expectations, or plans. We can trust ourselves to live honestly and without pretense or façade. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and we bring specific and unique gifts to those around us. By believing in our personal value, and confidently stepping forward, our individual gifts will light the world around us. We are a blessing to the world just as we are.

Lobsters are delicious to eat, but they look like giant bugs and can be quite off-putting at first glance. Their outside appearance isn’t appealing but underneath their hard-shell exterior is something delicious and delectable. While we aren’t lobsters, the same can be true regarding people. Someone may appear very differently on the outside than they truly are underneath. By being patient and open, we can be accepting, and see more than what’s on the surface.

It takes courage to reveal our innermost desires and thoughts to others. Our dreams and aspirations are deeply personal, and we may want to keep them to ourselves and protect them. We can be as private as we like, but great relationships are possible when we share our deepest feelings with someone else. By opening ourselves to those we care about, we can build strong bonds of trust that will enhance us. There is always a lot going on beneath the surface and sharing it with others will bring depth and richness to our lives.

Today if you’ve been doing things to fit in, remember how unique you are. You are a gift to the world and have gifts to offer nobody else possesses. There is greatness in you. Be confident. You are amazing and valuable. Trust yourself and show us who you are. Your light illuminates us all, and the whole world is blessed because you are here.

Not Losing

10 Mar

We all have goals we want to accomplish and dreams we want to make ours. We can do anything we like and with determination can reach any destination we desire. Anything worth achieving is worth working for, but it won’t all come easily. If we really want to succeed, we must be willing to face whatever complications get in the way and figure out how to overcome them. If we are very focused and clear on what we want, when problems or issues arise, we will do what is needed to fix them and stay on track. Continuing forward despite difficult challenges takes patience and determination to succeed. If the road has been long and hard, and we’re tired of the struggle, we may decide we don’t really need to win anymore. Just not losing will be enough. There is a lot of difference between thinking about winning and thinking about not losing. If all we want to do is survive, basically get a “C” in the class, we can take shortcuts and ignore details that are hard to figure out. We can all manage to get through anything but simply getting through and achieving excellence are entirely different scenarios. Our time is valuable and once it’s gone can never be recovered. Wasting it on trying to achieve mediocrity will not enhance us or bring great satisfaction. Just doing the minimum to get to the next step will bring little gratification. There is greatness inside us all, and we have the potential to accomplish amazing things. But potential is unrealized expectations. Just because we’re capable of doing something incredible, doesn’t mean the road to achieving it will be easy, clear, and paved. If we want to become the best we can be, and make our dreams reality, we must be willing to stay the course no matter what comes. Instead of merely wanting not to lose, we must want to win. With focus, clarity, and conviction, we can find great success. We can do anything and go anywhere. The whole world is there for us, and every dream is possible.

Before we step forward in any direction, we must first decide what we want. It’s very hard to push forward toward a destination we don’t really care about. If we aren’t invested in achieving the goal, the first obstacle may knock us down. We know who we are, what we want, and where we want to go. We can decide how we want to proceed, and then do what is needed to reach any goal and make it ours.

It’s easy to coast through life. We can sit back and just let things roll out as they will, and maybe we’ll go somewhere we want, or maybe not. Sitting in the back seat and just riding along is fine if all we want is to take in the scenery. But there are dreams and destinations waiting for us, and by taking control and driving our own train, we can achieve them all. Our lives are ours to design, and with clarity and focus, we can have the lives we desire most.

Today think about what you really want. Once you decide, make a plan, and take the first step forward. You are amazing and powerful and can accomplish anything you desire. Everything is possible, and you already have everything you need to succeed. Be confident. Every dream is possible, and you will win.

Jekyll Factor

9 Mar

People are complex and we all have many facets to our personalities. Some of us are introverts, remaining calm and quiet most of the time. Others are more outgoing and like to actively interact with those around them. People are unique and unpredictable and there is no way to know what they will do. If things are going well, they may be easy going and friendly, but if events turn and they are agitated, they may suddenly become angry and aggressive. We may be taken by surprise by our own response or those around us. This may be aggravated when outside influences impact our personal control. If we are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, we may seem the same or everything may change. Like changing from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde, we might manifest behaviors that are the exact opposite of who we are in otherwise normal conditions. Whether from outside influences or the situation we’re in, if that happens, it may affect our lives in ways that impact our relationships and impede our progress. If we act out in ways that are hurtful or destructive, it may be hard to repair the damage once we return to normal. It’s hard to trust people who are volatile and erratic. We don’t know which personality we’ll be dealing with, and that may create a chasm between us and those around us. We are in control of our lives and are free to choose anything we like, but we are not free to choose the consequences of those choices. If we continue to do things that break the trust of those around us and damage our relationships, we may find ourselves all alone, somewhere we never wanted to go. We are smart enough to make good, wise choices and can pave the road ahead to the destinations we most desire. With clarity and determination, we can find great success and build the lives we want the most. Nothing is out of reach, and we have everything we need to prevail.

Our relationships are important to us, and we all want strong, healthy connections to those we love and care about. But building good relationships takes effort and attention. If we routinely trade them off for a quick thrill or step away to do things that put barriers between us, we will never achieve the goal. Nothing is more rewarding or brings more happiness than the bonds we build with those we love. By making our relationships a priority, we will gain great peace and satisfaction, and our lives will be enriched.

The pull of the world can be great. It’s easy to be lured away from what we want most for what we want at the moment. Immediate gratification is a constant temptation, and we may give in to it instead of doing what is needed for long term happiness. We deserve complete happiness and with patience and wisdom, can make decisions that will enable us to reach it. Every blessing is there for us, and every dream is possible. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need to reach every goal.

Today if you’re thinking about stepping away for an immediate thrill, consider your personal goals. You are a blessing to the world and your light lifts us all. Decide what you want the most, and step forward to claim it. Everything is possible. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Success is waiting.