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Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.

The Easy Stuff

14 Aug

We are always in control of our lives and can live them any way we like. We can make any decision we choose and each one will further define who we are. There are always lots of options, some are harder than others, and we can decide how we want to proceed. It’s very easy to live a mediocre life. If we want, we can just go with the flow, follow other people’s leads, keep our heads down, and coast. It takes very little energy to simply follow our noses around, and do nothing extraordinary. Time will go by no matter what we’re doing, and if we don’t want anything more than what’s easy, it doesn’t take much to achieve. It’s like being in lukewarm water – it’s neither hot nor cold. We don’t have to be passionate, or committed to any idea, and can merely stay on the periphery and watch others engage. But being half-way in and half-way out can only bring half-way satisfaction and partial happiness. If we really want to feel fulfilled, we have to do more. There is always risk when we truly get committed and involve ourselves completely. Things may go south and we might get hurt, but every mistake and miss-step bring more information to help us moving forward. By stretching further than what’s comfortable, and stepping into the unknown toward a desired goal, we will enrich our experiences and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. Great happiness is there for us, but we must reach beyond what’s easy to get it. Some of our greatest successes will be found on unpaved roads that are difficult to travel. We are strong and capable, and can trust ourselves to do anything we desire. All dreams are possible, and with clarity and focus, we can make them ours.

When driving in a car, if we come upon a steep hill, we can take our foot off the gas and coast downhill with no problem. We will continue to move ahead despite doing nothing. However, once we get to the bottom, if we don’t re-engage, the car will only coast for a while and then will stop altogether. If we’re coasting along in our lives just letting things happen, we may move forward if someone else is paving the way for us. But that won’t always be the case, and unless we take control, we may get stuck. Standing in place can never take us where we want to go. We can take control, be confident, and set our own course for the destinations we desire.

Life is uncertain and nobody can read the future. If we have goals we want to achieve but are unsure we can succeed, we might set them aside until we feel more confident. There is no rush to reach any destination, but if we set everything aside indefinitely, we’ll never get there. There will be few times when we’re sure we know everything before we begin. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward, even if the road gets complicated, and with perseverance and determination, we will succeed.

Today if you’ve been taking the easy road and letting others choose the way ahead, decide what you want the most. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. There isn’t anything too difficult or challenging for you to overcome. Be confident and step forward toward your goals. There is great success possible, and you already possess everything you need to reach it. Nothing can keep you from your dreams.

Golden Goose

13 Aug

Throughout the world, there are all kinds of expressions of wealth. For some, wealth is represented by the time they spend in the natural world, communing with nature. For others it may be the time they spend with family and friends, exploring life and getting close to one another. Many of us appreciate those things but also understand that having some financial wealth is necessary for us to live effectively and comfortably. We all need shelter, clothing and food, and it takes money to get them. Despite what you may hear, nothing, absolutely nothing, outside of fresh air, is free. Someone will always have to pay for whatever is wanted or needed. How much money we have depends on a lot of factors, and doesn’t usually just come to us just because we need it or want it. We’ll have to do what is necessary – whatever that may be – to get it. No matter how much we acquire, we may feel we want more. Money can’t buy happiness, but it’s an excellent lubricant to make the things we want to do easier to achieve. If we become consumed with acquiring financial success, we may do anything to get it. Excessive wealth may look very appealing, and if we’re determined to have it, and don’t actually have a goose laying golden eggs, we might forsake anything and everything that stands in our way. We may neglect our personal relationships, impact our health by working excessive hours, and focus only on the next dollar we can earn. There is nothing wrong with amassing wealth, but if it’s our only focus in life, we may miss out on the connections and time with others that will bring us deep satisfaction and happiness. Our lives are ours to design, and by keeping our perspective, deciding what we want, and what’s most important to us, we can make good decisions that bring us both comfort and contentment. Money is great, but nothing is more valuable than our personal happiness.

The world values money and places great importance on it. We are often bombarded with messages that we should have more, and get more of it. Being rich might be nice, but it doesn’t equate to being intelligent, kind, insightful or anything else. It just means there is money available, which is just a tool that can open more doors and allow a little more freedom to accomplish certain things. It allows us to pay bills, buy products, and if we want to, donate to others. It cannot solve problems, heal a broken heart, mend a relationship, or bring us lasting happiness.

It’s easy to envy others who have more monetary benefit than we have. They can do things and go places we may not be able to afford. It all looks great from the outside, but true, lasting happiness can only come from within. By doing the things we want most to accomplish, building strong, healthy relationships, and striving to be the best we can be, we will achieve a level of happiness that money can never bring.

Today, think about what brings you the greatest satisfaction. Value your relationships and build great connections. Choose the road ahead that brings you the greatest joy. Focus on your personal happiness, instead of wealth, and you’ll be richer than you can imagine.

Powerless

4 Jun

We are all entitled to make our own decisions and decide how we’ll live our lives. We always know what we want most and can make choices that help us achieve our goals and go where we want to go. Sometimes things go smoothly and we arrive at our destinations with little trouble, but other times things may go awry and we may struggle to press forward. We live in the world with billions of other people. Although we’ll never see them all, there are many around us who are making their own decisions, which may complicate our choices moving ahead. We may face a time when no matter what we do we’re stuck in place and nothing works out. Feeling powerless and unable to move is frustrating and difficult. But we are smart, and there are endless roads to every destination. If the one we’re on gets blocked, we can choose another. If none of the roads will work right now, we can set the goal aside for a time, and return to it when our situation changes and the way ahead clears. Life is full of possibilities but they won’t all be available all the time. If the goal we’ve chosen is locked away right now, it doesn’t mean it’s hopeless and we can’t achieve it. It’s still there for us, but unattainable for now. Life is long and with patience and determination, when things change, we can be ready to begin again. Every goal is possible and nothing will be out of reach indefinitely. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us in place forever. Our dreams are already there for us. By trusting our instincts and preparing for success, we will reach every destination we desire.

When we’re young our dreams reflect what inspires and impresses us. We want to be superheroes, high fashion models, race car drivers and every other exciting idea. As we mature and begin to understand who we are, we start to comprehend how the world works and what we really want. Our ideas change as we grow and we learn about complications and obstacles. There are few paved roads to the destinations we desire. Many times, we’ll have to work hard to get there, and go through many adjustments and revisions, but we are in control and can reach success. We are strong and capable, and always have everything we need to prevail.

There are many influences around us all the time. Some are positive and encouraging, and others may pull us away from what we want. Nobody controls our lives but us, and we never need to give up our power to choose because someone else is stronger or louder than we are, or wants to manipulate our lives to match their interpretation of what they think we should be doing. We are never truly powerless and always have the right to choose our own way. Nothing can keep us from our dreams. With determination and clarity, we can go anywhere and achieve anything.

Today if you feel powerless and unable to move forward because of a situation around you, remember how strong and capable you are. You have overcome many challenges already, and have everything you need to do anything you desire. Be confident and step forward with certainty. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success.

Waiting

16 Jan

Our lives are often busy and we sometimes have a lot to accomplish in a short period of time. When we’re pressed for time, we may find ourselves in a situation where we must wait for something. Waiting is a common fact of life, and if we’re impatient, may be hard to endure. Sometimes we have to wait in line, which isn’t too bad if those ahead of us are efficient and quick, but that’s rarely the case. Everyone has their own pace and sometimes there are delays. If we feel those in front of us are wasting our time, it can be maddening. Nobody wants to wait to get their tasks completed, and if we’re in a hurry, it may very difficult to stand still while the minutes tick by. We may not be able to do anything to move ahead physically, but we are always in control of our thoughts. We can get impatient and frustrated, and let our anger rise, or we can take a deep breath and try to think of something else. Accepting the situation, even if it’s not where we want to be, and taking a step back to relax and let our minds rest will help us until we’re ready to move. There will be time to accomplish our tasks and if not, it’s not the end of the world. We can modify our plans to accommodate any delays. Nothing is so important it’s worth losing our self-composure over. We are capable and wise, and no matter what’s in our way, will be able to reach success. Each moment is a blessing, and we can manage every step with confidence and control until we reach our destination.

We have lots of different kinds of relationships. We have families, friends, co-workers, lovers, acquaintances and others. Each has a level of attention and interaction needed for them to grow and strengthen. Being continually put on hold by someone we’re attached to may damage our connection. If they’re too busy to get to us, or we can never reach them, the bonds that hold us close will diminish. Over time, if nothing changes, chances are the relationship will fail. Valuable connections need attention, and time to build. We can manage our personal relationships so they are healthy and strong, and enjoy the benefits from building strong alliances and friendships.

When we’re trying to accomplish something that requires the help of others, it’s important that everyone acknowledge the importance of communication. When we talk to one another and share our perspective, whatever we’re doing is enhanced and our understanding increases. If we hold others back and make them wait because we aren’t comfortable or want to have control over the situation, progress will be stalled. Success often depends on everyone sharing and doing their part. We are wise and capable, and can be confident in everything we do. We are important to everything we’re involved in, and with patience and cooperation can reach any goal.

Today if you’re in a hurry and have to wait, instead of getting impatient and frustrated, take the time to think about your plans and modify what is needed to accommodate the delay. You are incredibly smart and will always know what to do. Be confident and calm. Every goal is possible, and you will succeed.