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Long Con

30 May

There are all kinds of people in the world and some of them aren’t as honest or trustworthy as we would hope. Some people make choices based on greed, or control, or manipulation or a thousand other negative reasons. If they enter our lives and are dishonest with us, we may find ourselves in a very uncomfortable and difficult situation. Perhaps they’re co-workers who want to discredit us to move themselves forward, or intimate relationships with others who convince us they love us when they only want something from us. When the truth of the situation appears, if we are deeply entrenched, it may be hard to believe what’s happened. Looking back after all the facts are laid bare, we will see everything clearly and may wonder how we ever fell for the trap. We may feel like fools, and struggle to forgive ourselves for believing the lie. But it’s good to trust others, and there is sometimes no way to know the whole story from the beginning. If we’ve been manipulated and used by someone else, we may believe we should have known better, or somehow should have seen what was happening. We don’t know what we don’t know, and can only work with the facts we’ve been given. If we’ve been conned into believing something that isn’t true, once we discover everything, we can learn from the experience and take that knowledge with us going forward. Most people are honest and will do the right thing. We can forgive ourselves if we’ve been fooled, and move on with increased clarity and confidence. We are wise and capable, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. We know what we want, and we will find success.

Our emotions can be very powerful and if we’re transfixed by someone we believe in, we may forge ahead blindly, ignoring warnings around us that something isn’t quite right. Others may try to caution us, but it’s up to us to listen. We can do anything we like, even if it leads us to disaster. Everyone makes mistakes and if we find we’ve arrived at our desired goal, only to discover it isn’t anything like we thought it would be, we can stop, look at all our options and choose the best road going forward. Life is all about change and nothing is permanent. Mistakes don’t define us. We can always adjust our plans and start again.

If we make a serious mistake with long reaching consequences, it may be hard to trust ourselves again. We may believe we’ll never choose well, and everything we do will end badly. That will never be true. We are smart enough to learn from our mistakes and can always make excellent choices. Every success is possible and we can trust ourselves to find the right roads ahead. Nothing is beyond our grasp and we will reach every destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been manipulated and lied to, and are doubting your ability to choose wisely, trust yourself. You’ve made many excellent decisions already and will make them again. You are strong and intelligent, and nothing is too difficult for you to comprehend. Learn everything you can and move forward with confidence. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

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Changing Everything

29 Apr

There are a lot of people in the world. The scope of our planet is huge and there are billions of others sharing it with us. As we go through our days, managing our responsibilities and taking care of our lives, we may feel insignificant to the overall scope of everything. We may not be out climbing mountains, or curing diseases, or inventing new items that revolutionize how things work. If we’re not powerful and persuasive in sharing amazing ideas that enlighten and educate, we might think our influence means nothing and that we’re inconsequential and unnecessary. It’s easy to feel like we don’t count as our days come and go. We’re not in the news, or the subject of great and important discussions, and our contributions may feel inadequate or unimportant. While we may not do things that bring great fame and attention, everything we do changes something in the world around us. It might seem our influence is inconsequential and doesn’t matter, but it’s far more valuable than we may think. Every time we say hello and smile at someone else, we bring light into the world. Every time we reach out to help, we turn the tide toward goodness. The smallest ripple of kindness or charity, can change everything. The ramifications of good works are greater and more far reaching than we imagine. One good thing leads to another. When we set an example of courtesy, forbearance, and gentleness we spread goodness in everything we touch. Like a pebble thrown into a still and placid pond, the ripples continue forward unabated and changing everything in their path. We are more influential and valuable than we think we are. Everything we do alters everything around us. We are unique in our ability to shine, and the whole world is blessed because we are here.

Our presence in every situation brings an impact and influence. There is no way to interact and not create a change of some kind. We may never know how much we impact others or how much effect we have over far reaching decisions or choices. A single word can change the direction of where we’re headed. Everything in life is connected in one way or another. We can recognize the power of our decisions and understand the potential of our influence.

Sometimes things go wrong and decisions don’t turn out exactly how we planned. When the bottom falls out and disaster is looming, we can accept our role in the choices that were made. Everyone makes mistakes and there is no shame in taking a wrong turn. We can accept every decision and learn more as we move forward. There is great nobility in holding fast to our integrity and honestly admitting when we’ve erred. Nothing is permanent and we can change our course whenever necessary to reach our goals and find success.

Today if you feel insignificant and that your input is meaningless, remember you are the only person in the whole world who can give the gifts you offer. There is nobody else like you. Your influence is meaningful and important. Be confident. You are amazing and valuable, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Getting Even

15 Apr

We live in the world with billions of other people. It’s great to have others around us, and we learn and grow by interacting with them. Most people are considerate and try to do their best, but there are some who don’t care about anyone but themselves and will do anything to get what they want. If they’ve hurt us or kept us from something we’re striving for, we may be angry and decide we’re going to get even. We might feel we must even the score in order to move ahead. Of course, we can always push back and hurt someone who has hurt us, but getting even won’t ever move us forward. Being intensely focused on making someone else pay will hold us in place or may even move us further from our goals. It’s impossible to target someone else’s life and work on our own at the same time. Every moment we spend plotting and planning, and executing retribution is time we can’t spend moving forward. It isn’t easy to be someone else’s target and when we’re hurt, we may feel like revenge is the only way to restore our spirit. But revenge and getting even does just that – it makes us even with the behaviors that hurt us. We are better than that. Rising above bad behavior and taking a higher stand will empower us and give us authority over the issue. If we’re true to the standards we want in our lives and focus on choosing the roads that take us where we most want to go, we will gain self-confidence and success. Others may do what they will. By holding fast to who we are and choosing the best roads going forward, we will reach every destination we desire. We are powerful and wise, and can always make excellent choices that take us where we want to go.

When we’re children we’re taught to play fair. But the world isn’t always fair. Sometimes cheaters win, and sometimes bad people get the prize. It hurts when we can’t stop someone from unfairly taking something from us. We can certainly push back if there’s a way to reclaim what’s been lost, but sometimes there is no recourse and we must accept what’s happened. It’s normal to feel bad when we’ve been abused, but there are unlimited roads to every goal. If someone has taken the road we’re on we can find another. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely. There are endless possible options and with focus and determination we will find the way forward.

Nobody is strong enough or powerful enough to keep us from our goals. Every dream we desire is possible and even if we have to start over, we can reach them. If those around us aren’t supportive, we can change our relationships and do what is needed to create the lives we want. We can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach. We can move forward and achieve anything we desire. Great success is always possible and we will reach it.

Today if you’ve been manipulated and hurt, keep your eyes on the goals you desire. Nothing can keep you from success. Find the road that will take you forward and keep moving. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can hold you down. Every dream is possible and you can make them come true.

Inside Out

26 Mar

There are all kinds of ideas, interpretations, scenarios, and concepts all around us all the time. Everyone has their own perspective about what’s happening and how things should go. If we believe our viewpoint is the only one that’s correct, it may keep us from seeing other ideas even if they’re pertinent and valuable. That’s fine if our idea is the only one we need and we control the situation, but if we’re working with others, and must collaborate, it will be necessary to open our minds to what they offer. We may uncover information that will help us move forward, but not everyone will have our best interests at heart. We may be in a situation where someone appears to be trying to help but are only pushing us toward something they desire. They may manipulate the facts to sell their point in an effort to convince us to follow their lead. There are countless ways to accomplish any goal and we can certainly hear every perspective and suggestion. We can be open to new ideas and find a new, and improved path to follow but we must also validate each option before proceeding. We don’t know what we don’t know and there is no way to comprehend everything around us. Everyone has their own slant on each situation and every perspective can evaluated on its own terms. We can be confident and trust that we can discern between truth and fiction. We can listen to other ideas, determine the value of their suggestions and then proceed. We are intelligent and capable, and success is always possible. Every road is open and we can reach any destination we desire by listening carefully and choosing what works.

Truth will always rise no matter how it’s colored, bent, or manipulated. It’s more powerful than any deception but while we’re finding our way, it’s possible to be convinced of a lie. Some people may be determined to push us in one direction and make us believe something untrue to advance their agenda. If we trust or admire them, or they are close to us personally, we may fall victim to their plan. When the truth becomes apparent, we may feel completely inside out and confused. Despite the deception, we can trust ourselves to step forward with confidence knowing we will find the way ahead. We can learn from the situation and reach success.

We live in the real world with real facts and consequences. There may be times when something in our lives is hard to accept. We may desperately want things to be different than they are, and may decide to create a reality that’s easier to swallow and more what we desire. Living in a dream state may make us feel better temporarily but truth will persist and in time, if we want to move forward, we’ll have to accept it. Things don’t always go the way we want them to. We can accept what is real and then proceed forward with determination.

Today if you’re struggling to find your way, remember you are wise and capable. You can recognize what is real and true, and will know how to proceed. You know what you want and have everything you need to reach your goals. Choose the best road ahead and move toward your dreams. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. All your dreams are waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

Carrying It

25 Feb

Every decision we make has a consequence and expresses who we are. Most of us try to make the best choices every time, but people are complicated, and sometimes because of fear or other influence, we may falter. If we make a bad choice, we carry the impact of it forward with us. If it’s an insignificant situation with people we don’t know, we might be able to ignore it and just move on. However, if it involves those who depend on our integrity and we’ve been dishonest, it will be harder to let it go. We always know what we’ve done and even if we’re able to hide, the burden of carrying something negative forward will become heavy and may hurt us in the long run. Nobody’s perfect and everyone makes mistakes from time to time. If we’ve done something that’s outside the person we want to be, it will never feel right. Carrying guilt forward will become heavy and may prevent us from achieving the goals we most desire. Thankfully, nothing is permanent and we can correct the situation by telling the complete truth, clearing the air and starting again. Owning up to our mistakes and errors in judgement does not diminish us in any way. Course corrections will help us live the lives we want the most. We have the potential to become anything we desire and go anywhere we choose. By living openly and honestly, and owning every decision, the road ahead will always be there and we can make our dreams come true.

Our ethical standards define who we are. We never need to succumb to situational ethics or change our values when our position becomes difficult. Situations never define our choices – we do. Every day will bring us the opportunity to choose and what we do tells the world who we are. We are strong enough to always choose in ways that honor our values. We have everything we need to succeed. By being honest in all our dealings we will achieve our goals and bless everyone around us.

For some, there’s a sliding scale when it comes to ethics and honesty. If they want something badly, they will do whatever it takes to gain it. They justify their behavior through their desires, and don’t care who gets hurt. They take what they want regardless of who is in the way or any consequences that may arise. They may get the prize but the cost will be high. They will lose the trust of those around them and it will be impossible to build strong relationships. We can choose the best road at every turn. Our lives are ours to design and with clarity and honesty, we will find satisfaction and happiness in choosing well.

Today if you’re in a situation that’s pushing you to make a choice you don’t feel good about, hold fast to your standards. You know how to make excellent decisions and need not bend your ethics to get through. Keep your eyes focused on the life you want the most. Show us who you are and set the bar high. You are a blessing to the world and we need your influence. Choose wisely, be confident, and show us the way.