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Hardly Noticeable

13 Jan

Everyone has an idea of where they want their lives to go and what they want to do. We decide what we want the most and then make a plan and begin to do what is needed to make it ours. It sounds simple, and on paper it is, but this is real life and rarely goes exactly the way we planned. There are endless influences all around us. Advertisers constantly bombard us with their ideas of what we should do and who we should be. Others in our circle may give us advice and guidance, even if we don’t ask for it, and our families are always there to share their views on what we’re doing or not doing. Although we know what we want, sometimes other voices may make us question our decisions, and pull us away from the road ahead. We may step to the left just to keep the peace and think we’ll get back on track as soon as things settle down. After all, one step to the left is hardly noticeable in the big scheme of things and we can trust ourselves to regain our momentum in time. But nobody can predict the future and sometimes one step to the left leads to another, and then another and before we realize it, we may be far away from what we really want and going in the opposite direction. Going from point A to point B is rarely a straight, uninterrupted line, but we have a better shot at success if we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead and don’t get distracted trying to please someone else. Every destination we desire is possible, and we have everything we need to make it ours. By focusing on the goal and continuing forward, nothing can keep us from success.

What we do determines the person we will become. If we want to be honest but there’s a better chance of getting what we want if we fudge the truth a little, or shift our ethics, we may be tempted to take the bait. If we do, we may get away with it, and nobody may know, but we will know we are compromised and that may color our decisions moving forward. It’s much easier to cheat the second time, and each time after that. We decide who we will be. By choosing wisely and following the standards we most desire, we’ll find great satisfaction and peace.

It’s not always easy to be completely honest and when the road ahead gets hard the temptation to bend our ethics to get through may be great. We can lie our way out of a mess, cheat others to get ahead, and manipulate and twist the truth until it fits our desires. But everything we do determines who we are. We are capable of great success and when we strive for perfection and choose the best possible options, honoring the nobility we possess, we will achieve greatness and complete happiness.

Today if you’re tempted to step a little off course in an effort to get to a goal, remember who you are. There is greatness in you. Think about what you want the most, and make the best choice to achieve it. You have the potential to bring great light to the world. Choose wisely, and be honest. Every success is there for you, and you will make them yours.

Slide

28 Oct

There are many diversions, distractions and unforeseen developments that occur constantly throughout our lives. There will always be many possibilities for every road we take. Some will benefit us and give us assets to carry forward, and others will simply get us to the goal as quickly as possible. If all we see is the prize, we may make a decision that gets us to the destination fast, and ignore the costs to our honesty and integrity. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can decide to bend the rules or cheat in an effort to reach a goal more quickly. If we’re exhausted and overwhelmed, choosing to cheat, just this once, may seem like a viable option. Stepping away from what we know is right just once doesn’t seem like a big deal. We may justify the decision because we believe we’re mostly honest and if nobody knows what we’ve done, nobody will get hurt. The slide from integrity to shame is often easy and paved. If all we see is the goal we desire, we may do anything to reach it. Even if nobody else knows what we’ve done, the sting of our dishonesty will remain with us. There is no way to change the past, and once we do something, it’s done forever. Stepping away from honesty can make some things a lot easier, and once we’ve broken the seal of our integrity, it’s not difficult to do it again. “Just this once” may become our standard practice, and we may lose our self-respect. We are valuable and important, and what we do matters. By choosing the better part and deciding to be the best we can be, we will find great reward and satisfaction. There is greatness in us all. By honoring our personal worth, we can make excellent decisions, and reach every goal with determination and valor.

We share the world with lots of other people. It may be important to us that they see us as honest and wise. What we do when others are watching does affect our lives, but who we really are is expressed by what we do when nobody is around. Will we keep the extra change because the clerk didn’t notice? Will we break the speed limit when no cops are around? Will we look at the test answers when the proctor steps away? Our personal integrity is our responsibility. When we choose the best path forward, no matter what we’re doing, we will gain greater strength and wisdom, and find amazing success.

Every decision we make defines who we are. If we don’t care about our integrity, and choose whatever will get the job done fast, we relinquish the growth possible by working through difficult challenges and finding the best answers. There is no substitution for excellence. When we strive for it and push ourselves to do the best we can possibly do, we will reap great rewards and gain a greater understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

Today if you’ve been making questionable choices in an effort to get done fast, think about who you most want to be. There is greatness in you, and you are more capable and powerful than you imagine. Choose to be excellent and take the best roads forward. You have so much to offer, and can bring great light to the world. Be noble and wise. Every success is possible, and by choosing well, you will make them all yours.

Volcano

26 Oct

Life is complicated and we never know what will happen next. Sometimes just as we’re sailing along and everything is fine, something happens and everything changes. We may be able to control ourselves and keep our cool when the rug is suddenly pulled out from under us, but there may be simmering distrust and resentment after the fact. If someone we rely on doesn’t come through as promised, or worse, leaves us hanging without notice, we may be able to continue on but the bad feelings from being abandoned may persist. Volcanos erupt when their chambers are full of magma and pressure builds beyond what they can contain. At the moment when it all becomes too much, the ash and lava that has been pressing against their cap will burst forth. When we face serious setbacks, and hold in how we really feel, never expressing our frustration, the weight of disappointment may build until there is a tipping point when we let loose, and completely blow our stack. It’s impossible to carry unresolved conflict forever, and eventually we’ll have to express what is holding us down. If we’ve carried resentment and anger for a long time, the moment of release may be intense and extreme. Like a volcano erupting, we might spew forth outrage without restraint. Although we may feel better after letting it all go, there may be collateral damage from our uncontrolled release. We are in control of our lives and instead of holding in our true feelings, can face them as things arise. We can talk about what’s bothering us and look for resolution before the situation spirals out of control. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to face anything we must, and can be confident in our ability to resolve conflict before it goes too far.

If there is someone we admire and want to impress, and they do something that is offensive, we may remain silent for fear of alienating them. We can ignore trouble as long as we like, but problems rarely solve themselves without effort. Looking the other way doesn’t change the facts, and hiding from the truth will never make it disappear. We are brave enough to speak up and address any difficult issue. By standing firm and clearly stating how we feel, we will be empowered and strengthened. We already have everything we need to move forward, and nothing can keep us from success.

We’re all entitled to make our own decisions and can choose anything we like. Our choices are unique to us. We may not agree with those around us, and we never have to stay in any situation that makes us uncomfortable. Instead of going along and trying to keep quiet, we can step away and change direction. By choosing what we want the most, we will find great satisfaction and happiness as we move forward.

Today if you’ve been holding in how you really feel, remember your voice is important. Speak up and let others know where you stand. Every destination you desire is possible, and you are strong enough and wise enough to reach them all. Stand strong and be confident. Success is always there for you, and you will make it yours.

Copy Cat

19 Oct

There are endless opinions and ideas floating around us all the time. The world is filled with differing viewpoints and there are limitless choices we can make. Although we can design our lives any way we like, we may face a time when there is pressure to conform. If the voices around us are powerful and loud, even if we disagree, we may decide to go along. Going along to get along is easier than standing our ground, and if we’re unsure or timid, we may buckle. Conforming may make the road ahead a little easier to navigate, but choosing someone else’s road will only take us where they’re going, and will never lead us to our own destinations. Copying someone else’s choices or behaviors will not enable us to live a clear, authentic life. We are unique. There isn’t anyone else like us in the whole universe and nobody can offer the gifts we have to share. Although it may be easier to go along to get along, nothing will bring us more satisfaction and happiness than choosing our own way. We all have so much to offer, and can be confident that our voices are important. We can be polite and patient, listen to every suggestion offered, and then choose our own path. We know what we want, and are strong enough, and wise enough to find our way forward. Choosing to be who we are, and honoring our own uniqueness will open new doors and pave the road ahead. Every dream we seek is there, waiting for us. By being honest with ourselves, and doing what we value most, we will find great reward and fulfillment. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire. By standing strong and stepping forward, we will reach every destination and success.

Some people are very confident and believe they have all the answers. They may tell us what we should do, how we should do it and where we should go. We can take any advice we like, but nobody, no matter how smart they think they are, can possibly know us better than we know ourselves. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything. By being true to who we are and what we want, we will reach every goal and find great happiness.

The power of the group can be intense. It’s easier to work with others if everyone follows the same path, but differences bring great depth and variety to our experience. There are endless roads to every destination and never one perfect way forward. By trusting ourselves, we can speak up and share our perspective. Everyone has something to offer and if we allow all voices to be heard, our experience will be enriched and deepened.

Today if you’ve been copying someone else’s choice because it’s easier or you are unsure, trust yourself. You already know exactly what you want. Decide on your goal, and take the first step forward. You are stronger and more powerful than you imagine. Every single dream is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Pigs

7 Oct

There are all kinds of people in the world doing all kinds of things. Some are honest and above board, and we can trust them to tell the truth and clearly state their objectives. There are others though, who will do or say anything to get what they want. They don’t care about anyone but themselves and their own objectives, and will change facts to suit their agenda. They may lie to our faces, and adamantly profess they are being completely clear and honest. We may believe what they say, only to discover later that nothing is true. It’s painful and disappointing, and we may be devastated if we find ourselves accomplices in something we do not want and don’t support. Everyone is accountable for everything they do, but that accountability may not occur in the immediate future. Skillful liars and cheats know how to work the system, and those around them. The may perfect their con game in ways that make it hard to expose them, but truth always rises and cannot be held back indefinitely. Putting lipstick on a pig doesn’t change it. It’s still a pig. When all the facts are visible, and every lie is uncovered, we will see things as they truly are. It’s good to trust others, and we are never at fault when our trust has been betrayed. We can face things as they are, accept what’s gone wrong, and correct our course moving forward. Nobody can hold us down forever. Every truth will come to light, and we will find our way forward.

Our families and close friends are important connections. We want to support them and help them when they ask. We may face a time when they want us to go along with something untoward or dishonest. They may decide to cheat to achieve a goal they are seeking, and ask us to help them accomplish it. Although we care for them, doing things that compromise our own personal ethics and standards will not enhance our relationship. We never have to do anything we don’t agree with, and may politely and firmly decline any request.

Some people think honesty and ethics are on a sliding scale. They believe that being honest most of the time is enough and may think if nobody knows what they’re doing, they can break any rule without consequence. That may work for a time, but eventually every fact will be revealed, and every action displayed. There is no way to run from the truth. It is powerful and unstoppable. By choosing well, and holding fast to the standards we set, we can reach every goal successfully, and find great satisfaction and reward.

Today if someone is pushing you to go along with something you don’t agree with, stand firm. You know who you are and what you want. Set the example for truth, and be confident. You are a light to the world, and we’re all blessed because you are here. Show us your best, and every success will be yours.