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Leaving With Grace

25 Jun

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyday brings us something new and we never know what will come next. Sometimes all our plans go well and we make good, strong connections that pave the road ahead and help us reach our goals. Other times, despite our best efforts, things go awry and we face changes we didn’t plan on. Relationships end, jobs change, people leave, and roads turn. There will be times when we must walk away and start in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and life is unpredictable. If the change takes us by surprise and we are heartbroken, we may feel angry that we can’t have what we thought was there for us. It’s normal to be upset when what we desire and plan on is no longer possible. We can scream and shout, belittle others who are involved, stamp our feet and slam all the doors, but that will not change our new reality. Serious disappointments are hard to navigate and we may give into every immature and vicious emotion possible, and that may make us feel better for a while, but it will only delay the inevitable realization that we are powerless over the change we must face. Instead of giving in to our most base instincts and lashing out at whomever or whatever has caused our discomfort, we can stop and step back. We can stand still and quiet for a moment and give ourselves time to adjust to what’s happened. There is great courage and stamina within us all, and if we take a moment to breathe, we will be able to manage what’s happened and see our way forward. We may have to leave where we are, and we may be unhappy and unsettled, but by trusting ourselves and remembering who we are, we can leave with grace. Nothing is more powerful or gives us more strength than self-control in times of great discomfort. Everything may have come apart, and the bottom may may fall out of all our plans, but the world hasn’t ended. We are still here, and can still succeed. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely and keep us from our goals. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still possible, and with determination and patience, we will reach them all.

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go. We can make all kinds of plans and chart our course ahead, and everything may go well, or we may be stopped in our tracks. Nothing is guaranteed and even if we’re sure we’re on the right road, things may change and we may get turned around and end up going in the opposite direction. Decisions may be made we have no control over that impact us negatively, or someone may enter the picture who takes over and changes our trajectory. A lot can happen, but nothing can keep us from moving ahead. We can adjust our plans, and step forward in a new direction and still reach success.

There is greatness in all of us. When things go wrong, and everything turns, even if we are upset and unsettled, we can trust we will find our way forward. By honoring our personal nobility, we can step away from any situation with grace and patience, and decide how we want to proceed. There will never be anything so difficult and complex that we can’t find our way through. We can trust ourselves to uncover all the answers we need, and step forward sure of success.

Today if your situation has changed and you must start again, if you feel overwhelmed and defeated, be confident. You have overcome many difficult and challenging times, and already possess everything you need to find your way forward. Nothing has changed. Your dreams are still there waiting. Stand tall and step forward. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

Switching the Tape

18 Nov

Life is full of challenges. There are endless twists and turns, complications, unforeseen developments, and all kinds of complex issues. Even when we plan well, and chart a clear course ahead, crap happens, and we can get tangled up and thwarted as we try to move forward. When things go wrong, the easiest thing in the world to do is stop trying and start complaining. It takes zero effort and gets us nowhere. If the goal isn’t important, we can let it go when we hit the first snag and move on to something else, hoping there won’t be any more problems. Well, hope springs eternal, but we live in the real world, and there will be few times when everything goes exactly the way we want it to. If we can’t manage unexpected problems, it will be difficult to accomplish much. There are endless things that can go wrong, and it can be maddening if we have continual issues and roadblocks on the road ahead. Frustration is normal but if we let it take over and abandon the journey, we will be unable to make our dreams reality. Instead of seeing every problem that arises as the end of the road, we can switch the tape and challenge ourselves to find the way forward. There really isn’t anything we can’t figure out if we’re determined and focused. It might take longer than we planned, and it might be harder than we thought at the beginning. Those things don’t matter. All that matters is that we face whatever happens and do what is needed to overcome any hindrance. We are strong and powerful and have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to do anything we desire. By being confident in the face of disaster, and refusing to accept defeat, we will prevail. The whole world is there for us, and we can have the lives we want the most. We must just be willing to do the work.

Everyone wants a life filled with ease and pleasure. Dreaming about a perfect world may be nice, but we don’t live in Nirvana. We live in reality where people make mistakes, barriers get in the way, and things go wrong. A lot. It’s possible that some good things may fall into our laps without any planning or effort, but mostly we’ll have to work to achieve the things we want the most. We are capable of designing our lives any way we like. With persistence and clarity, we can go where we want to go, and do all the things we want to do.

Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and someone else might make a bad choice that impacts our lives and give us heartburn. We can waste time ranting and raving about what’s happened, but that will only hold us place. If something gets in the way, we can find the road around it. If someone is holding us up, we can step away from them and go in a new direction. Complications will come, but we are strong enough and smart enough to overcome them and continue forward toward our goals.

Today if it seems everything is standing in your way and you’re frustrated and angry, stop and think about what you want the most. What is the goal you really want to accomplish? Look at everything objectively and you will find the way forward. You are amazing and capable, and nothing can keep you from success. Every single dream is there for you, and you will make them yours.

Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.

Losing It

12 Jul

Life is complex and every minute of every day can bring something we never expected or that upends our plans and changes everything. There is no way to know what will happen next or who may enter our lives and turn our ideas inside out. Something may arise that stops us cold and requires us to adjust everything we’re doing. We may wonder how this could happen, but we only have control over ourselves, and there are always a lot of unknowns. Sometimes when we’re trying to move forward, situations or decisions get in the way and keep us from advancing. We can get mad, pitch a fit, scream at those involved, and lose all self-control in an effort to stop the situation. We may feel better after venting our anger and frustration, but it’s unlikely that losing our self-control will help anything, or bring us any answers. Disappointments will come and when they do it’s far better to step back and take a moment to process what’s happened and think about how we can still reach our goal. There are unlimited roads available and many of them will lead to the destinations we desire. If one is suddenly closed off and no longer possible, we can find another. We might not be able to do it in our original time frame, and we may have to go the long way around to get there, but success is still possible. Losing control of our emotions and blasting those around us when things change will only delay us from finding the answers we need. We don’t need any additional delays and by thinking clearly, taking a deep breath, and allowing ourselves time to see all the options available, we can continue to move forward.

When something develops that threatens what we’re doing, our first response might be to deny it’s happening. If we’re averse to conflict, we might ignore the signals that things are changing and out of our control. Looking away from things that are difficult doesn’t change anything and prevents us from finding the answers we need to manage what’s happening. We can’t hide from developments and expect to process them at the same time. We have all the wisdom and strength we need to face whatever comes, and find all the answers we need.

A change in direction is just that – a change in direction. It doesn’t mean we can’t succeed or that any goal is impossible to reach. It may be difficult to accept and we may struggle to understand, but we can still move forward. If we get angry and upset, our ability to think clearly will diminish. We can’t find solutions if we’re losing our minds over something unexpected. We know what we want and if we stop and look around, we’ll find a way to achieve it. Nothing is beyond our reach and no matter what happens, we can succeed.

Today if a wrench has been suddenly thrown into your plans and you’re thrown off course, remain calm and see what’s possible. Every road is available and you will find the way forward. You are amazing and powerful, and can do anything you desire. Make a new plan and step forward. Every success is there for you and you will prevail.

Hair On Fire

18 Jun

We have all kinds of experiences as we go through our lives. We don’t have control over most of what happens and may be affected by actions and decisions we know nothing about. Things may change suddenly and unexpectedly. We can’t read the future and all the decisions being made by others around us and around the world may bring our lives to a screaming halt. What we do next often determines how things will go from there. If we freak out, lose our minds, and run around like our hair is on fire, chances are we won’t see the answers we need to change the situation. We may be extremely upset about what’s happened, and we might express that in a thousand different ways, but one thing is certain, anger and hysteria won’t help us. We may feel better after we express it, but we’ll still be right where we were when the bubble burst. The only way to change our situation is to see it openly and objectively, and then with patience and clarity choose our next move. There is a solution to every problem, and we are never stuck in any situation no matter how intense or difficult. There will always be a way forward and we can find it. We can look at all the options possible and decide how we want to proceed. Life is filled with uncertainties and surprises. Just when we think we’ve got everything figured out, a wrench may get thrown into our plans. It doesn’t matter how complicated the situation gets, we can find the way forward. We already possess everything we need to do anything we want. We can be strong, and patient and solve any problem that comes. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us down, and we can still achieve great success.

When we’re working hard to accomplish a goal and something we can’t move is in the way, we have options. Sometimes the plans we made at the beginning won’t carry us through to the end. There are always a lot of variables and when they don’t work together, we may have to regroup and change direction. There are many roads to every goal and we can adjust our plans when necessary to continue forward. If we get stopped and can’t move, we can be flexible and find alternative choices that will help us proceed.

Everything we want to do is possible but sometimes we can’t accomplish it right now. If we keep hitting a roadblock no matter what we do or where we go, it may be a signal that the goal isn’t possible at this time. It’s hard to be patient when we want something badly but wasting energy on something that can’t happen won’t benefit us. Life is constantly changing and if we can’t move forward now, we can set the goal aside until things are different and try again. We can accomplish anything we like by looking at our situation clearly and finding the best way forward.

Today if everything has changed and you can’t move ahead with the plans you’ve made, instead of losing control, calmly look at everything possible and decide on your next steps forward. You can accomplish anything you desire and revise your plans when needed to find success. Be confident and be clear. Every goal is there for you. You have everything you need to win and you will prevail.