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Absolutely Impossible

17 Mar

As we go through our lives, we’ll face many unexpected, challenging, difficult and surprising moments. There may be situations that confound us, twist the road ahead, and complicate things in ways we never imagined. Because we don’t live isolated, alone and by ourselves, others will come and go throughout our lives, and the choices they make and the things they do may impact us in many ways. There may be a situation that arises when the best option forward is something we don’t believe we can do. The solution to the problem is so difficult, and so hard to think about, it may seem absolutely impossible to accomplish. Maybe we must stand up to someone very powerful and influential, maybe we must withdraw from an intense connection or relationship, or a million other possible scenarios. When we’re facing our most dreaded nightmare, and the only way to get through is to push ourselves far beyond what we believe we can manage, we may shrink and stammer, unsure we can survive. The situation may be dire and we may be sorely tested and intimidated, but there isn’t anything we can’t do if we’re determined to proceed. We are more powerful than we think we are and far stronger than we imagine. There is greatness in us, and all the courage we need is already there within. Even if we’re not confident yet, we can trust ourselves to do what is necessary. We are capable of accomplishing anything we must, and nothing can hold us down when we’re ready to move. By standing firm and looking ahead, keeping our eyes focused on the goal and holding fast to our convictions, we will find the right road forward and reach success.

Some people are very strong and very loud. They know what they want and will not tolerate opposing ideas. If we don’t agree and must come up against them, they may question our intelligence, insult us, and try everything possible to demean us and shake our confidence in an effort to make us comply. They can do and say anything they like. We are entitled to our own viewpoints and can proceed according to our own desires and decisions. We never need anyone else’s approval or permission to make any choice we desire. Being loud doesn’t mean we must follow along. It’s just noise, and we have everything we need to continue forward our own way.

There may come a situation that is so hard and difficult we may believe there is no way we can face it. It’s just too much. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to think about it, and we might try to simply ignore it. Looking away from problems may bring us respite for a time, and we can always step away to think and rest when we need to. But our lives are our responsibility and by courageously addressing whatever has happened, we will find the answers we need to resolve any issue. We will never be so overcome we cannot survive. The roads we need are there and with patience and clarity, we’ll get through.

Today if you’re in a situation that is extremely difficult and you aren’t sure you have what you need to prevail, trust yourself. You have already resolved many hard issues and many complex problems. Take things one step at a time and be confident. You are amazing and can do anything. Step forward and show us your best. Every blessing and success is waiting and you will reach them all.

Getting the Blessing

29 Oct

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never meet most of them, there are generally people around us most of the time. We build relationships with them of varying degrees, and when we’re close to them, what they do and say may have a big effect on us. If someone does something that really hurts us, destroys our trust, or in other ways breaks down our connection, we may suffer great pain and disappointment. They may refuse to acknowledge what they’ve done and instead expect us to simply let it go and move on. Unresolved conflict doesn’t just disappear because it’s inconvenient, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Carrying around past pain and suffering and holding onto serious disappointment will never help us move ahead, and may hold us down and keep us from achieving our goals. We may think forgiveness is out of the question, but sometimes the only way to set pain down and walk away is to forgive those who have hurt us and let it go. The gift of forgiveness is hard to give in situations where the transgressor is unrepentant, but the blessings aren’t for them. The blessings go to those who have forgiven them. People who hurt others rarely feel bad about what they’re doing, but those they hurt may suffer indefinitely until they decide to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean we must forget what’s happened. We can remember everything clearly and take what we learn from the experience forward with us. Anger and resentment take a lot of energy to sustain, and after we forgive someone, we can release any ill feelings, sustain every valuable bit of information, and walk away with confidence. Nobody is perfect and we all falter at some point. Learning to release any negative experience, forgive those involved, and take the lessons forward, will enable us to find great success and happiness moving forward.

Few things hurt more than a broken heart. It’s painful when a relationship we desire suddenly ends, but it’s worse if it ends because of lying or cheating. It’s hard to look past the pain of betrayal and find relief. We may be shocked when we get all the facts, and decide we’ll never, no matter what, ever forgive them. We can hold onto the pain for as long as we like, but every day we give up to spite or suffering is lost and cannot be restored. Our lives are important, and we have a lot to offer. We can look at the situation clearly and objectively, let go of the sorrow, move forward and start again.

If we’re enmeshed in a difficult situation fraught with despair and grief, we may be overwhelmed and unable to see anything but the pain we’re enduring. Some things are very hard to navigate, but no matter where we are or what’s happening, there will always be a way ahead. The sun will rise again in the morning, and there will be a light to guide us through. Nothing is too hard for us to face, or too challenging for us to resolve. We are powerful and strong, and will prevail.

Today if you’re suffering because of something someone has done, think about what’s most important. Let go of any anger, and trust yourself. You are amazing and worth more than you know. The whole world is enriched because you are here. Take a deep breath, look at all the options possible, and start again. Every success awaits, and you will make them yours.

Drip Drip Drip

8 Dec

Life is full of challenges. We face something new everyday and with each experience learn more about ourselves, and our world, and where we fit in the mix. Sometimes we face extreme trials that test us and push us to our limits. They come to us, tearing up our plans and revising the road ahead. Hard times teach us a lot, and make us stronger and wiser. Extreme situations will arise, but they won’t happen all the time. For most of the time, our aggravations and frustrations come from everyday annoyances and problems. We process them as they arise and continue on, but if we must deal with one issue after another for a long time, we may tire and feel like we can’t go on. The constant drip, drip, drip of trouble can wear us down. We may become weary of the struggle and think about dropping out – just stepping away and letting someone else deal with them. Escaping is always a possibility and if we want to, we can abandon our responsibilities and walk away. It may seem like a good idea when we’re tired and frustrated, but our problems don’t change when we ignore them. They wait and remain until we return. Others may be able to deal with the mess we leave behind, but if the issue is ours to solve, it will stay in place, exactly as we left it. It’s like going on vacation and leaving the house a mess – food containers on the counters, dirty dishes in the sink, clothes strewn everywhere and wet towels on the bathroom floor. We might forget about it while we’re having fun and enjoying our break, but nobody is going to break in and clean it up for us. It will be waiting for us when we return. Constant aggravations can be taxing, but we are intelligent and capable, and no matter how difficult things become, we can take care of them. We can manage our lives in ways that bring us comfort and satisfaction. By focusing on what we really want, we can move forward with confidence and reach success.

Our relationships are important to us, but not every relationship is easy and beneficial. If we’re in a situation where we are constantly making excuses for someone else’s behavior, or continually trying to fix situations caused by their decisions, our lives may be consumed with managing someone else’s problems. We can be kind and charitable, and let others manage their own issues. Our lives are ours to design, and with clarity and focus, we can achieve gratification and complete happiness.

We’re not superhuman or immune from fatigue. If we’re tired, we can step away and take a break from any situation. Standing still for a time will allow our minds to rest, and open new ideas and possibilities we may not have considered. Every problem has a solution, and nothing is too complex for us to figure out. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need, and be confident we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been facing problems one after the other, and you’re tired of the struggle, step back and take a break. Let your mind rest and all the answers you’ve been seeking will rise. You are incredibly capable, and nothing can hold you down. Be confident and continue on. Every success is already there for you, and you will win.

Busy Signal

29 Jun

There’s often a lot going on in our lives. We have jobs, family, homes to manage, details to attend to, people to see, chores to accomplish, and endless unexpected events that arise and cause interruptions and distract us. We can achieve anything we want, but sometimes what we want to do requires us to work with someone else. If we must depend on them to succeed, and they don’t have time for us, we’ll either have to wait or abandon our plans. Some things require careful planning, and if one step isn’t possible, we may have to look at something else. It’s like trying to connect over the telephone. If we really need to talk to someone but get a busy signal when we call them, we’ll have to wait and try again later. In our personal lives, when we can’t get everything together to accomplish something we’re trying to do, it’s like getting a busy signal. Even if we’re ready to move, if we’re stuck due to circumstances beyond our control, we may have to wait and try again later, or make a new plan for moving forward. Life is full of surprises, and we never know what will happen next. If we get stuck because we can’t get everything we need to move ahead, we can set the goal aside for now, and return to it later when everything is available. Getting a busy signal doesn’t mean the goal is unreachable. We don’t have to give up and forget about what we want to accomplish. Change is constant and we will get the chance to try again. Every destination is there for us. If we can’t get there today, we can try again tomorrow. Nothing is out of reach and with determination, and focus, we will achieve success.

It’s good to build strong relationships with others and form connections that help us move forward and bring satisfaction and pleasure to our lives. But good relationships take time and effort. If we constantly push them off and cancel plans to meet, it will be difficult to build a strong connection. Constantly putting off our plans with someone else, will never build the bonds we may desire. We always do what we want to do most, and if the relationship is important, we will invest the time and energy we need to make it strong and rewarding. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. With focus and attention, we can have the lives we desire most.

When someone is important to us, we want to spend time with them. If they are always too busy to see us, or can’t commit to the plans we make, the relationship will suffer. We can only control our own actions, and if neglected, our connection will diminish. Our happiness is important, and we can always move forward in a new direction. There will always be another option and a new road possible. We can reach any goal and find satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you keep getting a busy signal when you try to connect with someone else, look at all the possibilities around you. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you’re here. Step forward toward the destination you desire most, and move ahead with confidence. Nothing can hold you in place, and every dream is possible. Success is just ahead, and with determination and clarity, you will reach it.

Do It Again

11 Jun

As we move through our lives, we experience many different things. We push toward our goals and with persistence and patience, achieve them. Some things come easily and we accomplish them quickly, but other things take time and effort, and can get complicated and difficult. We can never see the end of the road from the beginning, but if we’re persistent and determined, we can reach the destinations we desire. We only have control over ourselves, and may face a situation where no matter what we do we can’t move ahead. There may be others standing in our way, or making decisions that keep us from advancing, or the timing may make the goal impossible right now. If we get stuck, we always have options. We can look for another way forward, or we can simply keep repeating what we’re doing, hoping somehow if we just do it again, it’ll work. Repeating the same behavior over and over will not change our situation. Persistently going over the same steps won’t move us forward. If what we’re doing isn’t working, doing it again, harder, faster or with more enthusiasm won’t fix it. Going around in the same circle over and over will only hold us in place. If we want to push ahead, we’ll need to let go of the road we’re on, and move onto another. There are always many roads to every destination. Getting attached and clinging to one that doesn’t work will not take us to success. We are intelligent and can look at any situation objectively and openly, and find the answers we need to succeed. Every destination is there for us, and with wisdom and planning, we can reach them all.

From a distance it’s hard to see all the details of any situation. What looks good from afar may look very different when we get up close. A window down the road that looks open and inviting, may turn out to be a mirror on a door that is nailed shut. We can stand and hope it will turn into the window we thought it was, or we can accept what is real, and look for another way forward. We are certainly smart enough and flexible enough to adjust to whatever we must, and find our way to any goal we desire.

Our relationships are important to us, and when they’re positive bring great happiness and satisfaction to our lives. If we’re in a situation where our connection to someone else is fraught with stress, disappointment and pain, it’s up to us to decide how long we want to suffer. Enduring a bad relationship for a long time is no guarantee that it will ever change. We’re in control of our lives and our happiness is important. We can stay in any situation we want for however long we want, but there are always other options, and we can change anything at any time. We are powerful and strong, and every success is there for us.

Today if you’ve been doing the same thing over and over hoping it will work, step back and look at all the options possible. There will always be another road that leads to success. Change your focus and try something new. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is there for you, and every dream is possible. Step forward with confidence, and you will prevail.