Tag Archives: Relationship

Getting the Blessing

29 Oct

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never meet most of them, there are generally people around us most of the time. We build relationships with them of varying degrees, and when we’re close to them, what they do and say may have a big effect on us. If someone does something that really hurts us, destroys our trust, or in other ways breaks down our connection, we may suffer great pain and disappointment. They may refuse to acknowledge what they’ve done and instead expect us to simply let it go and move on. Unresolved conflict doesn’t just disappear because it’s inconvenient, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Carrying around past pain and suffering and holding onto serious disappointment will never help us move ahead, and may hold us down and keep us from achieving our goals. We may think forgiveness is out of the question, but sometimes the only way to set pain down and walk away is to forgive those who have hurt us and let it go. The gift of forgiveness is hard to give in situations where the transgressor is unrepentant, but the blessings aren’t for them. The blessings go to those who have forgiven them. People who hurt others rarely feel bad about what they’re doing, but those they hurt may suffer indefinitely until they decide to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean we must forget what’s happened. We can remember everything clearly and take what we learn from the experience forward with us. Anger and resentment take a lot of energy to sustain, and after we forgive someone, we can release any ill feelings, sustain every valuable bit of information, and walk away with confidence. Nobody is perfect and we all falter at some point. Learning to release any negative experience, forgive those involved, and take the lessons forward, will enable us to find great success and happiness moving forward.

Few things hurt more than a broken heart. It’s painful when a relationship we desire suddenly ends, but it’s worse if it ends because of lying or cheating. It’s hard to look past the pain of betrayal and find relief. We may be shocked when we get all the facts, and decide we’ll never, no matter what, ever forgive them. We can hold onto the pain for as long as we like, but every day we give up to spite or suffering is lost and cannot be restored. Our lives are important, and we have a lot to offer. We can look at the situation clearly and objectively, let go of the sorrow, move forward and start again.

If we’re enmeshed in a difficult situation fraught with despair and grief, we may be overwhelmed and unable to see anything but the pain we’re enduring. Some things are very hard to navigate, but no matter where we are or what’s happening, there will always be a way ahead. The sun will rise again in the morning, and there will be a light to guide us through. Nothing is too hard for us to face, or too challenging for us to resolve. We are powerful and strong, and will prevail.

Today if you’re suffering because of something someone has done, think about what’s most important. Let go of any anger, and trust yourself. You are amazing and worth more than you know. The whole world is enriched because you are here. Take a deep breath, look at all the options possible, and start again. Every success awaits, and you will make them yours.

Drip Drip Drip

8 Dec

Life is full of challenges. We face something new everyday and with each experience learn more about ourselves, and our world, and where we fit in the mix. Sometimes we face extreme trials that test us and push us to our limits. They come to us, tearing up our plans and revising the road ahead. Hard times teach us a lot, and make us stronger and wiser. Extreme situations will arise, but they won’t happen all the time. For most of the time, our aggravations and frustrations come from everyday annoyances and problems. We process them as they arise and continue on, but if we must deal with one issue after another for a long time, we may tire and feel like we can’t go on. The constant drip, drip, drip of trouble can wear us down. We may become weary of the struggle and think about dropping out – just stepping away and letting someone else deal with them. Escaping is always a possibility and if we want to, we can abandon our responsibilities and walk away. It may seem like a good idea when we’re tired and frustrated, but our problems don’t change when we ignore them. They wait and remain until we return. Others may be able to deal with the mess we leave behind, but if the issue is ours to solve, it will stay in place, exactly as we left it. It’s like going on vacation and leaving the house a mess – food containers on the counters, dirty dishes in the sink, clothes strewn everywhere and wet towels on the bathroom floor. We might forget about it while we’re having fun and enjoying our break, but nobody is going to break in and clean it up for us. It will be waiting for us when we return. Constant aggravations can be taxing, but we are intelligent and capable, and no matter how difficult things become, we can take care of them. We can manage our lives in ways that bring us comfort and satisfaction. By focusing on what we really want, we can move forward with confidence and reach success.

Our relationships are important to us, but not every relationship is easy and beneficial. If we’re in a situation where we are constantly making excuses for someone else’s behavior, or continually trying to fix situations caused by their decisions, our lives may be consumed with managing someone else’s problems. We can be kind and charitable, and let others manage their own issues. Our lives are ours to design, and with clarity and focus, we can achieve gratification and complete happiness.

We’re not superhuman or immune from fatigue. If we’re tired, we can step away and take a break from any situation. Standing still for a time will allow our minds to rest, and open new ideas and possibilities we may not have considered. Every problem has a solution, and nothing is too complex for us to figure out. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need, and be confident we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been facing problems one after the other, and you’re tired of the struggle, step back and take a break. Let your mind rest and all the answers you’ve been seeking will rise. You are incredibly capable, and nothing can hold you down. Be confident and continue on. Every success is already there for you, and you will win.

Busy Signal

29 Jun

There’s often a lot going on in our lives. We have jobs, family, homes to manage, details to attend to, people to see, chores to accomplish, and endless unexpected events that arise and cause interruptions and distract us. We can achieve anything we want, but sometimes what we want to do requires us to work with someone else. If we must depend on them to succeed, and they don’t have time for us, we’ll either have to wait or abandon our plans. Some things require careful planning, and if one step isn’t possible, we may have to look at something else. It’s like trying to connect over the telephone. If we really need to talk to someone but get a busy signal when we call them, we’ll have to wait and try again later. In our personal lives, when we can’t get everything together to accomplish something we’re trying to do, it’s like getting a busy signal. Even if we’re ready to move, if we’re stuck due to circumstances beyond our control, we may have to wait and try again later, or make a new plan for moving forward. Life is full of surprises, and we never know what will happen next. If we get stuck because we can’t get everything we need to move ahead, we can set the goal aside for now, and return to it later when everything is available. Getting a busy signal doesn’t mean the goal is unreachable. We don’t have to give up and forget about what we want to accomplish. Change is constant and we will get the chance to try again. Every destination is there for us. If we can’t get there today, we can try again tomorrow. Nothing is out of reach and with determination, and focus, we will achieve success.

It’s good to build strong relationships with others and form connections that help us move forward and bring satisfaction and pleasure to our lives. But good relationships take time and effort. If we constantly push them off and cancel plans to meet, it will be difficult to build a strong connection. Constantly putting off our plans with someone else, will never build the bonds we may desire. We always do what we want to do most, and if the relationship is important, we will invest the time and energy we need to make it strong and rewarding. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. With focus and attention, we can have the lives we desire most.

When someone is important to us, we want to spend time with them. If they are always too busy to see us, or can’t commit to the plans we make, the relationship will suffer. We can only control our own actions, and if neglected, our connection will diminish. Our happiness is important, and we can always move forward in a new direction. There will always be another option and a new road possible. We can reach any goal and find satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you keep getting a busy signal when you try to connect with someone else, look at all the possibilities around you. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you’re here. Step forward toward the destination you desire most, and move ahead with confidence. Nothing can hold you in place, and every dream is possible. Success is just ahead, and with determination and clarity, you will reach it.

Do It Again

11 Jun

As we move through our lives, we experience many different things. We push toward our goals and with persistence and patience, achieve them. Some things come easily and we accomplish them quickly, but other things take time and effort, and can get complicated and difficult. We can never see the end of the road from the beginning, but if we’re persistent and determined, we can reach the destinations we desire. We only have control over ourselves, and may face a situation where no matter what we do we can’t move ahead. There may be others standing in our way, or making decisions that keep us from advancing, or the timing may make the goal impossible right now. If we get stuck, we always have options. We can look for another way forward, or we can simply keep repeating what we’re doing, hoping somehow if we just do it again, it’ll work. Repeating the same behavior over and over will not change our situation. Persistently going over the same steps won’t move us forward. If what we’re doing isn’t working, doing it again, harder, faster or with more enthusiasm won’t fix it. Going around in the same circle over and over will only hold us in place. If we want to push ahead, we’ll need to let go of the road we’re on, and move onto another. There are always many roads to every destination. Getting attached and clinging to one that doesn’t work will not take us to success. We are intelligent and can look at any situation objectively and openly, and find the answers we need to succeed. Every destination is there for us, and with wisdom and planning, we can reach them all.

From a distance it’s hard to see all the details of any situation. What looks good from afar may look very different when we get up close. A window down the road that looks open and inviting, may turn out to be a mirror on a door that is nailed shut. We can stand and hope it will turn into the window we thought it was, or we can accept what is real, and look for another way forward. We are certainly smart enough and flexible enough to adjust to whatever we must, and find our way to any goal we desire.

Our relationships are important to us, and when they’re positive bring great happiness and satisfaction to our lives. If we’re in a situation where our connection to someone else is fraught with stress, disappointment and pain, it’s up to us to decide how long we want to suffer. Enduring a bad relationship for a long time is no guarantee that it will ever change. We’re in control of our lives and our happiness is important. We can stay in any situation we want for however long we want, but there are always other options, and we can change anything at any time. We are powerful and strong, and every success is there for us.

Today if you’ve been doing the same thing over and over hoping it will work, step back and look at all the options possible. There will always be another road that leads to success. Change your focus and try something new. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is there for you, and every dream is possible. Step forward with confidence, and you will prevail.

Deserving It

16 Aug

Life is filled with surprises and uncertainty. We don’t have any control over what comes to us or what others are doing, but we always have control over our own decisions and choices. We can decide what we want, with whom we’ll associate, and where we want to go. Sometimes things will go exactly the way we want them to, and other times we’ll face trials and struggles that challenge us and make the road ahead difficult. When things are going wrong and nothing seems to work, we may wonder what we did to deserve this. Is it possible we caused all this heartache to come upon us? Our decisions always have consequences and there will probably be times when a choice we make takes us somewhere uncomfortable, but often when hard times come, they are the result of a thousand different things over which we had no control. Nobody wants to suffer but trouble will come to us all. We can’t possibly make enough mistakes to deserve every problem that comes our way. We don’t deserve to struggle – it’s just part of life. What we do deserve and can achieve is complete happiness. We can make excellent decisions and choose the roads that take us where we most want to go. There is great satisfaction in being in control of our lives and making choices that move us closer to our goals. Even when things fall apart and everything is upside down, we can be calm and confident that we will prevail, and find the answers we need. They will always be there for us and we have all the wisdom and courage to do what is needed to find them and solve any problem we encounter. Life is uncertain but we can be confident that no matter what comes, we will prevail. We deserve the very best life has to offer, and with patience and determination, will get it.

Our relationships are important to us and when they are positive and beneficial, bring us great peace and comfort. However, we may have a relationship that works against us, and causes pain and hardship. Our lives are ours to design and we never have to stay in situations that bring us pain and sorrow. If our association is keeping us from fulfilling our dreams or causing us serious duress, we can step away. If we are connected by family or professional ties, we can alter the way we interact so that we are comfortable and able to move forward.

We are all unique and have special gifts to offer the world. Nobody can take our place or offer the blessings we have. If our lives aren’t where we want them or we’re headed toward something we don’t desire, we can stop and re-evaluate the way forward. We deserve every dream we choose. There is a road to every destination we want, and we can change course and begin toward them at any time. Every happiness is possible and we have everything we need to find success.

Today if you’re struggling and the dreams you desire seem far away, remember how strong and powerful you are. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You deserve the very best life has to offer and every happiness can be yours. Be confident and trust yourself. Step onto the roads that will take you to the destinations you want the most. Every dream can come true and nothing is out of reach.