Tag Archives: Deny

Absolutely Impossible

17 Mar

As we go through our lives, we’ll face many unexpected, challenging, difficult and surprising moments. There may be situations that confound us, twist the road ahead, and complicate things in ways we never imagined. Because we don’t live isolated, alone and by ourselves, others will come and go throughout our lives, and the choices they make and the things they do may impact us in many ways. There may be a situation that arises when the best option forward is something we don’t believe we can do. The solution to the problem is so difficult, and so hard to think about, it may seem absolutely impossible to accomplish. Maybe we must stand up to someone very powerful and influential, maybe we must withdraw from an intense connection or relationship, or a million other possible scenarios. When we’re facing our most dreaded nightmare, and the only way to get through is to push ourselves far beyond what we believe we can manage, we may shrink and stammer, unsure we can survive. The situation may be dire and we may be sorely tested and intimidated, but there isn’t anything we can’t do if we’re determined to proceed. We are more powerful than we think we are and far stronger than we imagine. There is greatness in us, and all the courage we need is already there within. Even if we’re not confident yet, we can trust ourselves to do what is necessary. We are capable of accomplishing anything we must, and nothing can hold us down when we’re ready to move. By standing firm and looking ahead, keeping our eyes focused on the goal and holding fast to our convictions, we will find the right road forward and reach success.

Some people are very strong and very loud. They know what they want and will not tolerate opposing ideas. If we don’t agree and must come up against them, they may question our intelligence, insult us, and try everything possible to demean us and shake our confidence in an effort to make us comply. They can do and say anything they like. We are entitled to our own viewpoints and can proceed according to our own desires and decisions. We never need anyone else’s approval or permission to make any choice we desire. Being loud doesn’t mean we must follow along. It’s just noise, and we have everything we need to continue forward our own way.

There may come a situation that is so hard and difficult we may believe there is no way we can face it. It’s just too much. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to think about it, and we might try to simply ignore it. Looking away from problems may bring us respite for a time, and we can always step away to think and rest when we need to. But our lives are our responsibility and by courageously addressing whatever has happened, we will find the answers we need to resolve any issue. We will never be so overcome we cannot survive. The roads we need are there and with patience and clarity, we’ll get through.

Today if you’re in a situation that is extremely difficult and you aren’t sure you have what you need to prevail, trust yourself. You have already resolved many hard issues and many complex problems. Take things one step at a time and be confident. You are amazing and can do anything. Step forward and show us your best. Every blessing and success is waiting and you will reach them all.

Just and True

16 Jul

We are all accountable for everything we do.  When we make decisions that work out well we may feel great satisfaction that we chose wisely.  We are capable of making excellent choices but we aren’t perfect and there will be times when we may choose something that doesn’t go the way we want it to.  If we make decisions that bring unhappiness or negatively impact our lives or those around us, we may feel the ramifications going forward.  Life is complex and there are often many factors involved in every decision we make. If we’re dishonest and blatantly do things to hurt others or deceive, we may try to deflect our involvement by making excuses or blaming others.  If we choose badly we may point to the influence of those around us, or the stress we’ve been under, or the complications of the decision that were misleading, or even the weather.  All the excuses may be valid but we still own the decision.  It is right and just to be accountable for what we do.  If we want to live honestly we must accept that justice – even if it means we will suffer – must prevail.  Reasons and excuses for a bad decision may bring understanding of how the choice was made but they cannot change the result.  We are going to make mistakes and when we do we can accept the error, learn all we can from it, do what is needed to correct our course, amend anything we’ve damaged, and move forward.  We can be honest in accepting our part and take what we’ve learned with us to help us in the future.

After a bad decision we might distract those around us from the truth by creating a lot of noise blaming others or the situation.  We might get a pass if we are loud and convincing enough but nothing can change the past and what has happened will remain.  If we refuse to openly admit the error and look at it clearly we won’t learn anything from the experience.  They say those who refuse to learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them, and that’s likely true.  If we don’t use the experience as a teaching tool, we may repeat the same behaviors again and again, even if they bring us hardship.  Instead, we can determine to see everything completely and learn as much as possible so we don’t suffer through the same situation again.

When we’re responsible for a situation that turns out badly, we may try to deny our part in the mess as a way of escaping accountability.  We may be able to fool others for a while but truth always rises.  Denial simply delays the inevitable.  Everyone makes mistakes and there is no need to pretend things are different than they are.  We are capable of managing any situation and if we’ve stumbled we can right ourselves and start again.

Today if you’ve made a decision that has brought you trouble, look at the situation openly and honestly.  Be accountable for your actions and do what is needed to correct your way forward.  You are wise and capable of making excellent choices.  Don’t let a mistake hold you back.  Be confident and start again.  Success is always possible and you will reach it.

Whatever it Takes

3 May

When there is something we really want to accomplish we may think about it constantly. We set plans in motion to get to the goal and determine to do whatever it takes to make it happen. Although we’re dedicated to success, sometimes there may be something we must do to achieve it we really don’t want to face. We want to succeed and are willing to do anything to get there – except that. Sometimes it will be enough to do most of the work to find our way forward, but other times there will be no way to reach a goal unless we do everything required. We can try to modify the plan and find a way around the one thing we don’t want to do and go in every other direction possible. When success doesn’t come we can try again. We can keep trying as we avoid the problem hoping that without facing it we’ll be able to succeed. When our plans don’t work out we can ignore the real issue and refuse to face it for as long as we like, but if we don’t do what is needed nothing will change. It isn’t easy to embrace difficult challenges but if we want real success we can do everything required. Ignoring or denying a problem will never solve it. We can do what is needed to reach any goal we desire. We have all the wisdom and courage necessary to face anything. By taking the first step and opening all the doors to move forward we will find success. Every destination is within reach and there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can change our focus and accomplish everything we must. We are powerful and strong, and nothing can hold us back.

Our life experiences teach us new things about ourselves and the world around us. If we’ve been hurt by something in the past it may color how we feel about our future. It’s hard to trust the future after a painful experience. Our confidence may be negatively impacted and even though we want to move forward, may get stuck where we are. Each day brings new possibilities and no matter what has happened before, there are always endless chances for happiness again. We can be confident in our ability to find the road ahead and reach the goals we desire. We can bravely move forward toward any destination.

We all have things we doubt we can accomplish. Some goals are very difficult and we may not yet have the skills to conquer them. Life is filled with opportunity and we can learn anything necessary to gain any success we choose. Expanding our sphere of influence to include those who will help us and seeking out the learning necessary to move forward will take us to the goal. We need not fear anything we must do to succeed. We are more capable than we realize and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been holding back because there is something you don’t want to do to achieve a goal, remember how strong and powerful you are. There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well. Open every door and walk forward. You are amazing and powerful and nothing is beyond your abilities. The whole world is there for you. Take the first step now and keep moving forward. Nothing will keep you from success.