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No Thanks

17 Sep

There are unlimited options available to us at all times. We can travel on endless roads, go anywhere and do anything we desire. There will be few times when there is only one possibility for the way ahead, and we can design our journey any way we like. Unless we live on a deserted island, we share our world with lots of other people. They come and go in and out of our lives constantly, and we are rarely, completely alone. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and we may get lots of advice and opinions about how we should proceed. We’re all individuals with our own choices to make but if those around us are powerful or insistent, we may decide to follow their lead, even if it’s not what we really want. If we have a personal relationship with them, their influence may be great, and we might find ourselves doing things they suggest and patterning our lives after them. That’s fine if what they’re doing and where they’re going is what we want, but if not, we can step back and choose another path. We can listen to any ideas and recommendations others have to offer, and then make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to follow someone else’s plan, and can politely decline any suggestions we don’t desire. We don’t have to go to the concert just because our friends want us to. We don’t have to ride along if we aren’t interested in the destination. We are in control of our lives and can decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. There is no need to seek permission or agreement. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we like. Our lives are ours and we can create them in any way. By doing what is most important and seeking the goals we most desire, we’ll gain great satisfaction and happiness. Every single dream is possible, and with focus and determination, we can achieve anything.

Peer pressure will often be a factor in the choices we make. How much influence it has over us depends on how focused and confident we are in our ability to choose well. If we’re unsure, we may bend to someone else’s ideas. If we don’t trust ourselves to make a good choice, we might let others choose for us. We can bend in the wind and let things roll out as they may, or stand firm and make our own decisions. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

Family pressures and traditions are powerful. When everyone is on the same page, doing the same things the way they’ve always been done, it’s easy to get agreement. We can follow what others are doing and keep the boat steady, but every option is available. If we want something different, we can choose our own way forward. Accepting the choices of others doesn’t mean we must follow them. We can be respectful, and polite, and go our own way.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you really don’t want to do, decide what you want the most. You are important and valuable, and can have the life you desire. Every single blessing is already there for you and with determination, and persistence, you can make every dream come true.

Up or Down

28 Aug

We are in control of our lives and with whom we choose to associate. Some connections are positive and lift us up, help us move forward, and bring great satisfaction and happiness. Others may not be as beneficial. There may be problems and issues that bring us down and complicate our lives. We never have to stay in any situation that isn’t working for us, or that brings hardship and difficulty. Instead of enduring a relationship filled with stress and frustration, we can change our direction and build new ones that are strong and favorable. When our connections give us light and support, we are happier and more confident. Our lives and all the decisions we make are up to us. We don’t have to keep associating with someone who hurts or demeans, or draws away all our energy, no matter who they are. There will always be another road to travel, and we can decide who’ll go with us. We can choose people who lift us up, or bring us down, make us happy or miserable. We deserve the best of everything, and that includes the relationships we build. We know who we are, and can do whatever is needed to ensure we’re on the best road headed to the destinations we most desire. Nobody is powerful enough to control us or prevent us from reaching success. We cannot be held back against our will. Every single dream is possible, and by choosing to connect with those who encourage and help us find our way forward, we will reach every goal we desire. Nothing is out of reach, and we will succeed.

We’re all born into families of some sort. While there are many varieties of what family means to us, one thing is sure, they will be important influences in our lives. If we’re doing things they like and following the family model, the road will be easier than if we push away toward something different and choose another direction. We’re entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and never need to conform to keep the peace. With respect and grace, we can listen to any advice given, and then choose our own road moving forward. We don’t need permission or agreement to create the lives we want the most. Every goal is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will reach them.

Staying in a difficult relationship will never bring us lasting happiness. If we’ve been connected for a long time, we might think we must stay to honor the time we’ve invested. But change is constant, and if we don’t feel satisfied or fulfilled, we can make a new plan. We can take the lessons we’ve learned forward with us, and start on a new road. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to create the lives we want the most. Nothing can keep us from our dreams if we’re determined to make them ours. Life is the most precious gift we’ll ever get. Choosing the roads that take us to the destinations we desire will bring us great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t working but are hesitant to step away, remember your happiness is important. You are a gift to us all and deserve every blessing. You can do anything.  Decide what you want the most, and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are possible, and you will find great success and happiness.

The Last Mile

15 Jul

Working hard to complete a difficult goal can be exhausting. Some things take a lot to accomplish, and we can’t know when we start how convoluted or complex they may become as we progress. If it’s taken a long time to move ahead, and each step has been fraught with complications and problems, it may seem we’ll never prevail. When we’ve been working hard to reach a specific destination, and we’re tired, there may be times we feel like it’s just too much. We’re worn out, and the end of the journey still seems far away. Unfortunately, we can’t see the end of the road at the beginning, and even though we’re progressing and moving forward, solving issues as they arise, it might seem the struggle is endless. It’s impossible to see into the future, and although we may not be able to see it, we may be on the very last mile of the road. The end may be only steps away. Success depends not only on enduring the road moving ahead, but actually completing the journey and arriving at the destination. If we quit before we get there, we will carry everything we learned forward with us, but we will never win the fight. We are always in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can turn our course at any time, and let go of any goal we desire. If the road is too long and cumbersome, and we don’t want to continue, we can change direction and move on to something new. But if we really want to reach success, no matter how hard it’s been, we will always have enough strength and wisdom within us to continue forward. Today may look bleak, filled with trials and endless worry, but tomorrow is coming, and success is just ahead. We are more powerful than we know, and nothing can keep us from anything we desire. By trusting ourselves, and taking one more step forward, we will prevail, and claim the prize.

Building a house takes a lot of time, planning, and organization. We can get all the materials we’ll need assembled together, but just having them loaded up into a pile will not create the house. We must begin assembling each piece in order, starting with the foundation and working up from there. The same is true when we’re working hard to reach a goal. We must plan as we move forward, untangling each complication and solving each problem along the way. Step by step, with determination and persistence, we will be successful in pushing ahead. We are capable of achieving greatness, and nothing can keep us from our goal.

When we’re working hard, fatigue may become an issue. It’s impossible to be at our best if we’re tired and unfocused. Stepping back and taking time away to recharge will help us find clarity and open new ideas that will pave the road ahead. We are intelligent and can do anything we desire. We have all the stamina and wisdom we need to keep moving forward, and reach success.

Today if you’ve been on a long road, and are beginning to feel you will never prevail, step back and decide how you want to proceed. Every answer is already there for you. You are capable of greatness. Stand strong and step forward. Success is just ahead, and nothing can keep you from it.

Round and Round

2 Jul

We are always in control of our lives and can make any decisions we like. We choose where we want to go, the people we want to see, what we want to do, and endless other decisions. If we’re careful and think before we move toward something, we have a better chance of getting where we want to go and having a positive experience. But life is complicated and there are many distractions. We might, out of pressure or confusion, make a choice that takes us somewhere we never wanted to go and blows up in our faces. We are all capable of making excellent decisions, but they require thought before we jump. If we just follow our noses around without looking where we’re going, it’s likely we won’t end up exactly where we want to be. If others want us to do something, and press us to follow their direction, if we feel pressured, we may participate even if we don’t want to. We may end up going round and round in a situation we never wanted to join. Everyone has their own ideas about what we should do, but we don’t have to go along with anything we don’t want. Even if everyone else is going north, we can choose to go south. By taking control of our lives, we determine our own destiny and can achieve anything we desire. Everything is possible and all roads are there for us. Once we decide what we want, we can make a plan that will take us there, and step forward with assurance that we will succeed. Nothing is too far to reach, and every destination is waiting. We can be confident we will prevail, and make all our dreams reality.

Patterns and routines can lead us along and after a while, we may find ourselves making the same decisions over and over again without thinking. We see the same people, go to the same places, and participate in the same activities. There is nothing wrong with routines if they take us where we want to go. But if they hold us in place, and prevent us from moving toward the goals we really want, we can step away and move in another direction. We are the only ones who can keep us from success. If we’re ready for something different, we can chart a new course, and begin again.

There may be times when we get stuck making decisions that don’t work for us. It might be because of a personal relationship that is difficult, or because we are afraid of choosing for ourselves and are following someone else. Repeating the same bad choice over and over again will never bring satisfaction. Our happiness is important, and if we’re in a situation that keeps us from it, we can choose something else. We are wiser and stronger than we may think we are. Nothing can keep us down when we’re ready to move. We can step forward with clarity toward the goals we want the most, and reach success.

Today if you aren’t moving forward toward what you desire, think about how you want to proceed. You are in control of your life and can design it any way you like. Nothing is too hard for you to manage, and every goal is possible. Decide what you want the most, and begin toward it. You will find great satisfaction and happiness as you move forward, and you will succeed.

Busy Signal

29 Jun

There’s often a lot going on in our lives. We have jobs, family, homes to manage, details to attend to, people to see, chores to accomplish, and endless unexpected events that arise and cause interruptions and distract us. We can achieve anything we want, but sometimes what we want to do requires us to work with someone else. If we must depend on them to succeed, and they don’t have time for us, we’ll either have to wait or abandon our plans. Some things require careful planning, and if one step isn’t possible, we may have to look at something else. It’s like trying to connect over the telephone. If we really need to talk to someone but get a busy signal when we call them, we’ll have to wait and try again later. In our personal lives, when we can’t get everything together to accomplish something we’re trying to do, it’s like getting a busy signal. Even if we’re ready to move, if we’re stuck due to circumstances beyond our control, we may have to wait and try again later, or make a new plan for moving forward. Life is full of surprises, and we never know what will happen next. If we get stuck because we can’t get everything we need to move ahead, we can set the goal aside for now, and return to it later when everything is available. Getting a busy signal doesn’t mean the goal is unreachable. We don’t have to give up and forget about what we want to accomplish. Change is constant and we will get the chance to try again. Every destination is there for us. If we can’t get there today, we can try again tomorrow. Nothing is out of reach and with determination, and focus, we will achieve success.

It’s good to build strong relationships with others and form connections that help us move forward and bring satisfaction and pleasure to our lives. But good relationships take time and effort. If we constantly push them off and cancel plans to meet, it will be difficult to build a strong connection. Constantly putting off our plans with someone else, will never build the bonds we may desire. We always do what we want to do most, and if the relationship is important, we will invest the time and energy we need to make it strong and rewarding. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. With focus and attention, we can have the lives we desire most.

When someone is important to us, we want to spend time with them. If they are always too busy to see us, or can’t commit to the plans we make, the relationship will suffer. We can only control our own actions, and if neglected, our connection will diminish. Our happiness is important, and we can always move forward in a new direction. There will always be another option and a new road possible. We can reach any goal and find satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you keep getting a busy signal when you try to connect with someone else, look at all the possibilities around you. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you’re here. Step forward toward the destination you desire most, and move ahead with confidence. Nothing can hold you in place, and every dream is possible. Success is just ahead, and with determination and clarity, you will reach it.