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Candy Coated

14 Sep

There are billions of people on the planet earth. They come in and out of our lives continually and as we interact with them, our connections may be positive, negative or somewhere in between. Everyone thinks they are good judges of character and some of us can spot phony baloney from 30 paces. But it isn’t always easy to recognize someone who is pretending to be something they aren’t. If someone wants something from us and doesn’t care how they manipulate us to get it, they may be very good actors. They may look the part, say all the right things, and convince us they are on our side when the truth may be very different. If we take a spoonful of mustard and freeze it, then roll it in a ball and dip it in chocolate, we could set it in a box of chocolate bon bons and it would blend right in. Nobody would know it wasn’t a delicious fudge filled truffle until they actually took a bite and got a mouthful of bitter, strong mustard. Candy coating can cover a lot of blemishes and can hide what lies inside. Flattering words, considerate gestures, and smiling agreement can make us believe something that isn’t real. We are intelligent and if we dig just a little deeper and scatch the surface a little more, we will get more information that will help us understand the situation as it really is instead of how it appears to be. People will do what they will do, but we are in control of our lives and can be wise as we move forward. We are extremely capable and smart. Nothing can fool us indefinitely and we will uncover the truth. By taking our time to see everything clearly, we can make excellent decisions, and build strong connections that will lead us to success.

It’s very pleasing to have someone else’s admiration. When they tell us we’re brilliant, or beautiful, or look at us with unwavering devotion we may be swept away. It all looks so wonderful, and it might be. But there are opposites in everything and we may face a time when someone we thought was angelic turns out to be the devil himself. Okay, maybe not THE devil, but someone who is intentionally leading us astray in an effort to get us to do something or take something from us. Nobody can do anything perfectly, and even the most practiced liar will stumble. If we don’t get caught up and pay attention, we will see things as they truly are, and be able to make wise decisions about our next step.

Most people are good and it’s good to trust those around us. We don’t have to be suspicious of everyone’s motivations, but we can keep our eyes open and listen carefully. Nobody is going to look out for us like we look out for ourselves. Truth is powerful. It can be hidden for a time but it cannot be help back forever. We are intelligent and wise, and with patience and focus, we will discover it, and find success.

Today if you have doubts about someone near you, trust your instincts. Look for the truth in every interaction. You are wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and will find the best way forward. Every single blessing is waiting for you, and every destination is possible. Be strong and stand firm. Step forward with clarity, and take charge. All your dreams are there, and you can make them yours.

At the End

9 Sep

There are endless roads we can take to unlimited destinations. Our lives are a continual process of moving forward, either to somewhere we desire, or someplace else. We can make any choices we like and go anywhere we imagine, and each road we choose will have a destination at the end. If we’re paying attention and making decisions that keep us moving toward the goals we desire, we’ll reach success and find ourselves in situations and places that are pleasing. But life is complicated and there’s always a lot going on. Others may impact us with the decisions they’re making, and the way ahead may get dark and confusing. It’s easy to get distracted and lose our footing, and if time passes before we reset, we may not be able to reclaim our previous position, and have to start again. Every road ends at some point, and when we choose the first step on any path, we are also choosing the last. If we don’t want to end up where it’s leading, we’ll need to step off and re-evaluate our next move. Life is filled with opportunities and if we get lost or turned around, we have endless chances to try again. Every single destination is possible, and with focus and clarity, we can go anywhere we want. Our dreams are always there for us, and we can claim them all.

The world is filled with all kinds of opportunities, and there are lots of shiny things that may grab our attention. The lure and promise of success may pull us in several directions at the same time. We can do anything we like but it’s impossible to do everything we desire all at once. By looking at all the options possible, and deciding on what we want the most, we can begin moving forward toward success. We are wise and extremely capable, and nothing is too difficult for us to overcome. With patience and persistence, we can reach every destination, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Lots of people may tell us what we should do, where we should go, how we should act, what we should look like, and endless other suggestions. We can take any advice we like, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want, and have everything needed to achieve it. We don’t have to follow anyone else, or conform to their ideas. Our lives are ours to design, and we can do anything we like. We can choose the roads we’ll travel, and find success.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t going where you most want to go, stop and decide how you want to proceed. You never have to stay anywhere you don’t want to be. Choose the destination you desire most, and change direction. You are intelligent and wise, and every destination is possible. Be confident and begin again. All your dreams are waiting, and you will make them yours.

Stepping Away

3 Sep

Our lives are often busy and we have lots of details and responsibilities that need our attention. Some things are easy to check off our lists. We get to them, we get them done, and we move on. But other situations may be messy and tangled up, and require a lot of focus and time. If we’ve been dealing with something for a while, and other things have suffered because our time has been monopolized by this one issue, we may decide it’s not worth it to continue, and choose to let it go and walk away. If the issue is so complicated and keeps changing, resolution may elude us. Everyone has the same amount of time every day, and no matter what we do or how much we want it, we can never add to the total. Once it passes, it’s gone forever. We’re in control of our lives, and if something isn’t working or we get stuck going around in the same circle over and over, we can change our focus and step away. The problem will remain, but our situation is ever changing, and as we do other things we may uncover new ideas and solutions we didn’t see when we were involved initially. We can think about how we want to proceed, and when we’re ready, can revisit the issue again. Stepping away isn’t giving up. We can change direction for a time and do other things, allowing ourselves to think about all the possibilities. We are intelligent and capable, and with focus and time, nothing is beyond our understanding. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need, and move toward success.

Our relationships are important, and when they’re strong and healthy, add great enrichment and benefit to our lives. Some people need a lot of support. They may be continually unsure or afraid of change, and constantly ask us to help them. It’s good to be helpful, but we must all face our own lives and make our own decisions. If someone close to us often insists on leaning on us for help and advice, we may be asked to give up more time than we’re comfortable with. We can’t change anyone else, but we can find ways to assist without negatively impacting our other responsibilities.

Families are important and our connections with them can be very intense. Tradition is powerful and if we’re expected to do things a certain way simply because it’s always been done that way, and we aren’t comfortable following along, we don’t have to continue. We can politely and patiently express our own viewpoint, and then do what we choose. Our lives are ours to design and we don’t need permission or agreement to do anything we desire. Every road is there for us, and all destinations are possible.

Today if you’ve been caught up in a situation that is taking all your time and energy, and you want something different, step back and decide how you want to proceed. You don’t have to stay anywhere you don’t want to be. Decide what you want the most, and begin the journey forward. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach.

The Switch

19 Aug

Everyone is different and we all have our own personal goals and dreams we want to achieve. Every option is possible and if we work hard, and stay focused on moving ahead, chances are we’ll find great success. Our personalities and choices are a result of many factors – how we were raised, where we’ve been, what we’ve experienced so far, and a million other things. Although we can do anything we want, who we are, how we act and how we see the world may complicate something we’re trying to achieve. There may be a time when what we’re doing will not allow us to move toward what we want. If we’re very shy and reserved and the goal requires us to be bold and move forward with power and intense determination, we may struggle to push ahead. If we’re loud and ambitious, and the goal requires a gentle touch and a soft hand, we may have trouble figuring out how to advance. Everyone has their own special and unique talents, but nobody is completely perfect for every desired role. We are in control of our lives and if we want the goal, can make any changes necessary to get there. We may have to switch our thinking around in specific ways, and alter our responses and behaviors in order to do what is needed to prevail. Making personal changes isn’t pretending. If we want the goal, we may actually have to change something. There isn’t anything we can’t do and we are the only ones who can keep us from reaching any goal. We know what we want. The question is – Are we willing to do what is needed to achieve it? Once we decide how we want to proceed, we can pave the road ahead and push forward toward success. We can do anything and every dream is possible. With determination, focus and clarity, nothing can keep us from success.

Some people use the excuse “That’s just how I am,” to explain some behavior or choice they made that didn’t work out. We can always blame our choices on the patterns we’ve adopted and repeated throughout our lives, and blame bad decisions on endless outside issues. We can repeat the same mistake endlessly and deal with the consequences over and over again. But until we face the situation openly, look at how our choices have affected the outcomes, and then switch our behaviors around to something more beneficial, we may never find success. Our happiness is our own responsibility. With careful thought and preparation, we can make excellent choices that will take us where we most want to go, and find great happiness and satisfaction.

Traditions and routines are comfortable. We know them, we’re used to how they feel, and it’s easy to keep repeating them. Because they are familiar, we may stick with them even if they don’t bring us what we most desire. We can stay in the same, thankless job, remain in relationships that aren’t working, and continue down the same road indefinitely. Nothing will change until we do something different. Our lives belong solely to us. If we want something more, we can get it, but if we want to go somewhere else, we must be willing to let go of where we are. There isn’t anything we can’t do once we decide. Every single destination is possible, and we can reach them all.

Today if you’ve been trying to move closer to a goal but are struggling to move forward, look at what is needed to succeed, and make the necessary changes so you can win. You are amazing and powerful. Nothing is too difficult for you to achieve. Be confident and trust yourself. The whole world is there for you and every dream is waiting. Step forward and make them yours.

Unavailable

18 Aug

Everyone has their own ideas about how they should live their lives. We all have goals and dreams we want to accomplish. Some of them are inconsequential and can be achieved easily with little effort. Others are crucial and their importance weighs heavily upon us. When there’s something we really want, something we feel we must have to be comfortable and happy, and we can’t get to it, our frustration may be intense. Everything is possible but not everything will be available all the time. We only have control over ourselves and may face a time when due to unforeseen circumstances, what we want is unavailable. Nothing we do will get us to it, and it remains out of reach. It’s very hard to accept defeat when we want something intensely. But if it’s not possible, and there is no way to get there, we will have to set our sights on something else, and wait. Change is constant and in time, however long it takes, whatever is in the way will move and the door will open for us. We can continue forward and keep our eyes focused on the road ahead. When things change, we can be ready to step up and seize the moment. Every goal is possible but they may not bend to our timeframe. We can be flexible and prepare for when our situation opens up, and start again. Nothing is too difficult for us to achieve, and with patience and perseverance we will prevail.

Waiting takes practice and patience. It’s hard to stand still when we want to move. But waiting gives us a chance to look at everything objectively. There may be a way around the obstacle in front of us we didn’t see when we were rushing forward. By looking carefully at every possible option, we may find the key that unlocks the road ahead. We are very intelligent and highly capable, and nothing can elude us indefinitely. We know what we want, and with clarity and confidence, can make it ours.

If we’ve waited a long time and still nothing has changed, and it seems the goal we desire is simply not available no matter what happens or what we do, we can decide how we want to proceed. Some plans may not work out and we may have to change our focus. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed, only that the idea won’t work at this time. It doesn’t mean it will never succeed. We can look at other things and continue to move forward, checking back from time to time to see where we are, and the possibilities ahead. Nothing is out of reach forever. Everything is possible and when the road opens, we can move toward success.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t move forward, decide on how you want to continue. You can work on other things and still keep the goal in focus. When things change, be ready to move and you’ll reach success. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Be confident and strong. Keep moving forward and every dream will be yours.