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Worth

22 Dec

The world is a big place with billions of people. Customs and cultures are different and what we value changes depending on circumstances and where we are. Some things are worth more in one area than another. If we live in a snow-covered wasteland, fresh fruits and vegetables are highly valued and desired. However, if we live in the topics where the temperatures are always intense and food grows virtually on its own, ice is treasured. Worth is used to indicate value, and there are endless examples of placing value on things, but what about us? Does our value change depending on where we live or what we do? Are we worth less if we live a simple life than if we we’re rich and famous? Does it depend on how many friends we have or what we’ve accomplished? We are the only person exactly like us in all of creation, since the beginning of time and until the end. We are rarer than the rarest diamond, more precious than the finest gold, and worth more than anything in the whole world. Our worth is limitless and infinite. Nobody can replace us, and without our presence everything would be different. Even the meekest among us possesses inestimable worth. Knowing that, we can have great confidence that we are important and necessary. We don’t have to prove our worth to anyone. We are valuable simply because we are here. Everything we do embellishes our lives and the lives around us in some way. Each action enriches us and teaches us something new, and we can step forward with confidence and surety. Our influence brings depth and variety to the world around us and deepens the experiences of others. We can trust in our own personal worth, and step forward toward any destination, confident we will prevail and reach the goal.

Some people have very high opinions of themselves, and think they have the answers for everyone around them. They may tell us what they think we should do, where we should go, how we should dress, and a thousand other suggestions. We can always listen to any advice we’re given, but nobody is more aware of our desires or needs than we are. We are perfectly capable of designing our own lives in accordance with our own choices. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire, and with focus and determination we can do anything.

We may be in a relationship where someone belittles us and tells us we are nothing. They point out our flaws and exaggerate their power over us. Nobody is perfect and we all have things we want to change or modify. That doesn’t mean we are defective in some way – it only means we’re human. We’re all important and nobody is worth more than anyone else. If someone else doesn’t believe that, that’s their loss. We are valuable and perfect, just as we are, and nothing can diminish our worth.

Today if you feel small and insignificant, remember you are unique and a gift to the world. You are amazing and valuable, and we are all blessed because you are here. Let your light shine and step forward with confidence. Every single dream is there for you and you will make them yours.

Stirring It

16 Nov

We make continual decisions as we go through our lives. Each choice has a result and if we’re careful and take our time, chances are the results we get will be the ones we hope for. But we are complex beings and there is sometimes more involved than just making a good decision. If what we’re doing will affect those around us, they will play a part in the choices we make. Maybe they hurt us in the past, and we carry bitter feelings that affect which way we’ll go. If there is a way to get what we want and hurt them back in the process, we might opt for that even if it’s not exactly the best choice to make. There is always the possibility of stirring up trouble if we want to. We might think it’s fair – you hurt me, I hurt you – evens the score. Well maybe. But evening the score rarely brings lasting satisfaction and might cause more trouble for us moving forward. Life is complicated enough without trying to tangle it up further by purposely hurting someone else. Nobody gets a free pass, and we’re all going to get hurt at some point. What we do with that is up to us. We can seek revenge, and determine to get it no matter what. We could let it eat away at us and consume our thoughts. Or we can get through it more wisely by learning all we can from what’s happened, and using that knowledge to help propel us forward in the future. One thing is certain – the anger and resentment we hold will only hurt us. It will have no affect on those who caused it. We don’t need to be hurt any more than what we’ve already experienced. By holding onto everything we’ve learned, we can let go of any bad feelings and step forward confident we’ll reach success. Nobody is strong enough to stop us from reaching our goals. They may stand in our way, but there are other roads we can travel. We are powerful and wise, and will prevail.

Our lives are ours to design. We can reach any goal or destination we choose. It doesn’t matter if others disagree with us or try to stop us in our tracks. We are intelligent and will find the way forward. Some people are threatened by the success of others, and if we’re winning, may try to prevent us from advancing. They may well delay our progress, but nothing stays the same forever, and in time, we’ll be able to navigate around them. Every dream is there for us, and we can do anything with patience and determination.

Some people love to stir up conflict. They enjoy seeing people confused and frustrated. If we must interact with them, we may become the subject of their difficult intervention. They may do things to hurt us or make our progress forward harder than it needs to be. We can’t make anyone else behave appropriately, but we can control everything we do. They may goad us and tease us, but we never have to take the bait. We can be confident and make excellent choices to be true to who we are and where we want to go.

Today if you’re dealing with someone who is trying to pull you away from your goals, keep your focus on what you want the most. You are stronger and more powerful than you think you are. Be confident. All your dreams are possible, and they will be yours.

Aftermath

6 Nov

Weather is unpredictable. We might be enjoying a completely sunny day, when suddenly dark clouds roll in and a storm begins to blow. There might be advanced warning so we can prepare, but things can change quickly and unexpectedly, and we may get caught in a deluge without cover. The same is true in our personal lives. One moment we’re sailing along on a clear road, easily moving toward our goals, and then something happens that completely changes the landscape ahead. When everything suddenly turns upside down it’s hard to gain our footing and figure out exactly what to do. But we are intelligent and capable, and there isn’t any problem so complex or daunting that can hold us in place indefinitely. All the answers we need will always be there for us, and with patience and focus, we’ll find them. That doesn’t mean we won’t suffer or need time to recover after the worst is over. Some things can change our lives so dramatically that we cannot return to where we were. The aftermath of a storm may leave 100 year old trees knocked to the ground, and flood waters in places that have never seen them before. If our lives are so altered by events out of our control, that we are turned around and facing a completely new direction, the aftermath may leave us scarred and unsure. The future may seem intimidating and we may have no idea how to proceed. Getting pushed off course and turned around will make it hard to discern the road ahead. We can take our time and stand still until we can see clearly where we want to go. Having to travel on a new road will not prevent us from reaching any goal we desire. There are endless roads to every destination, and we have everything we need to reach them.

Everyone wants an easy life. We may think it would be perfect if every road was clear and nothing got in our way. It would certainly be easier to move forward if there were no obstacles, but if all our goals were easy to reach, we would lose the great experience that trials bring us. When we get stopped, we must re-think our plans and find answers to help us start again. Every experience gives us new skills to carry forward and enables us to reach success more easily. Trouble will come to us all, and valuing what we’re learning as we navigate through whatever problem we’re facing will help us understand ourselves and the world around us.

We may face a situation that is so intense and negative it changes the way we see ourselves and our future lives. What was once possible may be gone and where we were headed may no longer work. Every storm has an aftermath. How it affects our lives may be out of our control. That doesn’t mean we can’t be successful, but our success may look completely different than when we started.

Today if something has happened that has completely upended your plans, and you’re facing a new direction, trust yourself. There isn’t anything you can’t manage. Success is still there for you and you will reach it. Look at everything clearly and decide how you want to proceed. Every destination is possible and your will prevail.

No Thanks

17 Sep

There are unlimited options available to us at all times. We can travel on endless roads, go anywhere and do anything we desire. There will be few times when there is only one possibility for the way ahead, and we can design our journey any way we like. Unless we live on a deserted island, we share our world with lots of other people. They come and go in and out of our lives constantly, and we are rarely, completely alone. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and we may get lots of advice and opinions about how we should proceed. We’re all individuals with our own choices to make but if those around us are powerful or insistent, we may decide to follow their lead, even if it’s not what we really want. If we have a personal relationship with them, their influence may be great, and we might find ourselves doing things they suggest and patterning our lives after them. That’s fine if what they’re doing and where they’re going is what we want, but if not, we can step back and choose another path. We can listen to any ideas and recommendations others have to offer, and then make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to follow someone else’s plan, and can politely decline any suggestions we don’t desire. We don’t have to go to the concert just because our friends want us to. We don’t have to ride along if we aren’t interested in the destination. We are in control of our lives and can decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. There is no need to seek permission or agreement. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we like. Our lives are ours and we can create them in any way. By doing what is most important and seeking the goals we most desire, we’ll gain great satisfaction and happiness. Every single dream is possible, and with focus and determination, we can achieve anything.

Peer pressure will often be a factor in the choices we make. How much influence it has over us depends on how focused and confident we are in our ability to choose well. If we’re unsure, we may bend to someone else’s ideas. If we don’t trust ourselves to make a good choice, we might let others choose for us. We can bend in the wind and let things roll out as they may, or stand firm and make our own decisions. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

Family pressures and traditions are powerful. When everyone is on the same page, doing the same things the way they’ve always been done, it’s easy to get agreement. We can follow what others are doing and keep the boat steady, but every option is available. If we want something different, we can choose our own way forward. Accepting the choices of others doesn’t mean we must follow them. We can be respectful, and polite, and go our own way.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you really don’t want to do, decide what you want the most. You are important and valuable, and can have the life you desire. Every single blessing is already there for you and with determination, and persistence, you can make every dream come true.

Up or Down

28 Aug

We are in control of our lives and with whom we choose to associate. Some connections are positive and lift us up, help us move forward, and bring great satisfaction and happiness. Others may not be as beneficial. There may be problems and issues that bring us down and complicate our lives. We never have to stay in any situation that isn’t working for us, or that brings hardship and difficulty. Instead of enduring a relationship filled with stress and frustration, we can change our direction and build new ones that are strong and favorable. When our connections give us light and support, we are happier and more confident. Our lives and all the decisions we make are up to us. We don’t have to keep associating with someone who hurts or demeans, or draws away all our energy, no matter who they are. There will always be another road to travel, and we can decide who’ll go with us. We can choose people who lift us up, or bring us down, make us happy or miserable. We deserve the best of everything, and that includes the relationships we build. We know who we are, and can do whatever is needed to ensure we’re on the best road headed to the destinations we most desire. Nobody is powerful enough to control us or prevent us from reaching success. We cannot be held back against our will. Every single dream is possible, and by choosing to connect with those who encourage and help us find our way forward, we will reach every goal we desire. Nothing is out of reach, and we will succeed.

We’re all born into families of some sort. While there are many varieties of what family means to us, one thing is sure, they will be important influences in our lives. If we’re doing things they like and following the family model, the road will be easier than if we push away toward something different and choose another direction. We’re entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and never need to conform to keep the peace. With respect and grace, we can listen to any advice given, and then choose our own road moving forward. We don’t need permission or agreement to create the lives we want the most. Every goal is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will reach them.

Staying in a difficult relationship will never bring us lasting happiness. If we’ve been connected for a long time, we might think we must stay to honor the time we’ve invested. But change is constant, and if we don’t feel satisfied or fulfilled, we can make a new plan. We can take the lessons we’ve learned forward with us, and start on a new road. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to create the lives we want the most. Nothing can keep us from our dreams if we’re determined to make them ours. Life is the most precious gift we’ll ever get. Choosing the roads that take us to the destinations we desire will bring us great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t working but are hesitant to step away, remember your happiness is important. You are a gift to us all and deserve every blessing. You can do anything.  Decide what you want the most, and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are possible, and you will find great success and happiness.