Tag Archives: Surrender

The Endless Wait

10 Nov

There are lots of people around us and we may develop many different types of relationships. If we want them to be strong and healthy, we must be willing to invest time and attention in them. Since we’re all different, what that looks like may be very different from one person to the next. Some families are very connected and stay intensely involved with each other. Other families are more independent and don’t include everyone in their business. Although they are very different, it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. There are endless ways to express our attachments. We all have ideas about how things should go and if we get intimately involved with someone whose ideas about how to manage our connection is different than our own, there may be complications. If we want to move the relationship forward, and the other person says they want the same thing, but keep putting us off, it may be confusing. We can listen to their promises, and hope for things to change, but if all we do is wait and nothing happens, we may need to re-evaluate what we’re doing. Words are cheap and without action, they mean nothing. All the promises in the world are worthless if there is no follow through. We can wait as long as we like for things to develop, but our lives belong to us and we are in control of what we do. We don’t have to remain in place any longer than we’re comfortable. If we want something different or something more, and the other party isn’t responding, we can look at all our options and change direction. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been connected to them. If what they’re doing isn’t working, we can move on. We deserve complete happiness and by keeping our eyes open and choosing the road ahead we most desire, we can achieve it.

Procrastination is a deadly behavior trait that can quickly kill a relationship. We always do what we want to do most, and when we push something aside and leave it undone, it’s an indication that it’s not important to us. If we ignore our relationship responsibilities or promises, our connection will surely suffer. It’s demeaning and insulting to constantly be promised something that never materializes. Instead of going along to keep the peace, it’s far better to state our true intentions and be as honest as possible. If we don’t want to or don’t intend to do something, there is no need to pretend otherwise.

It’s hard to wait for something we really want. If the goal is something we can achieve on our own, we can make an effective plan and set forth to achieve it, but if it involves the participation of someone else, all bets are off. Someone may agree to doing something just to prevent contention, when they have no intention of complying. Who we are is defined by what we do. If we continually commit to things and don’t follow through, others will learn we cannot be trusted. There is greatness in us, and by being completely honest and keeping our word, we will build great connections and strong relationships that will move us closer to the success we desire.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to change for a while, remember you are in control of your life. There is no need to wait longer than you are comfortable. Look at everything objectively and openly, and decide how you want to proceed. Your life is precious and valuable and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and choose the road ahead that will take you to the destinations you most desire. Everything is possible if you’re willing to do what is needed to make it yours. Be confident. There is great happiness and success waiting and you will reach it.

Skate Shoes

30 Mar

There are lots of people on the earth, and all around us. As we interact with them, we get to know them, what they’re like, what they do well, how they respond and a thousand other cues that help us communicate effectively with them. Most people are polite and try to do their best, but there are always some who are ready to cheat or find ways to manipulate us and the situations we’re in. It’s like that one person on the team project who does nothing. They don’t prepare anything and skip the meetings, but when it’s time to present, they show up and take credit for what’s been done. They don’t want to work so they skate through on the efforts of others, and many times, they may get away with it. When we figure out who they are we may do everything we can to avoid them, and it’s frustrating and difficult if we have to deal with them. It’s unethical and dishonest to skip out and then take credit for things we haven’t done, but those who do it don’t really care about ethics or honesty. They just want the glory, and will take it any way they can. We can speak up and point out what’s going on and hope that will make a difference, and it might, or it might not. The best we can do is deal with what we have, be the best we can be, and continue forward toward our goals despite the annoyance. We know what we want, and there isn’t anything or anyone who can keep us from it. By keeping our eyes trained on the road ahead, with determination and confidence we will reach every success.

Life can be complex and we may face some seriously troublesome times. When things are going wrong and it feels like nothing is working out, we may be tempted to throw up our hands in despair, surrender to defeat and walk away letting someone else handle it. We can do anything we like, and if the goal is too hard right now, we can set it aside until things change, but we never have to give up. Nothing is permanent, and no matter what’s going on now, or where we are, everything will eventually change. If we keep our options open and our watch carefully, we’ll be ready when the door opens ahead.

Some people are frankly lazy. They want to move ahead but they don’t want to work. They want to achieve their goals, but they don’t really want to do anything to make that happen. When they have assignments they need to address, they may lean on those around them, and try to push them off so they skate on through to something they want to do. We’re in control of our lives, and unless someone is in authority over us, never have to take on anything we don’t want. We always have the power to say no, and can continue forward focusing on the goals we’ve set for ourselves.

Today if you’re dealing with a troublesome situation, remember all the times you’ve faced challenges in the past and succeeded. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. All the answers are there for you and you have everything you need to move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal. You are capable of amazing success and nothing can hold you in place. The whole world is there for you and you will win.

You Take It

25 Mar

We share the world with billions of other people, and although we won’t meet even a tiny fraction of them, there are often people around us much of the time. They pass us on the street, work for us and with us, we have friends, family members, acquaintances and others. Unless we live alone and stay inside, we’re likely going to run into someone. Everyone has their ideas about life and what they will do. Nobody gets a free pass, and we’re all going to face trouble and challenges at some point. Some people are very confident and rarely get flustered even when things are going wrong, but others may struggle and find it hard to manage even the smallest problems. If we are close to them and they rely on us, and they are easily overwhelmed, they may try to push their problems off on us. They might simply hand them over, and say “Here, you take care of it,” and walk away. If they are in a position of authority over us, we may have no choice but to do as they ask. But if we’re on a level field, we never have to take on what isn’t ours. They may try to hand whatever they don’t want off onto us, but we never have to accept it. We all have enough personal crap to manage, and complicating our own lives by trying to manage someone else’s will never lead us to success. We can listen when others complain, and offer any advice that might help, and then leave them to it. If they don’t take care of business, it’ll be their mess to clean up. Our lives are important and we deserve complete happiness. By taking care of ourselves, and doing what is needed to reach our own personal goals, we will find great satisfaction and peace. Life is what we make it and by being wise and clear about what is ours and what we will do, we will reach every destination and find great success.

It’s good to be helpful and offer assistance when we can. We can give guidance and help others when needed. It’s noble to sacrifice ourselves for those around us, but it isn’t selfish to be sure we take care of our personal needs first. There is nothing to be gained if we give up all our time to someone else and neglect our own journeys. Our lives are our responsibility and we can be wise and do what we can without breaking the bank. We can find the right balance between giving and taking, and reach every goal.

Nobody wants to suffer or go through hard times. When we’re facing a very difficult situation and we don’t know what to do, we don’t have to surrender and try to hide. Even the most complex problems have solutions, and there isn’t anything we can’t figure out. By taking our time and looking at every possible option, we will find the answers we need. We are stronger and more capable than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down when we want to move. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we can overcome anything and win.

Today be confident and trust yourself. Remember what is yours, and let others manage their own. Be kind and caring, and move forward with confidence and clarity. You are amazing and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. Every single goal is possible and nothing can hold you in place. There is great success just ahead and you will reach it.

Complete Stop

19 Aug

Life is uncertain and no matter how hard we try to plan, there will be unexpected developments from time to time that gum up the works and complicate our way forward. They may be minor, just inconveniences we have to work around, or full on disasters that stop us completely and block the road ahead. Or they might be a million variations in between. When we’re trying to get to a goal and things get in the way, it’s frustrating. If there are continual issues that keep us from advancing it can be maddening. It’s hard to endure problem after problem, and keep a positive outlook. Being held in place against our will isn’t comfortable, and we may lose our temper while we have to wait. We can rage against the situation, scream and yell, and try to force our way through, and that might work, but may make everything worse. The energy it takes to have a full-blown tantrum will take away from the energy we need to find our way forward. Hard times will come to us all. They aren’t easy to face and we might end up completely confused for a time, standing still trying to figure out what to do. We can raise our voice, and tell everyone around us how bad we feel, or we can step back and quietly look at what’s happened and review all the options before us. There is never only one way to get to any destination. There will always be another road possible, and with patience and focus, we will find the best way forward. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely. Every single goal is possible, and there isn’t any problem or complication powerful enough to keep us from whatever we desire. We can trust ourselves to find every answer, and be confident of success.

We share the world with lots of other people making their own choices and decisions. Sometimes those decisions may impact our lives in ways that make it harder for us to move ahead. We only have control over ourselves, and if someone does something that gets in the way of our plans, we can modify them and find another way around. We know what we want, and have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can change direction when we need to, and reach the goal.

When we make an excellent plan, we may be sure it’s the only way for us to succeed. If something goes wrong, someone drops the ball, or an unforeseen development turns everything upside down, we might panic, thinking we’ll never win. Although our original idea may have been effective, if it’s no longer viable, we don’t have to give up. We have all the wisdom and patience we need to evaluate all the possibilities, and come up with a new way forward. We are smarter and more powerful than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if the road you were on has turned and the way to your goal is blocked, remember how creative and intelligent you are. You have overcome many complications and problems already, and have everything you need to find your way again. All the answers you need are already there for you. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every destination is waiting, an you can reach them all.

Tights and a Cape

8 May

Life is filled with challenges and opportunities that teach us new things and give us more information about the road ahead. Sometimes things roll along with little trouble, and other times it seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong. Nobody gets a free pass on problems. They come to all of us, and when they do, we must find our way through them. We may wish for a life of ease where every day is like a holiday, but if we actually had lives like that, we would learn nothing about ourselves or the world around us. Thankfully, wishes aren’t reality, and we’re going to struggle from time to time. When we’re in the midst of trouble and feel overwhelmed, the answers we need will be there but they may not be obvious. Some answers require us to dig deep and search for them. During times like those it would be terrific if Superman was real, and could show up and just solve everything for us. Unfortunately, if we want tights and a cape to save us, we’ll have to provide them ourselves. We might have to search diligently, and ask for help to find our way through, but we are smart and perfectly capable of managing any issue that’s complicating our lives. Things will go wrong, we will stumble, our plans may disintegrate, and we might find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. But we are creative and wise, and there isn’t anything that can hold us down indefinitely. The answers will be there for us and with patience and determination, we will find them. We are capable of incredible success, and nothing is strong enough to keep us from it. Every problem can be solved, and we have everything we need to prevail.

When we’re struggling with something difficult, we may reach out to those around us for help and support. Everyone has different experiences and if we’re facing something new, chances are there will be someone who has already traveled that road, or who can point us in the right direction. If we’re very independent, we may choose to find the answers on our own. We can always do that, but it may take more time and effort than if we reach out for help. Asking for help doesn’t mean we’re weak or can’t do things on our own. We all have a different collection of skills. We can get advice from someone who knows the way forward until we gain our own expertise.

When we’re facing a hard challenge, there may be some who’ll tell us we’ll never prevail and we should just give up and forget it. We can take any advice we like, but we are stronger and more powerful than we think we are. There really isn’t anything we can’t manage. By confidently stepping forward even when we’re unsure, we can open the doors ahead and find our way to success. Life is full of opportunities and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and are unsure about how to proceed, trust yourself. You’ve already overcome many difficult problems and you have everything you need to solve any complication. You are intelligent and wise, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Look forward and step ahead with confidence. Success is there, waiting for you to arrive, and you will reach it.