Tag Archives: Surrender

Means to an End

20 Mar

We all have things we dream about, goals we want to accomplish and dreams we want to realize. Some of them come easily and others are difficult and complicated, and take a lot of effort and time to achieve. We may face a time when someone offers us the possibility of a shortcut to a destination we really want. Maybe we want a promotion at work, and our current boss tells us if we work on a special project we’ll likely get it. Generally, in cases like this, there isn’t an iron clad promise that the prize will be ours if we comply, but merely the hint that it’ll happen. If we believe it will help move us forward and take the bet, we may choose to do as we’re asked. It’s good to try new things, and work hard, but sometimes the cost is great. Suppose we must work a lot of overtime, and deal with difficult people, and do all kinds of unpleasant tasks to get the job done, and then suppose it takes far longer than we thought it would at the beginning. If we are convinced it’s a necessary means to the end we desire, we may continue on and stick it out. When we’re done, and the project is finished, we might actually get the promotion, but nothing is sure until it happens. If we do, the trials and struggles may have been worth it, but what if it doesn’t happen? What if something changes and the promise we believed in does not come to fruition? Then what? Once trust has been broken it’s very hard to re-establish, and if we must continue to work with someone who’s broken it, the situation may be very difficult to endure. We are in control of our lives and can make any decisions we like, but our we are important, and every day is a gift. Before we accept any suggestion, we can take the time we need to fully understand what is involved, what we’ll have to give up to accomplish the task, and what we’ll lose if things don’t work out. If it’s a chance we’re willing to take, we can proceed forward, but if the costs are high, and there is no guarantee of success, we may decide to wait. Whatever decision we make will take us somewhere. By taking our time and choosing wisely, we can ensure it will take us closer to where we really want to be. We are highly intelligent and perfectly capable of seeing things clearly and making excellent decisions. We can trust ourselves to make the best choice and find great satisfaction moving forward.

Families are complicated and although we love those involved, our relationships may be difficult and trying at times. There may be a lot of pressure to do things the same way as other family members, and if we want to take a different road, there may be conflict and hard feelings. We are entitled to live our lives any way we like, but going against the family norm can be difficult and stressful. If there is a lot of contention, we may buckle and simply decide to set our own desires aside and go with the flow to end the distress. We may be able to follow along for a while, but our dreams will continue to pester us, and if we really want to be happy, at some point we’re going to have to strike out on our own. Being different does not mean being less. We know who we are and what we want, and with courage and determination, we can have the lives we desire most.

We may be in a personal relationship with someone who has ideas about how we should live our lives which may be very different from what we really want. They may suggest what we should do, where we should go, what we should wear, and who we should be friends with. We’re all entitled to our own opinions, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. Even someone very successful doesn’t know more about what we want than we do. We can be confident with the decisions we make and trust ourselves to find our own way forward. Every destination is possible and with focus and clarity, we will reach success.

Today remember you are in control of your life. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Every single road is open and waiting, and all your dreams are possible. With determination and confidence, nothing can keep you from success. Decide how you want to proceed and take the first step forward. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is too difficult for you. Be sure and move forward. Every success is already there for you and you will reach them all.

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Stronger Than the Storm

14 Feb

Everyone wants an easy life where everything goes as planned and we’re never unhappy.  It would be great if we could order our days ahead of time to ensure we get exactly what we want. Unfortunately, that is not the case, and even when we try hard to plan carefully and watch our step moving forward, sometimes things just go wrong. None of us lives on a deserted island and there will always be people coming in and out of our lives. They may inadvertently make decisions that affect us negatively, or they may purposely stand in our way. We might have no idea why our plans went up in smoke and everything fell apart, and while we’re in the midst of trying to figure out what to do next, we may feel lost and uncertain. We can’t control the weather. What comes comes, and even the most proficient and wise meteorologist has no control of what will happen. Storms will appear – sometimes intensely and unexpectedly. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we’ll have to navigate through. Weather is one thing, but we may experience difficult storms in our personal life. Something may change without notice, we may lose something we treasure, or someone we love may leave us. We may lose our jobs or a million other possibilities that upset our lives and turn everything upside down. At the beginning we may feel frozen in place as we try to understand what’s happened, and we may have no idea how to proceed. But we are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and no matter what comes, we have everything we need to find our way forward. Trouble will come. There is no one perfect way to handle it. The answers we need will be there and when we’re ready, we can step forward, confident, and sure of success.

Sometimes it seems that everything we touch falls apart. It’s as though the planets have aligned against us and nothing will ever work out. When we’re struggling and there’s a lot going wrong, we may believe we will never be successful. We may as well just sit down and give up. Of course, we can do anything we like and if we want to surrender, we certainly can. But giving in and giving up will never take us where we most want to go.  All our dreams are there for us and nothing is strong enough to hold us in place forever. We can take the time we need to decide how we want to proceed, and then begin again.

There is no such thing as bad luck.  Luck is simply when preparedness and opportunity meet. We may get prepared to do something, but the opportunity to start isn’t available at this time. That’s not bad luck and it doesn’t mean we can’t succeed.  It only means the goal is unavailable right now. Nothing is permanent and when our situation changes we can start again. We know who we and what we want, and we already possess everything we need to reach any goal we desire. By trusting ourselves, and standing firm, there isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.

Today if a storm is raging and everything is upside down, take the time you need to look at the situation objectively. You are smarter than you think you are, and you will find your way. The whole world is there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Stand strong and look ahead. Every goal is possible, and you can make them yours.

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The Endless Wait

10 Nov

There are lots of people around us and we may develop many different types of relationships. If we want them to be strong and healthy, we must be willing to invest time and attention in them. Since we’re all different, what that looks like may be very different from one person to the next. Some families are very connected and stay intensely involved with each other. Other families are more independent and don’t include everyone in their business. Although they are very different, it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. There are endless ways to express our attachments. We all have ideas about how things should go and if we get intimately involved with someone whose ideas about how to manage our connection is different than our own, there may be complications. If we want to move the relationship forward, and the other person says they want the same thing, but keep putting us off, it may be confusing. We can listen to their promises, and hope for things to change, but if all we do is wait and nothing happens, we may need to re-evaluate what we’re doing. Words are cheap and without action, they mean nothing. All the promises in the world are worthless if there is no follow through. We can wait as long as we like for things to develop, but our lives belong to us and we are in control of what we do. We don’t have to remain in place any longer than we’re comfortable. If we want something different or something more, and the other party isn’t responding, we can look at all our options and change direction. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been connected to them. If what they’re doing isn’t working, we can move on. We deserve complete happiness and by keeping our eyes open and choosing the road ahead we most desire, we can achieve it.

Procrastination is a deadly behavior trait that can quickly kill a relationship. We always do what we want to do most, and when we push something aside and leave it undone, it’s an indication that it’s not important to us. If we ignore our relationship responsibilities or promises, our connection will surely suffer. It’s demeaning and insulting to constantly be promised something that never materializes. Instead of going along to keep the peace, it’s far better to state our true intentions and be as honest as possible. If we don’t want to or don’t intend to do something, there is no need to pretend otherwise.

It’s hard to wait for something we really want. If the goal is something we can achieve on our own, we can make an effective plan and set forth to achieve it, but if it involves the participation of someone else, all bets are off. Someone may agree to doing something just to prevent contention, when they have no intention of complying. Who we are is defined by what we do. If we continually commit to things and don’t follow through, others will learn we cannot be trusted. There is greatness in us, and by being completely honest and keeping our word, we will build great connections and strong relationships that will move us closer to the success we desire.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to change for a while, remember you are in control of your life. There is no need to wait longer than you are comfortable. Look at everything objectively and openly, and decide how you want to proceed. Your life is precious and valuable and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and choose the road ahead that will take you to the destinations you most desire. Everything is possible if you’re willing to do what is needed to make it yours. Be confident. There is great happiness and success waiting and you will reach it.

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Skate Shoes

30 Mar

There are lots of people on the earth, and all around us. As we interact with them, we get to know them, what they’re like, what they do well, how they respond and a thousand other cues that help us communicate effectively with them. Most people are polite and try to do their best, but there are always some who are ready to cheat or find ways to manipulate us and the situations we’re in. It’s like that one person on the team project who does nothing. They don’t prepare anything and skip the meetings, but when it’s time to present, they show up and take credit for what’s been done. They don’t want to work so they skate through on the efforts of others, and many times, they may get away with it. When we figure out who they are we may do everything we can to avoid them, and it’s frustrating and difficult if we have to deal with them. It’s unethical and dishonest to skip out and then take credit for things we haven’t done, but those who do it don’t really care about ethics or honesty. They just want the glory, and will take it any way they can. We can speak up and point out what’s going on and hope that will make a difference, and it might, or it might not. The best we can do is deal with what we have, be the best we can be, and continue forward toward our goals despite the annoyance. We know what we want, and there isn’t anything or anyone who can keep us from it. By keeping our eyes trained on the road ahead, with determination and confidence we will reach every success.

Life can be complex and we may face some seriously troublesome times. When things are going wrong and it feels like nothing is working out, we may be tempted to throw up our hands in despair, surrender to defeat and walk away letting someone else handle it. We can do anything we like, and if the goal is too hard right now, we can set it aside until things change, but we never have to give up. Nothing is permanent, and no matter what’s going on now, or where we are, everything will eventually change. If we keep our options open and our watch carefully, we’ll be ready when the door opens ahead.

Some people are frankly lazy. They want to move ahead but they don’t want to work. They want to achieve their goals, but they don’t really want to do anything to make that happen. When they have assignments they need to address, they may lean on those around them, and try to push them off so they skate on through to something they want to do. We’re in control of our lives, and unless someone is in authority over us, never have to take on anything we don’t want. We always have the power to say no, and can continue forward focusing on the goals we’ve set for ourselves.

Today if you’re dealing with a troublesome situation, remember all the times you’ve faced challenges in the past and succeeded. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. All the answers are there for you and you have everything you need to move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal. You are capable of amazing success and nothing can hold you in place. The whole world is there for you and you will win.

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You Take It

25 Mar

We share the world with billions of other people, and although we won’t meet even a tiny fraction of them, there are often people around us much of the time. They pass us on the street, work for us and with us, we have friends, family members, acquaintances and others. Unless we live alone and stay inside, we’re likely going to run into someone. Everyone has their ideas about life and what they will do. Nobody gets a free pass, and we’re all going to face trouble and challenges at some point. Some people are very confident and rarely get flustered even when things are going wrong, but others may struggle and find it hard to manage even the smallest problems. If we are close to them and they rely on us, and they are easily overwhelmed, they may try to push their problems off on us. They might simply hand them over, and say “Here, you take care of it,” and walk away. If they are in a position of authority over us, we may have no choice but to do as they ask. But if we’re on a level field, we never have to take on what isn’t ours. They may try to hand whatever they don’t want off onto us, but we never have to accept it. We all have enough personal crap to manage, and complicating our own lives by trying to manage someone else’s will never lead us to success. We can listen when others complain, and offer any advice that might help, and then leave them to it. If they don’t take care of business, it’ll be their mess to clean up. Our lives are important and we deserve complete happiness. By taking care of ourselves, and doing what is needed to reach our own personal goals, we will find great satisfaction and peace. Life is what we make it and by being wise and clear about what is ours and what we will do, we will reach every destination and find great success.

It’s good to be helpful and offer assistance when we can. We can give guidance and help others when needed. It’s noble to sacrifice ourselves for those around us, but it isn’t selfish to be sure we take care of our personal needs first. There is nothing to be gained if we give up all our time to someone else and neglect our own journeys. Our lives are our responsibility and we can be wise and do what we can without breaking the bank. We can find the right balance between giving and taking, and reach every goal.

Nobody wants to suffer or go through hard times. When we’re facing a very difficult situation and we don’t know what to do, we don’t have to surrender and try to hide. Even the most complex problems have solutions, and there isn’t anything we can’t figure out. By taking our time and looking at every possible option, we will find the answers we need. We are stronger and more capable than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down when we want to move. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we can overcome anything and win.

Today be confident and trust yourself. Remember what is yours, and let others manage their own. Be kind and caring, and move forward with confidence and clarity. You are amazing and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. Every single goal is possible and nothing can hold you in place. There is great success just ahead and you will reach it.

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