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Not Happening

11 Jan

There are lots of opportunities available to us in life. We can try new things, accomplish any goal we desire, and move closer to a destination we seek. Most of the time if we are willing to do what is needed we can succeed at any endeavor. We simply decide how we want to proceed and begin. However, the world has its own timetable and we can only control what we do. Sometimes because of the situation we’re in, decisions made by others, or circumstances out of reach, we may not be able accomplish something we desire when we desire it. Sometimes no matter what we try nothing works and we get stuck. The world is complicated and there are many things going on all around us all the time. We may be in a situation where outside circumstances infringe on our life in ways that hold us back. When that happens, we could continue to try to force our way forward. We could keep pushing, hoping that with enough effort we’ll be able to break through. That works sometimes but if we’re in a place where all the doors forward are closed we can rethink our plans. Nothing ever stays the same forever. Change is the one constant we can count on in life. If things aren’t working now, we can set our goal aside, and later when circumstances have modified we can try again. We can do anything we like but sometimes we have to wait for the right moment to find success. It’s hard to wait when we want something badly but we have enough patience to hold back for now and try again later. Everything will change in time and our opportunity to advance will arrive. When it does we can be ready to pursue our goals, and continue our journey forward.

They say location is everything. If there is something we want to accomplish but we’re in the wrong place to get it done we may spin our wheels. The wrong place isn’t always a physical location, but may be where we are emotionally. Life is a continual journey and we’re always on our way to someplace else in one way or another. If we need to learn more about a situation or ourselves before we can move forward, we can take the time we need to accomplish whatever is required. Patiently understanding where we need to be to find success will help us get there.

Learning to wait isn’t easy. When we want to move forward and are held back from the next step we may feel restless and frustrated. Timing is important and it doesn’t help to keep pounding away on doors that will not open. If we are stopped and cannot move forward we can focus on other priorities and wait until the situation changes. Eventually all the doors will become available to us and we will find success. With careful planning and patience will can accomplish anything we desire. The whole world is there for us and we will have it.

Today if you’re stuck and no matter what you do can’t move forward, focus on something else until the situation changes. You don’t have to accomplish everything at once. You can wait and prepare for the opening you need when it arrives. All the doors will open for you and you will reach your destination. Be patient and wise. You can do anything and nothing is out of reach. You can be ready and success will come.

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Collateral Damage

20 Dec

Everyone has their own plans about their lives and what they want to accomplish.  As we interact with one another there may be some tug and pull moving forward.  When we were young we were taught not to push or cut in line in an effort to get to the end more quickly.  Although we may think we learned that lesson well, when there is something we really want and others are in the way, we may justify pushing them aside or jumping ahead of them in order to get there.  If we don’t care what happens we may run over them or bully our way through.  Some people believe the ends justify any means necessary and if that means hurting someone else, so be it.  Every time we hurt someone serving ourselves we may be burning a bridge.  Perhaps we don’t think we’ll ever return so it doesn’t matter how many we burn pushing ahead.  But life has a way of looping back around to where we’ve been and if we must come back it’ll be harder to find success if we’ve eradicated the connections necessary to allow it.  No matter what our goals are or what time frame we’ve set to accomplish them, it is far better to work with those around us than against them.  We can find successful ways to incorporate others if they are in our way and allow them to help us move forward.  Bringing those around us into the plan will allow us to build strong connections that will help us through and be there in the future.  We can do anything on our own but sharing the journey with others will make the trip more interesting and may take us to the destination more quickly.  Collateral damage isn’t a requirement for success.  We can build bridges instead of burning them, and move forward together.

Someone near us may be very ambitious and determined in their desires.  If they want something we have they may simply take it instead of asking for it.  If we must interact with them we may feel great frustration or anger as they act out in discriminatory ways.  We don’t have to allow others to treat us badly.  We can speak up and set boundaries that bring us confidence.  We deserve respect and consideration, and we may demand it.  The world doesn’t belong to anyone.  We all have a part to play, and we can own what is ours and define what we need.

We may be a situation where someone hurts us deeply as they push forward to get what they want.  Maybe they destroy a tender relationship we have with someone else, sabotage us at work, or cast aspersions on our character.  It’s painful to go through such betrayal and it may be hard to get back up after being knocked down.  But we have all the courage and strength we need to face anything that comes, and with grace and patience can continue forward despite any efforts to stop us.  Success is always there.  There is nothing and no one powerful enough to hold us down.

Today if you’ve been brushed aside or demeaned by someone pushing their way ahead, step out of the way and let them pass.  You can move forward on your own road without interference and find success.  Trust in your abilities and strength.  You have everything you need to be happy and reach any destination you desire.  Be confident.  Everything is there for you and nothing will keep you from it.

Unlimited

17 Nov

“Find a way.”  Diana Nyad

There are many inspirational people in the world who have faced incredible odds and overcome them.  At the age of 64, swimmer Diana Nyad swam from Cuba to Florida, a journey of 110 miles.  When asked how she faced the many challenges of this quest including sharks, jelly fish stings, extreme fatigue and damaging sun burn she said every time things looked impossible she would determine to find a way forward.  Her desire to succeed was so great that no matter how hard things looked she knew she could find a way – and she did.  We may never face a physical challenge as great as this but we will endure difficult situations that test our resolve and willingness to go forward.  Sometimes we may be confident of success but other times we may doubt our ability to survive.  There really isn’t anything we can’t overcome and there are no problems without resolutions.  We discover hidden courage and resilience when we walk through turbulent and threatening trials.  Everything we need is already there within us.  We can reach deep and capture all the strength necessary to win.  No matter what comes we can find a way to move forward and get to the other side.  We are stronger than we realize.  Nothing will hold us down and we will succeed.

In baseball, when a hitter swings and misses the ball a strike is called.  After three strikes the hitter is out and can no longer continue to try.  Although we may stumble, there are no strikeouts in our lives.  We have unlimited chances to find the answers we need.  There is no scorecard and we will never be out of the game.  If we don’t succeed with the first choice, we can choose again.  If our second choice fails as well, we can continue.  We learn as we go and each fumble teaches us something new and gives us more information.  Nothing will keep us from finding the solution and with each step forward we will get closer to the goal.

After trying several options that don’t work we may become discouraged and believe we will never succeed.  There are rarely times in our lives when we must find the answers within a given time frame.  We can take all the time we need to find the best way forward.  There is no one right way to do anything.  We have unlimited options from which to choose and we will find the answers we need.  If we trust ourselves and take the time necessary to see all the options available we will find a way.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  We are strong and capable and nothing is too hard for us to overcome.

Today if you’re facing a difficult situation and feel like you can’t figure it out, step back and take a moment to see everything clearly.  You are smarter than you think you are and you know what you need to do.  The answers will come and you will find the way forward.  Everything is already there for you and you will succeed.  Trust yourself.  You are amazing and you will find the way.

Check Marks

27 Jun

When we have a lot to do and many things to accomplish we sometimes make lists. As we get something done we might check it off and move onto the next item. When all our tasks have been done and we have many check marks showing our progress we may feel great accomplishment at what we’ve achieved. Making a check mark when we complete something helps us see our progress and makes it easy to see what we have yet to do. Lists are great for chores and errands but in our personal lives the things we most want to accomplish aren’t always that easy to check off. Personal growth doesn’t happen all at once and even if we’re working hard toward achieving it, it’s unlikely we’ll check it off quickly. Change isn’t usually a one step process. It may require us to modify and re-think many parts of our lives before we can move forward. We are complex beings and nothing is ever as easy as it looks at the beginning. Personal growth is a progression from one place to another. It doesn’t happen instantaneously and may take considerable time. It won’t work to make a list of personal changes we want to achieve and expect to check them off like a list of chores. We can set small goals that will lead us to the change we want and as we master one move onto the next. Each day we can move forward a little more. We can do anything we want to do and change anything in our lives we desire but we must do it our own way on our own timetable. We don’t need a check mark to show how far we’ve come. Growth is a continual process and once we’ve reached a specific goal we may continue on to the next.

Being goal oriented helps us accomplish many things. We can make a plan, decide the steps we want to take and begin forward. When we look inward the changes we desire will require personal thought and introspection. There is no schedule or time frame restriction on personal growth. We move forward as we change and modify our behaviors. It may come quickly or it may take some time. We can take things step by step and embrace change in ways that are best for us individually.

When we really want to make a personal change, we may be impatient and expect it to happen overnight. Our personalities are complex and there are many facets to the behaviors that define us. We can change anything we desire but if we must modify long standing patterns and routines it will require effort. Forging a new road forward may take time and perseverance. With patience and determination there isn’t anything we can’t do. We have everything we need to accomplish anything we desire if we resolve to make it happen and refuse to quit. We can design our lives any way we like and there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if you want to change something in your life but it’s harder than you thought it would be and taking longer than you imagined, keep moving forward. The goal is within reach and you will achieve it. You have everything you need to accomplish anything you desire. Keep moving forward. You will reach the destination.

Finding David

28 Apr

We’ve probably all heard the story of David and Goliath. David was a normal sized man who came up against Goliath, a mean and vicious giant. Goliath tried to kill David and if were only a matter of size and strength would have succeeded. But David was skilled with a slingshot and in the midst of being pursued, sent a rock sailing through the air that hit Goliath in the head and killed him. When we think about this story we may marvel at David’s ability to keep his wits about him while being chased by a murdering giant, and being able to steady himself enough to make the shot that saved his life. While it’s unlikely we will ever be in the same sort of circumstance, we may face times in our lives when we feel we are being pursued or overtaken by something far bigger than we are that is threatening and making us afraid and unsure. It might a person who has power over us or a situation we can’t control. Whatever the threat, we may feel it’s too big for us to overcome. No matter what the issue or how powerful the other players are, we always have choices about what we will do. We can run and hide if we decide the fight is too strong but hiding from our problems will never solve them. We can pretend the issue isn’t a big deal and look the other way, but ignoring issues doesn’t solve them either. In the end, the only way to address whatever is disturbing our peace is to face it head on. Like David, we have to stop and turn around, and look right at the head of the problem. There isn’t any issue too hard for us to face and solve. We have enough courage and wisdom to manage anything that comes. We can find the David within us, face our problems, consider our options and find the way forward that brings us success.

There are some people who want to control others and situations. They need to have the final say, they demand their way be honored and they want to be in charge of where things are going. When we must work with them we may find it hard to be heard and if we push against them, they may aggressively constrict our efforts and exert pressure upon us. If we strongly believe in our views we may struggle with them before decisions are reached. Although it may be uncomfortable to disagree, our opinions are valuable and we deserve to be heard. We can state our case and press for what is important. We have all the strength and courage we need to proceed and win.

We may face a painful situation where we have little or no control over the outcome. If there is nothing we can do to mitigate the problem we may need to simply endure. It’s hard to wait through hard times when we have no control. But even as we wait we can exercise the courage to be still, and the wisdom to listen. If our only option is to endure well, we can still choose the best course forward and succeed.

Today if you’re facing a threatening situation and you feel apprehensive, find the David within you. You have all the courage you need to face anything you must. Reach for it and be strong. You are secure and capable. Look ahead, aim high, and push forward. There is nothing too big for you to overcome.

Another Day

7 Mar

When we’re hoping for something or anticipating a change, and if we’ve been working hard to make it happen but are still waiting, it may be hard to be patient. Some things take a long time to arrive and if we’ve been waiting a long time it may seem as though they will never happen. Time takes a toll on us and we may become frustrated with the continual delay. If the change we’re seeking involves the decisions of others, they have control over the situation. If we must wait on them and they haven’t yet budged, waiting may become very difficult. If it becomes more than we want to deal with or we’ve decided we’ve had enough we may choose to let it go. If the change we are seeking is very important to us and we feel strongly about it becoming reality we might choose to wait a little longer. We can decide to wait just one more day. Just one day. We can choose to be patient for a little longer and go a little further. If we choose to give it one more day and still nothing changes, we may then decide how we want to proceed. We may wait one more day, every day, for a long time or we may let go of the plan. Our circumstances change continually and sometimes if we redirect our course we may be able to accomplish what we’ve been waiting for. Other times no matter what we do nothing changes. We can decide what we want to do and what is best for us. We can wait or we can go. Whatever we decide we will find our way forward.

The only person we have control over is ourselves. Sometimes we may influence those around us and if we’re very persuasive may convince them to do things our way. But everyone has the right to make their own decisions and if their decisions don’t agree with ours we may have to find other options. There are countless roads to every destination. We can accomplish anything we choose but we may need to revise our plans going forward to get to the goal. If we can’t get there now, we can set the goal aside for a time until our circumstances change and then try again. We don’t have to push constantly to win. We can revise our plans when needed and decide what will work best going forward.

Waiting for something we really want can be difficult. It’s hard to want something badly when there are obstacles in our way. If we have no control over what is needed to make things change and have done all we can to move forward, waiting may become a heavy burden. We can carry that burden for as long as we choose. We can wait indefinitely or we can decide to wait just one more day and then reconsider. We are in control of our lives and we deserve every happiness. If what we’ve been seeking hasn’t yet happened, we may continue to wait or we may consider other options. Either way, the choice is always ours.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something you really want and it hasn’t happened yet, decide how you want to go forward. You can wait another day or you can redirect your course. You deserve to be completely happy and have control over your life. Choose what will bring you the most joy going forward.

The Water is Wide

26 Sep

There are times in our lives when we simply cannot get to our goals alone. Although we accomplish much, there will be moments when the water is too wide to cross by ourselves and we need the help of others to get across. If we are very independent, it may be hard to accept assistance. If we are shy, we may be afraid to ask. If we are arrogant, we may try to do it ourselves even when we know it’s impossible. Getting help when we need it is beneficial. It’s wise to understand our limitations and asking for help doesn’t mean we’re weak or incapable. Nobody can do everything. When we need others to get across and ask for help it shows we are strong enough to accept the situation and work around it. If we want to do it alone we may feel disappointed that we need support and it might be hard to admit we can’t get there on our own. But the goal we’re seeking is the focus. If we can’t get to it alone, working with others will often help us achieve it. We are capable of understanding the big picture and finding a way to succeed even if we can’t do it by ourselves.

Personal success is defined in many ways. Some people prefer to accomplish many things alone and like to fly solo in their endeavors. If they hit a snag they can’t navigate by themselves, instead of including others they may change their plans to get around it. They eventually find their way but it may take longer than if they had asked for the assistance of others. We all have different talents and perspectives. If we allow others to share theirs with us, we often find the answers more quickly. We can embrace the experiences of others and invite them into our journey to navigate the path forward more easily. Listening to many other interpretations of the situation may bring us the answers we’re seeking. We can open up and bring others in and get the help we need.

Competition is a normal part of the human experience. Some of us are more competitive than others and if we need to feel like the winner in every endeavor, we may try to get to our goals before anyone else. There is reward in being first but there is much to be learned by collaborating. If we’re in a situation that stops us and are struggling to find our way through, allowing others to collaborate and share in the victory may help us find our way to success more easily. But if our desire to do it alone supersedes our willingness to allow others in, success may elude us. There is much to be gained by allowing others into our journey. We are capable of doing many things well, and often we won’t need assistance. But when we do, the door is always there for us. Opening it and allowing others in will help us get to the goal we’re seeking. And getting to the goal is the primary objective.

Today if you’ve been struggling with something that has you stumped and aren’t sure how to proceed, ask those around you for their advice and counsel. You may be surprised by what you learn and you’ll find your way to the other side. The water may be wide but by working together you will find your way across. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Get the help you need and you’ll succeed every time.