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Blowing Leaves

26 May

Lots of people will come in and out of our lives and as the years pass, we’ll have countless experiences. What we do in each situation and the decisions we make define who we are. We communicate our thoughts and ideas through our actions and the way we communicate. We may be reserved and keep quiet much of the time, or we may be talkative and expressive with those around us. Speech is our most common form of communication and once we say something, it can never be taken back. Like leaves blowing in the wind, there is no way to go back and collect all the words we’ve said. They may be passed from one person to another, and spread far and wide. We all face times when we’ve expressed something we’ve regretted. If we’ve spoken harshly and hurt someone else, there is no way to reverse engines and make it go away. It will remain indefinitely. Of course, we can apologize if we feel remorse, but the past is unchangeable and permanent. Instead of trying to constantly repair what’s been done, we can stop and think before we speak. In the heat of the moment, our vision may be clouded by anger or despair, and we may lash out without considering the consequences of our words. When we feel the intensity rise, before we do anything, we can step back for a moment and look at everything objectively. There will always be a way out of every situation that won’t compromise us. We are smart and strong, and with focus and clarity, can find our way through any situation or issue. By trusting ourselves and taking the time we need to consider every option before proceeding, we can pave the way forward and prevent problems. We have everything we need to succeed at anything we like, and can make the best decisions moving forward.

Some people have volatile temperaments. They may fly off the handle and lash out without first thinking or even getting the whole story. Others will learn quickly not to trust them and they are very difficult to deal with. If they get in our way they may destroy our plans without giving it a moment’s thought. After the damage is done, we may be left to clean up their mess and regroup. We are only responsible of our own actions and decisions, but that doesn’t mean someone else’s won’t impact us. No matter what happens or who enters the picture, we can be clear about what we want and how we’re going to proceed. The road ahead will always be there for us and with patience and determination, we will prevail.

If something is bothering us, we don’t have to go overboard to make our point. You don’t need a grenade to kill a fly, but if we’re furious, we may grab one anyway. If we find something simply intolerable, we may let go of every restraint and blast our way through. We can do anything we like, but destroying others to make a point will never move us ahead. By remaining calm, and clearly stating our position, we can maintain control over the situation and get the results we desire. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and every success is possible.

Today if you’ve said too much or gone a little too far, step back and see the situation clearly and objectively. You are intelligent and wise, and will find all the answers you need. There isn’t anything you can’t manage, and with patience and focus, you will find your way through. Every road you desire is waiting, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and step forward toward the goal. There is great success just ahead, and you will claim it.

Finding Fault

12 Dec

We all make judgments in our lives. We decide what we think is right and wrong, and what is true or false. We base our judgments on our personal paradigms and values, and what we perceive as facts. We make judgments about situations and decisions, but we also include people in those judgments even when we don’t have all the facts. And we never have all the facts when others are involved. Unless we are the ones in the situation we’re judging, chances are good our speculation will be erroneous in some way. Judging and comparing are natural human responses to life. We evaluate each situation before we go forward. But loving one another and having compassion for each other doesn’t involve judging. When we love and care we can do it unconditionally. We can love each another even if we’re very different, even if we don’t understand decisions that have been made, and even if we are annoyed. Love and compassion are the highest emotions we can express, and take precedence over everything else. We can forget that when someone does something hurtful, or stupid, or whatever else we think applies. Love and compassion are higher, and they need to be honored as such.

People make mistakes. Some of us make more than others, and sometimes we falter in a huge way. We impact others with our decisions, and sometimes we hurt them badly. Nobody is perfect, and even if we’re trying hard to do what’s right, we may stumble. Having the unconditional support and love of others around us when we fall is priceless. We already know we’ve screwed up, we already know we were wrong, and we really don’t need someone else pointing it out and reminding us. But everyone does that, we all criticize sometimes when things go wrong, and all it really accomplishes is to make those involved feel worse. If we were more compassionate, if we treated others the way we would like them to treat us in the same situation, it would go a long way toward finding resolution. We could talk about it, listen openly, express our feelings, and then let it go.

What if someone makes a very bad decision that really damages us? What if we’re so angry we feel like we want to crush them? Those situations happen and when they do it’s very difficult to think before we act. But we need to stop and consider what we’ll gain afterward. If we make them feel as bad as they made us feel, where will that take us? Will it make things better or worse? If we take a moment to think about the big picture and where we want to be, if we ponder where we want the relationship to go before we act, we have a better chance of making things better. Some decisions are so egregious they destroy relationships completely. When that happens, anger and outrage will do nothing to help. But if there is a bad decision that isn’t so far reaching and we want to preserve our relationship, we can remember our love and compassion for the other person is higher than our anger and disappointment. We don’t have to condone bad behavior, but adding ours to it won’t solve anything. We can reach higher, and go forward with confidence.

Today if you’ve been judging those around you and making decisions about their behavior, try to see things from a wider perspective. If you love and accept them as they are, your relationships will be stronger and more fulfilling. Show them your heart, share your concern for them and they will draw closer to you. Having close, strong relationships makes our lives better. Enhance yours by building them today.