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Cake

23 Sep

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Most of the time we try to make choices that will move us forward and help us achieve what we’re seeking. But life is complex and there are many people coming and going, and lots of distractions and complications. There may be times when under duress we pick a road out of desperation that doesn’t work out or brings us hardship in the end. If things go wrong, we can explain our decision any way we like. We can blame stress, or the pressures around us, or someone else’s bad advice, or anything else we think might work for us. There is always a way to rationalize any decision we make but nothing can change what we’ve done. If we’ve created a mess or hurt others, it will be up to us to fix it. Making choices is like baking a cake. If we just throw a bunch of ingredients into a pan and shove it in the oven, we will have accomplished something and there will definitely be a result, but it may not be what we were hoping for. If we really want a cake we’ll have to plan effectively, measure the correct ingredients and then bake it as directed. It may take longer and will definitely involve more thought, but in the end, we’ll have something we desire instead of a mess. Living effectively requires thought and consideration. Just blindly blundering through will move us somewhere but where we end up probably won’t be where we want to go. We have everything we need to make excellent choices and achieve any goal we desire. We can take the time we need to look at every possible option and then choose the best road ahead. If we’re determined and diligent, we will succeed. Every dream is possible and we can reach any destination we choose.

Justifying a bad decision doesn’t change anything. It doesn’t make us look better and has no effect on the results. Instead of trying to find a plausible excuse for a mistake, it’s better to simply own what’s happened and begin to do what’s necessary to amend the issue. Nobody is perfect and sometimes everyone stumbles. We can learn all we can from the mistake, and take that knowledge forward to help us in the future. Life is all about learning and every experience teaches us something of value. We are smart and capable, and can choose wisely and move forward with confidence.

Sometimes our vision is clouded by the situation we’re in. If there is a lot of turmoil, if others are upset, or we’re confused about what’s going on or what’s expected of us, it may be harder to find the answers we need. But we’re never frozen in place and we can step away to see things clearly and take a moment to discern all the facts before us. We are intelligent and have everything we need to accomplish anything we desire. We know how to process information effectively, and will find our way forward.

Today if you’ve made a choice that’s brought distress and complications, look at everything carefully and see all the options before you. Nothing is written in stone and you can change any situation you desire. You are amazing and strong, and nothing is out of reach. Decide how you want to go forward, and take the first step. Every success is possible and you will prevail.

Finding Fault

12 Dec

We all make judgments in our lives. We decide what we think is right and wrong, and what is true or false. We base our judgments on our personal paradigms and values, and what we perceive as facts. We make judgments about situations and decisions, but we also include people in those judgments even when we don’t have all the facts. And we never have all the facts when others are involved. Unless we are the ones in the situation we’re judging, chances are good our speculation will be erroneous in some way. Judging and comparing are natural human responses to life. We evaluate each situation before we go forward. But loving one another and having compassion for each other doesn’t involve judging. When we love and care we can do it unconditionally. We can love each another even if we’re very different, even if we don’t understand decisions that have been made, and even if we are annoyed. Love and compassion are the highest emotions we can express, and take precedence over everything else. We can forget that when someone does something hurtful, or stupid, or whatever else we think applies. Love and compassion are higher, and they need to be honored as such.

People make mistakes. Some of us make more than others, and sometimes we falter in a huge way. We impact others with our decisions, and sometimes we hurt them badly. Nobody is perfect, and even if we’re trying hard to do what’s right, we may stumble. Having the unconditional support and love of others around us when we fall is priceless. We already know we’ve screwed up, we already know we were wrong, and we really don’t need someone else pointing it out and reminding us. But everyone does that, we all criticize sometimes when things go wrong, and all it really accomplishes is to make those involved feel worse. If we were more compassionate, if we treated others the way we would like them to treat us in the same situation, it would go a long way toward finding resolution. We could talk about it, listen openly, express our feelings, and then let it go.

What if someone makes a very bad decision that really damages us? What if we’re so angry we feel like we want to crush them? Those situations happen and when they do it’s very difficult to think before we act. But we need to stop and consider what we’ll gain afterward. If we make them feel as bad as they made us feel, where will that take us? Will it make things better or worse? If we take a moment to think about the big picture and where we want to be, if we ponder where we want the relationship to go before we act, we have a better chance of making things better. Some decisions are so egregious they destroy relationships completely. When that happens, anger and outrage will do nothing to help. But if there is a bad decision that isn’t so far reaching and we want to preserve our relationship, we can remember our love and compassion for the other person is higher than our anger and disappointment. We don’t have to condone bad behavior, but adding ours to it won’t solve anything. We can reach higher, and go forward with confidence.

Today if you’ve been judging those around you and making decisions about their behavior, try to see things from a wider perspective. If you love and accept them as they are, your relationships will be stronger and more fulfilling. Show them your heart, share your concern for them and they will draw closer to you. Having close, strong relationships makes our lives better. Enhance yours by building them today.