Tag Archives: Mistake

Fated

3 May

Every day we make lots of decisions. We can never read the future, and although we try to choose well, there will be times in everyone’s life when things don’t work out. We may take a wrong turn and end up far from where we want to be, we might choose something that hurts us or those around us, or we may make a decision that makes our lives miserable. We all know when we’re on the wrong road, but because of circumstances, we might not immediately turn around and redirect our course. Life is complicated and if we’re tangled up in a situation with others it may be difficult to free ourselves and walk away. If we continue forward and it turns out we made a disastrous decision, we will pay the price, whatever that may be. We may lose friends, disappoint family, hurt those we care about, or damage our credibility. We can never change the past, but where we’ve been cannot define what we can become. We aren’t fated to failure because we’ve made a mistake. Our lives are in our control and when we’re ready to change direction and start again, we can. Nothing can keep us on a journey we don’t want to make. When we’re ready to change, we can stop where we are, look at all the options possible and choose the best road moving forward. Our past mistakes are not indelible ink, permanently tattooed on us. We can repair damage from a bad decision, rebuild relationships and forge ahead. It doesn’t matter what’s behind us. What counts is what lies ahead and how we move forward. There is great success waiting, and we can do what is needed to reach it. No goal or destination is too far or too difficult to achieve. We can change anything at any time and move toward the lives we want the most. What’s gone is gone, and the future is ours to design. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire, and we will succeed.

There are people all around us most of the time, and when we falter, chances are others will notice. Some may simply see what’s happened and move on. Others may hold onto it and try to use it to hold us in place. They may remind us of where we went wrong in the past, and continually bring up our shortcomings. Nobody is perfect and we all have things we need to work on. There is nothing to be gained by constantly rehashing past mistakes. By learning as much as possible from where we’ve been, we can take that knowledge with us to help us as we move forward.

Personal pain can be very difficult to overcome. If we’ve gotten hurt badly by a choice that tilted us in the wrong direction, it can be hard to let go of the disappointment. We may think we should have known better, but nobody can see the end of the road from the beginning. We are intelligent and can trust ourselves to make the best choices moving forward. We can have faith that no matter what comes, we will prevail.

Today if you’re struggling over a mistake you made in the past, and it’s holding you down, think about all the things you’ve done well. You are good at many things and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are ready and waiting. There is great success ahead, and you will reach it.

Sudden Remorse

21 Jan

We make dozens of decisions each day and millions of decisions as we go through our lives. We are human and it’s impossible to make every single choice well. Everyone makes a bad decision at some point, and when we realize we’ve completely missed the mark, we may feel great disappointment. If we’ve deeply injured someone else, we may feel sudden remorse. When everything is visible after the fact, we may wonder how we could have said what hurt them so badly, or how we could have thought we were on the right road. Looking back, it’s easy to see all the facts and where we went wrong, but what’s done is done and cannot be erased. When we make a big mistake and the effects of our decision are far reaching and painful, we may feel horrible and wonder how to proceed. It may seem impossible to continue on, but a bad decision isn’t the end of our journey. Even if what we’ve done is destructive and terrible, there will be things we can do to amend what has happened. If we are truly sorry for what we’ve done, we can start by apologizing to those affected and ask for forgiveness. Depending on what’s happened, forgiveness may come right away, or it may take time. Hurting someone deeply erodes their trust in us, and it may take considerable time to re-establish it again. Nobody is perfect. We all fall down from time to time. By understanding what we’ve done and choosing ways to heal what’s been broken, we can regain the trust of those we’ve injured, and continue forward together. There is greatness is all of us. If we forget our nobility for a moment, we can regain it and start again. We can do what is needed to move forward with clarity and integrity. Nothing can keep us from achieving anything we desire, and we will succeed.

When someone does something that pierces us deeply and hurts intensely, our relationship with them will suffer. Nobody wants to be around those who purposely make them feel bad or wound them emotionally. We never have to stay anywhere we don’t want to be. It doesn’t matter who the offending person is, what their status in our life has been, or how much influence they have over us. We are worth more than we imagine, and the whole world is embellished and blessed because we are here. If we don’t want to continue any relationship in our lives, we can step away.

Big mistakes in judgement may bring not only emotional pain but also physical danger. If we follow someone else’s example and it turns out badly, we cannot blame them for what happens. Not realizing what would result is no excuse for our actions. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves, and solely accountable for everything we do. We have what we need to make excellent, strong decisions, and with patience and focus, we can do what is right, and reach success.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and feel intense remorse, do what is needed to repair the situation and re-gain the trust of those around you. There is greatness in you. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and step forward with confidence. We’re all blessed because you are here. Show us your light, and every success will follow.

Anchored

18 Dec

Nothing in life is permanent and change is constant. Every day something new comes along, all the plans we’ve made may shift, and we may suddenly be facing an entirely new landscape. The winds of change are unpredictable and may arise unexpectedly. We never know what will happen next, and although we may try to be prepared for unforeseen surprises, we might be taken aback when they arrive. It’s easy to move forward when the road ahead is paved and clear, is well known and well-traveled. We may set out sure of success, and everything may go exactly as planned. Or everything may turn upside down. There is no way to predict the future. All we can do is cope with whatever happens the best we can, and alter our plans and direction in ways that enable us to continue. When we’re going through tumultuous times and everything is unsure, we are never completely adrift in the wind. We have internal anchors that help us stay focused and remind us of our capacity for success. These anchors are created and enriched with each accomplishment we achieve. We are never so far out of our comfort zone that we can’t find our way. There will never be a time when we are so untethered and adrift that we will permanently fail. All the answers we need, even in uncertain times, are already there for us, and the wisdom and knowledge we’ve attained so far will guide us to them. By trusting ourselves and remembering everything we’ve overcome so far, we can summon the courage we need to face anything. Our anchors will always be there to hold us firmly and securely. Hard times will come, things will go wrong, the road may disappear, but we will prevail. Every success is there for us, and with determination and calm, we will reach them all.

When our lives are going well and things are working out the way we want them to, we may feel at ease and relaxed. Enjoying conflict free moments gives us time to rest and consider our options for the future, so that when things change, and clouds appear, we will be confident in moving forward. We are stronger and more powerful than we realize, and nothing can keep us from our goals. Every dream we desire is possible and we have everything we need to make them ours.

Some people think life is like a scorecard. They believe that trouble happens because of something we did wrong. It’s likely we’ll all make mistakes along the way, but problems may arise we have no control over regardless of what we do. We can do everything right and still the road may turn because of circumstances beyond our reach. Problems will come but they cannot hold us in place. We will find the way ahead, and reach the destinations we desire.

Today if you feel like you’re in a whirlwind of trouble and can’t find your footing, stop and remember all the times you’ve succeeded already. You are intelligent and capable, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. You will find every answer. All your dreams are still there for you. Step forward and claim them.

Shoulda Woulda

20 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about life and how things should go. Some people are very confident and sure they have a lot, if not all, the answers. If they think they know us better than we know ourselves (impossible) they may try to tell us what they believe we should be doing. While they may have good suggestions, and we may choose to take their advice, nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. Telling us we “should” do something because they think it’s a good idea doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for us. While it’s possible and likely we’ll make some mistakes in judgement, we are the experts in our own lives. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any suggestions that are offered and weigh each individually, and then do exactly what we want. There is no one perfect way to live life. The expressions and choices are limitless. We can take any road we like and accomplish any goal we desire. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or idea of what is right. Our choices are ours to make and we can design our lives any way we choose. We may occasionally have some regrets over choices we’ve made and think we could have chosen better, but each experience teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. All the knowledge we gain enriches our understanding and helps us move forward in the future. We don’t need anyone else telling us we “shoulda” done something differently. If they do, we can listen politely, and then continue on toward whatever we are seeking. Every single possibility is there for us and we can do anything. With confidence and focus, we can achieve the goals we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Our relationships are important and if we’re in a situation where someone we value strongly disagrees with a choice we’re making, they may talk us right out of it. If we decide they have a better choice, we can certainly make it. However, we don’t need anyone’s permission to do anything. We’re in control of our lives and can make our own choices. Going against the flow doesn’t mean we’re going the wrong way. Every destination is there for us, and we can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody is perfect and we all stumble from time to time. If someone warns us not to make a decision and we make it anyway only to face failure, they may say “I told you so,” and they might be right. But just because someone saw something we didn’t notice in one instance, doesn’t mean they will always know what’s best for us. We are intelligent and will learn much from mistakes along the way. We can trust ourselves to choose wisely, and reach every success.

Today if you’re being pressured to go in a direction you haven’t chosen, think about all the options before you. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent choices. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you can make all your dreams reality.

History

17 Aug

Our lives are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had. Each step we take and every decision we make brings us to where we are, both physically and mentally. Nobody is perfect and even when we try to make good decisions, there will be times when they won’t work out. Our plans may not go the way we thought they would, or the road we were on that looked so good, turned suddenly and took us somewhere we didn’t want. When we look back at our personal history, we’ll likely see some things we wish we hadn’t done, and some things that went better than expected. If we’ve made serious mistakes in judgement, we got the chance to learn more to help us moving forward. But if an error is egregious and causes a lot of turmoil, we might try to escape blame. If we push a bad decision off on someone else, or the situation, and refuse to acknowledge our part in it, we will learn nothing. When we don’t learn from our mistakes, there’s a good chance we’ll make them again. It’s not easy to admit we were wrong, especially if there are others involved we want to impress, but truth is truth, and will always surface. We can try to keep a low profile, and pretend we weren’t involved, but that will not work indefinitely. The facts will eventually show themselves and the truth will rise. Dodging accountability only delays the inevitable. They say if we don’t learn from history, we are doomed to repeat it. Bad decisions and poor choices will never take us where we want to go, and nobody wants a life filled with them. Standing up to what we’ve done, even if it’s been disastrous, will enable us to learn as much as possible from what’s happened, and take all that knowledge forward with us. We are capable of making excellent choices and choosing the best way forward in every situation. We can be honest and clear in our decisions, and find our way to any destination we desire.

There are all kinds of people in the world with all kinds of ideas. If we’re associating with someone who is constantly dishonest, and continually makes bad decisions, we may get caught up in their behaviors and find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation. Repeating someone else’s mistakes will never correct them. We are wise enough to find the answers we need no matter what situation we’re in, and with patience and clarity can choose the best road forward.

Everything we do teaches us something new to carry forward. Paying attention to what we’re learning along the way will help us make modifications and alter our direction if we reach an impasse. We are intelligent and there is nothing that can hold us in place indefinitely. We can draw on all the knowledge we’ve gained, and find our way to any destination we desire. We create our own history with every decision we make, and have everything we need to find great satisfaction and success.

Today if you have repeated a bad decision and are suffering the consequences, think clearly about the road ahead. Learn all you can, and use that knowledge to turn your course toward success. You are highly capable and can do anything, and do it well. Be confident and step forward. Every success is possible and you will reach it.