Tag Archives: Advice

Forever Wrong

24 Jun

Life is full of challenges and complications. Although we may feel confident about the roads we’re choosing, we share the world with lots of other people and they may have an impact on our decisions and outcomes. Everyone tries hard to live well and make good choices, but sometimes we don’t get all the facts we need, or may be influenced by someone else to choose something that goes wrong. When we make a bad decision, even if others were involved, we might find ourselves standing alone taking the blame. It’s uncomfortable to discover we got bad advice and took a wrong turn, but that doesn’t mean we are destined to be forever wrong. Everyone makes mistakes. Doing what doesn’t work teaches us what does. There isn’t a handbook for life that tells us to watch out for certain people or be extra cautious about upcoming decisions. We take things as they come and do the best we can. We’ll never get everything right every time, but if we get as many facts as possible beforehand, and take the time to see everything clearly, we have a better shot at success. Mistakes happen and although they may be unpleasant, they cannot doom us to a life of endless misery and woe. We are intelligent and capable, and no matter what’s happened we can find our way forward to success. A wrong turn doesn’t end the journey. The road will still be there and we can always find a way around any complication that arises. Every answer we need will be available and we will find them all. We learn what works by trial and error. Sometimes we’ll get everything right from the beginning. Other times we may falter and stumble, but nothing can hold us down forever, and we can get back up and try again. Success will be there for us even if we take the long way around. There is greatness in us, and sufficient wisdom and intelligence to do anything and go anywhere. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with confidence, we will find our way forward, and reach success.

Some people are great about giving advice. They may instruct us and tell us how we should proceed, even if they’ve never traveled the road before. It’s easy to advise someone else when your neck isn’t on the line. If things go wrong, they won’t be anywhere near the disaster and can deny their involvement. It’s good to seek advice if we need help, but after everyone has given their opinion, we can trust ourselves to choose what will work best, and move ahead according to our own personal inspiration.

We already know what we want to do. The roads we travel are ours to choose, and others may disagree and try to influence us to follow them instead of taking our own path. Our lives belong to us and nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know where we want to go, and have everything we need to reach any destination we desire. Following someone else will never take us where we want to go. We can be confident we know what we want, and move toward our goals with clarity, sure of success.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and feel like you’ll never be right again, remember all the times you’ve succeeded already. You are amazing and capable, and have everything you need to do anything you want. Trust yourself and be confident. The world is full of opportunities for success, and you will make them yours.

Holding Fast

6 May

As we go through our lives there is no way to know what will come. We don’t have control over anything but the decisions we’re making. There are billions of people in the world and they’re all making decisions as well. Sometimes someone else’s choice may cause a domino effect that rolls our way and pushes us in a new direction. Change is constant and even if we plan well and are intently focused on moving forward, something may happen that stops us cold. We might know why everything has changed, or we may have no idea. Either way, if the way ahead is now blocked and impassable, we will have to decide how to proceed. There are few clear, paved roads to the destinations we desire, but there will always be a way around whatever is blocking our path. It may not be convenient, it might take us the long way around, and it might require more time to get to the destination, but there will be a way forward. If we hold fast to what we want, we will find our way and reach the goal. It sounds easy enough – just change direction and get there. But life is rarely that easy. If others are involved, we may need to get agreement before we can proceed. The road may be covered with huge rocks and hurdles we must overcome to advance even a little bit, and we might have to venture into foreign territory where we don’t know the terrain or the players. A storm may develop, and we may be buffeted by high winds and torrential rain. At some point, we’ll have to decide if the goal is worth what we’re going through. If it is, we have all the courage and wisdom we need to continue forward. We can dig deep, hold fast, and push ahead with focus and determination. Every single dream is possible. Every single one. We just have to decide what we want the most.

Lots of people continually come in and out of our lives, and we may seek their guidance and value their opinion. If we’re seriously focused on achieving a goal, and they disagree with our decision, they may try to dissuade us from continuing. They may encourage us to try for something easier, saying the goal isn’t worth all the effort we’re expending. We can always alter our course, but nobody knows what we want more than we do. It doesn’t matter if others don’t understand or agree, we can design our lives any way we like, and reach every destination we desire.

There are endless things to capture our attention and unlimited ideas to try. We can do anything we like, but first, we must decide what we want. If we don’t decide where we want to go, we may spend all our time distracted by every possible option and achieve nothing. We can have the lives we dream of once we take the time to determine exactly what that means, and then do what is necessary to make it ours. Every destination is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if the road you were on has become difficult and you can’t see the way ahead, decide what you want the most. If the goal is important, trust yourself and continue forward. Each step will lead you to the next, and if you persist, you will reach the destination no matter how hard it is to achieve. Nothing is too far or too complicated for you to manage. Be confident. Success is always there for you, and you prevail.

Tights and a Cape

8 May

Life is filled with challenges and opportunities that teach us new things and give us more information about the road ahead. Sometimes things roll along with little trouble, and other times it seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong. Nobody gets a free pass on problems. They come to all of us, and when they do, we must find our way through them. We may wish for a life of ease where every day is like a holiday, but if we actually had lives like that, we would learn nothing about ourselves or the world around us. Thankfully, wishes aren’t reality, and we’re going to struggle from time to time. When we’re in the midst of trouble and feel overwhelmed, the answers we need will be there but they may not be obvious. Some answers require us to dig deep and search for them. During times like those it would be terrific if Superman was real, and could show up and just solve everything for us. Unfortunately, if we want tights and a cape to save us, we’ll have to provide them ourselves. We might have to search diligently, and ask for help to find our way through, but we are smart and perfectly capable of managing any issue that’s complicating our lives. Things will go wrong, we will stumble, our plans may disintegrate, and we might find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. But we are creative and wise, and there isn’t anything that can hold us down indefinitely. The answers will be there for us and with patience and determination, we will find them. We are capable of incredible success, and nothing is strong enough to keep us from it. Every problem can be solved, and we have everything we need to prevail.

When we’re struggling with something difficult, we may reach out to those around us for help and support. Everyone has different experiences and if we’re facing something new, chances are there will be someone who has already traveled that road, or who can point us in the right direction. If we’re very independent, we may choose to find the answers on our own. We can always do that, but it may take more time and effort than if we reach out for help. Asking for help doesn’t mean we’re weak or can’t do things on our own. We all have a different collection of skills. We can get advice from someone who knows the way forward until we gain our own expertise.

When we’re facing a hard challenge, there may be some who’ll tell us we’ll never prevail and we should just give up and forget it. We can take any advice we like, but we are stronger and more powerful than we think we are. There really isn’t anything we can’t manage. By confidently stepping forward even when we’re unsure, we can open the doors ahead and find our way to success. Life is full of opportunities and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and are unsure about how to proceed, trust yourself. You’ve already overcome many difficult problems and you have everything you need to solve any complication. You are intelligent and wise, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Look forward and step ahead with confidence. Success is there, waiting for you to arrive, and you will reach it.

Seeing the End

31 Oct

Every goal we want to achieve is possible. We can go anywhere, do anything, and accomplish whatever we desire. Every dream is available if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. If we can imagine it, we can achieve it. But in order to get to the end of any road and reach our goals, we must be able to visualize it. It’s impossible to reach anything undefined. If we want to actually achieve a goal, we must understand exactly what it is we’re trying to reach and see the end from the beginning. We might really desire success, but being successful is an undefined destination. Before we can reach it, we must decide exactly what we want to be successful doing, and then step forward and begin to move toward the goal. It’s impossible to reach any destination when we don’t know where we’re going. Once we define our destination, we can make a plan for the road ahead, and step forward with confidence that we will succeed. Dreams are nice and we can dream about how we want our lives to be as long as we like. However, if we want those dreams to become reality, we must clearly determine what it will take to make them happen, and then do what is needed. We are highly capable and everything we desire is possible. We can have the lives we want the most, and go anywhere we want to go. Every destination is there, waiting for us. We can trust ourselves to do what it takes to reach them, and find great satisfaction and joy in our success.

Everyone wants to be happy but our happiness is our responsibility. Other people can’t give it to us and although some situations will bring it, they are fleeting and soon gone. If we want real, sustained happiness we must design our lives in ways that make it possible. Doing things the way others expect and putting off our dreams will not create it. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we like. Choosing paths that take us where we most want to go, and doing what we most want to do will bring us lasting and fulfilling happiness.

We can’t control what happens to us, what others will do, or how most things will roll out. We only have control over our own decisions and the choices we make define who we are and where we go. We can listen to the counsel of others and take whatever advice we like, but our choices belong solely to us. The road ahead is determined by the decisions we make. We can create our own future by making choices that take us where we most want to go. Nothing is too far to reach. Every success is possible and with determination and focus, we can go anywhere and do anything.

Today if you’ve been going along with what others think is best for you, step back and look at every possibility. You can have the life you dream about. Envision the destinations you want to reach, and then take the first step toward them. You are amazing and strong, and can do anything you desire. Be confident and move ahead with clarity and determination. Your life is yours to design, and complete happiness is there for you. Step forward, and claim it.

The Third Law

28 May

Newton’s third law of physics tells us that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Nothing in life happens in a vacuum and every decision we make brings a result. As we make choices, we may have a good idea what the result will be based on what we know about the situation and what we’ve chosen, or we may not know where our decision will take us. But they all take us somewhere. There is no way to remain where we are as we step forward on the road ahead. Everyone wants to make good choices, and for the most part we will. But sometimes if the circumstances are confusing, or we get inaccurate information, or our emotions influence us in ways that don’t work, we may choose badly. When we take the first step on any road, we will inevitably end up where that road leads. Every journey has a destination and if it’s somewhere we don’t want to go, it’s up to us to step off the road we’re on, and go in another direction. It’s unlikely others will intercede and move us onto a better path. We’re in charge of our lives, and are responsible for every choice we make. Even if we feel swept along and pressured to continue on the wrong road, we can always step away and choose another path. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves, and we have all the courage and determination we need to direct our lives toward the destinations we desire most. There are unlimited choices to make, and with patience and wisdom, we can find the roads that take us where we most want to go. Our lives are ours to design. We need never go along or follow others. We know what we want and have everything we need to get it. We can choose our own journey and reach any goal we desire. Nothing is out of reach and we can make all our dreams a reality.

Some people may think they know what’s best for us. They may constantly give us direction or try to persuade us to do things they feel will take us where we need to go. They are certainly entitled to their opinions, and we can listen to their advice if we like. However, our lives belong to us and we are the only ones who have complete understanding about what we need and what we want. We can choose the road ahead even if it’s different from what others recommend, and move forward with confidence and clarity.

There is no way to see the end of any road from the beginning. Even if we plan well and choose the best possible option at the beginning, things may change and we may find we aren’t headed where we most want to go. Learning to turn and adjust our trajectory with each new development will enable us to reach the destinations we desire and help us find success. Life is all about change and we are certainly flexible enough and wise enough to navigate the road ahead to ensure we find success.

Today if you’ve made a decision that isn’t taking you where you want to go, stop and look at all the options possible. Find the road that leads you to success and start again. There isn’t any destination you can’t reach. Choose your next steps carefully and begin. Every road is there for you and you can do anything. Be confident and step forward. Success is waiting for you and you will reach it.