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Creating Our Lives

5 Apr

Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we like, but the needs of the world and those around us may impact how we spend our time. We may be regularly asked to do more work or give more time to something that helps those around us. We can certainly give as much time as we like for any endeavor, but there will always be more to do than we will ever be able to accomplish. It’s good to be helpful, but we always have our own chores and tasks to do, and continually adding extra burdens may not be productive. If we constantly agree to do more work and help everyone every time we’re asked, we might find we are so busy we can’t get to our own goals. If we get overwhelmed and can’t keep up, we may blame it on our situation, the requirements of our jobs, our never-ending responsibilities, or endless other issues for where we are. We can say anything, but the truth is, we are creating our own personal lives by the decisions we make. No matter what is going on around us, we are always in control of our lives. Our lives are a reflection of the choices we’re making and overloading them with things to do and pushing ourselves to exhaustion is not noble. It doesn’t mean we care more than others, or that we’re more committed than most. It just means we’re taking on more than we can comfortably handle, and that may keep us from moving forward. Our dreams and personal goals are important, and if we ignore them and do nothing to accomplish them, it will be difficult to find complete happiness. We are unique and our desires are specific to the kind of lives we want to lead. We can look at all the options before us and make choices that will allow us to serve and still create the life we want the most. Every goal is possible and with clarity and focus, we can achieve them all and make our dreams come true.

Commitment and persistence enable us to accomplish what we want most in life. It’s impossible to be committed to our own personal goals if we spend all our time doing things that keep us from moving toward them. Being busy doesn’t mean we’re succeeding. Flitting from one thing to another with no forward motion will only hold us in place. Time may pass and when we finally look up, we may discover we are far from the destinations we really want to achieve. By taking control of our time and making decisions that move us closer to where we want to be, we will open the doors ahead and ensure success.

We are the most important people in our lives, and it isn’t selfish to take care of ourselves before we serve others. By paying attention to our personal needs and ensuring we have everything necessary to work successfully, we will be stronger and more able to assist others when the need arises. Life is full of opportunity and by keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will reach every desired destination.

Today if your life is busy and there isn’t time for your personal goals, rethink the way forward. You are amazing and valuable, and your dreams are important. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward with clarity and confidence. Nothing is out of reach, and you can create the life you desire most.

Dump Site

4 Mar

Most of us want to be kind and helpful to those around us. We might offer to lend a hand when someone is in a bind or take on another’s chores when they are overwhelmed. The old saying, “Many hands make light work,” is true. When we all pitch in, even huge, difficult tasks become easier. Being open to giving our time and efforts is generally appreciated by those around us. We can be there when needed and share a part of the load. But there is a difference between being helpful and becoming someone else’s dump site. Some people may try to take advantage of our kindness and take all the stuff they don’t want to do and just dump it on us. They can do whatever they like but we don’t have to take on more than we want. We aren’t responsible for completing anyone’s tasks and responsibilities but our own. Just because someone hands us something they don’t want doesn’t mean we must accept it. Everyone is responsible for their own stuff, and if they try to push all the unwelcome and difficult tasks over onto us, we can politely and firmly decline, and step back. Being a team player means just that – being part of a team. It doesn’t mean we have to carry the entire load or do all the heavy lifting by ourselves. If we get into a situation where we’re expected to do more than is comfortable, we can decide how we want to participate. We’re always in control of our own lives and know what works best for us. We can be charitable and help in ways that benefit those around us and don’t wear us completely down. There is always more to do than one person can accomplish. By carefully planning our time, and doing our part, we can feel confident in our assistance, and ensure the success of any project. By doing what we can to help those around us, we can share our light with others, and make the world a better place.

Some people are very forceful and demanding, valuing their own importance, and diminishing the time of others. If we must interact with them, they may push projects onto us that require serious work and effort to accomplish. If they have authority over us, we may need to comply, but if not, we are not compelled to complete anything they arbitrarily assign to us. We can decide what we will and will not do, and express our decisions with grace and clarity, choosing the best road forward.

Offering our time and effort is noble, but we don’t have to give ALL our time and effort to serve those around us. Every moment we give is valuable, and we can determine how much we may offer. We can serve others and still have time for ourselves and what is important for our personal well-being. Sharing what we can, will benefit those around us and enrich our lives and experiences moving forward. We have so much to offer, and our gifts bring great light and goodness to the world.

Today if you’ve been helping others but the requests are more demanding than you can manage, determine how you want to continue. Whatever you can offer will be a blessing to those around you. Be wise and confident. You know what you need and where you want to go. You are a great gift to the world, and we’re all better because you are here. Make the best decisions moving forward, and you will find great joy.

Happiness 101

2 Mar

Everyone wants a happy life. We want things to go our way, the road ahead to be easy and paved, and everything we work for to come through for us. It’s natural to want things to go well, and oftentimes they do. If we want our lives to be happy, we can try to do what is needed to make that happen, but we aren’t alone here. Our plans can be complicated and interrupted by others around us who may do things that hold us in place or influence us in ways that keep us from moving forward. We may have a relationship with someone who exercises a lot of control over what we do. They may have specific ideas of how our lives should go that conflict with what we really want. If they are important to us, or are very strong and powerful, we may allow them to decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. We can certainly do anything we like, but if we let someone else drive the train, the chances of ending up where we really want to go are unlikely. Living a life based on someone else’s plans will not bring us true happiness. Our personal happiness is our responsibility. Others cannot provide it for us. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves and we know what we want, and despite any situation or relationship connection, are always in control of our lives. Others may try to dominate our decisions, and if we let them, decide our next steps. But we are the only ones who know exactly what we want, and can step forward on our own road at any time. The only person who can truly keep us from achieving our personal goals, is us. When we’re ready, we can step forward and move toward the destinations we desire most. We deserve complete and fulfilling happiness, and it’s always there for us when we’re ready to claim it. Every dream is possible, and we can make them ours.

There are a lot of very smart, highly educated people in the world. They know a lot about many things and may be very confident in their advice and personal suggestions. While they may know many things about the world and how it works, nobody can possibly know more about us than we know about ourselves. We already know what we want to do and where we want to go. If we are uncertain, we can ask for advice but in the end the decisions we make are up to us. We can decide how we’ll proceed and what we’ll accomplish and reach any goal we desire.

We may face a time when everything goes wrong, and nothing is working for us. The situation we’re in may make us miserable, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Hard times will certainly come to us all, but nothing stays the same forever. Happiness will never be unattainable indefinitely. We can manage any difficult situation, and when things change, step forward toward the goals we’re seeking. Every possibility will still be there for us and we can achieve any success we desire.

Today if you’re not happy with where you are and want a change, look at all the options available. You know what you want. Decide on the road that will take you to the destinations you desire most, and step forward. Nothing can keep you from success, and all your dreams are possible. Be confident. There is great happiness ahead and you will reach it.

Repercussion

17 Feb

Each day brings decisions we must make. Every choice will have a result and if the situation isn’t serious or far reaching, those results may be inconsequential. We constantly make routine decisions without much thought. We simply decide what we want to do and move on. But life is complicated and eventually we’ll face a serious decision that may impact our lives in big ways. If we understand how important the situation is before we choose, and are able to get all the facts, we have a better chance of navigating it well, but there may be times when something that seems simple and straight forward turns out to be very complex and significant. The repercussions of a big decision can impact us in ways we never imagined and turn our course in a direction we didn’t see coming. We don’t know what we don’t know, and if we can’t get all the facts before we choose, we may end up going somewhere we never intended. Everything we do affects our lives in some way. Big choices will come, issues will arise, and we may get very tangled in a situation we never imagined. It doesn’t matter how complex or difficult the issue is, we can find the answers we need. It’s hard to face a situation we don’t like, but nothing is permanent and no matter where we are, or what direction we’re traveling, we have everything we need to change it. Life is full of experiences. Some of them will be wonderful and fulfilling, and some will bring hardship and trouble. We are wise and capable, and can face anything that arises with confidence and certainty. Nothing can hold us in place, and we will prevail.

Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. People can only see us from the outside – what we do, where we go, and how we look – but can never know what we’re thinking. When we’re facing difficult challenges, others may give us advice and tell us how to proceed based on what they can see. But we know what we want and are perceptive enough to understand what we need to do. Our decisions are ours to make and we have all wisdom and clarity we need to make them well.

If a decision we’ve made goes south and all our plans crash and burn, we may think we’re doomed. We may believe there’s nothing we can do to fix the situation and we’ll never succeed. It may seem like the end, but that will never be true. We can change anything at any time. It may not be easy, and we may struggle to fix what has gone wrong, but we are stronger and more powerful than we imagine and have everything we need to correct our course.

Today if a choice you’ve made has turned out badly and there are problems and complications, don’t give up. You already possess everything you need to adjust your course and correct the situation. You have all the wisdom and courage necessary to find the way forward. Decide what you want and be confident. Nothing can keep you from success. The whole world is there for you, and you will win.

Sudden Remorse

21 Jan

We make dozens of decisions each day and millions of decisions as we go through our lives. We are human and it’s impossible to make every single choice well. Everyone makes a bad decision at some point, and when we realize we’ve completely missed the mark, we may feel great disappointment. If we’ve deeply injured someone else, we may feel sudden remorse. When everything is visible after the fact, we may wonder how we could have said what hurt them so badly, or how we could have thought we were on the right road. Looking back, it’s easy to see all the facts and where we went wrong, but what’s done is done and cannot be erased. When we make a big mistake and the effects of our decision are far reaching and painful, we may feel horrible and wonder how to proceed. It may seem impossible to continue on, but a bad decision isn’t the end of our journey. Even if what we’ve done is destructive and terrible, there will be things we can do to amend what has happened. If we are truly sorry for what we’ve done, we can start by apologizing to those affected and ask for forgiveness. Depending on what’s happened, forgiveness may come right away, or it may take time. Hurting someone deeply erodes their trust in us, and it may take considerable time to re-establish it again. Nobody is perfect. We all fall down from time to time. By understanding what we’ve done and choosing ways to heal what’s been broken, we can regain the trust of those we’ve injured, and continue forward together. There is greatness is all of us. If we forget our nobility for a moment, we can regain it and start again. We can do what is needed to move forward with clarity and integrity. Nothing can keep us from achieving anything we desire, and we will succeed.

When someone does something that pierces us deeply and hurts intensely, our relationship with them will suffer. Nobody wants to be around those who purposely make them feel bad or wound them emotionally. We never have to stay anywhere we don’t want to be. It doesn’t matter who the offending person is, what their status in our life has been, or how much influence they have over us. We are worth more than we imagine, and the whole world is embellished and blessed because we are here. If we don’t want to continue any relationship in our lives, we can step away.

Big mistakes in judgement may bring not only emotional pain but also physical danger. If we follow someone else’s example and it turns out badly, we cannot blame them for what happens. Not realizing what would result is no excuse for our actions. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves, and solely accountable for everything we do. We have what we need to make excellent, strong decisions, and with patience and focus, we can do what is right, and reach success.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and feel intense remorse, do what is needed to repair the situation and re-gain the trust of those around you. There is greatness in you. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and step forward with confidence. We’re all blessed because you are here. Show us your light, and every success will follow.