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Sudden Remorse

21 Jan

We make dozens of decisions each day and millions of decisions as we go through our lives. We are human and it’s impossible to make every single choice well. Everyone makes a bad decision at some point, and when we realize we’ve completely missed the mark, we may feel great disappointment. If we’ve deeply injured someone else, we may feel sudden remorse. When everything is visible after the fact, we may wonder how we could have said what hurt them so badly, or how we could have thought we were on the right road. Looking back, it’s easy to see all the facts and where we went wrong, but what’s done is done and cannot be erased. When we make a big mistake and the effects of our decision are far reaching and painful, we may feel horrible and wonder how to proceed. It may seem impossible to continue on, but a bad decision isn’t the end of our journey. Even if what we’ve done is destructive and terrible, there will be things we can do to amend what has happened. If we are truly sorry for what we’ve done, we can start by apologizing to those affected and ask for forgiveness. Depending on what’s happened, forgiveness may come right away, or it may take time. Hurting someone deeply erodes their trust in us, and it may take considerable time to re-establish it again. Nobody is perfect. We all fall down from time to time. By understanding what we’ve done and choosing ways to heal what’s been broken, we can regain the trust of those we’ve injured, and continue forward together. There is greatness is all of us. If we forget our nobility for a moment, we can regain it and start again. We can do what is needed to move forward with clarity and integrity. Nothing can keep us from achieving anything we desire, and we will succeed.

When someone does something that pierces us deeply and hurts intensely, our relationship with them will suffer. Nobody wants to be around those who purposely make them feel bad or wound them emotionally. We never have to stay anywhere we don’t want to be. It doesn’t matter who the offending person is, what their status in our life has been, or how much influence they have over us. We are worth more than we imagine, and the whole world is embellished and blessed because we are here. If we don’t want to continue any relationship in our lives, we can step away.

Big mistakes in judgement may bring not only emotional pain but also physical danger. If we follow someone else’s example and it turns out badly, we cannot blame them for what happens. Not realizing what would result is no excuse for our actions. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves, and solely accountable for everything we do. We have what we need to make excellent, strong decisions, and with patience and focus, we can do what is right, and reach success.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and feel intense remorse, do what is needed to repair the situation and re-gain the trust of those around you. There is greatness in you. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and step forward with confidence. We’re all blessed because you are here. Show us your light, and every success will follow.

Shoulda Woulda

20 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about life and how things should go. Some people are very confident and sure they have a lot, if not all, the answers. If they think they know us better than we know ourselves (impossible) they may try to tell us what they believe we should be doing. While they may have good suggestions, and we may choose to take their advice, nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. Telling us we “should” do something because they think it’s a good idea doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for us. While it’s possible and likely we’ll make some mistakes in judgement, we are the experts in our own lives. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any suggestions that are offered and weigh each individually, and then do exactly what we want. There is no one perfect way to live life. The expressions and choices are limitless. We can take any road we like and accomplish any goal we desire. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or idea of what is right. Our choices are ours to make and we can design our lives any way we choose. We may occasionally have some regrets over choices we’ve made and think we could have chosen better, but each experience teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. All the knowledge we gain enriches our understanding and helps us move forward in the future. We don’t need anyone else telling us we “shoulda” done something differently. If they do, we can listen politely, and then continue on toward whatever we are seeking. Every single possibility is there for us and we can do anything. With confidence and focus, we can achieve the goals we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Our relationships are important and if we’re in a situation where someone we value strongly disagrees with a choice we’re making, they may talk us right out of it. If we decide they have a better choice, we can certainly make it. However, we don’t need anyone’s permission to do anything. We’re in control of our lives and can make our own choices. Going against the flow doesn’t mean we’re going the wrong way. Every destination is there for us, and we can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody is perfect and we all stumble from time to time. If someone warns us not to make a decision and we make it anyway only to face failure, they may say “I told you so,” and they might be right. But just because someone saw something we didn’t notice in one instance, doesn’t mean they will always know what’s best for us. We are intelligent and will learn much from mistakes along the way. We can trust ourselves to choose wisely, and reach every success.

Today if you’re being pressured to go in a direction you haven’t chosen, think about all the options before you. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent choices. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you can make all your dreams reality.

Complete Stop

19 Aug

Life is uncertain and no matter how hard we try to plan, there will be unexpected developments from time to time that gum up the works and complicate our way forward. They may be minor, just inconveniences we have to work around, or full on disasters that stop us completely and block the road ahead. Or they might be a million variations in between. When we’re trying to get to a goal and things get in the way, it’s frustrating. If there are continual issues that keep us from advancing it can be maddening. It’s hard to endure problem after problem, and keep a positive outlook. Being held in place against our will isn’t comfortable, and we may lose our temper while we have to wait. We can rage against the situation, scream and yell, and try to force our way through, and that might work, but may make everything worse. The energy it takes to have a full-blown tantrum will take away from the energy we need to find our way forward. Hard times will come to us all. They aren’t easy to face and we might end up completely confused for a time, standing still trying to figure out what to do. We can raise our voice, and tell everyone around us how bad we feel, or we can step back and quietly look at what’s happened and review all the options before us. There is never only one way to get to any destination. There will always be another road possible, and with patience and focus, we will find the best way forward. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely. Every single goal is possible, and there isn’t any problem or complication powerful enough to keep us from whatever we desire. We can trust ourselves to find every answer, and be confident of success.

We share the world with lots of other people making their own choices and decisions. Sometimes those decisions may impact our lives in ways that make it harder for us to move ahead. We only have control over ourselves, and if someone does something that gets in the way of our plans, we can modify them and find another way around. We know what we want, and have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can change direction when we need to, and reach the goal.

When we make an excellent plan, we may be sure it’s the only way for us to succeed. If something goes wrong, someone drops the ball, or an unforeseen development turns everything upside down, we might panic, thinking we’ll never win. Although our original idea may have been effective, if it’s no longer viable, we don’t have to give up. We have all the wisdom and patience we need to evaluate all the possibilities, and come up with a new way forward. We are smarter and more powerful than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if the road you were on has turned and the way to your goal is blocked, remember how creative and intelligent you are. You have overcome many complications and problems already, and have everything you need to find your way again. All the answers you need are already there for you. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every destination is waiting, an you can reach them all.

Trading It Away

19 May

Our lives belong to us and we’re responsible for every decision we make. Everyone wants to be happy, and we try hard to do things that will bring it to us. There are a lot of influences around us all the time, and we might get into a situation where someone we care about pulls us away from our own road. If we love them and want a close relationship with them, they may have a lot of power over our choices. They may ask us to turn away from our own goals in order to get closer to what they want. It’s hard to resist the pull of intense personal feelings, and we may sacrifice our own journey to give them what they want. We can do anything we like, but our lives are important. If we trade away our own personal choices for someone else’s, we’ll never find complete happiness. It’s good to give of ourselves, but if we give so much, we lose our own lives, we will never feel satisfied or fulfilled. We’re entitled to our own personal happiness, and it isn’t selfish to hold onto what we need to gain it. We can serve those around us and still maintain our own autonomy. The roads we want to travel and the gifts we have to offer are unique to us and can never be given by anyone else. We are one of a kind, and everything we do changes the world in some way. If we give our power to someone else, the whole world will lose our amazing influence. We know what we want and where we want to go. We can serve others, and still hold onto our own personal journey. Every day is a precious gift, and with focus and wisdom, we can live our lives with great success, and reach complete happiness.

If someone wants something from us, they may push all our personal buttons and convince us that doing what they ask will make us happy and bring us closer together. If we love them, we might let go of our dreams to do as they ask. We may ignore our personal lives, and sacrifice our own goals to comply with their requests. However, it’s the responsibility of everyone to find their own happiness. We are not responsible for providing it for anyone else. We can offer our time and still hold fast to our own desires and destinations. We deserve the lives we want the most, and we can control our decisions in ways that help us achieve them.

We have a lot of responsibilities all the time. Our jobs, our families, our personal stuff, and everything that must be taken care of to keep things moving forward. If one area requires too much time and attention, it’s likely the other areas will suffer. We can’t control what others do, but we can control how we manage our time. There will always be a way to take care of things, and still have time for ourselves. We never need to trade everything away. We are valuable and important, and can make decisions that bring us the lives we want the most.

Today if someone close to you wants more of your time and attention than you’re comfortable with, remember you are in control. Your dreams and desires are important. Give what you can and keep moving forward. Every destination you desire is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and step forward toward your dreams. They are there for you, and you will reach them.

Busy Busy

30 Apr

There are endless roads available to us that lead to unlimited destinations. We can go anywhere we want, and every option is possible. When we have our eyes focused on the way forward toward a goal we want to achieve, each step takes us closer to success. But life is full of distractions, problems, complications, and unexpected developments that may divert our attention away from what we want the most. There are lots of shiny things to capture us, people coming and going who may pull us in different directions, and countless details to figure out that may hold us in place. If we engage in all the activity around us, we may be very busy, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we’re moving ahead. Being busy doesn’t always translate to success. We can spend all our time doing lots of things that demand our attention and at the end of the day, still be in the same place as when we started. There is no end to things that need to be done, but if we want to get to the destinations we truly desire, we must carefully weigh our choices to ensure we do what we must while still moving toward our goals. Our lives are important and every dream is possible, but we must do what is needed to make them ours. Going here and there, doing endless tasks, and staying busy will not guarantee success. If we want to prevail, we must take control of our time and keep the destination in focus. Life is full of surprises and there will be times when we must set everything aside to take care of a pressing matter. Setting a goal aside isn’t abandoning it and as soon as the situation changes, we can re-focus and start again. We can go anywhere and do anything we desire. We have all the wisdom and courage we need to create the lives we want the most, and reach success.

Unless we live on a deserted island, there will likely be lots of people all around us most of the time. We have friends, co-workers, family members, associates, acquaintances, and people we see only in passing. They may need us from time to time and we can certainly help out if asked. It’s good to be supportive and lend a helping hand, but we need not allow our beneficence to take over our lives. There is no need to completely sacrifice our own desires in an effort to help those around us. We can give our time in ways that benefit others and still allow us to accomplish our personal goals.

Everyone has their own opinions about how things should be done. If we have a relationship with them, and they are in need, they may expect us to abandon our plans and devote all our energies to helping them. We can do that if we like, but we never have to give more than we’re comfortable with. It isn’t selfish to manage our time in ways that help out and still allow us to continue forward. We’re intelligent and capable, and nothing is beyond our reach. We can focus on the road ahead, and reach every goal we desire.

Today if you’re busy with lots of details that are keeping you from the goals you desire most, step back and look at everything objectively. Plan your time wisely, and continue ahead. You are amazing and powerful, and can do anything you desire. All your dreams are possible, and you have everything you need to make them yours.