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Doors

14 Dec

There are endless opportunities in life and we are restricted only by our own decisions. We can think of our lives as an endless hallway of doors. Every door we walk through opens a new road ahead that takes us somewhere we’ve never been and teaches us something to take forward. How many doors we open is up to us. If we want a life filled with new experiences we may fearlessly open as many as possible. Conversely, if we want a predictable life that is comfortable in its sameness, we may stick with only a few. We can design our lives any way we choose and the choices we make will color our experiences. When there is something new we want to try, we may be nervous about starting out. We may fear we won’t be up to the task and will fail. We can’t tell the future but one thing is certain, if we don’t take the chance, we will never experience the outcome. There really is nothing to be lost by extending our boundaries and opening the doors before us. We are strong enough to endure any complication and resilient enough to take any criticism. All the roads are open to us and we may travel as many as we desire. There is no rush and we may take all the time we need to decide. Life is filled with opportunity. How many we choose is completely up to us, but the depth of understanding we gain by stretching beyond where we are is extremely valuable. We learn more about ourselves as we try new things. We understand our place in life as we extend our reach. Living fearlessly and boldly will bring us great blessings. There really isn’t anything we can’t do. We can open all the doors we desire and see where they will take us.

Tradition may be a powerful restrictor. When our personal traditions are very strong it may be more difficult to reach beyond them. If those close to us value the patterns held in place over time, there may be strong pushback if we decide we want something different. Traditions are wonderful and help us treasure important facets of our relationships but they may keep the doors around us closed. There is no door we cannot open and no road we cannot travel. We can hold fast to the ways and customs we value, and still create the lives we want the most.

It takes courage to reach beyond where we are and try something new. We don’t really know what’s behind a new door or where it will lead. Although there is no way at the beginning to see everything at the end of any road, we have everything necessary to move forward toward any destination we desire. All the courage we need is already inside us and we are smart enough, and strong enough to take on any challenge. The whole world is available to us. We can do anything. We can start something new, and success will follow.

Today if you’ve been thinking about trying something new but haven’t been sure, take the chance. There really isn’t anything you can’t do. Open all the doors you desire and step onto a new road. Fill your life with every experience you dream about. It’s all there for you. Take the first step today and see what lies ahead. The possibilities are endless.

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Hope

12 Dec

We have a lot of different relationships and connections in our lives. They may be casual acquaintances we speak to once in a while and see only in passing, or very close and intimate. We value our close relationships and they may have deep impact on our lives. When we love someone and they make decisions that bring them unhappiness or negatively affect our relationship with them, we may hope they will change. We might talk to them about the situation and sincerely ask them to listen to our concerns. Sometimes they will and things improve, but other times we may hope in vain. It’s crushing to be in love with someone who says they love us in return but will not commit. It’s devastating to watch someone close addicted to substances that are hurting them but cannot stop. And it may be overwhelming to see someone we love make the same bad mistakes again and again, and suffer miserably. Although we may hope and pray for the changes needed to stop the suffering, the decisions of others belong to them alone. There is no way to control their choices even if they are destructive. We must evaluate the situation and determine what is best going forward. Sometimes we may stay in the relationship continuing to hope things will improve. Other times it may be important for us to go another way. We can never change anyone but ourselves. If we are in a relationship that is hurting us because of choices being made out of our control, we may choose another way forward.

We are responsible for our own happiness and there may be times when we must end a relationship in order to stay on the road that’s best for us. There is no way to carry anyone’s life but our own, and we may need to alter our course as we continue forward. They say hope springs eternal and in some ways, it does. We can always continue to hope someone will change and find success, but hope is not reality. It is only desire. Reality is what we’re living now. How we manage it will determine how happy we are. We can be loving and supportive without being part of a destructive game. We can allow others to make whatever choices they choose, and continue forward our own way.

We may be pressured to stay in a dysfunctional situation with the hope that if we do, it will improve. That might happen, but change is something that must come from within. If those we are hoping for do not want it, everything will remain the same. Staying in a damaging situation that does not change will hold us in place and prevent us from finding our own success. We can’t change anyone else no matter how much we desire or hope for it. Keeping our eyes focused clearly on what is real and what we want will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been hoping someone close to you would change to be happier or healthier, remember the change you seek cannot come from you. Be loving and kind, and supportive and caring, and continue forward. Your life is the only one you can control. Continue moving toward your goals and find success. Everything is there for you and you will reach it.

On Hold

29 Nov

In our busy lives it’s sometimes hard to fit everything in we want to get done. We can manage our time well but sometimes we may need to set something aside and put it on hold. We may need to postpone meetings with others or wait to do something we’ve been planning, and we are flexible enough to manage adjustments when we must. But if we get into a situation where we continually set someone or something aside and there is no plan to actually engage them and take care of matters, we may create problems going forward. Most situations can wait for a while but if we hold them in suspense indefinitely they will likely suffer. Relationships put on hold will eventually break down through neglect and if we don’t make them a priority we may lose more than we’re comfortable with. Being on hold doesn’t freeze time. Things continue to change. If we wait too long to return to those we’ve set aside we may find ourselves alone. We can always find time for the things that are most important to us. Leaving someone out in the cold while we do other things indicates where our priorities truly lie. We always do what we want to do most and what we decide to do indicates who we are. It takes effort and attention to build close relationships. Paying attention to those who mean the most and taking the time to follow through to show we care will create strong bonds and lasting connections. Our lives are what we make them. When we value what is most important we will find comfort and happiness.

People say a lot of things. They may tell us what they are going to do, what they want to happen, and that they care for us. Words are important in communicating how we feel but without action to back up our statements they mean nothing. If someone says they love us but never have time for us it will be difficult to believe. If they constantly put us off, postpone meetings again and again, and don’t respond when we need them, all the professions of love will be meaningless. They old saying that actions speak louder than words is accurate. We are what we do, not what we say.

Sometimes we have good intentions and want to be there but desire is only the first step in any endeavor. We can identify what we want and if we are sincere we must then move forward in ways that bring it to us. Putting it off until later will not get us closer to the goal. Nothing robs success as effectively as procrastination. Planning to do something later is planning to do nothing now. If we want strong connections to those around us and real success we must actively pursue our goal and do what is needed to bring it to pass. We can do anything we don’t put on hold. Every happiness is there and actively pursuing it will make it ours.

Today if you’ve been putting others off thinking you’ll get to them later, remember later never arrives. You only have now to do what is important. Determine what you want most and go forward caring for the things you treasure most in your life. Remember who is important and keep them close. You have everything you need to be completely happy. Be open, be available, and show the love you have for those around you. Their love in return will bring you limitless happiness and constant joy.

The First Step

16 Nov

Our lives are under our control and we can make any decisions we choose. If we want to go somewhere we can make a plan and begin toward the destination. If we want a change we can determine how to make that happen and do what is needed. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we have enough desire and the willingness to do what we must to succeed. But before we do anything the first step is to decide what we want. There are endless choices available and no matter what we choose there will be a way to gain it. If we like, we can ask those around us for advice but the opinions of others won’t decide our future. We are the ones in charge and are responsible for our decisions. We are always in control of what we do. If we simply go along as things happen and allow life to unfold as it will with no input from us, we may leave dreams unrealized and goals unmet. If we want to be happy and feel fulfilled we must take control of our direction forward to ensure we end up where we want to go. The world will do what it will, those around us will live their lives as they choose, and our decisions are ours to make. We deserve complete happiness but we are the only ones who can give it to us. We can make sure the path we’re on is exactly where we want to be. We have everything we need to have the lives we desire. We can decide how we want to go forward and then take the steps that will get us there.
If we’re unhappy we can spend our days complaining and wishing for something better. Neither of those activities will bring success. Complaining only reminds us of the situation making us miserable and wishes only come true in fairy tales. It’s easy to get stuck in a routine that isn’t working simply because we know it so well. But we are in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can change anything at any time. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can move. If we don’t like the situation we’re in, we can change. Happiness is always there for us but we must seek it and do what is needed to find it.

Before we begin any journey, we must have a defined destination. It isn’t enough to say we are going to change our lives. We must clarify what that change means and where it will take us. Once we know what we truly desire we can make a plan to move forward toward it. Everything is possible and every destination is within reach. Nothing is too difficult to achieve or too far to find. We can do anything we choose. Perfect happiness is possible and with courage and determination we will reach it.

Today if you feel unsatisfied with your life and don’t like where you are, decide where you want to go and begin moving forward to get there. You deserve the very best of everything. Take control. Turn your course toward the light and reach for what you want. Begin to change what you must to find complete happiness. The whole world is yours for the taking. Happiness is there for you and you will reach it.

Scene Change

27 Oct

Sometimes events come together in our lives in such a way that suddenly everything changes.  The road we were on turns and is altered completely.  It’s like a scene change in a play.  The curtain closes and when it opens again we are in a new place altogether.  When our lives unexpectedly change and suddenly modify our way forward it can be confusing and unsettling.  We can’t predict what will come to us and even if we plan effectively there may be times when outside factors divert us from our chosen course.  We can only control our own actions and when unexpected winds push us in a new direction we must find a different way to move forward.  There are limitless roads to every destination and if we are forced off one we can move to another that will take us where we want to go.  In the midst of a sudden change, we can review all our options and choose the best way ahead.  Every destination is there for us and we have everything we need to successfully redirect our course.  We may take all the time we need to determine how to continue and understand what we need to do.  Life is full of changes and we have everything we need to do anything we desire, even if the road turns.  We can take our time, be confident in our choices, and continue forward toward success.

When we begin a journey we may plan our steps carefully.  We may believe the road we’ve chosen is the only way forward, but there will always be options available to us.  We need not give up on a goal simply because we reach an impasse.  A full stop will give us time to evaluate where we’re headed and affirm our desire to reach the goal.  If we still want to move forward we can find another way to get there.  People may stand in our way, there may be a huge obstacle to overcome, and we may tire of the struggle.  But if the goal is worth the effort we can push through and reach it.  We can do anything we want to do and there is nothing too strong or difficult for us to navigate around.

Sometimes after pushing toward a goal for a time we may re-evaluate and decide not to continue.  If we no longer desire the destination we’re headed toward, or our lives have changed and we can’t give the goal the time needed right now, we can set it aside and work on something else.  Choosing to stop does not mean we fail.  We are always in control of our lives and can change direction any time we desire.  Every goal is available to us and no matter how difficult the road, we can reach it.  If we decide we want a change we can move forward toward something new.  The world belongs to us and we may design our lives any way we choose.  We can go anywhere we desire and achieve success.

Today if your situation has suddenly changed and everything you thought was ahead has turned, take the time you need to regroup and decide how you want to proceed.  You can go anywhere you want and do anything you desire.  Choose the best path forward and begin again.  Success is always there for you.  Nothing will stop you from getting there.

What’s Next

11 Oct

Every decision and choice we make carries with it a result.  We don’t live in a vacuum and it’s impossible to do anything without affecting something else.  Sometimes the results of our choices are exactly what we planned and hoped for, but other times due to forces outside our control, information we don’t have, or the influence of others, things go another way.  We can’t always see what’s coming next even if we plan effectively.  The world is filled with people and each one is making constant decisions.  We may be aware of some of them but many times we don’t know what those around us are doing.  If we reach a point where our choices and theirs collide we may end up with a result we didn’t plan on.  We can only control our own actions and have no dominion over the choices of other.  However, if we take the time we need to consider all the possibilities we can see, often our decisions will take us where we want to go.  We can’t read the future but with careful planning we have the best chance of success.  Rushing and jumping to decisions will definitely take us somewhere but it may not be where we want to go and the results of a hasty choice may not bring us the benefits we seek.  There is no decision we can’t make well.  We are wise enough to choose the way forward that will take us to any destination we desire.  Every choice is ours to make and we can make them well.

There may be times when we’re faced with a situation where we cannot see a good option going forward.  We may be in a place where there are seemingly no positive choices available.  If there are no good answers we can still choose wisely.  We can evaluate all the possibilities and outcomes for each scenario, and then choose the one that best agrees with our desires moving forward.  Once that decision is made we can plan the way ahead step by step until we are on better footing and the road to the goal we seek is clear.

If we must face a difficult decision and are unsure of the outcome we may be tempted to set it aside and ignore it for a time.  We may hope the situation will simply change on its own and we won’t have to face it.  Unfortunately it’s unlikely anything will change unless we do what is needed to change it.  We can take the time we need to think about the decision but avoiding it altogether will not help us move forward.  We can face any decision we must, look at all our options and choose wisely.  There isn’t any puzzle too hard for us to solve and with patience and careful consideration we can make the best choice possible.  We are strong and capable, and there isn’t anything we can’t manage.  We can do our best to ensure the outcomes of our decisions are positive and move us forward toward our destination.

Today if you’re facing a difficult decision and you don’t know what lies ahead, review all the possibilities and weigh them carefully.  You know where you want to go and you have everything you need to succeed.  Plan well, choose wisely and you will reach your destination.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are strong and powerful.  Be confident.  You know what to do.

Make Me

29 Sep

We know what we need to do and there may be times when we need someone else to accomplish something before we can move forward.  If they aren’t as motivated as we are we may have to wait.  We can only control ourselves and our decisions and even if we ask again and again, we may have to wait until the other party decides to complete the task.  It’s maddening when what’s important to us is reliant on someone else’s actions and they are not moving forward.  There is no way to make anyone do anything.  But if we cannot continue forward with a project or plan because someone else has stopped our progress we have options.  We can look for a way around the action we’re waiting for, we can develop another plan to move forward without the cooperation requested, or we can set the plan aside for now and work on other projects.  We don’t need to be held hostage any longer than we desire.  We are always in control of our own lives and if things don’t move forward in our first plan, we can create another one.  We don’t need to give up control of our progress forward.  There are always many ways to every goal.  If we must set the plan aside for now, we can, and return to it when everything is in place.  We are smart enough to find the way to any destination we desire.  We can adjust our trajectory and turn our course to find the way forward.

Some people are very internally focused.  They only want to work on their personal goals and if asked to help with someone else may agree, but then set it aside until they decide to address it.  Since their objectives revolve around their personal desires they may not recognize the importance of completing tasks to help others.  We don’t have to wait indefinitely for them to comply, and when we’re ready can find another way around the issue.  We can work around any obstacle and reach any goal.

There may be times when others don’t agree with a goal we’re seeking.  They may not believe it’s the best choice or feel it’s too difficult to achieve.  If we must work with them to get the job done we may face many obstacles if they question every decision we make.  Everyone has their own viewpoint about the road ahead and we may ask for their suggestions for ways to accommodate everyone’s ideas about how to move forward.  Bringing all the voices together may help us advance and find success even if there is dissention.  No goal is out of reach and we can patiently and thoughtfully move forward through complications and problems as they arise.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  Success is always available to us and we will achieve it.

Today if you’ve been waiting for someone to do something that will allow you to move forward and nothing has changed, review your options and find another way around the issue.  There are many roads and directions available and you will find the right way ahead.  Every goal is within your reach and you will achieve it.  Keep your eyes open.  All the answers you need are there for you.  Success is just ahead and you will find it.