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Going Under

17 Aug

Our lives are a reflection of the decisions we make. If we are paying attention, and purposely moving toward the goals we most desire, we will accomplish them and find great satisfaction. If we’re just going through the motions and following someone else, the odds of being happy are diminished. We are in control of every decision we make and can decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. However, if we lack confidence or are unsure that we can find our own way, we may attach ourselves to someone else and instead of choosing our own path, simply mimic what they are doing. If they turn right, so will we.  If they stop and choose something else, we’ll be right behind them. That may work out if the person we’re following is choosing wisely and is noble and honest. If they are not, and we don’t take the time to think before we act, we may find ourselves in difficult and complicated situations we never wanted. If we don’t know how to swim and try to save a drowning man, we may go under with them simply because we don’t have the skills to keep us both afloat. The same is true if we attach ourselves to someone who is unscrupulous and makes bad decisions. We will never be able to stay above the fray is we blindly follow where they lead. It’s fine to have a role model or mentor and they may bring great benefit to our lives, but in the end, every decision we make is our responsibility. There is no escaping the results of our choices. If we lack information, we can get it. If we need more skills to figure out the way ahead, we can gain them. Every success is possible but it’s up to us to make them ours. Nothing is out of reach and we have all the wisdom and courage we need to do whatever we desire.

We may face a time when someone more powerful than we are asks us to forsake a relationship because it’s inconvenient for them or they want all our attention. If the relationship we’re asked to give up is not important to us or pulls us from the roads we want to travel, we may walk away. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like, but nobody knows what will happen next, and the connections we sacrifice today may become crucial in the future. Instead of severing ties, we can modify our lives to preserve the relationships we’ve built and still move forward toward the goal.

Some people need a lot of support and struggle to find their way forward. They may lean on us for constant help and rely on us to save them when things go wrong. Constantly bailing someone else out will never move us forward. We can be helpful and kind, but we don’t have to do everything we’re asked to do. We can give advice and then let others discover their own answers. We know what we want and with clarity and focus, we can find the road ahead and reach every destination.

Today if you’ve been following someone else and are not headed in the direction you want to travel, stop and think about what you want the most. You already possess everything you need to go anywhere and do anything. You are intelligent and highly capable and nobody knows you better than you know yourself. Decide what you want and then take the first step forward. Every dream is possible and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and you will win.

Stepping Away

8 Aug

We all determine our own standards and how we’ll live our lives. Some people take a very strict view of ethics, morality and behavior expressions, and others are more fluid depending on the situation. No matter how we’ve chosen to do things, there may come a time when due to circumstances around us or something we desire, we may choose to step away from our own rules. Maybe there is something we really want and getting it will mean doing something unethical or even illegal. Or a friend or loved one may ask us, just this once, to do something questionable so they can get what they want. The temptation may be great to set aside our standards, or look the other way when something untoward is going on. We may think it’s just this once, and we’ll hold fast to our standards again once this issue is resolved. It’s possible to knowingly make a bad choice just once, but if we get away with it and gain the prize we’re seeking, it may be enough encouragement for us to think we can do it again. If we continue to ignore the standards we previously held close, it won’t be long before we’re living a different kind of life. Lying the first time may be hard, but everything gets easier with practice. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but every choice we make defines who we are. Slipping under the radar and cheating to get to the goal may give us immediate gratification, but the cost to our personal integrity will be great. Nothing brings greater trust and good will than complete honesty in all our dealings. We can make excellent choices and determine where we’ll go. Every choice belongs to us, and with careful consideration and wisdom, we will find the best way forward.

Some people have a very loose idea of personal honesty. They believe they are honest enough, even though they slip into the movie theater behind someone else without paying, or lie when they need to get around something they don’t want to do. If we question them on it, they may say we’re “too honest” and let it go. Honesty does not have a sliding scale. We’re either honest or we’re not. Situations and circumstances may make the best choices more difficult but they do not change what is right. We know who we are and what we want. We deserve the very best of everything and by choosing wisely in every instance, we can achieve it.

There are billions of people on the planet and we’re all far more connected than we may realize. People watch us and notice the decisions we make. If we are honest and clear in our interactions, they will trust us. Gaining the trust of others allows us to build strong and valuable connections which can pave the way forward. Nobody wants to deal with someone who is unpredictable and dishonest. Every choice we make shows the world who we are, and if we’re mindful and aware of each decision, our lives will be blessed and we’ll reach every desired destination. 

Today if you’re tempted to do something questionable because it will get you what you want, remember who you are. You have so much to offer and there is greatness in you. Honor your standards and make choices with integrity and wisdom. Pave the road ahead by choosing well, and you will find great happiness. You are amazing and every success is waiting. Step forward with confidence and clarity, and you will reach the prize.

One Moment

29 Jul

Life is filled with unexpected situations. We never know what will happen next, and we may be surprised by something that suddenly challenges and tests us. There may be an uncomfortable ethical issue that arises out of nowhere and we have to choose between being completely honest or going along with something we don’t agree with. We may face a test of our strength as problem after problem arises and we’re underwater trying to find the way out. Nobody can read the future and no matter how hard we try to make excellent decisions, moments of difficulty will come. What we do when they show up will determine what happens as we move forward. If the issue is ethical and we fold because someone more powerful than us demands it, we may be very disappointed in ourselves and our lack of courage. If the road ahead gets very hard and we give up and let go of our goals because we don’t want to walk through the fire, we will never reach the destinations we most desire. One moment, one decision, can change the course or our lives but all is not lost. No matter what’s happened already or what we’ve done, we can go back and start again. We may not be able to recreate the exact situation or change the outcome of a bad decision, but we can amend our actions moving forward and ensure that what we’re doing matches who we really are. Life can be complicated and hard, and we’ll all face times of uncertainty and worry. But we are stronger and more powerful than we imagine, and are in control of everything we do. We don’t have to bend to bullying, and we don’t have to go along. We’re entitled to our own opinions and decisions, and with clarity and wisdom, will choose the right path.

Bad decisions can have serious consequences. If we do something that moves us forward but betrays our company or our associates, we may never be able to regain their trust. If we lie and cheat on a lover, we may lose the relationship. Everything we do brings some sort of result, and what that is depends on what we’ve done. If we only see ourselves and are only concerned with our own success, we may betray everyone in our path and walk over them to win. We can do anything we like, but our connections with others are important. If we pave the road ahead with deception and distrust, it will be impossible to build good relationships and alliances as we move ahead. We may believe we don’t need them, and maybe we don’t, but life has a way of looping around and we may find at some point the very bridge we need is one we’ve already burned.

Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some point. If we make a bad choice or choose the wrong road we may get stuck for a time as we try to figure out how to correct our course. Nothing is permanent and everything can be changed, but whatever we’ve done may color opportunities until we’re able to reset and rebuild. There is greatness in all of us. If we lose our way, we can find it again. If we make a wrong turn, we can stop and start over. Nothing is out of reach if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. Every single goal is possible and we can reach them all.

Today remember that mistakes never define who we are. If you’re on the wrong road, you can turn around and begin again. No matter what’s happened, every success is still possible. Think about what you really want, trust yourself and start again. You are wise and capable, and nothing is too far away or too difficult for you to reach. Be strong and step forward. Every blessing awaits, and you will claim them all.

Trouble Backing Up

11 May

We are all in control of our lives and can make any decisions we like. Each choice will take us somewhere and change our circumstance in some way. Sometimes the changes are big and impact us greatly, and other times they hardly make a ripple. Nobody is perfect and at some point we will all make a decision that doesn’t work out. If it causes a lot of disruption and turmoil, it may take some time to straighten everything out and start again. If we’re cocky and confident in who we are and our ability to do well, we may have trouble going back to the beginning when things go wrong. We might try to ignore the problems we’ve created, or push the blame onto someone or something else, or we might openly deny we had anything to do with it. We can do anything we want, but truth is powerful and no matter how far we try to distance ourself from what’s happened, we will eventually be found out. We are accountable for everything we do – even the stuff we don’t want to face. Backing up and returning to the beginning to figure out where we went wrong, and then doing everything needed to correct the situation will enable us to start again and continue toward success. Mistakes happen and when they do they show us what doesn’t work and help us reset our direction. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything we can’t figure out. When things go wrong, we can turn around and address them with confidence and clarity. Every success is possible, and with determination and focus, we will reach them all.

Some people think they know everything. They may spend a lot of time telling us about all the things they excel at and how smart and capable they are. They may tell us what we should be doing or how we should proceed, even if they don’t have all the facts. It’s good to be confident but we are the only ones who know exactly what we want and how we want to get there. We can listen to any advice that’s offered, and then proceed according to our own desires.

We all want clear, paved roads that lead to our chosen destinations. We may luck out and get them at some point, but most of the time the journey from A to B isn’t exactly an easy, straight line. There may be unforeseen complications, people might stand in our way, and a thousand things may change that complicate our plans. It doesn’t matter how hard the road is or how long it takes to travel. We know what we want, and with persistence and faith, we can accomplish anything. If we have to back up, we can. If we need to change direction, we’ll find the best way ahead. Everything is possible and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if your plans have gone awry and you’ve veered off course, stop and look at all the options around you. Go back to the beginning and change direction. A detour will only delay your success and is never the end of the journey. Trust yourself and be confident. You already have everything you need to do anything you desire. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. All your dreams are possible and you will make them yours.

Standing Around and Waiting

11 Mar

There are endless things we can do, unlimited places we could go, and limitless things we may accomplish. Opportunities are possible no matter where we are or what’s happening. Nobody lives in a vacuum and there will always be another road to travel. Everyone wants an easy life filled with pleasure, wealth and comfort. If we won the birth lottery, we may have been born into circumstances that provide that, but those examples are few and far between. So if that’s not the case, we’ll be responsible for creating the lives we want the most. We already know what we want, and we can dream and think about how great it will be when we get to the goal. But if all we do is stand around and wait for it to arrive, we will be sorely disappointed. The chances of us getting everything we desire simply by wishing for it is far less than the chances of us winning the lottery jackpot. It’s not going to happen. Waiting for luck is a fool’s game, and if that’s all we’re willing to do, we’ll likely end up with what we have now and nothing more. But if we’re willing to plan for success, and then do everything necessary to make it ours, we can make our dreams come true. We are capable of far more than we may imagine and when we’re ready can begin forward toward whatever we desire. Nothing is off limits and everything is possible. We need only decide what we want, and then begin forward to make it ours. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us in place but our own choices. If we want something more, we can have it. By trusting ourselves, and being willing to push forward no matter what comes, we will reach every destination and find great satisfaction and happiness. We deserve the best of everything, and with determination and focus, can make it ours.

Mediocrity is easy to achieve. We can go with the flow, keep our heads down and do the same things over and over again for as long as we like. We can have a simple, easy life that doesn’t inspire us but is good enough to get by. Choosing that is like always having vanilla ice cream and never trying anything else. Vanilla is fine, and we know what to expect, but there are many other flavors, and great refreshment and excitement come when we try something new. It can be scary to step away from what we know, but we are strong and wise, and will find every answer we need as we move ahead. There is great reward waiting when we choose to move toward a new horizon. The whole world is there for us, and we can do anything.

Some people are intimidated by change and may encourage us to be happy with what we have. They are comfortable with things as they are and think we should be too. We can take any advice we like, but our lives belong solely to us, and we can design them any way we like. We don’t need agreement or permission to move in a new direction, and can pursue any goal or destination we choose. There is no way to know what we can accomplish until we try. Every single goal is possible and every road is waiting. By choosing what we want most and stepping forward with confidence and clarity, we will prevail and find incredible reward.

Today if you’ve been waiting for your life to change, decide what you want the most and make a plan to achieve it. Trust yourself and take the first step forward. You are wise and powerful and have everything you need to do anything you desire. Be clear and confident. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success. You can have the life you dream of and find great satisfaction. Nothing can keep you in place, and you will succeed.