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Never Land

16 Mar

There may be times in our lives when we’re not exactly sure where we’re headed.  We often have many responsibilities and commitments and sometimes they may seem to take over and control us.  When we’re busy and only looking at the next thing we need to accomplish, it may be hard to step back and think about where we want to go and what we really want to do.  If we don’t take control of our lives, we may find all our busy-ness is controlling us.  We may feel we’re living in never land, undefined and undirected.  All our dreams are still with us but if we’ve set them aside in an effort to get something else done, we won’t see them.  They will sit dormant and waiting until we look back, and make time for them.  Our lives belong only to us.  We are in charge of everything we do and every decision we make is our responsibility.  We can’t blame others or situations if time passes and we haven’t done what we really wanted to accomplish.  Life is busy and there will always be things we need to do, but the most important person in our lives is ourselves.  If we don’t take care of our personal wants and needs, nothing else will work.  No matter who is counting on us or what project is pressing, we can fit our personal desires and goals into our time.  Each day brings new promise and the chance to do anything we desire.  If we focus on what is needed to make our dreams a reality, we will feel more joy and contentment moving forward.  We deserve the best of everything life has to offer.  Choosing to make ourselves a priority will help us achieve it.

When we interact with others they may have expectations about what we will do and how we’ll spend our time.  There are a lot of different ideas about how we should live our lives and we can listen to all of them, but in the end we must do what is best for us.  Our choices are ours to make and we can choose any path we desire.  Each moment brings new opportunities.  We don’t have to confine ourselves or restrict our choices to anyone else’s model.  The road ahead is for us to determine and what is right for us is what will bring happiness.

If everyone we associate with does things a certain way and it’s not comfortable for us, we can move forward our own way.  There may be pushback when we choose a different path, but we are certainly capable of managing differences of opinions and are in full control of our decisions.  Human creativity knows no limits and life is a great blessing.  We can do things our way and find the best roads moving forward.  Living our lives the way that works best for us will bring us great joy and satisfaction.

Today if you feel like you’re in never land and don’t know where you’re headed, stop and think about what you really want in your life.  Everything is possible.  Choose the road that will bring you the blessings you seek and make your dreams come true.  Your life is yours and you can live it any way you choose.  Happiness is always available and by being your true self you will find it.  Open all the doors in front of you and choose the path you desire.  Every dream can come true and you will find success.



14 Mar

When we want to learn something new, or accomplish something we’ve been pondering, we might look at others who have already completed the goal and see how they did it.  We may try to emulate them in an effort to find success.  It’s possible to accomplish something by copying someone else’s choices, but that doesn’t always work.  We might find no matter how hard we try, what worked for them doesn’t work for us.  Sometimes a change in timing, or expression, or even location may make what worked before impossible now.  We can keep hammering away at the issue but if it’s not going to work no matter how hard we try, we may be stuck.  There are always many roads to any destination.  If what we’re doing isn’t working, we can reroute our direction and start again.  We can revise our plans, take a look at all the options available and carve a new road going forward.  We can go anywhere we want to go and no matter how far the road is or how convoluted the path may be, find our way.  All destinations are possible but we may need to carve a new path to get there.  We are certainly capable of creating a new road any time we need one.  If we keep our eyes on the goal and focus moving forward we will reach it.  There is nothing too difficult or too far away.  We are powerful and wise and nothing is impossible.  Success will come when we’re open to new possibilities and keep moving ahead.

Sometimes it may seem as though everyone around us is having success with something we cannot accomplish.  Everyone is different and our understanding of each situation is unique.  We know who we are and what we need to be successful.  We can change our methods and chart our own course.  There are infinite roads to every goal, and we can find the path that brings us success.  Our interpretations and expressions belong to us alone and by doing things our way we enhance the world around us.  We can forge our own path and find the way to any goal we desire.

The world is filled with differences everywhere we look.  There are many ways to view any situation and there will always be more than one answer possible.  Our ability to see things differently than those around us will enrich our experiences and bring fresh perspectives to every situation.  We are all individual and every new idea opens our understanding to new possibilities.  We don’t have to copy others to be successful.  We can choose our own path and create unique lives that reflect who we are and what we bring to the world.  Life is an incredible gift.  Being completely ourselves blesses us and those around us.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s patterns in an effort to find success, remember how unique and wonderful you are.  You have so much to offer the world just as you are.  Look at all your options and choose the road that reflects your individuality and personal choices.  Every success is possible and nothing is out of reach.  Share your unique perspective.  The whole world is blessed because you are here.


Have Mercy

12 Mar

Everyone makes mistakes from time to time.  We don’t know everything and sometimes we choose the wrong path for many different reasons.  When we choose badly and hurt those around us, we may ask for forgiveness in an effort to move forward more easily.  It’s good to forgive others when they’ve hurt us.  Carrying around anger from an issue in the past can hold us back and rob our freedom.  If we hold onto anger and disappointment it may keep us from happiness, and the weight of the load may make us miserable.  Forgiving someone for something egregious doesn’t justify or excuse their behavior, but allows us to let go of the pain and be free of the anger.  It’s good to have mercy on others when they’ve erred, and shake away anything holding us in place.  When we’ve been hurt or offended, when someone has done something to diminish us or harm us, we may forgive them knowing the act of forgiving them is for us, to release us from the pain.  Mercy is an act of compassion and kindness, and we can have mercy even when it’s difficult.  Everyone is responsible for every decision they make and mercy will never remove accountability or justice.  Even if we’ve been forgiven, we must answer for every choice.  Nobody is perfect and there will be times when we all make mistakes.  We can only control our own decisions and if we’ve been hurt, we can forgive and move on.  Life is long and we have unlimited experiences as we navigate forward.  We need not carry any pain along with us.  We can have mercy, let go, and trust that justice will prevail.

Revenge seems like a good idea when we’ve been hurt.  It seems fair to even to the score and inflict on someone else what they’ve done to us – or worse.  We all want life to be fair, and may try hard to make sure we’re always fair and appropriate with those around us.  If we’ve been treated badly, we may be tempted to strike back in an effort to make things right.  But lowering our standards to those who have done something wrong will only prove we can do what they’ve done.  It will never elevate us, or make us better.

Allowing those who choose badly to be accountable for what they’ve done instead of trying to punish them is appropriate.  When we’ve been hurt we can determine to continue to be the best we can be and live up to the personal standard we’ve set.  Our lives belong to us and what we do is our responsibility.  Instead of evening the score when we’ve been hurt, we can choose instead to overcome it.  There is nothing more important or powerful than our personal integrity.  Choosing well, despite the choices of others will bring us satisfaction and happiness.

Today if someone has hurt you or done something untoward or hateful to you, remember who you are and honor your personal standards.  You are capable of greatness and nothing is more important than your personal integrity.  Rise above contention and choose nobility.  Nothing can diminish you or hold you in place.  Move forward with confidence.  You are amazing and incredible, and there is great success ahead.

Standing Still

2 Feb

Everyone has dreams about how they want their life to go and what they want to happen.  If we want to accomplish something we can move forward toward the goal and with time and effort, achieve it.  It won’t always go the way we planned, and it won’t always be as easy as we hoped but anything we want can be accomplished.  If we’ve tried and failed at several goals we may begin to believe we are destined to stay where we are.  We may lose our confidence and courage to step out of what is familiar and try anything new.  After all, there is no way to know what could go wrong or how hard it might be, and if we don’t feel sure we can find our way we may simply choose instead to stand still.  There is nothing wrong with standing still if we’re taking time to plan our next move or if we need to think about the way forward.  But standing still and giving up on moving again will not make us happy.  We may feel comfortable in the same place knowing the scenery and the players, but it’s impossible to move forward or accomplish anything new by staying where we are.  Life is filled with possibilities and we can reach anything if we are willing to stretch.  Even if everything has gone wrong in the past, and even if nothing we’ve tried so far has worked, we can start again.  We have endless chances to succeed.  There will always be another door to open and another road to travel.  We can be brave enough to move ahead and find the way to any destination we desire, and make all our dreams come true.

There is comfort in familiarity.  We know where we are, we know what to expect, and we know who is involved.  It’s easy to figure out the next step when we’ve been on the same road for a while.  But familiar territory was once foreign to us and only after the passage of time has it become comfortable.  Every foreign situation is only foreign until we make it ours.  We can try new things understanding that in time they will become familiar and comfortable.  Stepping out of our routines and taking a chance on something new will refresh us and bring us experiences that will broaden our understanding and deepen our lives.

We cannot reach our full potential by repeating the same patterns day after day.  If we want to go far and develop our talents, and if we want to reach higher, we must be willing to break away from what we know and try something new.  It takes courage to step into the unknown not knowing what lies ahead, but we have all the courage we need to do anything.  There will never be a perfect moment to begin, and waiting for that to happen is the same as doing nothing.  We can start now, today, right where we are, and push forward onto a new road.  We can believe in our dreams and do what is needed to take control of them and make them ours.

Today if you’ve been standing still waiting for the perfect moment to try something new, let go and start moving forward.  Every dream you imagine can be yours.  Be confident.  You already have everything you need to succeed at anything you desire.  Go forward and reach further.  Open all the doors and you’ll find complete happiness.


26 Jan

We are in control of our lives and everything we do, where we go, and what we want to accomplish.  However, we don’t have any control over what others choose or how they impact us.  We live in a world with millions of other people all making decisions.  Sometimes their decisions can get in our way and stop us from moving forward.  When that happens we can look at our options and find another road.  If we’re deeply enmeshed in a situation and intensely desire a chosen outcome, when we’re stopped in our tracks, instead of changing direction we may wait, hoping things will happen on their own.  Maybe we have a job where we’ve been promised advancement but over time those promises haven’t materialized.  Or we’ve fallen in love with someone who says if we’re patient and wait they’ll come around and spend their lives with us, but nothing changes.  Reality isn’t always what we want it to be and if it’s hard to accept we might choose a fairytale instead.  We may cling to a situation hoping it will change even if there is no indication that will ever happen.  Hoping for a fairytale will never bring us lasting happiness.  Fairytales are not real.  They do not exist in the real world.  Holding onto something that will never happen holds us in place and prevents us from moving forward.  We deserve complete happiness.  We deserve the lives we want the most.  Spending our time wishing for something that will never be will only bring us sorrow.  We can look at everything openly and honestly, and choose the roads ahead that will take us where we want to go and bring us complete happiness.  Our lives belong to us and there is nothing strong enough to keep us from success.

It’s good to be patient and wait when we need to.  Patience is an excellent quality and we can wait as long as we like, but we need not be patient indefinitely.  If nothing changes we can evaluate how long we are willing to continue before moving forward toward a new goal.  Our lives are precious and we are always in control of our decisions.  We can choose happiness and continue forward at any time.

It’s possible to follow a dream we desire indefinitely.  We may convince ourselves if we just try a little harder or wait a little longer everything will work out.  Sometimes a little more patience or effort will push things forward.  If they don’t, we can look at the situation objectively, let go of any fairytales we’ve been holding onto, and decide how to move forward.  Fairytales are wonderful stories of make believe that have no bearing on the real world.  We can see our lives clearly and openly, and accept what is real.  True happiness is always available to us.  We can face everything truthfully and confidently, and have the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been hoping and waiting for something to happen but nothing has changed, think about what you want the most.  There are unlimited possibilities available for you to find complete happiness.  See everything clearly and understand what is real.  Move forward and you’ll make your dreams come true.  Nothing is out of reach.  Take control and get what you want.


14 Dec

There are endless opportunities in life and we are restricted only by our own decisions. We can think of our lives as an endless hallway of doors. Every door we walk through opens a new road ahead that takes us somewhere we’ve never been and teaches us something to take forward. How many doors we open is up to us. If we want a life filled with new experiences we may fearlessly open as many as possible. Conversely, if we want a predictable life that is comfortable in its sameness, we may stick with only a few. We can design our lives any way we choose and the choices we make will color our experiences. When there is something new we want to try, we may be nervous about starting out. We may fear we won’t be up to the task and will fail. We can’t tell the future but one thing is certain, if we don’t take the chance, we will never experience the outcome. There really is nothing to be lost by extending our boundaries and opening the doors before us. We are strong enough to endure any complication and resilient enough to take any criticism. All the roads are open to us and we may travel as many as we desire. There is no rush and we may take all the time we need to decide. Life is filled with opportunity. How many we choose is completely up to us, but the depth of understanding we gain by stretching beyond where we are is extremely valuable. We learn more about ourselves as we try new things. We understand our place in life as we extend our reach. Living fearlessly and boldly will bring us great blessings. There really isn’t anything we can’t do. We can open all the doors we desire and see where they will take us.

Tradition may be a powerful restrictor. When our personal traditions are very strong it may be more difficult to reach beyond them. If those close to us value the patterns held in place over time, there may be strong pushback if we decide we want something different. Traditions are wonderful and help us treasure important facets of our relationships but they may keep the doors around us closed. There is no door we cannot open and no road we cannot travel. We can hold fast to the ways and customs we value, and still create the lives we want the most.

It takes courage to reach beyond where we are and try something new. We don’t really know what’s behind a new door or where it will lead. Although there is no way at the beginning to see everything at the end of any road, we have everything necessary to move forward toward any destination we desire. All the courage we need is already inside us and we are smart enough, and strong enough to take on any challenge. The whole world is available to us. We can do anything. We can start something new, and success will follow.

Today if you’ve been thinking about trying something new but haven’t been sure, take the chance. There really isn’t anything you can’t do. Open all the doors you desire and step onto a new road. Fill your life with every experience you dream about. It’s all there for you. Take the first step today and see what lies ahead. The possibilities are endless.


12 Dec

We have a lot of different relationships and connections in our lives. They may be casual acquaintances we speak to once in a while and see only in passing, or very close and intimate. We value our close relationships and they may have deep impact on our lives. When we love someone and they make decisions that bring them unhappiness or negatively affect our relationship with them, we may hope they will change. We might talk to them about the situation and sincerely ask them to listen to our concerns. Sometimes they will and things improve, but other times we may hope in vain. It’s crushing to be in love with someone who says they love us in return but will not commit. It’s devastating to watch someone close addicted to substances that are hurting them but cannot stop. And it may be overwhelming to see someone we love make the same bad mistakes again and again, and suffer miserably. Although we may hope and pray for the changes needed to stop the suffering, the decisions of others belong to them alone. There is no way to control their choices even if they are destructive. We must evaluate the situation and determine what is best going forward. Sometimes we may stay in the relationship continuing to hope things will improve. Other times it may be important for us to go another way. We can never change anyone but ourselves. If we are in a relationship that is hurting us because of choices being made out of our control, we may choose another way forward.

We are responsible for our own happiness and there may be times when we must end a relationship in order to stay on the road that’s best for us. There is no way to carry anyone’s life but our own, and we may need to alter our course as we continue forward. They say hope springs eternal and in some ways, it does. We can always continue to hope someone will change and find success, but hope is not reality. It is only desire. Reality is what we’re living now. How we manage it will determine how happy we are. We can be loving and supportive without being part of a destructive game. We can allow others to make whatever choices they choose, and continue forward our own way.

We may be pressured to stay in a dysfunctional situation with the hope that if we do, it will improve. That might happen, but change is something that must come from within. If those we are hoping for do not want it, everything will remain the same. Staying in a damaging situation that does not change will hold us in place and prevent us from finding our own success. We can’t change anyone else no matter how much we desire or hope for it. Keeping our eyes focused clearly on what is real and what we want will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been hoping someone close to you would change to be happier or healthier, remember the change you seek cannot come from you. Be loving and kind, and supportive and caring, and continue forward. Your life is the only one you can control. Continue moving toward your goals and find success. Everything is there for you and you will reach it.