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Now What

9 Oct

We go through a lot of adjustments and developments in our lives. Nothing lasts forever and change is constant. If we’ve been working toward a big goal for a long time – a college degree, a promotion at work, a project that has required lots of time and energy – we get used to the demands it places on us and work our lives around what needs to be done. But eventually everything reaches a conclusion, and when we’ve accomplished what we set forth to do and everything has settled, there may be a lull while we try to figure out what’s next. When we’ve been so focused on one thing for a long time and we finally finish it, there will be a great sense of accomplishment but then the next day arrives and everything is different. Life is filled with opportunities and chances to do anything we like, but before we can start, we have to decide how we want to proceed. It sounds easy, and sometimes it is and we move on to what we want next. However, other times we may have no idea what our next steps should be. When we’ve been focused on one thing for a long time and that’s over, we may feel like there’s a hole in our lives. We want to fill it, but may have no idea how or with what. Now what? We know there are lots of options we can choose. We can take our time and think about what we want to do. Life is a journey made of endless destinations. By choosing where we want to go next, we can start forward and open new doors and find new experiences that will enrich us and move us ahead. Learning never ends and we can go anywhere and do anything we desire. We can push toward what we dream about and make it ours. Nothing is out of reach and we can have the lives we want.

Variety brings great interest into our lives. Having lots of different choices before us enables us to design our days any way we like. There will always be endless opportunities, but unlimited possibilities can make it hard to choose. We could do this, or do that, go this way, or turn around and go the other. Before we choose anything, we must first decide what we want and where we want to end up. Once that’s settled, we will more easily be able to plan the way forward, and find success.

Sometimes after achieving a great accomplishment we’ve worked hard for, there may be a lull in our thinking. We may want to stand still for a time before we begin something new. Big changes take time to adjust to. There is no rush to push forward. We can take the time we need to understand where we are, and then choose how we want to proceed. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we like. We don’t have to hurry to decide what we want next. Every goal is possible, and when we’re ready, we will achieve them.

Today if you’ve finally completed a big project or accomplished something you’ve pushed hard for, be happy in your success. Take the time you need to think about what you want to do. You don’t have to rush into the next project. Every option is there for you and will wait until you’re ready to begin. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Enjoy this moment. Every success is waiting and when you’re ready, you will reach it.

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Swimming Upstream

20 Sep

Everyone has their own opinions about how things should go and what life should be like. There is no one, perfect way to live and our interpretations are just as valid as anyone else’s. Some people like to put judgments on things and label other people by what they see and think they understand. If they don’t agree with choices we’re making or how we’re living our lives, they may mock or disparage us. We’re entitled to do anything we like and can express ourselves in ways that reflect who we are and what we want. We’re unique, and don’t have to follow anyone else’s ideas about how we should look or what we should do. But differences are hard for some to accept and they may criticize us when we don’t fit their model or ridicule the decisions we’re making. We can believe what they tell us and try to change to fit in, but our choices are important. We can always continue on the path we desire. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves, and every choice we make tells the world who we are and where we’re headed. Our lives are ours to design and we never have to modify them to go along with someone else. We deserve to make every decision confidently and with purpose. Swimming along with everyone else brings conformity but does not ensure happiness. If we want something different, we can turn around and swim upstream. Even if we’re the only ones going our way, we can continue on with confidence and determination. We are responsible for our own happiness. We can pursue any goal we desire, and have the lives we dream about. We don’t need permission or agreement to move forward, and every possibility is there for us. Nothing is too difficult or complicated for us to overcome, and every success is waiting. All options are possible and we will prevail.

Lots of people will give us their opinions and advice, whether we ask for them or not. We can listen to every perspective but the roads we take are ours to choose. We already know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve every single dream. Each decision we make will take us somewhere. If we choose the paths that lead to the destinations we most desire, we’ll find great satisfaction and happiness.

It’s easy to follow someone else’s lead. If we let others make decisions about our lives and they don’t work out, we’re not to blame. However, letting others design our lives will never take us where we want to go or bring lasting fulfillment. We have everything we need to create the lives we want, and have all the courage and wisdom necessary to go anywhere we desire. We can be confident and step forward with clarity and determination. Every blessing is possible and we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been going along with everyone else because it’s easier and you don’t want to rock the boat, remember your dreams and desires are important. You deserve complete happiness. Decide what you want most and then step forward toward the goal. You are amazing and strong, and nothing can hold you in place. All your dreams are possible and you can have the life you desire. Be confident. Nothing is out of reach, and you will succeed.

Long Lasting

21 Aug

We don’t live in a vacuum and there is no way to isolate any choice we make or action we take, and keep it from moving toward something else. One thing always leads to another and everything we do takes us somewhere. Sometimes we can see where we’ll end up, and other times it’s a mystery. One thing is certain, no matter what we do, the influences of life around us and the decisions being made by others will affect what happens next. If we take time to see the possible results of our decisions before we make them instead of blindly blundering through, we’ll have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. Some decisions are insignificant and have little bearing on us or what we want to accomplish, but others carry a lot of weight and if we choose poorly, after we make them, may have long lasting affects on our lives. They may completely alter the road ahead and cause us all kinds of problems and complications as we struggle to move forward. When we’re in the middle of a turbulent situation and there is a lot of confusion, we may choose something quickly to alleviate our discomfort. We may get temporary relief from the frustration, but then find we’re on the wrong road going the wrong way. Once we’ve altered our course it may be difficult to correct our direction and get back to where we want to be. The affects of our decisions can have long lasting impact on our lives. We are intelligent and wise, and can make excellent decisions, even in times of stress. We can step back and look at everything objectively, consider every possibility, and choose the best options going forward. Every answer we need is there for us and if we take our time, we will reach every destination we desire. We already know what we want. With patience and consideration, we can make successful choices that will bring it to us.

Life is an adventure and there are endless experiences possible. We can do anything but if we let our lives just roll on with no thought or consideration for where they will take us, we may end up somewhere we don’t want to go. If we don’t control our lives, and simply do what others suggest, we’ll end up with a life designed by someone else. Happiness comes from doing what is most important to us and making choices that take us where we want to go. We deserve complete happiness, and by taking control of our decisions, and moving toward the goals we desire, we will have it.

There is no way to move backward or go back in time to change something that isn’t working. We are exactly where our choices have taken us. If we aren’t happy, we can change direction and if the road we’re on isn’t working or the decisions we made aren’t taking us where we want to go, we can stop and redirect the way forward. We can have the lives we dream about by carefully choosing the steps that will take us to it. Every goal is in reach and we can do anything, and go anywhere we desire.

Today if you’ve made a decision that isn’t taking you toward the destinations you want, change direction and start again. Choose the roads that will take you forward. Nothing can keep you from success. Every dream is possible and you will prevail. Step forward and be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and you will win.

Defining

31 Jul

People come in and out of our lives constantly. Sometimes we make connections that last only a brief time, and sometimes we have lifelong relationships. No matter how many attributes we may share, we are all unique and define our lives by the choices we make. When we care about someone, their influence over us may be great. We want to make them happy so there may be times when we agree to do something we don’t really want to do. That may not be a problem for inconsequential decisions – where to have dinner, what movie to see, or what to do over the weekend. However, if they want us to do things that impact our lives negatively, or change our direction toward something we don’t want, and we go along, we may end up somewhere we never wanted to go. It’s not always easy to stand up for our own decisions when someone we love is pressuring us to go along with theirs. We can always agree to anything and do what everyone else thinks we should, leaving our personal choices behind. But it’s important to remember that when we choose the first step on a path, we are also choosing the last. If we go along with someone else’s decision in the beginning, we will end up at the destination they’ve chosen. Our lives are important and how we define them is up to us. We can have the lives we want the most, but we must make the decisions necessary to achieve them. Nobody will ever know more about what’s important to us than we do. We can choose our own roads to travel. If everyone agrees it may be easier, but even if they don’t, we can move forward with confidence toward any destination we desire. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. Each step we take can move us closer to the lives we dream about.

Everyone has opinions about everything. Someone may think they have better ideas about how we should live than we do, and share them with us. They may say anything they like, but we never have to take any advice we don’t want. We can listen patiently and thank them for their input, and then choose our own way forward. There is no one perfect way to live life. We can do things our way, and go to the destinations we most desire. Expressing our own individuality and making our own choices will bring us great reward and satisfaction.

When we’re young we learn a lot about life from our families. The patterns we grow up with are comfortable and familiar. As we become adults, we may choose to adopt those same patterns in our lives, or we may decide to go another way. We don’t have to keep doing something just because we’ve done it that way in the past. There are unlimited versions and variety to every experience. If we want to change something, we can. Our lives can represent who we are individually, and sharing our unique gifts will bring richness and variation to the world around us.

Today if you’ve been going along with those you care about and letting go of what you want the most, remember your influence is valuable. Define your life by making choices that express your individuality. Show us who you are. You bring richness and goodness to the world. We’re all blessed because you are here.

Best Revenge

26 Jul

There are all kinds of people in the world and although many of them are kind and considerate, we may find ourselves interacting with someone who is mean or cruel, who does something that hurts us or impacts us negatively. We may be angry and desire revenge, which is always an option, but seeking revenge will only take up a lot of our time and energy, and will never move us forward. The best way to get back at someone who has purposely made our lives difficult, is to live well and move forward with grace and dignity. Nothing bothers mean, selfish people more than to see those around them succeed. If we want the best revenge, we can live with strength and confidence. We are far more valuable than any petty, vengeful action we could take, and choosing to express our incredible worth by keeping our standards high will ennoble us, and set an excellent example for those around us. There will always be unhappy people who want to bring those around them down and make them feel small. We don’t have to take the bait. We can stand strong and continue to reach out in kindness and charity, even to those who don’t deserve it. The old saying, “The best revenge is living well,” is true. Nothing can compare to a life well lived, filled with goodness and clarity. Our lives are ours to design, and no matter what happens or what others may do, we can always make the best choices possible. It takes two to fight and when conflict arises, we can choose grace and patience, and keep our composure. We have everything we need to prevail in any situation. We are worth more than we can imagine. Every blessing is possible, and with patience and restraint, we will find every success.

It’s not easy to stay calm and think clearly when we feel like hitting back, and thrashing someone causing us grief. But we’re in control of our lives, and everything we do. We can stand still, take a deep breath and allow ourselves time to keep our composure, objectively see the situation, and decide on the best way forward. We can be our own best friend and give ourselves every advantage by carefully choosing the best options before us and maintaining our self-control.

Some people find satisfaction in creating turmoil and conflict, and enjoy stirring things up and getting others agitated and confused. They like to tease and torment, and try to gin up anxiety and distress. It’s difficult to deal with them, and if we fall into their trap, may find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. We can always leave any situation that makes us uncomfortable. We can find happiness by choosing wisely, and becoming the people we most want to be.

Today if you’re angry because of something someone has done and are thinking of ways to get back at them, before you decide, consider what’s best for you. Your life is important and valuable, and every choice you make will take you somewhere. Make choices that will bring you increased happiness and peace. Be wise and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every blessing is there for you, and you will find great success. The whole world is blessed because you are here. You are amazing.

Terminal

9 Jul

People make all kinds of decisions as they go through their lives. If the choices are inconsequential, chances are others won’t be impacted. But if they are serious, and far reaching, may cause heartburn and difficulty for those around them. We’re all more connected to each other than we may realize. If we choose something that affects not only our lives, but the lives of others, it may alter our relationships with them. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but if we only see ourselves as we move ahead, our decisions may cause problems for others. We aren’t responsible for anyone else’s life but our own, but every step we take and every decision we make will take us somewhere. If we do something that causes serious pain or harm to those around us, we may terminally break our connection with them. It’s difficult to stay involved with someone who brings trouble into our lives. It may take considerable effort and time to look at all the possibilities that may arise when making a big decision. If we don’t take the time we need to ensure we’re taking the best steps forward and instead jump to the easiest possible option, we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. Our relationships are important and the connections we build help us achieve our goals. Burning bridges behind us because we carelessly chose the easiest path ahead can only work against us. We are wise enough to choose well and can make excellent decisions. We can take our time, weigh all the options before us, and move forward with confidence, preserving the network we’ve built and ensuring the best outcomes. Every possibility is there for us and with patience and determination we can find the best road ahead.

Some people fly by the seat of their pants. They make snap decisions without taking time to see what may happen after the choice has been made. If they end up in a mess – which may often be the case – they may blame those around them or influences that they couldn’t control. We’re all responsible for every choice we make. There is no way to push accountability onto someone else. Every destination we desire is possible and we have everything we need to choose the best road forward.

There may be times when we must choose something that will hurt someone else. Sometimes there are no easy answers to the questions before us. If we evaluate all the options and choose the best possible scenario, we can manage any collateral damage that may occur. We can reach out and help those whose lives are impacted negatively, and help them work through any complications that arise. Life can be complex and sometimes things don’t come easily. But we are strong and capable, and can manage any situation we must.

Today if you’ve been hurt by someone else’s decision and can’t find the way forward, take the time you need to evaluate all the options possible. You can achieve anything you desire. There are many roads to every destination, and you can chart a new course. Nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is possible and you will prevail.

Walking Away

20 Jun

Every step we take and every choice we make changes us in some way. Change is constant and what we wanted to do in the past may revise as we move on to something else. Nothing ever stays the same indefinitely and we can turn and modify our direction whenever we choose. There may be times when we’re involved with something or someone and as we interact with them, our feelings become different. Perhaps we’re no longer interested in pursuing a particular goal, or have decided to end or modify a personal relationship. We grow as we experience new things and with each step, learn something new. It’s a normal and common development. What was fascinating and captivating in the past may no longer interest us, and the things we liked before may become dull. We can always adjust our course and go in a new direction. Walking away from one thing and onto another will happen thousands of times in our lives. If we want to try something new, we can change our minds and choose a different course. We can end the chapter, close the book, and walk away. Every option is possible and we can open new doors and travel new roads at any time. There are unlimited opportunities available to us. We never have to continue doing anything we don’t want, or stay on the same road just because that’s where we are. We can step away, try new things and explore fresh ideas. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. We can have the lives we desire, make every dream a reality and feel absolutely fulfilled and satisfied. Complete happiness is possible and by choosing what we want we will find it.

Sometimes things look different once we get closer to them. What seemed like a good idea when we started out may turn into something else, and we can step away if we find we aren’t headed where we want to go. Nobody gets frozen in place unless they decide to stand still. We’re always in control of what we do and can alter our course at any time. We’re in command of our personal destiny and every choice can move us closer to where we want to be. We decide how our lives will go and what we’ll experience. All options are there for us and with wisdom and courage, we can do everything we desire, and have the lives we dream about.

We can go anywhere, and do anything but first we must decide what we want. Without a destination in mind, we may stumble along going this way and that, circling back a time or two, and end up exactly where we started. Endless choices mean nothing if we don’t take a step forward and decide where we’re headed. There are amazing and incredible things we can accomplish and with determination and focus, we can do them all. Our lives are in our control and we can live them any way we desire.

Today if you’ve changed your mind about something you’re doing, decide what you want and where you want to go. Make a plan to move forward and take the first step in a new direction. You are powerful and strong and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Choose your next move and create the life you want the most. Every dream is possible and you can make them all come true.