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The Endless Wait

10 Nov

There are lots of people around us and we may develop many different types of relationships. If we want them to be strong and healthy, we must be willing to invest time and attention in them. Since we’re all different, what that looks like may be very different from one person to the next. Some families are very connected and stay intensely involved with each other. Other families are more independent and don’t include everyone in their business. Although they are very different, it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. There are endless ways to express our attachments. We all have ideas about how things should go and if we get intimately involved with someone whose ideas about how to manage our connection is different than our own, there may be complications. If we want to move the relationship forward, and the other person says they want the same thing, but keep putting us off, it may be confusing. We can listen to their promises, and hope for things to change, but if all we do is wait and nothing happens, we may need to re-evaluate what we’re doing. Words are cheap and without action, they mean nothing. All the promises in the world are worthless if there is no follow through. We can wait as long as we like for things to develop, but our lives belong to us and we are in control of what we do. We don’t have to remain in place any longer than we’re comfortable. If we want something different or something more, and the other party isn’t responding, we can look at all our options and change direction. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been connected to them. If what they’re doing isn’t working, we can move on. We deserve complete happiness and by keeping our eyes open and choosing the road ahead we most desire, we can achieve it.

Procrastination is a deadly behavior trait that can quickly kill a relationship. We always do what we want to do most, and when we push something aside and leave it undone, it’s an indication that it’s not important to us. If we ignore our relationship responsibilities or promises, our connection will surely suffer. It’s demeaning and insulting to constantly be promised something that never materializes. Instead of going along to keep the peace, it’s far better to state our true intentions and be as honest as possible. If we don’t want to or don’t intend to do something, there is no need to pretend otherwise.

It’s hard to wait for something we really want. If the goal is something we can achieve on our own, we can make an effective plan and set forth to achieve it, but if it involves the participation of someone else, all bets are off. Someone may agree to doing something just to prevent contention, when they have no intention of complying. Who we are is defined by what we do. If we continually commit to things and don’t follow through, others will learn we cannot be trusted. There is greatness in us, and by being completely honest and keeping our word, we will build great connections and strong relationships that will move us closer to the success we desire.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to change for a while, remember you are in control of your life. There is no need to wait longer than you are comfortable. Look at everything objectively and openly, and decide how you want to proceed. Your life is precious and valuable and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and choose the road ahead that will take you to the destinations you most desire. Everything is possible if you’re willing to do what is needed to make it yours. Be confident. There is great happiness and success waiting and you will reach it.

Someone Else

19 Oct

Everyone is unique and we are all different in our own ways. We have our own dreams and desires, and our own opinions about how things should go and what should happen. If we’re confident and self-directed, we will make whatever plans we want and move toward the goals we want to achieve. By keeping our eyes on the road ahead, chances are we’ll accomplish much. But not everyone is sure about what they want or where they’re going. If we don’t know how we want to proceed, and see someone who seems to have everything together, we may decide to follow them. We may emulate the things they do, learn to talk like them and even dress like them in an attempt to feel connected and moving forward. It’s helpful to watch successful people and learn about how they get things done, but that doesn’t mean we need to be just like them in order to succeed as well. We all have specific and individual gifts to offer. Trying to be someone else will never bring us complete satisfaction or true success. We don’t have to be a carbon copy of anyone in order to reach our goals. We already have everything we need to prevail, and by trusting ourselves and choosing our own paths, we can reach any destination we desire. Every answer we need is there for us, and with clarity and confidence nothing is out of reach.

We are constantly bombarded with advertisements that tell us if we do one thing or another, act a certain way, dress like them, or buy what they are selling, we will find great success and happiness. The people in the ads are always beautiful and happy, and the promise is that if we do whatever it is they’re touting we’ll be beautiful and happy too. There is no one perfect way to live life, and endless roads to every destination. We know who we are and what we want to bring the success and happiness we desire. By choosing our own road and doing things our own way, we will reach every success.

Some people think they have all the answers. If they are loud or powerful, they may try to convince us to do what they say. We can do anything we like, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We can be exactly who we are and move forward sure of success. There are endless roads ahead, and with determination and patience, we will find the one that works best for us, and proceed until we reach the goal.

Today if you’ve been copying someone else trying to reach success, remember there is greatness in you. You are amazing and highly capable. Make your own plans and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal with confidence. Every single destination is waiting for you, and by keeping your eyes focused ahead, you will achieve great success.

Going Under

17 Aug

Our lives are a reflection of the decisions we make. If we are paying attention, and purposely moving toward the goals we most desire, we will accomplish them and find great satisfaction. If we’re just going through the motions and following someone else, the odds of being happy are diminished. We are in control of every decision we make and can decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. However, if we lack confidence or are unsure that we can find our own way, we may attach ourselves to someone else and instead of choosing our own path, simply mimic what they are doing. If they turn right, so will we.  If they stop and choose something else, we’ll be right behind them. That may work out if the person we’re following is choosing wisely and is noble and honest. If they are not, and we don’t take the time to think before we act, we may find ourselves in difficult and complicated situations we never wanted. If we don’t know how to swim and try to save a drowning man, we may go under with them simply because we don’t have the skills to keep us both afloat. The same is true if we attach ourselves to someone who is unscrupulous and makes bad decisions. We will never be able to stay above the fray if we blindly follow where they lead. It’s fine to have a role model or mentor and they may bring great benefit to our lives, but in the end, every decision we make is our responsibility. There is no escaping the results of our choices. If we lack information, we can get it. If we need more skills to figure out the way ahead, we can gain them. Every success is possible but it’s up to us to make them ours. Nothing is out of reach and we have all the wisdom and courage we need to do whatever we desire.

We may face a time when someone more powerful than we are asks us to forsake a relationship because it’s inconvenient for them or they want all our attention. If the relationship we’re asked to give up is not important to us or pulls us from the roads we want to travel, we may walk away. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like, but nobody knows what will happen next, and the connections we sacrifice today may become crucial in the future. Instead of severing ties, we can modify our lives to preserve the relationships we’ve built and still move forward toward the goal.

Some people need a lot of support and struggle to find their way forward. They may lean on us for constant help and rely on us to save them when things go wrong. Constantly bailing someone else out will never move us forward. We can be helpful and kind, but we don’t have to do everything we’re asked to do. We can give advice and then let others discover their own answers. We know what we want and with clarity and focus, we can find the road ahead and reach every destination.

Today if you’ve been following someone else and are not headed in the direction you want to travel, stop and think about what you want the most. You already possess everything you need to go anywhere and do anything. You are intelligent and highly capable and nobody knows you better than you know yourself. Decide what you want and then take the first step forward. Every dream is possible and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and you will win.

Stepping Away

8 Aug

We all determine our own standards and how we’ll live our lives. Some people take a very strict view of ethics, morality and behavior expressions, and others are more fluid depending on the situation. No matter how we’ve chosen to do things, there may come a time when due to circumstances around us or something we desire, we may choose to step away from our own rules. Maybe there is something we really want and getting it will mean doing something unethical or even illegal. Or a friend or loved one may ask us, just this once, to do something questionable so they can get what they want. The temptation may be great to set aside our standards, or look the other way when something untoward is going on. We may think it’s just this once, and we’ll hold fast to our standards again once this issue is resolved. It’s possible to knowingly make a bad choice just once, but if we get away with it and gain the prize we’re seeking, it may be enough encouragement for us to think we can do it again. If we continue to ignore the standards we previously held close, it won’t be long before we’re living a different kind of life. Lying the first time may be hard, but everything gets easier with practice. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but every choice we make defines who we are. Slipping under the radar and cheating to get to the goal may give us immediate gratification, but the cost to our personal integrity will be great. Nothing brings greater trust and good will than complete honesty in all our dealings. We can make excellent choices and determine where we’ll go. Every choice belongs to us, and with careful consideration and wisdom, we will find the best way forward.

Some people have a very loose idea of personal honesty. They believe they are honest enough, even though they slip into the movie theater behind someone else without paying, or lie when they need to get around something they don’t want to do. If we question them on it, they may say we’re “too honest” and let it go. Honesty does not have a sliding scale. We’re either honest or we’re not. Situations and circumstances may make the best choices more difficult but they do not change what is right. We know who we are and what we want. We deserve the very best of everything and by choosing wisely in every instance, we can achieve it.

There are billions of people on the planet and we’re all far more connected than we may realize. People watch us and notice the decisions we make. If we are honest and clear in our interactions, they will trust us. Gaining the trust of others allows us to build strong and valuable connections which can pave the way forward. Nobody wants to deal with someone who is unpredictable and dishonest. Every choice we make shows the world who we are, and if we’re mindful and aware of each decision, our lives will be blessed and we’ll reach every desired destination. 

Today if you’re tempted to do something questionable because it will get you what you want, remember who you are. You have so much to offer and there is greatness in you. Honor your standards and make choices with integrity and wisdom. Pave the road ahead by choosing well, and you will find great happiness. You are amazing and every success is waiting. Step forward with confidence and clarity, and you will reach the prize.

One Moment

29 Jul

Life is filled with unexpected situations. We never know what will happen next, and we may be surprised by something that suddenly challenges and tests us. There may be an uncomfortable ethical issue that arises out of nowhere and we have to choose between being completely honest or going along with something we don’t agree with. We may face a test of our strength as problem after problem arises and we’re underwater trying to find the way out. Nobody can read the future and no matter how hard we try to make excellent decisions, moments of difficulty will come. What we do when they show up will determine what happens as we move forward. If the issue is ethical and we fold because someone more powerful than us demands it, we may be very disappointed in ourselves and our lack of courage. If the road ahead gets very hard and we give up and let go of our goals because we don’t want to walk through the fire, we will never reach the destinations we most desire. One moment, one decision, can change the course or our lives but all is not lost. No matter what’s happened already or what we’ve done, we can go back and start again. We may not be able to recreate the exact situation or change the outcome of a bad decision, but we can amend our actions moving forward and ensure that what we’re doing matches who we really are. Life can be complicated and hard, and we’ll all face times of uncertainty and worry. But we are stronger and more powerful than we imagine, and are in control of everything we do. We don’t have to bend to bullying, and we don’t have to go along. We’re entitled to our own opinions and decisions, and with clarity and wisdom, will choose the right path.

Bad decisions can have serious consequences. If we do something that moves us forward but betrays our company or our associates, we may never be able to regain their trust. If we lie and cheat on a lover, we may lose the relationship. Everything we do brings some sort of result, and what that is depends on what we’ve done. If we only see ourselves and are only concerned with our own success, we may betray everyone in our path and walk over them to win. We can do anything we like, but our connections with others are important. If we pave the road ahead with deception and distrust, it will be impossible to build good relationships and alliances as we move ahead. We may believe we don’t need them, and maybe we don’t, but life has a way of looping around and we may find at some point the very bridge we need is one we’ve already burned.

Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some point. If we make a bad choice or choose the wrong road we may get stuck for a time as we try to figure out how to correct our course. Nothing is permanent and everything can be changed, but whatever we’ve done may color opportunities until we’re able to reset and rebuild. There is greatness in all of us. If we lose our way, we can find it again. If we make a wrong turn, we can stop and start over. Nothing is out of reach if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. Every single goal is possible and we can reach them all.

Today remember that mistakes never define who we are. If you’re on the wrong road, you can turn around and begin again. No matter what’s happened, every success is still possible. Think about what you really want, trust yourself and start again. You are wise and capable, and nothing is too far away or too difficult for you to reach. Be strong and step forward. Every blessing awaits, and you will claim them all.