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Defining

31 Jul

People come in and out of our lives constantly. Sometimes we make connections that last only a brief time, and sometimes we have lifelong relationships. No matter how many attributes we may share, we are all unique and define our lives by the choices we make. When we care about someone, their influence over us may be great. We want to make them happy so there may be times when we agree to do something we don’t really want to do. That may not be a problem for inconsequential decisions – where to have dinner, what movie to see, or what to do over the weekend. However, if they want us to do things that impact our lives negatively, or change our direction toward something we don’t want, and we go along, we may end up somewhere we never wanted to go. It’s not always easy to stand up for our own decisions when someone we love is pressuring us to go along with theirs. We can always agree to anything and do what everyone else thinks we should, leaving our personal choices behind. But it’s important to remember that when we choose the first step on a path, we are also choosing the last. If we go along with someone else’s decision in the beginning, we will end up at the destination they’ve chosen. Our lives are important and how we define them is up to us. We can have the lives we want the most, but we must make the decisions necessary to achieve them. Nobody will ever know more about what’s important to us than we do. We can choose our own roads to travel. If everyone agrees it may be easier, but even if they don’t, we can move forward with confidence toward any destination we desire. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. Each step we take can move us closer to the lives we dream about.

Everyone has opinions about everything. Someone may think they have better ideas about how we should live than we do, and share them with us. They may say anything they like, but we never have to take any advice we don’t want. We can listen patiently and thank them for their input, and then choose our own way forward. There is no one perfect way to live life. We can do things our way, and go to the destinations we most desire. Expressing our own individuality and making our own choices will bring us great reward and satisfaction.

When we’re young we learn a lot about life from our families. The patterns we grow up with are comfortable and familiar. As we become adults, we may choose to adopt those same patterns in our lives, or we may decide to go another way. We don’t have to keep doing something just because we’ve done it that way in the past. There are unlimited versions and variety to every experience. If we want to change something, we can. Our lives can represent who we are individually, and sharing our unique gifts will bring richness and variation to the world around us.

Today if you’ve been going along with those you care about and letting go of what you want the most, remember your influence is valuable. Define your life by making choices that express your individuality. Show us who you are. You bring richness and goodness to the world. We’re all blessed because you are here.

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Best Revenge

26 Jul

There are all kinds of people in the world and although many of them are kind and considerate, we may find ourselves interacting with someone who is mean or cruel, who does something that hurts us or impacts us negatively. We may be angry and desire revenge, which is always an option, but seeking revenge will only take up a lot of our time and energy, and will never move us forward. The best way to get back at someone who has purposely made our lives difficult, is to live well and move forward with grace and dignity. Nothing bothers mean, selfish people more than to see those around them succeed. If we want the best revenge, we can live with strength and confidence. We are far more valuable than any petty, vengeful action we could take, and choosing to express our incredible worth by keeping our standards high will ennoble us, and set an excellent example for those around us. There will always be unhappy people who want to bring those around them down and make them feel small. We don’t have to take the bait. We can stand strong and continue to reach out in kindness and charity, even to those who don’t deserve it. The old saying, “The best revenge is living well,” is true. Nothing can compare to a life well lived, filled with goodness and clarity. Our lives are ours to design, and no matter what happens or what others may do, we can always make the best choices possible. It takes two to fight and when conflict arises, we can choose grace and patience, and keep our composure. We have everything we need to prevail in any situation. We are worth more than we can imagine. Every blessing is possible, and with patience and restraint, we will find every success.

It’s not easy to stay calm and think clearly when we feel like hitting back, and thrashing someone causing us grief. But we’re in control of our lives, and everything we do. We can stand still, take a deep breath and allow ourselves time to keep our composure, objectively see the situation, and decide on the best way forward. We can be our own best friend and give ourselves every advantage by carefully choosing the best options before us and maintaining our self-control.

Some people find satisfaction in creating turmoil and conflict, and enjoy stirring things up and getting others agitated and confused. They like to tease and torment, and try to gin up anxiety and distress. It’s difficult to deal with them, and if we fall into their trap, may find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. We can always leave any situation that makes us uncomfortable. We can find happiness by choosing wisely, and becoming the people we most want to be.

Today if you’re angry because of something someone has done and are thinking of ways to get back at them, before you decide, consider what’s best for you. Your life is important and valuable, and every choice you make will take you somewhere. Make choices that will bring you increased happiness and peace. Be wise and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every blessing is there for you, and you will find great success. The whole world is blessed because you are here. You are amazing.

Terminal

9 Jul

People make all kinds of decisions as they go through their lives. If the choices are inconsequential, chances are others won’t be impacted. But if they are serious, and far reaching, may cause heartburn and difficulty for those around them. We’re all more connected to each other than we may realize. If we choose something that affects not only our lives, but the lives of others, it may alter our relationships with them. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but if we only see ourselves as we move ahead, our decisions may cause problems for others. We aren’t responsible for anyone else’s life but our own, but every step we take and every decision we make will take us somewhere. If we do something that causes serious pain or harm to those around us, we may terminally break our connection with them. It’s difficult to stay involved with someone who brings trouble into our lives. It may take considerable effort and time to look at all the possibilities that may arise when making a big decision. If we don’t take the time we need to ensure we’re taking the best steps forward and instead jump to the easiest possible option, we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. Our relationships are important and the connections we build help us achieve our goals. Burning bridges behind us because we carelessly chose the easiest path ahead can only work against us. We are wise enough to choose well and can make excellent decisions. We can take our time, weigh all the options before us, and move forward with confidence, preserving the network we’ve built and ensuring the best outcomes. Every possibility is there for us and with patience and determination we can find the best road ahead.

Some people fly by the seat of their pants. They make snap decisions without taking time to see what may happen after the choice has been made. If they end up in a mess – which may often be the case – they may blame those around them or influences that they couldn’t control. We’re all responsible for every choice we make. There is no way to push accountability onto someone else. Every destination we desire is possible and we have everything we need to choose the best road forward.

There may be times when we must choose something that will hurt someone else. Sometimes there are no easy answers to the questions before us. If we evaluate all the options and choose the best possible scenario, we can manage any collateral damage that may occur. We can reach out and help those whose lives are impacted negatively, and help them work through any complications that arise. Life can be complex and sometimes things don’t come easily. But we are strong and capable, and can manage any situation we must.

Today if you’ve been hurt by someone else’s decision and can’t find the way forward, take the time you need to evaluate all the options possible. You can achieve anything you desire. There are many roads to every destination, and you can chart a new course. Nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is possible and you will prevail.

Walking Away

20 Jun

Every step we take and every choice we make changes us in some way. Change is constant and what we wanted to do in the past may revise as we move on to something else. Nothing ever stays the same indefinitely and we can turn and modify our direction whenever we choose. There may be times when we’re involved with something or someone and as we interact with them, our feelings become different. Perhaps we’re no longer interested in pursuing a particular goal, or have decided to end or modify a personal relationship. We grow as we experience new things and with each step, learn something new. It’s a normal and common development. What was fascinating and captivating in the past may no longer interest us, and the things we liked before may become dull. We can always adjust our course and go in a new direction. Walking away from one thing and onto another will happen thousands of times in our lives. If we want to try something new, we can change our minds and choose a different course. We can end the chapter, close the book, and walk away. Every option is possible and we can open new doors and travel new roads at any time. There are unlimited opportunities available to us. We never have to continue doing anything we don’t want, or stay on the same road just because that’s where we are. We can step away, try new things and explore fresh ideas. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. We can have the lives we desire, make every dream a reality and feel absolutely fulfilled and satisfied. Complete happiness is possible and by choosing what we want we will find it.

Sometimes things look different once we get closer to them. What seemed like a good idea when we started out may turn into something else, and we can step away if we find we aren’t headed where we want to go. Nobody gets frozen in place unless they decide to stand still. We’re always in control of what we do and can alter our course at any time. We’re in command of our personal destiny and every choice can move us closer to where we want to be. We decide how our lives will go and what we’ll experience. All options are there for us and with wisdom and courage, we can do everything we desire, and have the lives we dream about.

We can go anywhere, and do anything but first we must decide what we want. Without a destination in mind, we may stumble along going this way and that, circling back a time or two, and end up exactly where we started. Endless choices mean nothing if we don’t take a step forward and decide where we’re headed. There are amazing and incredible things we can accomplish and with determination and focus, we can do them all. Our lives are in our control and we can live them any way we desire.

Today if you’ve changed your mind about something you’re doing, decide what you want and where you want to go. Make a plan to move forward and take the first step in a new direction. You are powerful and strong and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Choose your next move and create the life you want the most. Every dream is possible and you can make them all come true.

Putting In

12 Jun

Life is complex and there are unlimited opportunities all around us. The options for things we can do or places to go are endless, and we’re only constrained by the choices we make. Like a huge river flowing past, life gives us the chance to jump in and see where it takes us, or chart a course to get to one specific destination. A river can be a powerful, moving force, but it can’t take us anywhere if we sit on the shore and merely watch it flow by. We can observe others making choices, choosing where they’ll go, and rejoice with them when they reach their destinations, but if we remain on the sidelines, our situation will not change. Watching life go by isn’t the same as fully living it. While it’s rewarding to watch others achieve goals, it cannot compare to the satisfaction we feel when we achieve our own. We can do amazing things, go to incredible places, and accomplish anything we desire, but first we have to put our boat into the water and begin. We have to be willing to take a chance that we’ll find our way through the current, and be able to navigate around any rocks ahead. We already possess everything we need to do whatever we desire. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we’re willing to do what’s necessary to achieve it. Leaving the safety of the shore and taking a chance on the journey ahead requires courage, and we have all the courage we need. We can open new doors and learn new skills that will help us find success. There may be rough waters ahead, but we’re strong enough to get through them. We have everything necessary to push against the rapids and reach our destination, no matter how difficult or far away. Every blessing is possible and nothing is beyond our grasp. We can begin our journey, and make our dreams come true.

It’s fun to daydream about all the things we’d like to do and the places we want to see. There are endless options and scenarios possible, and thinking about what we want to do is helpful when we’re making plans. However, if all we do is imagine how our lives could be, nothing will change. We can go through the motions and stick to our routines and we’ll be successful in getting things done. But routines can only give us the same thing every day. If we want to experience everything possible, we must be willing to step away from what we know, and push toward something new.

It takes courage to step onto an unknown road. Unseen, foreign territory can be intimidating, and we may feel unsure as we move forward. But as we learn about new things, they become familiar and we make them ours. Step by step, we learn as we go, and in time can reach any destination we desire. The whole world is there for us and we can experience anything and go anywhere. We can make all our dreams a reality and live the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been standing back and watching others reach their goals, think about what you want the most. Decide where you want to go, and then take the first step forward. You are wise enough and brave enough to do anything you desire. Nothing is too far or too difficult for you to manage. Every destination is possible and you have everything you need to succeed. Be confident. You can make your dreams come true.

Paying Attention

4 Jun

There’s a lot going on around us all the time. There are people constantly coming in and going out of our lives, and endless things to grab our attention and distract us. It’s easy to get caught up in the action and lose track of what we’re doing or where we’re headed. People and things interrupt us, others ask questions or need our input, and we may get sidetracked until we forget where we were. There’s no way to keep the world out of our lives completely, and as we push ahead if there’s a lot going on, our own personal progress may get stalled. We might get involved in what others are doing, or set our goals aside so we can help with something specific. It’s good to interact with those around us and we learn a lot by being part of other people’s lives. But the destinations we want to reach are important and we can carefully and judiciously monitor our time so that while we’re sharing it with others, we still have enough to do what we want for ourselves. By paying attention to our own personal needs as well as those around us, we’ll find great success and satisfaction. We can’t do everything at the same time, but we can plan effectively to make sure what’s most important gets our energy and focus. Our lives are ours to design and every decision we make determines what we’ll accomplish and where we’ll go. If we keep our eyes on the goals ahead, even if we step away for a time, we’ll reach them. Every destination is possible. We can plan our time effectively, prioritize what’s most important, and succeed. Nothing is too complex for us to manage, and with patience and wisdom we can make every dream a reality.

When we’re struggling to find our way forward, and there are many details we need to work out, the distractions around us may become invasive and irritating. If there’s a lot of noise and activity, it can be hard to focus on what we’re doing. We’re never frozen in place, and if where we are isn’t working, we can move to a location that is more amenable and helpful for us. Instead of complaining, we can take action. We’re always in control of our lives and can do what is needed to achieve our goals.

Nobody lives in Nirvana and we all suffer from time to time. As we’re pushing ahead, we may notice someone near us having a problem. Our goals are important but offering to help when needed won’t prevent us from reaching success. We develop great compassion and understanding as we assist others. Our lives are enriched and we understand our part in the big picture. We’re all more connected than we may realize and reaching out to help someone else will always embellish us and move us forward.

Today decide how you want to proceed and pay attention to what’s going on around you. You can focus on the goals you want to achieve and actively move forward, or set your project aside and work with others for now. Everything you want to accomplish is possible and with planning and determination you can go anywhere and do anything. Be in control and step ahead with confidence and courage. Every dream is possible and you will make them yours.

Meaning It

31 May

We can tell people all kinds of things about ourselves, use any positive adjective we like to describe us and create any image we desire. We can say anything but who we are is reflected not in what we say, but in what we do. Words are cheap and easily manipulated to express ideas that may or may not be true, but actions show our real character and display to the world what is real. If we’re honest about ourselves, our actions will reflect what we’ve expressed. If not, another reality will show itself. There is no way to gain the trust of others if we’re insincere or untruthful. If we mean what we say and follow through on our promises, people will learn we are trustworthy and that they can rely on us to keep our word. We don’t have to agree with everyone or do everything that’s requested. If we don’t want to do something, we can say so and move on. But if we say we’ll be there, and then don’t show, nothing else we’ve said will matter. Once those around us lose faith and trust in us, it will be hard to re-establish. It takes a lot of time to overcome personal disappointments when they involve our integrity and honesty. If we’ve been untruthful in the past or dropped the ball when we said we’d take care of it, there’s no reason to believe we’ll handle things any differently in the future. We can choose to be noble and valiant, and always keep our word. We can hold fast to the values we cherish and choose to be the best we can be. Our lives are a reflection of our actions. Every decision takes us somewhere. We can choose wisely to ensure we reach the destinations we desire most.

When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and want to escape, it’s easy to lie to get away from the issue. We can make up a story that will enable us to step back, or pretend we’re not involved and just walk away. Even if nobody ever finds out about the dishonesty, it will mar our character going forward. Like a chink in the armor, the surface will never be smooth again. We will always know we let our principles slide and it may affect our confidence going forward. Nothing is worth endangering our future success. Even in times of duress, we can choose well, and hold fast to what is right.

Everyone forgets things from time to time. If we’ve agreed to participate in something we later decide we don’t want, we can simply pretend we forgot we were committed and let it go. That may work and we may get out of our responsibility and move on. However, the stain of the lie will remain with us. It’s far better to simply be honest and decline our involvement before its expected. We may be uncomfortable for a moment, but our integrity will remain strong and we will walk forward knowing we did our best.

Today if you’re tempted to lie to get out of something you don’t want to do, remember your honesty and integrity are priceless and worth protecting. Tell the truth and clear the air. You are in control of your life and can make excellent choices. Choose well, and stand tall. Every success is there for you and with determination and honesty, you will reach it.