Archive | September, 2019

Follow the Leader

30 Sep

Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we like. We always know who we are but there may be times when we modify our course to follow someone else, and decide to pattern our lives after theirs. If they’re successful in ways we desire, we may choose to copy their actions and decisions in the hopes that we’ll achieve the same success for ourselves. There are countless self-help books available that tell us if we want to be happy or accomplish something important, we need only copy what the author has done and we’ll succeed. Whether that is accurate or not is debatable but if we believe them, we may try to emulate their lives instead of living our own. Like the child’s game, Follow the Leader, we can copy anyone else’s moves and decisions at any time. We can follow them for as long as we like and we might end up somewhere we want to go – or we might not. It all depends on the decisions we make along the way. Each of us is unique and our life expressions are individual to our own experiences. Trying to be like someone else might move us closer to a goal, but if we only copy another’s choices, we’ll never know what we could do on our own. We are highly capable and able to achieve anything we desire. There isn’t a destination we can’t reach, and we already possess everything we need to be successful. Following along will only take us where someone else wants to go and teach us someone else’s lessons. There are endless paths to discover and we can create the lives we dream about by finding them on our own. We can forge our own unique road ahead and achieve any goal we desire. Nothing is beyond our reach and we will find great success.

When we’re unsure about where we’re headed, we can lean on someone else’s decisions and direction until we feel more confident. However, if we continue to rely on decisions made by others, we won’t reach the destinations we most desire. There is no way to reach our personal goals by following someone headed in a different direction. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. We can trust ourselves and step ahead with confidence, and reach every destination we desire.

There are countless possibilities in life and before we decide what we want we may follow many different ideas and try on various viewpoints and opinions. Every option has its benefits and drawbacks, and as we explore each, we will discover what’s important to us and what we want most. There are endless opportunities and we can design our lives any way we like. We are the only ones with the gifts we have to offer and the whole world is blessed because we are here. Every option is possible and with determination and focus, we can have the lives we dream of.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s ideas and decisions, trust yourself and decide to create the life you want the most. Step forward with confidence. You can do anything and nothing is too far to reach. Think about what you want the most and then move toward your goal. Nothing can keep you from any destination you desire. Success is there for you, and you have everything you need to reach it.

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Endings

27 Sep

Life is filled with all kinds of experiences and we have no idea what will happen next. Every twist and turn shows us something new, and we sometimes end up in places we never predicted. The road is very long and each choice takes us somewhere new. Some things are expected and when our direction stays the same for a while, we may feel comfortable and confident. But nothing remains forever and no matter where we are now or what we’re doing, it will eventually end and we’ll be headed toward something else. Endings are inescapable and inevitable. Change is really the only thing we can count on, and nothing is ever lasting. What’s coming is anyone’s guess. When we’re happy and feel content and settled, often the last thing we want is for things to change. It’s hard to let go of situations where we feel complete and settled. We may resist and try to hold on to what we have, but that never works. The road continues forward unhindered whether we want it to or not, and eventually we’ll have to accept our new reality. Endings can be difficult but each one brings the blessing of a new beginning. Beginnings are inexorably tied to every ending we experience, and our very next step starts us toward something new. We may not want to move forward and we may grieve for what is gone, but life takes us forward whether we want to go or not. Embracing what’s next and being open to a new road will bring us great comfort as we navigate ahead. Our lives are one long journey, punctuated by moments of extreme sadness and incredible happiness. We can rejoice in every experience and find great joy as we continue on.

Our personal relationships are ever changing. When someone has been a part of us for a long time, we may see them as a constant in our lives. But sometimes things change and relationships end. If we don’t want to lose what we have, we may do everything possible to hold back the tide, but if that doesn’t work, and it rarely will, we must face something new. We are strong and can face anything that comes. We can understand new situations and find our way back to confidence and clarity. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and no matter how hard it is at the beginning, we will prevail.

We’re all mortal and death is certain for everyone and every living thing. It’s very hard to accept the death of a loved one and we may grieve intensely. But each day the sun will rise and we’ll have new possibilities. We can be grateful for the happiness we shared, and be confident of the future ahead. Life is a continual round of change. We can be courageous and resolute as we move forward, and achieve anything we desire.

Today if your road has shifted and you miss what you had before, take some time to adjust to what’s happened and look ahead. There are new possibilities waiting for you. The world is filled with opportunities for happiness and you can do anything you desire. Be confident. You are amazing and worthwhile, and nothing is out of reach. Comfort will come as you step forward and start something new. Every blessing is there for you and you will find them all, and make them yours.

That Loving Feeling

26 Sep

Human relationships can be very rewarding. Our lives are enhanced and enriched when we have deep, strong connections to others that are positive and uplifting. When we first find someone we’re attracted to and begin to draw close to them, we may be filled with infatuation. It can be a dizzying, delirious feeling that makes us weak in the knees and unable to concentrate. The first rush of love can be quite intense but it cannot last. If we stay close, time and interaction will ripen our feelings to a deeper, more sustaining sense of love. Being in love can be an incredibly positive experience that augments our lives and enhances our senses. But if we want the love to last it must move beyond feelings. We must do things that show how we care, learn how to support one another, and live our lives in ways that include each other. Although we may have very strong and intense feelings about someone else, love itself is a verb that requires action if we want it to last. We can’t focus only on ourselves, and our personal wants and desires, and expect to have a healthy, strong relationship. That means we must be willing to give our time, our energy, and our attention, and meet our partner’s needs with grace and patience. The best relationships in our lives will come when we do everything we can to build them up and make them last. Human bonds that complete our lives and bring us great happiness are precious and rare. It’s extraordinary to find someone we love with whom we want to build a future. It’s more precious than anything else we may experience. By valuing our relationships and treating them with care, doing everything possible to make them strong and vibrant, we will find great happiness.

The things we want in life are ever changing. One year we’re sure we want one thing and the next we’re on to something new. But our needs are a different story. We can change what we want at any time, but our needs are hard-wired into who we are. If we’re in a relationship and we’re sure we’re in love but the other person doesn’t fulfill our basic needs for attention or communication, it’s unlikely it will survive. We’ll have to choose to either continue an unworkable situation or move on. We deserve every happiness and the best relationships possible.

The world is filled with all kinds of people. It’s possible to fall for someone who is narcissistic and selfish. We may overlook the things that are difficult in the beginning, but eventually it will be impossible to ignore bad behavior. We are worth the best relationships possible. We need never surrender to a situation that doesn’t make us happy or bring us a deep fulfilling connection. We can decide what we want, and then do what is needed to make sure we get it.

Today if you’re in a relationship that isn’t making you feel worthwhile and cared for, you can change direction. Every happiness you desire is possible. You are amazing and all your dreams can come true. Care deeply for yourself and choose wisely. There is tremendous happiness waiting, and you will reach it.

Peanut Butter and Jelly

25 Sep

Life is filled with different experiences, locations, and people, and nothing is the same two days in a row. Sometimes things roll out easily and everything goes forward without a hitch. Other times, there are snags, delays, detours or complete stops as we try to push ahead. It’s helpful when things match up or complement each other in ways that bring quick and easy resolution. Some things just go together, like peanut butter and jelly. When that happens the road ahead is easy to travel. But life is fickle, and just when we think everything will run smoothly, something happens that brings a wrinkle to the plan and slows us down. It would be great if we could just make a plan, execute it and get to the goal without complications, but things are ever changing and nothing is predictable. When our progress is stalled and we’re facing an uphill challenge to get moving again, we may feel frustrated and confused. We may even decide the goal isn’t worth the hassle and let it go. Of course, we can do anything, and if we don’t want to push through trouble to continue on, we can turn away and move on to something else. But a life filled with unfulfilled dreams and incomplete journeys will never bring us satisfaction or happiness. It doesn’t matter what goes wrong or how the road turns. If we’re determined to achieve the goal, we can adjust our trajectory and start again. It may take longer than we planned on and may be more complicated than we imagined at the beginning, but we are strong and smart, and can do anything we want to do. All our dreams are possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

We can’t see beyond a turn in the road. We don’t know what lies ahead or who will enter the picture and change the scenery. Everything is up for grabs and there are countless complications and developments that might happen. If we’re determined to keep things the same and refuse to bend when things change, our chances of success will diminish. Roads can turn, our journey may be diverted, and we may find ourselves reversing course through no cause of our own. It’s not possible to move forward if the road we’re on is now headed in the opposite direction. We can’t prevent what may come but we can alter our plans to allow us to continue moving ahead and ensure we reach our goal.

It’s good to be confident in our decisions. We can make excellent plans and move toward any destination we desire. Sometimes everything will go exactly as we expected, but those times are rare. Usually something will go wrong or change, and we’ll have to regroup and make some modifications. We are intelligent and capable, and nothing can keep us from moving forward. Every goal is within reach and with patience and flexibility, we can go anywhere and do anything we choose.

Today if you’ve hit a big roadblock and can’t move ahead, look at all the possibilities before you. You are wise and intelligent, and nothing can hold you in place. Make a new plan and step forward with confidence. Every goal is there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Step forward and claim the destinations you seek. You are amazing and capable, and can achieve anything you desire.

Cake

23 Sep

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Most of the time we try to make choices that will move us forward and help us achieve what we’re seeking. But life is complex and there are many people coming and going, and lots of distractions and complications. There may be times when under duress we pick a road out of desperation that doesn’t work out or brings us hardship in the end. If things go wrong, we can explain our decision any way we like. We can blame stress, or the pressures around us, or someone else’s bad advice, or anything else we think might work for us. There is always a way to rationalize any decision we make but nothing can change what we’ve done. If we’ve created a mess or hurt others, it will be up to us to fix it. Making choices is like baking a cake. If we just throw a bunch of ingredients into a pan and shove it in the oven, we will have accomplished something and there will definitely be a result, but it may not be what we were hoping for. If we really want a cake we’ll have to plan effectively, measure the correct ingredients and then bake it as directed. It may take longer and will definitely involve more thought, but in the end, we’ll have something we desire instead of a mess. Living effectively requires thought and consideration. Just blindly blundering through will move us somewhere but where we end up probably won’t be where we want to go. We have everything we need to make excellent choices and achieve any goal we desire. We can take the time we need to look at every possible option and then choose the best road ahead. If we’re determined and diligent, we will succeed. Every dream is possible and we can reach any destination we choose.

Justifying a bad decision doesn’t change anything. It doesn’t make us look better and has no effect on the results. Instead of trying to find a plausible excuse for a mistake, it’s better to simply own what’s happened and begin to do what’s necessary to amend the issue. Nobody is perfect and sometimes everyone stumbles. We can learn all we can from the mistake, and take that knowledge forward to help us in the future. Life is all about learning and every experience teaches us something of value. We are smart and capable, and can choose wisely and move forward with confidence.

Sometimes our vision is clouded by the situation we’re in. If there is a lot of turmoil, if others are upset, or we’re confused about what’s going on or what’s expected of us, it may be harder to find the answers we need. But we’re never frozen in place and we can step away to see things clearly and take a moment to discern all the facts before us. We are intelligent and have everything we need to accomplish anything we desire. We know how to process information effectively, and will find our way forward.

Today if you’ve made a choice that’s brought distress and complications, look at everything carefully and see all the options before you. Nothing is written in stone and you can change any situation you desire. You are amazing and strong, and nothing is out of reach. Decide how you want to go forward, and take the first step. Every success is possible and you will prevail.