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That Loving Feeling

26 Sep

Human relationships can be very rewarding. Our lives are enhanced and enriched when we have deep, strong connections to others that are positive and uplifting. When we first find someone we’re attracted to and begin to draw close to them, we may be filled with infatuation. It can be a dizzying, delirious feeling that makes us weak in the knees and unable to concentrate. The first rush of love can be quite intense but it cannot last. If we stay close, time and interaction will ripen our feelings to a deeper, more sustaining sense of love. Being in love can be an incredibly positive experience that augments our lives and enhances our senses. But if we want the love to last it must move beyond feelings. We must do things that show how we care, learn how to support one another, and live our lives in ways that include each other. Although we may have very strong and intense feelings about someone else, love itself is a verb that requires action if we want it to last. We can’t focus only on ourselves, and our personal wants and desires, and expect to have a healthy, strong relationship. That means we must be willing to give our time, our energy, and our attention, and meet our partner’s needs with grace and patience. The best relationships in our lives will come when we do everything we can to build them up and make them last. Human bonds that complete our lives and bring us great happiness are precious and rare. It’s extraordinary to find someone we love with whom we want to build a future. It’s more precious than anything else we may experience. By valuing our relationships and treating them with care, doing everything possible to make them strong and vibrant, we will find great happiness.

The things we want in life are ever changing. One year we’re sure we want one thing and the next we’re on to something new. But our needs are a different story. We can change what we want at any time, but our needs are hard-wired into who we are. If we’re in a relationship and we’re sure we’re in love but the other person doesn’t fulfill our basic needs for attention or communication, it’s unlikely it will survive. We’ll have to choose to either continue an unworkable situation or move on. We deserve every happiness and the best relationships possible.

The world is filled with all kinds of people. It’s possible to fall for someone who is narcissistic and selfish. We may overlook the things that are difficult in the beginning, but eventually it will be impossible to ignore bad behavior. We are worth the best relationships possible. We need never surrender to a situation that doesn’t make us happy or bring us a deep fulfilling connection. We can decide what we want, and then do what is needed to make sure we get it.

Today if you’re in a relationship that isn’t making you feel worthwhile and cared for, you can change direction. Every happiness you desire is possible. You are amazing and all your dreams can come true. Care deeply for yourself and choose wisely. There is tremendous happiness waiting, and you will reach it.

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