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Stepping Away

15 Dec

There are many people and influences in our lives.  They come and go every day and as we interact they influence us in some way.  Sometimes that influence is subtle and barely noticeable, and other times we are intensely impacted by what we hear and see.  If the influence is strong we may find ourselves being drawn to a different point of view and perspective, and stepping away from what is important to us.  There is nothing wrong with learning about others and trying out different ideas but if those experiences pull us away from our core values and the things that matter most to us, we may find ourselves in situations that take us far from where we really want to be.  We may begin to change in ways that align us more directly with someone else’s view and take us away from our own.  The world has its own ideas about what is right and wrong, what is good and bad, and how we should behave.  We are the only ones who can decide what is best for us.  Being careful of influence and remembering what is most important will help us stay true to the path that will bring us complete happiness.  We don’t need to assimilate to find our way forward.  We can do what is best for us to achieve the lives we want the most.  Real happiness comes when we are true to ourselves and who we really are.  There is nothing more satisfying than living an authentic life.  We know what we want and nothing is powerful enough to keep us from it.

Cultures change over time.  What was forbidden and discouraged in times past may now be acceptable and routine.  Although times change and the concept of what is acceptable modifies as we move forward, we are in control of the decisions we make.  If we go along with every passing idea, as the winds of change blow over us we will have nothing to hold onto.  Holding fast to our beliefs, even if they are very different from those around us, will bring us clear direction going forward and confidence as we travel.

We can change our minds about anything at any time.  All the roads ahead are open to us and we may choose any way forward we like.  If we are making our own decisions, no matter what happens, we will be in control.  If we allow the influence of others to unduly control our choices, we may end up on roads to destinations we never wanted to achieve.  Nobody can read the future and the end of the road is not visible at the beginning.  We have everything we need to make excellent choices and if we set the influence of others aside, and determine what is best for our unique plan going forward, those choices will take us where we want to go.

Today if you’ve allowed the influence of the world around you to color your decisions and find you are in the wrong place, redirect your way forward and correct your course.  There is no destination out of reach.  Look ahead and wisely determine your next step.  You will find great success and happiness as you move forward and every door will open for you.

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Seasons

11 Dec

We go through many different challenges and changes as we navigate our lives. The years come and go, and with them come new experiences that bring us trials or joys depending on where we are and what’s happening around us. In the natural calendar year there are four defined seasons, each with its own expression and blessing. But in our lives the seasons are unnumbered and unlimited. No matter what we’re going through now will change to something else. If we’re in a season of disappointment and regret it will not last forever. Even if we feel devastated and overcome, the days will pass, and soon we will be somewhere else. Life is fluid and ever changing and no season lasts forever. We determine some of what will come by the actions we take, but many things are out of our control and we all face times we could never predict or imagine. The blessing is in the opportunity to experience something new. There are countless things to learn each day, and the chance for growth is ever present. Being aware and awake, and facing every moment fully brings us the greatest blessing. Whether we’re facing hard times or days filled with joy, there is much to be learned and each lesson takes us closer to the person we most want to be. Nobody lives in perfect peace and happiness all the time. Embracing the difficult and happy moments will help us find balance and joy in our lives. We have so much to offer and can grow through every experience we face. Life is a wonderful teacher. We can capture every moment and find great joy as we learn and move forward.

When we’re young we often dream of lives filled with promise and prosperity. Nobody ever wishes for a life full of trial and trouble. We can’t control everything around us but we can control the choices we make. If we choose roads that bring disharmony and contention, we will never find happiness. If we make decisions without thinking, hurt others to move ourselves forward, or manipulate situations to get something we want, our reward will not be the peaceful, happy lives we seek. Every choice we make brings a result. We can re-evaluate our decisions, and if needed, modify them to bring the destinations we desire.

There are few situations in our lives that cannot be changed. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can change what we’re doing and move closer to the destinations we desire. Nobody is frozen in time and there isn’t anything we can’t modify. We may need to change our connections to those around us, move to a different location, or simply stop doing something that is holding us in place. Whatever is needed is within our control. We own our lives and can create them any way we desire. Every season changes and if we want to be somewhere else, we can get there.

Today if you aren’t where you want to be, turn your course and change direction. Your life is yours and you deserve to be happy. Decide where you want to go and take the first step to get there. You can make your dreams come true. Nothing is impossible. Take control and do what is needed to find true happiness. It’s right there for you and you will reach it.

Laser Focus

5 Dec

Everything we want to do requires attention. There may be a lot to accomplish and we can try to multi-task and do more than one thing at once, but scientific research has proven the human mind can only effectively concentrate on one thing at a time. If we try to do more, whatever we’re doing will not be done as effectively as possible. Lasers are amazing devices. They can take energy from many sources, pull it together, and direct it into pinpoint accuracy. There is no wavering or indecision – only complete focus on the target. When we want to accomplish something, it requires our concentration and attention but it’s impossible for us to only see the target we’re aiming for. There will be distractions, other decisions may alter our course, and at some point, we may need to completely reroute the way forward. We don’t live in a vacuum and there will always be other things going on around us. We may desire “laser focus” where we only see the goal ahead and nothing else, but that isn’t possible. We are capable of managing many things and with patience and continued determination, we will reach any destination we desire. Life is complex and there are a lot of balls in the air all the time. Learning to adapt and modify, changing our way forward when necessary, and adjusting to complications as they come will help us find success. We can do anything. We can set the laser down and still reach the destination.

If we focus exclusively on a single goal and refuse to look at anything else we may miss important cues and information. When we drive a car, we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead, but it’s important to also look around to see what’s near us and what’s headed our way. There is potential danger in seeing only the road directly in front of us and nothing else. The same is true in any endeavor we are seeking. We can be focused on moving ahead while still being open to what’s around us. Life is full of surprises, opportunities, and complications. Being able to see them before they arrive will help us move forward more effectively and successfully.

Although we don’t want tunnel vision when we’re pursuing a goal we must ensure we don’t become involved in everything going on around us. If we do everything that captures our attention and follow every attractive distraction we will never advance forward. Getting involved in each detail around us will merely hold us in place. We can’t move forward if we’re spinning in circles. We must find the happy medium between tunnel vision and diversion. We know what we want and where we want to go. Keeping the goal in mind will help us manage all the distractions around us and still find success. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Today if you have a goal you’re trying to achieve and there are a lot of distractions capturing your attention, remember what you want the most. You can pay attention to what’s going on around you and still keep your focus on the road ahead. You are in control. Keep your eyes trained on the destination you seek and continue forward. The road ahead is waiting for you. Continue forward and you will reach the goal.

On Hold

29 Nov

In our busy lives it’s sometimes hard to fit everything in we want to get done. We can manage our time well but sometimes we may need to set something aside and put it on hold. We may need to postpone meetings with others or wait to do something we’ve been planning, and we are flexible enough to manage adjustments when we must. But if we get into a situation where we continually set someone or something aside and there is no plan to actually engage them and take care of matters, we may create problems going forward. Most situations can wait for a while but if we hold them in suspense indefinitely they will likely suffer. Relationships put on hold will eventually break down through neglect and if we don’t make them a priority we may lose more than we’re comfortable with. Being on hold doesn’t freeze time. Things continue to change. If we wait too long to return to those we’ve set aside we may find ourselves alone. We can always find time for the things that are most important to us. Leaving someone out in the cold while we do other things indicates where our priorities truly lie. We always do what we want to do most and what we decide to do indicates who we are. It takes effort and attention to build close relationships. Paying attention to those who mean the most and taking the time to follow through to show we care will create strong bonds and lasting connections. Our lives are what we make them. When we value what is most important we will find comfort and happiness.

People say a lot of things. They may tell us what they are going to do, what they want to happen, and that they care for us. Words are important in communicating how we feel but without action to back up our statements they mean nothing. If someone says they love us but never have time for us it will be difficult to believe. If they constantly put us off, postpone meetings again and again, and don’t respond when we need them, all the professions of love will be meaningless. They old saying that actions speak louder than words is accurate. We are what we do, not what we say.

Sometimes we have good intentions and want to be there but desire is only the first step in any endeavor. We can identify what we want and if we are sincere we must then move forward in ways that bring it to us. Putting it off until later will not get us closer to the goal. Nothing robs success as effectively as procrastination. Planning to do something later is planning to do nothing now. If we want strong connections to those around us and real success we must actively pursue our goal and do what is needed to bring it to pass. We can do anything we don’t put on hold. Every happiness is there and actively pursuing it will make it ours.

Today if you’ve been putting others off thinking you’ll get to them later, remember later never arrives. You only have now to do what is important. Determine what you want most and go forward caring for the things you treasure most in your life. Remember who is important and keep them close. You have everything you need to be completely happy. Be open, be available, and show the love you have for those around you. Their love in return will bring you limitless happiness and constant joy.

Taking It

28 Nov

Everyone has dreams they want to pursue. We decide what we want from life and can move forward toward any desired destination. If the goal is outside our normal scope and will require a lot to accomplish, those around us may discourage us from going after it. They may want to protect us from disappointment if they don’t believe we will succeed, they may think we’re crazy to try to achieve something new, or they may be jealous we have the temerity to try. Although their opinions belong to them, if they are negative and they share them with us, we may begin to doubt our ability to move forward. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions. We can do anything we like but we have to be strong enough to step ahead even if everyone else disagrees. We have to be able to take it and still be confident we can win. We can always let go of what we really want and go the way that fits the ideas others have for us. It doesn’t take any energy to go along. But letting go of our dreams and allowing someone else’s vision of our lives to take over will never bring us happiness. Others may disagree with us, but that need not have bearing on our choices. We know ourselves better than anyone else and we know what we want and where we want to go. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us in place if we are determined to move forward. Every single dream is within our reach. Every single goal is attainable. Our lives belong to us and we may live them any way we choose. We deserve complete happiness and doing what we want the most will bring it.

It takes courage to change our lives. We may have to step out of our norm and do things differently in order to move ahead. Our routines are comfortable and we may continue them for as long as we like. But if we want something new, we must modify them to accommodate the change we desire. We are capable of trying unlimited new things. We can change direction, reach higher, step on a new path, and do anything we want. If we are willing to do what is needed we can accomplish anything. We are smart enough and brave enough to succeed.

Expecting our lives to simply bring us the dreams we imagine is a fool’s game. Wonderful things will come to us by chance but the desires of our hearts will require work. There are few things worth having that are achieved without effort. We can make all our dreams come true if we do what is necessary to make them possible. Every dream can become reality. Deciding what we want most and then planning our way forward to reach the goal will bring us satisfaction and happiness. There is nothing out of reach and no goal too high or too far for us achieve. We can focus on what we want and live in ways that bring success.

Today if you’ve been wishing for a change you desire, start doing what is needed to make things happen. You’re in control of your life and can do anything. There isn’t a dream too big or too difficult for you to reach. Step up and step forward. Everything is there for you. Reach out and make your dreams come true. Make your life exactly the way you want it and you’ll find happiness.

Bending

22 Nov

When we know where we want to go and have a plan to get there, we may make the goal a priority and begin to move toward it.  When things go the way we’ve planned we may make excellent progress but if something gets in the way, or some complication arises that makes it hard to push ahead, we may have to stop for a time and rethink our next move.  Life is unpredictable and there are many people around us making decisions that may impact our choices.  Trying to walk forward through a strong wind is hard and taking each step may be difficult.  If we don’t bend forward against the gusts we may fall backward.  Learning to bend into trouble will help us progress.  It seems counterproductive to think about leaning into something that is causing distress but when we do we can hear more clearly and see things we might miss otherwise.  If someone does something that prevents us from getting to our goal we can fight against them and try to make them change and do things our way.  Or we can step closer to them and try to see things from their perspective to find an easier road.  Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and there will be times when our ideas will be in conflict with others.  It doesn’t necessarily mean anyone is wrong.  It only means we are different.  We can learn to bend a little away from the plans we’ve made and adjust our direction so we can continue to move forward.  There are countless ways to succeed in every endeavor.  We can be flexible and willing to listen to alternate ideas and then if we need to, create a new road that will take us where we want to go.  We can do anything.  Learning to bend will help us find success.

As children we learned the patterns of our families and may adopt those same patterns into our lives as adults.  What is comfortable for us may be foreign to someone else.  When we must work together those differences may bring contention as everyone campaigns for their own way.  Although every choice may have value they don’t have to stand alone to be effective.  We can allow other interpretations to blend with ours and combine ideas to find the best decisions.  We can’t make cookies using only flour.  We must bring all the different ingredients together to create the best result.

In some situations it’s impossible to bend and find success.  If we’re dealing with laws and regulations that cannot be broken without serious consequences we can find the way forward while still honoring them.  We can be true to the things we value most and still work within any bounds we must.  There are infinite ways to accomplish any task.  We are wise and creative enough to find the way forward.  We can bend when possible and hold fast when we must, and still find success.  We can do anything.  Nothing is beyond our grasp.

Today if you’ve decided how you want to move forward but something is standing in your way, look carefully and find a way around it.  You can go anywhere you want to go.  There isn’t anything strong enough or complex enough to hold you in place.  Be flexible and willing to bend, and every success will be there for you.

End of the Road

15 Nov

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives.  Every decision has a result and takes us somewhere.  Sometimes those destinations and consequences are exactly what we’re hoping for, and other times we may end up somewhere we don’t want to be.  It’s sometimes easy to see where the road before us is headed and may be obvious which way we should go.  But roads aren’t always straight and where they lead may be difficult to see from the beginning.  We can objectively look at them and try to discern where they are headed to make the best choice going forward.  If we’re in a hurry to decide or feel pressure to choose we may begin forward without taking the time we need to be sure of where we’re going.  If we’re angry and impetuous we might choose a direction without thought and end up somewhere we never wanted to go.  Every decision has a result and we are accountable for every destination we reach.  What we do today may have an intense impact on what we face tomorrow.  It’s important to take the time we need to evaluate all the options before us and make sure we choose roads that will take us where we really want to go.  All our dreams can come true if we plan for them and prepare the way forward.  If we’re not getting closer to the goals we desire we can change our course and redirect the way forward.  We are in control of our lives and every choice we make designs the lives we have.  It’s all up to us and with careful thought we can go anywhere we desire and make all our dreams come true.

We all face times of conflict when situations don’t go well and we may feel angry or upset.  If we act in ways that bring disharmony, the ramifications of our behavior may impact the days ahead.  If we are rude and mean to those around us we may find ourselves alone when we need support.  If we are manipulative and dishonest others will learn they cannot trust us, and it may be difficult to build relationships.  We can do things that bring us loneliness and sorrow, or companionship and happiness.  Everything we do has a consequence and if we’re careful and thoughtful those consequences will be exactly what we’re hoping for.

The decisions of those around us may impact our lives unexpectedly.  Someone near us may make a choice that brings problems to everyone around them.  We interact with others but can only control the decisions we make.  If we must endure negative consequences because of situations out of our control we can walk through them with confidence staying true to our personal values.  We can clear the way forward step by step and adjust our trajectory toward the direction we want to go.

Today if you’re dealing with complications from decisions you’ve made in the past and are unhappy with where you are, take the time you need to determine how to move forward.  Decide where you want to go and make decisions that will take you closer as you move ahead.  Every destination is reachable and you can do anything you desire.  Create the life you want the most and you’ll find every happiness you seek.  You can accomplish anything.  Go forward with confidence and clarity, and you’ll reach every goal.