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Under Fire

22 Jan

Every person in the world has their own perspective and ideas about how things should go. There is nobody exactly like us and with all these differences there’s bound to be conflict from time to time. If we feel strongly about something and others disagree, we may face a difficult situation filled with emotion and intensity. Sometimes the lines between right and wrong are obvious and everyone agrees on the limits. But most of the time, the options are flexible and will bend depending on what we want to accomplish and who we’re dealing with. If there are several others on one page and we’re on another, there may be a strong campaign to get us to change. We can always alter any views we like, but if we feel intensely about our position, we may hold fast to it and push ahead despite the opposition. When we’re on the outside of the prevailing viewpoint and want something different, we may find ourselves under fire. If we’re being criticized, ridiculed or denounced, it may be very hard to keep our composure and maintain our self-control. Of course, we always have the right to stand and defend our position and if we’re being unfairly treated can return equal fire. But screaming back and getting into an altercation will never help us settle the situation. We can keep our resolve, agree to disagree, and move forward on our own road. We have the right to live our lives any way we choose, even if it means going against everyone else. We don’t need agreement or permission to do things our way. If others disagree, they can deal with that. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them in ways that bring us complete satisfaction and happiness. Nothing is out of reach, and we can make our dreams reality.

Conformity is easy to manage. If everyone does the same things, we all know what to expect and there are few surprises. But conformity often requires us to go along with someone else’s ideas about life and when we sacrifice who we are and what we want, we can never reach our own goals. Our lives are important. We have unique and exclusive talents to bring and specific things we want to accomplish. We never have to trade what we want most to get along. We can live our lives individually and honestly, and reach any destination we desire.

We all want to get along with those around us and live a peaceful existence. If we’re under fire for a decision we’re making, we may be uncomfortable. We can always abandon our views and agree to do what everyone else wants, but if we give up on our dreams, we will never achieve them. We deserve complete happiness and by holding fast to what is important and choosing our own destinations, we will create the life we want the most. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if those around you are trying to convince you to go their way, but you have something else in mind, stay to true to what you want. Your life is important and you can choose your own way forward. Be confident and step forward with clarity. You are amazing and capable, and all your dreams are possible.

In the Mirror

15 Jan

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. We know every decision we make will take us somewhere and have a consequence, and we may try hard to choose wisely so we end up where we want to go. There are a lot of factors involved when we make our choices – how much time we have, if we’re pressured to go a certain way, how much information is available, what we want the most, and dozens of other parameters. Sometimes what we choose depends on if we’re making the decision privately and nobody else will know, or if it’s wide open and everyone can see what we’re doing. There is an old saying that we find out who we are by what we choose when nobody is looking. That’s probably correct. When we don’t have to face the opinions of others, we will likely choose what we really want, bad or good. If there’s a way to keep our decisions private, we may choose to do something that’s dishonest or unseemly in some way. We can do anything we want, anytime we want, and any way we want to do it. We’re always in control of our lives and can design them any way we like. But each choice, even the ones nobody else knows about, will impact our lives in some way. If we want to be happy, we must make decisions that allow us to do what is necessary to achieve it. There is no way to find complete happiness if we make decisions that cause distress, complicate our lives, or hurt others. We are intelligent and wise, and know what we want. Everything is possible and by taking our time, and carefully choosing each step ahead, we can have the lives we want the most and make our dreams come true.

When we look in a mirror our reflection is exactly how we appear. There is no way to modify the person looking back at us. We’ll see every mark, every scar, every line, everything. Similarly, our lives will reflect every decision we make. If we’re careful and wise, and choose roads that open doors ahead, building strong and positive relationships, we will likely find success. However, if we’re lazy, or mean and make choices that hurt others and damage relationships, our lives will reflect something entirely different. We can choose options that bring us comfort and satisfaction, and reach the goals we desire.

Who we are is expressed in everything we do. We can pretend to be someone different and may fool others for a time, but truth always rises and nobody can keep up pretense indefinitely. We are capable of greatness and incredible success. By choosing to be the best we can be at every turn, we will reach the goals and destinations we desire most. Every dream is possible and with determination, wisdom and perseverance, we can succeed at anything we desire. We are amazing and powerful, and nothing is beyond our reach.

Today if you have an important decision to make, consider every possible outcome and choose the road that will lead you to success. You are smart and capable, and nothing is too complex or difficult for you to comprehend. Trust yourself, and move forward with confidence. Every success is possible and you will win.

Cheap Imitation

8 Jan

We all know what we want in our lives. We know what we want to do, where we want to go, and who we want to spend our time with. Sometimes what we want is easy to obtain and we’re able to achieve it with little effort. But often our goals don’t just fall into our laps, and we must take the time and do what is needed to make them ours. We can reach any goal if we’re determined and nothing is out of reach. Of course, there are always options available. If what we desire is difficult, and will require a lot of time and energy, we can always opt for something that’s not exactly the same, but is close. It’s like buying a knock off. It may look kind of like the original, and if we don’t look at it too carefully, can convince ourselves it’s close enough. But having something kind of like what we want will never bring the satisfaction of having the real thing. Getting something that’s sort of like our true desire will only make us sort of happy. Only the complete goal we’re seeking will bring us complete happiness. If we feel satisfied enough with a cheap imitation, it’s easy to accomplish. Stopping short of what we really want and choosing something easier is always possible. However, our dreams and desires are important, and if we want them, we can have them. We can decide to do whatever is necessary to reach any destination we desire. There is no limit to what we can accomplish if we’re determined and focused on moving forward. Every dream is possible, every goal is reachable, and every desire can be fulfilled. We’re in control of our lives and every decision we make. We can create the lives we want the most. Nothing is out of reach, and we can make all our dreams reality.

A knock off Rolex isn’t a bad looking watch. Although it’s made of base metal instead of gold, and the interior mechanism is lower quality, from a distance it may look like the real thing. We can always buy an imitation and hope it’s good enough. We may fool some people, but we will never fool ourselves. Settling for something less than what we really want will never satisfy our desire. We will always know we compromised and will still want the real thing. Instead of choosing easier options, we can plan and work for what we really want, and find great satisfaction in gaining it.

Our relationships are important to us, and when they are rewarding and happy, can bring great joy into our lives. If we’re in a relationship that’s not working, we can consider every option to improve our situation. No matter how much time we’ve invested, or what others may expect, we never have to continue any relationship that isn’t making us happy. We can consider all our options and choose the road ahead that will bring us the satisfaction and contentment we desire. We deserve complete happiness, and can do what is needed to obtain it.

Today if you’ve been settling for less than what you really want, remember your life is important. You can have everything you desire, and you deserve full and complete happiness. Decide what you want the most, and then take the first step toward making it yours. Every dream is possible, and with determination you will succeed.

What We Say and What We Do

7 Jan

We will make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Many are inconsequential and it doesn’t really matter which way we go, but some are important and may have the power to completely alter our direction. There may be times when something seems trivial but turns out to have a huge impact on us. Who we are and what we do will always affect what comes next. If we go around telling people we are something we aren’t, our credibility will be damaged and from then forward, those around us will learn they cannot trust us. Trust is the most important asset we can obtain, and if we have the trust of those around us, many doors will open on the road ahead. Deception never brings anything valuable or worthwhile into our lives, and in the end, will always bring trouble and complications. Everyone wants an easy life filled with opportunity and prosperity, and the way to those things requires complete honesty. Nobody is perfect and it can be hard to admit our mistakes. It takes determination and courage to tell the truth when we’ve dropped the ball or are responsible for some misstep. However, when we’re open and honest in all our dealings, even the uncomfortable ones, we will be trusted and revered by others. They’ll build strong relationships with us that will pave the way forward and help us achieve our most desired goals. We are smart and capable and can do anything we choose. By being honest and doing the very best we can, we will reach every goal and destination we desire, and have the lives we want the most.

Photoshop is an amazing tool we can use to alter an image and make it appear different than it really is. We can make ourselves look younger, thinner, and more beautiful with just a few keystrokes and a little imagination. While it may be fun to change the appearance of things and make them look more appealing, nothing can change reality. Nothing. Saying we’re something we’re not, or otherwise trying to appear different than we really are is like trying to Photoshop our lives. It never works, and always brings complications. We can be truthful about who we are and if we want to change, can do whatever is needed to bring that about.

If we’re creative and determined, it’s possible to fool those around us into believing something that isn’t true. We may be able to deceive others for a time, but truth is powerful and will always rise. In time, however long it takes, the truth will come out. Nothing we are now will ever be as bad as how we’ll look caught in a lie. It’s not a question of if it will be uncovered, but how bad it will be when it happens. We can be honest and confident of who we are now, and move forward toward who we want to be.

Today if you’ve been convincing others you possess attributes you do not have in an effort to look better or get ahead, remember your choices define who you are. Be honest in your dealings and every door ahead will open for you. You possess greatness that can embellish and enrich the world. Show us your best, and every success will be yours.

Not Apologizing

3 Jan

Everyone is different and there are endless interpretations and perceptions about everything in life. What one believes is absolutely correct, another will question and offer a contrasting idea. The viewpoints and approaches may be vastly different and there is no end to the variety we may encounter. If we are convinced our ideas are the only right way to proceed, we may face contention and argument. We are certainly entitled to our own perspective, but there are countless roads to every destination and many different ways to accomplish any goal. We can be open to listening to other views and respect that we’re all different. However, if we feel strongly about our own ideas, and they are different from those around us, we can still go our own way. If we aren’t hurting others, we need not apologize for our interpretation of the world around us. We are entitled to our own voice and can go our own way. There is sometimes a lot of pressure from others to conform and if we disagree, we may be encouraged to remain quiet. But we are as important as anyone else, and can be confident in our own ideas. If everyone were the same and agreed to follow the identical road going forward, there might be less contention but we would lose our creativeness or ingenuity. Differences bring depth and variety to our experience. We can have our own views and allow others the same privilege. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation. We each have unique and specific gifts to offer, and allowing everyone to express their own point of view brings richness and variation to our experience. We can be confident in being ourselves, and step forward on the road that will take us where we most want to go.

The world is a noisy place filled with people telling us all kinds of things. They may tell us that following their ideas and beliefs are the only way to true happiness and success. Of course, nothing could be further from the truth. There are endless ways to achieve both and we never have to do things someone else’s way. When we decide where we want to go and what we want to achieve, and then follow our own roads ahead, we can reach complete happiness and satisfaction. Every destination is possible and by being true to who we are we will reach them.

Charismatic people who are loud and persuasive may convince us they have all the answers we need to be happy. We can follow anyone we want for as long as we like, but we already possess everything we need inside us to find our own way. We already know what we want and have all the skills and wisdom necessary to achieve anything. We can trust ourselves to find our own way, and step forward sure of success. Nothing is beyond our reach and we can achieve every goal we desire.

Today if someone is encouraging you to follow them and telling you what you should do, remember how important your life is. You are intelligent and capable, and can do anything you desire. Trust your instincts, and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every goal is possible and you will succeed.

Starting Again

16 Dec

There are a lot of things we want to accomplish and goals we want to reach. Some of them are personal and require us to change habits or patterns that may be difficult to let go of. We might start out strong, completely committed to the goal, and then our lives get busy and we get distracted. Eventually we may begin to slide back a little and lose our focus, and then before we know it, we’re completely off track and going in the wrong direction. Maybe not for the first time. Our set routines are strong and powerful, and change doesn’t come easily. We are capable of changing anything we want, but it takes real determination to hold fast to our focus, and decide not to waver. We can have the lives we want the most, but they won’t just happen because we’ve decided we’re ready for them. Nothing can change if we keep doing the same things we’ve been doing. Once we decide, really decide, we’re ready to redirect our course and do things differently, the change will come. We are more powerful and stronger than we think we are. Nothing is too difficult or complex for us to manage, and we can go anywhere and do anything we desire. We just have to decide what we want, and then do what is needed to get it. Nothing is out of reach, nothing is too big to tackle, and nothing will take too long. Every goal is within our grasp and we will reach success.

If we’ve tried to make a change before and gotten waylaid and off track, only to return back to where we started, we might begin to believe the goal is beyond what we can achieve. There are some things that may not be possible at this time in our lives, but most things we desire are within our capabilities. They may not be easy to get, they may take a lot of time and effort, and the road to get them might be hard to travel. There may be all kinds of reasons not to push forward, but the most important reason to continue is because we want the goal. Our lives are a reflection of every decision we make. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. If we don’t like the situation we’re in, we can step away. We’re in complete control and can do anything we choose.

It doesn’t matter how many times we return to the beginning and start again. It doesn’t matter how long it takes us to do what is needed to reach any goal. What matters is that we live our lives according to our own personal desires, and push toward the destinations we want the most. Everyone has their own opinions and we don’t need anyone else’s approval or permission to do anything we desire. We can design our lives any way we want them, and find great joy and satisfaction in doing what’s most important.

Today if a goal has eluded you, and you’re starting again, remember how strong and capable you are. Every goal is possible and with determination and focus, you can go anywhere and do anything. You really can have the life you dream of. Decide what you want, and then take the first step forward. You can achieve greatness and find complete happiness. Every success if possible, and you will prevail.

Completely Committed

9 Dec

There are lots of things we can accomplish as we go through our lives. We’re serious about some of them, and others we only think about as possibilities, but don’t pursue. Achieving anything requires commitment and focus, and if we’re only half way in, the chances for success are slim to none. Before we begin anything, it’s important to identify how much we really want it. If we think we want to do it, and decide we’re willing to work toward it if we get time, or the weather’s nice, or we’re not stressed, or a million other parameters, we probably won’t ever get to it. Whether we actually succeed or not depends on how much we want the goal, and how committed we are to it. If we really want to go somewhere and achieve something, nothing can keep us from it. However, if we’re only somewhat interested in it, and think we might like to have it if things work out our way, odds are we’ll never get there. There are few paved roads in life and it takes determination and focus to move toward anything we truly desire. Most goals will bring complications, road blocks, detours, and problems. When something gets in the way, if we aren’t really convinced we want to continue, we’ll end up stopping and letting go of the goal. It’s a waste of time to pursue anything we aren’t completely sure we want. We can be successful at anything we truly desire, and all our dreams can become reality if we’re willing to do whatever it takes to reach them. If we want success, we will reach it. We can decide what’s most important to us, and design our lives in ways that help us reach our goals, and achieve anything we choose.

Relationships are important and make our lives richer and more meaningful. We make personal connections with those we value and when we develop close bonds with them, they are a blessing in our lives. But successful relationships require personal investment. They don’t just happen on their own. If we want strong connections, we must be willing to do what is necessary to build them. How vibrant and enduring they are is a reflection of how much we commit to them. If we don’t spend time building them, they will not last. However, if we do what is needed to make them strong and deep, they will bring us great happiness and satisfaction.

Success in any endeavor requires focus and attention. If we kind of want to do something, we’ll be kind of successful. Every goal we desire is possible but life will never magically bring us the situations and success we want. We have to define what we want to achieve, and then do what is needed to make it ours. We are powerful and capable of doing anything we desire. By being committed to our success, we can reach any destination, and achieve any goal.

Today, decide what you want and then commit yourself to achieving it. You can achieve great success, and have all the wisdom and power you need to go anywhere and do anything. Decide what you want in your life, and then do what is needed to make it yours. Every blessing is possible. Take control and you will prevail. Nothing is out of reach.