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Reboot

31 Oct

We are always in control of what we do and are responsible for every decision we make.  However, there may be times when we allow ourselves to be coerced into doing something we really don’t want to do.  Pressure from those around us, family, and loved ones may be great, and if we acquiesce to their desires and go along we may find ourselves in places we never wanted to go.  It’s not possible to see the future and there is no way to know the complete results and implications of our choices when we make them.  The best we can do is evaluate possible outcomes and do our best to ensure we don’t end up disappointed and suffering.  If we allow others to push us into choices we don’t want to make and don’t take the time we need to look at all the possible ramifications, we may open the door to problems and trouble.  If we end up someplace foreign and can’t find the way out, we can step back and rethink our situation.  No matter what has happened, we have the power to change course at any time.  We don’t have to stay anywhere we don’t want to be.  By staying grounded and in control of our lives, turning around when we need to redirect, and paying attention to where we’re headed, we’ll have the best chances possible of achieving the lives we most desire.  We can do anything and by holding firm to what is right for us we’ll achieve every goal.  Life is all about the choices we make.  By looking carefully and taking our time we can make excellent decisions that take us exactly where we want to go.

It’s impossible to do everything at the same time.  If we’re impatient we may try to do several things at once in an effort to get through them more quickly.  That might work if everything goes as planned and there are no hiccups in the way, but trying to do many things is like juggling.  It takes concentration to keep three balls in the air and if we add two or three more they may all fall.  We will never move forward if everything falls apart in the process.  It takes more time to clean up a mess and start over than it does to plan effectively and do things in order from the beginning.  Life is not a race, and although there may be time constraints attached to the project we’re working, we can plan effectively to complete what’s needed.

No matter where we are in any process, if things aren’t working and we’re not progressing, we can stop and start again on a new road.  We don’t know what lies ahead and sometimes the roads we choose have unforeseen barriers that don’t allow us to advance.  There is no failure in choosing a different path.  We can change direction at any time and begin again.  Every goal is possible and nothing is out of reach.  If we get stuck we can re-evaluate our plans and find another way.  We can do anything.  We are wise and capable, and every option is possible.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you don’t want to do, choose what’s best for you.  Let others make their own decisions and find your own path.  You know what you want and where you want to go.  Step ahead on the road that will take you there.  You are amazing and powerful, and can do anything you desire.  Great success is always there for you and you will reach it.

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Unchanging

15 Oct

If someone hurts us and our lives are negatively impacted, we may very much want to find a way to make the other party involved aware of what they’ve done.  We may feel once our voice has been heard and we’ve been vindicated we can more easily let go of the pain we’ve suffered.  But sometimes it’s impossible to get a resolution to a situation no matter what we do.  The other party may not care that we’re hurt, or that they are the cause of distress.  When that happens we may carry the pain forward with us, sometimes indefinitely.  Since it will never change, it may continually prick us with the unfairness we feel and hold us in place as the years pass.  Unresolved conflict is hard to let go of.  It’s like a math equation we can’t solve.  It stays the same and never changes.  We can worry about it and fret over it until we’re willing to accept the fact that we can’t solve it and turn the page.  Carrying unsettled conflict along with us as we go through our lives will weigh us down and may keep us from complete happiness.  What is in the past can never be changed.  Holding onto it will never alter it or help us moving forward.  We can accept it as it is, set it down and let it go.  Our lives belong to us and when we hold onto hurt from the past we forfeit a portion of control going forward.  We deserve complete happiness and by letting go of what is holding us down we can achieve it.  We can be free of past pain and heartache.  We need only decide to set it down, and leave it behind.

If we’ve created a painful situation for someone else, either intentionally or accidentally, we can recognize our role in it and do what is needed to correct it.  We are all more connected than we think we are and everything we do affects the world around us in some way.  If we’ve been a negative influence, we can change our focus and direction toward something more positive.  We can resolve any conflict we’ve created and pave the way forward with friendship and cooperation.

Some people don’t care about others or who they hurt.  They storm through their lives doing as they please and let the chips fall where they may.  If we’re in their path of destruction we may get run over and chewed up.  There may be great disappointment and pain as their lives intersect with ours.  We are only responsible for the decisions we make.  If decisions made by others negatively impact us, we can find a way to navigate around them and move forward outside their influence.  Our happiness is our responsibility and if we get hurt we can find the way back toward the light.  This life is a great blessing.  We need not give up one moment to a painful situation we cannot change.  Instead, we can move forward with confidence and reach every goal we desire.  Everything is possible and we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been carrying around pain from something in the past and have been unable to let it go, look at all the attributes you possess.  Remember how wonderful you are.  There is greatness in you and we’re all blessed because you are here.  Let go of what is behind you and move forward with confidence.  The whole world is there for you and everything you desire is possible.

Out in the Cold

9 Oct

The friendships and relationships we build as we go through our lives give us great comfort and a sense of belonging. It’s wonderful when we are part of a community, and when we have close connections to those around us we feel validated and supported. But we may face a time when we choose something different than what those around us think we should do. We may take a different road or start a new journey that takes us away from where we are and those we love. As we step forward, if our current companions stay in place, the distance between us will stretch and if we don’t hold onto to our connections we may become separated. We can always make any changes we like and go anywhere we want to go but sometimes if those we love don’t choose to go with us, although we are happy with our decision, we may feel left out in the cold alone. We are certainly capable of finding our way forward in any endeavor and have all the resources and courage we need to go anywhere we choose. But even if we’re happy with the choices we’re making, being alone can be unsettling for a time and we may question our decisions. Although it’s nice to have concurrence when we choose a new path and it’s fun to have our friends with us, there may be times when what we want must be accomplished on our own, all by ourselves. In those situations, we can be confident in our choices and trust that we have everything we need to succeed. We know what we want and are capable of doing whatever is needed to reach happiness and success.

There may be great power in a group situation. When several people join together in a common cause they may overcome great obstacles and find many answers. Although there are many benefits to working as a team, there will be times in our lives when what we want to do must be done alone. We are always free to choose the direction of our lives. Sometimes that may be what everyone else is doing, but other times the road we choose is set apart from those around us. We can take any path to any destination at any time. If we must go alone, we can. Every destination is possible and we can travel anywhere we desire.

Every choice and decision is ours to make. If we like, we can have the lives others design for us and follow any direction we’re given. But if we want complete happiness and satisfaction we must choose our own path. Nobody knows what we want better than we know ourselves. We can be confident in our decisions even if they differ from those around us. We know where we want to go and what we want to accomplish. Life is a great blessing and we don’t need the agreement of anyone to create the lives we want the most. Every destination is possible and every dream can come true.

Today if you’ve decided to turn away from the path you’ve been traveling and there is opposition around you, remember your life is yours to design. You can do anything you like. If you must travel alone, you will find your way. All options are possible and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Step forward and create the life you want the most. Every dream is possible and you can make them all come true.

Stop, Drop and Roll

5 Oct

Our lives are constantly changing and we never know what’s around the next corner.  One thing leads to another and sometimes without noticing we might find we end up in a situation we never planned on and don’t want.  If we aren’t steering our boat it will simply follow the tide wherever it’s headed.   We’re responsible for our lives and if we find we’re going the wrong way we can stop moving and stand still until we see the right way forward.  We can drop out of any group we’re in and take a clear look ahead to be sure we’re going where we want to be.  If not, we can turn our course and roll onto something new.  We don’t have to go anywhere we don’t want.  Even if everyone around us is following the tide, we can go our own way.  We don’t need permission to change direction or approval of our decision.  We can do things our way and be confident we can reach the destinations we most desire.  There are unlimited paths to follow and endless places to go.  It’s up to us to decide how we want our lives to proceed.  We can go anywhere we choose but we must steer our boat toward the shores that will take us there.  It’s easy to merely go through the motions and follow those in front of us but that will never get us to the destinations we want the most.  We can have the lives we dream about but we must work for them and plan the way forward to achieve them.  Everything is possible if we stop to think about what we really want, drop out of the tide that’s isn’t taking us there, and roll forward with determination.  We can do anything and make all our dreams come true.

Life brings lots of changes to us but our trajectory forward will never change unless we take control.  Going along with everyone else takes little effort.  We can coast for as long as we like – our whole lives if we choose.  Coasting along might take us to places we like but it’s unlikely to take us where we most want to go.  One day will turn into another and before we know it time has passed and we are no closer to our goals than we were at the beginning.  We can change our lives whenever we choose.  We can do what is needed to get the lives we want the most and find complete happiness and satisfaction.

There may be times when outside influences impact our ability to choose the road we want to travel.  Things may go wrong and others may have control over our situation for a time.  But nothing lasts forever and in time, everything will change and the opportunity to move toward our goals will become possible.  We can keep our eyes focused forward and be prepared when the doors we need to open become available.  There isn’t anything we can’t do if we’re willing to take the steps necessary to make them reality.  Everything is possible and we can have the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been following along with the tide and aren’t moving closer to your goals, stop and look at the options before you.  You can always change direction and begin toward the destinations you truly desire.  There is nothing you can’t do.  Be confident.  You are wise and courageous, and nothing can hold you back from your dreams.  Everything is possible.  Move forward and create the life you want.

High Expectations

4 Oct

Everyone has their own ideas about the best way to do things and how we should accomplish our tasks. Sometimes we may be asked to do things for those around us. If we work for them or they have some authority over us we may be compelled to agree. If not, we may decide if we want to do what’s asked, and if we do, how we will go about accomplishing it. If those who ask us have high expectations about how quickly we’ll get the task completed or specific ideas about how we’ll take care of it and we aren’t in agreement, we may feel uncomfortable. If we’re pressed get through faster than we think we can, and are sure we can’t meet the deadline they’ve set, we may feel stressed and worried about the outcome. It’s possible to be asked to get something done in an impossible time frame. If we’re not the ones completing the task and going through all the details and complications to manage it, we won’t have a complete understanding of everything required. It’s easy to make decisions about how things should be done looking in from the outside, but there is no way to know what’s really happening unless we’re involved in the process. If we’re in a situation where the expectations given don’t match the reality we’re facing we may feel great pressure to do something that may not be possible. Expectations can always be set but reality will never bend to meet them. We can be confident in our progress despite what others think we should be doing.  If we do our best to accomplish the task we can be happy even if we don’t meet the time parameters given. We can set our own expectations about what can be done and logically and wisely continue forward.

When someone says we should be able to do something, they are basing their ideas on their own experiences and personal judgement. Our personal interpretations and understanding are unique to our own experiences. What works for one person is not feasible for another. When others tell us how they think we should do something, we can listen and take from their comments anything that will help us, but how we proceed is our decision. We are smart enough to figure anything out. We can move forward using the skills we’ve learned and do what works best for us.

Everyone sees the world through their own prism of understanding. Our life experiences color our perceptions and everyone has their own ideas about what is best. We know ourselves perfectly and we know what we want in our lives. We can make decisions that will take us where we want to go, in a time frame that works for us. Our lives are ours to design and every decision is ours to make. We know who we are. Trusting our instincts and choosing the roads we want will bring us fulfillment and happiness.

Today if you’ve been trying to do the impossible because someone has asked you to, step back and look at the situation openly and objectively. You are competent and intelligent enough to discern if you need to change your plans to reach the goal. Trust yourself to find the best way forward. You are amazing and capable, and can accomplish anything you desire. Be wise and move forward with confidence.

Declining

20 Sep

“I’m disinclined to acquiesce to your request. Means “no.” Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean, The Curse of the Black Pearl

Throughout our lives, people will ask us to do many different things. They may ask us for something for them or someone else, it might be a personal favor or a professional agreement, or it may be something entirely different. It’s easier to navigate any interaction when everyone involved agrees and there is no dissension in the ranks. When any request comes it’s up to us to decide how we want to proceed. If there’s pressure from those around us we might agree even when we don’t want to. We’re always in control of our decisions and can do whatever we feel is best for us. But politics, pressure, and even coercion may come into play and when they do we may feel we have no option but to agree. If we’re concerned about what may happen if we decline a request it will impact our ability to choose objectively. But if the decision requires us to do something we feel is unethical, immoral or illegal, or if we simply don’t want to go along, despite any pressures placed on us, we can decline. We have enough courage to say no when we want to, and never have to do anything that compromises us in any way. Our lives are ours to design and every choice we make defines who we are. We can be true to our personal best and make decisions that reflect who we want to be. The paths we choose are up to us and no matter what others around us are doing, we can go our own way.

There are endless ideas about what we should do, where we should go, how we should dress, what we should eat, and so on. There is no one perfect way to live life, and everyone is entitled to make any choices they like. We don’t need the agreement of others to choose the paths we’ll follow or what we’ll do. We can be confident in our decisions even if they don’t match those around us. Our lives belong to us and the unique interpretation we bring enhances the world and brings depth to everyone’s experience. We can be confident in our uniqueness and make decisions that reflect what we want the most.

There are endless reasons to do the things we do. It’s always easy to go along with others and follow their lead and we may certainly choose that whenever we like. But every decision we make reflects who we really are and impacts the road ahead. If we review our steps before we make them and alter our course when we need to we will more effectively reach the goals we most desire. We are the only ones who decide where we’ll go. All destinations are possible and we can choose any road to travel.

Today if you’ve been asked to do something you don’t want to do but aren’t sure about declining, remember your decisions are important and your views are valuable. You can do anything you like. All options are possible and nothing is out of reach. You are strong, wise and powerful. You can design your life any way you like. Be confident and choose the roads that will take you where you most want to go.

Throwing Paint

17 Sep

We can do anything we want with our lives.  We can make good choices or just do things because we can, hoping it’ll all work out.  If we don’t think about the decisions we’re making, sometimes things will work out but other times the choices we’ve made may complicate the way forward and cause problems.  Success will not simply be handed to us and it takes effort to live well.  We’re in complete control of our lives and what we do is our responsibility.  We can lie about what we’re doing but if we lie about the actions of others, we impact the world in negative and hateful ways that may bring extreme pain and despair.  Lying about someone, saying they did something they didn’t or in other ways impact them dishonestly, may taint them until the truth comes out.  It’s like throwing paint around.  Wherever it lands it leaves a mark.  But paint is temporary and can be removed.  When the truth comes out, as it inevitably will, things will change and the mark left by our dishonesty may be removed as well.  Truth is powerful and nothing we do or say can hold it back forever.  It will always rise and if we’ve been dishonest, in time our actions will be uncovered and open for all to see.  We are a reflection of everything we do.  If we want the best lives possible we must choose well.  Every success is there for us if we do what is needed to achieve it.  We can have the lives we dream about if we carefully and honestly move forward.

There are times in everyone’s life when things go wrong.  If we’re in a situation where we’re desperate for things to change we may consider saying or doing something underhanded.  Desperation may make us think about options we wouldn’t normally contemplate.  If we lie or manipulate others to get out of the situation, it may work but the dishonesty will follow us.  We’re accountable for everything we do and at some point, possibly the worst possible moment, the deception will be exposed and we will answer for it one way or another.  It’s hard to manage difficulty and nobody wants to struggle.  When trouble comes if we get through it with virtue and nobility, once it’s over we can move on and there will be no unpleasant reminders of what we’ve done and nothing to clean up afterward.

It isn’t always easy to take the high road and hold fast to our ethical and moral standards.  There are unlimited excuses for the decisions we make.  We’re always free to choose but we are never free to choose the consequences of those decisions.  Everything we do impacts our lives in one way or another.  By choosing well despite the inconvenience or effort, we have a better chance of getting the results we desire.  Choosing to be the best we can be in every situation will bring us satisfaction and happiness and pave the way forward to the lives we want the most.

Today if you’re in a situation that seems unbearable and you’re considering a lie to get out of it, think again.  Your integrity is valuable and precious.  You can handle anything and nothing is too powerful for you to navigate.  Stand firm in your honesty and hold tight to your values.  Great success lies ahead.  You will reach it by being true to the very best you have to offer.