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Fair and Even

7 Mar

As we interact with others who come in and out of our lives, we will meet many different kinds of people.  Some will be nice and enhance our experiences, and others may be difficult.  Everyone has their own expressions and ideas about life. We may agree with them at times and or we may be at odds.  There is an old expression, “An eye for an eye,” which loosely means I will give you back what you give to me.  It seems fair to return what we’ve been given and we may want to keep the score even by doing so.  However, if someone does something mean or hateful to us, returning that to them may not serve us well.  We may feel better hitting back, but all we will have accomplished is proving we can go as low as they did.  Who we are is defined by what we do, not what is done to us.  What seems fair may not always be the best choice.  If we want to be the best we can be, we must be willing to reach higher when we’ve been hit below the belt.  When we’ve been betrayed, scorned, cheated on, lied to, or in any other way demeaned, we can step back and decide what is in our best interest going forward.  We need not continue relationships that don’t work.  We can keep a high standard for our behavior and walk away from those who choose another road.  We are always in control of our decisions and can choose the paths that take us where we want to go.  We can be fair and still move forward with grace and dignity.  We deserve the very best of everything.  By choosing well, we will achieve it.

The fight or flight reflex can have a huge influence over us when we’re in situations that are threatening or aggressive.  We may have an almost uncontrollable desire to run from whomever is involved, or we may feel anger rise in us and desire to smash our opponent.  This is a survival mechanism that warns us of impending danger.  However, most of the time we may not be in real danger, but threatened by a situation or person who is bullying and forceful.  If we take a minute to think about how best to proceed instead of simply reacting, we will find greater success moving forward.  We can take a deep breath, recognize the instinctive cues, and then calmly make a decision about how to proceed.  We can be in control of our lives even when things go wrong and choose the best paths ahead.

Sometimes people get ahead and win despite poor decisions and bad behavior.  It’s hard to watch someone succeed by cheating or bullying, and it goes against our ideas of fair play.  When those who are dishonest or unethical win, we may feel burned and angry.  But life has a way of looping around and in the end, there is no way to escape personal accountability.  We can ensure our peace and happiness going forward by making the best choices each day and choosing the paths that will take us where we most want to go.

Today if someone has done something to hurt you and you want to get back at them, remember who you are and what you really want.  Reach higher and choose the road that will take you to excellence.  You are amazing and powerful, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Make your best decisions and every road will open ahead.



5 Mar

How we are perceived by others is sometimes the result of what we’ve done in the past.  Our personal behavior as we move through different situations may color what other people think of us and how much influence we carry.  We often hear about personal branding and how important it is to make sure ours represents what we want it to portray.  It’s a complicated issue and people may use all kinds of measuring factors regarding it.  We may have no idea how we’re being judged, and who we really are may have nothing to do with the impressions others may assume.  It’s dangerous to label people, and although we can’t prevent anyone from assuming things about us, we can refuse to judge those around us the same way.  Branding is important in business, and how successful we are managing it will sometimes decide whether we are entitled to some opportunities.  But in our personal lives, branding may be harmful and destructive.  Although we need information to make good decisions, basing any judgement on hearsay, or rumor, or assuming people will do anything before they have the chance to try will never bring us success.  We learn about people as we interact with them.  Every time we meet with them, talk to them, or work with them we learn more about them and as we get to know them can decide how our relationship will be defined.  The world is a big place and there are infinite human expressions and experiences.  Instead of believing what we hear, we can allow others to show us who they are, and trust our personal wisdom moving forward to make the best decisions.

Everyone judges situations and those around them.  It’s a natural reflex and when we see someone who is very much like someone else we’ve known we may make assumptions about who they are.  We may instinctively assign all kinds of traits to them simply because they remind us of a previous situation.  If we don’t have much interaction with them, those reminders may stay in place indefinitely.  But everyone is different.  Even people who look alike or act alike are not the same.  Assumptions are dangerous and are sometimes based on fiction.  We are wise enough to set aside any pre-conceived ideas about anyone and let them show us who they are.  We can be open to building relationships going forward.

There may be times in our lives when we may be judged or excluded from something we desire because of a previous situation.  Perhaps we didn’t manage something the way others felt was best, or we got caught up in some drama where there was no way to win.  Life is complicated and sometimes we end up in places that convolute our path for a time.  We all go through unexpected situations, but nothing is permanent.  Change is constant, and we learn as we go.  No matter what has happened in the past, we can be confident moving forward that we will make excellent decisions and choose the right road.  We can find success ahead and achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’ve judged someone without knowing them, let them show you who they are.  Be welcoming and keep the doors open.  There is great blessing in sharing our lives with others.  Refuse to brand and label those around you, and learn about them as you go.  Your life will be richer, and your relationships will be stronger.


21 Feb

Change is the one thing we can always count on in life.  Our situations will change whether we’re doing well and things are going as planned, or our lives are in conflict and nothing is working out.  As we navigate through continual modifications, there may be times when we feel disconnected and lost trying to find the way forward.  We may feel uncertain as we navigate uncharted territory and push through a new situation.  If we are confident in what we want, and know who we are, the transition will be easier.  We can create a strong and immovable foundation in our lives that will hold us securely even if all our plans go up in smoke.  Understanding what our real focus is, and where we want to go will help us keep our feet steady when the sands start to shift.  Having a sturdy foundation is imperative when we build anything.  If the foundation is unstable and moves when the winds blow, whatever we have placed on it will fall.  The same is true in our lives.  If we are firm and secure in our direction and self-assured in our focus, our solid foundation will hold us together even if everything around us falls apart.  We can be immovable in our focus and resolved in our way forward.  Building a strong and solid foundation will help us get through any complication or problem that comes.  We have everything we need to manage anything.  Trusting ourselves and believing in our ability to succeed will move us forward and help us hold strong to the goals ahead.  We can do anything.  All our dreams are possible and we will reach them.

There are endless opportunities in life and limitless things we can do.  We can do anything and become anyone we want to be.  Before we build any foundation we must decide how we want to live and what we want to do.  If we don’t know who we are or where we want to go, we will continually vacillate from one thing to another, never staying long enough to establish success.  Like a bee flitting from flower to flower we may constantly try on new ideas and change our lives to fit another model.  While it’s important to explore all the avenues we’re interested in, at some point we must define what it is we truly want and where we want to go.  Then we can make a plan to move forward and focus on what we want to accomplish.

They say if you want to see God laugh, make plans.  Life is complicated and we only have control over what we do.  Sometimes the plans we make don’t go exactly the way we think they will.  Others make decisions that impact our progress, unforeseen complications arise, and sometimes the way forward is blocked and impassable.  But every plan can be modified and if we can’t get to the goal from one point, we can move on to the next.  If we are firm in our direction, nothing will hold us in place.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we are determined and focused on the goal.  Success is always available to us no matter what is in the way.

Today if your plans have fallen apart and you aren’t sure what to do next, be strong and stand firm.  Your foundation is immovable and you know what you want.  Change direction and find a new road forward.  Every goal is attainable and you will find success.

In the Weeds

20 Feb

As we live our lives we go through all kinds of struggles and complications, problems and difficulties, and sometimes it seems we will never succeed. We have dreams we want to work on, goals we want to achieve, and when there is a lot to untangle we may feel we’ll never get to them. It’s like trying to find the way through a complex and convoluted maze with blinders on, and can feel like the obstacles before us will never end. If we must push through a lot just to move forward a little we may become overwhelmed and tired, and feel we’ll never prevail. Even if we can see the road ahead, if we’re caught in the mire where we are, moving forward may seem like an impossible dream. As we tire of the struggle we may lose hope and give up. But there is always a clearing ahead. There is always a road in front of us. No matter how tangled we are, and no matter how thick the weeds become, if we continue to take another step forward we will reach it. It may take time to find it, and we may make a few wrong turns, but if we continue the road ahead will open for us. Every problem has a solution. There isn’t anything strong enough or convoluted enough to hold us in place forever. If we keep moving forward, if we keep pushing ahead, we will find all the answers we seek. Life can be hard, but we are strong and capable, and nothing is too difficult for us to manage. We have all the endurance we need to continue. We can be confident even when we fail, and courageous even when we stumble. Everything is there for us, and we have everything we need to succeed.

Sometimes the road ahead seems endlessly perplexing and continuously complicated. If we get overwhelmed, we may decide moving forward is impossible. There are a lot of factors involved in every decision and sometimes the goals we want to reach aren’t available to us when we want them. If we can’t move forward, if the weeds are too thick, we can set the goal aside for a time and return to it later when our circumstances have changed. Often success is about timing. We need never give up on anything we want to achieve, but we can step away until our situation modifies and we can move forward.

Success doesn’t always come with the first try. If we aren’t committed to the objective, the first time things go wrong we may give up and walk away. But if the goal is important we can do whatever it takes to achieve it. There is nothing too far out of reach or too difficult for us to understand. We can do anything we desire. We are wise enough to figure out any complication and strong enough to continue forward.

Today if you’re in the weeds and the road ahead is hard to find, decide how you want to proceed. You can reach any goal you choose if you are willing to do what is needed to get there. Decide on the way forward and proceed with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You are strong, wise, and powerful. Choose your next step. Success is always there for you. Nothing will stop you from reaching the goal.


Waiting for Luck

15 Feb

There are a lot of things to accomplish in our lives. We have responsibilities to tend to, jobs to work, chores to get done, and endless details that need our attention. Sometimes we get so caught up in our ‘to do’ lists and carried away with all the particulars of our every day lives, we set our dreams and personal goals aside. They sit dormant in the backs of our minds waiting for us to engage them. In the meantime, we spend our time getting other things done and wait for the moment when we can open the door back to them and begin to make them come true. Life has a way of taking over and if we don’t control how we spend our time, our time will control us. Waiting for the perfect moment to arrive when everything is settled and we can finally do what we’ve been putting off is like waiting for luck. It’s probably not going to show up anytime soon. Life can be complicated and waiting for the perfect time to finally do what we want most is futile and unrealistic. If we want to find real success we must take control of our decisions and move forward. There will be complications and interference, and dozens of things that need to be done, but we can, in the midst of any situation, make time for what we really want to do. How we spend our time reflects what we value most. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we’re willing to do what is needed to make it happen. As soon as we decide they are important, we can begin to make our dreams come true. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we choose. Choosing well will help us find success and happiness.

When there is something we really want to accomplish, no matter how busy we are, we find a way to get it done. But if we aren’t really committed to a task, we may put it off until we ‘find’ time to do it. Time is constant. It doesn’t wait, it doesn’t bend, and it can’t be found. Waiting to find time to do anything is the same as saying it’s not a priority. Only we can decide what is important to us. Being honest with ourselves about our choices will help us move forward in ways that will take us where we want to go, and bring us satisfaction.

Sometimes we may hesitate before beginning toward a goal. We may not be confident we can reach it, or face criticism because it’s different than what others think we should do, or we may be unsure of the way forward. Hesitation is a pause we can use to consider all our options before we begin. We can move forward in ways that work uniquely for us, and with determination and focus, reach any destination. There is nothing we can’t accomplish and no road is too long to travel. We have everything we need to go anywhere we choose. Everything is there for us. We need only begin.

Today if you’ve been waiting for everything to fall into place so you can start reaching your goals, begin now. Take the first step forward and plan your life around what you really want to accomplish. Be in control of the road ahead and all your dreams will come true. You can do anything. Be confident. Every goal is within reach, and you will get there.

Digging In

13 Feb

Nobody is right all the time. We all make mistakes and choices we regret. Sometimes we go the wrong way and have to correct our course, sometimes we go too far and have to back track, and sometimes we just bomb completely and have to start over. It happens. We’re only human and can only know what we know at any given time. When things go wrong and we discover we’ve made a mistake, we can acknowledge the error and then do what is needed to correct it. But there may be times when although we know we’re wrong, refuse to accept it and dig in, pushing forward defending a position that will not work. Maybe we’re embarrassed or prideful, or think if we keep going the wrong way somehow, magically it will turn into the right way. Whatever our reasons, if we continue moving ahead on the wrong road we will never find success. It’s hard to face any kind of failure but looking at it completely, and determining to correct what is needed is the best way forward. We are always in control of our lives and can change focus at any time. As soon as we see we’re going the wrong way we can turn in a new direction. The world is filled with endless possibilities. Limiting ourselves to only one road and holding fast to it  headed somewhere we don’t want to go, will only bring us sorrow. We can let go of pride and control, and change our lives. Everything is possible if we’re willing to be flexible. Happiness is always there and we can reach it.

Traditions are powerful motivators. If we’re doing something that has been done the same way for a long time we may hold onto it even if it’s not working. We may believe if we stay the course a little longer it will correct itself and we’ll find success. That might happen but if something truly isn’t working, it’s better to step back and find a different option. Things change and what worked in the past may not be feasible anymore. Being open to trying something new or opening a different door may be all that’s needed to take us forward. We have everything necessary to succeed, and embracing all possibilities will help us get there.

Confidence is a great attribute that will carry us through many complicated and difficult times. If we’re confident in our ability to overcome trials we have greater strength moving forward. But confidence in the midst of continual setbacks may keep us from finding new solutions that will take us where we want to go. We can be confident and still humble enough to recognize when things aren’t working and modify our plans. Every option is available and there are endless choices to make. We can change direction when necessary and create a new plan to move us forward. We are capable of great success, and being willing to be flexible will help us achieve it.

Today if you’ve been stalled despite your efforts to push forward, look at all the options available and find the road that will move you ahead. Modify your plans to find success and start again. All the answers are there for you, and you will find them. Redirect your course and you’ll reach your goal. Be open and see everything clearly. Nothing will keep you from the prize.


7 Feb

Every beautiful, fragrant rose is a delight to see.  They are lovely but each stem is studded with ferocious thorns that can cut and hurt when we touch them.  Thorns can do a lot of damage and we must be careful when handling even the loveliest of blossoms.  It seems counterproductive to have such a beautiful flower with such a terrifying enhancement, but this is how many of our experiences are in life.  When we want something desirable and wonderful, we often have to go through something difficult to get it.  The old saying there is no such thing as a free lunch is true.  If we want roses, we have to put up with thorns, and if we want to achieve our goals, we have to do what is required to get there.  Sometimes there may be quick answers and shortcuts that will take us further and more quickly, but often we must take the long way around one step at a time, and endure everything in our path to make the dream a reality.  We may get tired, frustrated, overwhelmed, or just fed up with the struggle, and still the road is long before us.  We must have enough temerity and grit to grind through the tough times if we want to make it to the goal.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we’re willing to do what is required.  Being willing to push a little harder, endure a little longer, and continue forward one more time will take us where we want to go.  We can manage thorns and overcome them.  We can reach any goal and find complete satisfaction and happiness in our lives.

There will always be plenty of people around us who have opinions about our lives.  They may say we can’t win at what we’re attempting.  It’s too hard, it’s too complicated, it’ll take too much time, or we aren’t strong enough to get through it.  It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions or the path we’re on.  We are in charge of our lives and can do anything we like.  If others disagree, it’s on them.  We don’t have to change our plans or desires just because they aren’t what someone else would choose. We can do things our way and travel any road we desire.

When the journey has been long and arduous, and we’re weary of complications and problems, we may decide to set the goal aside for a time.  Life is long and there are many things to accomplish.  If we can’t move forward toward one goal and nothing we do improves the situation, we can move on to something else and return to it later.  Sometimes success is all about timing. Our lives are constantly changing and when our situation is different we may find the road ahead is clear and we can reach the goal.  We can get to any destination we desire, and be confident we will find success.

Today if you’ve been pushing through a sea of thorns and complications, and the goal is still out of reach, decide how you want to go forward.  You can continue to push ahead, or set it aside  until your situation changes and then try again.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are strong and wise, and nothing is out of reach.  Plan the way forward and be confident.  You will get to the destination and find success.