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Time to Breathe

23 May

As we go through our lives we play many roles.  We are daughters and sons, spouses, partners, lovers, workers, and dozens of others.  Each day requires us to fulfill some role in our lives and take care of the responsibilities attached to it.  In the midst of all this activity and interaction we may forget to stop and pay attention to what’s going on inside us.  It can be hard to express who we truly are when we’re putting out fires and getting things done.  We may neglect personal time for reflection and private growth because of everything pressing on us.  While it’s important to accomplish the things that move us forward and take care of business as needed, it’s also important to take time for ourselves.  Peace comes when we do what’s important for us to become the people we want to be.  Time is always limited and if we don’t control it, it will control us.  There will always be one more thing to get done but our personal needs are as important as anything else we need to accomplish.  Valuing time for reflection and quiet thought will settle our minds and make the road ahead easier to navigate.  We can push and push and we may find great outward success but if we’re exhausted and unhappy when we get there our efforts will be wasted.  Life is an incredible blessing.  We have only the moment we’re in.  We can value ourselves as much as any task before us.  True happiness is always possible and caring for ourselves will make it happen.

Never in history have we been expected to do more than we are expected to accomplish today.  The standard for success is very high, and rest and relaxation have sometimes fallen by the wayside.  We can be highly motivated and productive and still take time out.  The road will not disappear if we step off it for a moment.  Everything will remain and wait for our return.  Rest brings refreshment and new ideas, and allows us to focus inwardly and let our imaginations roam.  When we sit still, ideas for complex issues have time to rise and all the hidden answers we’ve been seeking may appear.  We may discover new ways forward and have more confidence when we begin again.

It’s fine to be busy and actively engaged and we learn a lot as we complete different activities.  As we move forward it’s important to remember that every battery eventually runs low and needs to be recharged.  We don’t have to wait until we feel overwhelmed or get sick from fatigue.  We can be proactive and take time to breathe even in the midst of turmoil.  Our lives belong to us and we can design them to have the highest quality and best experience possible.

Today if you’ve been pushing personal needs aside in an effort to be more effective in the tasks at hand, take a step back and rest for a moment.  Give yourself time to breathe and think quietly.  Let your imagination soar and rest from the world.  You will find greater peace and happiness and everything you are seeking will come more easily.  You are amazing and capable, and every success is possible.  Take care of yourself and everything else will fall into place.

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Opting Out

21 May

There are a lot of people continually coming in and out of our lives.  Every individual brings with them specific ideas that may influence us in diverse ways.  If they are powerful and we admire them, that influence may be strong and far reaching.  Simple comments said in passing may make us see our situation in new ways and we may decide to change.  In our close relationships, the views and opinions of those we love are powerful.  If they feel strongly about something we may go along with them even if we aren’t sure it’s what we should be doing.  We may get into a situation where someone we love asks us to do something that is important to them, but that we are uncomfortable doing.  Our values and personal ideals are important.  We can always go along with anything in order to get along but each decision we make reflects who we are.  If we do things that are not in keeping with the standards we’ve set, no matter what our reasons are, we cannot be authentic and true to ourselves.  People will not trust us if we continually change with each new opinion that comes along.  We never have to do anything that isn’t in keeping with the standards we’ve set for our lives.  If someone asks us to do something that compromises us, we may opt out.  We can be gracious and kind, and still choose what is best for us.  We know who we are and where we want to go.  We decide what is important and how we want to live our lives.  There are countless ideas about life, and we may choose what works for us.  Holding fast to our personal choices will give us confidence.   Our lives belong to us and through our excellent decisions we can become the people we most want to be.

It’s important to be flexible and adapt to different situations as they come along.  Being able to change does not mean we must abandon who we are.  We can move in a new direction and still hold fast to the ideals we value.  There will always be lots of choices that take us from the paths we want to travel but with determination and focus we can make the best decisions and move forward with confidence while keeping true to what we want most.

Times change and what was considered appropriate and valuable in the past may no longer apply.  We may be in situations when we’re pressured to do something that is acceptable to others but uncomfortable for us.  We set our own personal standards and the ideas of those around us may differ from what we want in our lives.  We never have to conform to anything that goes against the values we’ve set.  We can go our own way and make our own choices.  Life is a great blessing and when we live it in ways that embellish who we really are we find true happiness.

Today if you’re in a situation that compromises the standards you’ve set for yourself, you may opt out and go a different way.  You know who you are and what you want.  You can choose the roads that reflect your personal standards and express your individuality with grace and confidence.  Every choice is yours to make.  Choose the way that takes you to your best self and you will find true happiness.

Darkness

14 May

The world is a big place with millions of people making all kinds of decisions.  Many people are kind and loving, and make choices that bring goodness and charity.  However, there is wickedness all around us and sometimes those who seek it make decisions that create problems and danger for the rest of us.  Although there is plenty of light for us to trust and rely on, there is also an element of darkness just a step away.  As we navigate our lives sometimes our path is influenced by pressures around us and we may end up somewhere far away from where we want to be.  Those who wish to control or manipulate can be very cunning and convincing, and if we aren’t careful we may be fooled into following them.  When we allow others to control our lives or color our decisions we may choose things that impact us negatively.  We know what we want and have all the power we need to achieve anything we desire.  We can be wise in our decisions and choose the best way forward even in the midst of confusion.  If we take the time to see everything objectively before we decide we will find the road that will take us where we want to go.  Our lives belong to us and we are responsible for every decision we make.  If we take a wrong turn we can change direction and redirect our course going forward.  Nothing is permanent and even if we’ve gone far away from where we want to be we can find our way back.  We deserve every happiness and success.  Nothing is impossible and we can do anything we desire.

There are many influences around us all the time and if someone wants something from us and it compromises our standards they may try to convince us by telling us they’ll only ask us this once and never again.  If we care for them we may go along but if we step away from our core values one time it will be easier to do it again.  Once we open the door to options outside our ethical standards we may muddy the waters going forward and it may become harder and harder to find the road back to where we really want to be.

Some people lie to accomplish their objectives.  If we do, we may well reach the goal but the lies will follow us and until we’re ready to tell the complete truth will live dishonestly.  There is nothing positive to be gained by deceit or trickery.  It will only lead to more lies and more confusion.  Our lives may get so tangled up and turbulent it may be hard to find our way forward.  We can always stop and correct our course and choose another road.  We can turn toward truth and choose wisdom going forward.  When we do we will find comfort and clarity, and every option will be available to us.

Today if you’ve been tempted to do something that is not in keeping with your personal standards, remember who you are.  You are precious and valuable, and every choice you make expresses your worth.  Nothing is more important than your personal integrity.  Be wise and make excellent choices.  They will take you where you want to go and bring you increased success.  You are powerful and intelligent, and nothing is out of reach.  Choose wisely and every destination will be possible.

Being True

10 May

Each of us has our own unique personality that defines who we are. We express our individual tastes and desires and learn about ourselves and what we want. If we’re confident and self-assured we will stay true to our own personal values and choices. However, if we’re unsure about how we feel in certain situations and uncertain about how to respond we may latch onto someone else’s ideas and behaviors and adopt them as our own. Some people are very forceful and strong and if we aren’t sure we may choose to emulate them instead of voicing our own opinions. It’s easy to simply copy someone else’s ideas and views instead of figuring out our own. But pretending to be something we really aren’t will never take us where we want to go. Each choice we make has a result and if we choose behaviors that don’t reflect who we are we will construct a false façade that doesn’t have anything to do with reality. We can be inauthentic and imitate others for a while but eventually who we are will surface and the incongruity may bring confusion and complications. There may be times when we don’t know how we feel about something and need more information before we can decide. We don’t have to rush in order to agree with others and we don’t have to copy their answers. We can wait until we figure out everything and then determine our next steps. Allowing ourselves to be true to who we are before we respond will help us live honestly and sure. There is nobody else on earth exactly like us and our opinions and suggestions are important. We are smart enough to understand any situation before us and can take the time we need to find the best answers going forward.

Ideas change as time passes and what was once all the rage is now old news. If we change our opinions and standards every time the world around us changes we’ll be like leaves in the wind, tossed here and there with no direction or destination in mind. If we don’t define who we are and what we believe others will have trouble trusting and relying on us because each new idea will pull us away from where we are. There are always endless choices available and we must find the ones that best reflect our personal ideals and motives. We are the only ones who can define who we are. Understanding our true nature and desires, and then choosing the roads that emulate them will bring us the success we seek.

It may take time to discover what we really want and where we want to go. Until we define the way forward we can explore all possibilities around us. We will know when something fits and will find the road we want to travel. Our futures are ours to design and we can create the lives we want when we make the choices that take us there. All options are on the table and nothing can hold us back from success. We are strong and powerful and will find the way forward.

Today if you’ve been following along with those around you because you aren’t sure where you want to go, remember your destiny is yours to create. You can go anywhere and do anything. Think about what you want the most and then start forward toward the goal. There is great success ahead for you and nothing will stand in your way.

Possibilities

8 May

We live in a finite world where everything has a beginning and an end. It’s hard to comprehend endlessness and it can be difficult to wrap our minds around infinity. We may try to control our lives by defining our boundaries and parameters and do our best to keep them in place. We can choose to limit our experiences to things we know and understand instead of reaching out beyond our grasp to something undefined and foreign. It’s easy to keep our patterns common and stay where we know the terrain. We understand our current situation and feel comfortable in the routines we’ve established but there are endless possibilities available to us all the time. There are unlimited roads all around us and we can step off the familiar and try something new that will take us somewhere we’ve never been and show us things we’ve never imagined. When we try new things, our thinking expands. We see our lives from a new perspective and learn more about our world and what we’re capable of. We can do far more than we think we can and go places we’ve only dreamed about. Our lives belong to us and we can be brave enough to step off the well-worn path and try something new. We may find we have talents we weren’t aware of and discover incredible happiness going somewhere unexpected. There are unlimited possibilities to reach for. Our lives can be wide open and filled with new experiences and we can expand our understanding into areas we’ve only dreamed about. Opening our eyes and reaching out to something new will enrich us in ways we can only imagine until we take the chance. Nothing is out of reach and we can do everything.

Nobody knows what the future will bring and there may be times when what we thought was settled and predictable gets completely undone. The foundations we’ve built are shaken and suddenly everything we counted on is gone. When that happens, we have to regroup and find another way forward. Thankfully there are many roads to choose and we can begin again with confidence. Nothing can ever stop us from reaching our goals. We are strong and capable and will find our way forward.

When we’re comfortable where we are, even if we aren’t completely happy, we may stay the course because we understand our situation. As we stand still
opportunities around us are always there. We can enrich our lives and broaden our perspective by trying something new. Taking one small step into something we’ve never done before will open our minds to new possibilities and refresh our perspective. Life is a great blessing. Living it wide open and taking advantage of new experiences will bring us great satisfaction and continued happiness.

Today if you’ve been thinking about trying something new but aren’t sure about stepping away from what you know, be confident. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Be curious and open a new door. Endless possibilities await that will bring you boundless growth and enhance your life going forward. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Step up and push ahead. The whole world is there for you. Embrace it and move forward. Anything is possible.

Keeping it Hidden

7 May

There is great potential to achieve amazing things in our lives.  We can do anything we want to do and nothing is too difficult to manage when our desire for success is sufficient.  Although we all have greatness within us there may be times we keep it hidden and to ourselves.  Perhaps our goals are personal and we don’t want to share them.  Maybe we don’t like a lot of attention and are concerned that if we achieve the things we desire others with notice and we’ll be in the spotlight.  Keeping our talents and possibilities to ourselves is certainly our prerogative, but it may keep us from acting on the things we want to do.  We don’t have to project our intentions to those around us but we can begin forward toward them.  It’s important and appropriate to seek after the things we want the most in our lives even if they are very different from what we’re living now.  We are in complete control of our personal destiny and can go anywhere we want to go.  Moving toward the lives we want the most will bring us great satisfaction and happiness.  We don’t have to be concerned about the opinions of others and don’t need agreement to choose what is best for us.  Our lives belong to us and we may live them any way we decide.  The road to happiness is always there and when we choose the paths we most want to travel we will find it.  Every dream is possible and we have everything we need to accomplish anything we desire.  There is true greatness within us and it is strong enough to take us wherever we want to go.  All roads are available and nothing can hold us back.  We can reach any goal we desire and become the people we most want to be.

Some believe planning to make our dreams real is naïve and childish.  They may prefer a life of limits and defined parameters that is expected and planned.  There is nothing wrong with a structured life but every dream is possible if we are willing to do what is needed to make it come true.  We are not hindered by anything in our quest to move forward.  We can do anything and nothing is too far away to reach.  Believing in our possibilities and trusting in our choices will take us wherever we want to go.

Fear of the unknown is something we all deal with from time to time.  We know where we are and what to expect from the lives we’re living now.  Stepping away from the path that is well paved and easy and onto a foreign road that promises to take us to our most desired location takes courage. We can’t read the future and have no way of knowing what lies ahead.  We have all the wisdom we need to face anything that comes and when we’re ready to move toward our dreams we will manage the way forward.  We can do anything.  We can have the lives we desire and find complete happiness.

Today if you’ve been holding back from stepping toward your dreams because you aren’t sure and want to keep your desires to yourself, take the first step forward.  You can do anything you choose and nothing is out of reach.  Set your sites on your goals and proceed with confidence.  There is nothing too difficult for you to overcome and all your dreams can come true.

The Destination

2 May

Nothing in life is stagnant and no matter where we are now, we are always on our way to somewhere else.  Sometimes it’s a physical change of location but often it’s a change in our thinking or situation.  The journey as we travel teaches us many things and we may embrace them as they come.  Sometimes we hear people say it’s not the destination that counts, but the journey.  In some ways that’s true.  The journey along the way is what molds us and helps us become the people we want to be.  But the destination is important.  It does us no good to travel around for years on end and never reach a goal.  If we want to be successful we must keep the destination we are seeking forefront in our focus and purposefully move toward it.  Traveling through our lives with no goal in mind will only take us from place to place.  If we don’t choose the destinations we desire, life will provide them for us and where we end up may not be where we want to go.  It’s like taking a trip to the grocery store with no idea of what we want to buy.  There are endless choices and we can simply go through the aisles throwing things in the cart.  Without thinking we may get some things we can use but chances are we’ll end up with various items we don’t want that will be wasted.  We can define where we want to go and then move forward toward the goal.  The journey will teach us many things and will enrich our lives and when we reach the chosen destination we will find happiness.  We can live our lives any way we want to.  When we live them on purpose headed in the direction we most want to travel we will find great satisfaction at the end of the journey.  By defining our destination and focusing on moving toward it we will find great success and have the lives we want the most.

Many people may have opinions about what we should be doing or where we should be headed.  There are countless interpretations about life and everyone has their own ideas.  What works for one will not necessarily work for someone else.  We can listen to all the advice we get and evaluate every suggestion that comes but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves.  We have all the wisdom we need to decide what we want to do and choose the road ahead that takes us exactly where we want to go.

If we aren’t sure about what we want to accomplish we may simply move through our lives on auto-pilot.  Auto-pilot is easy and requires no thought.  Of course, if we don’t determine where we’re headed we may go nowhere or end up in a place that doesn’t work for us.  We know what we want and with careful thought and determination we can achieve it, whatever it is.  We can have the lives we dream about.  We need only be willing to do what is needed to get there.

Today if you’ve been coasting through your days letting things unroll on their own and haven’t reached any destination you desire, take control.  You have all the power you need to create the life you want.  Every blessing is there for you and nothing is out of reach.  Choose the road forward and move toward your goals.  All your dreams are waiting to come true.  Be purposeful, reach them and make them a reality.