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Tangled Up and Confused

3 Jan

People are complex. They may willingly share their lives with us but still keep some things to themselves. Even people we know well may hold back and act in ways they think we’ll accept that may not be their true character. It’s possible to get involved with someone and see them entirely differently than they really are. If they say all the right things, flatter us, or in other ways ingratiate themselves to us, we may not be aware of what’s really going on. If someone says they love us but then don’t show up when we’re scheduled to meet, we may be confused and demand an answer. If they want us to stay connected to them, they may say whatever it takes to hold us there despite our disappointment. If this continues, and they let us down again and again, we may find ourselves tangled up in a relationship that sounds great, but doesn’t make any sense. Words are powerful, and if someone wants to, they may try to hold us close despite what they’re doing by continuing to say the things we most want to hear. Everyone wants to be loved. It’s incredibly rewarding and satisfying to know that someone really loves us. When that happens, we feel great and fulfilled, but sometimes the situation isn’t what we imagine and we may get hurt. We never have to stay in any relationship that isn’t working or makes us feel bad. We deserve complete happiness, and no matter what someone says, what they do is who they really are. By stepping back and looking at everything clearly and objectively, our vision will clear and we will know how we want to proceed. We are in complete control of our lives and can change anything at any time. We know what we want, and with focus and determination, we will have it.

It’s good to have friendships with those around us. Many people will come in and out of our lives, and some will be friends, and others will be passing acquaintances. Real friendship and close connections require time and effort. There’s no such thing as a part time friend – we’re either there or we aren’t. If someone we thought was a friend betrays us or lets us down, we can re-evaluate the relationship and make any changes we desire. We are the most important people in our lives, and by keeping our eyes open, and seeing things as they really are, we will find the happiness we seek.

Most people are good and want to choose the right as they move forward. Complicating our lives with lies, fictitious tales, misdirection or other types of manipulation will never make us happy. We can do anything we like, and if we want to create havoc, distrust and disharmony, we can, and we may fool those around us for a time. But eventually truth always rises and if we’ve been dishonest or deceitful, we may be left standing alone. There is greatness in us all. By choosing the best roads ahead, and being honest in all our interactions, we can have the life we want the most.

Today if you’re tangled up in a relationship that’s confusing and doesn’t make any sense, step back and see everything clearly. You deserve the very best of everything and complete happiness. Change what isn’t working and step forward in a new direction. You are amazing and more powerful than you imagine. Trust yourself and be confident. Every happiness is there for you. Move ahead and claim it.

Behind the Scenes

6 Dec

Our lives are complex and filled with endless decisions. Every day brings something new and whatever we choose will bring some kind of result. If we’re intent on staying the course moving ahead, and make choices that push us forward, we’ll continue to advance. But there are few times when everything is black or white and easy to see. Many times our decisions may be influenced by what’s happening around us, how we feel, who’s involved and dozens of other factors. Although we may try to be honest in all our dealings, we may face a time when we decide to step off center and do something behind the scenes that will make the road easier. Maybe we fabricate a story that makes us look better, or we bribe someone to say or do something that opens a door we want to go through. Our ethical standards and choices tell the world and those around us who we are. If we fall prey to situational ethics – meaning the situation instead of our standards decide what we’ll do – we may open all kinds of new risks to our project, ourselves, and our integrity. If the goal is very important, we may think it’s worth the tradeoff when we start, but there is no way to see the end or any road from the beginning. One left turn may take us completely off course, or bring more trouble and discord than we expect. It’s not always easy to make the best choices, and sometimes doing something less than honest that appears to pave the way ahead looks very appealing. We must decide what we want the most. Is the goal really worth selling out to get it? Will the reward be worth the cost? Only we can make these decisions, but one thing is certain. When we choose the first step on any path, we are also choosing the last. Choosing the roads that will take us to the destinations we most desire and enhance our credibility and true character will always bring success. We have greatness inside us, and with wisdom and clarity, we can share it with the world.

There are lots of people willing to do whatever it takes to reach a goal. They will manipulate, lie, steal, coerce, whatever is needed to make it happen. They don’t care who they hurt or how much damage they do. Their devious and unethical behaviors may bring them great success, and lots of money, but none of it will augment their character or make them better people. It’s easy to cheat and manipulate to get our way, but nothing can compare to the nobility of true honesty and integrity.

Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. If we don’t care about ethics or morality, there will be lots of opportunities to get what we want without them. However, true happiness comes when we choose what we know is best and hold fast to our personal standards. Not every destination will be easy to reach, but by keeping our eyes on the goal and continuing forward, we can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach and every success is possible.

Today if there’s a chance to do something untoward that will make your journey easier, think carefully about the person you most want to be. You have so much to offer and all the wisdom and intelligence you need to accomplish anything you desire. Trust yourself. There isn’t anything too difficult for you. You are amazing and capable, and have everything you need to succeed. Show us your best, and be confident. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

Our Journey

6 Sep

There are billions of people on the earth and each is individual and unique. We all have ideas about how things should go and what we want to do. Our personal journeys are ours to determine and design. There are endless possibilities and we can do anything we like and go anywhere we want. The future awaits and once we decide how we want to proceed, we can step on any road we choose and move forward. It would be great if others agreed with our choices, and that will likely happen at some point. But our lives belong to us and we don’t need agreement or approval to move in any direction we desire. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves, and nobody else needs to understand our journey. All families and groups have traditions, and it’s easier when everyone goes along with what’s always been done, but we aren’t responsible for making life easy for those around us. There may be pressure to conform, but we are responsible for our own lives, and no matter what others think or prefer, can go our own way. The world is a big place filled with opportunities. Each choice we make will take us somewhere, and if we choose what we want the most, we will find great happiness and satisfaction. By trusting ourselves, and stepping forward toward the goals we most desire, every dream is possible. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and determination, will reach every success.

Sometimes when there are a lot of choices possible, it’s difficult to decide on one. Everything has its benefits and drawbacks, and before we can make a decision, we must first decide what we want to accomplish. Just going from one thing to another, trying this and that, is fine if we just want to superficially experience a lot of different things. But if we want to be successful at actually achieving a goal, we must choose the destination and then do what is necessary to make it ours. There will always be unforeseen complications and snags along the way, but they don’t mean we cannot succeed. We are intelligent and capable, and with determination can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody can see the future or know what will happen next. Once we begin toward a goal we may discover that the road to reaching it is far harder and will take far longer than we thought. If it’s too complex for us to manage right now, we can set it aside until we get more information or our situation changes. There is no rush to reach success, and once we’re ready to start again, we can move forward one step at a time, untangling complications as we go, and with faith and determination, reach the goal.

Today decide what you want and how you want to proceed. The journey ahead is yours to determine, and nothing is out of reach. You don’t need to explain your choice or get approval before you begin. Every destination is possible and nothing can keep you from success. Choose the road forward, and take the first step. Nothing can keep you from success. You are wiser and stronger than you imagine, and you will win.

Stepping Away

8 Aug

We all determine our own standards and how we’ll live our lives. Some people take a very strict view of ethics, morality and behavior expressions, and others are more fluid depending on the situation. No matter how we’ve chosen to do things, there may come a time when due to circumstances around us or something we desire, we may choose to step away from our own rules. Maybe there is something we really want and getting it will mean doing something unethical or even illegal. Or a friend or loved one may ask us, just this once, to do something questionable so they can get what they want. The temptation may be great to set aside our standards, or look the other way when something untoward is going on. We may think it’s just this once, and we’ll hold fast to our standards again once this issue is resolved. It’s possible to knowingly make a bad choice just once, but if we get away with it and gain the prize we’re seeking, it may be enough encouragement for us to think we can do it again. If we continue to ignore the standards we previously held close, it won’t be long before we’re living a different kind of life. Lying the first time may be hard, but everything gets easier with practice. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but every choice we make defines who we are. Slipping under the radar and cheating to get to the goal may give us immediate gratification, but the cost to our personal integrity will be great. Nothing brings greater trust and good will than complete honesty in all our dealings. We can make excellent choices and determine where we’ll go. Every choice belongs to us, and with careful consideration and wisdom, we will find the best way forward.

Some people have a very loose idea of personal honesty. They believe they are honest enough, even though they slip into the movie theater behind someone else without paying, or lie when they need to get around something they don’t want to do. If we question them on it, they may say we’re “too honest” and let it go. Honesty does not have a sliding scale. We’re either honest or we’re not. Situations and circumstances may make the best choices more difficult but they do not change what is right. We know who we are and what we want. We deserve the very best of everything and by choosing wisely in every instance, we can achieve it.

There are billions of people on the planet and we’re all far more connected than we may realize. People watch us and notice the decisions we make. If we are honest and clear in our interactions, they will trust us. Gaining the trust of others allows us to build strong and valuable connections which can pave the way forward. Nobody wants to deal with someone who is unpredictable and dishonest. Every choice we make shows the world who we are, and if we’re mindful and aware of each decision, our lives will be blessed and we’ll reach every desired destination. 

Today if you’re tempted to do something questionable because it will get you what you want, remember who you are. You have so much to offer and there is greatness in you. Honor your standards and make choices with integrity and wisdom. Pave the road ahead by choosing well, and you will find great happiness. You are amazing and every success is waiting. Step forward with confidence and clarity, and you will reach the prize.

Horses and Water

13 Jul

There are endless things we can do, unlimited places to go, and no end to experiences we may have. Life is full of surprises and unexpected developments, and even when we try to plan carefully and follow every rule, sometimes everything goes awry. We never know what will happen, and the road we’re on may suddenly, and without warning, simply disappear. There is no destination that has only one possible route to reach it. There will always be another road, another turn, and another way around anything that gets in the way. We have endless opportunities to do whatever we desire, but the lives we want the most won’t magically appear just because we want them, or we’re good people, or our intentions are noble. It’s up to us to start the journey and stay focused until we reach the goal. Nothing is beyond our grasp, but we must do what is needed to make it ours. The old saying, “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink,” is a message about life. There will be continual chances to do anything we like, but we must take the opportunities when they arise and do the work to reach the goal. The door may stand open, but we have to walk through it and push forward until we succeed. Every dream is possible if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. We are amazing and more powerful than we realize, and by clearly defining what we want and then moving toward the goal undaunted, we can have the lives we desire most.

We all have things we want to accomplish, and we may spend lots of time thinking about all the blessings we’ll gain when we win. It’s nice to dream about the things we desire, but until we actually start moving toward the goal, nothing will change. It may be difficult to achieve, but we are strong and capable. It may take a long time, but we can move forward at our own pace. Every destination is possible and by trusting ourselves and courageously stepping forward we will succeed.

Some people continually complain about their lives. They may say they didn’t get the opportunities they wanted, or someone didn’t like them and held them back, or they were born in the wrong place or a million other excuses for why they are so unhappy. Our lives belong to us and nobody is going to pave the road ahead or open all the hard doors that let us progress. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can move.  If we don’t like what we’re doing, we can change. Our destiny is ours to define, and when we’re ready there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if there’s something you want to do but haven’t yet started, think about how you want to proceed and take the first step. There is greatness in you and nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and move forward with confidence. Every destination awaits, every success is possible, and you will make them yours.