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Cleaning Up

21 Aug

We make countless decisions as we go through our lives.  It’s not always easy to make the best choices and we can create a mess by making them quickly and without thought.  We all take a wrong turn once in a while but if we’re lazy and pass things off, choosing to let things happen as they will instead of purposely making a considered choice we may end up with a life filled with unnecessary complications and difficult scenarios that may have been avoided.  Instead of moving forward we may spend a lot of time cleaning up messes we’ve created by making bad choices.  The time spent turning things around again is time lost and cannot be used toward achieving our goals.  Deciding to live our lives thoughtfully takes effort but when we do we have a better chance of things going the way we want them to.  We can live our lives any way we choose.  If we like conflict and disharmony, it’s easy to create but both require time and energy to repair and keep our eyes from the road ahead.  Learning to live in ways that bring harmony and cooperation, and choosing to make choices carefully will take us closer to the goals we’re seeking and bring us satisfaction and happiness.

Our emotions lag behind our intellect.  When something happens that triggers a negative emotional response instead of taking time to think we may jump.  Instead of taking of moment to evaluate our next move, we may simply charge right back and make the situation worse.  We may allow our emotional reaction to decide how we’ll act.  Emotions are important and help us understand our world but when we let them decide how we’ll respond to conflict we may not get the best results.  We can step back for a moment and think about what’s best going forward before we act.  It isn’t easy to step back when we feel threatened or hurt but we have all the strength and wisdom we need to accomplish it.  Taking a moment to think first may save us additional duress going forward and help us resolve conflict before it gets out of hand.

If we choose to go through our lives reacting to things instead of taking time to respond in ways that help we may end up in situations that are heated and difficult to navigate.  Reactions are normal and when things happen that upset or confuse us if we don’t take a moment to stop and think we may do things that elevate the situation and make things worse.  We are always in control of our lives.  We can choose ways that make the road ahead easier instead of react in ways that make it harder.  There will always be conflict but how we manage it is up to us.  We can choose what’s best and make decisions that will prevent a mess going forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that is filled with conflict and you feel the tension rising within you, take a moment to step back and think about your options going forward.  You are in complete control of everything you do and you can make excellent choices that will bring harmony and peace into your life.  Choose the way forward that helps you keep your eyes on your goals.  There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for you to figure out.  You have everything you need to succeed.  Take your time and choose success.

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Pointed Ahead

18 Aug

There are endless choices we can make about where we’ll go in our lives.  We can do what our families think we should, we can make choices based on our friends’ suggestions, or we can decide on our own where we want to go.  There are limitless opportunities and choices we can make and we may customize our lives any way we choose.  Before we begin, the first step is to decide where we want to go.  Important decisions take time and careful consideration and if we are undecided and begin walking forward unsure of where we’re headed we may end up somewhere we don’t want or even walking in circles.  Starting on a journey without a defined destination will not help us achieve anything we desire.  Being busy doesn’t always mean being productive and wandering around in circles may keep us moving but it will get us nowhere.  Before we start moving we must choose a destination and then plan our steps forward to reach the goal.  When our feet are pointed ahead in the direction we desire we have a good chance of reaching our goals.  We can go anywhere but first we must decide exactly what destination we desire.  We already know what we want most and have all the courage and wisdom needed to achieve anything.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and no place we can’t go.  Choosing carefully will help us find success.  Everything is available to us once we decide we will do what it takes to get it.  Every choice is ours to make.  We can choose what we want most and point our feet in the direction needed to achieve it.

It’s easy to coast through life going here and there with no destination in mind.  It’s easy to go with the flow of other people’s decisions and play along even if the goal isn’t something we really want.  But going along and simply taking things as they come will never help us get to the destinations we want most.  We can do anything but we must take control of our time and decisions and move forward toward our goal with determination.  Happiness comes from living our lives on purpose and choosing our own way forward.  We can accomplish anything we desire and begin forward on the road that will take us to success.

Everyone has their own ideas about life and what is best.  What is right for others may not be what we want.  We don’t have to conform to anyone’s suggestions about our future and we can determine our way forward on our own.  We know what we want to accomplish, we know where we want to go, and we know how to find success.  Being true to our sincere desires will bring us happiness as we move forward on the road that is genuinely ours.  Each day we choose what is best for us will take us one step closer to success and real happiness.

Today if you want to change direction from the road you’ve been on but there is pressure to stay on course, remember your life is yours to design.  You can go anywhere you want.  Point your feet in the direction you desire and begin forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t do and every step with take you closer to the life you want most.  This is your day.  Move forward with confidence.  It’s all there for you.

Redirect

17 Aug

As we go through our lives and move toward goals we want to accomplish there may be lots of factors involved in our success. Sometimes the plans we make work out well and we face little resistance, but other times we may come upon a road block that stops our progress. If we’re in a job we like and want to advance but the positions ahead are tied up, or we’re in a relationship that is stuck and we want to move forward, we may feel locked down and frustrated. We can tread water for a time and exercise patience as we look at our options, but if there really is no way to move forward it may be time to redirect our course. We can stay in any situation for as long as we like. We can decide to cope with things as they are and remain in place. Or we can decide our goals are important and do what is needed to change our direction onto a road that will lead us to them. It’s not always easy to change and it takes courage to choose a new direction, but our lives belong to us and we can do anything we really want to do. If we can’t get to a destination we desire by staying where we are, we can move. There are endless opportunities available to us and we can always choose another path. It may take time and determination to do what is needed to alter our course but we have everything we need to accomplish anything we like. Our futures are ours to design. We can settle for what we have or we can reach for the stars. There are no limits to what we can accomplish if we are willing to do what it takes. We can have the lives we truly want and find happiness.

We understand where we are now and what to expect in our daily lives. It can be intimidating to change course and try something new. There is no way to know how our decisions will work out or where they will take us. If we really want more than we have now or desire new experiences, we can turn and choose a new way. There are countless roads we can travel and limitless things to try. We have all the courage we need to do anything we desire and there is no need to stay anywhere we don’t want to be.

Although we live in a world with billions of people and there may be many influences over us, we are responsible for our decisions and how we live our lives. It’s useless to complain about where we are if we aren’t willing to move. If we aren’t happy and unfulfilled or if we are frustrated and bored, we can change our circumstances and create a new situation. There isn’t anything we can’t do and nothing powerful enough to hold us in place. We can change and grow and try anything going forward. We can have exciting and fun lives that fill us with happiness and success. The choice is always ours to make. There isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if you aren’t happy with your current situation and yearn for something new, make a plan to achieve the goals you most desire. There are roads to every destination and you can choose them. You can go anywhere and do anything. Turn your course and redirect your way forward to where you most want to be. Happiness is always available to you and you have everything you need to gain it.

Life Sentence

10 Aug

Life is a continual process of learning. Every step we take and every decision we make teaches us something. Although we may try to make the best choices possible, sometimes important details are disguised or we may be distracted and choose something that turns out badly. There is no way to know everything and we all make mistakes from time to time. If we’ve made a choice that has had terrible results we may need to work hard to fix it. Bad decisions happen and if they are extreme we may feel we’ve ruined our lives. We may be sure there is no way to repair the situation and we are lost, but everything is transient and nothing is permanent. There is no life sentence pronounced upon us when we fail. We aren’t doomed to remain in pain and anguish forever. It’s just a mistake. Even if it feels like a terminal disaster, it’s just a mistake. And mistakes can be amended. We can figure out what is needed to correct our course going forward and find the right road. If others have been hurt by our decision we can do what is required to apologize and turn things around. Nobody is perfect and there is no guide book to warn us before we make decisions. We will often choose wisely and generally find our way, and if we stumble we can adjust our direction ahead and start again. Life is all about learning. We learn everything we need to know as we move along. Detours may happen and we may falter, but we are capable of regaining our footing and continuing forward to success.

If we make a bad decision that impacts a personal relationship in serious ways there may be long lasting consequences. If the damage is great we may lose the connection with the other person completely. They may choose to walk away from us and leave us behind. We can try to repair the situation but we cannot make anyone continue forward with us against their will. We can learn as much as possible from the experience and take that information forward to help us in the future. Sometimes things break and can’t be repaired but we can remain open to starting again if the opportunity comes.

We are free to choose anything we like but we cannot control the results of those choices. Sometimes things will go exactly as planned and other times they may work against us. Learning to see things openly and objectively, and being willing to look at all sides of every problem will enable us to make the best choices. We are capable of making excellent decisions and have everything we need to succeed. We can trust in our ability to choose wisely and if things go awry, we can choose again to correct our way forward.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and have caused yourself or others pain or discomfort, look at the issue completely. See the best options going forward and choose the path that will correct your course. You are intelligent and wise, and can do amazing things. The road to success is there for you. Seek it, and find it. There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well. You have everything you need right now to succeed.

Revision

7 Aug

We all have particular behavior idiosyncrasies that make us unique and special.  We have some traits that bring us happiness and help us manage our daily lives and we are grateful for them.  We may also have some behaviors that don’t work so well and hang us up from time to time.  We all learn behavior patterns as we grow and when we’re accustomed to doing things a certain way we may continue even if they bring us discomfort.  Whether or not we continue to repeat them is up to us.  We can have any kind of life we want.  If we want a life filled with drama and tension, it’s not difficult to create.  But if we want lives filled with peace and harmony we may need to look at our behaviors clearly and objectively and change some patterns in order to achieve it.  We all know what’s best for us and when we’re doing things that will bring problems and complications to our lives.  In every decision we can do our best to create situations that bring order and calm instead of conflict and tension.  We can’t control what others do but we can determine to carefully consider all the options before us and choose the options that bring resolution and comfort.  Every day is a blessing.  Learning to care for ourselves and make the most positive choices will help us enjoy our time and bring us peace and added joy.

Some decisions fill our lives with conflict.  They may include some kind of deception or manipulation that intensifies the problem.  If we like tension or feel energized when there are problems to solve it’s not difficult to create a life filled with trouble.  If we want constant struggle we can create scenarios that make it happen.  We may manufacture situations to prove how strong we are or how affective we can solve difficult situations.  It takes a lot of energy to live in continual conflict. There is enough natural complication in our lives already and we don’t have to prove anything to anyone.  We can revise decisions that may bring added conflict and make choices that resolve it by choosing peace over contention.

Learning to live peacefully opens doors to new opportunities.  Everyone enjoys being around those who have a positive outlook and seek the best options in their decisions.  There is no way to completely avoid conflict but when it comes we can decide to do things that will minimize the problem and defuse the intensity.  We are in complete control of our decisions and can make any choice we desire.  Since we can never choose the outcome of any choice we make it’s in our best interest to weigh our options carefully and make the decisions that have the greatest chance of bringing the results we desire.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well.  Learning to live peacefully and happily will bring us great reward and satisfaction.  Our lives are precious and we can fill them with joy.

Today if you’ve been struggling with conflict and pushing against resolution, look at the issue clearly and decide the best way forward.  You have everything you need to be happy and successful.  Make decisions today that will bring you joy in the future.  You are precious and priceless.  Be happy and choose wisely.

Broken or Blessed

4 Aug

Relationships are important to all of us.  When we have a healthy and strong network of family and friends around us we feel supported and cared for.  Relationships come in all varieties and when they are good for us they are blessings in our lives.  But sometimes we may develop a relationship with someone who doesn’t have our best interests at heart.  Perhaps they are dysfunctional in their own lives and use us to fill in the gaps and missing pieces they experience within themselves.  Or maybe they see us as a stepping stone to something better.  Sometimes they may manipulate us into believing they care for us when they don’t or convince us to trust them in ways that work against us.  If they need more than we’re comfortable giving or have problems that interfere with our happiness it will be impossible for us to continue.  We don’t have to end any relationship that is important to us but if it’s hurting us we can find ways to manage it that ensure we’re comfortable and safe.  If a relationship is too difficult it may break and we may have to walk away.  Our personal happiness and safety are important and if we’re in a relationship that hurts us or makes us feel unsure we can change our involvement.  There are all kinds of people in the world and some need more than we can give.  We don’t have to continue in any situation that doesn’t work.  We can choose a new path at any time and are in complete control of our lives.  We know ourselves and know what is best for us.  Taking control and choosing the best road forward will bring us happiness and peace.

Perception is reality and sometimes our perception of an issue may be different than someone else’s.  What is acceptable and appropriate for one person may be offensive and unwelcome to another.  If we develop a relationship with someone whose ideas about what is right differ from ours, there will likely be conflict.  It may be possible to find a compromise but if the differences are extreme and feelings are strong it may become unworkable.  If we’re involved with someone whose personal values are far different than ours we may need to step back.  We deserve to be happy and choose to live our lives according to our personal standards.  We need not compromise what is most important to us.

There are few things more rewarding than a loving relationship with someone who respects us and treats us with kindness.  We feel strong when we’re with them and confident going forward knowing they have our backs and we can count on them for support.  Sharing our lives with someone who understands us and cares for us is a great blessing.  We can have any kind of relationships we desire.  We know what we want and what we need, and if we choose well we will be happy.

Today if you’re struggling with a relationship that brings you pain and frustration, consider all your options going forward.  You are in control of your life and you deserve every happiness.  Make choices today that will bring you comfort and joy.  You know what you need and you know what to do.  Be confident.  You have everything you need to have the life you desire.

Planning to Fail

3 Aug

There are a lot of things we want to do and we may think about how our lives would look if all our dreams came true. We can achieve anything we desire but first we must define what is needed to gain success and then we must be willing to do everything required. Even if we want something badly, there may be times we make decisions that keep us from succeeding. For example, if we want to lose weight but continue to overeat, or we want to be successful in our careers but do only enough to get by, or we want to be physically strong but refuse to exercise. If we don’t do the things needed to succeed we are in essence planning to fail. Success is always available but it won’t come to us simply because we want it badly. We must determine what it takes to achieve it and then we must do it. We can bemoan our lot in life, complain about missed opportunities and feel we’ve been cheated because the life we want the most hasn’t been achieved. We may feel better having a personal pity session but it won’t move us closer to where we want to go. No matter what has passed already there are countless opportunities now we can embrace and pursue to get where we want to go. We never have to stay where we are. We can plan to succeed and move forward with confidence by deciding exactly what we want and then doing what is needed to get it. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we choose. We can be as successful as we desire. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We can plan to succeed and we can win.

It’s easy to envy others’ successes. When we see those who have achieved goals we desire we may think it was easier for them than it is for us or they somehow found a secret we haven’t yet discovered. We can’t see the years of struggle they may have had to endure or the many failures they had to crawl out from under to keep going. We don’t know what kinds of disappointments they faced or how many times they had to start again. We only see their success. Few successes come without work. We can achieve anything we desire but we must be willing to work for it.

It’s a true axiom that we always do what we want to do most. We may argue that sometimes we don’t have a choice but in reality, we always choose what we will do. Even if there are pressures from those around us to comply with their decisions, we can always go our own way. We don’t have to have to go along to keep the peace, we don’t have to do what is expected, and we don’t have to fit in. We can live our lives any way we choose. Our successes are choices we make and we can achieve anything we desire.

Today if you’ve been wanting to succeed at something but have made choices that have prevented you from moving forward, set your sites on the goal and plan to achieve it. Do what is needed to create the life you want the most. This is your time and you deserve every success. Plan to succeed and then do what is needed to make it happen. Nothing can stop you and you will win.