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Sandpaper

4 Nov

We share the world with lots of other people. They constantly come and go, in and out of our lives. We have friends, co-workers, associates, acquaintances and all manner of connections. We might face a time when someone we must interact with is abrasive and rude. They may say insulting things to us, demean us at every turn, and seem to delight in making us miserable. It’s very hard to be kind to someone who is mean to us, but returning barb for barb, and insult for insult, will never move us forward. Stooping to their level only makes us like them. By refusing to fall prey to their infernal put downs and disrespect, we can hold fast to our own standards and remain polite and civil. We don’t have to roll over and take whatever it is they’re dishing out, and when we respond with clarity and grace, we will always gain the upper hand. Nobody knows what motivates people to degrade others. Perhaps they suffer from poor self-esteem and putting others down makes them feel powerful. Maybe they are jealous of who we are or what we’ve accomplished. It doesn’t matter what drives their negative behavior. We have no control over what they do, but we have complete control over how we respond. By holding fast to our own values, and refusing to engage them in a negative free for all, we will maintain control over the situation. It’s impossible to fight with someone who refuses to participate. We can stand strong, reflect our best behavior, and refuse to take the bait. There is great success just ahead for us, and nothing and nobody can keep us from it.

Family relationships can be powerful and are sometimes tricky to navigate. No family is perfect, and there may be varying levels of underlying tension and frustration. If one member is particularly critical or negative, it may be hard to deal with them. If we aren’t living our lives the way they think we should, it may be hell to pay when we’re around them. Of course, our lives belong solely to us, but that may not stop them from telling us we’re doing it all wrong. Their opinions belong to them and have no bearing on our decisions. We know what we want and where we want to go, and can do anything we like.

Some people love to complain. No matter what’s going on in their lives, they find problems and disappointments. If we must interact with them, their continual grumbling may wear us down. Everyone has their own ideas about life, and we never have to follow anyone else’s lead. We can keep our eyes focused on our own goals, and trust ourselves to achieve every success. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says or does. We know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve anything.

Today remember how amazing you are. You have gifts to offer that nobody else can bring. You possess great light and potential, and every goal is possible. You are strong and powerful, and the whole world is blessed and enriched because you are here. Nobody can take your dreams away. Be confident and step forward with clarity and purpose. Every success is waiting, and you will make them yours.

Exempt

5 Oct

We share the world with billions of other people, and there will always be people coming and going in and out of our lives. They interact with us, work with us, share families with us, or just see us in passing. Everyone is different and we’re all doing different things. In an effort to make things go more smoothly, there are rules for civility and politeness that help us all get along without increasing friction. Most of us try to be pleasant and polite, and don’t get up in other people’s faces just to annoy them. We try to get along and be positive, but there is always the exception. No matter where we are, there may be someone who is rude and difficult, who may make our lives miserable. They have bad manners, interrupt us when we’re speaking, leave a trail of trash behind them, and ignore any suggestions for improvement. They don’t care how they affect others or if they degrade those around them. It’s very hard to deal with people like this. They can complicate our days and when they come around, we may try anything to avoid them. People will do what they will do, but we can hold fast to the standards we set. There will always be many roads to get to our goals, and we can find ways around any problem that arises. We can be polite even if those we encounter are not. The road to success is rarely paved and clear, but we have everything we need to move ahead, no matter what is standing in the way.

Some people are very good at telling others what they should do, how they should act, and where they should go. They constantly preach and pontificate, giving instructions regarding whatever is happening around them. They are great at explaining the rules and demanding compliance, but because they see themselves as set apart on a higher plane, feel they are exempt from following them. They simply do what they want, and expect others to accept it. It is never appropriate to set standards for others we do not intend to follow. We are all part of the whole, and if one must comply, we should all comply.

We are all human beings sharing the planet at the same time. Although some may have fame and fortune, some may have privilege and power, nobody is more worthwhile than anyone else. Our circumstances do not determine our value. We are precious and priceless because we are unique, and there isn’t anyone now, nor has there ever been anyone who can offer the gifts we have to give. We deserve complete happiness, and can do what is necessary to achieve it. Every blessing is there for us, and every dream is possible.

Today if you must deal with someone who is unpleasant and rude, remember how valuable you are. Set the example for excellence and step forward with confidence. You know what you want and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and every destination will be yours.

Back Again

20 Sep

Everyone has their own ideas about how we should live and what we should do. We’re all unique and individual and what works for one, may not even be in the ballpark for another. When we see something in ourselves we want to change, we may think we should be able to change it immediately. We know what we want to do, or stop doing, and may believe that should be enough to facilitate a permanent turn. People are complex and there are many layers of our personalities. Just because we’ve identified something we want to change doesn’t mean it’s going to change today. Habits and patterns are strong, and if we’ve had them for a long time it will take constant attention and diligence to alter them. If we are successful for a time and then revert back again to our old ways, we may feel we’ve failed. It is never failure if we keep trying. Some things are hard to change and take time to accomplish, and if we fall down we can get back up. We have unlimited times to try and will never fail unless we give up and stop. It doesn’t matter if it takes a long time or how many times we have to start again. If we keep pressing forward, we can overcome anything. We know what we want, and already possess everything we need to get it. By being determined and remaining focused on the goal, we will prevail. Nothing is out of reach and every success is possible.

When we want to change something, we may think big moves will help us get there faster. If we want to lose weight, we may cut our diets back severely, and decide we’ll never again have dessert. If we want to be fit, we may decide that no matter what, we’ll go to the gym for three hours every single day. Big overtures look good on paper, but they rarely succeed in reality. It’s hard, if not impossible, to completely overhaul everything at one time. Instead of going for broke, we can take things one step at a time, and make small adjustments that help us move closer to the goal. Everything is possible, and with patience and clarity, we can achieve anything.

Everyone is happy when they are able to move ahead toward a goal they desire. But life is complicated and there are few times when we go from where we are to where we want to be in a straight, unbroken line. Most often, something will happen that gets in the way, or something changes that holds us in place. We can’t control anything that comes, but we can keep our eyes focused on the road ahead, and when things change, move forward toward success. Everything is possible and nothing can keep us from the goal.

Today if you’ve been trying to change something but keep slipping back again to where you were, be confident. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Trust yourself and begin again. Every single blessing is there for you. You are more powerful than you imagine, and can accomplish whatever you desire. Stand strong and step forward. Success is just ahead, and you will reach it.

Don’t Tell

17 Sep

We go through a lot of experiences as we travel through our lives. Most of us want to be open and honest, but we might face a time when something happens, or we do something we don’t want anyone to know about. Maybe it’s something we’re ashamed of, or we fear others will think less of us if the truth comes out. If we’ve done something illegal or unethical, we may be intensely motivated to keep it hidden. Nobody is perfect and we all do things we wish we hadn’t, but keeping secrets isn’t easy. They are heavy, and tend to get heavier as time passes. Truth is powerful, and no matter what we do or how well we try to hide it, will eventually make itself known. Nothing can hold it back indefinitely. We may feel secure that we have covered all the bases, but we cannot know everything and we’re all far more connected than we may realize. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we want. Trying to hide something we’ve done may work for a time, but eventually, however long that takes, the truth will rise and we’ll be exposed. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us in place forever. We are strong enough and brave enough to face the consequences of anything that’s happened. We can open all the doors, and move through whatever we must to correct our course. There is great relief and blessing in telling the truth. All the destinations we desire are still there for us, and with honesty and determination, we will reach them all.

Some people are very private. They don’t want to share intimate details about their lives and prefer to keep a low profile. There is a difference between being private and being secretive. We’re all individuals, and are entitled to set the boundaries of what we do and how we manage our own lives. There are no mandatory rules, and we can determine how much we’ll say and what we’ll do. It’s all up to us, and we can do things that make us comfortable while still sharing our lives with those around us.

If we’ve made a mistake that is far reaching and believe our standing with others will be diminished if they find out, we may try to lock it away and keep it hidden. Every decision we make has a consequence and takes us somewhere. Keeping secrets may cause us to entangle our lives as we try to skirt around what has happened. It’s much harder to navigate a web of lies than it is to simply face the truth. Our lives are important, and by being honest in all our dealings, we can pave the road ahead toward where we most want to go. We can trust ourselves to be truthful and manage whatever comes.

Today if you’ve been keeping a secret and it’s weighing heavily on you, think about how you want to proceed. There is no need to hide anything. You are stronger and have more courage than you think. Trust yourself and be honest. There are countless blessings waiting to pour down on you. All your dreams are possible. Step forward with clarity and confidence. You are worthwhile, amazing and powerful. Nothing can keep you from success.

At the End

9 Sep

There are endless roads we can take to unlimited destinations. Our lives are a continual process of moving forward, either to somewhere we desire, or someplace else. We can make any choices we like and go anywhere we imagine, and each road we choose will have a destination at the end. If we’re paying attention and making decisions that keep us moving toward the goals we desire, we’ll reach success and find ourselves in situations and places that are pleasing. But life is complicated and there’s always a lot going on. Others may impact us with the decisions they’re making, and the way ahead may get dark and confusing. It’s easy to get distracted and lose our footing, and if time passes before we reset, we may not be able to reclaim our previous position, and have to start again. Every road ends at some point, and when we choose the first step on any path, we are also choosing the last. If we don’t want to end up where it’s leading, we’ll need to step off and re-evaluate our next move. Life is filled with opportunities and if we get lost or turned around, we have endless chances to try again. Every single destination is possible, and with focus and clarity, we can go anywhere we want. Our dreams are always there for us, and we can claim them all.

The world is filled with all kinds of opportunities, and there are lots of shiny things that may grab our attention. The lure and promise of success may pull us in several directions at the same time. We can do anything we like but it’s impossible to do everything we desire all at once. By looking at all the options possible, and deciding on what we want the most, we can begin moving forward toward success. We are wise and extremely capable, and nothing is too difficult for us to overcome. With patience and persistence, we can reach every destination, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Lots of people may tell us what we should do, where we should go, how we should act, what we should look like, and endless other suggestions. We can take any advice we like, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want, and have everything needed to achieve it. We don’t have to follow anyone else, or conform to their ideas. Our lives are ours to design, and we can do anything we like. We can choose the roads we’ll travel, and find success.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t going where you most want to go, stop and decide how you want to proceed. You never have to stay anywhere you don’t want to be. Choose the destination you desire most, and change direction. You are intelligent and wise, and every destination is possible. Be confident and begin again. All your dreams are waiting, and you will make them yours.