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Heavy Load

26 Mar

The things we must face change every day. There can be unexpected developments that suddenly alter the road ahead, and make it necessary for us to change our plans. When things don’t work out the way we thought they would, or something serious goes wrong, there may suddenly be more to carry than we planned on. Problems arise, details get in the way, and complications creep in that make the way forward, if not impossible, certainly more difficult than we want. We already have responsibilities and things we must attend to, and when there’s a change in the road ahead, it may make getting them done more difficult. Let’s say there’s a huge field covered with rocks and it’s our job to pick them all up and move them. All we have is a big bag to carry them in and each rock we pick up and add makes the load heavier. After a while, the bag may become too heavy to carry and we have to drag it behind us, until in the end, we can’t move. When lots of things go wrong and we have to navigate through, it’s like picking up rocks along the way and trying to manage them all. If we can’t solve the problems as they arise, we add them to the bag, until we get to a point where we can’t handle any more. But we never have to carry a load that’s too heavy for us. We don’t have to solve everything right away. We can carefully evaluate what we can do, and if we can’t resolve an issue right now, instead of carrying it along with us, we can set it aside for later. When our situation clears, we can go back to the issues waiting for us and begin to unravel them, one at a time. We can decide what’s most important, and let the others things wait. With patience and wisdom, we will make the best decisions moving forward, and reach the goals we most desire.

Lots of people have lots of opinions about the way things should go. They may tell us we should be able to handle more than we’re managing, or that we need to solve every problem as soon as it appears. They are entitled to their opinions, and even if they are important to them, it doesn’t mean they must be important to us. We don’t need agreement or permission to set our own course. We have all the intelligence and inspiration we need to find the way forward, and reach any destination.

There may be times when we must deal with a lot of complicated, difficult pieces to a hard situation. When there’s a lot going on it can be challenging to find the answers we need. If we step away from the fray and take some time to see the situation objectively, our vision will clear and we will see the road ahead. We are completely capable of handling anything that comes to us. There isn’t anything that can hold us back indefinitely. We can trust ourselves to find all the answers we need, and manage every situation competently, and move forward toward success.

Today if you’re dealing with a lot of complex and difficult issues and you’re confused and concerned about finding your way, step back and look at the situation openly. All the answers you need are already there for you. Let your vision clear and the road ahead will arise. You are incredible and strong, and will always find your way. Nothing is out of reach, and you will succeed.

What I Do

25 Feb

Every day we make dozens of decisions and do countless things. We may have many responsibilities and tasks that need to be completed, places to be, and people to meet. How we accomplish our tasks and what we choose defines who we are and tells the world more about us. If we’re honest, what we say we’re doing will actually be reflected in our actions. But if things get away from us, and we fall behind, we might choose to stretch the truth in an effort to buy some time. If someone asks us about a task they’re waiting for and we don’t want them to know we haven’t even started on it yet, we may tell them we’re working on it and expect to complete it soon. Telling a story that’s not true may hold our place for a while, but it won’t work indefinitely. When the real truth comes out, we may get caught short and have to explain ourselves. The old saying, “Do what I say and not what I do,” has never worked. What we say is only part of the situation. What we do tells the whole story. If we bend the truth about what’s going on, and pretend we’re doing things we aren’t, chances are we’ll face complications. Truth will always rise, and if we’ve been dishonest, it’s only a matter of time before we’ll be found out. We can say anything we like. We can create an amazing and interesting story, but what we actually do tells the world who we are. If we want the trust and confidence of the those around us, it’s imperative to be completely honest, even if we’ve dropped the ball. Failing to follow through or accomplish a promised action cannot hold us in place. We can revise our plans and still find success.

They say image is everything. We’re encouraged to protect and build our “brand” and make sure everything that reflects on us is positive. It would be great if everything we did was flawless, and every move we made took us closer to the goal. But this is real life, and we’re not perfect. Things go wrong, we make mistakes, there are misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. Nothing will always go exactly right. If we stumble, we can right ourselves and continue on. We can change anything that isn’t working and start again. Every possibility is there for us, and we are smart enough and wise enough to make them ours.

We are where we are. Sometimes we don’t move forward the way we hoped we would, and sometimes we get stopped completely. Lying and pretending to make things seem different than they really are, or to make us look like we’re further along will only backfire on us in the end. We are strong enough to face the truth of every situation, and intelligent enough to find the answers we need. If we’re stuck, we can revise our plans. If we’re lost, we can get help. Nothing is beyond our reach, and with patience and determination, we can make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’re tempted to pretend things are different than they are, remember how important your honesty and integrity are. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be clear and confident. You can do anything. Take a step forward and move toward the goal. Every success is there for you.

Need To Change

21 Feb

We live in a huge world filled with billions of people. No matter where we are or how small our location, there will be others around us much of the time. It’s unlikely most of us will go through even one day without seeing or interacting with someone else. It’s nice to build strong relationships with those around us, which help us feel connected and cared for. But we’re all individuals and nobody is exactly like anyone else. Those differences are what bring variety and depth to our experience but they may also bring conflict when we disagree or when someone does something we don’t understand. If we’re in a situation where others want to do things a certain way and we disagree, they may encourage us to change and conform so things will be easier. Of course, we can do anything we like, and if we want to follow along, we can, but we’re entitled to our own ideas and opinions, and can choose our own way. We never need to change to fit someone else’s model. While it may be easier when everyone is on the same page and going in the same direction, we’re in control of our lives and can live them any way we choose. We don’t always have to swim downstream. If we want to, we have all the wisdom and strength necessary to turn and swim against the current. Our individuality and personal choices create the lives we want. If we’re happy where we are, we don’t have to move. But if we want something different, the whole world is there for us. Our unique perspective and influence bring richness to others and the world around us. Being confident in our choices, and choosing the life we want the most will bring us great satisfaction and happiness.

Life would be easier if everyone just stayed out of our way, did what we wanted, and didn’t question us. If we had control over everyone else, we could make our choices without any interruptions or complications, and proceed forward unhindered. However, we only have control over ourselves, and those around us may have very different views about what we should do and where we should go. We can listen to any advice that’s offered, and then with confidence, choose the road ahead we most desire.

There will always be many different ways to every destination, and we can choose any way forward we like. We can move along with everyone else on a well-known path, and eventually reach success. The common roads tend to be the easiest, but aren’t always the best. Stepping in a new direction will help us reach a little further, and gain new experiences that will open doors to increased knowledge, giving us additional confidence and strength. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything. We can reach goals others only dream of, and find complete success.

Today if you’ve been going along with others but want something different, step away and choose your own road ahead. You are intelligent and capable, and can manage anything that comes. Decide what you want, and then move forward with determination. Everything you desire is possible. Nothing is out of reach. Be sure of yourself, and step ahead. All your dreams are possible, and you will succeed.

All Your Fault

12 Feb

There are billions of people in the world and we all have our own opinions and decisions to make each day. When we connect with others and build our lives around them, their ideas become part of our every day experience. Sometimes they may make suggestions about what we should do, and where we should go. We can listen to their advice, and if we decide to do what they suggest, we never know what the results will be. Sometimes things may go well, and we may be grateful for the help. But if things go wrong, our feelings may be far different. If we’re suffering because we did something someone else thought was a good idea, we may blame them for what’s happened and tell them our troubles are all their fault. After all, if they hadn’t suggested the idea, we would never have done it. While it’s true they may own the idea, it’s also true that once we decided to follow through with it, it became ours. We own all our decisions, even the ones that don’t work out. If we follow along, what happens is on us. We are in control of everything we do. There is no way to place the blame for a disastrous decision we make on someone else. Nothing is permanent and no matter what goes wrong, we can change direction. Mistakes are a natural part of life and teach us a lot about our world and ourselves. Accepting a wrong turn and then doing what is needed to correct our course will help us find success. Every destination is possible. Even if we get lost a time or two, we can reach any goal we desire. We can be confident we will prevail, and step forward with clarity and assurance that we will succeed.

Some people feel very confident they are right and when decisions are looming, may challenge those around them. If we don’t agree with their position, we may feel intimidated trying to get our point across. If we sit back and keep our thoughts to ourselves, deciding it’s easier to follow along than take a chance, we own what happens next. Every viewpoint has value and we can voice our opinion with confidence. We are in charge of our lives, and can choose the way forward.

Nobody is perfect and there will be times when we turn the wrong way and things go south. There will likely be someone else who was involved in some way, and if we like, we can point the finger at them and say it’s their fault. Placing blame will never fix our situation, and if we’re being dishonest, may make it worse. We are where we are. How we got there is no longer germane. The best we can do is look ahead and decide on the best road moving forward. Life is filled with all kinds of complications. We can learn from every experience, and make excellent decisions that will take us to our goals. Nothing is out of reach, and with patience, and wisdom, we will succeed.

Today if everything has gone wrong, own your decisions and decide on the best way forward. Mistakes don’t define your life. You are intelligent and capable. Learn everything you can from what’s happened and determine your next step. Every success is still there for you. Be strong and confident. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Under Fire

22 Jan

Every person in the world has their own perspective and ideas about how things should go. There is nobody exactly like us and with all these differences there’s bound to be conflict from time to time. If we feel strongly about something and others disagree, we may face a difficult situation filled with emotion and intensity. Sometimes the lines between right and wrong are obvious and everyone agrees on the limits. But most of the time, the options are flexible and will bend depending on what we want to accomplish and who we’re dealing with. If there are several others on one page and we’re on another, there may be a strong campaign to get us to change. We can always alter any views we like, but if we feel intensely about our position, we may hold fast to it and push ahead despite the opposition. When we’re on the outside of the prevailing viewpoint and want something different, we may find ourselves under fire. If we’re being criticized, ridiculed or denounced, it may be very hard to keep our composure and maintain our self-control. Of course, we always have the right to stand and defend our position and if we’re being unfairly treated can return equal fire. But screaming back and getting into an altercation will never help us settle the situation. We can keep our resolve, agree to disagree, and move forward on our own road. We have the right to live our lives any way we choose, even if it means going against everyone else. We don’t need agreement or permission to do things our way. If others disagree, they can deal with that. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them in ways that bring us complete satisfaction and happiness. Nothing is out of reach, and we can make our dreams reality.

Conformity is easy to manage. If everyone does the same things, we all know what to expect and there are few surprises. But conformity often requires us to go along with someone else’s ideas about life and when we sacrifice who we are and what we want, we can never reach our own goals. Our lives are important. We have unique and exclusive talents to bring and specific things we want to accomplish. We never have to trade what we want most to get along. We can live our lives individually and honestly, and reach any destination we desire.

We all want to get along with those around us and live a peaceful existence. If we’re under fire for a decision we’re making, we may be uncomfortable. We can always abandon our views and agree to do what everyone else wants, but if we give up on our dreams, we will never achieve them. We deserve complete happiness and by holding fast to what is important and choosing our own destinations, we will create the life we want the most. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if those around you are trying to convince you to go their way, but you have something else in mind, stay to true to what you want. Your life is important and you can choose your own way forward. Be confident and step forward with clarity. You are amazing and capable, and all your dreams are possible.

In the Mirror

15 Jan

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. We know every decision we make will take us somewhere and have a consequence, and we may try hard to choose wisely so we end up where we want to go. There are a lot of factors involved when we make our choices – how much time we have, if we’re pressured to go a certain way, how much information is available, what we want the most, and dozens of other parameters. Sometimes what we choose depends on if we’re making the decision privately and nobody else will know, or if it’s wide open and everyone can see what we’re doing. There is an old saying that we find out who we are by what we choose when nobody is looking. That’s probably correct. When we don’t have to face the opinions of others, we will likely choose what we really want, bad or good. If there’s a way to keep our decisions private, we may choose to do something that’s dishonest or unseemly in some way. We can do anything we want, anytime we want, and any way we want to do it. We’re always in control of our lives and can design them any way we like. But each choice, even the ones nobody else knows about, will impact our lives in some way. If we want to be happy, we must make decisions that allow us to do what is necessary to achieve it. There is no way to find complete happiness if we make decisions that cause distress, complicate our lives, or hurt others. We are intelligent and wise, and know what we want. Everything is possible and by taking our time, and carefully choosing each step ahead, we can have the lives we want the most and make our dreams come true.

When we look in a mirror our reflection is exactly how we appear. There is no way to modify the person looking back at us. We’ll see every mark, every scar, every line, everything. Similarly, our lives will reflect every decision we make. If we’re careful and wise, and choose roads that open doors ahead, building strong and positive relationships, we will likely find success. However, if we’re lazy, or mean and make choices that hurt others and damage relationships, our lives will reflect something entirely different. We can choose options that bring us comfort and satisfaction, and reach the goals we desire.

Who we are is expressed in everything we do. We can pretend to be someone different and may fool others for a time, but truth always rises and nobody can keep up pretense indefinitely. We are capable of greatness and incredible success. By choosing to be the best we can be at every turn, we will reach the goals and destinations we desire most. Every dream is possible and with determination, wisdom and perseverance, we can succeed at anything we desire. We are amazing and powerful, and nothing is beyond our reach.

Today if you have an important decision to make, consider every possible outcome and choose the road that will lead you to success. You are smart and capable, and nothing is too complex or difficult for you to comprehend. Trust yourself, and move forward with confidence. Every success is possible and you will win.

Cheap Imitation

8 Jan

We all know what we want in our lives. We know what we want to do, where we want to go, and who we want to spend our time with. Sometimes what we want is easy to obtain and we’re able to achieve it with little effort. But often our goals don’t just fall into our laps, and we must take the time and do what is needed to make them ours. We can reach any goal if we’re determined and nothing is out of reach. Of course, there are always options available. If what we desire is difficult, and will require a lot of time and energy, we can always opt for something that’s not exactly the same, but is close. It’s like buying a knock off. It may look kind of like the original, and if we don’t look at it too carefully, can convince ourselves it’s close enough. But having something kind of like what we want will never bring the satisfaction of having the real thing. Getting something that’s sort of like our true desire will only make us sort of happy. Only the complete goal we’re seeking will bring us complete happiness. If we feel satisfied enough with a cheap imitation, it’s easy to accomplish. Stopping short of what we really want and choosing something easier is always possible. However, our dreams and desires are important, and if we want them, we can have them. We can decide to do whatever is necessary to reach any destination we desire. There is no limit to what we can accomplish if we’re determined and focused on moving forward. Every dream is possible, every goal is reachable, and every desire can be fulfilled. We’re in control of our lives and every decision we make. We can create the lives we want the most. Nothing is out of reach, and we can make all our dreams reality.

A knock off Rolex isn’t a bad looking watch. Although it’s made of base metal instead of gold, and the interior mechanism is lower quality, from a distance it may look like the real thing. We can always buy an imitation and hope it’s good enough. We may fool some people, but we will never fool ourselves. Settling for something less than what we really want will never satisfy our desire. We will always know we compromised and will still want the real thing. Instead of choosing easier options, we can plan and work for what we really want, and find great satisfaction in gaining it.

Our relationships are important to us, and when they are rewarding and happy, can bring great joy into our lives. If we’re in a relationship that’s not working, we can consider every option to improve our situation. No matter how much time we’ve invested, or what others may expect, we never have to continue any relationship that isn’t making us happy. We can consider all our options and choose the road ahead that will bring us the satisfaction and contentment we desire. We deserve complete happiness, and can do what is needed to obtain it.

Today if you’ve been settling for less than what you really want, remember your life is important. You can have everything you desire, and you deserve full and complete happiness. Decide what you want the most, and then take the first step toward making it yours. Every dream is possible, and with determination you will succeed.