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The Price

18 Sep

We can do anything we want in our lives. We can accomplish any goal and reach any destination. Everything is possible but nothing will simply happen because we desire it. Despite what we want, and what some may tell us, few things are free and basically everything we desire will require something from us. It may be monetary, physical, emotional or technical, or any of an unlimited variety of sacrifices. If we want the goal, we’ll have to pay the price. It’s up to us to determine if the price is worth what we’re trying to gain. Sometimes that will be easy to discern – as in the case of monetary cost. If we don’t think the item we want is worth the cost, we won’t pay it. However, other factors aren’t as easy to perceive, and we may find ourselves in a situation where what we’re giving far exceeds any benefit we will derive in the end. We are intelligent and capable, and would never knowingly enter into an agreement that will take more than we want to give. Unfortunately, sometimes the parameters and costs aren’t easy to ascertain and we may forge ahead blindly hoping everything will work out. We never have to stay on any road if we aren’t comfortable or there are no benefits for us to continue. We are in control of our lives, and if we’ve chosen something that isn’t working out the way we want, we can step away and change direction. We can achieve anything we desire if the costs to accomplish it are possible and we’re willing to pay them. Our lives are ours to design. We can go anywhere and do anything. Choosing the roads we want the most and managing them well, will bring us great satisfaction and happiness moving forward.

Successful relationships are partnerships of giving and taking. We give our time and attention to someone else, and support their efforts, and they give the same back to us in return. We offer help and consideration when things get hard, and loving kindness to smooth the way ahead. If we’re in a situation where we’re giving and the other person is only taking, the balance will be unsettled and we may pay more than we’re comfortable with. We deserve complete happiness and can change anything in our lives at any time. We can have happy, healthy relationships that bring us great pleasure and contentment. By choosing carefully, and making sure our connections are balanced and even, we will find great happiness and satisfaction.

In the retail market, prices change and fluctuate. The same can be true in our personal lives. We may enter into an agreement with the understanding that things will go a certain way, but as time passes the situation may change. If we’re not getting the benefits we need from our involvement, we can alter our course. Nothing in life is permanent. We can change anything at any time. We know what we want, and can do what is needed to ensure we achieve it.

Today if you’re in a situation where you’re giving more than you’re receiving, remember how valuable you are. You deserve every happiness and success. Every road is open and you can go anywhere and do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most, and step forward toward your goal. Nothing is out of reach and you will prevail.

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Tattoo

16 Sep

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Much of the time which choice we make won’t matter and we’ll be able to continue forward unrestricted. But sometimes we may face a monumental decision that may change the course of our lives and affect those around us. When that happens, we try to choose the best options possible. It helps if we aren’t hindered by pre-conceived notions and unwavering ideas about how things should go. Getting at tattoo is a serious decision. Once the ink has been applied, it will remain. If we later decide we don’t want it, the process of removal may be difficult and painful. When making a decision, if we decide we will only accept one answer or one way forward and will not bend, we may remain, like the tattoo, permanently stuck in place. It’s good to have a strong sense of what we want and confidence for the road ahead, but if we draw a hard line in the sand and refuse to acknowledge or even look at different options, we may find we are unable to move. Moving forward is the only way to accomplish our goals, and there is no way to move forward and be stuck in place at the same time. We can have strong opinions and still be open to seeing other options. There are countless roads to every destination and never only one way to get to any goal. Allowing ourselves to consider each possibility will enable us to make the best decisions and find the most positive outcomes. Our lives are a reflection of every choice we make. We can go anywhere and do anything, and by seeing every option before us, we can make the best decisions moving forward. Nothing is out of reach, and we can have the lives we dream of.

Every experience we go through teaches us something. When we have difficult experiences, we may carry painful scars forward that influence how we proceed. Nobody wants to suffer and if we’ve been hurt, we may try to avoid anything that resembles what we’ve been through. If we alter our decisions based on something from the past, it may prevent us from moving forward toward the goals we desire. No matter what’s happened, we can move forward with confidence and clarity, and reach any goal we desire.

Tradition and pattern are strong influences. If we’ve always done something the same way, we may be reticent to try something new. Doing the same things over and over again will only take us to the same places. It’s impossible to go somewhere new and stay where we are. New destinations and roads can be intimidating. We can’t see the end from the beginning, and we don’t know what lies ahead. However, we have all the courage and wisdom we need to make excellent choices, and step forward with confidence and certainty. Nothing is beyond our reach and we can go anywhere.

Today if there’s a big decision ahead and you feel uneasy stepping forward, remember all the excellent decisions you’ve already made. Nothing is too complex or difficult for you to manage. Decide what you want and step forward with confidence. Every goal is within reach and every dream is possible. Nothing is too difficult for you. You are fierce and unstoppable, and you will succeed.

Make Me Happy

13 Sep

Our lives are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had and a result of every choice we make. If we choose things that take us where we want to go, we often find happiness. But choices can be affected by those around us, or situations that have influence over us. If we’re trying to impress someone and they’re doing something we normally wouldn’t like, we might choose it to show our alignment with them. Following someone else’s ideas can only take us where they’re headed. Our lives are always in our control. Doing things opposed to the life we desire will only delay or completely prevent us from finding true happiness. If we lack confidence or are unsure about where we want to go, we may pattern our lives after someone we admire. There’s nothing wrong with mimicking good, strong characteristics, but we’re responsible for our own lives. We can’t be who we are and someone else at the same time. Nobody else can make us happy. It’s a responsibility that falls completely on us. When we live authentically, and make choices that represent who we really are, happiness will follow. We are unique and valuable just as we are. There is no need to conform to those around us, or try to fit into someone else’s mold. We have individual and specific gifts to offer and nobody could ever replace us. We can be confident in living the lives we want the most, and choosing the roads that take us where we want to go. Every dream can come true and we can reach any destination we desire. Nothing is out of reach and complete happiness is always possible.

Our lives are our responsibility. If we’re not happy, it’s up to us to do what’s needed to change. We never have to stay in any situation indefinitely. There will always be options available and we can alter our course until we’re on the road we desire most. If others want us to stay where we are, they may try to hold us in place. We can stay in any situation for as long as we like but if we’re ready to move forward, nothing can keep us down. We deserve complete happiness. If we’re not getting it, we can change our lives and direction until we reach it.

Life is filled with responsibilities and details that require our attention. If we’re very busy attending to many obligations, our personal happiness may be pushed aside. It’s easy to forget ourselves when we’re busy serving others, but our personal needs are important. If we neglect ourselves, and let our own desires sit dormant, it will be impossible to feel complete. Nothing is more important than our personal health and well-being. When we nurture ourselves, and take the best of care, everything will come more easily, and we’ll find satisfaction and success moving forward.

Today if you’ve been setting aside your own personal needs in order to take care of everything else, remember you are important and priceless. You can have the life you dream about. Make choices that will take you where you most want to go and show us who you are. There isn’t anyone else like you and we need the gifts you have to offer. Step forward with confidence and claim your happiness. It’s always there for you, and every blessing is possible.

Finding the Why

30 Aug

Our decisions and choices are motivated by many factors. There are things we want for ourselves, things other people want us to do, and stuff we have to do just because we are where we are. Every day brings new responsibilities and assignments, some we’re happy to manage, and others bring frustration and annoyance. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and if we’re adamantly opposed to whatever is before us, we can step away. But we aren’t alone here, and our relationships with those around us sometimes involve doing things we’re not thrilled about, or don’t want. Every decision we make belongs to us and there will always be a reason for each choice. If we’re not happy and are doing things that continually perpetuate feelings of discontent, it’s important to understand why we keep doing them. If there are family pressures, we don’t feel we can ignore, or professional responsibilities we can’t leave, we may be stuck for now. But if we’re doing things that aren’t making us happy or moving us forward, and there is no real reason to continue, we can step back and decide what we really want, and change direction. Once we understand why we’re doing something, we can determine what we want to do next. Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything we like. There is no situation or individual with the power to hold us in place. We can turn away from anything that isn’t bringing us happiness or fulfillment, and choose a different road. We can have the life we imagine and reach any goal. We are powerful and wise, and we know what we want. There is a road to every destination we desire and with focus and determination, we will find success.

We’re all individuals, different and unique in our own personal way. What’s important to one may mean nothing to someone else. There isn’t one, perfect way to live life, and every interpretation has benefit. Tradition can be very powerful and if we’ve been living our lives based on what’s always been done in the past, we may feel secure keeping things the same, but that doesn’t guarantee we’ll be happy. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we deserve to be happy. If the road we’re on isn’t fulfilling our dreams or bringing joy into our lives, we can choose another.

There are routines we follow regularly that are familiar and that help bring order into our lives. We know what to expect, and there are few surprises. However, repeating the same things again and again can be powerful. We may continue doing something without even understanding why we’re doing it. Every day is a gift, and if we don’t pay attention, we may miss the opportunity to accomplish what we want the most. We always have the power to move toward the goals and destinations most important to us, and create the lives we desire.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t taking you where you want to go, look at all the possibilities before you and change direction. You know what you want, and have everything you need to achieve it. Your life is precious and valuable, and you can do anything you desire. Be confident. Nothing can keep you from complete success.

What We Know

27 Aug

People continually come into our lives. We meet them in passing, from others we know, as business associates, or just by saying hello. There are billions of them on the earth and no matter where we go, or what we’re doing, chances are they’ll be around us. As we develop personal bonds and relationships, we get to know them on a deeper level. We start to understand how they think and begin to expect how they’ll react to certain situations. But we can never know everything about anyone and sometimes things happen that make us see them in a different light. We may find they have a hidden volatile side, or a raging temper if they’re crossed, and we can step back a bit to see them more clearly. If they’re very important to us or we have strong feelings for them, if we see behaviors that are destructive or demeaning, we may ignore them and pretend they don’t exist. Knowing something doesn’t always mean we’ll acknowledge it openly. As we look the other way, we may be able to continue our relationship with them for a while, but eventually everything will be exposed and we’ll have to decide how we want to proceed. By facing the situation clearly and accepting the way things really are, we’ll be able to choose the best road forward. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and we can only solve our own problems. If our relationship is negatively impacted by bad behavior, and the other party is unwilling or unable to change, what happens next is up to us. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives. We can make choices that will move us forward toward the goals we want the most, and create the lives we desire. Nothing can hold us in place. We are in control of our lives and by choosing well, can find great happiness and peace.

Nobody knows everything about everything. It’s possible to find ourselves in difficult and complex situations because of decisions made by others that have nothing to do with us. If we’re suddenly somewhere we don’t want to be and didn’t plan on going, we can stop and change direction. We’re not inexorably controlled by anything. We can turn around and step away from any situation that isn’t working for us. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

People sometimes hide personality traits from others. If they’re selfish, they may pretend to be kind and giving. If they’re intense and angry, they may pretend to be easygoing and polite. It’s possible to fool others for a time, but nobody can keep up pretenses forever. When we’re getting to know someone new, if we take our time getting close to them, we’ll have the chance to see them as they really are. Once we can see them clearly, we can decide how we want to proceed. Our happiness is important and valuable. We can keep our eyes open and see everything objectively, and create the connections we want the most.

Today if you’re entangled in a relationship that isn’t working, remember your happiness is important. You deserve the very best of everything and never have to stay in any situation that’s uncomfortable or difficult. Decide what you want the most, and then begin moving toward the goal. Every happiness is there for you, and you will have it.

Long Lasting

21 Aug

We don’t live in a vacuum and there is no way to isolate any choice we make or action we take, and keep it from moving toward something else. One thing always leads to another and everything we do takes us somewhere. Sometimes we can see where we’ll end up, and other times it’s a mystery. One thing is certain, no matter what we do, the influences of life around us and the decisions being made by others will affect what happens next. If we take time to see the possible results of our decisions before we make them instead of blindly blundering through, we’ll have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. Some decisions are insignificant and have little bearing on us or what we want to accomplish, but others carry a lot of weight and if we choose poorly, after we make them, may have long lasting affects on our lives. They may completely alter the road ahead and cause us all kinds of problems and complications as we struggle to move forward. When we’re in the middle of a turbulent situation and there is a lot of confusion, we may choose something quickly to alleviate our discomfort. We may get temporary relief from the frustration, but then find we’re on the wrong road going the wrong way. Once we’ve altered our course it may be difficult to correct our direction and get back to where we want to be. The affects of our decisions can have long lasting impact on our lives. We are intelligent and wise, and can make excellent decisions, even in times of stress. We can step back and look at everything objectively, consider every possibility, and choose the best options going forward. Every answer we need is there for us and if we take our time, we will reach every destination we desire. We already know what we want. With patience and consideration, we can make successful choices that will bring it to us.

Life is an adventure and there are endless experiences possible. We can do anything but if we let our lives just roll on with no thought or consideration for where they will take us, we may end up somewhere we don’t want to go. If we don’t control our lives, and simply do what others suggest, we’ll end up with a life designed by someone else. Happiness comes from doing what is most important to us and making choices that take us where we want to go. We deserve complete happiness, and by taking control of our decisions, and moving toward the goals we desire, we will have it.

There is no way to move backward or go back in time to change something that isn’t working. We are exactly where our choices have taken us. If we aren’t happy, we can change direction and if the road we’re on isn’t working or the decisions we made aren’t taking us where we want to go, we can stop and redirect the way forward. We can have the lives we dream about by carefully choosing the steps that will take us to it. Every goal is in reach and we can do anything, and go anywhere we desire.

Today if you’ve made a decision that isn’t taking you toward the destinations you want, change direction and start again. Choose the roads that will take you forward. Nothing can keep you from success. Every dream is possible and you will prevail. Step forward and be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and you will win.

The Gift

8 Aug

We have all kinds of responsibilities and tasks to get done. Some are routine and we’re used to managing them, but other stuff comes up and if we’re facing something difficult or unpleasant, we may put it off and try to avoid it. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to deal with it, and we would love someone else to volunteer to take it off our hands. When we have a lot to carry, it would be very convenient to hand everything that’s weighing on us over to someone else and walk away. Just leave it with them and let them deal with it. We can try that and we might be able to get rid of a few things but nobody is going to forget the little gift we gave them, and in time, they may bring us an even bigger one to deal with in return. Fair is fair, and if we expect others to take care of our crap, we have to be willing to take care of theirs. Since there is no way to know how big their issues might be, it’s better to stand firm, and manage the issues we have on our own. It doesn’t usually work to push our problems off on others but that doesn’t mean others won’t try to push their troublesome tasks off onto us. If we’re open and welcoming, they may simply hand them off and ask us to take care of them. We might be okay with that once in a while, but if it becomes habit, it might seriously impact our time and our relationship. Everyone is responsible for their own lives and their own responsibilities. We don’t have to solve anyone else’s problems or carry their burdens for them. Our lives will bring us enough to manage, and if we manage it well, and take care of things as they arise, we will feel great satisfaction as we move forward. Our confidence will rise and we’ll find great success.

Some people need more attention and help than others. They may be unsure of their abilities, need more information, they may be confused, or they may just be lazy. Whatever the case, if we’re asked to help, we can certainly step up and try to assist. But helping with an issue isn’t taking ownership of it. The problem does not belong to us and we are never responsible for solving it. We can help where possible and offer any advice we may have, and allow those who own the problem to find the answers they need.

There are all kinds of problems and complications in life. Nobody can solve them all or save anyone else. We can take care of our own issues and, when possible, help those around us take care of theirs. We are strong enough for anything our life brings, and can solve any problem or face any trial that arises. If asked, we can help those around us, but we can never carry the load for everyone else. We can be considerate and try to assist, but the responsibility for the success of others lies with them. We can take care of our responsibilities, share when we can, and find great success and happiness moving forward.

Today if someone has asked you take on a problem that belongs to them, you need not agree. Be helpful, but let others manage their own issues, and give the gift of self-reliance. You are incredible and wise, and we’re all enriched by your presence. Set the best example moving forward and the whole world will benefit.