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The Whole Story

22 Mar

Each day brings many decisions. Some are minor and inconsequential and work out no matter what we choose, but others carry more weight. Many times, we can discern how important a decision is by the possible consequences that may arise after we choose. But sometimes, what seems unimportant at first may become critical in the road ahead. If we’re in a hurry or stressed, or don’t place a lot of value on a situation and choose without thinking, it might be fine. Things may roll out the way we expect them to and we may move ahead with hardly a look back. However, if there are unseen or unknown complications connected to the choice we’re making, a seemingly simple choice may turn out to be a nightmare. It’s like opening a door without really knowing what’s behind it. We don’t know what we don’t know, and there is always more to the story. It may be impossible to see the whole story from the beginning and we’ll have to choose with the information we have. There is no road map for our lives to caution us about upcoming detours or unexpected turns. We learn as we go and if we take a wrong turn, we can correct our course and reroute back to the road we want to be on. Nothing is permanent and everything can be modified. We have all the wisdom and insight we need to see things as they are, and determine what we need to change. We can find our way to any destination we desire. All options are possible and we have enough wisdom and determination to succeed.

One thing always leads to another, and when we choose the first step on any road, we also choose the last. Each road leads us somewhere and if we’re impulsive and don’t consider the ramifications of our choices before making them, we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. Making decisions without considering their consequences is like getting into a car with a stranger and letting them drive us wherever they want without any information or warning. If we don’t control our decisions, we may lose control over our lives. We know what we want, and have the power to create the lives we desire. We can see everything clearly before we decide and then choose paths that take us where we want to go.

We sometimes don’t know how far reaching a decision may become until it affects our lives. Something that seems simple and straight forward may become complicated and involved. We can avoid confusion by taking the time to carefully look at any possible developments that may arise and then decide. We can make excellent decisions that take us forward, and manage any issues that may arise on the way. We are intelligent and strong, and have everything we need to find success.

Today if you’ve rushed through a decision that has created a situation you didn’t plan on, be wise and carefully choose your next step. The road ahead is still there for you and you will find it. You are capable of doing anything you desire, and nothing can keep you from success. Choose wisely and go forward with confidence. Every destination is possible.

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Out of the Way

21 Mar

As we go through our lives, we interact with all kinds of different people who have all kinds of different ideas about everything. Some are pleasant and easy to deal with, others not so much. We may even have to interact with people who are rude and ruthless. There is a huge spectrum of personalities and perspectives. When someone is very self-interested and pushing forward on their own path without regard to others around them, they may push us out of the way as they press ahead. We be may be only obstacles in their path as they shove their way around us and continue on. We’re all entitled to our own interpretations and if we want to be selfish, we can choose to focus only on our own interests and disregard anyone else. We might get to the goal faster, but we’ll surely be alone in the victory, and we’ll miss any benefits building relationships along the way may bring. Nobody knows everything and everyone has something valuable to share. If we close ourselves off and keep ourselves apart, pushing everyone else away, we will miss the chance to gain information others may be willing to give us. Our goals are important and we all want to achieve success. We can move forward concentrating on the road ahead, and still build valuable relationships along the way. Each person we allow into our lives will give us something new to take with us. Our lives will be enriched by the many expressions and interpretations around us and we’ll gain further knowledge that will help us reach our goals. We’re all here together. Learning to let others into our lives and embracing everything they bring will teach us more about each other and our world. No success is out of reach and by joining together we will reach every destination.

A long road trip with days and days of endless highway can quickly become tedious and boring. Being alone by ourselves for a while can be restful and refreshing, but if the time stretches beyond what is comfortable, we may yearn for someone to talk to and share our experiences with. We can allow others to share the journey with us and gain the benefit of different opinions and viewpoints. Everyone has a different perspective and each idea has value. We can share our lives and our dreams with those around us and gain insight and ideas to help us move forward.

Each day we make decisions that take us further down the road as we continue our journey forward. If we get stopped or lose our way, it’s helpful to have someone else’s perspective to find the way forward again. What’s unclear to us may be obvious to someone else. Every bit of knowledge we gain helps us move forward and we can be open to asking for advice and listening to suggestions. We can share our lives and our dreams, and reach every destination we choose.

Today if you’ve been pushing others out of the way in a rush to reach your goals, remember you can’t know everything. Others have much to share and you can let them in. If you do, the road will be easier and the journey will be more satisfying. Every success is there for you. Be wise and confident, and nothing will keep you from your dreams.

Wide Open

14 Mar

As we go through our lives, we meet many different kinds of people. Our impressions and interpretations color the way we see the world and those around us, and may lead us to believe something before we have the facts. If we’ve heard many things about someone before we meet them, we may form an idea of who they are and what they’re like before we even say hello. When we do finally meet them, those initial impressions may persist even if they aren’t true. If they’re convincing enough, we may believe they’re entirely different than they are, and attribute positive aspects they don’t possess. The right words and a winning smile can be very influential, and may fool us into believing someone is different than they really are. If we want to believe them it may be difficult to find the truth. We may live in the land of fiction and make excuses when they don’t follow through or look the other way when something doesn’t fit, and we can do that for as long as we like. But truth is powerful and always rises. Even if we’ve been fooled and are completely convinced of something that isn’t real, the truth will show itself. When it does, we’ll have the chance to look openly at the situation and see everything clearly. Truth is always there and when we’re ready we can see everything as it is and determine our next steps forward. If we’ve made a mistake in judgement, we can correct it. If we’ve gone the wrong way, we can turn and redirect the way ahead. A detour isn’t the end of the road, and gives us the chance to adjust our direction to get to the goal. We know where we want to go and what we want to do. Nothing can confuse us or hold us in place indefinitely. We can reach any destination we desire and find success.

Some people struggle with honesty. They may lie because they want something, because the truth is too difficult to face, or because they lack confidence in their decisions. The reasons for dishonesty don’t matter. Nothing can change the truth of any situation and even if a lie prevents it from being clear at the beginning, nothing will keep it from showing itself in the end. Life is filled with complications and sometimes the temptation to get through dishonestly may entice us. Who we are is defined by our choices. We can be firm in our integrity, even when it’s difficult, and make decisions that will enhance our credibility and move us forward with confidence.

If we’ve been fooled or lied to by someone we care about, it may be difficult to face what’s happened. We may try to justify what they’ve done and imagine they didn’t mean to hurt us, but there is no way to defend dishonesty. We can accept what’s happened and learn all that’s possible from the experience and take it forward with us. We deserve the very best of everything and with integrity and wisdom can do what is needed to gain it.

Today if you’ve been lied to and hurt by someone else’s choices, stand firm and go forward with honesty and strength. You are worth every blessing you desire and nothing can keep you from success. Be true to your standards and trust yourself. You know what is right and good, and will reach every destination you desire.

Bruised and Bleeding

4 Mar

We interact with all kinds of people every day and there might be someone who doesn’t agree with us, doesn’t like us, or in some way finds it difficult to deal with us. We’re all different and personality conflicts can happen. If we get entangled with someone who truly dislikes us or wants something from us we can’t give, there may be trouble ahead. Most of us want to get along and try to be flexible when there’s disagreement, but some people hold a hard line on their expectations, and if we don’t meet them, we may pay a high price. They may malign us to our associates, or say we’re liars and manipulators simply because we don’t agree with them. They may even try to turn our family members against us. We can’t control what anyone else does and if they are determined to hurt us and leave us bruised and bleeding, there isn’t much we can to do stop them. Lies may tarnish us for a time, but truth always rises and will show itself. In the end, the only person lies hurt is the one telling them. Dishonesty may bring temporary satisfaction as the intended victim is hurt, but the cost to our integrity will be high. We will lose the trust of those around us and it will be impossible to build strong relationships. We might achieve the damage we desired, but we will be alone in the victory. Nobody wants to associate with someone who is vindictive and mean. They may be our friend today but eventually we may become their target. We can honor those around us, even if they’re completely different. There’s always a compromise possible and with respect and honesty, we can find the best way through.

It’s very painful when someone is persecuting and maligning us to our friends and family, and we will suffer. We can try to defend ourselves and correct the information and that might work, but people are complex and their opinions may be influenced by what they hear. If someone is determined to make us suffer, the damage may be intense. We may lose friends, associates, and even family members. Despite the disappointment and pain, we can stand firm. We know who we are and in time, the truth will show itself. By keeping our standards strong and honestly holding onto what is right, we will prevail.

It’s very difficult to fight a lie. If someone isn’t constrained by truth they may say and do anything to make a point. If there is evidence of the lie, we may offer it, but often lies are merely one person’s word against another. We need not get tangled up in fabrication and deceit. We can go forward and continue making excellent choices and choosing the right. Our honesty will shine through and in time, every lie will be exposed for what it is, and we will succeed.

Today, if someone is saying terrible things about you and you’re being hurt, remember who you are. You are valiant and wise, and nothing can keep you from success. Hold fast to the truth and be honest in all your dealings. Your virtue will shine through and truth will rise. Be confident and step forward. Nothing can hold you down and you will prevail.

Slightly Committed

27 Feb

Life is filled with all kinds of opportunities and possibilities. We decide what we want to do, where we want to go and how we will live our lives. For some it’s enough to simply get by with whatever comes. Others strive for difficult, hard to reach goals that push them forward toward where they want to go. We’re all different but no matter what our goals are, we will only achieve them at the same level of our commitment. If we’re determined to succeed no matter what and continue pushing forward despite what may be in the way, we’ll likely reach success. However, if we’re only slightly interested in moving forward, chances are we’ll only be slightly successful. Our focus will often determine how close we get to the destination we desire. It’s easy to talk about what we want and dream our days away thinking “if only” this or that happened we would be happier. But talking and dreaming will do nothing to change our situation. Every option is always possible but it’s up to us to actively pursue what we want. Our dreams won’t happen just because we’re thinking about them. Every dream can come true, but nothing will change until we do what is needed to make it real. Every option is possible and if we commit ourselves to doing what is necessary to achieve them, we will succeed. Nothing is ever too far to reach. We can have the lives we want the most and reach every goal. The whole world is there for us and with focus and determination, we can make it ours.

It’s easy to complain when we aren’t happy with our lives. We can bemoan every missed opportunity, and every unlucky break. Life happens and we have little control over anything outside our personal choices. Things won’t always go our way, but no matter how many detours or roadblocks we must face, we’re in control of what we do next. We can always give up and resign ourselves to a life we don’t want, or we can make a plan to push ahead toward anything we choose. Complete happiness is always possible but we must make it happen. With commitment and focus we can achieve any goal we desire and live the lives we want the most.

It’s easy to live a common, mediocre life, but mediocrity keeps us from the intense happiness and satisfaction we gain from personal success. Nothing can compare to the gratification we feel when we’ve accomplished something extraordinary. When we’ve run a hard race and made it to the finish line, we’ll feel great pleasure and fulfillment. Those moments can change our lives and bring us unexpected rewards. We can push further and accomplish more than we think we can. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus we can make them all come true.

Today if there’s something you’ve been wanting but haven’t done anything to achieve it, make a plan to start. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Decide what you want the most and take the first step toward it. Be committed and create the life you want. Everything is possible. The world is filled with opportunities. Be confident and begin. All your dreams are achievable and nothing is out of reach. Everything is possible and you will succeed.

Carrying It

25 Feb

Every decision we make has a consequence and expresses who we are. Most of us try to make the best choices every time, but people are complicated, and sometimes because of fear or other influence, we may falter. If we make a bad choice, we carry the impact of it forward with us. If it’s an insignificant situation with people we don’t know, we might be able to ignore it and just move on. However, if it involves those who depend on our integrity and we’ve been dishonest, it will be harder to let it go. We always know what we’ve done and even if we’re able to hide, the burden of carrying something negative forward will become heavy and may hurt us in the long run. Nobody’s perfect and everyone makes mistakes from time to time. If we’ve done something that’s outside the person we want to be, it will never feel right. Carrying guilt forward will become heavy and may prevent us from achieving the goals we most desire. Thankfully, nothing is permanent and we can correct the situation by telling the complete truth, clearing the air and starting again. Owning up to our mistakes and errors in judgement does not diminish us in any way. Course corrections will help us live the lives we want the most. We have the potential to become anything we desire and go anywhere we choose. By living openly and honestly, and owning every decision, the road ahead will always be there and we can make our dreams come true.

Our ethical standards define who we are. We never need to succumb to situational ethics or change our values when our position becomes difficult. Situations never define our choices – we do. Every day will bring us the opportunity to choose and what we do tells the world who we are. We are strong enough to always choose in ways that honor our values. We have everything we need to succeed. By being honest in all our dealings we will achieve our goals and bless everyone around us.

For some, there’s a sliding scale when it comes to ethics and honesty. If they want something badly, they will do whatever it takes to gain it. They justify their behavior through their desires, and don’t care who gets hurt. They take what they want regardless of who is in the way or any consequences that may arise. They may get the prize but the cost will be high. They will lose the trust of those around them and it will be impossible to build strong relationships. We can choose the best road at every turn. Our lives are ours to design and with clarity and honesty, we will find satisfaction and happiness in choosing well.

Today if you’re in a situation that’s pushing you to make a choice you don’t feel good about, hold fast to your standards. You know how to make excellent decisions and need not bend your ethics to get through. Keep your eyes focused on the life you want the most. Show us who you are and set the bar high. You are a blessing to the world and we need your influence. Choose wisely, be confident, and show us the way.

Deadlock

22 Feb

Everyone has their own opinions and ideas about how things should go. We’re all entitled to our viewpoints and can live our lives any way we choose, but if we must cooperate with others and we disagree, we may get stuck. If agreement is necessary before we can move forward and we can’t find common ground, we will remain in place until something changes. It’s not always easy to find compromise when we are diametrically opposed to the other party’s viewpoint. If we’re on opposing ends of the spectrum, it can be difficult to form an alliance in an effort to move forward. Everyone’s opinion is important, even if we disagree. If we want cooperation, all voices must be heard. We’re all unique and our perceptions are specific to each of us. We can do anything we like individually, but if we’re part of a group, we may need to bend in order to find agreement. There will be few moments when everything goes our way and we get everything we want. Other viewpoints may seem intolerable at first, but by listening carefully and patiently we can find common ground on which to agree. Each side can hold onto what’s most important and relinquish areas of contention in order to move ahead. If we want success, we must learn to compromise effectively. A deadlock situation will hold us in place and keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and have the wisdom we need to find the best arrangement where everyone feels heard and the impasse ends. We can reach any goal we desire by being open to suggestion and allowing others to engage and participate.

If we believe in something strongly and someone questions that belief, we may feel personally assaulted. Our defenses may rise and we may go on the offensive regarding our position. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and ideas, and it doesn’t matter if others disagree with us. We can listen to opposing viewpoints without being threatened, and if we choose, can modify our stand. But our lives are ours to design and we can make our own choices even if they are in opposition to those around us.

When there are disagreements, it’s up to us how we respond. We can get angry and try to muscle the conversation in our direction. Trying to make others adopt our choice with force rarely works. Instead, if we respond patiently and politely, we may open the conversation effectively and allow everyone to express their own opinions. Respectful discussion can open the door to compromise and help us move closer to our goals. We are smart enough to know how to proceed and with confidence and understanding will reach any destination we desire.

Today if someone else’s ideas are keeping you from moving forward, be receptive to their point of view and express your own ideas confidently and patiently. Find a compromise that lets you step ahead and allows them to hold onto what they need. You are amazing and wise, and will find every answer you need. There isn’t anything that can hold you back from the goals you desire. Speak up and step forward, and you’ll reach success.