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What They Said

23 May

Our lives are busy as we’re focused on attending to our responsibilities, taking care of what’s pressing, and trying to get everything that’s important done on time. As we interact with others, situations will undoubtedly arise where our input or suggestions are requested. If we’re interested in what’s going on, we may spend valuable time thinking about it and how to navigate through it. But sometimes, when we’re busy, even if the issue is important, we may be too distracted to offer anything and simply go along with what everyone else wants. Going with the flow of those around us is easy, doesn’t require any time or thought, and sometimes everything works out just fine. However, when things go wrong, we may stand back and shake our heads at the calamity around us and feel blameless, because after all, it wasn’t our decision. That’s not entirely true. If we choose to go along with what others are doing, we’re making a conscious decision to agree. That means we own it as well as everyone else. If things go awry, we’re just as responsible as the others involved. We are always accountable for everything we do, even if all we do is coast along with others. Casting blame on those who had the original idea when the plan falls apart does not exclude us. Life is filled with opportunities to learn and grow, and each decision we make teaches us something valuable going forward. Even when we don’t make a choice, we are choosing. Everything we do has a consequence. Owning our part in our decisions and then doing what is needed to correct them will take us where we want to go and make us the people we want to be. We are wise and capable of making excellent decisions and with determination and purpose, can achieve anything we desire.

If we ride in the backseat of a car, we aren’t driving. We aren’t deciding which turn to take or even what the destination will be. But if we get in the car, there is a tacit understanding that we agree to accept wherever it goes, and where it ends up. The same applies if we go along with other peoples’ decisions. We may not make the choice ourselves, but aligning ourselves with them implies our acceptance and agreement with it. Everything we do has a consequence. We can ensure we end up where we want to go by weighing each decision carefully before we choose.

If we’re in a situation with someone who has authority over us who decides we’ll do something we don’t agree with, we may feel we can’t object. Like being caught in a slipstream gliding along, we may feel powerless to escape. We can always express our concerns over any issue. We can positively speak up with clarity and respect, and share our viewpoint. Then if we must participate, we can move forward with confidence that we did our best.

Today if you’ve been taking a backseat to the decisions around you and going along with what others have decided, remember your life is important and your choices are valuable. Speak up and share your viewpoint. Every step will take you somewhere. Make sure it’s where you most want to go. Be confident and proceed with determination. Create the life you want the most and all your dreams will come true.

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The Most

8 May

There are endless things we can do with our lives. We can accomplish any goal we choose, go anywhere we want, and do anything we desire. But life is complicated and busy, and sometimes what we want the most gets buried under the other things pressing on us. There are responsibilities requiring our attention and an endless list of things that need to be done. It’s easy to get busy doing details and checking boxes off, and push aside the one thing we’ve been wanting to do. We can spend our time any way we like but one thing is certain – we will always do what we want to do most. We may think that’s ridiculous – we don’t want to spend our days doing chores or taking care of endless details more than anything else. However, we’re always in control of every decision we make and everything we do reflects our choices. If we push aside what we desire in order to do things we feel we must, we decide that’s where we want to be. Of course, responsibilities must be tended to and we want to be responsible in our actions. It’s possible to take care of our duties and still make time to do the things we want the most. If we don’t make our dreams a priority, we may find that time has slipped away and we haven’t accomplished what we wanted most of all. Our lives are ours to design and we can be responsible and still do all the things we want to accomplish. If we’re very busy it will take careful planning, but we’re certainly capable of finding the way. Our lives flash by in an instant. We can take control of our time, manage what needs to be done, and ensure we accomplish the desires of our hearts. Every dream is possible and we can achieve them. We can have the lives we desire and do all the things we want. Every goal is reachable and we are strong enough, and wise enough to find our way to them.

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go. Those around us may press us to keep our focus on the tasks at hand and not spend our time dreaming about other things. There will always be more work to do and tasks to accomplish, and we’ll never run out of details that need our attention. It’s up to us to make time for the things we want to do. If we plan for personal time to address the goals we most want to achieve, we’ll find get satisfaction and happiness as we reach them.

When we’re very busy with lots of pressing details, it may seem impossible that we’ll ever have time for ourselves. If we don’t control how we spend our time, life and those around us will control it for us. Nobody knows what we need more than we know ourselves. No matter how busy we are, we can step back and take the time we need to do the things we want most to accomplish. If we’re persistent and continue step by step to move closer to our goals, we’ll reach them and find great success.

Today if there’s something you want to do but your schedule is packed, take a step back and plan some time just for you. Take the first step toward your goal and each day move forward a little more. Soon you’ll reach the destination you desire and find success. Your life is yours to design. Make it the way you want it and you’ll find great happiness and satisfaction. It’s all there for you. Step forward and make it yours.

Middle Road

1 May

No two people are exactly alike. We may have friends who share similar interests and agree with us on lots of things, but we’re all unique in many ways and there will always be differences. Sometimes those differences are insignificant and we can overlook them, but other times they may be extreme and difficult to ignore. If we’re diametrically opposed to someone else’s idea or opinion, it may cause disagreements and conflict as we try to interact with them. Some people are intensely convinced their viewpoints are the best and don’t like being questioned. They’re committed to their opinions and don’t respond well when others disagree. They prefer unwavering loyalty and want others to follow along. It may be easier to remain quiet when we disagree with those who have strong opinions, but our ideas are just as important as anyone else’s. We never have to go along to get along, and can certainly express our own thoughts at any time. We can be polite and gracious to the opposing viewpoint, and still hold fast to our own beliefs. There is always a possible compromise no matter how far apart our ideas may be. If we’re willing to bend a little, and meet in the middle, we can allow everyone to have a voice, even if our views are completely different. We all want to be heard, and deserve to have our ideas honored and respected. We can listen to other interpretations, even if we don’t agree, and find a way to work together. There is no one, perfect way to live and every road offers something of value. We can be open to new ways of thinking, and share the journey with those who are different. Life is all about learning and with each experience we gain something of value to carry forward.

When we’re sure of ourselves and believe our ideas are best, it may be hard to comprehend how anyone could disagree. Although we’re happy on the path we’ve chosen, that doesn’t mean there aren’t other roads that will take us to success. We can listen to other ideas and find a compromise that allows everyone to participate. By turning a little to the left or right, we can work together to reach any destination.

If we’re convinced there is only one way forward, we may demand that others comply with our wishes. Digging in our heels and refusing to budge will never move us forward. It’s impossible to advance when we’re standing still arguing over how to proceed. Few people will be convinced to follow along if they are forced to agree. It’s far better to use our positive influence to express our views and then listen to other opinions. The best answers are always available and by being open to hearing all options possible, we will find them.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, express your opinion to those around you and ask for their input. Be open to other ideas and listen carefully. All options are possible and hearing every opinion will open new doors. Find answers that include everyone and move forward with confidence. You are incredible and capable. Nothing is beyond your reach. Every destination is possible and together, you will reach it.

Missing the Mark

24 Apr

We have all kinds of experiences in our lives. We learn new things as we go along and are often successful in accomplishing our goals. When we get things done well, we feel confident and capable, but sometimes we miss the mark. We never know what will happen next and may get tangled up in an unexpected development that snags our progress and pushes us completely off track. Our judgement may be impaired because we didn’t get all the information, or maybe we had to guess and the road we chose didn’t work out. Lots of things can go wrong and even if we’ve tried to plan effectively, we may stumble or fall down. Life is filled with all kinds of unknowns, and we may struggle or even fail when we’re trying to move ahead. Failure doesn’t mean we’re not capable of succeeding, or that we’re not smart enough to figure out what to do. It just means our first choice didn’t take us where we wanted to go. There are many roads to every destination and if one doesn’t work out, we don’t have to stop and give up. We can look around at the options available and try again. Each step will teach us something new and give us more information to use going forward. Every destination is possible but they won’t all come easily. We may have to try several different roads before we find the one that works. Success is always possible as long as we keep moving ahead. The only sure guarantee of permanent failure is if we stop trying. We can do amazing things and go anywhere we want. We have enough courage and determination to find our way, and can decipher any complication that arises. Nothing is out of reach and we will find success.

It’s so easy to travel on nice, even, paved roads. They are smooth and easy to navigate, and we feel comfortable as we move along. It would be great if every journey was clear and effortless, but life doesn’t work that way. There are countless problems and snags that may arise and we may have to traverse a difficult and rocky path. When the road gets hard and the way ahead is challenging and demanding, we may rethink the goal we’re trying to reach. We can always change our minds and let go of something instead of pushing forward, but if the goal is important to us, we have everything we need to continue ahead. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us in place and we can achieve anything we desire.

When what we want requires a lot of effort, we must decide if we’re willing to do what it will take to get it. Anything worth having is worth working for. The road forward may be long and we make get turned around a time or two. Our destination may be far in the distance but nothing is beyond our reach. If we stumble, we can stand again. If we take a wrong turn, we can change direction. Every dream is possible and if we keep our focus on the way ahead, we will succeed.

Today if you’ve gotten tangled up and lost, and your plans aren’t working, stop and evaluate all the options before you. You are smart enough to achieve anything you desire. Choose your next steps forward and continue moving ahead. You are amazing and capable. Every destination is possible and you will succeed.

Where Are You?

18 Apr

In this day and age of technological advancements, it seems there are screens everywhere. We have our iphones, ipads, laptops, and every other conceivable device to keep us “connected,” whatever that means. It’s fine to use whatever tools we need when we have things to do but if we become so dependent on our devices that we can’t set them down, we may create problems for ourselves. If we’re constantly staring at a screen, it will be impossible to be completely effective in our personal lives. And if we let them interfere with our personal relationships, we may create uncomfortable complications we could avoid. If we’re having lunch with a friend or family member and continually watch our phones, or continue to text others, we may alienate and offend those we’re with. It’s impossible to be in two places at the same time. What is possible is to physically be in one place and mentally be in another, and the place in our head will actually be where we are. We can’t have meaningful connections with people we ignore, or engage in conversations in person at the same time as we’re engaging in the virtual world. We must decide what’s most important and where we really want to be. If we only engage in virtual connections, our in-person skills will suffer. It’s demeaning and disrespectful to expect others to wait around while we talk to someone else on-line. We decide where we want to be every moment of every day. Our personal connections are important. We’ll find great happiness and satisfaction when we value them enough to give them the attention they need and the time they deserve. Nothing is more valuable than our interpersonal relationships. We can control our choices to ensure we show how much they mean to us by caring for them and honoring them.

We’re often busy and when there’s a lot going on and someone wants to see us, we may ask them to wait a moment until we can give them the time they need. Most people are patient and will wait, but if we continually push them off because we’re distracted with one thing after another, they may give up and decide to move on. The valuable information and beneficial guidance they may have offered us will be lost if we’re unable to effectively govern how we spend our time.

Life rushes by in a flash. Every single day is a blessing and by focusing on where we are in each moment, we’ll get the most out of them. Being where we are instead of mentally checking out to someplace else will enrich our lives in deep and profound ways. Nothing is more important than this moment. We can take control of our lives and choose to live here and now, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been distracted by all the screens and technology around you, remember you only have this one day. Yesterday is gone and there are no guarantees for tomorrow. You are an incredible gift to the world. Share your life in-person with those around you and live fully in this moment, and every happiness and success will be yours.

All Alone

16 Apr

When we want to accomplish something difficult, it’s helpful to have the support of those around us. When our friends and family back our ideas and cheer us on, we feel stronger and bolstered up when the road gets hard. It’s great to have others on our side, especially when we’re struggling or are up against complications, but it doesn’t always happen. There may be times we want to do something that those around us either don’t agree with or don’t think we can accomplish. If they’re concerned about us failing, they may try to dissuade us from pursuing the goal or even stand in our way when we try to push forward. Everyone has their own opinions and we won’t always agree, but we don’t need anyone’s permission to go after something we want. It would be great to get agreement and support, but if not, we can stand alone and go our own way. Our lives are ours to design and we don’t have to go along with anyone else’s ideas of what we should do. Every road is open and the possibilities are endless. We can swim upstream or take a new direction any time we choose. If we must go alone, we can. Nothing can keep us from any goal we desire. It doesn’t matter if nobody else understands what we’re doing or why we’re doing it. We’re all unique and every personal expression is valuable. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and can pursue anything we desire even if others don’t agree. We have all the wisdom, stamina, and insight we need to accomplish anything. The whole world is there for us. Nothing can keep us from success and every dream is possible.

Staying in the same routines and doing the same things every day may make us feel safe. It’s easy to live a predictable life and stay within the lines we understand. But there are unlimited experiences awaiting us and we can step forward and try something new. Our lives are only as small as we make them. We’re capable of doing great things and if we trust ourselves to reach further, will accomplish goals we never thought possible. We can do anything we desire. Nothing is too far away or too difficult for us to manage. The lives we dream of are always waiting for us and with confidence and determination we can make them ours.

Just because something hasn’t been done before doesn’t mean it’s not possible. We can accomplish more than we imagine and if we trust ourselves and push forward will achieve greatness. We are only restricted by our own choices. Every option is possible and we can go anywhere and do anything. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to find the way ahead and make the goal ours. We can have the lives we want by stepping forward and choosing the roads that will bring us success.

Today if you want to do something and nobody else agrees, remember your life is yours to design. You have everything you need to accomplish anything you desire. You can stand alone and reach the goal. Step forward and claim the life you want. Every blessing is there for you and with patience and determination, you will succeed.

Waiting for Luck

10 Apr

We’re always in control of our lives. We decide what we’ll do, where we’ll go, with whom we’ll associate and how we’ll live. Every decision we make defines who we are. We can make excellent decisions and each time we choose we determine the road ahead. When we know what we want and the options are clear, it’s easy to choose but sometimes the waters are muddy and seeing exactly where the choice will take us isn’t obvious. Not every decision is easy and sometimes we may have no idea what we should do. We may hesitate, or if we’re completely lost, just wait around and hope somehow, we’ll get lucky and it’ll work out by itself. Waiting for luck to save us rarely works. We must decide. Some decisions can be pushed aside and might even eventually fade away on their own, but that’s unusual. If we’re stuck and unsure, we can review everything and choose the best option possible. It might work out the way we want it to, or it might go awry, but whatever happens, we’ll find our way through. We can’t read the future and must proceed with the information we have. If there’s more to the story, or things unfold in ways we couldn’t predict, even if we’ve chosen well, we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. We only have control over ourselves and there are always unseen developments that may hinder our plans. We don’t need luck to find our way. We have everything necessary to make good choices and can modify our plans when needed. Success is always possible and nothing can keep us from getting to our goals.

When we take the first step on any path, we also choose the destination it takes us to. That’s fine if we can see where the road will end, but that isn’t always possible. We may start out thinking the end result will be one thing and then discover as we move forward that we’re nowhere near where we thought we were headed. Life is filled with unexpected surprises and when the road bends we may have to turn around and start again. With determination, focus and patience, we can go anywhere and reach any destination.

When we have to make a difficult decision and none of the options are appealing, instead of working the problem, we may decide it’s too hard and set it aside. We might hope if we leave it alone long enough, someone else will take care of it. We may have to overcome many difficult and unpleasant tasks. Working through them and learning to find resolutions will bring us great knowledge and benefit. We gain wisdom with each challenge we overcome and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. Instead of looking away, we can address each issue as it arises, confident we’ll find the answers we need and prevail.

Today if don’t want to face a difficult decision before you, remember how capable and strong you are. There isn’t anything you can’t figure out. You don’t need luck to save you. You already possess everything needed for success. Look at the situation clearly and choose the best path forward. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident. You know what to do and you will win.