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Sudden Remorse

21 Jan

We make dozens of decisions each day and millions of decisions as we go through our lives. We are human and it’s impossible to make every single choice well. Everyone makes a bad decision at some point, and when we realize we’ve completely missed the mark, we may feel great disappointment. If we’ve deeply injured someone else, we may feel sudden remorse. When everything is visible after the fact, we may wonder how we could have said what hurt them so badly, or how we could have thought we were on the right road. Looking back, it’s easy to see all the facts and where we went wrong, but what’s done is done and cannot be erased. When we make a big mistake and the effects of our decision are far reaching and painful, we may feel horrible and wonder how to proceed. It may seem impossible to continue on, but a bad decision isn’t the end of our journey. Even if what we’ve done is destructive and terrible, there will be things we can do to amend what has happened. If we are truly sorry for what we’ve done, we can start by apologizing to those affected and ask for forgiveness. Depending on what’s happened, forgiveness may come right away, or it may take time. Hurting someone deeply erodes their trust in us, and it may take considerable time to re-establish it again. Nobody is perfect. We all fall down from time to time. By understanding what we’ve done and choosing ways to heal what’s been broken, we can regain the trust of those we’ve injured, and continue forward together. There is greatness is all of us. If we forget our nobility for a moment, we can regain it and start again. We can do what is needed to move forward with clarity and integrity. Nothing can keep us from achieving anything we desire, and we will succeed.

When someone does something that pierces us deeply and hurts intensely, our relationship with them will suffer. Nobody wants to be around those who purposely make them feel bad or wound them emotionally. We never have to stay anywhere we don’t want to be. It doesn’t matter who the offending person is, what their status in our life has been, or how much influence they have over us. We are worth more than we imagine, and the whole world is embellished and blessed because we are here. If we don’t want to continue any relationship in our lives, we can step away.

Big mistakes in judgement may bring not only emotional pain but also physical danger. If we follow someone else’s example and it turns out badly, we cannot blame them for what happens. Not realizing what would result is no excuse for our actions. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves, and solely accountable for everything we do. We have what we need to make excellent, strong decisions, and with patience and focus, we can do what is right, and reach success.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and feel intense remorse, do what is needed to repair the situation and re-gain the trust of those around you. There is greatness in you. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and step forward with confidence. We’re all blessed because you are here. Show us your light, and every success will follow.

Not Exactly

6 Jan

The words we choose, and the things we say as we go through our lives explain who we are, what we want, and what we need from those around us. It’s good to be truthful, but sometimes the truth isn’t exactly what we want everyone to know. Maybe it will reflect poorly on us or expose a bad decision that has taken us somewhere we don’t want to be. We can say anything, make up any story, and create our own little reality, but truth is powerful, and even if we try to hide it now, it won’t stay hidden for long. We can justify and excuse manipulating others with half-truths or even all out lies if the circumstances are difficult or we’re afraid of what the real facts might cause. We can say anything to cover ourselves or someone else, and we may get away with it – at least for a while. However, whatever short term benefit we get will be outweighed by the long-term losses we may suffer. Each time we sacrifice our integrity to do something dishonest, we lose a little bit of confidence and self-respect. We know we’re being deceitful and if we continue misleading others, we will suffer. We are valuable and worthwhile, and there isn’t anything worth losing our self-respect or personal dignity. Every answer we need will always be there for us and we are intelligent and highly capable. There is no need to lie or bend the truth to get ahead or accomplish our goals. Nothing is too difficult for us to accomplish by being honest and truthful. There is greatness in each one of us, and we are impressive just as we are. We already possess everything we need to do anything we want. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with clarity and focus, we can reach every goal and every destination. Nothing can keep us from our dreams, and we will succeed.

Fiction is a great diversion, but there is no place for it in our everyday lives. We live in reality, and pretending or lying that things are different than they are will change nothing. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. If we don’t want the situation we’re in, we can change it. We’re in control of our lives and never have to stay anywhere we don’t want. Every option is possible, and we have everything we need to prevail.

Who we are and how we’re seen by those around us is a reflection of the things we do. We can design our lives any way we like. We are never frozen in place and nothing can hold us down when we’re ready to move. By facing things exactly as they are, warts and all, we can decide how we want to proceed. If we want something different or something more, instead of just talking about it, we can make it happen. Every single goal is possible, and we are wise enough and strong enough to make them ours.

Today if you’ve been embellishing the truth or hiding facts as you interact with others, think about who you really want to be. There is greatness inside you and by choosing well and being completely honest, you can reach every destination you desire. Be the best you can be, and every door will open for you. All your dreams are waiting. Step forward with clarity and claim them.

Make Believe

28 Dec

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Many are routine and inconsequential, and we hardly give them any thought. However, some decisions are so important, they may change the trajectory of our lives moving forward. If we’re in a tight spot and doing the right thing would be difficult, we might decide to choose an easier, although unethical or dishonest, option. Bad decisions may require little effort in the beginning, but what happens afterward may be harder to face. We are always in control of everything we do, and if we want to, can choose the easiest roads ahead regardless of whether or not they are the best. If we get tangled up and impact others, we can deny we had anything to do with it and ignore the complications we’ve created, but the truth will eventually rise, and we’ll have to answer for what we’ve done. Playing make believe is fun when we’re children, but pretending things are different than they really are never works as adults. Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some time or another, but by owning our decisions and doing what is needed to correct our course and fix what we’ve broken, we can regain our footing and get back on track. Our lives belong to us and each choice we make defines who we are. We can choose wisely and live in ways that bring us happiness and the respect of those around us. Or we can thoughtlessly blunder through, do what we want regardless of the consequences, and have lives filled with chaos and disharmony. The choices we make will decide what happens. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent decisions. By taking our time, and getting as much information as possible beforehand, we can make choices that bring us the results we’re seeking. We don’t have to play make believe when our lives reflect what we want most and take us where we want to go.

It takes a lot of energy to come up with stories and try to design facts to create a narrative we want. Instead of embellishing what’s really happening, we can simply state things as they are and let the situation develop honestly. We can be confident in making good decisions, and trust ourselves to find the best roads ahead. Every destination is there for us, and with clarity and focus, we will succeed.

When we want to look our best, we may wear our best clothes and add adornments that make us look great. Dressing up can change the way we appear to others but dressing up the truth changes nothing. Truth is what it is. Trying to make it appear different to be more pleasing or easier to accept doesn’t change the situation. We can manage anything that arises and face any complication or problem, sure we will prevail. Nothing is too hard for us to handle, and every success is always possible.

Today if you’re tempted to make a bad decision out of desperation or uncertainty, remember how strong and capable you are. Face things as they are and make choices that will help you move forward. Every destination is possible, and with honesty and clarity, you can do anything you desire. You are amazing and capable, and nothing can keep you from success.

Walking Away

21 Dec

We make all kinds of connections and build lots of relationships as we go through our lives. Some are important and we hold them close, and others are created out of necessity or circumstance. Every relationship has an impact on us in some way. They may bring us great happiness and satisfaction, help us achieve some goal or destination, or simply alleviate our loneliness. When we have healthy, strong connections that embellish our lives, they may give us confidence and contentment as we move forward. But not all relationships are beneficial. If we are bound to someone else through conflict, anger, or dysfunction, our lives may be gravely impacted, and we may struggle to move ahead. We all know when we’re in bad situations, and we know what needs to be done to move away from them. But we may feel paralyzed and stuck because we are unsure of ourselves or afraid that leaving will be worse than staying. Change can be frightening, but one thing is certain. Our lives will never improve if we continue to remain in destructive situations. We are entitled to full and complete happiness and are valuable and worth every blessing we desire. The road ahead may be uncertain, but we are intelligent and can find our way to any destination we desire. We are never frozen in place. We can walk away from anything holding us back. There is great power and courage within us and nothing, absolutely nothing, can keep us from anything we desire. By trusting ourselves and choosing happiness, we can have the lives we want the most. Every single dream is possible, and with courage and determination, we can make them ours.

People say a lot of things to get what they want. If someone wants us in their life, they may tell us we need them to be happy, and without them we’ll fail. Our happiness is our own responsibility. Nobody can provide it for us despite what they may say. We already know what we want to do and where we want to go, and by achieving our own personal goals, happiness will follow. We are intelligent and wise, and completely capable of designing the lives we want. Nothing can keep us from any goal we desire, and every dream can be ours.

Routine and history are powerful motivators. If we’ve been in an unhappy situation for a long time, we may feel it’s too late to change. That is never true, and we can do anything we want at any time. When we’re ready to move forward, we can step in a new direction, leaving what doesn’t work behind. The whole world is there for us, and every road is waiting. We can go anywhere and do anything. There is sufficient courage and wisdom within us already to guide us to the destinations that will fulfill and bring us incredible happiness. By moving forward, with our eyes focused on the goal, we will succeed.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t working and you want a change, be confident and move in a new direction. Every single dream you desire is waiting for you. You have everything you need to reach them, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and trust yourself. You are amazing and can achieve complete happiness.

Toolkit

3 Dec

When we want to build something, we must assemble all the tools needed to get the job done. Tools are great assets that help us in many ways. All tools are good for something, but none are good for everything. A hammer is a very useful and valuable tool, but if we need to screw a bolt into a board, a hammer is useless. Choosing the right tool for our needs enables us to get the job done. Having lots of tools is nice, but they are only helpful if we actually have the tools we need. Identifying the right tool is easy when we’re building. We know when we need a hammer, a screwdriver, a measuring tape, etc. But in our personal lives, when problems arise we may be confused about how exactly to proceed, and what skills will help us through. Everyone has their own unique personal toolkit accumulated for all the experiences we’ve had as we’ve navigated through our lives. What one possesses may be very different from someone else. We might face a situation where we find we don’t have the tools we need to comprehend what’s happening or how to proceed. Someone close by may have exactly what is required to help us, and they can share their wisdom and experience with us and give us the information we need to move forward. We all have tools to share, and there will always be a solution possible. By reaching out to those around us and asking for help when we need it, and sharing our knowledge to assist someone else, we can reach success in every endeavor.

Life is complicated and unpredictable. We never know what will happen next. Even if we plan carefully and do our best to ensure we avoid as many problems as possible as we move ahead, things may go wrong. Someone or something may get in the way and prevent us from moving forward. If we can’t move, we can stand still and look at the situation objectively. There will always be another way forward. By using the skills we already possess, and trusting ourselves, we can find a way around any obstacle, and continue on toward success.

Conflict is a normal part of life. We’re all individuals and no two people are exactly alike. Our differences bring depth and richness to our experience, but they can also bring disharmony and stress. During times of conflict we can scream and yell, and demand that others listen and obey, which really never works. Or we can draw on our experiences and express our viewpoint gracefully and with patience. By using the skills we’ve already gained we can effectively communicate our opinions and find compromise that honors everyone. We are smarter and more capable than we think we are, and with determination and focus, can achieve anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and don’t have the tools you need to get through, reach out to those around you and ask for help. Each experience will give you new skills that will enrich your understanding and help you move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. You are intelligent and wise, and can manage anything. Nothing can hold you in place for long. Every success is possible, and you will prevail.