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Shoulda Woulda

20 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about life and how things should go. Some people are very confident and sure they have a lot, if not all, the answers. If they think they know us better than we know ourselves (impossible) they may try to tell us what they believe we should be doing. While they may have good suggestions, and we may choose to take their advice, nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. Telling us we “should” do something because they think it’s a good idea doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for us. While it’s possible and likely we’ll make some mistakes in judgement, we are the experts in our own lives. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any suggestions that are offered and weigh each individually, and then do exactly what we want. There is no one perfect way to live life. The expressions and choices are limitless. We can take any road we like and accomplish any goal we desire. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or idea of what is right. Our choices are ours to make and we can design our lives any way we choose. We may occasionally have some regrets over choices we’ve made and think we could have chosen better, but each experience teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. All the knowledge we gain enriches our understanding and helps us move forward in the future. We don’t need anyone else telling us we “shoulda” done something differently. If they do, we can listen politely, and then continue on toward whatever we are seeking. Every single possibility is there for us and we can do anything. With confidence and focus, we can achieve the goals we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Our relationships are important and if we’re in a situation where someone we value strongly disagrees with a choice we’re making, they may talk us right out of it. If we decide they have a better choice, we can certainly make it. However, we don’t need anyone’s permission to do anything. We’re in control of our lives and can make our own choices. Going against the flow doesn’t mean we’re going the wrong way. Every destination is there for us, and we can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody is perfect and we all stumble from time to time. If someone warns us not to make a decision and we make it anyway only to face failure, they may say “I told you so,” and they might be right. But just because someone saw something we didn’t notice in one instance, doesn’t mean they will always know what’s best for us. We are intelligent and will learn much from mistakes along the way. We can trust ourselves to choose wisely, and reach every success.

Today if you’re being pressured to go in a direction you haven’t chosen, think about all the options before you. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent choices. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you can make all your dreams reality.

21 Oct

Return Trip

Life is full of twists and turns. We may be traveling along one way when something happens that stops us and turns us around facing the opposite direction. If we have no control over the situation, we may have to backtrack for a while until things change in ways that allow us to redirect our course forward. We are always in control of our lives but have no control over what other people are doing or how things roll out. Even our best laid plans may turn upside down without warning, and the goal we were seeking may suddenly be out of reach for a time. Nothing is permanent and eventually, things will change. How and when that will happen is impossible to predict, but we’ll be able to resume our journey at some point. The return trip back to where we were may be easy and quick, or it may take a lot of work and time to restore. There are unlimited roads to every destination and no matter what’s happened, or how long we’ve had to wait, we can discover the best way ahead. Complications may come, problems may thwart our progress, and roadblocks may get in the way. But we know what we want, and if we’re willing to push ahead despite the trouble, can reach any goal we desire. Things may go wrong, they may go very wrong, and we may question our ability to continue. Nobody gets a clear, paved road all the time. It doesn’t matter how far we’re pushed off track, it doesn’t matter if we’ve been away for a long time, and it doesn’t matter if nobody else thinks we can do it. We are more powerful and strong than we imagine, and nothing, absolutely nothing can keep us from our goals. A return trip back to where we want to be will always be possible. Our lives are ours to design. We can be confident that every destination is there for us, and with patience and determination, we will succeed.

We may be involved in a relationship where someone wants us to change who we are. If we lack confidence and care deeply for them, we may acquiesce and try to mold ourselves into their desired model. It’s impossible to find complete happiness if we’re trying to be something we’re not. Our personal happiness is important, and we can return to our true selves. We are priceless and individual, and the whole world is embellished because we are here.

Our lives are busy and can be complicated, and we might look up one day and discover we’re on a road headed somewhere we never wanted to go. Maybe we got caught up following someone else or got distracted and stepped away from what we want most. If we’re going the wrong way, we can stop, turn around, and start again. Every goal we desire is possible, and if we focus on the way forward, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’ve gotten stopped or turned around, and are headed away from the destinations you desire, trust yourself. You have everything you need to find your way forward. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from them. Be confident and step forward. You are amazing and powerful. Success is just ahead, and you will reach it.

The Easy Stuff

14 Aug

We are always in control of our lives and can live them any way we like. We can make any decision we choose and each one will further define who we are. There are always lots of options, some are harder than others, and we can decide how we want to proceed. It’s very easy to live a mediocre life. If we want, we can just go with the flow, follow other people’s leads, keep our heads down, and coast. It takes very little energy to simply follow our noses around, and do nothing extraordinary. Time will go by no matter what we’re doing, and if we don’t want anything more than what’s easy, it doesn’t take much to achieve. It’s like being in lukewarm water – it’s neither hot nor cold. We don’t have to be passionate, or committed to any idea, and can merely stay on the periphery and watch others engage. But being half-way in and half-way out can only bring half-way satisfaction and partial happiness. If we really want to feel fulfilled, we have to do more. There is always risk when we truly get committed and involve ourselves completely. Things may go south and we might get hurt, but every mistake and miss-step bring more information to help us moving forward. By stretching further than what’s comfortable, and stepping into the unknown toward a desired goal, we will enrich our experiences and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. Great happiness is there for us, but we must reach beyond what’s easy to get it. Some of our greatest successes will be found on unpaved roads that are difficult to travel. We are strong and capable, and can trust ourselves to do anything we desire. All dreams are possible, and with clarity and focus, we can make them ours.

When driving in a car, if we come upon a steep hill, we can take our foot off the gas and coast downhill with no problem. We will continue to move ahead despite doing nothing. However, once we get to the bottom, if we don’t re-engage, the car will only coast for a while and then will stop altogether. If we’re coasting along in our lives just letting things happen, we may move forward if someone else is paving the way for us. But that won’t always be the case, and unless we take control, we may get stuck. Standing in place can never take us where we want to go. We can take control, be confident, and set our own course for the destinations we desire.

Life is uncertain and nobody can read the future. If we have goals we want to achieve but are unsure we can succeed, we might set them aside until we feel more confident. There is no rush to reach any destination, but if we set everything aside indefinitely, we’ll never get there. There will be few times when we’re sure we know everything before we begin. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward, even if the road gets complicated, and with perseverance and determination, we will succeed.

Today if you’ve been taking the easy road and letting others choose the way ahead, decide what you want the most. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. There isn’t anything too difficult or challenging for you to overcome. Be confident and step forward toward your goals. There is great success possible, and you already possess everything you need to reach it. Nothing can keep you from your dreams.

Square Peg

5 Aug

Everyone is different and we all see things from our own perspectives. Our lives are shaped by the experiences we have and as we move forward, each experience colors the way we see things and how we want to proceed. There is no one perfect way to live life. We have endless opportunities to do anything we like, and can design our lives any way we choose. When we’re true to our own personal needs and desires, we can find great satisfaction and happiness. But there are lots of other people around us all the time, and if they have influence over us, we may be tempted to choose what they think is best instead of listening to our own inner voice. It’s certainly easier to let others plot our course and simply follow along, but sitting in the back seat will never put us in control of where we’re headed. Going along with someone else’s ideas about what we should be doing will only take us where they want us to go, which may be far from the destinations we desire most. Someone else’s destination is just that – someone else’s. It’s like trying to force a square peg into a round hole. It’s never going to fit. We know who we are and what we want, and nothing is powerful enough to keep us from the goals we want most. We don’t have to assimilate into what others are doing or conform to anyone’s ideas about our lives. We are in complete control of our own destinies. Every road is there for us and nothing is out of reach. By stepping forward and choosing our own journey, we will reach every destination with confidence and clarity. We can have the lives we desire most, and every dream is possible.

Some people are very confident and think they know how to live in the best ways. They may give us suggestions and direction for moving forward, telling us they know what we need. We can listen to any advice we get, but one thing is certain – nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We already know what we want, and have all the wisdom and courage needed to achieve any goal we desire. Every destination is waiting for us, and we will reach them.

We may be pressured by family or friends to do things a certain way that works for them and makes their lives easier. It’s good to be helpful, but we don’t have to give up everything to get along. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and the paths we choose are specific and unique to our own personal desires. We can value our relationships and still hold onto our own identities. Being true to who we really are and moving toward the goals we want the most will bring us lasting happiness and fulfillment. We deserve every blessing, and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been putting your own ideas on hold and going along with those around you, remember how incredible and unique you are. You bring great light and joy to the world, and every gift is there for you. Decide what you want the most, and step forward and claim it. Nothing can keep you from your dreams. They’re all there for you, and you will make them yours.

Inevitable

9 Jul

There are a lot of unknowns in life. We can’t read the future and we can’t see what’s around the next corner. In most cases, we have no idea what will happen next, but there are some instances where we can predict outcomes. If we regularly eat more calories than we burn, we will gain weight. If we don’t put gas in our car and continue to drive, we will run out. Some things are inevitable based on the decisions we’re making. Most of the time we know what we’re in control of and what will happen if we don’t pay attention. But life is complicated, we get busy, and there are lots of distractions. Sometimes we get carried away going from one task to the next, and forget or ignore things that need our attention. We grab food on the go, even though we know it’s heavier than we want to carry, we may forget to fill the car up, water the plants, or take the dog out. And in the end, we pay the consequences. When we’re sitting in traffic with a dead engine because there is no fuel, arrive home only to find the dog has “decorated” the rug because we didn’t take him out, or finally notice the plant on the table is dead because we never watered it, we may have regrets. If we continue to neglect what needs to be addressed, our lives may get more complicated. We’re in control of everything we do and decide how we’ll spend our time. We can plan our days responsibly and prepare for what needs to be done. Our lives are a reflection of every decision we make. If we’re constantly getting into situations that cause us discomfort, embarrassment or hardship, we can regroup and plan more effectively. We are smart enough to make good, strong decisions and take care of our lives in ways that pave the road ahead. Every success is possible, and with focus and attention, we can do anything we desire.

We can accomplish our goals and go anywhere we desire, but everything has a cause and effect. We can control every decision we make, but we have no control over the results of those decisions. If we choose well, the outcomes will likely be what we desire. If we make a bad decision, the results may be far different. Every road ends somewhere. By taking our time, and looking at all the possibilities before we choose, we have the best chance of ending up where we want to go.

There are all kinds of influences around us all the time. We may have cultural, family or traditional pressures to live our lives a certain way, and make certain decisions. If things have been done a specific way for a long time, it may seem inevitable that we must follow them. We can do anything we like, but our lives are ours to design and we create our own destiny. There are endless roads to choose from, and we can chart our own course. We can have the lives we dream of, choose our own journey, and reach every success.

Today if you’ve neglected something that has caused complications, think about making a new plan moving forward. You are stronger and wiser than you think you are, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident, and move ahead with clarity and focus. Every destination is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.