Tag Archives: Discomfort

First Response

15 Jun

Human beings are complex creatures. We are intelligent and capable, and have many complicated feelings and emotions. Everyone has their own unique expressions and we all have a first response emotion to the many different situations we face. Maybe the first thing we feel when things go awry is anger, or fear, or maybe our confidence leaves us and we feel vulnerable and unsure. For most of us there is one feeling that consistently pops up whenever we’re stressed. We’re all different so the scope of those emotions is wide but we all know our own specific expression. No matter what our first response is, we don’t have to hold onto it or let it take over. We control our emotions – they don’t control us unless we let them. If we feel afraid when things change we can take a breath and remember how strong and capable we are before we proceed. If we feel anger, we can take a moment to look at everything objectively before we speak. We are intelligent and can decide what works best in each scenario and then proceed to move forward in ways that bring us comfort and success. Our feelings belong to us and we can embrace them without becoming controlled by them. There will always be many ways ahead, and with clarity and temperance, we can find our way to any goal we seek.

Some people lack personal self control. They plow through their lives with abandon, and never consider the consequences of their actions. If someone gets in the way, they just push them aside and continue forward, regardless of the turmoil they cause. It’s very difficult to deal with them because it’s impossible to know what they’ll do next. We all make our own decisions, and we never have to stay in any situation we don’t want. We can step aside and let others go on by, and then continue forward toward our own success.

Just because something feels uncomfortable it doesn’t mean we can’t manage it. Life is all about change, and each new situation will teach us something about ourselves and the world around us. We are highly capable, and can always find the answers needed to do anything we desire. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. By trusting ourselves and taking our time, we can accomplish anything we desire. Success is always there for us and with determination and confidence, we will reach it.

Today if your first response to a new situation is keeping you from proceeding, look at everything objectively and believe in yourself. You are stronger and more powerful than you think you are and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Decide how you want to proceed and take the first step. The road ahead awaits and nothing can keep you from success.

Back and Forth

21 Mar

When we’re trying to accomplish something in our lives, if we want to find success, we have to move forward. We need to look at the situation objectively, weigh our options, and determine the path that will take us where we want to go. But life is full of distractions. There is a lot going on all the time. Other people in our lives have their own goals and interests, and although they may want to support ours, their focus is getting their own accomplishments completed. We can be side tracked when they get involved with us in ways that take our eyes off the road we want to travel. It’s like leaning a ladder up against a building in order to get to the roof, but only stepping on and off the first rung. We go forth and take the first step up, but then something happens and we step back down again to take care of it. Maybe we want to help someone else get something done, or hear something we want to clarify, or remember something we forgot. Back and forth we go, all the while staying busy but going nowhere. We can convince ourselves that because we are moving we are going forward but that isn’t always true. As long we let other things keep us from our goal, we’ll never get past the first rung.

There are a lot of reasons we lose our focus. Sometimes it’s because we aren’t sure we can accomplish the goal we’ve set. We want to, but may feel timid or afraid it might be too hard. We might make plans to go forward and even begin, but because we aren’t really sure we will succeed, are easily distracted and pulled away. We are naturally drawn to situations that make us feel comfortable. If the goal we want is stretching our abilities and we aren’t sure we can move forward, the discomfort of the unknown may move us toward something else. But we can be confident in any decision we make. We are certainly capable of doing anything we really want to do. We can be convinced we will succeed, and when we are, we will move forward. We can take the first step, and then the next, and the next, until we reach our goal.

They say timing is everything, and in a lot of situations that’s true. Sometimes we get stuck going back and forth and not moving forward because our lives aren’t in a place where we’re able to make the changes necessary. If we’re trying to change too much and it’s causing turmoil we can re-think our plan. We can look at the situation again, and determine if we need to wait. If we do, we can decide when we’ll try again, and set the goal aside for now. It doesn’t mean we’re giving up. It means we’re re-tooling to begin again later. We don’t have to accomplish everything today. There is time to get there, and when we’re ready and can successfully move forward, we will. There is no goal beyond our reach. With the proper planning and determination, we can accomplish anything.

Today if you’re frustrated because you haven’t moved forward with a goal you’re trying to achieve, take a look at all the parameters. Is this the best time to move forward? If it is, focus your eyes on the destination and do what is needed to get there. If you need to wait, think about when you can re-visit your plans and start again. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You are more capable than you realize. You can conquer anything. Make a plan that will work and take a step forward. The goal is within your reach. You will achieve it.