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Pushing Back

30 Oct

We’re all different and our opinions and beliefs are unique to our own personal experiences. We will not always agree with those around us, and there may be times when we face backlash because we won’t go along. Some people are uncomfortable accepting ideas and opinions that are different from their own. They prefer to have everyone in agreement and going the same way as they are. But it’s naive to believe we will all be on the same page in everything. We are designed to make our own decisions and find our own paths. The world is filled with differences that enable us to explore new ways of thinking and fresh viewpoints that enlighten us and broaden our understanding. We never need to conform if we want something different. If others try to push us into molds they desire, we can push back. We don’t have to fight or struggle but can simply state our position and then go forward embracing it as we choose. The world is filled with unlimited ideas and possibilities. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we desire. We can go along with others if that suits us, or we can forge our own path in a new direction. There is great satisfaction and confidence when we live our lives genuinely, choosing each step we take. We are the only ones who can impact the world with the gifts we offer. We can be our true selves and clearly express our own individuality. Every road is possible and we can go anywhere and do anything we want.

There are all kinds or popular ideas and trends going on all the time. Often, they are only momentary infatuations and what was all the rage just a few months ago is long gone now. When something is intensely popular we may feel compelled to embrace it because of those around us even if we don’t really like it. It’s fine to go along with inconsequential ideas and trends if that’s what we want to do but we can always step back and remain true to ourselves even if we’re different. There is great value in our own expressions and we add depth and richness to the world around us simply by being who we are.

We may be in a situation where others want to do something we don’t care to participate in. We’re entitled to our own views and decisions and never need to do anything we don’t want to do. If we’re pressured and cajoled to go along we may certainly acquiesce if we choose to. Or we may gently and politely push back and decide to go another way. We always have control over our own lives and can decide what we’ll do at every moment. We know who we are and what we want, and moving forward with confidence and clarity will bring us the success we desire.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you don’t want to do, remember your life is yours to design. You can live it your way. Choose the path you will travel and keep your eyes on the goal. You are powerful and strong and can go anywhere you choose. Every destination is possible. Live your life your own way and you’ll find great happiness and satisfaction.

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Out in the Cold

9 Oct

The friendships and relationships we build as we go through our lives give us great comfort and a sense of belonging. It’s wonderful when we are part of a community, and when we have close connections to those around us we feel validated and supported. But we may face a time when we choose something different than what those around us think we should do. We may take a different road or start a new journey that takes us away from where we are and those we love. As we step forward, if our current companions stay in place, the distance between us will stretch and if we don’t hold onto to our connections we may become separated. We can always make any changes we like and go anywhere we want to go but sometimes if those we love don’t choose to go with us, although we are happy with our decision, we may feel left out in the cold alone. We are certainly capable of finding our way forward in any endeavor and have all the resources and courage we need to go anywhere we choose. But even if we’re happy with the choices we’re making, being alone can be unsettling for a time and we may question our decisions. Although it’s nice to have concurrence when we choose a new path and it’s fun to have our friends with us, there may be times when what we want must be accomplished on our own, all by ourselves. In those situations, we can be confident in our choices and trust that we have everything we need to succeed. We know what we want and are capable of doing whatever is needed to reach happiness and success.

There may be great power in a group situation. When several people join together in a common cause they may overcome great obstacles and find many answers. Although there are many benefits to working as a team, there will be times in our lives when what we want to do must be done alone. We are always free to choose the direction of our lives. Sometimes that may be what everyone else is doing, but other times the road we choose is set apart from those around us. We can take any path to any destination at any time. If we must go alone, we can. Every destination is possible and we can travel anywhere we desire.

Every choice and decision is ours to make. If we like, we can have the lives others design for us and follow any direction we’re given. But if we want complete happiness and satisfaction we must choose our own path. Nobody knows what we want better than we know ourselves. We can be confident in our decisions even if they differ from those around us. We know where we want to go and what we want to accomplish. Life is a great blessing and we don’t need the agreement of anyone to create the lives we want the most. Every destination is possible and every dream can come true.

Today if you’ve decided to turn away from the path you’ve been traveling and there is opposition around you, remember your life is yours to design. You can do anything you like. If you must travel alone, you will find your way. All options are possible and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Step forward and create the life you want the most. Every dream is possible and you can make them all come true.

Shape Shifter

1 Oct

There are endless possible expressions we can adopt in our lives.  We’re exposed to all kinds of people doing all kinds of things all the time.  It’s like shopping in a huge, diverse shopping mall with unlimited variations to every situation we could imagine.  There are many types of behaviors and interpretations, and when we come across something we like we can make it our own.  We can create any type of life we desire, fit into a group we admire, adjust our appearance to look like those we want to emulate and make any other changes we want at any time.  It’s possible to project any image we like even if it doesn’t represent ourselves accurately.  Modifying to fit in or go along so we can get something we desire is always an option.  We can live any way we choose and pretending to be something we’re not may get us where we want to go at first but being authentic about who we are is the only option that will bring us lasting happiness.  Shapeshifting to match those around us will only make us more like others.  It will never clarify our most personal desires or help us find our unique way forward.  We aren’t like anyone else in the world and are the only ones who can share our personal expressions and gifts.  If we choose to set our individuality aside in an effort to blend in, the world will never know all the blessings we might bring.  Our individual worth is priceless and everything we do brings something new to the world.  We don’t have to change who we are to find success.  We are valuable as we are and can be confident, even if we’re different, that our input and interactions will bring benefit and joy to those around us.

It’s often easier to get along as a group if everyone is the same but if we’re all exactly the same there will be nothing new to learn.  There are unlimited expressions and interpretations possible and being willing to explore them, listen to them, and embrace them will bring great depth and understanding to our lives.  The world is filled with differences and each person has something important to offer.  We don’t have to be the same as everyone else to be valued.  We can be ourselves and trust that we are not only good enough, but excellent and an important part of the world around us.

When we want to do things differently than those around us, we may keep our opinions to ourselves in an effort to prevent disharmony.  We can hold our cards close to the chest for as long as we like but eventually our differences will show.  When they do, if we’re challenged, we may confidently express our viewpoints and move forward even if we’re in opposition.  Our lives are ours to design and we may live them any way we choose.  We never need to become someone we aren’t and are entitled to our individuality and independence.  Variety brings refreshment and wonderment, and we can be exactly who we are and move forward with confidence.

Today if you’ve been shapeshifting in an effort to blend in, remember your personal uniqueness brings great value to those around you.  Be confident and be yourself.  Show us who you really are and share your unique individuality.  The gifts you bring are yours alone to give and the world is blessed because you are here.

One Drop

26 Sep

The world is a huge place with billions of people.  We could spend our whole lives traveling from place to place and still not see it all.  Unless we’re hermits living in a cave all alone in the middle of a huge desert we will be among other people.  Whether we live in a big city or a small town, they will be around us all the time.  It can be hard to feel significant and noticed if there are many others coming and going.  We may feel lost in the shuffle and completely ignored.  Our personal wants and needs may seem unimportant when compared to the world at large.  It’s like we’re just one drop in an ocean of water.  One drop isn’t much and we may believe it doesn’t count but one drop can mean the difference between filling a glass and over flowing it.  Every single person adds value and meaning to our life experience.  Even if we’re timid and quiet, or try our best to blend in, our presence will make a difference.  There is no way to exist in the world without impacting the environment around us.  We touch everyone we come in contact with in some way and alter their life experience simply because we are there.  We are relevant to the overall landscape around us and an integral part of the story playing out.  Our influence may be more far reaching than we realize and what we bring to every situation colors how things play out.  Our individuality and personal expression bring depth to our surroundings.  We are unique, valuable and essential, and each step we take and each interaction we share brings our personal light and brilliance to the world.

One drop of oil will always rise even if it’s dropped into a huge tank of water.  Nothing can make it disappear or blend.  It will always be different and obvious, and will alter the surface of the water.  We are all different and our influence will always change our environment in some way.  We may look the same on the outside, dress the same, even speak the same way, but we are unique and our ideas and interpretations are ours alone.  Nothing can make us invisible and our perspectives are valuable and needed.  We will always matter in every situation even if our voice is silent.  There isn’t now, nor has there ever been, anyone else exactly like us.  By remembering our personal worth and understanding our influence in the world around us, we can be confident and become the people we most want to be.

Every word we speak touches someone, and every act of kindness we do changes the world for the better.  We are integral to every situation and our influence is valuable and important.  Like that drop of oil floating on the surface, our presence makes a difference.  Nothing could ever take our place.  We are critical to the experience of those around us and the world is better because we are here.

Today if you feel invisible, and that nothing you do seems to matter, remember you are precious and important.  There isn’t anyone in the entire creation exactly like you.  The gifts you bring are yours alone to present.  You bring your unique flavor and we need you here.  Remember your worth.  Be confident.  You’re like a priceless gem shining light on all of us and nothing can take your place.

Thick Skin

12 Sep

We’re all different and everyone experiences the world in different ways.  The things that affect some of us deeply are hardly noticed by others.  We’re all unique in our expressions and interpretations and if we’re highly emotional we may feel developments more acutely than someone who is more pragmatic.  There is no wrong way to see the world but if we don’t feel strong or capable of managing whatever is happening, we may cave in and become overwhelmed.  Everyone has moments when they aren’t sure about what to do or don’t feel strong enough to face a particular issue.  It’s normal to feel overwhelmed at times but we need not let that paralyze us.  Lots of things will happen as we go through our lives and some of them may be quite intense.  If we allow the situation to control us we may fall down and struggle to regain our footing.  There really isn’t anything too powerful for us to manage.  Even if we’re shocked and have the wind knocked out of us for a moment, we have the power to engage our reasoning and stand firm.  Life can be complicated and sometimes things will go wrong – perhaps very wrong.  We can face whatever comes and hold fast knowing we will overcome.  We are stronger and more resilient than we realize and nothing is strong enough to hold us down.  Every answer we need is there for us and we can trust in our ability to do whatever we must to move forward.  We can be confident and courageous when trials come and trust we will prevail.  Nothing can keep us from success.  We can always win.

Sometimes the very thing we think we could never endure actually happens to us.  We may have imagined we aren’t strong enough to survive a serious setback.  We may do everything in our power to prevent things from going wrong, but we only have control over ourselves and there are lots of decisions being made we know nothing about.  If the bottom falls out of our plans and everything falls apart we don’t need to fall apart with it.  We can face any storm and push through.  Disappointments will come but no matter what goes wrong we have everything we need to get through.  We are powerful and strong, and nothing can stop us.

We can do everything in our power to avoid conflict, stay out of trouble, and keep the peace, and still problems will arise.  It’s the nature of life.  There will always be differences and opposition no matter what we’re doing.  Trying to stay away from it might work for a time but eventually we’ll go through trying times that are difficult to navigate.  We may get confused, feel unsure, and struggle to figure out what to do next but if we keep pushing forward we will prevail.  Everything we need to succeed is there for us.  We need only trust ourselves to find it and continue forward.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with an issue you don’t think you can manage, stand strong.  You are wiser and more capable than you realize and nothing is too difficult for you to understand and manage.  Every answer you need is already there for you.  Be confident and trust yourself.  Nothing can keep you from success.

Back to the Beginning

15 Jun

Life can be complicated and there are all kinds of things that can happen or change in a second.  We can’t see beyond where we are and may be surprised by an unexpected development, a difficult complication, or trouble we couldn’t have anticipated.  Like dark clouds moving in before a storm, sometimes it seems things change from bad to worse and we are left confused and wondering what happened and where everything went wrong.  Sometimes the decisions of others we know nothing about impact our lives dramatically.  Sometimes one wrong turn takes us far off course, and other times the bottom simply falls out of our plans.  When things get jumbled up and we have to push through tangles and trials we may feel overwhelmed about what to do next.  We may feel beset and unprepared for the situation and unsure about the way forward.  Everything generally works out in the end but while we’re getting through the mists of uncertainty we may lose our footing. When we get knotted up and twisted around in turmoil or confusion it’s important to remember that what happens on the outside need not disrupt what’s happening inside us.  In times of stress and indecision we can go back to the beginning, center on our personal strengths and find respite and calm.  We have everything we need to manage anything no matter how convoluted or difficult.  We know who we are and can trust in our ability to move forward with confidence and clarity.  There isn’t anything so confusing we can’t figure it out.  All destinations are possible and we can accomplish anything we desire.  Going back to the beginning, and remembering our personal strength and wisdom will help us move ahead and find success.

It’s easy to get caught up in situations that are filled with conflict and emotion. We all have our own ideas about how things should go and what is right.  We don’t have to push others into agreement to find a workable solution.  Compromise is always possible and we can allow differing viewpoints to enter the equation.  Bending to find a solution doesn’t require us to give up our position.  We can work together and still hold onto the viewpoints we value most.

Problems and trouble are a part of life.  There will be few periods when everything goes exactly as planned.  Often there will be some disagreement or our expectations will not be fully met.  Looking at the big picture going forward will allow us to shake off minor setbacks we may face and continue with confidence.  We are stronger and more capable than we realize and we know how to move forward toward success.  We can trust ourselves to do anything and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’re surrounded by trouble and it seems nothing is working the way you want it to, step back and remember how strong and wise you are.  Trust in your ability to understand any complication and move forward with confidence.  You have everything you need to do anything you want.  Step forward and embrace the challenge.  Success is just ahead and you will achieve it.

The Spots

14 Jun

There are all kinds of people in the world and we run into different types of personalities and behaviors every day. We like to be around people who share our viewpoints and interpretations but sometimes we may be attracted to someone who is very different. When we connect with them we may be interested in their differences at first but as time goes by we may want them to change to be more like us or in some way we think would be better for them. If we really want someone to change we may believe that with enough influence from us, they will. A leopard has spots that have evolved over time that make it unique and distinguishable. They don’t look like any other animal, nor do they try to imitate anything but what they are. We aren’t leopards but like their spots, we are unique and distinguishable by our behaviors and choices. Our personalities develop with each day that passes and every decision we make. We ultimately become the people we create. We can change anything we like at any time but it’s highly unlikely anyone else will be successful in making us change anything we haven’t chosen for ourselves. We are all responsible for our own lives. No matter how much we may want someone else to change, no matter how good our intentions are or positive the desired change may be, we can’t alter their spots. They belong solely to them and they are the only ones with the power to change them.

It’s easy to keep doing things the same way and changing course or expression takes work but we can alter our course any way we desire. We are all continually in motion and if we want to change something in our lives or behaviors, we have all the power we need to accomplish the task. The catch is we must be motivated enough to do whatever is needed and required to bring about the adjustment. It may not be easy and what we’re trying to do may take serious time and focus to accomplish. But if we’re determined there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can change our spots and direction, and more effectively find success.

Change must always come from within. If we love someone and want them to shift something in their lives we may suggest it to them. If they are reticent, we may cajole them, pester them, or continually nag them thinking that repeated reminders will make them desire the change. We can talk until we’re blue in the face and run out of air but we cannot make them choose our decisions. Our lives belong solely to each of us and every choice is ours to make. No matter what anyone else thinks, we will be the people we choose to be. It is enough to manage our own choices. We can let go and let others determine their own paths and accept their right to live their lives according to their own desires.

Today if you’ve been trying to change someone else thinking you can help them live more fully or happily, let go and focus on your own choices. We are all unique and valuable in our own way and deserve to express ourselves as individuals. You are wise and capable and can create the life you want the most. Focus on your own path and choose the best way forward. Find your own success and great happiness will follow.