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Prove It

18 May

There are billions of people on Earth, and we’re all different. There are endless types of lifestyles, customs, languages, traditions and other facets that define who and where we are. People who live far apart from each other may have completely different ideas about life and how things should go. There isn’t only one way to live well, and the many expressions possible make up the human race. We are all valuable and worthwhile. We all have something to offer no matter our circumstance or situation. Some people have very defined ideas about the way things should be done and how things should work. If we must interact with them, they may require us to prove we are worthy by doing what they say and following their rules. We can define anything we like for our own personal lives, and can create rules of order for business or other projects, but we don’t have the right to tell anyone else how to live. We are all individuals and do not need to conform to anyone else’s ideas. We never have to prove our worth in order to fit in. We know who we are and what we want, and with confidence and clarity can go anywhere and do anything. Our lives are ours to design, and we all bring great depth and blessing to the world. We are unique and have specific gifts to offer nobody else can give. By honoring all the differences and contributions possible, our lives will be enriched and embellished, and we will find great satisfaction and personal reward.

It’s always easy to move forward when everyone is on the same page and going in the same direction. When the goal is defined and everyone is in agreement about how to reach it, the road ahead may be clear and unobstructed. But we’re all different and have our own ideas about how to proceed. By taking the time to listen to every suggestion and look at all the options possible, we can include everyone’s ideas and still find the best road ahead. We all have much to offer, and valuing every point of view will help bring agreement and success.

There is an old saying that “Rank has its privileges.” Oftentimes that’s true. The president of the company will likely have more influence than a newly hired clerk. But that doesn’t mean he or she has all the answers. Our perspectives are colored by our own personal experiences, and someone else may have a different view that opens up a completely new way of proceeding that will bring great accomplishment and success. We can be open to new ideas, no matter how foreign they may seem, and find the best answers for moving ahead.

Today if you’re being pressured to follow along when you disagree, speak up and share your ideas with those around you. You are amazing and highly capable and can figure out even the most complex issues. Stand strong and be open to every idea. All the answers are there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every dream is possible. Be confident, and you will prevail.

Remembering Again

15 Feb

Life can be complicated and we’re often busy taking care of all the details necessary to keep everything running smoothly. There can be a lot going on and sometimes if we’re so focused on getting things done and moving on to the next task, we may lose sight of the big picture. As we go through our experiences we learn new things, what works, what hurts, what stops our progress and a million other things. The lessons we gain give us insight and understanding that help us as we continue on and open new doors ahead. But life is busy and it’s possible to forget even an important lesson while we try to untangle today’s issues, and get ready for tomorrow’s. Someone may say something that reminds us of some mistake we made in the past, and we quickly remember what didn’t work and change course before we repeat a bad experience. There are reminders all around us of where we’ve been and what we’ve done already. If we’re so busy we don’t notice them, it’s possible we’ll travel down the same road that brought disaster once before and get to do it all over again. We date different people but they all have the same abusive personality, we repeat the same lack of judgement at work that creates stress and difficulty, or other things we’ve already proven do not work but neglect to change. We’re in complete control of every decision we make and there is no way to escape accountability for every action. There is nothing to be gained from lessons we choose to forget. Learning from our mistakes and using that knowledge to adjust our course moving forward will help us find happiness and reach success. We can do anything we want and have the lives we most desire by learning everything possible as we move ahead. Every destination is possible and with clarity and focus, nothing can keep us from anything we want.

Back when records were used to record music, sometimes there would be a nick in the disc creating a skip, and the music would repeat the same phrase over and over again. If we refuse to learn from our mistakes, our lives may be like that. We may repeat the same bad decisions over and over again. Repeating a bad mistake doesn’t make it better. We deserve complete happiness, and by remembering what we’ve learned along the way and applying it to what we’re doing now, we can achieve it. Everything is there for us. We just need to do what is needed to make it ours.

Traditions and routines are very powerful. There is nothing wrong with having a predictable life, but doing the same things can only bring the same results. If what we’re doing isn’t making us happy, we can change. We don’t have to stay in any relationship that doesn’t work, or keep a job that makes us crazy. There are always many options possible and we have everything we need to do anything we like. Every blessing is there for us, and with determination and patience, we can make them ours.

Today if you’re doing something that isn’t making you happy, think about what you really want. You are in control of your life and can design it any way you like. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step forward. There is great happiness just ahead and you will reach it.

Labels and Names

10 Feb

There are billions of people on the earth. They all look different, have different customs, their lives are varied and there are endless interpretations of every aspect of life. We’re all unique and are entitled to our own opinions and ideas. We can do anything we like, and if we meet someone who is very different than we are, and don’t understand them, we may assign a label to them, or lump them into a group. We may call them any of a thousand different things we think describes them according to our own ideas and impressions. Labeling people generally does nothing good. Putting people in boxes restricts them and may change how we think of them and how they respond to us. Being called a name may be flattering or it can be uncomplimentary and degrading. We are all people sharing the planet. We don’t need everyone to think like us, or look like us or follow the same beliefs and standards we set for ourselves. By honoring other viewpoints and listening to different perceptions, we’ll be enriched and learn more about ourselves and those around us. Nobody only wears one color all the time, or eats the same foods every day. Differences are important and bring great depth and variety to our lives. By understanding those around us and sharing our lives with them, we will find great satisfaction and wisdom moving forward.

When we’re in a group, it’s a lot easier if everyone is on the same page. If we’re all focused on accomplishing the same goals and agree on how that should be done, things may go more smoothly than if everyone wants to do things their own way. Different ideas and ways of doing things can either bring complications or embellishment to group dynamics, depending on how we view them. If we’re open to hearing various ways of doing things, and trying another way forward, new ideas will form that may completely change our perspective.

Right is right and wrong is wrong – we can all agree on that. But one person’s idea of what is right may not agree with someone else’s. Being different doesn’t mean being wrong. If nobody is getting hurt, and it’s just a matter of interpretation, all ideas are worthwhile. If we’ve always done things a certain way it can be hard to adjust if someone comes along and turns everything upside down. By being flexible and willing to bend in a new direction, we will learn new ideas and find great success.

Today if you have labeled someone because of their personal characteristics, think again. Remember the great blessing and enrichment differences can bring. Listen to alternative viewpoints, and try to understand the situation from another perspective. You are very intelligent and wise. Be open to contrasting ideas and your life will be enriched. Everyone is valuable and there is great success ahead for us all.

Dismissed

13 Dec

Everyone is unique, and there are endless ideas, expressions, interpretations, and beliefs.  We can design our lives any way we like, but we have no control over what others choose or what they do. It’s good to be polite and accepting of different viewpoints and decisions, and there is great richness to be gained by including those who are different than we are.  There is unlimited variety in all things, and we don’t all have to travel the same roads to reach success.  Although many of us understand and accept differences, some people are very sure their way is the only right way and will not tolerate anything else. They may demean others who choose a different path, criticize lifestyles and decisions, and lord over those who are too timid to stand up to their demands.  Being confident is one thing – being dictatorial and oppressive is something else.  Dismissing others who have a different viewpoint, calling them names, or isolating them will never bring anything positive.  Nobody alive has all the answers.  The smartest people on earth don’t know everything. We can do anything we like, go anywhere we want, and adopt any philosophy or belief we desire.  Every decision involving our lives is up to us, but that’s where it ends.  We have no authority to design anyone else’s life.  Everyone has the right to choose their own journey, regardless of what others think.  Being different does not mean being less.  We can be confident and sure of everything we choose, and allow others the same freedom.  By walking side by side, instead of forcing everyone to follow us, we will learn more about ourselves and the world around us.  There is greatness in us all.  By sharing our very best with those around us, we will embellish everyone.

Some people talk a lot about diversity and inclusion.  They expound on how important it is to accept others, but when someone has a different viewpoint from theirs, their ideas of acceptance sometimes fall away, and criticism and ridicule take their place. There is no way to be inclusive of others and then target those who don’t conform and exclude them from the conversation.  We don’t all have to agree to have value.  We’re valuable just as we are.  We can accept differences, even when we don’t like them.  By extending the hand of friendship, despite disagreements, we will make many great connections and build strong relationships.

Politics can be a contentious issue.  Some feel very strongly about their specific point of view and although they may say they are for including others, if someone is on the opposite side of the political aisle, they may dismiss them or worse.  Differences are a part of normal life, and we’re all entitled to our own opinions, no matter what others think.  By understanding we all have worth, and every idea is valuable, we can be cooperative and supportive despite disagreement.  We have so much to offer and being kind and welcoming will help us bring great light to the world. 

Today if you’re dismissing someone because their ideas don’t make sense to you, stop and think again.  Different viewpoints bring great depth and richness to our experience.  Step forward and listen to every viewpoint.  Everyone has a unique gift to offer.  Honor differences even when you don’t like them, and be open to everyone. You are such a great blessing to the world.  Give us your best, and we’ll all succeed. 

Creating A Label

8 Dec

The world is filled with different people, different ideas, different choices and endless variety.  No two people are exactly the same and what one values, another may not even consider.  There is no one right way to live life.  We all get to decide what we want and who we will be.  Our expressions are unique to each of us, and we all offer specific gifts nobody else could give.  It can be hard to accept an idea that is far from what we understand.  It’s hard to wrap our heads around the complete opposite of what we believe.  But everyone is entitled to their own viewpoints and their own decisions.  Nobody needs permission or agreement to live any way they like.  Some people believe their way of doing things is the only right way.  They may label other people’s choices as stupid or wrong, or call them names because they are different and do not comply with their own ideas.  They may cruelly mimic the way they speak, or walk, or act.  Everyone is different and that will never change. Degrading someone or criticizing them because they believe differently or aren’t like us will only bring darkness and pain. We’re all valuable.  We’re all important, and we all count.  By choosing to be open and accepting, and honoring everyone’s right to choose whatever they like, we will bring great richness and depth to our lives.  We have so much to offer.  We can share who we are, and allow others to share themselves with us.  Life is an incredible blessing and with wisdom and honor, we can live it well, and make the most of it.

There are a lot of people with loud voices and big megaphones. He hear them on the news, we read about them, and they are insistent in their positions and opinions. Opinions are great, but they are only important to those who hold them.  Nobody’s thoughts or ideas are more valuable than anyone else’s.  We all have great worth, and so much to share.  Being loud is not the same as being right.  It’s just sound.  We can decide what is right for us and choose our own way, even if it doesn’t align with those around us.  

We hear all kinds of labels that are derogatory and critical.  They signify different groups of people, different genders, age groups etc.  Nothing good ever comes from using offensive labels to describe anyone. We can have our own opinions and should stand up for what we think is right, but degrading those who disagree will never move us forward.  Our lives are ours to design.  We can choose harmony, respect and grace, and when we do we’ll gain peace and increased happiness.

Today if you’ve been criticizing someone or some group because they are different and don’t hold the same values as you, stop and think again.  We’re all in this together and we’re all important. Hold fast to your beliefs, and honor those who choose a different path.  Be kind and welcoming, and your life will be blessed.  You can bring great light and joy to the world.  Choose the best road forward, and every success will be yours.