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Smackdown

14 Sep

We share the world with lots and lots of other people, and each of us has our own ideas about what we should do and how things should go. We may find others who share many of our opinions, but no two people are exactly the same. Although we may try to always get along with those around us, we will likely face times of conflict because we don’t share the same viewpoints. If the interaction is civil and polite, we may simply agree to disagree, but some people are very sure their way is the only correct way to proceed. If we don’t agree with them, we may face serious contention, and even become engaged in an argument or worse. If they are strong and have some sort of control over us, and will not tolerate dissent, they may smack us down to shut us up and hold us in place. We may be forced to follow along despite our personal views. Others may be able to hold us down for a time, but nothing is permanent, and the situation will change. If there’s nothing we can do for now, we can remain in place and wait patiently until a new door opens. We are entitled to our own opinions and can live our lives any way we like, and it’s hard if we must temporarily follow something we don’t agree with. By keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will be ready when an opening appears that allows us to modify our situation. Our ideas and perspectives are important and valuable, and we can trust ourselves to find ways to communicate them in ways that are positive and move us forward. There isn’t anything or anyone powerful enough to hold us down forever, and with clarity and patience, we will find the way ahead.

If we’re sure we have the answers and know the best way forward, we may try to convince others to follow us. We may say we respect their opinions but if they are different than our own, we may try persuade them to follow us. If they disagree, and we’re adamant, we may try whatever tactics we can find to make them comply. What we do defines who we are, and bullying or forcing others to follow us will never help us build the connections we seek. If we’re willing to bend and listen to other viewpoints, cooperation and compromise will open the doors ahead.

There are many roads to every goal and there is never only one way to succeed. Everyone’s ideas are worthwhile, and by listening to other suggestions, we can find the best way forward. New ideas bring fresh perspectives that may not have been seen initially. We are intelligent and will always have a lot of answers but nobody knows everything. By being open and flexible, we will be able to evaluate many different possibilities that enable us to move ahead with confidence and clarity, and reach the goal.

Today remember that everyone has something to offer. The world is filled with differences that enrich us and enhance the road ahead. Listen carefully to any suggestions you receive and decide on the best way forward. You are amazing and intelligent, and nothing is out of reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step. Every single goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success. 

The Ending

2 Aug

Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes things go well and we sail through happy and content. It’s enjoyable when everything fits into place and we’re moving forward, but change is constant and nothing stays the same forever. We’ll all face times of hardship, trials and trouble. There is no way to know what will come tomorrow and our best plans may disintegrate and fall apart in a moment. Everyone has an idea of how they want their life to go and nobody plans on disasters and detours. We can’t see them until they arrive and when they do, our lives may be upended and confused until we figure out what’s going on and how to proceed. If we’re facing an extremely difficult situation that has us gripped in despair and worry, we may think this is the end. There is no way to survive. But that will never be true. We may struggle mightily, and we may be sure we’ll be overcome, but we have more strength and courage than we think we have. When we’re pushed to our limit we will always be able to stretch further and find the answers we need. The ending isn’t here yet. We will prevail and get through. We have already overcome many difficult challenges and have everything we need to manage whatever comes. By trusting ourselves and looking ahead, we can continue forward toward success.

If we’ve been trying to break away from something we want to change and don’t want in our lives, we may try hard to let it go. Some changes are hard to accomplish and if we’ve been trying for a long time and are still struggling, we may believe we will never win and may as well give up. It’s hard to overcome very serious issues, but just because it’s difficult doesn’t mean it’s impossible. We don’t have to do it all today. We don’t have to do everything perfectly. We can take things one step at a time, and focus on the road ahead and what we want the most. One step doesn’t seem like much, but if we take one step toward the goal every day, we will move closer to success. If we persist and keep our eyes focused ahead, we will prevail.

Sometimes it seems like everyone else has it easier than we do. They look happier, they have more money, they have better jobs, and a thousand other things we might believe. Despite the way things may look on the outside, nobody gets a perfect life with paved roads and rainbows. There is no such thing as fate and we are in control of our lives. We can do anything we like, and if we want something more than where we are, we have everything we need to accomplish it. By focusing on what we want the most instead of comparing ourselves to others, we can make a plan to move toward the destinations we desire and find great success.

Today if you aren’t happy where you are, think about what you want the most. The ending hasn’t been written yet and you can do anything you desire. Look at all the options possible and make a plan to move toward the destinations you want the most. You are stronger, wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and nothing is out of reach. Be sure and confident, and step forward. Every success is waiting and you will make them yours.

Prove It

18 May

There are billions of people on Earth, and we’re all different. There are endless types of lifestyles, customs, languages, traditions and other facets that define who and where we are. People who live far apart from each other may have completely different ideas about life and how things should go. There isn’t only one way to live well, and the many expressions possible make up the human race. We are all valuable and worthwhile. We all have something to offer no matter our circumstance or situation. Some people have very defined ideas about the way things should be done and how things should work. If we must interact with them, they may require us to prove we are worthy by doing what they say and following their rules. We can define anything we like for our own personal lives, and can create rules of order for business or other projects, but we don’t have the right to tell anyone else how to live. We are all individuals and do not need to conform to anyone else’s ideas. We never have to prove our worth in order to fit in. We know who we are and what we want, and with confidence and clarity can go anywhere and do anything. Our lives are ours to design, and we all bring great depth and blessing to the world. We are unique and have specific gifts to offer nobody else can give. By honoring all the differences and contributions possible, our lives will be enriched and embellished, and we will find great satisfaction and personal reward.

It’s always easy to move forward when everyone is on the same page and going in the same direction. When the goal is defined and everyone is in agreement about how to reach it, the road ahead may be clear and unobstructed. But we’re all different and have our own ideas about how to proceed. By taking the time to listen to every suggestion and look at all the options possible, we can include everyone’s ideas and still find the best road ahead. We all have much to offer, and valuing every point of view will help bring agreement and success.

There is an old saying that “Rank has its privileges.” Oftentimes that’s true. The president of the company will likely have more influence than a newly hired clerk. But that doesn’t mean he or she has all the answers. Our perspectives are colored by our own personal experiences, and someone else may have a different view that opens up a completely new way of proceeding that will bring great accomplishment and success. We can be open to new ideas, no matter how foreign they may seem, and find the best answers for moving ahead.

Today if you’re being pressured to follow along when you disagree, speak up and share your ideas with those around you. You are amazing and highly capable and can figure out even the most complex issues. Stand strong and be open to every idea. All the answers are there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every dream is possible. Be confident, and you will prevail.

Remembering Again

15 Feb

Life can be complicated and we’re often busy taking care of all the details necessary to keep everything running smoothly. There can be a lot going on and sometimes if we’re so focused on getting things done and moving on to the next task, we may lose sight of the big picture. As we go through our experiences we learn new things, what works, what hurts, what stops our progress and a million other things. The lessons we gain give us insight and understanding that help us as we continue on and open new doors ahead. But life is busy and it’s possible to forget even an important lesson while we try to untangle today’s issues, and get ready for tomorrow’s. Someone may say something that reminds us of some mistake we made in the past, and we quickly remember what didn’t work and change course before we repeat a bad experience. There are reminders all around us of where we’ve been and what we’ve done already. If we’re so busy we don’t notice them, it’s possible we’ll travel down the same road that brought disaster once before and get to do it all over again. We date different people but they all have the same abusive personality, we repeat the same lack of judgement at work that creates stress and difficulty, or other things we’ve already proven do not work but neglect to change. We’re in complete control of every decision we make and there is no way to escape accountability for every action. There is nothing to be gained from lessons we choose to forget. Learning from our mistakes and using that knowledge to adjust our course moving forward will help us find happiness and reach success. We can do anything we want and have the lives we most desire by learning everything possible as we move ahead. Every destination is possible and with clarity and focus, nothing can keep us from anything we want.

Back when records were used to record music, sometimes there would be a nick in the disc creating a skip, and the music would repeat the same phrase over and over again. If we refuse to learn from our mistakes, our lives may be like that. We may repeat the same bad decisions over and over again. Repeating a bad mistake doesn’t make it better. We deserve complete happiness, and by remembering what we’ve learned along the way and applying it to what we’re doing now, we can achieve it. Everything is there for us. We just need to do what is needed to make it ours.

Traditions and routines are very powerful. There is nothing wrong with having a predictable life, but doing the same things can only bring the same results. If what we’re doing isn’t making us happy, we can change. We don’t have to stay in any relationship that doesn’t work, or keep a job that makes us crazy. There are always many options possible and we have everything we need to do anything we like. Every blessing is there for us, and with determination and patience, we can make them ours.

Today if you’re doing something that isn’t making you happy, think about what you really want. You are in control of your life and can design it any way you like. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step forward. There is great happiness just ahead and you will reach it.

Labels and Names

10 Feb

There are billions of people on the earth. They all look different, have different customs, their lives are varied and there are endless interpretations of every aspect of life. We’re all unique and are entitled to our own opinions and ideas. We can do anything we like, and if we meet someone who is very different than we are, and don’t understand them, we may assign a label to them, or lump them into a group. We may call them any of a thousand different things we think describes them according to our own ideas and impressions. Labeling people generally does nothing good. Putting people in boxes restricts them and may change how we think of them and how they respond to us. Being called a name may be flattering or it can be uncomplimentary and degrading. We are all people sharing the planet. We don’t need everyone to think like us, or look like us or follow the same beliefs and standards we set for ourselves. By honoring other viewpoints and listening to different perceptions, we’ll be enriched and learn more about ourselves and those around us. Nobody only wears one color all the time, or eats the same foods every day. Differences are important and bring great depth and variety to our lives. By understanding those around us and sharing our lives with them, we will find great satisfaction and wisdom moving forward.

When we’re in a group, it’s a lot easier if everyone is on the same page. If we’re all focused on accomplishing the same goals and agree on how that should be done, things may go more smoothly than if everyone wants to do things their own way. Different ideas and ways of doing things can either bring complications or embellishment to group dynamics, depending on how we view them. If we’re open to hearing various ways of doing things, and trying another way forward, new ideas will form that may completely change our perspective.

Right is right and wrong is wrong – we can all agree on that. But one person’s idea of what is right may not agree with someone else’s. Being different doesn’t mean being wrong. If nobody is getting hurt, and it’s just a matter of interpretation, all ideas are worthwhile. If we’ve always done things a certain way it can be hard to adjust if someone comes along and turns everything upside down. By being flexible and willing to bend in a new direction, we will learn new ideas and find great success.

Today if you have labeled someone because of their personal characteristics, think again. Remember the great blessing and enrichment differences can bring. Listen to alternative viewpoints, and try to understand the situation from another perspective. You are very intelligent and wise. Be open to contrasting ideas and your life will be enriched. Everyone is valuable and there is great success ahead for us all.