Tag Archives: Flexible

Smackdown

14 Sep

We share the world with lots and lots of other people, and each of us has our own ideas about what we should do and how things should go. We may find others who share many of our opinions, but no two people are exactly the same. Although we may try to always get along with those around us, we will likely face times of conflict because we don’t share the same viewpoints. If the interaction is civil and polite, we may simply agree to disagree, but some people are very sure their way is the only correct way to proceed. If we don’t agree with them, we may face serious contention, and even become engaged in an argument or worse. If they are strong and have some sort of control over us, and will not tolerate dissent, they may smack us down to shut us up and hold us in place. We may be forced to follow along despite our personal views. Others may be able to hold us down for a time, but nothing is permanent, and the situation will change. If there’s nothing we can do for now, we can remain in place and wait patiently until a new door opens. We are entitled to our own opinions and can live our lives any way we like, and it’s hard if we must temporarily follow something we don’t agree with. By keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will be ready when an opening appears that allows us to modify our situation. Our ideas and perspectives are important and valuable, and we can trust ourselves to find ways to communicate them in ways that are positive and move us forward. There isn’t anything or anyone powerful enough to hold us down forever, and with clarity and patience, we will find the way ahead.

If we’re sure we have the answers and know the best way forward, we may try to convince others to follow us. We may say we respect their opinions but if they are different than our own, we may try persuade them to follow us. If they disagree, and we’re adamant, we may try whatever tactics we can find to make them comply. What we do defines who we are, and bullying or forcing others to follow us will never help us build the connections we seek. If we’re willing to bend and listen to other viewpoints, cooperation and compromise will open the doors ahead.

There are many roads to every goal and there is never only one way to succeed. Everyone’s ideas are worthwhile, and by listening to other suggestions, we can find the best way forward. New ideas bring fresh perspectives that may not have been seen initially. We are intelligent and will always have a lot of answers but nobody knows everything. By being open and flexible, we will be able to evaluate many different possibilities that enable us to move ahead with confidence and clarity, and reach the goal.

Today remember that everyone has something to offer. The world is filled with differences that enrich us and enhance the road ahead. Listen carefully to any suggestions you receive and decide on the best way forward. You are amazing and intelligent, and nothing is out of reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step. Every single goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success. 

Modification

21 Nov

There are times in our lives when we may find the road we’re on isn’t taking us where we thought it would. The signs are there, we can see we aren’t moving forward, and we may end up further from the goal than when we started. It seems the logical thing to do at a time like that is to adjust our trajectory to one that takes us closer to where we want to go. However, if we are convinced the path we’ve chosen is right, and believe that if we just keep going we’ll eventually succeed, we may stay the course. We’ve probably all heard the definition of insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. It’s the same thing if we know something isn’t working but keep pushing forward thinking it will change. We may not be crazy, but the idea that continuing on the same incorrect course will magically change it into one that works isn’t logical. And it certainly won’t help us get to our destination.

When we are confident in our decisions, whatever they are, and proceed forward, we expect things to work out as planned. We foresee that we’ll get from point A to point B by using the plan we’ve created and the path we’ve chosen. If we hit a few snags at the beginning we may overlook them and continue on. If we continue to falter we may think it’s just a matter of time or working a bit harder to be successful. But eventually if we see we aren’t going anywhere, and despite working harder at the problem nothing is changing, we need to stop and reconsider. It never works to keep moving forward or pushing harder if we’re going the wrong way. We may struggle with admitting our plan isn’t working but ignoring the facts will only prevent us from gaining success. If we want to achieve the goal, and what we’re doing isn’t working, it’s time to reorganize, rethink, and make a new plan.

It’s good to be confident, and we are capable of making excellent decisions. But nobody is perfect and sometimes things don’t work out with the methods we’ve chosen. There is nothing wrong with revising our plans. If we need to, it’s wise to adjust our course and retool going forward. But if we’re so sure we’re right and choose our opinion over doing what is needed to succeed, all we’ll have in the end is our opinion. We can win if we humble ourselves enough to accept the need to change and then do what is required to make success possible. After all, success is the goal – not the process to get there.

Today if you’ve been pushing and pushing and nothing is changing or you find you’re going in the wrong direction, stop and look at the situation again. Be open to adjusting your course and the answers will come. Start again, and make changes as they are needed. You will achieve your goal and you’ll be successful. You have everything you need to win. Be flexible and you’ll get there.