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Tag Archives: Bend

High Expectations

4 Oct

Everyone has their own ideas about the best way to do things and how we should accomplish our tasks. Sometimes we may be asked to do things for those around us. If we work for them or they have some authority over us we may be compelled to agree. If not, we may decide if we want to do what’s asked, and if we do, how we will go about accomplishing it. If those who ask us have high expectations about how quickly we’ll get the task completed or specific ideas about how we’ll take care of it and we aren’t in agreement, we may feel uncomfortable. If we’re pressed get through faster than we think we can, and are sure we can’t meet the deadline they’ve set, we may feel stressed and worried about the outcome. It’s possible to be asked to get something done in an impossible time frame. If we’re not the ones completing the task and going through all the details and complications to manage it, we won’t have a complete understanding of everything required. It’s easy to make decisions about how things should be done looking in from the outside, but there is no way to know what’s really happening unless we’re involved in the process. If we’re in a situation where the expectations given don’t match the reality we’re facing we may feel great pressure to do something that may not be possible. Expectations can always be set but reality will never bend to meet them. We can be confident in our progress despite what others think we should be doing.  If we do our best to accomplish the task we can be happy even if we don’t meet the time parameters given. We can set our own expectations about what can be done and logically and wisely continue forward.

When someone says we should be able to do something, they are basing their ideas on their own experiences and personal judgement. Our personal interpretations and understanding are unique to our own experiences. What works for one person is not feasible for another. When others tell us how they think we should do something, we can listen and take from their comments anything that will help us, but how we proceed is our decision. We are smart enough to figure anything out. We can move forward using the skills we’ve learned and do what works best for us.

Everyone sees the world through their own prism of understanding. Our life experiences color our perceptions and everyone has their own ideas about what is best. We know ourselves perfectly and we know what we want in our lives. We can make decisions that will take us where we want to go, in a time frame that works for us. Our lives are ours to design and every decision is ours to make. We know who we are. Trusting our instincts and choosing the roads we want will bring us fulfillment and happiness.

Today if you’ve been trying to do the impossible because someone has asked you to, step back and look at the situation openly and objectively. You are competent and intelligent enough to discern if you need to change your plans to reach the goal. Trust yourself to find the best way forward. You are amazing and capable, and can accomplish anything you desire. Be wise and move forward with confidence.

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Don’t Look

24 Sep

When children are young they don’t yet understand how the world works or what is real.  They hide their eyes and think we can’t see them, or tell us not to look when they’re doing something they aren’t supposed to thinking we won’t know what’s happening.  Very young children believe not seeing something means it isn’t there.  Of course, as we grow and begin to understand reality we learn that just because we can’t see something doesn’t make it disappear.  What is real remains even if we don’t look at it or pretend it isn’t there.  Most of the time we accept that but if something is happening that’s hard to face we may turn away and pretend it isn’t there.  Hiding out can never change reality.  Truth exists whether we face it or not.  There will be times when the truth is painful or what we’re seeing seems unbelievable but that cannot alter what is real.  Looking away or ignoring a problem or serious development will never help us move forward.  It may be difficult at first, but we can look at every situation openly and see it exactly as it is.  We can accept even very difficult situations and then determine what we must do to navigate through them.  Hard times will come, painful situations will arise, and we may feel confused and unsure at the beginning, but if we hold tight to our confidence and trust our ability to get through whatever lies before us, we will prevail.  We can see everything as it is and find our way through.  There is nothing too difficult for us to untangle and all the answers we need will always be there for us.

There are unlimited developments that may happen to us.  What seems impossible may become our reality.  Millions of things are happening all around us that we know nothing about that may affect our lives.  We can try our best to ensure the road ahead is clear and uncomplicated, and still things will go wrong.  If we are unwilling to bend when the road turns or cannot face what is happening we’ll get stuck where we are.  What has happened cannot be changed and becomes part of our experience.  We must move forward from where we are even if that isn’t where we want to be.  Denying the truth will only hold us in place until we’re ready to accept it and move on.

If would be great if we could simply make a wish and all our dreams would come true.  But wishes aren’t reality and when things go wrong and our situation is hard to navigate even our deepest wishes won’t change anything.  We are where we are now and nothing can take us back.  Choosing to see the situation clearly as it truly is and set our wishes aside will help us find the way through.  We are stronger and more capable than we realize.  We can do anything and do it well.  Every challenge brings us more strength and understanding, and helps us learn new skills to take forward.

Today if your situation has changed and you’re somewhere you never wanted to go, if you’re confused about what to do next and feel unsure, trust yourself.  You’ve faced many challenges already and prevailed.  You have everything you need to move ahead successfully.  Be confident.  All the answers are there for you.  Step forward and the road will open.  Every dream is still possible and you will find the way.

Passing Chances

29 Jun

There are endless opportunities available to us as we go through our lives.  When we choose a path we want to pursue and work to push forward we often find success.  There isn’t anything we can’t do but we only have control over our own choices.  Other people may do things that hold us up, situations may develop that prevent us from moving forward, and an endless array of complications may arise that keep us from our goal.  There is always a chance of success no matter what we’re seeking but our lives are complex and sometimes things get in the way.  The door we must walk through to succeed may be blocked or crowded or locked in a way we can’t overcome.  There may be times when the chance to move forward passes us by and we must wait until the opportunity arrives again.  If everything we wanted to accomplish was completely in our control nothing would be impossible.  But in the real world control is mostly an illusion and except for the choices we make ourselves, all bets are off.  It’s disappointing to want something badly and be prevented from achieving it because of factors beyond our reach.  Our desire may be sufficient and our willingness to do what is needed may be intense but if we aren’t the only ones playing the game we may have to sit this round out and wait until things change.  Change is the only constant we can rely on.  Life continually evolves and whatever was in our way in the past will eventually move aside and we’ll be able to reach the goals we desire.  We have everything we need to accomplish anything.  Being willing to wait when we must and start again when the time is right will ensure our success.

Our decisions are ours alone and we can choose anything we desire at any time.  We don’t need the agreement of others as we design our lives but if they work against us, despite our strong desire to succeed, we may have to modify our direction for a time.  There is no reason to indefinitely push against strong winds of dissent.  We don’t have to change our focus but if we can’t move ahead we can step aside and wait until the situation improves.  Sometimes the difference between success and failure is only timing.  We can look at each situation objectively and determine the best way forward.

Some situations only come around once in our lives.  They are rare but when they happen if we can’t embrace them when they are possible we may have to leave them behind.  There is no one right way to live life.  If we miss the chance to move forward on one road there will always be another to travel.  We can be flexible and accept change as it happens.  If we must redirect our course, we can find the best way forward.  Learning to bend and modify our plans when necessary will help us continue on the roads we most want to travel and ensure we’ll reach success.

Today if you’ve missed the chance to do something you wanted because of situations beyond your control, look ahead and choose the next road that will move you forward.  You are creative and wise and nothing is beyond your understanding.  Success is still possible and with time and patience you’ll reach it.

 

Cold Wind

10 Oct

Life is filled with unexpected experiences. Sometimes there are surprises that suddenly and swiftly change our focus or direction. If the turn is beneficial we may be happy things changed but sometimes what comes isn’t what we want and we may stumble as we try to find our footing. If we experience something very upsetting we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. We can only control what we do. The rest is like a game of chance. Maybe things will go the way we plan and maybe they won’t. When they don’t and the result is difficult we may struggle to push ahead. We may feel like a cold wind has consumed us and we are frozen in place. It can be hard to discern what to do next and we may need time to recover before we can chart our way forward. We may feel lost and unsure, as though our whole world has tilted away from us and we are alone and adrift, unable to recognize any landmarks to guide us. No matter what has happened or how devastating the change may be, we are still in control of our lives. No matter how much things shift we still know who we are and can be confident that we will succeed. Even if the challenge is extreme, even if we are in disbelief and must stand still for a moment, we have everything we need to start again. There is nothing we can’t overcome. No pain, no matter how intense, can last forever. The fog will lift, the winds will cease, and we will move forward. Trials can only test our strength. They can never stop us. We have everything we need to do anything we choose. We can change our direction and begin again.

If we have the air knocked out of us, we can bend over for a moment and wait for it to return. It will always return and we will recover. The same is true when we face very difficult unexpected developments. When things change suddenly we may need to stop, bend a little and wait. There is always plenty of air around us and we will find the way to breathe again and move forward

There are endless options available to us all the time. There is no one single way to live our lives. We have limitless choices we can make and infinite directions we can travel. No destination is ever too far or too difficult for us to reach. If we face an unexpected hill we cannot climb, we can reroute our course. If there is a sudden roadblock in our way, we can go around it. There isn’t anything we can’t comprehend and nothing is powerful enough to stop us. Difficulties may come, but we have everything we need to manage them. We are strong and powerful, and completely capable of finding success.

Today if something has happened that has suddenly changed everything, take a moment to see the situation clearly. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to understand and you will find your way forward. Your life belongs to you alone and you are in control. Decide what you want and then begin again. There isn’t anything out of reach. You are powerful and strong, and nothing will stop you. Be confident. You are amazing, and every success is waiting for you.

Bending

17 Jul

Patience is a beneficial virtue to acquire. If we learn to be patient, we can often understand things more easily, and prevent conflict by listening, and waiting for answers instead of pushing. Being patient is a gift to those we interact with. When we’re patient, others learn they can trust us to listen, and not jump to conclusions ahead of time. Although this is a valuable skill, is it possible to be too patient? Can we give too much? Can we wait too long?

When we’re in a relationship we value, and things aren’t going the way we want them to, we may discuss the issue with the other person, tell them why we aren’t happy, and ask for a change. If they are not ready, they may need time. If we’re patient, we may offer that time in order to preserve the relationship. Sometimes with communication and effort, things improve, and the problems work themselves out. But other times, despite our willingness to wait, things stay the same. Patience will not create change. It only allows time for change to happen. If the situation doesn’t improve after a time, we have to decide if we can wait a little longer, or if we need to move on.

It is possible to bend too far in trying to make something work. If we find the wait is beginning to affect our happiness, we need to rethink the situation. We offer patience to help situations improve, but if nothing changes all the patience in the world will not help. If we bend too far, and give too much, we may find ourselves in a very uncomfortable place.

Today if you’ve been patiently waiting for a situation to change and it’s not happening, re-evaluate your options. Determine how long you feel comfortable waiting, and when you get there if nothing has improved, move on. Patience is a noble attribute, and it’s good to exercise it. But don’t bend so far that you’re miserable. Sometimes even the best changes don’t come. Sometimes we have to let it go, and move on. Today think about that. The situation may be important, but you’re important too. Be patient, and be kind, but remember your happiness is valuable. Do what you need to ensure it.