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Unbelievable

7 Nov

We all have ideas about how things should go and what should happen.  We make plans and try to design our lives in ways that ensure what we want most will come to us and we’ll be on the right road going forward.  We have control over all our decisions but basically everything else is left up to chance.  We can make all the right choices to get to a goal and still not reach it because of situations out of our control.  Sometimes things develop in ways we can’t understand and no matter how we try to wrap our heads around it, can’t make sense of it.  When that happens, we may stand and watch, stunned as the world seems to tilt on its axis and we are left out in the cold.  We may struggle to figure out how to process our new reality.  No matter how well we prepare or how sure we are about the road ahead, things may change suddenly and we may find ourselves standing on foreign ground with no idea what to do next.  Confusing, complicated events may come but we are capable of managing if we step back and take the time we need to see everything clearly.  There are many roads to every destination and if the one we’ve been on has disappeared, we can choose another.  We can let go of any preconceived notions about how we should proceed and alter our plans to fit the new situation we’re in.  Change is constant and even if the change we’re facing is difficult, we can find our way.  We are capable of adjusting our plans, redirecting our way forward and still finding success.

People do all kinds of things.  If someone does something that impacts us negatively we may question their reasoning.  If they value their relationship with us they may do something to amend the situation.  But we can’t make people care about others and if we’re someone they don’t consider worth their time they may continue on without regard to what’s happening to us.  If we can’t eliminate their influence over us we’ll have to cope.  It’s not easy to deal with unpleasant and disagreeable people but we are intelligent and can find a way around them.

When something unexpected and extreme happens that affects our plans going forward, we may shudder in unbelief.  Our idea of what is normal may be challenged and we may struggle to understand our position and how to take the next step.  There may be times when unforeseen developments knock the air out of us and we’ll have to hold on tight to keep standing.  Life is filled with surprises and even if we’re uneven for a moment, we can find our footing by trusting our instincts and remaining calm.  Whatever storm is passing over will abate and we’ll be able to see clearly again.  We are strong and capable and even in the midst of serious turmoil can find our way.

Today if you’re facing a situation that has rocked your foundation and you’re struggling to comprehend what to do, remember how capable you are.  You can stand steady even when the ground shakes.  You can face anything and find the answers you need to get through.  Be confident.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold you down.  Step forward and start again.  There is great success ahead.

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Intermission

1 Nov

Years ago, when there was a long movie, the producers would put an intermission near the middle of the production. It was a time for movie goers to get up and stretch, purchase refreshments or visit the bathrooms. They were several minutes long and gave everyone a break from sitting and watching. Those days are behind us now but the idea of intermission is a valuable tool we can use in our personal lives. When we’re involved in a long, complex project or trying to complete a difficult goal, we may be encouraged to hurry and continually press forward to reach it. It’s good to be focused but it’s helpful to stop from time to time and take a breather, review where we are, and look ahead to plan our next steps. There is nothing to be gained by rushing forward without looking, getting tangled up somewhere we didn’t intend to go and having to backtrack to start again. It’s far better to stop from time to time to look at where we’re headed and make sure we’re going in the direction that will bring us success. The old saying of “haste makes waste,” may come into play if we hurry toward our objectives without taking time to think about where we’re going. Rushing around doesn’t always mean making progress. We can take an intermission, stand still for a moment, review our objectives and then plan the way forward. Just a few minutes of careful consideration in advance may save us hours of revision later. We can get to any destination we desire and by thoughtfully preparing our way forward will arrive at the perfect time. We know where we want to go and can reach any goal we choose. All options are possible if we plan effectively and use our time wisely.

We may be in a situation where we’re pressed to give quick answers and find fast solutions. We are wise and capable and can find any answers we need but we don’t have to jump on the first ones that come to mind. We can step back for a moment and allow ourselves time to consider all the possible options before choosing the next step. Giving ourselves time to let ideas rise will give us a wider perspective of the situation and help us uncover the best way forward. There isn’t anything we can’t understand and if we pause for a moment, will find every answer we need.

Sometimes when we step back and look at everything openly we see things we didn’t notice before. We may discover our ideas about what we want have changed, and the goal we were striving for is no longer where we want to go. Instead of continuing forward toward something we don’t want, we can turn toward a new destination and start on a new path. We can do anything we choose and by taking time to look at where we’re headed will ensure we reach the destinations we most desire.

Today if you’ve been pushing forward and focused only on the goal ahead, take a moment to step back and look at everything again. Think about where you’re headed and consider every possibility going forward. The whole world is there for you and you can go anywhere you want to go. Look around and choose the road that takes you to the places you desire most. You deserve every happiness and by making the best choices moving forward will achieve it.

What’s Possible

27 Sep

There are unlimited things we can do as we go through our days. We can take on any challenge we desire and push the limits of our abilities or we can stay within our comfort zones and only do what we must to get through. New experiences teach us about ourselves and our world, and give us strength and power going forward. We can have any kind of life we choose but one thing is certain – if we don’t open new doors we will stay exactly where we are. There is nothing wrong with having a predictable life if that’s what we want but we will never know what we could do unless we’re willing to push ourselves into new territory. There are endless experiences possible but sometimes fear, uncertainty or a lack of confidence prevent us from trying new things. We can’t read the future and there is no way to know when we reach for something new if we will succeed or fall flat on our faces. We might fail. We might go down in flames, but we might also succeed. We can’t possibly know unless we try. We are often stronger and more capable than we think we are and what seems daunting at first sometimes becomes quite manageable as we push forward. Babies are not born walking. They learn to trust themselves by pushing away from their support and standing on their own. We learn the same way. We can push away from what’s comfortable and step into any new challenge we seek. Once we overcome one obstacle, we are stronger and able to face the next. If we trust ourselves we may find we can do many things we never dreamed possible. Everything is within our reach and with confidence and courage we can attain anything we desire. We can let go of what’s familiar and try something new. Life is a great blessing and when we embrace all that is possible we find true happiness.

Everyone has opinions about how we should live our lives. When we decide we want to try something new, we may not always get support from those around us. Perhaps they are fearful we will fail or are unsure about how the new activity will affect their relationship with us. We don’t need permission to do anything in our lives. We can do anything we like, stretch our wings as far as they will go and see what happens. There is great blessing in trying something new and pushing ourselves further.

What if we try something new and fail? What if nothing goes the way we thought it would? What if we achieve the goal and it isn’t exactly the way we thought it would be? Nothing in life is permanent. If we do something that doesn’t work out, we can do something else. There are unlimited options possible and if one plan fails we can try another. Life is filled with possibilities. Deciding to embrace them will bring us great satisfaction and unbelievable delight.

Today, take a chance and try something new. Reach for whatever you desire and take the first steps forward. You are far more capable than you realize and have all the courage you need to do anything you want. Open a new door and seize new opportunities. You are amazing and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident. The whole world is there for you.

Covering

9 Jul

We are all responsible for our own lives and what we accomplish.  There may be times when we interact with someone who has a fluid idea of what their responsibility means.  They may let things slide they aren’t interested in or may manage their time in ways that prevent them from being as effective as they could be.  If we depend on them to complete something that impacts what we’re doing and they drop the ball it may stop our progress.  If the issue is important or time sensitive and hasn’t been done, we may jump in and do the job in an effort to keep things moving forward.  It’s good to be helpful but if we find we’re always covering for someone else and picking up the slack because they don’t follow through, we may create more problems for ourselves in the end.  If others begin to rely on us to cover for them there will be no reason to change their behavior.  Why should they do something they don’t want to do if we’ll come in and do it for them?  It can be hard to let something slide because someone didn’t do their part when the task is important to us, but letting others own their responsibilities and be accountable for them is appropriate.  If we stop cleaning up other people’s messes they will remain for them to address.  If something doesn’t get done we can always re-route our way forward.  There are plenty of alternatives for every situation.  We don’t have to wait indefinitely for anyone to do their part.  Instead, we can go right around them.  Our lives are ours and we can do anything we want to do.  It’s great to get cooperation from those around us, but if that’s not available, we can find the way on our own.

Helping others accomplish their tasks opens the door to learning new skills.  Each time we do something new we learn a skill to take forward with us.  It’s great to have a broad scope of understanding in the areas important to us or in arenas we enjoy.  We can offer to help when needed without taking on the full responsibility of the task.  Sharing the load can move things forward more quickly but sharing is only taking on part of the work.  We don’t have to take over the entire project simply because we want to help.  We can allow the others involved to do their part and work together to find success.

Some people don’t like to teach others about their responsibilities.  They may feel if they are the only one who knows how to do a task they will always have a place in the project.  There is security in being the only one who knows how to do something but being willing to show others how to accomplish the task will open new doors for us going forward.  We are all valuable and important and we can be open to working as a team to get things done.  All options are possible and working together will help us achieve every goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been covering for someone again and again, step back and look at your responsibilities clearly.  Do your part and let those around you do theirs.  If they don’t move forward, move around them.  You can do anything and nothing is strong enough to hold you in place.  Choose the best way forward and you will find success.

The Next Page

12 Apr

As we travel through our lives we go through countless experiences, and with each development learn more about ourselves and those around us. Some experiences are wonderful such as marriage, the birth of a child, or the accomplishment of a long-desired goal. Others are difficult and we may go through events that are extremely painful and leave us devastated. There may be the unexpected death of a loved one, the loss of a cherished relationship, or a severe failure that takes our breath away. Extremely difficult changes in our lives can be so overwhelming we may feel paralyzed for a time and unable to move. It may seem impossible to process what’s happened and begin to figure out how to navigate through. Hard times come to us all and when the bottom falls out of our lives and everything changes we may feel completely lost and unsure. Life is unpredictable. Even if we try to make sure everything goes well, sometimes things will go wrong. No matter what happens or how difficult it is to face, there will always be another day. Extreme changes take us away from where we are but don’t leave us forever suspended in limbo. The book of our lives is long and there will always be another page to turn. We can take the time we need to stand still and adjust to what’s happened, and when we’re ready step forward and begin again. Trouble will come but there isn’t anything too powerful or difficult for us to manage. We are capable of figuring out any problem and finding our way forward. We can adapt and change as needed and walk ahead with confidence. Every possibility will open as we move forward and we’ll reach happiness again. Change is constant. Nothing can hold us in place forever. We are strong and capable, and every success is possible.

We may believe there are some things we could never survive if they happened to us. They are so difficult to imagine they seem impossible to face. But we are stronger than we think we are and even if our worst nightmare became a reality, we would find the way through. No matter what comes we have all the courage and wisdom we need to overcome. We always have enough strength and understanding to get through anything we must face. There isn’t anything too complicated or difficult for us to manage.

In the darkest night when we’re struggling to understand a difficult situation and there appear to be no answers possible, hope may seem far away. We may feel helpless and lost trying to figure out what is happening and what to do. Long, hard nights of despair are painful but no night lasts forever. The sun will rise and the answers will come. There is a new page waiting and we will write it. Every success is possible and nothing is out of reach. We will find our way.

Today if you’re overwhelmed and aren’t sure how to move forward, remember all the times you’ve overcome difficulty in the past. You are strong and wise and there are endless possibilities ahead. Turn the page and start again. You are powerful and precious, and nothing can keep you from happiness and success.

Making the Choice

23 Mar

The choices we make have a lot of influence over our lives.  Every decision takes us somewhere and if we’re engaged and aware we may choose roads that take us where we want to go.  But life is busy and can be complicated, and sometimes we make choices quickly out of necessity or even desperation.  Perhaps anger or frustration plays a roll and instead of thinking ahead, we pick a road based on what we’re feeling at the moment.  For every action we take there will always be a reaction of some sort.  If we are quick and thoughtless when we choose our steps forward, we may get a response we don’t want.  It’s impossible to be right all the time.  We all stumble and make mistakes but if we are careless and irresponsible, we may be beset with problems we’ve created ourselves.  Our lives belong solely to us and we are in control of every decision we make.  We can direct our lives forward with positive intent or we can choose without thinking and hope everything works out.  If we want our dreams to come true, or achieve anything, we must purposely direct our decisions.  We can drive out onto the highway but without a destination in mind and the desire to get there we may drive around indefinitely, going nowhere.  Without purposeful intent, and the choices needed to bring us success, we may spin in circles as time passes and never achieve the things we truly want.  Life is an incredible blessing.  Each day brings the chance to move closer to where we want to be.  With careful thought we can take control, make excellent decisions, and find success.  Every dream can come true if we do what is needed to move forward.

Opportunity is everywhere but it’s up to us to claim it.  We can watch others achieve their goals and complain that it was easier for them or they got chances we weren’t afforded.  It’s true that sometimes we will miss out on things we want to do but most of the time the opportunity to move forward is completely in our control.  If we sit back and do nothing, nothing will happen.  It takes determination and action to make any change a reality.  We are in control and every decision is up to us.

It’s easy to stay within our comfort zones and keep a routine we’re familiar with.  If we want something more, or something different we must be willing to step away from what we’re doing.  It can be unsettling to step into unknown territory and we may feel uncomfortable when we try.  But the unknown is only unknown until we make it ours.  We are capable of facing any challenge and embracing any change we desire.  The first steps forward will open new horizons before us and as we push ahead we will achieve success.  There isn’t anything we can’t do.  The world is there for us and we can reach any destination we desire.

Today if you want more opportunity and success, step away from what is familiar and move toward the goals you really want.  You have everything you need to accomplish anything you desire.  Be engaged and aware of each decision and choose the roads that will take you where you want to go.  You are strong and powerful, and nothing is out of reach.  Your life is yours to design and every success is possible.

Avalanche

6 Feb

As we travel our journey through life there are countless turns, switchbacks, detours and times when we must re-route our way forward. There are rarely moments when the road ahead is paved, perfectly straight and without problems. We learn to navigate by adjusting our course as needed, and try to be as flexible as possible in order to get to the goal. Even if we do everything to plan well, sometimes things go awry and all our ideas get stopped in their tracks. It can feel like a huge avalanche has fallen on the road ahead and there is no way around it. We may stop and wait until the road is cleared but there are always other options available. We can sit and watch while others sort out the mess before us, and be patient while a solution is determined, or we can act on our own to move forward. Huge complications that stop our progress take time to untangle and while we’re working on them new options become available. It’s hard to see other roads when we’re focused on moving forward. When we’re stopped we can look around and all other possibilities become clear. There is never only one road to any destination we desire. There are countless ways to travel and endless options to try. We can review all the potential roads ahead and choose the one that works. There is no destination out of reach or impossible to find. We can alter our course and find the way around any avalanche in our path.

Everyone has their own ideas about what can and cannot be done. Some people are confident in their purposes until something goes wrong, at which time they throw up their hands and walk away. If we stop our journey forward every time we hit a snag we’ll end up staying exactly where we are. There will always be problems, there will always be things in the way, and we will often need to change course. Our goals are important and we certainly have everything we need to achieve them. There is no problem we can’t solve, or change we can’t accommodate. We are strong and powerful and can do anything we desire.

We may think we want an easy life, filled with comfort and success that requires us to do little. However, when things are easy we don’t learn anything new and don’t have the opportunity to become strong. Strength is built through trial, not ease. When things go wrong and we have to try harder, or when our plans fail and we have to start over, we gain wisdom and power. We learn to trust ourselves and understand more deeply what we’re made of and how the world works. Everything we need is already inside us. We can reach and find all the courage and insight necessary to go forward toward success and have the lives we want. It’s all there for us. We need only move forward and claim it.

Today if all your plans have been stopped in their tracks and you can’t move forward, look around at the options available. There are many roads that will take you where you want to go. Make a new plan and chart a new course. You will reach your destination. You are powerful and wise, and nothing will keep you from your dreams.