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6 Feb

As we travel our journey through life there are countless turns, switchbacks, detours and times when we must re-route our way forward. There are rarely moments when the road ahead is paved, perfectly straight and without problems. We learn to navigate by adjusting our course as needed, and try to be as flexible as possible in order to get to the goal. Even if we do everything to plan well, sometimes things go awry and all our ideas get stopped in their tracks. It can feel like a huge avalanche has fallen on the road ahead and there is no way around it. We may stop and wait until the road is cleared but there are always other options available. We can sit and watch while others sort out the mess before us, and be patient while a solution is determined, or we can act on our own to move forward. Huge complications that stop our progress take time to untangle and while we’re working on them new options become available. It’s hard to see other roads when we’re focused on moving forward. When we’re stopped we can look around and all other possibilities become clear. There is never only one road to any destination we desire. There are countless ways to travel and endless options to try. We can review all the potential roads ahead and choose the one that works. There is no destination out of reach or impossible to find. We can alter our course and find the way around any avalanche in our path.

Everyone has their own ideas about what can and cannot be done. Some people are confident in their purposes until something goes wrong, at which time they throw up their hands and walk away. If we stop our journey forward every time we hit a snag we’ll end up staying exactly where we are. There will always be problems, there will always be things in the way, and we will often need to change course. Our goals are important and we certainly have everything we need to achieve them. There is no problem we can’t solve, or change we can’t accommodate. We are strong and powerful and can do anything we desire.

We may think we want an easy life, filled with comfort and success that requires us to do little. However, when things are easy we don’t learn anything new and don’t have the opportunity to become strong. Strength is built through trial, not ease. When things go wrong and we have to try harder, or when our plans fail and we have to start over, we gain wisdom and power. We learn to trust ourselves and understand more deeply what we’re made of and how the world works. Everything we need is already inside us. We can reach and find all the courage and insight necessary to go forward toward success and have the lives we want. It’s all there for us. We need only move forward and claim it.

Today if all your plans have been stopped in their tracks and you can’t move forward, look around at the options available. There are many roads that will take you where you want to go. Make a new plan and chart a new course. You will reach your destination. You are powerful and wise, and nothing will keep you from your dreams.


Now What

30 Jan

As we’re moving through our lives, focusing on our goals, enjoying our associations with others, and working toward our destinations, sometimes things go exactly the way we plan. Events roll forward in predictable ways and the road ahead is open and unobstructed. When we’re moving forward and things are going well we feel confident and sure of success, and it’s only a matter of time before we achieve the goal we’re seeking. And then out of nowhere, sometimes everything changes. We’re steaming along and suddenly the bottom falls out of our plans. It’s like running headlong into an invisible wall. We may be stunned and rattled, speechless and unable to move. Sudden changes turn our course immediately, often without warning, and we may stand stupefied for a moment and wonder, now what? If everything we depended on disappears, and everyone who was with us turns away, we may be left standing, bereft and confused. Change is part of life and sometimes the changes we experience are extreme and unexpected. When they happen, it may be so dramatic and all encompassing that we may have no idea how to proceed. If we stop and stand still, and take some time to wrap our heads around all the changes and understand where we are now, we will find the courage we need to continue. The road we were on may be gone but there are countless others we can take and we can start again. We can regain our footing, refocus on what we want to do, and step forward.

When our lives are routine and things are happening the way we expect them to, we feel comfortable and sure. We know how our days will go, and everything is familiar. It’s good to feel relaxed and we may become complacent thinking we’ve got everything under control and all is well. If things suddenly change our first instinct may be to deny what has happened. We may believe if we don’t acknowledge the situation it won’t impact us. Looking away from an issue will not remove it, and ignoring problems will not solve them. Although we may desperately want things to stay the same, change will come, and we can do what is needed to continue forward.

When our lives suddenly change in ways we don’t want and didn’t expect, we may try to force them back to the way they were. We may attempt to restore what was, but there is no way to go back in time and no way to change what has happened. Life marches forward and will not retreat. We can step back, take time to process our new reality and then decide how we want to continue. All our dreams can come true but sometimes we must take the long way around to get to them. If things go wrong, we can find another way. If the bottom falls out, we can rebuild it. Everything is possible and nothing is strong enough to keep us from our goals. We can keep moving forward through any complication and find success.

Today if all your plans have suddenly gone up in smoke and you feel lost and confused, take a moment to understand where you are. Look around and decide how you want to proceed. The goal is still there for you and you can still reach it. Decide on the way forward and start again. The road is there and success is only steps away.


14 Dec

There are endless opportunities in life and we are restricted only by our own decisions. We can think of our lives as an endless hallway of doors. Every door we walk through opens a new road ahead that takes us somewhere we’ve never been and teaches us something to take forward. How many doors we open is up to us. If we want a life filled with new experiences we may fearlessly open as many as possible. Conversely, if we want a predictable life that is comfortable in its sameness, we may stick with only a few. We can design our lives any way we choose and the choices we make will color our experiences. When there is something new we want to try, we may be nervous about starting out. We may fear we won’t be up to the task and will fail. We can’t tell the future but one thing is certain, if we don’t take the chance, we will never experience the outcome. There really is nothing to be lost by extending our boundaries and opening the doors before us. We are strong enough to endure any complication and resilient enough to take any criticism. All the roads are open to us and we may travel as many as we desire. There is no rush and we may take all the time we need to decide. Life is filled with opportunity. How many we choose is completely up to us, but the depth of understanding we gain by stretching beyond where we are is extremely valuable. We learn more about ourselves as we try new things. We understand our place in life as we extend our reach. Living fearlessly and boldly will bring us great blessings. There really isn’t anything we can’t do. We can open all the doors we desire and see where they will take us.

Tradition may be a powerful restrictor. When our personal traditions are very strong it may be more difficult to reach beyond them. If those close to us value the patterns held in place over time, there may be strong pushback if we decide we want something different. Traditions are wonderful and help us treasure important facets of our relationships but they may keep the doors around us closed. There is no door we cannot open and no road we cannot travel. We can hold fast to the ways and customs we value, and still create the lives we want the most.

It takes courage to reach beyond where we are and try something new. We don’t really know what’s behind a new door or where it will lead. Although there is no way at the beginning to see everything at the end of any road, we have everything necessary to move forward toward any destination we desire. All the courage we need is already inside us and we are smart enough, and strong enough to take on any challenge. The whole world is available to us. We can do anything. We can start something new, and success will follow.

Today if you’ve been thinking about trying something new but haven’t been sure, take the chance. There really isn’t anything you can’t do. Open all the doors you desire and step onto a new road. Fill your life with every experience you dream about. It’s all there for you. Take the first step today and see what lies ahead. The possibilities are endless.


8 Dec

When we’re working hard toward a goal we may be busy with a lot of details and complications.  If things are moving along toward the finish line it’s easier to keep going than if the situation is continually complicated and difficult.  When the answers are there and everything is going right we feel buoyed up and positive.  But there will be times when no matter what we do we can’t move forward and after several frustrating misses we may decide we’ve had enough.  There comes a point when we are done, and no matter what we wanted to accomplish our focus has changed and we are ready to let go.  Everyone has limits to their energy and patience, and when we reach the end of those limits we may decide the goal is no longer worth pursuing.  Of course we can change our lives any time we wish.  There is no one right way to live and if we want to modify our course we can.  There is no shame in changing our minds.  If the goal isn’t important and can be left behind, we can walk away.  However, if it’s something we absolutely want and don’t feel we’ll be happy until we achieve it, we don’t have to forsake it completely.  Sometimes all we need is a break from the struggle.  We can step away for a while, collect our thoughts, and rethink our plans to find a new way through.  There really isn’t anything we can’t accomplish but some things don’t come easily and take considerable effort and determination to achieve.  We have enough confidence and intelligence to accomplish anything.  We can look at the situation objectively and decide how we want to proceed.  Everything is there for us and we can determine what to do next.

We can keep our lives small and only do what is required to get by, keeping to ourselves and limiting our exposure to new things and ideas.  Or we can extend ourselves and reach higher for something new and exciting.  Whatever we want we can achieve but to achieve anything outside our normal experience will take effort and determination.  Things may go wrong when we step out of our comfort zone and if we can’t tolerate anything but ease we may quickly return to what we know.  If we want something new, we have to be willing to be uncomfortable while we learn it and stay the course until we make it ours.

Success doesn’t always come the first time we try.  It takes practice to learn something new and there will likely be several failures before we get things right.  The mechanics of riding a bicycle are easy – sit on the bike and pedal.  But actually learning to ride one takes practice.  The same is true when we try anything new.  If we give up the first time we fall we’ll never master the skill.  We have all the confidence we need to do anything we desire.  We can take our time, plan our way forward, and find success.

Today if you’ve been working on something that continues to elude you and you are done dealing with it, take a break and think about what you really want to accomplish.  If the goal is important look for another way to master it.  All the answers are there for you.  Try again.  You will reach the end and find success.

One Piece

12 Oct

There are billions of people in the world. A billion is a number so large it’s hard to comprehend. There are people on every continent and every corner of the earth. Although technology can make the world seem small it’s quite huge encompassing a vast expanse and there are people everywhere. When we think of the enormity of the view we may feel insignificant. We’re such a small part of the whole human race we may think we don’t matter. Our personal lives may seem inconsequential and unimportant. But think about a huge, enormous jigsaw puzzle with billions of pieces. Each piece is small but if you put it all together and there is one piece missing it will be a glaring deficit. It won’t be complete without every piece in place. It’s the same with us. We may feel small in comparison to the whole world, and we are, but we are an important piece of the puzzle. We count and our contributions are valuable. We make the composition whole. Without us the world would miss an integral part of its experience. Our lives may be small but we impact everything around us and everything we do makes the world what it is today. No life is inconsequential or without value. We all count. We are all worthwhile and essential. Remembering how important we are to the whole will help us cherish our lives more deeply. We are precious and priceless. Everything we do has value and our part is necessary to complete the puzzle.

There are kings, presidents, rulers and others with incredible influence all over the world. They have the power to change how things work and what happens in countries and nations all across the earth. Although we may not have those attributes in our personal lives we are powerful in very personal ways. Our impact is felt with every decision we make and everything we do. We can show great love and care to those around us and bring happiness and joy into other lives. Everything we do changes something. If we are mindful and do the best we can we may change the whole world for good.

As we go about our daily routines and our personal issues we may forget how important we are in the big picture. Our choices bring changes into our lives and impact the lives of those around us. If those choices are made well our impact will be positive. If we are careless and create problems as we move forward, we may leave behind a trail of trouble and despair. There is no way to get through life without affecting those around us. What we choose will bring joy or sorrow, and happiness or grief. If we choose to be the best influence possible our personal gifts will be precious and may change the world for good.

Today if you’re feeling like you don’t count, and your contributions are insignificant, remember your piece of the puzzle is priceless. Nobody else can fill your space. You are the only one who can do your part. Everything you do changes the world. Be confident and go forward knowing you are valuable and precious. Nobody else can bring the gifts you give. You are important and essential. The influence you bring is unique and we need you here.

Life Sentence

10 Aug

Life is a continual process of learning. Every step we take and every decision we make teaches us something. Although we may try to make the best choices possible, sometimes important details are disguised or we may be distracted and choose something that turns out badly. There is no way to know everything and we all make mistakes from time to time. If we’ve made a choice that has had terrible results we may need to work hard to fix it. Bad decisions happen and if they are extreme we may feel we’ve ruined our lives. We may be sure there is no way to repair the situation and we are lost, but everything is transient and nothing is permanent. There is no life sentence pronounced upon us when we fail. We aren’t doomed to remain in pain and anguish forever. It’s just a mistake. Even if it feels like a terminal disaster, it’s just a mistake. And mistakes can be amended. We can figure out what is needed to correct our course going forward and find the right road. If others have been hurt by our decision we can do what is required to apologize and turn things around. Nobody is perfect and there is no guide book to warn us before we make decisions. We will often choose wisely and generally find our way, and if we stumble we can adjust our direction ahead and start again. Life is all about learning. We learn everything we need to know as we move along. Detours may happen and we may falter, but we are capable of regaining our footing and continuing forward to success.

If we make a bad decision that impacts a personal relationship in serious ways there may be long lasting consequences. If the damage is great we may lose the connection with the other person completely. They may choose to walk away from us and leave us behind. We can try to repair the situation but we cannot make anyone continue forward with us against their will. We can learn as much as possible from the experience and take that information forward to help us in the future. Sometimes things break and can’t be repaired but we can remain open to starting again if the opportunity comes.

We are free to choose anything we like but we cannot control the results of those choices. Sometimes things will go exactly as planned and other times they may work against us. Learning to see things openly and objectively, and being willing to look at all sides of every problem will enable us to make the best choices. We are capable of making excellent decisions and have everything we need to succeed. We can trust in our ability to choose wisely and if things go awry, we can choose again to correct our way forward.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and have caused yourself or others pain or discomfort, look at the issue completely. See the best options going forward and choose the path that will correct your course. You are intelligent and wise, and can do amazing things. The road to success is there for you. Seek it, and find it. There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well. You have everything you need right now to succeed.


27 Jul

Things don’t always go the way we want them to. There are lots of people around us all the time making all kinds of decisions that may have an impact on us. If those decisions are beneficial we welcome them but sometimes we are affected in negative ways by the actions of others. When our plans get derailed or we must face unexpected complications because someone is in the way we may feel intense frustration or even anger. It’s hard when we we’re trying to accomplish something and there is a roadblock we can’t get past. We always have options and even if someone else is determined to keep us from success we can find a way around them, but it might take considerable time and effort to get there. It isn’t easy to work with difficult people but we can keep our eyes on the goal and do what is best for us. No matter what they’re doing we can find personal success on our own terms. The decisions of others belong to them. We can continue to choose what is best for us even if it means we have to modify our plans to get around someone else. If we keep moving forward no matter what complications are in our path we will win. There isn’t anything we can’t manage and no matter what difficulties arise we can find our way forward.

Not everyone is easy going and some people enjoy creating complications and drama. They may make bad decisions and manufacture problems that don’t exist in an effort to keep the intensity level up and cause stress to those around them. Their reasons are inconsequential. Although their decisions may impact us negatively, if we want to move ahead we can find a way around them. We can exercise patience if we must deal with them directly and ignore them if they are unpleasant. We can always find the way forward by being true to what is best for us and keeping our eyes on the goal.

Some people make bad decisions and don’t care how they affect others. They may create problems to make a point, look for ways to complicate interactions or manipulate the truth to achieve a personal desire. The trouble they cause is irrelevant to them and they don’t seem to care about anyone but themselves. When we must deal with them odds are whatever we’re doing will become more difficult. We can’t change others but we can control how we manage their decisions. We can always make the best choices going forward despite what others are doing. Success is always available to us and no matter what others choose, we will achieve it.

Today if you must deal with someone who is causing complications for you and you feel frustrated and stuck, remember there are limitless ways to reach any goal. Consider all your options going forward and choose the best road ahead. There isn’t anyone powerful enough to hold you back. You can do anything. You have everything you need to be successful and you will win.