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Rubber Hammer

22 Jun

Every day brings us something new, and with each step we learn more about ourselves and the world around us. It isn’t always a picnic, and we will all face trials and problems that need to be solved. As we work through each issue, we gain additional insight and understanding. We might find ourselves in a situation where we can’t make any headway, and move forward. It might be because we haven’t yet gotten all the information we need to solve the issue, or it could be that we don’t currently have the tools we need to get the job done. If we have to pound a big nail into a hard piece of wood, a good strong hammer will help us accomplish it. But what if the only hammer we have is made of rubber? A hammer is a hammer right? Rubber isn’t steel, but it seems like it would work eventually, so we pound away and pound away, and make minuscule progress, but success is far away. We could stay in place and work the problem indefinitely with the tool we have, or we could get a better hammer. A heavy, steel hammer would enable us to complete the task quickly and easily, and move on to something new. Sometimes all we have to do to reach success is get a better tool. But if we like the tool we’re using, are attached to where we are and what we’re doing, and are concerned about making any changes, we may end up pounding away indefinitely, hoping what we already possess will be enough. Life can be hard and the choices we make will either make it easier or more difficult. Having a rubber hammer when we need a steel one won’t help us advance. We are intelligent and can look at every situation objectively and see what we need to reach success. By choosing the tools that help us move forward, and working hard to get to the goal, we will succeed.

When we set out to complete a goal, we design our way forward and choose the method and road we desire. We try to choose well, but we might find the road we’ve chosen has a lot of detours, switchbacks, and roadblocks. We’re moving forward but the pace is very slow and cumbersome. If we’re very attached to the original idea, we might hold on hoping that even though there is no indication of change, somehow, it’ll eventually work. Like hammering in a nail with a rubber hammer. Every goal is possible and we can be flexible enough to alter our plans if needed. Nothing can keep us from success when we’re ready to move, and we will prevail.

Everyone wants a life of ease and comfort. Being comfortable in our choices is important, but an easy road won’t always move us ahead. If we aren’t advancing, we can stop and look at all the possibilities. There will always be another option and we can choose the one that will take us to our destination. Every single goal is there for us and all our dreams are possible. We have everything we need to find our way forward, and reach success.

Today if you’re stuck and aren’t moving forward, look at all the options available. There are many roads to every goal. Choose the one that will take you to success, and step forward with confidence. You are powerful and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Trust yourself. Every dream is there for you, and you will succeed.

One Small Victory

8 Jun

We can do anything we want to do. We can live our lives any way we want and go anywhere. If we’re happy, we can keep things the way they are, or if we’re not happy, can change anything we like. Change is always possible but it won’t just happen because we want it. We have to stop doing something and start doing something else. It sounds easy but it isn’t always simple. Changing our behaviors takes diligence and constancy. If we really want to change, we have to dedicate ourselves to the new behavior and stick to it, over and over again, until it replaces the behavior we want to lose. Deciding we want to change is only the first step. After we’ve made the decision, the work must begin. It will take focus and time, and like turning a ship, instead of taking one big step that changes everything, we may have to take many small steps to get to success. Today we may make one decision that brings us one small victory that moves us closer to the destination. If we want to lose weight, today we may turn down a second helping. If we want to be more fit, we might take the stairs today instead of the elevator. Small victories may seem insignificant when looking at the big picture, but they add up and bring us greater confidence to do even more. Every step forward, no matter how small, is a win. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and change won’t happen overnight, but with diligence and focus, we can do anything. One small step forward each day will take us to success. Nothing is too difficult for us to accomplish, and with persistence and determination, we can have the lives we want the most.

Learning a foreign language takes a lot of effort. We must learn a new vocabulary, figure out how to put together sentences, and pronounce new words. Even if we’re highly motivated and intensely interested, fluency won’t happen quickly. It will require hours of dedicated practice, and patience. Today we may only memorize a few new words and just begin to understand the correct syntax, but tomorrow we’ll do a little more, and in time, if we stick to it, we’ll succeed. Each small step will take us closer to the goal, and we will reach success.

The road to some destinations is short and we can reach them quickly. It’s nice to claim the prize at the end, and we all want to succeed. But some roads are long, and difficult, and take more time than we imagined at the beginning. If the goal is important, we can stay the course and trust ourselves to prevail. If not, we can let it go, and work on something else. We decide what we’ll accomplish and what we want to do. When we’re focused on something we desire, every single movement in the right direction takes us closer to the goal. Some days we’ll go far.  Other days, it may seem we’re standing still, but as long as we stay on the road, we are winning.

Today if you’re working toward a goal but it seems you can only move a tiny bit closer each day, trust yourself. Every step ahead, no matter how small, is a victory that moves you forward. You are amazing and can accomplish anything. Be confident and keep your eyes focused on the road ahead. Nothing is beyond your reach, and every step takes you closer. Stay on course, and you will succeed.

Not Me

7 Feb

Nobody is perfect and although we try to always make good decisions and choose well, sometimes we’re going to make mistakes. It’s the normal course of life. We might decide to do something that seems good at the beginning but turns into a complete mess, screwing up our lives and anyone else involved. It happens to everyone and nobody is exempt. We’re going to go the wrong way from time to time, and what we do after that will determine what happens next. When the bottom falls out and we’re left holding the bag, we can try to deflect the blame onto someone else. We could say it wasn’t us, we weren’t involved, nobody told us about it, and a million other excuses that won’t change anything. Pushing the blame for something we’ve done onto someone else will never help, and will reflect badly on us going forward. Many times, everyone already knows who was involved when things go wrong. Pretending to be invisible or making sure we’re somewhere else when it all hits the fan won’t fix anything. We’re accountable for everything we do and every decision we make. Hiding, deflecting, pretending or trying to dodge our involvement will only delay the inevitable. It’s far better, no matter how bad things are, to stand tall and admit our involvement. It’s only a mistake, not the end of the world. Nothing is permanent and no matter what’s happened there will be a way to correct our course. We are intelligent and can find the way forward no matter how convoluted the situation may seem. With confidence and courage, we can address any misstep and make whatever changes are needed to point us in the right direction. Every destination is possible and we will find the way ahead.

It’s impossible to know everything about everything. When we’re making decisions, there may be something we can’t see or some fact we don’t know about. We can only use the information available to us at any time, and if we discover later there is more to the story that affects the way forward negatively, we can modify our plans. If we’re flexible and open, we can still find our way to the goal despite any complications. Life is filled with possibilities and there will always be another way ahead. With focus and planning, we can reach any destination we desire.

There may be times when we might be blamed for something we didn’t do. It’s difficult to feel the scorn of others for something we’re not responsible for and we may certainly stand up for ourselves and protest our innocence. If doubt still remains, we can continue forward making the best choices possible, and in time, truth will prevail. We can make excellent decisions that show the world who we are, and that take us where we want to go and help us achieve our most valued goals. We are strong and powerful, and we will prevail.

Today if things have gone wrong from a decision you’ve made, own your part and do what is needed to correct the situation. Mistakes happen and you can change direction. Look at everything openly and decide on the best course of action. You are wise and intelligent, and all the answers are there for you. Trust yourself. You will prevail.

Out of Steam

13 Jan

We often have a lot of things going on in our lives at the same time. Our families need our attention, our jobs require our time, we have daily responsibilities that can add up, our personal health demands our focus, and there are unexpected developments and complications that always arise. Sometimes it may feel like a juggling act keeping it all taken care of. We are incredibly capable and most of the time will be able to manage whatever is required. But life can get convoluted and difficult, and if there’s too much happening, we may get overwhelmed and exhausted. We don’t have unlimited energy and it’s possible to run out of steam before we get through. We’re in control of our lives and can stand still when we need to and take the time necessary to regroup and consider our next steps. Taking a moment to reflect on what we need to do will help us recharge, and then, we can start again. We have reserves deeper than we think, and can dig deep for the strength we need. We can trust we have sufficient power to do whatever is needed at any time. There is enough wisdom and courage within us to accomplish anything, no matter how complex or difficult the road ahead. We are stronger and wiser than we think we are, and nothing can hold us in place. Every goal is attainable and every destination is possible. We can discern what is needed, and accomplish any task before us. Every success is there for us, and we will prevail.

The world is filled with opportunity and possibilities. Every goal and dream are achievable, and we can design our lives any way we desire. Some things will be difficult to accomplish, but if we’re willing to do what’s required to achieve them, we can make our dreams come true. It’s easy and takes little effort to simply let life take us where it will, but letting our lives follow wherever the current road leads will never take us where we most want to go. We can step up and take charge of our direction, and decide what we want to gain. Our lives belong completely to us, and we can find true happiness and satisfaction by choosing the road ahead.

Our relationships are important and when they are healthy and strong, bring great satisfaction and happiness to our lives. All good relationships take effort to make them vibrant and positive. However, if we’re in a relationship that takes continued work with little reward, and there is constant stress, we may tire of the struggle. We never have to stay in any relationship that isn’t working. We can decide what’s best for us, and redirect our course. We deserve complete happiness, and can be confident enough to do what is needed to get it.

Today if you’ve been pushing hard toward a difficult goal and are tired of the struggle, take a moment to step back and look at all the options before you. You can continue forward if the goal is still important, or choose another road. You know where you want to go, and will make the best decision possible. Your life is yours to design, and you can reach every success. Be confident. You are strong and powerful, and nothing can hold you down.

Reaching Higher

19 Dec

Every decision we make has a consequence. Where a choice will take us after we decide may be obvious, or we may have no idea what’s coming next. It isn’t always easy to see the best option, and even when we try to choose wisely, sometimes things go awry. If we’re thoughtful and take the time we need to see the possibilities before us, we’ll more effectively be able to make good decisions. But if we’re in a hurry, stressed or pressured to move, we may simply choose the easiest road. Choosing the easiest option without thinking might get the job done for now, but odds are we’ll face complications ahead. Bad decisions never bring happiness or peace, and can make it hard to do the things we desire. They tangle us up, and make moving forward nearly impossible. If we want happy, peaceful lives, it’s important to weigh each choice carefully and then step forward with confidence. We can’t read the future and there will always be things we don’t know, but if we’re diligent in doing all we can to choose open, clear roads, we’ll have a better shot at success. There will always be many options possible, and if we want real success, we can reach higher for the best alternative. Reaching higher for the best choice isn’t always easy, and may require more from us than something simpler. The best roads ahead may be longer, and more arduous than the easy way out but choosing well, even if it’s harder, will bring us happiness and satisfaction. Everyone wants a happy life. We can’t control what will come, what decisions others make that impact us, or where the road turns, but we can always control what we choose. We don’t need agreement or permission to decide how we want to proceed. We can do what is needed to choose wisely, and create the lives we want the most.

Our lives are busy, and sometimes there is much to do, and many responsibilities to manage. If we’re rushed and pressed for time, we might make a choice quickly without looking at all the possible ramifications. We just choose and rush on to the next item. Some decisions have little consequence, but others, like a snowball racing down a hill, pick up problems at every turn. One simple decision made quickly can turn into a nightmare of complications and messy details we don’t have time for or want to face. We are wise and intelligent, and even if we’re in a hurry, can make excellent decisions.

If we’ve chosen badly and ended up somewhere we never intended to go, we can stop and consider how we want to proceed. We are never restricted or held at one destination indefinitely. There will always be other roads to travel and we can step away and correct our course until we’re headed in the right direction. Every dream is possible, and we can make the decisions needed to make them ours.

Today, if you’ve made a mistake in judgement and don’t like where it took you, you have all the power you need to revise your plan and continue forward. Every option is possible and you can do anything you want. Decide where you want to go and step forward with confidence. You can have the life you dream about, and find success.