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Here Ya Go

26 Mar

There are lots of people who come and go in and out of our lives. We make contacts and connections, build relationships, and interact with them continually. We may only wave in passing, or they may be important and integral to our daily lives. We’re all sharing time on the planet and each of us is experiencing our own personal events. It’s good to have others who support us when things go wrong to offer help and advice, and we can be there when someone else needs us. Our connections to one another run deeper than we think, and our presence may be all that’s needed to help someone over a trial. Everyone gets the opportunity to experience problems and trouble, and we all struggle from time to time. Our lives are our own responsibility but if we’re overwhelmed with something, and someone we trust and rely on shows up, we might try to transfer the issue over onto them. We may imagine that since they care about us, they won’t mind taking on the extra burden, and believe they could manage it better than we could anyway. We may say, “Here ya go,” pass it off to them, dust off our hands, and walk away. It’s nice to think others will willingly handle all our messy, difficult problems, but our lives belong to us, and our problems are our responsibility. We own them, even when we try to give them away. Nobody wants to face problems. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, not fantasyland, and things are going to go wrong. It’s never convenient, it’s not fun and we don’t enjoy struggling, but that doesn’t mean we can’t manage the issue. We are stronger and wiser than we might think, and there isn’t anything so hard and complex we can’t figure it out. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we will find our way through whatever comes. We are powerful and capable, and will succeed.

Guilt can be a very useful tool for manipulating others. If we’re asked to do something we don’t want to do, it may be used to get us to change our minds. They may remind us of when they helped us out of a jam, for which we were very grateful. There is always give and take in every relationship, but we’re in control of our lives. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and manipulation through infusing guilt into the equation, doesn’t change anything. We can be confident of our decisions, even if others disagree, and continue forward.

There may be times when we’re facing a very difficult problem and don’t know how to manage it. Instead of ignoring it and hoping it will magically disappear, or trying to find someone else who’ll take it, we can reach out for help and advice, and begin unraveling it ourselves. All the answers are there for us, and we are intelligent enough to find them. We can be confident we will prevail and push ahead toward resolution.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and don’t know how to proceed, trust yourself. Ask for help and get the information and advice you need. You are more powerful than you realize, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Be confident and stand strong. Every single blessing is there for you. Step forward and claim them.

Power Outage

16 Feb

Electricity is a wonderful thing. When we have a good source of it, we can cook, dry our hair, turn on lights, use our computers, and a thousand other important tasks. It’s great when everything is working well, and we hardly give it a second thought – that is until something comes along that knocks it out. A storm may happen that wipes everything out and the electrical grid no longer functions. When nothing turns on, we’re left shivering in the dark, and all we can do is wait, we remember what a blessing it is when everything works. In our personal lives, we may push ourselves to do more and more, and press against hard deadlines with all our energy and focus. It’s great to be completely inspired to accomplish something, but it’s impossible to keep up an all-out level of energy indefinitely. Just like a power outage, we may reach a point where exhaustion takes over, nothing is working like it was and we must regroup. When that happens, we can try to push forward through the struggle, but chances are our fatigue will get in the way. We are powerful and strong, but every system has its limit. Pushing beyond what works may end up costing us more time than if we pay attention to what we need and take care of ourselves first. Slowing down will not keep us from the goal. Stopping for a break will refresh us, and as we rest, new ideas will appear we may have missed in our rush to the finish line. We are capable of accomplishing great things and nothing can keep us from success, but we don’t have to do everything today. There is time to take care of ourselves, and work in ways that help us continue forward without completely depleting our energy reserves. By trusting ourselves and using wisdom, we can accomplish any goal intelligently and effectively. Success is always there for us, and we will achieve it.

Some people believe in giving everything they’ve got, and pushing beyond what is comfortable, in their desire to reach success. It’s good to strive for the goal and do what is needed to succeed, but we never have to extend further than what is reasonable. We can reach the destination we’re seeking without destroying ourselves in the process. By being thoughtful and focused, we can accomplish anything we desire, and with clarity, reach the goal.

Moving as fast as possible may get us to the prize quickly, but we may miss some important cues along the way. It does no good to reach a locked door first if we didn’t take the time needed to get the key before we arrived. Reaching the final door is just part of the objective. It’s important to reach it with everything we need to open it and take advantage of all its benefits. We are intelligent, and have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can reach any goal with patience and wisdom, and find great success.

Today if you’ve been pushing yourself harder and harder to get to a goal as fast as possible, remember to take the time you need to see everything clearly. All the answers are there for you and by focusing on the journey, you will find them. You are amazing. There is great success ahead, and nothing will keep you from it.

Feeling It

4 Feb

We make lots of connections with others as we go through our lives. We build relationships and find satisfaction and pleasure in sharing our time with those we value. Good, healthy relationships can fill our lives with joy and give us a greater sense of inclusion with the world around us. They bring us depth and interest, and benefit us in ways we don’t always recognize or comprehend until we lose them. If we want a strong connection, we must be willing to make it a priority. Getting close to someone else, learning about them and gaining their trust takes time. If we constantly put them off for one thing or another, and forget to spend time with them talking and sharing, the connection will be weak. By taking the time to listen and learn about who they are, their dreams and desires, and share our own, we’ll create strong and durable relationships that will enrich our lives. We can tell someone we love them, and they will understand the statement, but if we show them, through our time and actions, they will feel our love. Once they feel how close we are, our relationships will deepen, and we’ll get even closer. Strong bonds accentuate our lives and increase our confidence. We can always stand alone and proceed all by ourselves, but if we have others who care about us cheering us on, the road will be easier and when trouble comes, they’ll be there to offer support and comfort. We share the world with billions of people, and we’ll never know even a small fraction of them. But we can know those close to us and build connections that will lift and embellish our lives. No man is an island unto himself. We’re all in this together. By taking the time to get to know those around us and create relationships that will pave the way ahead, we’ll find great satisfaction and happiness.

Being independent is a positive asset. When we’re confident forging ahead and doing the things we want to do without needing help and support from those around us, we can accomplish much. There is a difference between being independent, and choosing to live our lives completely alone. We can have strong relationships with those around us and still be in control of our lives. The connections we build don’t dictate what we choose to do, but they can enrich our experiences as we move forward. Letting others in and sharing our lives with them will give us great benefit and deep satisfaction as we step ahead.

If we’ve been hurt by a relationship in the past, we may be hesitant to get close to anyone else – ever again. Bad things may happen, and we may suffer from time to time, but the past can never predict the future. We are wise and capable, and can learn from our experiences, and still proceed forward with confidence. Our future is ours to create, and with patience and focus, we can have the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been keeping to yourself and avoiding those around you, think about sharing your life a little more. There are people who care about you and want to know you. Open your life to them and let them see you shine. You are a gift to the world. Show us your light. We’re all blessed because you are here.

Information Please

10 Dec

We’re all unique and our perceptions vary depending on the life experiences we’ve had. We might all live in the same place, and speak the same language, but that doesn’t mean we really understand each other. It’s possible to misinterpret what others are saying, or frankly have no idea what they mean even though they are speaking clearly and using words we understand. Misunderstandings happen but the problem is we don’t know what we don’t know. When interacting with someone else we may agree to do something we are sure they are requesting, and end up going a completely different direction than they asked for. How is this possible? We all have our own paradigms and viewpoints. What is obvious to one, may be completely invisible to another. That doesn’t mean anyone is stupid or wrong, it just means we’re looking at the situation through a different window. There are endless ideas and interpretations of every situation. We can always just plow ahead and hope somehow, we’ll get it right, or we could stop before we start, and ask for clarification. Asking for more information isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom. It’s hard to see through fog, and if we aren’t clear of the expectations, instead of bumbling forward, we can ask for more information until we’re sure what’s expected. Once we know where we’re headed and what the goal is, we can proceed, confident we’ll reach it and achieve success. Life is filled with challenges and trying to find our way in the dark will only make the journey longer and harder than it needs to be. We can pave the road ahead by getting all the facts before we start and ensuring we understand the objective. We are intelligent and capable and can accomplish anything we set out to do. Every goal is possible and with clarity and focus, we can reach any destination.

If we’re concerned about the opinions of others, and want to appear smart and capable, we might rush to accomplish a goal without getting all the information we need beforehand. Looking good is one thing. Being successful is another. It does no good to look confident and capable, and then fail at the task because we didn’t ask for help. The destination is the goal, not how we look accomplishing it. By getting all the facts before we begin, we can make all our dreams and goals reality.

Everyone gets lost from time to time. Losing our way or going in the wrong direction doesn’t mean we’ve failed. Taking the wrong road gives us more information and teaches us what doesn’t work. We can use that information moving forward to find the best road to the destination we seek. Nothing is complex enough to keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and can achieve anything we desire.

Today if you’re struggling to figure out which way to proceed, get all the information you can and look at all the possibilities. Every option is there for you, and you will find the right way forward. You have already accomplished so much. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident. Success is waiting, and nothing can keep you from reaching it. Step forward and proceed. You will prevail.

Shoulda Woulda

20 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about life and how things should go. Some people are very confident and sure they have a lot, if not all, the answers. If they think they know us better than we know ourselves (impossible) they may try to tell us what they believe we should be doing. While they may have good suggestions, and we may choose to take their advice, nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. Telling us we “should” do something because they think it’s a good idea doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for us. While it’s possible and likely we’ll make some mistakes in judgement, we are the experts in our own lives. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any suggestions that are offered and weigh each individually, and then do exactly what we want. There is no one perfect way to live life. The expressions and choices are limitless. We can take any road we like and accomplish any goal we desire. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or idea of what is right. Our choices are ours to make and we can design our lives any way we choose. We may occasionally have some regrets over choices we’ve made and think we could have chosen better, but each experience teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. All the knowledge we gain enriches our understanding and helps us move forward in the future. We don’t need anyone else telling us we “shoulda” done something differently. If they do, we can listen politely, and then continue on toward whatever we are seeking. Every single possibility is there for us and we can do anything. With confidence and focus, we can achieve the goals we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Our relationships are important and if we’re in a situation where someone we value strongly disagrees with a choice we’re making, they may talk us right out of it. If we decide they have a better choice, we can certainly make it. However, we don’t need anyone’s permission to do anything. We’re in control of our lives and can make our own choices. Going against the flow doesn’t mean we’re going the wrong way. Every destination is there for us, and we can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody is perfect and we all stumble from time to time. If someone warns us not to make a decision and we make it anyway only to face failure, they may say “I told you so,” and they might be right. But just because someone saw something we didn’t notice in one instance, doesn’t mean they will always know what’s best for us. We are intelligent and will learn much from mistakes along the way. We can trust ourselves to choose wisely, and reach every success.

Today if you’re being pressured to go in a direction you haven’t chosen, think about all the options before you. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent choices. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you can make all your dreams reality.