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Information Please

10 Dec

We’re all unique and our perceptions vary depending on the life experiences we’ve had. We might all live in the same place, and speak the same language, but that doesn’t mean we really understand each other. It’s possible to misinterpret what others are saying, or frankly have no idea what they mean even though they are speaking clearly and using words we understand. Misunderstandings happen but the problem is we don’t know what we don’t know. When interacting with someone else we may agree to do something we are sure they are requesting, and end up going a completely different direction than they asked for. How is this possible? We all have our own paradigms and viewpoints. What is obvious to one, may be completely invisible to another. That doesn’t mean anyone is stupid or wrong, it just means we’re looking at the situation through a different window. There are endless ideas and interpretations of every situation. We can always just plow ahead and hope somehow, we’ll get it right, or we could stop before we start, and ask for clarification. Asking for more information isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom. It’s hard to see through fog, and if we aren’t clear of the expectations, instead of bumbling forward, we can ask for more information until we’re sure what’s expected. Once we know where we’re headed and what the goal is, we can proceed, confident we’ll reach it and achieve success. Life is filled with challenges and trying to find our way in the dark will only make the journey longer and harder than it needs to be. We can pave the road ahead by getting all the facts before we start and ensuring we understand the objective. We are intelligent and capable and can accomplish anything we set out to do. Every goal is possible and with clarity and focus, we can reach any destination.

If we’re concerned about the opinions of others, and want to appear smart and capable, we might rush to accomplish a goal without getting all the information we need beforehand. Looking good is one thing. Being successful is another. It does no good to look confident and capable, and then fail at the task because we didn’t ask for help. The destination is the goal, not how we look accomplishing it. By getting all the facts before we begin, we can make all our dreams and goals reality.

Everyone gets lost from time to time. Losing our way or going in the wrong direction doesn’t mean we’ve failed. Taking the wrong road gives us more information and teaches us what doesn’t work. We can use that information moving forward to find the best road to the destination we seek. Nothing is complex enough to keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and can achieve anything we desire.

Today if you’re struggling to figure out which way to proceed, get all the information you can and look at all the possibilities. Every option is there for you, and you will find the right way forward. You have already accomplished so much. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident. Success is waiting, and nothing can keep you from reaching it. Step forward and proceed. You will prevail.

Shoulda Woulda

20 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about life and how things should go. Some people are very confident and sure they have a lot, if not all, the answers. If they think they know us better than we know ourselves (impossible) they may try to tell us what they believe we should be doing. While they may have good suggestions, and we may choose to take their advice, nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. Telling us we “should” do something because they think it’s a good idea doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for us. While it’s possible and likely we’ll make some mistakes in judgement, we are the experts in our own lives. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any suggestions that are offered and weigh each individually, and then do exactly what we want. There is no one perfect way to live life. The expressions and choices are limitless. We can take any road we like and accomplish any goal we desire. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or idea of what is right. Our choices are ours to make and we can design our lives any way we choose. We may occasionally have some regrets over choices we’ve made and think we could have chosen better, but each experience teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. All the knowledge we gain enriches our understanding and helps us move forward in the future. We don’t need anyone else telling us we “shoulda” done something differently. If they do, we can listen politely, and then continue on toward whatever we are seeking. Every single possibility is there for us and we can do anything. With confidence and focus, we can achieve the goals we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Our relationships are important and if we’re in a situation where someone we value strongly disagrees with a choice we’re making, they may talk us right out of it. If we decide they have a better choice, we can certainly make it. However, we don’t need anyone’s permission to do anything. We’re in control of our lives and can make our own choices. Going against the flow doesn’t mean we’re going the wrong way. Every destination is there for us, and we can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody is perfect and we all stumble from time to time. If someone warns us not to make a decision and we make it anyway only to face failure, they may say “I told you so,” and they might be right. But just because someone saw something we didn’t notice in one instance, doesn’t mean they will always know what’s best for us. We are intelligent and will learn much from mistakes along the way. We can trust ourselves to choose wisely, and reach every success.

Today if you’re being pressured to go in a direction you haven’t chosen, think about all the options before you. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent choices. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you can make all your dreams reality.

Forever Different

26 Aug

Life is filled with all kinds of experiences. We never know what tomorrow will bring or what will happen next. When things are going well and we feel happy and settled, it’s easy to keep moving ahead and focus on our goals. But life is fickle, and just when it seems the way ahead will be smooth and unobstructed, something may happen that changes everything. When the road turns, people let us down, destinations suddenly disappear, or anything else comes that turns our world upside down, we may be confused and unsure about how to proceed. Everything we experience changes us in some way. If we must face a very difficult and extreme situation that is painful and intense, we may learn many hard lessons and be forever different than we were before. When everything is fine, we may wish nothing would change, but it’s impossible to keep our lives the same indefinitely. Trouble will come to all of us, and nobody gets a free pass from hardship or heartbreak. When we’re suffering and miserable, pushing against a strong and challenging wind, it’s hard to see how it’s benefiting us, but trials and tribulations teach us about ourselves and the world around us. Looking back, we’ll realize we are much stronger than we thought we were, and more capable than we imagined. When the contest is over, we’ll know more than we knew before, and have greater insight for moving ahead. Life is full of challenges and tests. We can trust ourselves to face whatever comes, and have faith that no matter how hard things get, or how convoluted the problems become, we will find our way. Nothing is strong enough to overcome us. We have all we need to succeed.

When we’re young and think about our lives, we may dream about how wonderful it will be. We’ll be happy, everything will go well, and all our wishes will come true. Nobody dreams about a life with problems and trouble, but we’ll likely have times when nothing works out, and we get stuck. There is no genie waiting to grant our wishes, and what comes, will come. We are intelligent and wise, and can trust ourselves that if the bottom falls out, we’ll be able to find the answers we need, and reach success. Every dream we desire is possible, and we can reach them.

There is no one perfect way to live life. As we grow and learn more each day, our ideas about what we want to do, and where we want to go may change. Each experience brings us more information, and as we move forward, we refine where we’re headed. We can design our lives any way we like, and when we’re ready, can always start on a new journey. All our dreams are out there waiting for us. We can step forward with confidence, and make them ours.

Today if you’ve changed and want to modify your direction, decide what you want most and reset your course. Every destination is there for you. You have learned so much and you know what you want. There’s isn’t anything you can’t do, and nothing is too difficult for you to accomplish. Be sure and confident. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed.

Fresh Air

10 Aug

There are endless things we can accomplish as we move through our lives. The world is huge and there are millions of places to visit and much to see. Although there is lots of opportunity to do anything we want, we have responsibilities, and ties where we are may be hard to break. It’s easy to get into a routine of doing the same things every day and forget that there are unlimited experiences waiting for us. Our jobs, our families, our friends, and all that goes with them give us a great foundation, but they can also hold us in place. We can design our lives any way we like, and if we’re comfortable and content staying where we are, we can. But we are in control and if we want something more, it’s there for us. If we’re in a room that gets stuffy and close, we can open a door and let fresh air in. The same is true in our personal lives. If we’re in a rut and are ready from something different, we need only open a new door and let fresh, inviting new experiences into our lives. There are unlimited things we can do and places we can go. We are the only ones who can keep us from the lives we desire most. Once we decide what we really want, and then commit to doing what it takes to make it ours, we can do anything. Every single dream is possible and nothing is out of reach. The lives we fantasize about and wish for can be ours. There are lots of doors and endless roads to travel. We have all the courage and wisdom needed to do whatever we desire. We can take care of our needs, be responsible, and still move toward what we want. It’s all there for us. We need only step forward, and make it ours.

Tradition is powerful and if our families have done things a specific way for a long time, they may not be supportive if we want to change. Routines make life easy – we know what to do and pretty much know what to expect. Just because something has been done the same way for a while, doesn’t mean we must continue doing it. We are never restricted to any behavior or pattern. When we’re ready to move on to something new, the road will be there for us. Our lives belong to us, and we can live them any way we like. Every door can be opened, and we can find great happiness and success.

Nobody can read the future and it’s hard to see what lies ahead. Stepping toward a new goal may take us into foreign territory. When everything is new and unknown, we may feel unsure at first. But with each step forward, we will gain more confidence, and with determination, if we stay the course, we’ll reach the prize. We are stronger and more capable than we imagine. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us from what we want. We can trust ourselves, and go anywhere we desire.

Today if you’re ready to open a new door, decide what you want and take the first step. There are unlimited destinations waiting for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Trust yourself and be confident. There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Nothing can hold you in place, and you can have the life you desire. Every dream is possible, and with courage and determination, you will make them yours.

Rubber Hammer

22 Jun

Every day brings us something new, and with each step we learn more about ourselves and the world around us. It isn’t always a picnic, and we will all face trials and problems that need to be solved. As we work through each issue, we gain additional insight and understanding. We might find ourselves in a situation where we can’t make any headway, and move forward. It might be because we haven’t yet gotten all the information we need to solve the issue, or it could be that we don’t currently have the tools we need to get the job done. If we have to pound a big nail into a hard piece of wood, a good strong hammer will help us accomplish it. But what if the only hammer we have is made of rubber? A hammer is a hammer right? Rubber isn’t steel, but it seems like it would work eventually, so we pound away and pound away, and make minuscule progress, but success is far away. We could stay in place and work the problem indefinitely with the tool we have, or we could get a better hammer. A heavy, steel hammer would enable us to complete the task quickly and easily, and move on to something new. Sometimes all we have to do to reach success is get a better tool. But if we like the tool we’re using, are attached to where we are and what we’re doing, and are concerned about making any changes, we may end up pounding away indefinitely, hoping what we already possess will be enough. Life can be hard and the choices we make will either make it easier or more difficult. Having a rubber hammer when we need a steel one won’t help us advance. We are intelligent and can look at every situation objectively and see what we need to reach success. By choosing the tools that help us move forward, and working hard to get to the goal, we will succeed.

When we set out to complete a goal, we design our way forward and choose the method and road we desire. We try to choose well, but we might find the road we’ve chosen has a lot of detours, switchbacks, and roadblocks. We’re moving forward but the pace is very slow and cumbersome. If we’re very attached to the original idea, we might hold on hoping that even though there is no indication of change, somehow, it’ll eventually work. Like hammering in a nail with a rubber hammer. Every goal is possible and we can be flexible enough to alter our plans if needed. Nothing can keep us from success when we’re ready to move, and we will prevail.

Everyone wants a life of ease and comfort. Being comfortable in our choices is important, but an easy road won’t always move us ahead. If we aren’t advancing, we can stop and look at all the possibilities. There will always be another option and we can choose the one that will take us to our destination. Every single goal is there for us and all our dreams are possible. We have everything we need to find our way forward, and reach success.

Today if you’re stuck and aren’t moving forward, look at all the options available. There are many roads to every goal. Choose the one that will take you to success, and step forward with confidence. You are powerful and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Trust yourself. Every dream is there for you, and you will succeed.