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Changing Everything

29 Apr

There are a lot of people in the world. The scope of our planet is huge and there are billions of others sharing it with us. As we go through our days, managing our responsibilities and taking care of our lives, we may feel insignificant to the overall scope of everything. We may not be out climbing mountains, or curing diseases, or inventing new items that revolutionize how things work. If we’re not powerful and persuasive in sharing amazing ideas that enlighten and educate, we might think our influence means nothing and that we’re inconsequential and unnecessary. It’s easy to feel like we don’t count as our days come and go. We’re not in the news, or the subject of great and important discussions, and our contributions may feel inadequate or unimportant. While we may not do things that bring great fame and attention, everything we do changes something in the world around us. It might seem our influence is inconsequential and doesn’t matter, but it’s far more valuable than we may think. Every time we say hello and smile at someone else, we bring light into the world. Every time we reach out to help, we turn the tide toward goodness. The smallest ripple of kindness or charity, can change everything. The ramifications of good works are greater and more far reaching than we imagine. One good thing leads to another. When we set an example of courtesy, forbearance, and gentleness we spread goodness in everything we touch. Like a pebble thrown into a still and placid pond, the ripples continue forward unabated and changing everything in their path. We are more influential and valuable than we think we are. Everything we do alters everything around us. We are unique in our ability to shine, and the whole world is blessed because we are here.

Our presence in every situation brings an impact and influence. There is no way to interact and not create a change of some kind. We may never know how much we impact others or how much effect we have over far reaching decisions or choices. A single word can change the direction of where we’re headed. Everything in life is connected in one way or another. We can recognize the power of our decisions and understand the potential of our influence.

Sometimes things go wrong and decisions don’t turn out exactly how we planned. When the bottom falls out and disaster is looming, we can accept our role in the choices that were made. Everyone makes mistakes and there is no shame in taking a wrong turn. We can accept every decision and learn more as we move forward. There is great nobility in holding fast to our integrity and honestly admitting when we’ve erred. Nothing is permanent and we can change our course whenever necessary to reach our goals and find success.

Today if you feel insignificant and that your input is meaningless, remember you are the only person in the whole world who can give the gifts you offer. There is nobody else like you. Your influence is meaningful and important. Be confident. You are amazing and valuable, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Making Predictions

26 Jun

Our lives are a combination of what’s behind us, what we’re going through now and what we hope will come in the future.  When we make decisions that fail or take us somewhere we didn’t want to go we can learn from what happened and take the lessons forward with us to help us choose more wisely in the future.  Everyone has something in their past they would like to erase, some choice that turned out badly and hurt them or those around them.  It would be great if we could delete the things we’ve done we regret but this is real life and what’s behind us is permanent and unchangeable.  Looking back in an effort to see things more clearly and understand more deeply what happened in an effort to learn can be helpful.  But if we hold onto what we perceive as personal failures and get stuck obsessing over what we did wrong it may color our ability to be successful in the future.  There is no way to predict what will come to us but we have control over how we handle every situation every time.  We are not doomed to repeat mistakes again and again simply because they are part of our history.  We can change and grow and learn new ways to find success.  Everyone makes mistakes – sometimes big, disastrous mistakes – but they don’t predict what we’ll do in the future.  We are capable of learning and using increased wisdom as we move forward, and when we do, no matter what’s happened in the past, we can find success.
There is a common saying that “Once a dog, always a dog,” meaning if someone made a big mistake in the past, odds are they’ll do it again.  We’re all capable of change and if we fall down we can learn everything possible so we can choose more effectively in the future.  However, if we stumble and refuse to see the lessons there for us, we may well repeat the behavior, sometimes again and again.  We are in control of the decisions we make and our futures belong to us.  We can become the people we most want to be by paying attention and gaining all we can from what we experience each day and using the lessons learned to help us move forward.
One big mistake does not determine our future.  Even if everything falls apart and our lives seemingly blow up in our faces we are not permanently frozen in place.  Sometimes everything goes wrong and at first, we can’t see the way forward.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold us down forever.  No matter what goes wrong there will be another day and new decisions to make.  We can be confident, even if we’ve failed in the past, that we can reach success.  The wrong decision is only that – the wrong decision.  It’s not the end of the road.  We can reroute the way forward and start again.  Every dream is possible and nothing can keep us from achieving them.
Today if you’re focusing on something that went wrong in the past and aren’t sure you can reach your goals, there is always a way to find success.  There are unlimited choices before you and you can do anything.  Step forward and start again.  Every option is there and nothing is out of reach.  Learn from the past and push ahead.  The whole world is waiting for you.  Every dream can come true and you will succeed.

Looking Back

7 Jul

“True nobility lies in being superior to your former self.”  Ernest Hemingway

Life is a process of continual learning and every new situation brings with it parameters we must figure out and find our way through.  Sometimes we get the answers right the first time, and other times we may take a wrong turn that takes us somewhere we don’t want to go but teaches us something new.  There is no life manual with an answer key to help us through.  We find our way as we go step by step.  Sometimes our choices are complicated and take us through situations we’d rather avoid but each turn, right or wrong, gives us tools to go forward more effectively.  Constant change occurs not only in the world around us but within us and moves us a little further down the road to our destination.  As time passes we may look back at our former selves and the decisions we made.  Because we have additional wisdom and understanding we might wonder what we were thinking when we chose the wrong road.  But we are where we are at every moment.  If we do the best we can with each step, even if we falter, we will find the way ahead.  True nobility comes as we gain the attributes we desire most and continue to move forward.

There are moments in our lives that are nearly perfect.  Things go well and we are happy.  Those moments cannot last forever but while we’re in them we can’t imagine how things could go wrong.  But life is ever changing and nothing stays the same forever.  When our situations change and we face difficulty or challenges that feel beyond what we can manage we may lose our confidence in the future.  Even in our darkest hour when it seems nothing will go right we can have faith that things will change.  We are stronger than we think we are and there really isn’t anything so powerful that it will overcome us.  We can endure difficulty, even disaster, by taking it one step at a time.  Nothing can keep us from prevailing and as we struggle we gain strength and wisdom to take forward on the road ahead.

Looking back we may see decisions we made that cause shame and heartache.  We may struggle to forgive ourselves for choices that brought hardship to us or those around us.  Nothing can change the past and it’s better to see the situation as it is, accept the choice we made, and learn as much as possible from the experience.  Then we can let it go and move forward with renewed confidence carrying with us all the knowledge we’ve gained and increased insight for the road ahead.  Life is complex and nobody is perfect.  We will all falter at some point.  We may forgive ourselves and move forward with renewed confidence learning all we can from the past.

Today if you’re looking back and are disappointed in a decision you’ve made, learn all you can from the experience and let it go.  You are wiser now than you’ve ever been and you can make excellent decisions.  Leave the past behind and look ahead to the destination you seek.  There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well.  You have everything you need to succeed and find joy.

Big Left Turn

21 Dec

Unfortunately, even though we try not to, sometimes we make a terrible decision. We do something that hurts others and is so egregious our lives are greatly impacted. Sometimes what we’ve done impacts us or others so greatly, nothing is ever really the same afterward. We may not have done it on purpose, or we might have acted willingly if we were angry enough, but whether we meant to or not, once it’s done it can’t be undone. If we’ve made a big left turn and broken the road we’ve been on, our lives will change. If we’ve hurt those we care about we may feel the repercussions for a long time.  Sadly, sometimes a relationship we really cared about is so badly damaged it cannot be repaired. When this happens, once we realize the full impact of what we’ve done, we may feel great remorse. If we’re still angry we might not feel sorrow for a while, but it’s destined to come to us at some point. Since we can’t change the past all we can do is go forward. We have to do what we can to make things right, and forgive ourselves. The road may have changed dramatically and we may feel very unsettled until we figure out what to do next, but going forward is our only option.

There are lots of reasons why we make big mistakes, but in the end, the reasons really won’t matter. The only thing that matters is what we do next. If we’ve lost a valuable relationship we can try to rebuild it. If we are able to regain the trust of the other person, it’s possible we may restore it.  However, if the trust has been broken too severely, we may never have that relationship back. If there’s someone we really care about and we’ve lost them, our only option forward is to love them from afar and let them know we want them in our lives. Over time we all change. Wounds heal, and feelings mend. After enough time has passed it’s possible we’ll be able to start again.

Our lives are fluid and ever changing. What we do today often affects what comes to us tomorrow. The worst decisions are often made out of anger and haste, when we rush to an assumption or try to even a score. We may prevent bad decisions if we stop and give ourselves time to think before we act. We know we should, but in the heat of the moment, sometimes things get out of control. Being out of control never brings happiness and often brings heartache. If we can take some time to breathe and think before we jump, we may figure out a way forward that will not destroy our relationships or the path we want to be on. Only we can decide what we’ll do. We can make good decisions and we can choose wisely.  If we wait just for a moment, and consider where we’re going, oftentimes we’ll make a better and happier decision. Hard times come to us all but we can prevent them from becoming disastrous if we stop and think before we act.

Today if you’re feeling edgy and upset, if you’re angry and determined to get even or make someone pay for some slight you think they’ve caused, stop for a moment before you do anything. There is a lot at stake. Your relationships, your future happiness, and your personal peace are a big price to pay for anger. Don’t pay it. Take a breath. This is just a moment and it will pass. Give yourself some space. The right answer will come and you’ll be in control. Then make the best decision and you’ll go forward with confidence. You know what to do. Today choose the right and peace will follow.

Just Today

18 Jun

From time to time we all worry about things. Perhaps there’s been something on your mind, and it just won’t leave you alone. You can’t help it. You think about it constantly. You worry about what’s coming. You worry about what will happen tomorrow. We all have concerns sometimes, and they can make us worry – sometimes for good reason, sometimes unnecessarily. Whether the reason is good or not, worrying about what might happen doesn’t change anything. All it does is take us out of the present. We can’t fully live the day we’re in if we’re worrying about a day to come.

Each day we have on earth is a blessing. We take them for granted, and sometimes just go through the motions, but each day is a blessing. We often realize what an enormous blessing they are when they are suddenly threatened. Something happens where we understand we might not have tomorrow. We may get sick, a friend may die, or there may be a disaster that wakes us up, and makes us realize how lucky we are to have today. Today is the only day we can live. We can’t live tomorrow yet – it hasn’t arrived. Yesterday is gone, and nothing can be done to take us back to it. So we have just this one day. And if we spend it worrying about what tomorrow will bring, we will have wasted it.

We are powerful, and capable beings. We can do a lot when we want to. But most of us cannot read the future. We don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow or even five minutes from now. We are living now – not later. What will come to us after this is out of our control. So how can we manage something that is worrisome? A good way to let the worry go is to do something about what’s going on in our lives today. There is something we can take care of today, there is something we can work on today, and there is something we can manage today. While we’re working on today, we won’t have time to worry about tomorrow. We are managing our lives as they roll forward. Tomorrow will get here when it gets here. What comes will come. And whatever it is, we will face it then.

If you’re worried, and having trouble letting it go, do something that is important today. Work hard. Get busy living today. You’ll get things done, your mind will be focused on something productive, and you will forget to worry. Tomorrow you will handle whatever comes. You are perfectly capable of handling it – tomorrow. Today is all that concerns you now. One day at a time is all we have. Live your life that way. Live today. It’s a great day to be alive.